Our baby, Wilder is 7 weeks old now and we are navigating connection in the midst of so much output. How do you stay full? How do you stay connected? We've all had busy seasons, painful seasons, or dead seasons... In this episode we wanted to share some of the "Real" of what we've been experiencing in this new season and also share some of the ways we've stayed full, connected to ourselves, and not sunk into powerlessness or hopelessness. It's so easy to get to a point in process where it feels ...
Oct 12, 2022•42 min•Ep. 42
I interviewed my Dad. He's an alcoholic. I've had a ton of pain and neglect from childhood because of him. His parenting has marked my life. But he has also chosen to confront his biggest failures and pain and although our connection is a work in progress, I have so much respect for the humility that he lives his life with. My dad was pretty distant, disconnected, disassociated for a lot of my childhood. I felt like I was always the problem that needed to be fixed. I always felt like there was s...
Sep 27, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 41
I felt codependent with my mom my whole life. I felt like the only way to satisfy her was by shutting down my heart and emotions. I had so much resentment towards her but DID NOT KNOW IT. So I went through a healing process that lasted nearly a decade to no longer feel powerless and to connect with her. I interviewed my mom this week for the podcast. This is really cool because many of you have heard my story with my mom and the pain thatwe've walked through together as well as the childhood pai...
Sep 20, 2022•55 min•Ep. 40
We just had our baby 2 weeks ago and have been on a podcast hiatus...both enjoying our new little boy and also processing some of the grief and trauma from the labor and birth. We all have moments in our lives that aren't just black and white, good or bad. How do we celebrate without dismissing grief? How do we grieve without living in perpetual hopelessness? A lot of you have been asking about how our birth experience was with Wilder...and this podcast episode is our response. But besides the f...
Sep 06, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 39
We've seen people go after healing and leave christianity entirely. We've seen people take license to just be triggered at everybody that sin't "safe". We've seen people cling to religious legalism when healing and freedom is so close. Whatever the case...there are a lot of "paths" out there to walk in our lives...a lot of options for how to do life and what to worship. While many people have to intentionally question what they believe about God and many really should reconstruct their faith at ...
Aug 16, 2022•57 min•Ep. 38
We, as human beings, love to learn new language and understanding and point it at other people rather than ourselves... It is so easy to learn new emotional health language and become more self aware and emotionally Intelligent to then want to point it at others when they/we are triggered. We have done this so many times... And it doesn't help. We've also made turned emotional health into another "fix yourself" process and have resented it in different seasons. If you struggle with needing contr...
Aug 09, 2022•53 min•Ep. 37
As a culture we are way too busy for our own good... But why? Why isn't it good? In this episode we talk about how to work through overwhelm triggers and feeling out of control and how we try to take back control or medicate ourselves with work and toil. Rate and leave us a review!
Aug 02, 2022•53 min•Ep. 36
Sammi and I are moments away from our first baby... We are going to be giving up a lot of freedom. But we often make trade our freedom for relationship and things that we believe will be fulfilling. Some of us do whatever we can to hold onto freedom and commitments and responsibilities feel terrifying. How do you know when you're ready for that exchange? What do you do when you're not ready? In this episode, we talk about our process around trading freedom for what feels like more fulfillment. I...
Jul 26, 2022•48 min•Ep. 35
Should a person's value be reduced to what number they are on a scale of 1-10? Is there more to relationships and dating than how attracted you are to someone? Is attraction even important in relationships, really? What should we do with the lust, attraction, and comparison that society feeds us? Sammi and Spencer have both struggled with eating disorders, a deep need to be seen, noticed, and wanted... And in this episode they discuss what to do with all of this, how to heal, and how to put phys...
Jul 21, 2022•47 min•Ep. 34
If you want some nitty gritty stories of the supernatural and the demonic, then this is an episode you don't want to miss. We're continuing our conversation about the demonic, the supernatural, and inner healing. We might lose some of you here...but this is real stuff. The last thing we want is to act like we have all of the answers but there are just things that we cannot ignore and we definitely cannot fake things that we have seen and experienced. Hopefully, in this episode, you will have som...
Jul 12, 2022•55 min•Ep. 33
The demonic is very real. And I'm sure if you've been a part of the church for long enough, you've heard of a bunch of different kinds of inner healing methods or styles... We've both experienced the demonic and the supernatural but we haven't built a "deliverance" ministry... This podcast episode answers "why?" In this episode, we share stories of the supernatural and talk about the differences between inner healing and deliverance and how that overlaps with the healing process. Hopefully, some...
Jul 05, 2022•49 min•Ep. 32
**TRIGGER WARNING** Do NOT listen to this with children around and if you do not want to hear very nitty gritty details on our sexual experiences that we have healed from. We made this episode to discuss the times we have been taken advantage of, the times we have chosen into destructive sexual decisions, and the process we went through afterward to heal. This is for you if you feel stuck in shame, you feel scared of sexuality, or you feel powerless to your sex drive. We are continuing the discu...
Jun 28, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 31
After our last podcast episode on Sex, we received so many messages and comments from you guys. This episode is the first of many responses to those questions. So yes...we do listen to you :P In this episode, we get very vulnerable but also share how we've cultivated safety for eachother sexually, how we've navigated disconnect, and how we have pursued eachother. Whether you're married and wanting to create deeper connection in your marriage or you're single and wanting to create vision for the ...
Jun 21, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 30
Don't live in shame. Don't live powerless to it. Don't keep silent. And don't miss out on all of it's beauty. In this episode, we have an honest dialogue about sex, our struggles, others' struggles, and how to get free from the shame that often keeps us stuck. Don't keep reading this description...just go listen already! Seriously, get goin' What are you still doin' here? ;) As always, these episodes are free for you... it would really bless us if you took 20 seconds to rate and leave a review o...
Jun 14, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 29
We all get triggered in relationships...or even when we are just alone by ourselves. What do you do when you can't shake that feeling that you're alone or nobody loves you? So many of us blame the ones closest for not being or doing enough... A lot of us escape to friends and people and can't be alone because being alone feels tormenting. Where does that feeling come from and can we do anything to deal with it? In this episode, we take a deep dive into loneliness and how it affects us and our re...
Jun 07, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 28
Laura Duncan has coached men and women for a decade and teaches her compassion coaching method in our Coach Launch Program. She has helped people get free from porn addiction, work through grief and loss, heal relationships, connect to God, get free from depression and suicidality, and heal with compassion. In this episode, she, Sammi, and Spencer talk christianity and emotional health. How should christians deal with their shame, pain, and problems? You weren't meant to be fixed but loved. Laur...
May 31, 2022•57 min•Ep. 27
Young Entrepreneurship is a hot topic nowadays... And Christians are trying to figure out their place in it all. Building our business has been so difficult and so rewarding... It has put pressure on our marriage and also revealed and refined us in some of the best ways. This episode is an invitation to you to grow in your beliefs, your capacity for risk, and the clarity of direction you might not have for where you want to go. This is vulnerable for us to share with you but hopefully it saves y...
May 24, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 26
If you don't think entrepreneurship is vulnerable or that making a business and going after your dreams is triggering, then you have got it all wrong. We would have never created A&F if it weren't for the inner healing process we went through with God. It was scary to try, there was resistance, and there were people that didn't believe in us. But we decided not to settle for mediocrity in our lives...and this is what came as a result. In this episode, we wanted to share our story and the bel...
May 17, 2022•58 min•Ep. 25
Is reconciliation possible for children and their parents? What would healthy dialogues look like between children and parents that may have caused childhood pain? How can parents respond to the pain from their children? Are some parents not worth confronting and hoping for deeper connection? We explore all of this and more in this episode. Melanie and Amanda are a mom-daughter duo looking to share the pain and restoration of their relationship after years of fear and control. To learn when the ...
May 10, 2022•46 min•Ep. 24
There is a lot of big news here... So stay tuned... But in this episode, we also break down the deep need for emotional health in the church. Why is all of the pressure put on pastors to counsel marriages? Are church leaders equipped to help with people's trauma? Is the Word ALL we need? We discuss all of this in this episode. For Men that want Resources, email [email protected] To Apply for our Come Alive Program, go to yourheartfree.com/book-a-call To look into our Coach Launch P...
May 03, 2022•56 min•Ep. 23
We are so vulnerable and raw and had a rough day. It was a rough day for us and for Alive & Free. There is no such thing as a pain free life and we have chosen not to shove our pain and we've chosen not to be powerless to it either. What do you do when the "hard" of life feels unbearable and how do you grieve and value emotions and also put on your adult hat and get things done? This is a vulnerable episode and a good one. Links from the episode below! If you're a woman and want to apply for...
Apr 26, 2022•55 min•Ep. 22
In this Episode where I (Spencer) Interview my friend Matt, we talk about some really tough news he and his wife found out when their second son was born. Their new son was born with Down-Syndrome... And they were not expecting it at all. 9 months of dreaming, expecting, thinking about the future...totally and drastically changed... But this became an incredible gift in their lives. In this episode, Spencer and Matt talk about our relationships with expectations, healthy grieving of failed desir...
Apr 19, 2022•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 21
How do you find God and trust Him in the midst of high highs and low lows? We are emotional health coaches but we're also normal human beings with pain and our own issues and we also run a company of 35+ employees. In this episode, we have an laid back chat about the current issues we're personally facing and how we're processing life. If you like this episode and want more like it, let us know at [email protected] If you got anything out of this episode, please take 20 seconds to ...
Apr 12, 2022•36 min•Ep. 20
We're continuing the conversation from our last episode on the problems, humanity, and pain found in the christian church and what to do with that pain. If you're a woman and you want help working through your past pain, triggers, relationship disconnection and wounds, then apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Coaching Intensive- apply here: https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call The truth is, your pain can be a launching pad into deeply feeling, loving, and connecting in the reklationships t...
Apr 05, 2022•59 min•Ep. 19
What's wrong with the church? A lot.. But should it have as much control over us or our emotions as it does? Why are some church cultures so toxic and what can we do about it to make change and also show up powerfully? Sammi and Spencer talk about the church hurt that they've processed through and some of the observations they've made about the christian church and what they believe could be better. This is part 1 of this dialogue... Hope it blesses you. If you liked this episode, please rate an...
Mar 29, 2022•45 min•Ep. 18
We've seen people often fall into two extremes of thought... Either "focus on what you want, relentlessly, and confidently expect it until you step into it...be obsessive and go after your dreams." Or... "Just be content...desire for nothing- in fact kill you desires and just be okay with no pleasure or desires fulfilled and definitely don't dream..." Is balance between the two what's healthy? Or is there another way to look at it? Sammi and Spencer talk about their journey around maintaining a ...
Mar 22, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 17
Spencer and Sammi Interview Kait Warman, author of Thank You For Rejecting Me and Host of Heart of Dating Podcast. Kait has been a dating coach, author, and speaker to christian singles for years now and has hosted several Heart of Dating Conferences for thousands of singles. In this episode, we have a dialogue about what a healthy dating process actually looks like and Kait gets vulnerable about her recent journey up until her recent engagement. This episode is one you don't want to miss! To se...
Mar 15, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 16
Triggers can either destroy relationships or be the doorway to your personal freedom. Triggers reveal past pain and past wounds and if left unresolved can control your relationships...especially your closest ones. Sammi and Spencer discuss their own triggers as well as the most common triggers in relationships and what to do when you experience yours. To download our triggers course for only $19, go to compassionfortriggers.com If you liked this episode and found it valuable, please take 20 seco...
Mar 08, 2022•56 min•Ep. 15
On this podcast episode, Spencer interviews San Francisco Giants Pro Pitcher Tyler Beede on what it means to be an emotionally healthy man on a journey. It is rare these days for men to choose into confronting pain and hard emotions... The world tells us to suck it up and just get over it while women are begging men to have a heart and connect. Men's emotions run deep and there is a fight for our childlikeness and health. In this episode, Spencer and Tyler tackle questions araound masculinity, p...
Mar 01, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 14
Sammi and Spencer talk about the pain of community, the difficulty of trusting people, and the struggle of building friendships with people. It's not easy to put yourself out there with new people. It's particularly scary to get close and intimate with people. To let them see you- see the real you. And even scarier to feel misunderstood, betrayed, unseen, unloved, abandoned, or rejected. And It is SO HARD to risk hurt again...but life is bland and meaningless without people to share it with. We ...
Feb 22, 2022•54 min•Ep. 13
