In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that if a woman's pulled back in the bedroom, she's just not that into it anymore and that's that. Meanwhile she's three books deep into a series with a cracked spine and a very specific search history. So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on, how shifting hormones, a nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight, and a brain that's running on fumes quietly turn the volume down on desi...
May 28, 2026•21 min•Ep. 28
In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike the dinners you stop accepting. The double dates that suddenly never work with your schedule. The friend you used to see weekly who you now see at brunch, alone, twice a year. The text you draft and don't send. The "we should get together soon" that never has a date attached. The version of the friendship that survived because you stopped saying the thing. Women have been quietly editing themselves out of friendships for generations to avoid one uncomf...
May 21, 2026•22 min•Ep. 27
The birthday you remembered. The appointment you scheduled. The mood you read across the room before anyone else noticed. That's emotional labor, and you've been doing it for free since you were old enough to read a room. This episode is about the receipts you've been keeping in silence, what it's costing your body, and why society trained you to never ask what it's worth. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH...
May 14, 2026•24 min•Ep. 26
Doctors. Bosses. Husbands. In-laws. Friends. Strangers in the grocery store line. Women have been programmed for generations to manage everyone else's comfort through guilt, shame, intimidation, and the soft art of being made to feel like too much. This episode isn't about flipping the table and saying no to everyone tomorrow. It's about noticing where you've been saying yes on autopilot, and asking yourself the one question they really don't want you to ask. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat....
May 07, 2026•18 min•Ep. 25
Stability is the dressed-up word we use for staying somewhere that's draining the life out of us. This week I'm getting into why so many women, especially in perimenopause, white-knuckle through jobs that are wrecking their health, and what it actually costs to keep calling that responsible. Speak Up: For the Woman You're Becoming Membership: https://go.thathormonegirl.com/speak-up-membership Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH...
Apr 30, 2026•18 min•Ep. 24
In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about how deflecting compliments isn't humility. It is a habit that quietly chips away at the confidence we're working so hard to build. This week we're calling out the self-diminishing script, and getting real about why "thank you" is a complete sentence for a badass who knows her value. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH
Apr 23, 2026•17 min•Ep. 23
In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about something most women have done, but nobody wants to admit: ghosting a friendship instead of having the conversation. Because somewhere between hormonal shifts, an already full plate, and not having the words to explain what changed, the slow fade felt easier than the hard talk. We unpack why women go quiet in friendships instead of speaking up, what is really underneath the guilt that follows, and how to figure out whether...
Apr 16, 2026•20 min•Ep. 22
In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we're redefining what resilience really means and explores how building your inner strength isn't about staying or leaving. We get clear on what you truly need. Whether you choose to fight for your relationship or walk away, resilience gives you the grace and love to make that decision on your own terms. Because a lady doesn't just survive her circumstances, she decides them. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License ...
Apr 08, 2026•17 min•Ep. 21
Yes, you read that title right and no, we don't actually believe it. Episode 20 is all about dismantling the myth that women can't be both fiercely ambitious and each other's biggest champions, because spoiler alert: the sisterhood is not a competition. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH
Apr 02, 2026•18 min•Ep. 20
We’re talking about how women are taught to accept “normal” labs, even when they still feel like absolute shit. In this episode, we unpack why normal isn’t always optimal, how dismissal in healthcare impacts your hormones, and what it actually sounds like to speak up at your next appointment. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH
Mar 26, 2026•20 min•Ep. 19
Women are taught to feel lucky to have a job, even when that job is quietly burning them out. In this episode, we unpack how workplace stress, silence, and just be grateful culture affect your hormones and why speaking up at work matters. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH
Mar 19, 2026•17 min•Ep. 18
We’re diving into what happens when you try to explain what’s going on in your body and suddenly you’re being talked over, corrected, or gently told why it’s probably not that big of a deal. We unpack why women often walk away from those conversations second-guessing themselves instead of questioning the moment, and how being dismissed can quietly chip away at your confidence to speak up the next time. If you’ve ever left a conversation thinking, wait… why didn’t I say something back? This one’s...
Mar 12, 2026•22 min•Ep. 17
Trigger warning: There is mention of sexual abuse in this episode. Listen with care! We’re talking about what happens when you make the appointment to ask for help, and you leave disappointed. We dive deep into why anger gets redirected inward, why women doubt themselves instead of questioning the system, and how second-guessing your body becomes a hormone issue all on its own. If you’ve ever walked out of an appointment thinking, “Maybe it’s just me…”. this one’s for you. Music from #Uppbeat ht...
Mar 05, 2026•24 min•Ep. 16
Ladies don’t initiate sex, they wait to be wanted. But what happens when you spend years waiting instead of choosing? In this episode, we unpack how suppressed desire shows up as resentment and disconnection. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Feb 26, 2026•18 min•Ep. 15
This week we’re calling out the myth that good women speak sweetly and never swear. From cussing to clear boundaries to telling the damn truth, this episode is about reclaiming your voice without polishing it down to make everyone else comfortable. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Feb 19, 2026•24 min•Ep. 14
This episode is about about deep, emotional, life-level pleasure and why so many women don’t have it. Women are disconnected because they were never taught they’re allowed to want it. So we fake it. In relationships. In work. In lives that look “fine” but feel empty. In this episode, we talk about why pleasure gets labeled selfish, the emotional and hormonal cost of living without it, and what shifts when a woman stops performing satisfaction and starts asking for more. If life is functioning bu...
Feb 12, 2026•26 min•Ep. 13
After 40, many women don’t lose desire, but they certainly lose permission to talk about it 😉 This episode breaks the silence around sex, hormones, and intimacy, and why stopping the conversation often hurts more than the changes themselves. Honest, validating, and unladylike in the best way. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Feb 05, 2026•28 min•Ep. 12
Why do women learn to pray politely instead of honestly? In this episode of That’s Not Very Ladylike , Tracey, former youth minister turned hormone educator, dives into how spiritual conditioning (no matter what you practice or believe) teaches women to censor pain, and what shifts when honesty replaces silence. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Jan 29, 2026•16 min•Ep. 11
Women are taught to soften big truths to stay palatable, especially around motherhood. This episode explores why maybe later feels safer than honesty, how that pressure lives in the body, and what it looks like to stop editing yourself. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Jan 22, 2026•26 min•Ep. 10
In this episode, we talk about how women are taught to override their own knowing by outsourcing decisions to experts, partners, systems, and expectations, especially when it comes to health, work, and relationships. Over time, that disconnect makes intuition feel unreliable, confusing, or quiet. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Jan 15, 2026•17 min•Ep. 9
In this episode, we unpack how downplaying our intelligence became a survival skill, how it impacts confidence, money, leadership, and what it costs women to keep shrinking their brilliance. Because playing small might look polite but it’s anything but harmless. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Jan 08, 2026•17 min•Ep. 8
This episode explores why so many women learn to soften, hint, and circle around their needs — in relationships, in healthcare, and in their own lives, instead of naming them directly. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Jan 01, 2026•15 min•Ep. 7
In this episode, we unpack why women feel responsible for other people’s comfort, how over-explaining becomes a trauma response, and what it costs your confidence, clarity, and energy. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Dec 25, 2025•20 min•Ep. 6
Ladies don’t cancel plans. Nope, they grit their teeth and go anyway. Today we talk about the hormonal, emotional, and cultural pressure to keep pushing, and why rest, rescheduling, and saying no might be the most unladylike power move there is. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Dec 18, 2025•17 min•Ep. 5
Perimenopause isn’t just stress, but women are still taught to downplay the chaos happening in their bodies. In this episode, we crack open the truth about the symptoms we’ve been taught to dismiss and why calling it what it is can change everything. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Dec 11, 2025•18 min•Ep. 4
PMS isn’t just mood swings and chocolate cravings, but a full-body experience women have been shamed into whispering about for decades. In this episode, we stop tiptoeing around that time of the month and say out loud what most women only mutter under their breath. I’m breaking down why it’s not all in your head and how to stop feeling like a monthly crime scene. Let’s talk about the thing we were never supposed to talk about. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down...
Dec 04, 2025•15 min•Ep. 3
Why do women hide their exhaustion? In this episode, we dig into the pressure to perform, the burnout it creates, and the unladylike truth about real rest. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down
Nov 27, 2025•16 min•Ep. 2
Women aren’t taught to get angry. Nope, we’re taught to swallow it, smooth it over, and smile through the burn. In this episode, we unpack what happens when all that being nice turns into jaw tension, sleep issues, hormone chaos, and full-body overwhelm. Tracey breaks down how rage is a signal and how repressing it is quietly wrecking our nervous systems, boundaries, and peace. If you’ve ever apologized for having a perfectly human reaction, this one’s for you. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbea...
Nov 20, 2025•15 min•Ep. 1
Welcome to That’s Not Very Ladylike , the podcast where Tracey Willingham also known as That Hormone Girl™ breaks the rules, the silence, and the generational expectations keeping women burnt-out and misread. Here’s a quick preview of what’s coming every Thursday.
Nov 17, 2025•1 min•Ep. 1
