Monday Mindset: Judgement Will Kill Your Bravery

These are short , little snippets of thoughts , reflections that I share with you on a weekly basis , that are focused around mindset things that we can do to live our best lives , to live an intentional life , and I invite you to not just listen to these for yourself and how they apply to you and your life , but consider sharing them with other people too .

Consider sharing them with your students every Monday and having a conversation about it and doing a reflection together , because I think a lot of these thoughts , these topics , these questions are just a part of being human , and sometimes being human can feel lonely and to know that other people are struggling through some of the same challenges that you are and are

benefiting from having these types of conversations is hugely powerful in allowing us to get to be the best version of ourselves , to take who we are and who we be and who we show up in the world as to that next level . So I really hope that you enjoy these Monday Mindsets and , if you do , let us know over on our Instagram at EVacademics .

Thanks so much for listening and let's dive into our Monday Mindset . So I recently saw this quote from Brené Brown , who , if you don't follow her yet , highly suggest that you go do that said that judgment kills bravery or kills brave spaces , and I also recently saw an Instagram reel from somebody I'll have to go find it and hopefully share it with you guys .

In the description and if I can't find it I apologize when he talks about how our judgment of others actually says everything about us and our own issues that we still get to work through , and says nothing about the other person . And so I find myself .

We talked about two Monday Mindsets ago about your thoughts , positive self-talk , so go listen to that , because this is going to pertain to that we talked about , like the thoughts that we're telling ourselves , right , and we can't even be aware of our judgment of others if we're not aware of our thoughts to begin with .

So that metacognition , that awareness of our thinking , is so important to be able to do this , and then we start to judge others for whatever they're doing . I want you to catch that . What about that judgment ? Is an issue . What about that judgment ? Is that actually saying something about ?

Perhaps something about you or something that you need to work through , or a trigger for you , or something that's kind of pushing you into a place that makes you uncomfortable , and what Brené Brown was talking about of judgment killing bravery .

Well , what's interesting is we are putting these judgments on other people and we are mirroring that back to ourselves , that we are in turn going to receive judgment too . Right , so we are less likely to be brave for fear of judgment by others because we are participating ourselves in that activity .

And I just think about when we can release judgment from others and , gosh , this is hard . Oh my gosh , it's so hard for me , especially with my mom . Oh it's brutal .

But when we can really work toward that , we operate from a place of peace and we operate from a place of love of everybody and not having judgment on anybody for anything , because everyone's going through their own stuff . So are just like you are , you know .

And if we think about that projection of judgment on other people and the concern that we have about receiving that in return from others too , the likelihood of us feeling brave enough to do the thing that we want to do that scares us is not very likely .

It's only when we can really lean into love of not judging other people for anything about them , any of their things , that they do , ways that they operate in the world , that teacher down the hall who maybe does something that you don't agree with , we're judging them . Why , like , really dig into that ? And this actually happened for me the other day .

I can't remember exactly who it was , but I was listening to somebody speak and the way in which they were speaking I immediately started judging them . And because I started judging them , I stopped being able to hear what they were teaching about , something valuable , something that could have had a benefit to me in my life and my own growth .

But I didn't hear it because I placed judgment on that person first . So anything else that came out of their mouth I wasn't going to buy into , because I judged them simply based on the way in which they were speaking . And it wasn't until after I was listening to that person speak that I actually realized what I did .

And I sat back with that like what was underneath that ? Why was I judging this person ?

And I did some work with it and figured out what it was , and it , for me , was like well , what a projection of my own thoughts about myself and my issues that I was projecting onto this person in the form of judgment , and so I really want you to consider just being aware of those judgmental thoughts . Are they saying anything about you ?

Are you projecting something about yourself onto them when , if we operate from a place of love and that judgment doesn't exist , it allows us to , in turn , be brave in the pursuit of the things that we want to do in our lives , whatever that may be ?

So I hope that that serves you in some capacity and , if it does , follow us over on Instagram , send me a message , let me know that you're listening to this , that you're sharing this with your students maybe you're sharing it with a spouse or a partner or a friend or somebody else that maybe they need to hear the message about judgment too .

Right , so that we can all collectively really work together and just being mindful , right Monday mindset , being mindful of who we are and how we operate in this world , because that , at the end of the day , what actually matters to what my dog said to me , Huck , in his passing . I think I showed that in the last episode of make your life count .

Make your life count , and that does not happen by judging others .