Today is Monday Mindset . We are going to be talking about stopping the judgment , but stopping the judgment of ourselves and of decisions that we make or feeling out of alignment , or that we've made a mistake or we're not living up to our best selves or the best version of who we are . And I want to give you an example of this .
Let's say , for instance , you , for new years , decided that you wanted to go to the gym every day , or five days a week , or four days a week , or whatever it might be , and what you find happening is you don't do that , you only go once , or you fall completely off the wagon , you don't do it at all .
Or maybe your goal is to I don't know give up sugar I have that one on top of my mind because I've given it up for 21 days and you make a mistake and you fall out of alignment and you're not living up to the best version of yourself .
And when that happens , what I invite you to do , instead of judging yourself or feeling bad about yourself , what I want you to think about is what is Going awry here , or what is coming up for me , or what might be underneath , why I'm not sticking to the commitment that I've made , why I Didn't follow through with what I said or why I made the choice that
I did . And I invite you to think about that , because Oftentimes , what we'll find is we will find an awareness of a part of who we are that we didn't have awareness of before . But this experience of making a mistake or not living up to the expectations that we had for ourselves is giving us an opportunity To actually reflect .
So , really , it's actually a blessing , and I think about this from the lens of . There is no good or bad about anything . Any situation that we are going through in terms of , you know , not living up to our best selves . There's no good or bad per se . It's all serving us in some capacity .
It's all allowing us to uncover who we are , what we really want in this life . It's all serving our greater purpose . So , instead of sitting there and judging yourself or feeling bad about yourself , instead , bring awareness to yourself , ask yourself why is this happening ? What is underneath this ? Is there's something deeper going on here .
Is this really what I actually want ? And I think sometimes what happens is when we don't live up to the expectations that we've set forth for ourselves , what we uncover is what we thought we wanted , isn't actually what we really want at all , but we had to try to go after it in In order to realize that that's not what I want .
It's sometimes trying to do something that you want and realizing you don't want it is the best way to figure out what you do Want , right . And so in instances like you know , working out or making decisions around those types of things they're all other things that play here too right there is a sense of self-worth , or do I deserve this ?
Or do I have the discipline , which is an interesting word . You know , there's so much underneath all of it . It's not just about Not living up to our expectations or making a mistake and judging ourselves for it . There are many , many , many layers Underneath the subconscious decisions that we make .
Sometimes we'll self-sabotage on purpose because we are afraid of this next version of ourselves . It's uncomfortable , and so we intentionally , on a subconscious level , screw things up or mess things up for ourselves . How many of you have had that experience ?
And most the time we don't even realize that we're doing it , until we look back and we're like , oh my gosh , that was why I was afraid of that next level . So I invite you to Think about forgiveness of yourself and not judging self from the perspective of how you would treat other people .
Right , I think that's a good barometer Of how we should treat ourselves and how we should talk to ourselves is how would we treat and talk to somebody that we love ? Because self-love is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself .
So , instead of criticizing yourself , come to yourself from a state of compassion , from a state of love , from a mindset of gratitude , of Thank you for making this mistake , or thank you for not being your best self in this instance , because it allowed me to learn something about who I am , and I don't think that there's a greater gift in the world than that .
So hopefully , that allows you to get back on track much faster when you don't meet your own expectations . So here's to another great week of living intentionally , and we'll see you guys next week on the podcast .