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The Allender Center Podcast

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The Allender Center Podcast features Dr. Dan Allender and his team engaging topics on healing and restoration through the unique intersection of theology and psychology. Through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, we engage the deep places of heartache and hope that are rarely addressed so candidly in our culture today. Join us to gain refreshing insight into understanding your story, handling relational struggles, recovering from trauma and abuse, and more. The mission of The Allender Center is to help people tell their stories with awareness and integrity, and to train them to listen to the stories of others with care, artistry, and skill so that they may foster redemption and healing in their lives. The Allender Center is a pioneering organization committed to boldly engaging the impact of trauma and abuse, providing healing and teaching to individuals, couples, and communities, and training professionals to listen and enter into stories in a way that facilitates transformation and hope. For information on all our programs and live events, visit theallendercenter.org
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Episodes

The Resurrection Story

After spending a few minutes remembering the joys of celebrating Easter last weekend, Dan and Rachael turn to the text to walk through the resurrection story. In today's episode, you'll hear them step back into what the resurrection brings, which is "deadly serious play" as we get to stand before evil and darkness and say, "Oh death, where is your sting?" Listener Resources Read Luke 24 Listen to last week's episode, " Disruption and Defiance in the Resurrection " Read a blog post published last...

Apr 09, 202128 min

Disruption and Defiance in the Resurrection

It feels as though we've been living in a year of Lent, Dan comments, let alone the past forty days as we near the end of Holy Week. So, on this Holy Saturday, Dan and Rachael begin a timely conversation about the reality, disruption, and defiance of the resurrection. The resurrection is not meant for only sometime in the future, but for the here and now. We need to remember that though death persists, it does not have the final say. This is why, as Rachael notes, we can hold onto hope and follo...

Apr 02, 202126 min

Mental Health: How to Help Kids in a Pandemic

Dr. Pam Davis again joins Dan and Rachael to continue their conversation about how to help kids in this year of pandemic and the many other global and social events our kids are exposed to. This week, she talks about how we can differentiate between normal mental health struggles in children, when we may need to seek help, and how to tell the difference. Listen and learn what steps you can take to engage children's mental health and be reminded that this is not a normal time—we need an abundance...

Mar 26, 202132 min

Play, Anxiety, and Resilience: How to help kids in a pandemic

Dr. Pam Davis, Associate Professor of Counseling at Gordon-Conwell Seminary and Director of the Counseling Department at Charlotte campus, joins Dan and Rachael to engage the immense difficulty of parenting in a pandemic and speak directly to those working with children. You'll hear understanding affirmations and how Dr. Davis addresses the oftentimes overwhelming challenge of needing to care for yourself in order to care for your children, the importance of play, and other vital resources to ut...

Mar 19, 202134 min

Practicing Kindness: Trauma and the Body

Following their conversation from last week about the impact of trauma on our body and our brain, Dan and Rachael turn their attention to ways we can begin to find healing in the midst of 'trauma overload.' This is not a prescriptive list of all the things you must do, but rather options available to you to start where and when you can. Ultimately, as Dan and Rachael come back to time and time again, it's about being faithful in the small and the kindness of God that brings about the transformat...

Mar 12, 202136 min

Trauma and the Body in Pandemic

We're coming up on a full year of living in the midst of not only a global pandemic, but multiple crises on a national, communal, and personal scale. So today, Dan and Rachael dive into a much-requested topic from our listeners: What is trauma, and what happens to our bodies in the midst of trauma? It's important to name and honor what you're experiencing as many of us, if we're being honest, are not doing well, having hit our "pandemic wall" long ago. You'll hear our hosts begin to provide lang...

Mar 04, 202133 min

Connection in Relationships

Picking up their conversation from last week, Dan and Cathy turn their attention to uncovering the roots of conflict in relationships and how we can move towards true connection. Oftentimes conflict arises because we cannot name what we truly need, or we cannot see past our own contempt—ultimately there is something keeping us from seeing the other well. Redemption is possible, but we must be willing to engage our conflict in a way we've not experienced before. Resources: Listen to the first epi...

Feb 26, 202133 min

Conflict in Relationships

There is no doubt that we are living in a time that heightens levels of conflict and contention in our relationships. Having just finished a one-day conference on this topic, Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel talk today on the podcast about their recent, personal experiences with conflict, particularly in this pandemic era. In this season, the ways we engage in and relate to conflict look different. You'll hear Dan and Cathy talk about the reality of this conflict, what we can learn from our st...

Feb 20, 202132 min

Keeping Sabbath

"How is your Sabbath?" As he opens the conversation on this week's podcast, Dr. Dan Allender invites us to consider this question of ourselves. You'll hear him and Rachael discuss the particulars of their own Sabbath practices, the wildness and play they each experience, and how Sabbath is not bound to a certain day or strict code of conduct. A true Sabbath is meant to engage both beauty and heartbreak, to stretch us, to grow us, and to show us the places where we long for the Kingdom of God in ...

Feb 13, 202123 min

Sabbath, Explained

A "day of delight" is not an easy topic to engage in the midst of this season. Nevertheless, it is a vital practice that is needed more than ever before and, as Dan surmises, is less engaged than at any other time. Listen as Dan and Rachael engage the true meaning of Sabbath, how it is meant to be a taste of the coming Kingdom of God and what we are meant for, and common misconceptions that accompany this day of restoration.

Feb 06, 202129 min

Racial Reconciliation with Dr. Brenda Salter McNeil and Wendell Moss

This week on the podcast, Wendell Moss, a Teaching Staff member of The Allender Center, hosts special guest Dr. Brenda Salter McNeil for a conversation about her work in racial reconciliation. Dr. Salter McNeil is internationally recognized for her work in reconciliation, is an Associate Professor of Reconciliation Studies at Seattle Pacific University, and is the Associate Pastor of Preaching and Reconciliation at Quest Church in Seattle. You'll hear more about Dr. Salter McNeil's background, t...

Jan 29, 20211 hr 5 min

Listener Questions about Narcissism with Chuck DeGroat

As a follow up to last week's conversation, Dr. Chuck DeGroat returns to the podcast to answer listener questions about narcissism with Dan and Rachael. How are we to engage a person who might be a parent, spouse, or spiritual leader who has narcissistic characteristics? How do we engage a narcissist with wisdom? And, on a larger scale, how do we recognize the symptoms of a narcissistic church culture? We are deeply grateful for our community, for your bravery in asking these vulnerable question...

Jan 22, 202144 min

Narcissism and the Church with Chuck DeGroat

Today on the podcast, Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen have a timely conversation with Chuck DeGroat, professor of Counseling and Christian Spirituality at Western Theological Seminary, licensed therapist, and spiritual director. He is the author of Leaving Egypt: Finding God in the Wilderness Places as well as When Narcissism Comes to Church , which serves as the primary topic of conversation throughout this episode. In this special episode, you'll learn more about the characteristics ...

Jan 15, 202152 min

Engaging and Navigating Regret

This past year was unlike any other we've experienced. Our plans, goals, resolutions, and carefully crafted calendars for 2020 were all but thrown out the window as a result of the pandemic. It's normal to look back at the year with grief for all that was lost and not accomplished. The feeling of regret, however, can become so heavy that it pulls us down into a cycle of negative thinking, contempt, and judgement. How then are we to begin a new year with grace for ourselves in order to move forwa...

Jan 08, 202126 min

Holding Hope for a New Year

We may be at the start of a new year, but that does not mean we leave all of what transpired in 2020 behind—this season will continue to ask much of us. As you'll hear Dan comment, it's no surprise we now find ourselves at the "intersection between dread and incredible hope." While not the typical tone that accompanies a New Year's podcast episode, Dan and Rachael instead present us with an unusual invitation to slow down, to be gentle with ourselves, and allow ourselves to taste something of ho...

Jan 01, 202123 min

How to Remember a Year

How do we remember a year well, particularly a year that many of us may not want to look back and reflect upon? What is there to gain in remembering 2020? In the final podcast episode of the year, Dan and Rachael have a conversation about the necessity of engaging and learning from this tumultuous year and share their answers to three, reflective questions: What haunts me? What comforts me? What thrills me?

Dec 25, 202034 min

Living into the Tension of Advent: Rev. Michael S. Chen

In the final episode about what it means to enter the Advent season at such a time as this, Rachael Clinton Chen invites her husband, the Rev. Michael S. Chen, to engage this question together on the podcast. What follows is a tender, vulnerable conversation about what it means that God came to be present with us in an embodied, vulnerable way, how we can enter into a season of expectant waiting, and how "God with us" meets us in our shame.

Dec 18, 202032 min

Living into the Tension of Advent: Cole Arthur Riley

Continuing a series of conversations about how we are to live into the tension of Advent in this season, Rachael talks with Cole Arthur Riley—writer, speaker, and founder of the project Black Liturgies , "a project seeking to integrate the truths of Black dignity, lament, rage, justice, and rest into written prayers." Throughout their conversation you'll hear about the role and function of liturgy, the radical trust of God in a woman's body, and practical ways we can lean into embodied practices...

Dec 11, 202039 min

Living into the Tension of Advent: Dr. J. Derek McNeil and Kate Davis

"How shall we live into this Advent season at such a time as this?" Each year, the season of Advent invites us to lean into the story of God, to the tension and expectation that surrounds the birth of Jesus. This year, however, amidst a global pandemic and heightened racial tension, anticipation has become akin to a feeling of dread rather than a thing to look forward to with hope and excitement. How then, Rachael asks, are we to live into the season of Advent in this year? As she begins a serie...

Dec 04, 202037 min

Holding the Tension of Grief, Gratitude, and Grace

Though we are just now emerging from the season of Thanksgiving, tomorrow marks the first Sunday in Advent. We hold much gratitude, grief, and tension as we approach this Christmas season not only because of the anticipated flurry of gift-purchasing and gift-giving, but the coming of Jesus and the "tense, complex, wild narrative" of the Christmas story itself. Listen as Dan and Rachael enter into these topics with grace and guidance as we move into this wholly unpredictable holiday season....

Nov 25, 202026 min

Engaging Grief and Gratitude

This season of Thanksgiving looks quite different than previous years, many of us not gathering with families and loved ones around a table with one another. Acknowledging this heartache, Dan and Rachael have a weighty conversation about the necessity of engaging both grief and gratitude.

Nov 20, 202026 min

Contempt and Kindness in the Kingdom of God

Picking up on the theme from last week, Dan and Rachael have a fiercely honest and grief-filled conversation about the influence of polarization, idolatry, and the prevalence of fear in both the United States and our own hearts. We must consider what it means for us as Christ-followers to live out the kingdom of God not only today but in each and every day that comes.

Nov 13, 202030 min

Engaging Fear and Uncertainty in the Kingdom of God

As a nation the United States is in the midst of great uncertainty, and Dan and Rachael took time to reflect together on what is a contentious and divisive election and the fear it generates for many. What does it mean, Dan asks, to live faithfully in the context of not being bound to one party or another, but to live out our calling as members of God's kingdom in the midst of this uncertainty?

Nov 06, 202033 min

Calling & Character: King and Queen Archetype

"I think we radically need to rethink how we imagine leadership." -Cathy Loerzel, Executive Vice President In their final conversation about archetypes within the kingdom of God, Dan, Cathy, and Rachael unpack what it means to be a widow or widower, and how one can become a thriving king or queen. What are the wounds that impact a king or queen, what does true leadership look like, and how does a king or queen bring order to God's kingdom?

Oct 30, 202035 min

Calling & Character: Prophet Archetype

Continuing a conversation about what it means to live out the character of God in the context of the kingdom of God, Dan, Cathy, and Rachael engage the archetypes of stranger and prophet. You'll hear more about what it means to be a stranger who, in the redemptive process, can begin to use their sense of alienation and isolation on behalf of the kingdom as a prophet. As Dan notes, in our world today we desperately need to listen to prophets who tell the truth, and open the door to imagination an...

Oct 24, 202033 min

Calling & Character: Priest Archetype

"Stories are what change the human heart." - Cathy Loerzel This week, Dan, Rachael, and Cathy take a deep dive into and further reflect on the archetype of priest. What is required for a priest to grow in their ability to do what priests are meant to do? In this episode, you'll hear our hosts and Cathy talk about the importance of archetypal thinking, how the archetype of an "orphan" relates to the calling of a priest archetype, and the process by which an orphan is transformed....

Oct 16, 202032 min

Calling & Character: Priest, Prophet, King

In this episode of the podcast, Dan and Rachael are joined by Cathy Loerzel, Executive Vice President of The Allender Center, to begin a conversation about a particular aspect of The Allender Theory: prophet, priest, and king/queen. During the conversation, they invite you into each of these three categories and to consider what it means to have been given a kingdom in which you are a priest, prophet, and king/queen. Listen to a podcast series with Cathy Loerzel about " The Complexities in Leade...

Oct 09, 202032 min

How Are You Doing? Checking in with Dan and Rachael

Since it has been a few weeks since Rachael and Dan hosted together on the podcast, they decided to sit down and check-in both with each other and the state of the world before launching into more of our regularly scheduled fall content. It's been a hard season and a hard year. Feeling scattered, fragmented, numb, and isolated are normal. Yet, at the same time, we must also continue to ask ourselves the question: Who do we want to become, how do we want to live in this crazy period? Resources: L...

Oct 02, 202033 min

Relationships between Married Couples and Single People

"We all have something to offer and we all have something to learn from each other in all of our various stages of life and relationships." -Beau Denton As the month of conversations about marriage draws to a close, Dan and Becky invite Beau Denton and Ashley Wright on the podcast to talk about how single people and married people can relate better together. Beau was a former Content Creator for The Seattle School and played an integral role in synthesizing podcast episodes, and Ashley serves as...

Sep 25, 202028 min

Rituals to Redeem Your Marriage

Dan and Becky Allender invite Paul and Sara Steinke into a conversation about creating and living rituals in marriage, particularly in this era of COVID-19. Paul is the Vice President of Students and Alumni at The Seattle School and Sara is a private practitioner, yoga instructor, and poet. Throughout the episode, they talk about the presence of ritual in their relationships, the specific kinds of rituals they practice to enhance and grow their marriage, and the difference between creating a rit...

Sep 18, 202036 min
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