Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Does resolving simulations in your head keep you up in the middle of the night? Now that you're doing well for yourself, is it petty to be reluctant about helping an ex who treated you poorly when you weren't? After moving to a new town, where can you meet people during the day if you want to cut back on the excesses of nightlife? How...
Jun 16, 2017•33 min
Adam Braun (@AdamBraun) is the founder of school-building Pencils of Promise and bestselling author of The Promise of a Pencil. He joins us to discuss his new project, MissionU, and how it aims to update higher education for the 21st century. "Credential isn't nearly as important as competency." -Adam Braun The Cheat Sheet: How and why is the education system in the US failing students? Why students are even less prepared for careers now than ever before. How MissionU protects its students from ...
Jun 15, 2017•53 min
Chris Hadfield (@Cmdr_Hadfield) is an engineer, former Royal Canadian Air Force fighter pilot, retired astronaut, the first Canadian to walk in space, and author of An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth and The Darkest Dark. "The big decisions are the easy ones." -Commander Chris Hadfield The Cheat Sheet: The difference between "I want to be" and "I want to turn myself into." Enjoying small victories along a path of preparation and personal growth vs. grand "make it or break it" expectations. Ho...
Jun 13, 2017•1 hr 11 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This time around, we show how making a small change in how we treat people we meet promotes a mindset shift in the way we're perceived and the way we perceive ourselves. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Take the extra effort to treat everyone you meet as if you're going to know each other forever. Think about it: if you're in...
Jun 12, 2017•8 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you overcome the need for external validation in a good relationship that's suffering from the fallout of past bad relationships? What's the best way to prepare for the death of a terminally ill loved one when you've still got a little time to spend with them and basic 21st century technology? A ten-year podcas...
Jun 09, 2017•30 min
Nick Bilton (@nickbilton) is a special correspondent for Vanity Fair, a contributor to CNBC, a former columnist and reporter for The New York Times, and author of Hatching Twitter: A True Story of Money, Power, Friendship, and Betrayal and American Kingpin: The Epic Hunt for the Criminal Mastermind Behind the Silk Road. "I don't believe we have crossed the line. I think we've just moved it." -Ross Ulbricht The Cheat Sheet: How does a merit badge-bedecked Eagle Scout become the head of a thriving...
Jun 08, 2017•46 min
Dean Karnazes (@DeanKarnazes) may be most famous for running fifty marathons in fifty states in fifty days, but he's also a bestselling author who most recently published The Road to Sparta: Reliving the Ancient Battle and Epic Run That Inspired the World's Greatest Footrace. "We're so comfortable, we're miserable." -Dean Karnazes The Cheat Sheet: What drives someone to leave their secure corporate job and run a hundred thousand miles (so far) in a lifetime -- including three hundred and fifty n...
Jun 06, 2017•1 hr 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, we talk about success momentum: small wins that increase confidence and resilience. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Sometimes we jump out of bed, ready to attack the day. But what do we do on days we wake up without motivation? Some people have morning rituals. But starting with even just one small win can be as s...
Jun 05, 2017•10 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Even a life you love isn't going to be free of things you don't like. Does the quest for self-awareness have diminishing returns? Some encouraging words from a listener who gets more out of AoC than a library's worth of self-help books. Are microexpressions universal, or aren't they? Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett weighs in on Dr. Paul Ekman's research and ...
Jun 02, 2017•30 min
David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a Stanford neuroscientist, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, and author of Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain and The Brain: The Story of You. The Cheat Sheet: Why our conscious brain should be grateful for its separation from the subconscious brain. What is sensory substitution, and how might it allow the blind to "see," the deaf to "hear," and create completely new, superhuman senses altogether? Your umwelt is not my umwelt: a shared envi...
Jun 01, 2017•56 min
Bryan Callen (@bryancallen) is an actor, comedian, and podcaster who grew up traveling the world. He holds a blue belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, is certain of comedy's power to change the world, and is older than you probably think he is. "Embrace the chaos." -Bryan Callen The Cheat Sheet: Why you should welcome the advice of an expert who tells you you're doing it all wrong -- no matter what "it" happens to be. How growing up all over the world and feeling like an outsider makes perpetual reinven...
May 30, 2017•1 hr 6 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. "You think you're ordering a coffee, but you're also sending non-verbal signals out the entire time. What do those signals communicate?" -Jordan Harbinger In this Minisode Monday, we talk about the messages we're sending and receiving between the lines when we communicate both verbally and non-verbally -- and how we can hone t...
May 29, 2017•6 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Once again, our beloved Gabriel Mizrahi rejoins us for this one. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Is it possible to have an honest, productive conversation with someone who thinks they're always right -- in spite of being your boss and constantly losing clients for your company? When the job you spent six years in school pursuing isn't hiring and you...
May 26, 2017•40 min
Are you resilient? Resilience -- true grit -- has to last in order to be real. That's what we're going to explore in this toolbox: how to build real and lasting grit. [Photo by Lewis Wickes Hine] The Cheat Sheet: The jolt of purpose sometimes masquerades as its more complicated and permanent cousin, grit. Is there a formula for grit? How does adversity affect grit? Grit isn't a technical skill or a fixed framework -- it's a process. To what end is grit about us and the way we think vs. what life...
May 25, 2017•25 min
Gabrielle Reece (@GabbyReece) has been a volleyball player, a model, an actress, a television personality, a mom, a community servant, author of My Foot Is Too Big for the Glass Slipper: A Guide to the Less Than Perfect Life, and now a podcaster on The Truth Barrel with Gabrielle Reece and Neil Strauss. "Do you want to cry that you have low cards, or do you want to play your high cards and get on with it?" -Gabrielle Reece The Cheat Sheet: How is becoming a mother like "flipping a switch?" Gabri...
May 23, 2017•51 min
Ever get upset by rude comments on the Internet? In this Minisode Monday, we share an effective strategy for dealing with this that we learned from Jay Baer, author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: You can post anything online -- videos of puppies eating birthday cake -- and someone will eventually show up to leave a hateful or hurtful comment. If you're immune to the impact of anonymous rudeness on the Internet, you're bett...
May 22, 2017•6 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. As a bonus, screenwriter and BFF Gabriel Mizrahi joins us for this one. Let's cut to it! Where's the line between a stretch and a lie if you're following the "fake it 'til you make it" strategy? [Related: Jesse Itzler | The 100 Mile Man (Episode 466)] If you feel aimless and don't like college or the job you're working now, have you considered learnin...
May 19, 2017•1 hr 3 min
Peter McGraw (@petermcgraw) is an associate professor of marketing and psychology at the University of Colorado Boulder, founder of the Humor Research Lab (HuRL), and co-author of The Humor Code: A Global Search for What Makes Things Funny. The Cheat Sheet: Humor is ubiquitous -- amusement and laughter are present in all cultures and many non-human mammals. Humor: what is it good for? What are the risks and rewards of humor? Is there a connection between laughter and memory? Can humor be taught?...
May 18, 2017•59 min
Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium and author of number one New York Times Bestseller Astrophysics for People in a Hurry. "As the area of your knowledge grows, so too does the perimeter of your ignorance." -Neil deGrasse Tyson The Cheat Sheet: How does a seasoned scientist maintain childlike curiosity? Understand the power of science to transcend bias. Find out why Neil didn't have typical public speaking jitters when he gave his first le...
May 16, 2017•1 hr 18 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, Reach author Andy Molinsky rejoins us to talk about the creative ways we manage avoidance of things we don't want to do -- and what we can do to break the habit. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Avoid the task entirely. Structuring our lives around the tasks we want to avoid. Example: staying away from networking e...
May 15, 2017•13 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: You can't keep score when just one out of ten people might help you back (especially in Los Angeles). But you shouldn't take it personally, either. Remember: boundaries are important, and you have to be professional when it's time to get paid for your work. [Related: The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Yo...
May 12, 2017•38 min
Lisa Feldman Barrett (@lfeldmanbarrett) is the Director of IASLab at Northeastern University, an innovator in the field of psychology, and one of the world's foremost researchers on emotion. Her new book, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, is out now. The Cheat Sheet: New science is telling us that emotions aren't hard-wired into our brains and universal -- they're very much affected by the cultures in which they develop. Affective Realism: how our brain predicts what we think ...
May 11, 2017•55 min
Isaac Lidsky (@isaaclidsky) is the only blind person to serve as a law clerk for the U.S. Supreme Court. He's also an entrepreneur, he was once a child actor on a popular '90s sitcom, and now he's the bestselling author of Eyes Wide Open: Overcoming Obstacles and Recognizing Opportunities in a World That Can't See Clearly. "The world's going to change a million times between A and Z. You will, as well." -Isaac Lidsky The Cheat Sheet: Understand why Isaac Lidsky considers going blind in his twent...
May 09, 2017•56 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, brain coach Jim Kwik rejoins us (hear his last visit here) to share his five tips for quickly remembering names and faces -- with CHARM! Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: C: Care. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Showing that you care enough about someone to remember their name ...
May 08, 2017•14 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Does processing all the information we learn from our guests and pass on to our listeners every week ever overwhelm us? Hating your job is not a business plan. Who might find your knowledge of Kiribati helpful? A listener weighs in from the last time we brought it up. Why did Jordan choose to go to Serbia when he was ...
May 05, 2017•29 min
Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, civic tech startup guy, adventure technologist, and Chief Product Officer of Countable, "your dashboard for democracy." He rejoins the show to explain the seven deadly sins of reading the news that are committed in our society now more than ever. "Everybody is one extreme experience away from changing their mind on almost anything." -Alex Kouts The Cheat Sheet: Understand the most common logical fallacies and cognitive biases -- the seven deadly sins -- that be...
May 04, 2017•1 hr 3 min
Graeme Wood (@gcaw) is a political science lecturer at Yale University, a national correspondent for The Atlantic, and author of The Way of the Strangers: Encounters with the Islamic State. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding ISIS: How does ISIS view itself in the context of the modern world? What is the allure of ISIS to educated, professional, and otherwise "normal" members of society? How does ISIS vet potential candidates, and in what ways has recruitment changed over the past few years? What ...
May 02, 2017•1 hr 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, we've got a little lesson in art history: Katsushika Hokusai's woodblock print The Great Wave and how it was influenced by -- and went on to influence -- art from around the globe in spite of its creation during Japan's most isolated period. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Do you think you're impervious to outside...
May 01, 2017•5 min
Daniel DiPiazza (@rich20something) is the founder of Rich20Something -- an education platform that teaches millennials how to build businesses they care about -- and author of Rich20Something: Ditch Your Average Job, Start an Epic Business, and Score the Life You Want. The Cheat Sheet: The psychology of entrepreneurialism -- the social media hype vs. the reality of starting your own business. The Seven Maxims of Entrepreneurship. The dip -- how to bounce back from an entrepreneurial slump. Makin...
Apr 30, 2017•54 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you make room in your life for personal growth when you have an ill parent who needs your care? Regrets? We've had a few... Wondering if your grieving friend still needs support past the six-week point? Immersed in the culture and language of a foreign land, how do you begin the path to fluency when your brain'...
Apr 28, 2017•33 min
