As a human being, you are wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain… Seek the wanted, avoid the unwanted. This wiring governs your decisions and actions. As with anything, there are upsides to this design and downsides to this design. And one of these downsides can get in the way of life satisfaction as well as success.
What Is The "Yes Pattern" in Relationships? In this video, I want to explain to you what the yes pattern in a relationship is and how it's affecting you Humanity is in the process of learning how an individual can have themselves and be in a relationship with another person at the exact same time. At the current moment, most of humanity does not know how to do this. Many people feel like they have to choose between having their own personal truth (including thoughts, feelings, preferences, avers...
Committed to Success? Be Willing To Be Seen as Bad by Others How committed are you to success? If you want to have success it has to be ok if others see you as a bad guy. You don't have to be bad or rude. In this video I will tell you why others can see you as bad when you're committed to success.
Have you ever found yourself in a romantic relationship, friendship relationship or work-related relationship where no matter how many times you seem to find resolve in a conflict, it feels like shortly after, it goes right back to being un-resolved?
Why People Are Stuck in The Cycle of Either Complying or Rebelling Most people are stuck in a cycle of either complying or rebelling. I'll explain to you why is that and how people can fix that.
What is the purpose of life? This question has plagued people for centuries. It is the subject of religious, philosophical and cultural debate the world over. No person lives their life without asking this question at least once. When we ask this question, the first thing we are curious about is whether life (including our own individual life) is a random accident or whether life was created intentionally and therefore, has some inherent reason to exist and some intrinsic value. For this reason,...
Power is energy. It is the inherent capacity to create, direct, influence or do something so as to bring about what you want. All people desire this, regardless of whether other people are in the picture or not.
Something very important to understand about life is that it doesn’t matter how much information you have, if you don’t apply it. It doesn’t matter how much mental and emotional processing you do, if you never make a change. It doesn’t matter how much you want something, if you never take action towards what you want.
Self development - What is the transcendental power trip? When you're into self-development you should know about the transcendental power trip.
All people possess an internal guidance system. Sometimes people call it ‘the inner voice’. Sometimes people call it ‘the internal compass’. Sometimes people call it their emotional guidance system. This internal guidance system helps a person navigate life, make choices and keep heading towards their desires. But people make a faulty assumption about the internal guidance system. The faulty assumption people make is that the inner compass will always lead you to pleasure and never pain.
Follow along with this exercise, keeping in mind that it is important to try to concentrate on how you feel about what you are describing and not just on how it looks. For example, you may describe something as a certain color because it gives you a feeling of calmness. However, another person may describe a different color but say that it gives him or her a sense of calmness. In other words, though both people picture the thing differently, the interpretations of their answers are the same - th...
How Discipline Leads to Happiness - Do you want to know how discipline can lead you to happiness? In this video, I'll explain how you can achieve happiness by just being disciplined.
Are You Afraid of Desire? The Truth About Desire Are you afraid of desire in today's video I'll explain why most people are afraid of desire and what the real truth about desire is. If you want to know more about desire, keep watching this video.
To Cry or Not to Cry? When to be Emotional as a Man - Should a man be emotional? Is it ok to cry or should a man not cry at all? Society is full of mixed messages because people are full of #mixedmessages. To say that these mixed messages make it really hard to know what to do and not do, is the understatement of the century. One area in which these mixed messages create a big problem is in the #relationship between men and women. So today I’m going to sort through one such mixed message for you...
Why Love Isn't Selfless, Love is Selfish. In this video I'll explain why love is selfish and not why love isn't selfless. To generalize, wherever you go in the world, in human society selflessness is a huge value. At face value, this seems like a good thing. After all, if everyone was just running around in a self-centered way doing whatever they wanted, regardless of who it negatively impacted, social wellbeing and especially social order would be hard to maintain.
There are a few common dysfunctional relationship patterns that people slip into that if not resolved, will cause inevitable end to a relationship. One of those patterns is one that I call the “Dupe Pattern”. This pattern is particularly hard to consciously recognize, beyond the overall feeling it causes that you are somehow and suddenly in a relationship that you didn’t sign up for; perhaps the exact opposite of the relationship that you signed up for. It is this ‘Dupe Pattern’ that I’m going t...
So often, when I’m speaking about relationships between men and women, I mention the importance of a man providing ‘containment’ for the woman he is with. As it turns out, many men and women both are confused about what containment even is, much less how to provide containment for someone. For this reason, I’ve decided to write this article entirely about containment.
Relationship Advice For Women - Boost a Man's Confidence! I'll show you how you can boost a man's confidence through a simple relationship advice for women. If you want a great relationship advice and want to know how to boost a man's confidence, keep watching.
It doesn’t take a genius to look at the world today and to see just how divided people are. Relative to almost every subject, there are concrete sides. This creates a dramatic polarization. That polarization fuels division and war. Especially because so many of these polarizations that exist today are about fears, insecurities and therefore deeply held values. So, what do we do if we want unity in the world?
Why women like assholes and why are they not attracted to nice guys. Let's find out why women like assholes in this video I'll talk about the reasons why women aren't attracted to nice guys... As you know, there is a general feeling amongst both men and women that nice guys are out of luck and have to turn mean if they want a woman, because women like assholes. For those of you who don’t know English so well, an asshole is a guy who is unresponsive to the feelings and needs of others. He is inte...
Find out what gives you energy. Are you curious about how to get more energy? In this video, I'll talk specifically about the process of how you can get more energy. People feel the best when they are full of #energy. But energy is something that most people go about getting in a subconscious way. It is a rare person who asks themselves: What would GIVE me energy right now? And goes directly for that. But that is exactly what I am going to ask you to do today and this is exactly the tool I want ...
Is life about the journey or the destination? In this video we'll find out whether life is about the journey or the destination: To some degree, all people are both outcome oriented and process oriented. This means that all people are both destination and journey oriented. The question is, to what degree? Some people derive much more pleasure and energy out of achievement and some derive much more pleasure and effort out of process.
How to trust yourself and how to build self-trust. Did you ask yourself how you can trust yourself better or how to build self-trust? In this video, I'll cover how you can build self-trust.
The inner child of yours symbolizes the core of your emotional self. The raw essence and vulnerability of your personal truth.
Though building resiliency in yourself and in the sectors of your life is always a good idea, in today’s world it is absolutely critical.
It is a big mistake to think that 2021 will be a year for “getting back to the way things were.” Anyway, I want to give you some tips for 2021 to help you to get the most out of it.
Giving and receiving are a natural part of life, just like an inhale and an exhale. Both are an essential part of life satisfaction. Both are also a necessary part of relationships. But people can have a painful relationship with giving or receiving or both. A while ago, I did a video titled: How To Receive . If you feel you have trouble receiving, you will want to watch that video! Today, in this article, we’re going to talk about How To Give....
Gifts may not be your love language. It may be a love language that you struggle at. But it is an important language to develop, especially because you may just come across someone who receives love in that way. And so today, I’m going to help you with how to speak the love language of gifts.
Today, I’m going to explain to you what #enmeshment is and also the common effects that it has on a person’s life. I want you to imagine a child who is sitting at a high chair. This child is not hungry and pushes the spoon away from his mouth. His mother refuses to #acknowledge that “I’m not hungry” is the #truth for this child and so she gets angry and shoves the spoon in the child’s mouth anyway.
Orphan Complex - What a lot of people don’t realize is that the experience of #orphanhood exists as on a scale of severity.
