We finish our fall chat, diving deeper into how kids get what they want. Then I talk about a small fire that happened in our backyard and the difficulties of dealing that. Subscribe to my newsletter - https://mailchi.mp/c25a788f2863/aarons-landing-page
Nov 07, 2024•34 min•Season 1Ep. 29
In this episode, Tony talks about his 3-year-old's new penchant for getting what he wants! When do kids understand manipulation, and how can we look at it the same way they do? We try to understand the children's actions on their level because they aren't actually adults or even kids yet. They're not babies, but still our babies. Season One Episode 28 Follow us on IG and youtube. @Bearcov
Oct 08, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Send us a textThis week we finally delve into the topic of keepsakes and the things that we will leave behind for our kids. Photos, objects, trinkets, books? It's hard to choose and even harder to save. We also talk about learning the days of the week and we take a trip with Tony to Sampit, South Carolina, a small town, named after his grandfather. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jul 26, 2024•39 min
Send us a textWe're and recovering from the 4th of July holidays. We talk about getting through the holiday with children and adult family. And we just scratch the surface of discovering new ways to approach parenting mentally. Because it's all mental, isn't it?Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jul 22, 2024•28 min
Send us a textThe holiday was crazy so Aaron's dropping off another quick solopod, or is it Pod Solo? He tracks his thoughts on kids being kids and kids being human. How do I practice patience and a thorough comparison of kids to video games. Thanks for listening and leave a review. oUqIZlDLwhyHcCLhhTwpLike, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jul 15, 2024•11 min
Send us a textTrying a new thing, the solocast or solopod. I wanted to recap and add some thoughts to last weeks epsiodes about anxiety with a first kid, even when you have a second, and developing patience for kids. Then I look ahead to next week's episode about keepsakes and telling your kid about your own life. Leave a review! Thank you, friends and Dads.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jul 03, 2024•11 min
Send us a textThis week we bring on Aaron's good friend Jay New who is raising two kids, a girl and a boy, ages soon to be seven and soon to be four. We talk how everything the first kid does is the first time the parents are experiencing it too. Later we get into how important patience is because even though they look like little adults, they are not and it takes time for them to understand things in the world sometimes. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.o...
Jul 01, 2024•31 min
Send us a textWe're back with Edward Gyimah who's son is seven weeks old! We talk about the utter importance of having help around and what it means for family to see the newborns early. We also talk the fun early days of fatherhood and what it means to actually be a dad. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jun 24, 2024•44 min
Send us a textThis week we have guest Dad Darrius Marcellin who has a baby about the same age at Aaron's! We talk about the process of choosing names and how Dads sometimes need more practical advice. We talk about Darrius' background in soccer and his previous life in New York before establishing himself in LA. A really fun episode and we end talking about how we deepen our connection with our kids and how that's different for Fathers.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram....
Jun 14, 2024•38 min
Send us a textThis week we look back on the first six months of the podcast.We talk about how beneficial doing this has been for us as Dads, partners and men. We explore the idea of basic therapy, talking to yourself, talking out loud instead of keeping something inside, and our shared history through the years. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jun 07, 2024•26 min
Send us a textDad bootcamp is back with soon to be father Kruger Dunn. We walk through what to expect at the hospital and those first couple of weeks. We also talk about activities for kids, when to get them started and how to choose. Hopefully Kruger is at least slightly more prepared for his baby's arrival!Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
May 24, 2024•44 min
Send us a textThis week we examine our fatherhood journeys and discover what we have learned about ourselves in our short time as Dads. Guest Dad and college friend Muyi Akerele adds his unique and nuanced insight to the conversation.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
May 17, 2024•41 min
Send us a textThis week we talk about early lessons from parenting. These are things that one can't really be told before experiencing. Then we talk about how fathers can approach fitting into their kids' lives through adulthood. Lastly we discuss the very human need to be near your parents as they become elderly.Video content on YouTube. Search The 40, Black and Dad Show00:20 Happy Birthday Tony. Kids make you feel old and young at the same time02:15 Competitive with your kids.05:15 You pare...
May 06, 2024•38 min
Send us a textThis week we talk with new dad Bradley Castillo. A wide-ranging conversation that covers social media and who can post your kid, to screen time and fighting it as long as you can, to moving in with family, humilty and ego and making time for yourself. Phew. It's tough being a dad!00:37 40 Black and Dad is the title, not a requirement!02:20 keeping social media on business not on personal/kid announcements10:35 kids feed all the time. 14:15 adjusting to living arrangements18...
Apr 27, 2024•39 min
Send us a textThis week we get into the topic of parenting styles. A lot of articles have different defintions but they all seem to list the same four main styles. But are those styles or just personality types? We attempt to redefine different parenting types while identifying our experiences. What types of parents did we have and do we hope to be?01:18 guttaral sound and a bbirthdya party07:17 the main parenting styles11:12 try to be like your parents or be the exact opposite17:33 remaning ...
Apr 22, 2024•33 min
Send us a textIn part two with soon-to-be dad Edward Gyimah we dig a bit deeper. In this uncertain world how do you plan for the future? We talk about much harder raising kids continues to get and how we might approach education differently than our parents did and much more.00:00 Parenting is the most important job but there are no quailifications for it.06:40 Where does community come from now? What does it look like?11:10 Work versus Having a kid. Why "wait"? Why does waiting make it harde...
Apr 13, 2024•35 min
Send us a textThis week we have a guest, soon-to-be father Edward Gyimah. The talk was so good we had to break it into two parts. In part one we talk about the practical tangible parts of parenting. How to plan for the lack of sleep, scheduling sleep and feeding time for the baby. Then we talk about when family should visit and how many should visit at a time and the importance of communication between Mommy and Daddy.00:00 Edward's backstory13:00 Lack of sleep16:00 When do you hit your paren...
Apr 13, 2024•29 min
Send us a textParental anxiety! Nothing is scarier than having a child. Nothing! Are they okay? Are you okay? We talk about our own anxieties and fears as parents and share some experiences of times we thought we had really messed up. And our first minor surgery for the baby! Terrifying. Also how webmd doesn't help. Last we talk about how Dad's increase anxiety for Mommies and how Dad's role as preparer is differnt than Mom's role as protector.https://www.instagram.com/bearcov/https://w...
Apr 08, 2024•29 min
Send us a textIn this episode of 40, Black and Dad looks at parenting misconceptions. From the beginning, when someone says they're trying to get pregnant. What does that actually mean? Some moms think they can sleep when the baby sleeps? Will that work? Probably not, but why? We examine a few of the more common parenting misconceptions and give you the real talk.follow us@bearcov on IG@the.official.ig.of.tony on IGapple podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/40-black-and-dad/id...
Mar 29, 2024•34 min
Send us a textWe continue talking about sleep. We talk about how sleep changes as kids age and sleep regressions, but it's about accumulation, right? And what about when other parents ask you about sleep? Don't they already know??Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Mar 25, 2024•31 min
Send us a textJoin us for a heartfelt discussion on postpartum self-care from the Dad's point of view in this episode of 40, Black, and Dad. We delve into the importance of self-care for new fathers, navigating the challenges, and finding moments of rejuvenation amidst the chaos of parenthood.From managing stress to supporting your partner, we share personal experiences and practical tips to help dads prioritize their well-being during this transformative time.Don't miss this insightful episo...
Mar 16, 2024•23 min
Send us a textIn this episode we talk about villages. What does a village look like when you start your family at 40? Who are the men that you take practical advice from? These questions and more. Follow us@bearcov@the.official.ig.of.tonyLike, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Mar 08, 2024•26 min
Send us a textThis week we talk a bit about how parenting has changed and how we're trying to meet the challenges of the digital age.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Feb 17, 2024•36 min
Send us a textThis week we talk strategies we've tried to get the baby or toddler to sleep. Nothing works everytime and different things work for everyone, but its always a battle!Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Feb 11, 2024•26 min
Send us a textStarting a new format to help make the podcast more searchable (and shorter!). This week ask the question "Would you have another kid" and take turns answering and considering the implications and possibilities! Aaron answers around 6:30Tony answers around 9:30Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Feb 01, 2024•27 min
Send us a textAaron and Tony gives special guest Sullivan Jones (kid due in 1 week) the rundown of what to expect and how to prepare. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jan 27, 2024•51 min
Send us a textWe talk the transition to daycare and educational standards for kids up to kindergarten. Also, expectations and judgement. There are no grades in parenting but it sure can feel like it.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jan 19, 2024•41 min
Send us a textThis week we talk in various ways about the father's and partner's role in this whole thing. We talk about scary things. Then we talk about how you are not your parents and you are not your mistakes. Oh and newborns make a lot of noise, all the time, even when sleeping. Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jan 11, 2024•36 min
Send us a textAaron's child is here, and it's everything that's expected. Also Tony is back from Kenya, and the trip was even better than expected! We talk newborns and a cross-country trip with a two and a half year old. Books mentionedWe're Pregnant! The First Time Dad's Pregnancy Handbook by Adrian KulpThe Simplest Baby Book In The World by Stephen Grosswe are not paid for these endorsements.Like, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.c...
Jan 06, 2024•45 min
Send us a textWith Aaron expecting in about a month and Tony planning a trip, the guys talk potty training, comparing development with other kids, delivering during covid and what to expect post-delievry. Recorded 11/10/2023Music: Dreamers by mixaundfree-stock-music.comLike, Subscribe and Followinstagram.com/bearcovinstagram.com/the.official.ig.of.tonyfacebook.com/40BlackandDad
Jan 05, 2024•51 min