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2023-02-16. Humility Is Fun

Feb 16, 202317 minSeason 1Ep. 20
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Paul has started to learn the piano, as a part of his applied practice for his love for music. Rich and Paul discuss the importance of having the humility to learn for the sake of learning regardless of the outcome.

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Rich Ziade

Everyone. My name is Rich Ziti. I'm one half of the Ziti in Ford Podcast, and I'd like to introduce you to my six-year-old co-host Paul Ford. He's in the first grade. Hi Paul.

Paul Ford

This is me, Paul Ford. I'm six, uh, the the other co-host. Uh, why did you introduce me as Six Rich?

Rich Ziade

Because you're taking piano lessons.

Paul Ford

Piano lessons is a stretch. There's this very nice guy with a, with an accent who on Udemy, who teaches a class with like 200 separate installments. And I am learning by watching.

Rich Ziade

Welcome to the Zian Ford podcast. We're gonna talk about learning to learn.

Paul Ford

Yay. Well, that's nice. That sounds nice and generic, but, but here's what's up. After we sold our company, something we've talked about, I was like, I should buy something to honor this moment. Something I would never normally buy No, I went, I went and got a profit, ex synthesizer.

Rich Ziade

Boring.

Paul Ford

It is very boring. Not even expensive compared to like, I mean, it's just like, it's expensive for a synth. Um, but it's not like a, it wasn't a fancy thing, but I always wanted one. I always wanted like a good piano in my

Rich Ziade

Okay.

Paul Ford

Okay, so this one,

Rich Ziade

fun. A toy, you got yourself a.

Paul Ford

a toy, a really fancy toy. And it plays, you know, it has like a. Great piano sample and it also plays all sorts of BBOs and, and so, so great. So I found it for about six months and I learned how to turn, turn all the knobs. I learned subtractive synthesis and how to make it work. And then, um, I started to look at other synths and shop for them and I got kind of like excited about it.

Okay. And then after ordering a few items on the internet, I had a little meeting with myself and I said, are you just gonna buy gear or are you going to actually learn and understand music? And the way that you understand music theory and kind of in the last 150 years is you do it with the piano. You, you get, you learn how to play piano. It is applied music theory. It's 12 semitones and arranged in octaves, and you learn the chords and the, you know, the chord progressions and so on.

And it kind of starts there. It starts with the keys on the piano. And so I was like, I better do it. So, Then it was kind, I was kind of curious. I'm like, will I stick with this?

Rich Ziade

Let me ask you your motivation here. Most people who are six years old take piano lessons cuz their parents want them to,

Paul Ford

right?

Rich Ziade

Maybe he's got a god-given talent and will be a prodigy. So let's, let's, let's try this out. Most people who do it, when. 16 years old do it because they wanna perform and they want people to love them and love their music, and they want to be a star. Why in God's name with a 48 year old successful former executive want to take piano

Paul Ford

There was a point where I was practicing it. My wife just came into the room and said, I just need to know how far this is gonna go.

Rich Ziade

That's a fair

Paul Ford

Well, cuz he's like, am I gonna have to go to like. event where you're performing,

Rich Ziade

why do it?

Paul Ford

I love music. I've always loved music. I've written about music. I like to listen to music. I know musicians and I always felt that it was sort of away from me and outside of me. I was a writer, I was a technologist, but I've always kept a hand in, I've always, you know, had music software on the computer and so on and so forth. And there's, there's a point of just like, well, who am I gonna?

Am I gonna be a guy who, um, participates and knows how it works and can feel it and can do things with it? And then I was like, boy, yeah, you don't have any dexterity. You don't have any particular skills. Your ears okay, but let's, and I was like, I, maybe I could learn it. It's literally, I am learning piano because the exercise of learning, it gives me a place to focus my energy in my mind.

Rich Ziade

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Paul Ford

And because I, and it's, I'm like, I need a hobby.

Rich Ziade

Okay. Uh, I think this is great, and I'll tell you why I think it's great. First off, there are very, there are many passive hobbies you could collect, you know, stamps, you could collect, I don't know, butterflies. I've seen people like glue butterflies to paper

Paul Ford

It's a weird one. Leo Opery. Yeah.

Rich Ziade

don't know what that is. Anyway, those are, those don't require a lot of skill and those don't make you feel like a novice. Right outta the gate. The, the bar for what you're talking about, which is playing a piano well, um, is high. You, you do, you suck

Paul Ford

actually. Oh, I'm terrible. Absolutely. Without a, I didn't know the names of the notes. I'm sitting there going, that one's C. That one's d. Um,

Rich Ziade

also the brain at, at, as you get older and

Paul Ford

Oh, left hand. Left hand and right hand are supposed to do different things Hey, ain't great.

Rich Ziade

It's probably not great.

Paul Ford

I'm learning. There's a thing called the Half Beat Bounce, where your left hand is like

Rich Ziade

frustrated.

Paul Ford

Oh, so

Rich Ziade

frustrated. Will you quit?

Paul Ford

I am not gonna quit. I don't think I might because I have choices in my life, and if I don't want to, I'm never gonna be a professional piano player. Sure. So it doesn't, there's no cost to me to quit and there's very little benefit if I succeed, but, There's a a thing that happens when you really go deep on something, and to me, this is why learning is worthwhile. Even if you aren't gonna cash out the skill, it's that it connects you to a much bigger, weirder thing.

You're really into headphones. Right now. yes. And the conversations we have about headphones, sometimes you'll be like, come listen to this on these. Yeah. And that's cool. And you gave me a great pair of headphones. It was generous and I love it. And I enjoy them.

Rich Ziade

I don't think I gave them to you. I put them on your head. You're like, these are unbelievable. You can't have them back as, as a really as how I believe it went

Paul Ford

That's a side effect of, of working together for a long time.

Rich Ziade

time. Can I highlight a distinction here or do you want to finish

Paul Ford

your, well, no, let me finish my thought because as we talk about headphones, we don't just talk about music, we talk about supply chain, the community around headphones, how people focus on this particular thing, how they analyze and understand them. And so what I, what I, what I look at when I see headphones is you going. I need a way to interpret it and understand the world. I love music. This is really interesting that there's a whole world here.

Yeah. And it's a way for you to connect with and interact with the world purely focused around a thing. It doesn't have any complexity. There's no, like, you're not worried about Lebanon being okay today. Like you're ju it is just a thing in your

Rich Ziade

It's a place to go. People who people think about this. We're talking abstractly right now. They think about this when it comes to travel. People who love to travel.

Paul Ford

Yes.

Rich Ziade

They, they have a list and their goal is to go to places they've never been

Paul Ford

Soak it in. Learn 10 words in the language.

Rich Ziade

Exactly, exactly. I, I, I happen to not be that pre, I mean, there are places I want to go, but I don't have a list. Like my wife actually has a list. Like she wants to go experience strange, weird, she hates the hermetically sealed resorts where.

Paul Ford

that's fair.

Rich Ziade

Where you don't, oh, sometimes you just wanna decompress. I'm not gonna judge people who do that, but she wants to go take those in. I, I think it's great, by the way, I also think it's rare, and I, I think I would put collecting stamps and headphones in one category and then learning a skill and failing spectacularly at it as another.

Paul Ford

I'm kind of realizing how much fun it is to connect to something that is hundreds of years old, that is one of the books is from like 1890. And that makes me think about the fact that, um, what was my neighborhood like and were people. People were definitely playing piano in my neighborhood at that time. And so there's this connective tissue.

There's a, and there's just a sense of like, I will never win, like, I will never be good at piano at a level that people would go, boy, that's a really good piano player. Yeah. Like, that's, I

Rich Ziade

yeah. No, you, you never will. I can

Paul Ford

confirm that. Yeah. I never will.

Rich Ziade

Um, look, I, I, I'm gonna take a leap here and, and, and kind of make a statement that I have absolutely no authority or citation to back

Paul Ford

Go for it. It's a podcast. You're really allowed to do that here.

Rich Ziade

That's what they do at all the podcasts. it is really good for your mental health to learn something brand new. Uh, it is and and I don't mean that as in like, oh, keep learning and expand your horizons. I mean, it is gen. Genuinely. Good for you. I, for a law, I learned most of the skills I used today after law school. Like I went to law school, I was supposed to just go cash in on the damn law diploma

Paul Ford

No, and then you learn, then you learn how to program. Right. You learn how to,

Rich Ziade

I learned. Project and product management for five years, and then I was 31 and I took six months off and learned how to program. I I wasn't gonna be a programmer. I could tell by, after I was learning the program that I wasn't gonna be a programmer, but I learned to

Paul Ford

you need to have control over the thing you do. I do. Like you, you and I had the same path. I was not a natural programmer. I taught myself, I got pretty good, but never like, oh my God, this is the, the, you know what's hard if you're not a natural programmer, that last 20% where you're like, I'm gonna write the unit tests because otherwise my job isn't done. Yeah. Uh, never. That was

Rich Ziade

I, that didn't interest me. And, and there are people who really enjoy that last 20%. Uh, I think, I think I, for me, programming was communication. Uh, like I, I was very like, you know, I wrote a piece of code that was actually popular and I showed it to the engineers at my old shop. The way I presented to them was like, think of this as a prototype. I want you guys to make it happen. Make it better. Because I, it was, it was almost a way of expression.

It wasn't really anything that was supposed to be for the world. It ended up being used in the world. But that's beside the point.

Paul Ford

know who hates when you program that way? Who?

Rich Ziade

Oh, for sure. Oh my God. They thought I was a fraud.

Paul Ford

Oh, they really

Rich Ziade

they thought I was a

Paul Ford

There's a tremendous disciplinary focus. This is why learning things when you're older is hard. When you're little and you're learning fine, cuz you're not a great piano player, you're six. But when you're older, what happens is you start comparing. To all the people who do this for a living. Yeah. And people are gatekeepers around their own disciplines. They're like, why are you in here? In my JavaScript? Yeah. That's mine. That's not for you to

Rich Ziade

right. Yeah. Oh, a hundred percent. And, and sometimes, here's the reason I learned a program. This is the cynical piece of shit, rich

Paul Ford

For a moment. Yeah, go for

Rich Ziade

Um, I, I got tired of being lied to. People would give me, they would give me time estimates on stuff. I was like, I'm done. I want to understand everything

Paul Ford

as a product manager, it's a great reason to learn the program.

Rich Ziade

became a nightmare of a product leader after that for a while because I could not hear it. And I've sat down sometimes with some really serious technical thinkers and said, you're gonna draw the pseudo code for me on this board as to why this is gonna take eight months, cuz I don't believe you. they couldn't do it.

Paul Ford

you know what's tricky is the, um, oh no. They just, it's, I have, I have

Rich Ziade

it as col this sound, I sound like a bully right now. I used to treat it as collaboration. I'm like, let's see if there's a faster way. It's

Paul Ford

not just that there are, there are really good reasons why it will take three months to update one web

Rich Ziade

there's always good reasons. Right.

Paul Ford

good reasons and it's, and when you are not, and. And if you don't have the domain expertise to be like, seems a little long. Yeah. Uh, people will give you those reasons. You're like, well, I, there's no nothing I can do here. Yeah. You know,

Rich Ziade

Uh, I, I will say, uh, you know, what is the takeaway? I mean, we're talking about advice first off. We are in a fortunate position. We can pick up these entire domains and play with them. Um, even if you're doing it just a little bit, go do something you're gonna fail at. Go feel like a novice even if you're older. I think that is the advice. I had an, uh, a law professor who was sort of my mentor during law school, and he taught, you know, at the law school, but also took on.

Supreme Court cases. Like this guy was very well regarded. fun hobby. But you know, when you take on a Supreme Court case, it's the date of oral arguments could be five months away and you're, you gotta get to work. And I was like, why are you, you know, why do you, why do you still do this? I thought maybe it was like a, you know, a high minded justice for the people thing. He's like, I just gotta keep my brain working.

Like I've been teaching the same, you know, criminal procedure courses for 20 years.

Paul Ford

Okay, let's, yeah, it's true. Like, okay, it's Tuesday. It's evidence,

Rich Ziade

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He used to, I remember one, one of the classes, he ended one, it was like a beautiful day. He's like, wow, who are we kidding? And it was like a two hour like lesson that day. He ended it like 45 minutes and he was like, go outside. Who are we kidding? And everybody's shocked. But the point is, for me personally, if I don't. Yeah, I'm not, well, like I have to keep learning. I, I'm, I think I'm, I'm an outlier a little bit. For most, it's hard.

They have their job, which for most people are they in, you know, most aren't in r and d most, there is redundancy in the job. And as you get older, you fall into the grooves o the same grooves over and over again. the

Paul Ford

well. there's, there's, there's a lesson in my story that relates to this, which is I was eyeing gear to buy because I, it felt good. I was gonna buy it. I would get the little dopamine release when the package came in and I bought some gear and I was feeling like, okay, all right. And then, then there was this moment where it was. The only way I'm gonna get the value here, the only way I'm actually gonna experience this stuff and understand what it's about.

Yeah. Is if I become just enough of a musician to really understand the the technology.

Rich Ziade

Absolutely. Absolutely. And diving deeps out of fashion right now, we skim across everything.

Paul Ford

It's all very

Rich Ziade

It's all very skimmable,

Paul Ford

there's no way, unless I teach my hands to touch the keyboard and hit the notes in the right order. Yeah, it doesn't work. Yeah. So you gotta do that and it's awful. It sounds like, boo.

Rich Ziade

it's awful.

Paul Ford

That's it.

Rich Ziade

It's awful. And, and, and, and, but it's satisfying on the other side, even the little wins.

Paul Ford

Well, you start to perceive the world in different ways. And actually you start to see all the, it's cheat codes. You start to go like, oh, I see what they did in that song. Yeah. Oh, that was actually really easy.

Rich Ziade

Can I end it with one last little tiny piece of advice, and then we can close this

Paul Ford

Absolutely.

Rich Ziade

right. Listen, I, we live in New York City. Everybody's kind of close to each other. If you're over 40, don't start with a, like, don't learn the saxophone.

Paul Ford

Oh God.

Rich Ziade

Nobody needs to hear that. Like nine o'clock, 10 o'clock at night. You're doing your sax

Paul Ford

last. Ooh, guess what's coming next though, right here in the office after I'm done with piano.

Rich Ziade

Saxophone.

Paul Ford

I'll get a digital midi sax. Those are the best. Jan. They, oh, they sound, it's like a robot. Making love to another robot.

Rich Ziade

Go forth and learn.

Paul Ford

That's right. Just a little, a happy, positive, uh, cheerful. Let's go kind of Z Ford.

Rich Ziade

I think what's nice about what you're suggesting here is, is you're not aiming towards an outcome. There is no success. You're just exercising

Paul Ford

is the ability to do things without an outcome. that's, yeah, that's, that's, you're not even there yet. Half the time. What skill are you gonna go get Me? Yeah.

Rich Ziade

Oh, I'm so metrics driven. Paul

Paul Ford

I know. Come on. Come on. You

Rich Ziade

I need to learn something. You know, I learned to swim very late in my life. Okay. And, uh, to this day, it's still not a comfortable experience. I, when you learn to swim in your forties, It's never comfortable, even if you know how to float and swim. Um, it's terrible actually. But so credit to others. Uh, my lovely wife who's like, you're, this is not gonna work. You're gonna save our children

Paul Ford

Right,

Rich Ziade

if the situation arises. She didn't care about my

Paul Ford

No. If we're at the beach, you're gonna save the children.

Rich Ziade

gonna save the

Paul Ford

save the.

Rich Ziade

Um, so keep learning. I think that's a good, uh, it sounds

Paul Ford

Swimming is great. No, cuz I've actually been thinking the piano is a great, the, the reminder here is really good as I'm getting my physical health back, because working out is incredibly incremental. I started working again with weights and I'm just, I started trying to like, lift horizontally up, put 25 pound weight and my, my arm was like, no, no, no,

Rich Ziade

yeah, yeah. You're gonna have, that's not gonna, you can't flip that switch right

Paul Ford

exactly. And it's gonna take incremental gains on a, on a recurring basis. So that's, that's the other thing, is you can take that lesson of constant humiliation and apply it to the other humiliating parts of your life. That's great. You're gonna become a, and the thing is, is I'm like, you're gonna become a champion swimmer. No, you're not. No, you, you're not. You just, but you might have more control over your body in the water, and that's cool. Exactly.

Rich Ziade

by little it's little wins. It's all

Paul Ford

that's the thing. You're just going for the half a percent is great today. Yes. Great. All well, rich, the Audi Ford advisors, if people wanna get in touch, who do they, what do they do? Where do they

Rich Ziade

Hello, it's Audi Ford dot.

Paul Ford

That's enough. That's all anybody needs to hear.

Rich Ziade

we're on Twitter at Zdi Ford. If you still know how to use Twitter. They keep moving shit

Paul Ford

They really do. It's quite a thing

Rich Ziade

here we go.

Paul Ford

All right,

Rich Ziade

hit us up. We love, uh, getting, uh, feedback and, and suggestions for topics. Have a lovely day.

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