How to resolve the "should I stay or should I go?" conflict
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Jul 08, 2025•31 min•Season 2Ep. 116
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Here we talk about relationship anxiety and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your partner.
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End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss
End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss In this episode, I bring one of my dearest friends and mentors, Stefi Preiss, to discuss a practice that helped me step out of relationship anxiety and commit to my partner (now husband and daddy to my baby!) with my whole heart. We discuss what a polarity looks like, how it can create healing in ourselves, our families, and ultimately — the world (especially in this heatedly escalating political environment). We'll be co-teaching this practice in ou...
Jun 18, 2025•38 min•Season 2Ep. 115
The birth of my son-- and death of my brand.
Hi podcast listener! I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy. This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast. Work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1 Join me on Patreon (special discounts + a monthly support call where you can ask me anything and source the community for help): patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Tension of Opposites - my next 6 week series fo...
Jun 02, 2025•42 min•Season 2Ep. 114
Listen to this if your partner watches porn Revisit
A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn’t. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can’t possibly c...
Apr 21, 2025•50 min•Season 2Ep. 113
The "Trust Your Gut" Debunk with Chelsea Joy Horton Revisit
When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner. Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'...
Apr 07, 2025•59 min•Season 2Ep. 112
Why reassurance seeking is not free (and what to do instead) revisit
There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you’re addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to reignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking. Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via...
Mar 31, 2025•40 min•Season 2Ep. 111
Sex anxiety: when you don't feel like having sex revisit
I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom. Links: Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Email List - Stay in touch As thanks for subscribing, I'll send you my free relationship anxiet...
Mar 24, 2025•34 min•Season 2Ep. 110
How to know if you’re in a toxic relationship revisit
How does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship. In this episode, I lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either...
Mar 17, 2025•45 min•Season 2Ep. 109
"Settling": The word that destroys great relationships Revisit
Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you! Email List - St...
Mar 10, 2025•36 min•Season 2Ep. 108
Self-pleasure as the path to sexual awakening with Luci Lampe Revisit
I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually. I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;) To enroll, use this l...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 107
How illusion is ruining your sex life and attraction Revisit
My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode. Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please su...
Feb 10, 2025•25 min•Season 2Ep. 106
To be free from anxiety, get comfortable with disappointment. Revisit
I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so. Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on W...
Jan 27, 2025•45 min•Season 2Ep. 105
The Importance of Separateness in a Relationship Revisit
I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety. Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a whil...
Jan 13, 2025•49 min•Season 2Ep. 104
How I Broke Free From Relationship Anxiety Revisit
After years of having doubts in my (then) 4-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving. Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get th...
Dec 30, 2024•35 min•Season 2Ep. 103
Worried people are judging your relationship?
In this episode: I'm going on maternity leave. Please send me your favorite episodes — I'll be re-purposing them over the next 6 months. A story about a viral reel that was grossly misinterpreted by both men and women, and how it was intended to be received — as well as how and why the misinterpretation didn't faze me like it would have in the past (due to judgment towards my relationship/partner) What you're actually worried about (it's not about your partner) How to drop the fear of judgment f...
Dec 02, 2024•32 min•Season 2Ep. 102
How to bring out the best (and worst) in men
Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward. I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives. I have a workshop coming up next Sunday called Yin Language: a 2-hour dissection for women on how to communicate with men in ways they understand. Sorry I waited to the la...
Nov 18, 2024•37 min•Season 2Ep. 101
"My partner just doesn't care"
This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great. Links mentioned: Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As tha...
Nov 04, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 100
The moment I committed and never looked back
Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief. Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love Both Feet In Self Study I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at Ask m...
Oct 14, 2024•38 min•Season 2Ep. 99
What if it's not relationship anxiety but really my intuition telling me this isn't right?
I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself. You'll learn: What intuition is and isn't The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety How to use your anxiety to communicate better Join me on October 24th for my last womens...
Oct 07, 2024•31 min•Season 2Ep. 98
When your partner is socially awkward
Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly. Links: Next call (with my husband Preston!) on Patreon: October 6th at 9am PST. Questions open October 3. Become a patron HERE Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE...
Sep 30, 2024•28 min•Season 2Ep. 97
Partner not listening to you? Do this...
Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing. If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so here Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE
Sep 23, 2024•18 min•Ep. 96
How to be his lover, not his mother
This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it! Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to: Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE Next Patreon community support call: Sunday, October 6th at 9am PST (btw, my husband Preston will be joining me so you can...
Sep 16, 2024•36 min•Season 2Ep. 95
The tough love I needed in my relationship anxiety journey
I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't. Links: How I broke free from relationship anxiety - epi...
Sep 09, 2024•30 min•Season 2Ep. 94
93: Do you want to break up or fight right before your period?
Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges stronge...
Sep 02, 2024•50 min•Season 2Ep. 93
92: "What if I want kids and my partner doesn't?"
In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits. Both Feet In Self-study only: FLASH SALE UNTIL 8/31 - 5 days left! Register here Upgrade to join the next BFI class series (6 week group) - Claim your spot here Next Patreon community call: September 13th at 9am PST - Become a patron here for $5-9/month to get acc...
Aug 26, 2024•51 min•Season 2Ep. 92
91: The Uncertainty of Babymaking
After a few-months long hiatus, I’m happy to share what I’ve been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating. Work with me Podcast, Instagram , Tiktok , email . Subscribe to my email for a free relationship anxiety meditation. Always free Patreon - exclusive posts, discounts, monthly community call for mindfulness,...
Aug 18, 2024•40 min•Season 2Ep. 91
90: A Source of Your Relationship Anxiety
This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom! Work with me: Next Patreon Community Call: Friday, June 7th at 8am PST. The call will last 2.5 hours. We will have an embodiment practice with Chelsea Horton from Healing Embodied, and then she and I will host a Q&A together. Become a patron here I am currently open for 1:1 sessions. You can book yours (or buy a 4-pack) here. Ask me anything on Wisio...
May 27, 2024•14 min•Season 2Ep. 90
89: How illusion is ruining your sex life and attraction (and what to do about it)
My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode. ** Upcoming: Sex Anxiety Clinic with Shayna Hiller - A virtual masterclass to awaken pleasure, and release shame and dread in the bedroom: March 14, 2024 at 2pm PS...
Mar 04, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 89
88: Overcoming sex anxiety with Shayna Hiller
If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not al...
Feb 26, 2024•1 hr 22 min•Season 2Ep. 88
87: Reclaiming softness in life and partnership with Jessica Fawn
An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and tantra teacher. We spoke about seeing anxiety as a profound messenger for healing, and learning to nurture it— and what that can look like in the context of partnership. Also, I will be joining her Templ...
Feb 19, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 87
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