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The Art of Raising Humans

Parenting Legacywww.parentinglegacy.com

Kyle and Sara Wester are Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) with over 20 years experience working with children and teenagers in Tulsa, Oklahoma.Their podcast will help you parent from a place of freedom, love, and courage. Their passion is to help you uncover areas of fear and shame in your parenting and inspire you to empower your children to become healthy adults.They use the latest research in neuroscience coupled with their own experience raising 3 children.

Episodes

Preparing your kids for school Part 1 (Ep 43)

In Episode 43, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss intentionally preparing kids for the upcoming school year. Sara goes into depth about how she helps our kids cultivate a vision for the upcoming year. She shares some of the important conversations to have with your kids before the year begins. This podcast will help equip you in co-creating a fantastic school year with your children. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/preparing-your-kids-children-for-back-to-school-part-one V...

Aug 15, 202228 minSeason 1Ep. 43

CHORES - helping your children see them differently and possibly enjoy them (Ep 42)

In Episode 42, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, delve into chores and why we dislike the word. We look at different ways to invite your children into making a meaningful contribution to the family. This is a great podcast to help you kick off the upcoming school year so the kids can get into a rhythm before all the business begins. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/helping-your-children-see-chores-differently-and-enjoy-them Visit our website and social media channels for more valu...

Aug 08, 202228 minSeason 1Ep. 42

Turning resistance into cooperation (Ep 41)

In Episode 41, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the skill of positive intent and how it is the key to shifting the ongoing power struggles in our home. This skill will not only change the dynamics between a parent and child but also between siblings. Get ready to see things differently in the family. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/turning-resistance-from-your-children-into-cooperation Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenti...

Aug 01, 202232 minSeason 1Ep. 41

What does it mean to parent from the inside out? (Ep 40)

In Episode 40, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the different streams of parenting. We talk about how science and culture have shaped our approach to kids over the last three decades. We share why we chose this path for our family and why we hope you jump on board as well. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/parent-parenting-from-the-inside-out Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Website: https://www.thear...

Jul 25, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 40

What to do with cussing and potty language? (Ep 39)

In Episode 39, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how a parent’s reaction to the words their kid uses is so important. We discuss how to come along side and support a child’s understanding of the power of language. They don’t need us to control their words but they do need us to guide them. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/child-children-cussing-and-potty-language Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Websi...

Jul 18, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 39

How to disciple your children with social media (Ep 38)

In Episode 38, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how we teach parents to navigate the scary world of social media. We lay out three different ways parents tend to approach the subject with their children and then discuss how to disciple your children with this powerful tool. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/how-to-disciple-your-children-with-social-media Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Website: https...

Jul 11, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 38

Are we bored yet? The lure of overscheduling and the power of boredom (Ep 37)

In Episode 37, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the temptation of filling our kid’s lives with activities. It is so easy to over schedule their summer and school year with “good” things to do. Why are we afraid to be bored and how can embracing boredom make families stronger and closer? View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/are-we-bored-yet-the-lure-of-overscheduling-and-the-power-of-boredom Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenti...

Jul 04, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 37

What is empathy and why is it one of the most important skills a parent needs to raise emotionally intelligent children? (Ep 36)

In Episode 36, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss all the different ways empathy can look and feel. We talk about attuning with children and how this helps them organize their brain. This is the very first skill we start using when our kids are born and helps us better understand how to connect and communicate with them throughout their lives. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-is-empathy-why-is-it-important-skill-a-parent-needs-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-child Vis...

Jun 27, 202231 minSeason 1Ep. 36

What legacy do you want to leave your kids? (Ep 35)

In Episode 35, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, talk about the different types of legacies parents want to leave for their kids. We delve into how challenging it can be when to change a legacy. We also provide practical steps to help parents be more intentional in forming and articulating the legacy they want to give to their children. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-legacy-do-you-want-to-leave-your-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content ...

Jun 20, 202230 minSeason 1Ep. 35

How you can become the Dad/Parent you would like to be (Ep 34)

In Episode 34, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the journey I have been on as a dad and the steps I have taken to become the dad I would like to be. We talk about some specific things dads can do to transform their parenting. Teach them how to start creating a vision statement that will guide them through the ups and downs of parenting. Want to email your vision statement to us? Send it to [email protected]. We’d love to see it. We will keep it confidential. Visit our website and social media...

Jun 13, 202231 minSeason 1Ep. 34

Teaching children how to manage their free will (Ep 33)

In Episode 33, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the importance and power of giving children choices. Children need to know how to manage their freedom so they can use it to bring more good into the world. Through their choices, children learn so many important lessons about the power they possess and how their choices help shape them into the humans they want to become. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: http...

Jun 06, 202233 minSeason 1Ep. 33

Realizing the power of saying YES to our kids and ourselves (Ep 32)

In Episode 32, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss discuss how saying yes helps our children see the world as full of possibilities. When we spend most of our time saying no to our kids we end up raising resistant children. We also dive in deep to what it looks like to be a parent that uses yes as a tool for discipleship and guidance. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/the-power-o...

May 23, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 32

The importance of moving away from seeing behavior as good or bad (Ep 31)

In Episode 31, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss dichotomous thinking. When we see the world through a black and white lens we end up approaching everything as right or wrong, good or bad. We want to see behavior in a more colorful way so we can help our kids move away from shame and judgement. This helps children be more open to reflecting on their actions and taking responsibility for them. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the fu...

May 16, 202229 minSeason 1Ep. 31

The dangers of parenting without discipline and boundaries (Ep 30)

In Episode 30, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the problems with permissive parenting. Kids want their parents to guide them and even hold them accountable. Permissive parenting is not the only other option when parents move away from punishment and fear based discipline. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/the-dangers-of-parenting-without-discipline-and-boundaries Podcast Webs...

May 09, 202228 minSeason 1Ep. 30

The importance of teaching children how to apologize and forgive (Ep 29)

In Episode 29, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss whether or not parents should “make” their kids apologize. We also point out why we think apologies are important and even crucial in resolving conflicts among siblings and friends. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/the-importance-of-teaching-children-how-to-apologize-and-forgive Podcast Website: www.theartofraisinghumans.com Res...

May 02, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 29

How can routines help you raise self-controlled children? (Ep 28)

In Episode 28, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the power of structures and routines in a family. We share how they help kids be more emotionally regulated and less anxious in general. We talk about the most important routines in our family, and we would love to hear the routines that you see as the most helpful in your family. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/how-can-routine...

Apr 25, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 28

What consequences should I be using on my child? (Ep 27)

In Episode 27, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, Sara and I discuss whether or not kid’s need consequences. We try and dispel the myth that every conflict with kids must end with them receiving some sort of consequence. Is there a different way to approach consequences all together? What are the real consequences that are happening and how do we as parents actually make it harder for kid’s to take responsibility for their behavior? Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for you...

Apr 18, 202227 minSeason 1Ep. 27

How conflict with your kids can make your marriage stronger (Ep 26)

In Episode 26, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how the challenges of raising children can begin to cause a rift in a marriage. We noticed this happening in ours early in our parenting journey, but as we shifted how we approached our children and approached each other it actually strengthened our marriage and brought us even closer together. We want to help couples see parenting as a pathway towards deeper intimacy and understanding of one another. Visit our website and social media channels for mor...

Apr 11, 202222 minSeason 1Ep. 26

Helping children own their feelings instead of blaming others (Ep 25)

In Episode 25, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the importance of changing how we talk about our feelings. Saying things like “you make me feel” or using words such as always and never doesn’t lead to humans that take responsibility for how they feel. It puts people on the defensive and makes conflict resolution more difficult. We need to give our kids the power to own how they feel and then actually do something constructive with those feelings. Visit our website and social media channels for more ...

Apr 04, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 25

What to do when your child continues to say “no” (Ep 24)

In Episode 24, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, have a follow up discussion to a previous episode about power struggles. In Episode 13, we shared some of the tips we use during power struggles with kids. Most of the time, these techniques help us turn resistance into cooperation. However, on some occasions a child will continue to say “No” and that’s when the real work begins. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https...

Mar 28, 202227 minSeason 1Ep. 24

Is it possible to have a home without sibling rivalry? (Ep 23)

In Episode 23, Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss the joys and the frustrations of having multiple children. Does sibling rivalry have to be a part of every home with multiple kids? Is there a way to create a home where siblings see themselves not as rivals but as friends and assets? Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/is-it-possible-to-have-a-home-without-sibling-rivalry Video C...

Mar 21, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 23

The words we use when we speak to our children are incredibly powerful (Ep 22)

In Episode 22, Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, talk about specific words we decided to get out of our language. Removing these words and phrases have made our parenting so much easier and more honest. It has also decreased the power struggles in the home and helped resolve conflict. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/the-words-we-use-when-we-speak-to-our-children Video Courses: https...

Mar 14, 202221 minSeason 1Ep. 22

What to do when your child lies to you (how to raise honest kids) (Ep 21)

In Episode 21, Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss one of the biggest triggers for parents…lying. Why do kids lie to us? How can we raise kids that are honest and trustworthy? What am I doing as a parent that makes it more or less likely that my children will choose to lie to me? Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-to-do-when-your-child-lies-to-you Video Courses: https://pare...

Mar 07, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 21

How to set limits on screens, sugar, and all the other stuff! (Ep 20)

In Episode 20, Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss the importance and the challenge of setting healthy limits with our children. We walk through the steps we take to make this process a collaborative effort with the kids, which allows them to own the limits and be less likely to oppose and resist them. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/how-to-set-limits-on-screens-sugar-and-all-...

Feb 28, 202226 minSeason 1Ep. 22

How your story shapes your child’s story (Ep 19)

Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the power of the stories that shape us as parents. We talk about how important it is for parents to know their story and be able to accept all of it - the good, the bad, and the ugly. We need to be intentional about wrestling with our story if we want to leave a better legacy for our children. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/how-your-story-sh...

Feb 21, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 19

What is your attachment style and why does it matter? (Ep 18)

Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss the four different attachment styles and how they impact the way we parent and interact with people in our lives. We also discuss how to raise children that have a secure attachment. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Free Attachment Quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-is-your-attachment-style-and-why-does-it-matter Video Courses: htt...

Feb 14, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 18

How to repair toxic ruptures with our kids (Ep 17)

Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, define what a toxic rupture is and what to do about it. These conflicts with our children can slowly erode and destroy our relationship with them. It is so important to be aware of what is happening in these moments and be intentional in responding to them. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Website: www.parentinglegacy.com Video Courses: https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/parenti...

Feb 07, 202225 minSeason 1Ep. 17

How to parent together without judging each other (Ep 16)

Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss how damaging judgment can be when we are trying to parent as a team. We look at how the differences in parenting can actually become a strength rather than a weakness. What to do when parents feel like they aren’t on the same team. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Website: www.parentinglegacy.com Video Courses: https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/parentinglegacycounseling...

Jan 31, 202229 minSeason 1Ep. 16

How shame keeps you from becoming the parent you would like to be (Ep 15)

Sara and Kyle, LPC’s, discuss the difference between Guilt and Shame. They reveal our shame triggers and tips on how parents can free themselves from getting trapped in toxic shame spirals. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Website: www.parentinglegacy.com Video Courses: https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/parentinglegacycounseling Instagram: www.instagram.com/parentinglegacy The Art of Raising Humans ...

Jan 24, 202230 minSeason 1Ep. 15

How do I help my child move through her emotions without dismissing them? (Ep 14)

In Episode 14 of “The Art of Raising Humans,” Sara and Kyle Wester, LPC’s, answer a listener's question. We talk about the power of empathy and how it helps us connect with our kids in their emotional upset. We want to show our children that their feelings matter but they also don’t need to blame others for their feelings. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Website: www.parentinglegacy.com Video Courses: https://parenting-legacy...

Jan 17, 202219 minSeason 1Ep. 14
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