A common human struggle is when we find ourselves in two minds about a situation or event. This most commonly happens when we are facing a choice between two (or more) options that are far from perfect. Over the course of the last number of months I have been hearing from my clients and students about a different type of "being of two minds". Instead of being caught between two options, they are caught between two emotions. In these conversations we have come to the realization that the best cou...
Nov 06, 2024•17 min•Ep. 636
Download handout: http://tappingqanda.com/ptc I love sharing tapping with new people. So much so, when the topic of tapping comes up, I will preface my enthusiasm by saying, "This is something that I am passionate about and I can go on and on about it. The moment I start to share too much, just tell me to stop!" When talking about tapping I usually list all the ways that tapping can be used: emotional first aid clearing limiting beliefs fears and phobias healing past trauma generational healing ...
Oct 30, 2024•24 min•Ep. 635
On August 1st, 2007 I posted my very first article to TappingQandA.com. The article had a very simple title "Making Tapping and EFT Routine". In the intervening years it is a topic that I continue to talk about with my students and clients because they know that their lives would be better if they tap more. Just because we know tapping is good for us doesn't mean we do it daily or when we are in emotional distress. AND what is worse, when we know how to do something and we don't do it, we end up...
Oct 23, 2024•12 min•Ep. 634
One of the subconscious resistances we have to taking care of ourselves stems from the recognition that we have it better than so many other people in the world. Because we recognize this, we may feel bad taking care of anything beyond our basic needs. This situation can be compounded when others see us as their go-to person to help them or others, and we find it hard to turn away those in difficulty. Because of this, I sometimes struggle to take sufficient time to tap for myself beyond a little...
Oct 16, 2024•15 min•Ep. 633
When I work with clients, I pay close attention to the language they use and I pay particular attention to keywords that alert me to how the subconscious mind might be informing their narrative. It is so much easier to create change and transformation with tapping if we can identify the often misguided stories driven by the subconscious mind. One of those words is "should". The word "should" comes with so much baggage. It does not just express what needs to happen, but carries with it a huge amo...
Oct 09, 2024•18 min•Ep. 632
Before we can take action aimed at improving our lives, we need to know what to do, how to do it, have access to the necessary resources, and the internal desire or reason to take action. Sometimes you might have these four elements in place and still find yourself struggling to act because you are held back by internal resistance. For as long as I have known about Carol Look and her work (which has been going on for close to two decades), she has talked about how to identify and clear this inte...
Oct 02, 2024•42 min•Ep. 631
Do you ever feel like no matter how much time you spend working on your personal growth, you’re never truly moving forward? One of the biggest challenges in creating lasting healing and transformation is the simple fact that there’s never enough time and energy to tackle it all. At any given moment, you might want to improve your health, deepen your relationships, focus on spiritual growth, sharpen your professional skills, declutter your space and, and…the list never ends. The harsh truth is th...
Sep 25, 2024•19 min•Ep. 630
No matter how much we consciously want to focus on a task, subconscious resistance can get in the way, making us distracted and unproductive. Part of us might be resisting tasks because of anxiety about the quality of what we produce, if we can get enough done, how others will receive our efforts, and whether we will be happy with the end result, to name just a few common concerns. Last week, I had a task that I needed to complete but I was aware how unsettled my mind was when I sat down to work...
Sep 18, 2024•14 min•Ep. 629
When we are working on our resistance to taking a particular action, we often end up referring to the past to see if we can identify the roots of our reluctance in not wanting to repeat past mistakes or struggles. Combing through mistakes we have made can bring up old feelings of defeat and disappointment, leaving us feeling worse than when we started tapping as we experience deep emotions about our past failings. Unfortunately, the result of this is usually that we give up on our tapping. Not o...
Sep 11, 2024•15 min•Ep. 628
When we are working on healing and creating transformation in our lives, we spend much time looking backwards. The way we understand ourselves, the world, and our place in the world is informed and created by our past, which means our limiting beliefs, insecurities, and bad habits are often rooted there too. That is why there are so many tapping tools that focus on the past, such as the movie technique, the photo technique, and the middle school playlist, to name just a few. While it can be usef...
Sep 04, 2024•17 min•Ep. 627
The Buddhist concept of the "monkey mind" describes our human tendency to get restless, distracted, or confused. For some reason, my monkey mind has been going crazy these past few weeks. I feel like I haven't been dealing with a monkey so much as a troop of them! (I just learned that a group of monkeys is called a troop!) Every fifteen or twenty minutes, I have found myself looking at social media or a news website or my inbox or an online dating app or what the weather will be like tomorrow. I...
Aug 28, 2024•12 min•Ep. 626
One of the most common forms of resistance people encounter when doing any sort of deep transformational work (tapping included) is the fear of what will be uncovered. The two most common fears are either that there will be an overwhelming number of emotions that will be difficult to handle or that a previously suppressed traumatic memory will surface. There is another version of this resistance that is less emotional and less dramatic. That is the fear that you will learn or be reminded of some...
Aug 21, 2024•12 min•Ep. 625
One of the phrases that Gary Craig used in the original EFT training videos that has stuck with me is "the comedies of our mind". When using this phrase, Gary was referring to the recurring thoughts that we had about ourselves that, when they were examined in the light of day, were seen to be comical or even farcical. For example, right before I try something hard my subconscious mind will pipe up with, "You have failed before and you are going to fail again." Unexamined, that thought could stop...
Aug 14, 2024•15 min•Ep. 624
New opportunities can be so exciting as they bring the promise of growth, change, and countless possibilities. The problem is that most of us already have full lives and we don't have the time or energy to add something new. When this happens, we have a tendency to take one of two approaches. One approach is to take the plunge in the hope that things will "just work out"...but they rarely do. We find ourselves stretched too thin and not doing anything well. The other approach is to not try at al...
Aug 07, 2024•22 min•Ep. 623
Tapping without words is one of my favorite ways to tap and I do it multiple times a day. Recently, a few of my friends from the tapping community referred to this type of tapping as "content-free tapping". When I heard this, not only did I learn a new piece of vocabulary, it actually reframed my understanding of wordless tapping. This week in the podcast I share with you my eight favorite ways to use content-free tapping. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple ...
Jul 31, 2024•22 min•Ep. 622
Maintaining high standards for ourselves is a good thing and means we have goals to shoot for and measuring sticks with which to evaluate our progress. Unfortunately, it is all too easy to fall into self-criticism and self-judgment if we fall short of these standards. So much so that it rarely feels like a choice, but the moment we fall short, the internal critical voice comes roaring forward to berate and belittle us. Even when we are critical of ourselves, we are still able to extend kindness ...
Jul 24, 2024•17 min•Ep. 621
One of the highlights of this year's 24 Hours of Tapping was the conversation that I had with Kerri Rhodes. Kerri is one of the program directors of the Helping Addicts Recover Progressively (HARP) program in the Chesterfield (VA) County Jail. The inmates use many of the tools created by the Peaceful Heart Network to create emotional healing and transformation as part of their recovery process. In addition to learning about the HARP program from Kerri, we also had the opportunity to hear from th...
Jul 17, 2024•58 min•Ep. 620
Most of the time, when we sit down to tap, we are trying to create positive change. We are trying to: Release a negative emotion and create a positive one in its place Clear resistance and limiting beliefs so that we can take consistent action Heal a past trauma or story so that our present is not haunted by our past I love every single one of these tapping outcomes! But there are times when we cannot create profound change or facilitate deep healing. Sometimes the best and healthiest course of ...
Jul 10, 2024•17 min•Ep. 619
The primary goal of our subconscious mind is to keep us safe. To do this, it is constantly learning lessons from our experience. For example, after touching a hot stove a small child quickly learns quickly not to do that again. This only becomes a problem when the subconscious mind learns the "wrong" lesson from an experience. I frequently see this come up when working with my clients around their reluctance to take action. Their resistance usually stems from one of these lessons that is neither...
Jul 03, 2024•25 min•Ep. 618
Wanting to belong is a basic human desire. For our ancestors thousands of years ago, belonging to a tribe was a matter of life and death. Without the protection of a tribe and its strength in numbers, death was a real prospect, so this desire to be accepted is part of our genetic heritage. Even today, on a subconscious level, belonging equals safety and not belonging equals death, though intellectually we know that is no longer true in most situations. We evaluate whether or not we belong in man...
Jun 26, 2024•18 min•Ep. 617
Erik Tait is a world class magician and someone I love to see perform. He has spent over two decades performing as a juggler, standup comedian, and magician. In 2020 Erik decided that he wanted to compete in the 2022 FISM, which is the world championship of magic. Even though he is comfortable on almost any stage in the world, in preparing for the competition he realized he had some deep-seated fears that were affecting his performance. His fear was so acute that it would cause his hand to shake...
Jun 19, 2024•48 min•Ep. 616
There is a natural human tendency to want to make sure everything is "exactly right" before we take action. That's because when everything is exactly right, we can be as sure as we can be of getting the results we desire. Our subconscious mind takes this idea to the extreme because its key driver is the need to keep us safe. In addition, it has a tendency to overreact when things go wrong. Here's how it goes: The subconscious wants us to be safe Any small thing that goes wrong is not only unsafe...
Jun 12, 2024•21 min•Ep. 615
One of the reasons I love art is because it gives us the ability to communicate meaning in ways that we aren't always able to do when simply talking about our lives. We have all heard the expression that "a picture is worth a thousand words", which is true, and it is so much more than just that. The genres of science fiction and fantasy offer us the opportunity to explore the human experience without the political and cultural baggage of our modern world. Recently, I have been listening to the a...
Jun 05, 2024•18 min•Ep. 615
One of the reasons I love tapping so much is that it can be used for so many types of issues. It can be used to: Provide emotional first aid Break down a limiting belief Heal a past memory Manage pain Clear a substance sensitivity For me, it is super important to know why I am tapping in each given moment. Am I simply trying to calm myself when I feel overwhelmed so I can take action OR am I dealing with emotional resistance to taking action because I fear failing at my next task? When I know wh...
May 29, 2024•24 min•Ep. 613
Late last year my friend Brad Yates reached out to see if there was some way we could use our platforms to encourage more people to tap for peace and to become more active peacemakers in the world. After a number of conversations and with help from lots of our tapping friends, we relaunched the Tapping4Peace.com website. The movement is simple. If you sign up to participate, you will receive a short email every week. The email will remind you to do some tapping for peace AND if you aren't exactl...
May 22, 2024•31 min•Ep. 612
I love the fact that tapping can be used to clear and transform so many things that are negative. It can be used to: Release a negative emotions Heal a past memory Transform a limiting belief Reduce (or even) eliminate physical pail Quiet our critical voice Did you know that in addition to being able to transform the negative it can also be used to reinforce the positive. This week in the podcast I share a simple step by step process that you can use to reinforce and enhance positive feelings an...
May 15, 2024•15 min•Ep. 611
Tapping is deceptively simple. It is so easy to teach the basics of tapping that I have done it before in under five minutes with a quick drawing on a bar napkin. But hidden behind its simplicity are the subtleties of the art of delivery. Each issue, person, and resource state can require a different approach to get the maximum effect. With this in mind, it is easy to fall prey to trying to find the exact best way to tap for an issue. Searching for the very best approach can lead us to overthink...
May 08, 2024•14 min•Ep. 610
One of the most important parts of the Tapping Action Journal is the instruction to spend time writing down notes at the end of each tapping session on what just happened. You are encouraged to write down: what surprised you what you learned any insights you gained any tailenders you unearthed Tailenders are the responses our subconscious mind gives at the tailend of a tapping phrase. For example, I could tap on "I am going to make at least five new sales this week." As soon as I tap on that phr...
May 01, 2024•20 min•Ep. 609
Something I really love about the people I work with is their tendency to see the bigger world outside of themselves. They recognize the people in their lives who are struggling and in pain, and they also want to do something about it. As wonderful as it is to want to help others, it can mean that we become known for being a helper, and the requests become increasingly frequent and demanding of our time and energy. The next thing we know, we are helping everyone else to the point that we neglect...
Apr 24, 2024•27 min•Ep. 608
For the 2024 Spring Energy Event I was asked to give a reflection on what I have learned in my personal and professional transformational journey. For me, the measure of the value of transformation is seen in how our life is different. What do we believe that is different? How do we feel that is different? In what ways are we asking in new ways? Because this has been my focus, I am supremely interested in the resistance to change. Even when we know the type of change we would like to make in our...
Apr 17, 2024•57 min•Ep. 607
