Support the podcast Recently I was listening to the actor and comedian Dan Van Kirk being interviewed on Kevin Pollak's Chat Show podcast . Dan told the story of his career path, moving from rural Illinois to LA, then to Chicago, and finally back to LA where he ultimately found success. Dan described the choices he made early in his career and why he made them: I have this thing, if it's not true north, get the arrow going that direction as much as you can. Conan O'Brien was on Charlie Rose...an...
Feb 28, 2018•14 min•Ep. 307
Support the podcast Sharing EFT/Tapping with our loved ones can be a difficult task, mostly because it is kind of weird. Talking about tapping in a way that others will listen to is a skill. This week I have a conversation with someone who has mastered this conversation. Robin Bilazarian is a licensed mental health professional who has been tapping with her clients for over 20 years. In addition to her private practice she currently works 20 hours a week serving the staff of an urban hospital. B...
Feb 21, 2018•31 min•Ep. 306
Support the podcast! As much as we would like to share tapping with our friends and family, it is not something that we can share with young children. Young children do not have the focus and ability to tap, and infants are clearly unable. This does not mean that they can't benefit from tapping because it is possible for us to tap on their behalf, which is known as “surrogate tapping”. In this conversation Dawn Pensack and I talk about the fundamentals of surrogate tapping and best ways to do it...
Feb 14, 2018•20 min•Ep. 305
Support the podcast In our modern world it is so easy to become disconnected from our bodies, especially as most of us spend our days seated at desks, rather than engaged in any kind of physical labor. When we take the time to tune into our bodies, we can access a wealth information that we can use to improve our health and wellbeing. In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we can better tune into our physical bodies, how to interpret physical sensations, and then how to respond...
Feb 07, 2018•35 min•Ep. 304
Support the podcast Recently I made a mistake and I hurt my friend "Dave". That mistake caused him a lot of trouble. In addition to being mad at me for making the mistake (which he had every right to be), Dave was also mad at me because he thought I had taken advantage of him. Because I knew him so well, he thought I’d used that knowledge against him to get what I wanted. It simply wasn't true. I had made a mistake, but I hadn't done anything malicious or intentional. Dave didn’t give me a chanc...
Jan 31, 2018•11 min•Ep. 303
Support the podcast! A few weeks ago in Podcast 299 I shared with you a simple way to use intentions at the beginning of every day as gentle way of taking more positive action throughout the day. I heard from a number of clients who tried the process and struggled to use it. One described how when she sat down to tap, she completely went blank. Not just for the tapping phrases, but she couldn't remember the type of progress she wanted to achieve. As unbelievable as it might seem, our system can ...
Jan 24, 2018•19 min•Ep. 302
Support the Podcast Sometimes we tap with the aim of just feeling better, without a clear focus for our tapping. We might feel unsettled or out of sorts, but not in a precise way. From a tapping point of view this can pose a problem because often the best results come when we are very specific about an issue. When this happens to me, I have a simple way to tap for peace, calm, and tranquility. Here is a tap-along audio that’s perfect for those times and will help bring you peace. (Full tapping s...
Jan 17, 2018•15 min•Ep. 301
Support the podcast! Quit has become a dirty word. American football coach Vince Lombardi is credited with saying that "Winners never quit and quitters never win!" Early in the movie "Molly's Game" (based on the life of Molly Bloom) there is a flashback to Molly’s childhood and a session training to be a competitive skier. After hours of training she asks her father (who is also her coach) if she can quit because she is tired. Her father replies that she can quit only after she gives him a synon...
Jan 10, 2018•14 min•Ep. 300
Support the podcast! The beginning of a new year provides a great opportunity to reset and refocus. Even though I am not the biggest fan of New Year's resolutions, I have found a way to make a small commitment to tapping each day that is making huge changes in the way that I behave and feel. In this audio I share with you how I have used tapping for a simple intention at the beginning of my day to create this change. The reason I love this process so much is because it doesn't require a complica...
Jan 03, 2018•19 min•Ep. 299
Support the podcast! Recently my friend Jake Khym was being interviewed on a podcast and he brought up the idea of "the art of love." He talked about how being loving is a not only a skill, but a skill at which we can get better. There wasn’t the time in that particular interview for him to go into detail about this idea, but I was fascinated and needed to hear more. So this week's podcast is exactly that. Jake takes the time to explain how he approaches love as a skill, the four parts of the sk...
Dec 20, 2017•42 min•Ep. 298
Support the podcast! One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to remove whatever is standing in the way of taking action towards creating the life we desire. In this conversation with my friend Kris Ferraro, we go through a simple step-by-step process she has created to help you get clarity about what you want, how to identify the emotional blocks you have to taking action, and how to tap for those blocks. Kris has also created a handout you can use to follow the process. Download it here. Inte...
Dec 13, 2017•38 min•Ep. 297
Click here to support the podcast Tapping for pain and distress is easy. You can name exactly what is wrong (the pain) and you have a clear idea of what you want (relief). Tapping to create a life that we love can be a little bit tricker because we are often unsure of exactly what we want that life to be like. My friend Gregg Levoy refers to this idea of creating the life we were made for as a calling, as if our soul is calling us towards fulfilment. Once we have a clear idea of our calling, we ...
Dec 06, 2017•48 min•Ep. 296
Support the podcast! One the main reasons that we don't do the tapping we know would be useful is that we don't know where to begin. We have a general idea that something isn't right, but we can't quite put our finger on it. When we are in this situation tapping feels like a giant waste of time. This week I have a conversation with EFT Founding Master Gwyneth Moss about what to do when we don't know what to tap on or where to start. If you follow her simple advice, you will make great progress w...
Nov 29, 2017•30 min•Ep. 295
Support the podcast by clicking here Taking action can be very difficult when we aren't exactly sure of our direction or what we think should be happening next. The problem is that it is hard to tap for clarity because we aren’t trying to remove a feeling of discomfort or a block that is in the way. We are just missing something we want. In this conversation with EFT Master Carol Look we talk about how to tap for more clarity and its power. We even do a little tapping for clarity in the intervie...
Nov 22, 2017•30 min•Ep. 294
Support the podcast! Almost daily I receive an email asking something along the lines of, "What is the best way to tap for [insert issue]?" It’s great that people are looking for the most effect ways to clear an issue, but sometimes I think this question can be problematic. In this audio I explore the question of the best way to tap. What I share here will help even the most experienced tapper to tap in a more effective way....
Nov 15, 2017•21 min•Ep. 293
Support the podcast When working with my clients one-on-one, we usually spend a lot of time tapping for the world views and beliefs that have been passed along from parents. It makes good sense that we pick up the beliefs of our parents because they are usually our closest relationships. Mark Wolynn's work looks at how we inherit our parents’ beliefs, not through the day-to-day of living with them, but genetically as a result of the trauma experienced by past generations. This idea emerged just ...
Nov 09, 2017•48 min•Ep. 292
Support the podcast! EFT and tapping are powerful tools in the face of strong emotions in the moment. It is amazing how quickly we can feel better just by tapping without words as we are experiencing difficult or overwhelming feelings. Some events are so big, however, that they bring emotions that need be dealt with both before and afterwards and for these a more strategic plan is needed. Recently, Gwenn Bonnell and her family lived through a major hurricane. Knowing that the hurricane was comin...
Nov 01, 2017•29 min•Ep. 291
Support the podcast! Back in April I talked with Dr. Peta Stapleton about the scientific research that she has done over the last decade on the efficacy of tapping. In our last interview Peta talked about how she and her team had just been given access to an fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) machine for their research. Using an fMRI machine allows them to see the impact that tapping and EFT have on the brain. In this interview we get an update on how they are using the fMRI machine, w...
Oct 25, 2017•22 min•Ep. 290
Did you know you can support the podcast to make it better? It is a little known fact that there are approximately 40,000 neurons in the human heart and around 500 million in our stomachs. Together these neurons are sometimes referred to as "little brains". The heart and stomach are connected to each other and to our brains via the vagus nerve. 80% of the information traveling on this path goes from the stomach and heart to the brain. This means that a huge amount of information comes from the n...
Oct 18, 2017•34 min•Ep. 289
My friend Pamela Bruner often says that "Small business ownership is the master's degree of personal development." The reason she says this is because when we own a business, we are constantly being pushed to do tasks that make us uncomfortable. And because we are constantly in these situations, we have many opportunities to lean head on into the underlying issues that hold us back from taking action. Pamela is a firm believer that mindset work is essential and fundamental to being successful in...
Oct 11, 2017•36 min•Ep. 288
Support the podcast! One of the phrases that my clients find hardest to use in their tapping is, "I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself". The reason they find it difficult is because it feels as if it’s giving themselves permission to do less work, not to try, or to be satisfied with something that is less than. Recently I had conversation with one of my clients who reported struggling with using that phrase, even though she recognized it would be useful. Below is the record...
Oct 04, 2017•15 min•Ep. 287
Support the podcast! Money Event! It is amazing how effective our system is at finding ways to feel better. When something is wrong (even when we aren't consciously aware of it), the system starts to take steps to feel better. The problem is that our system is geared to react with short term solutions. Its only concern is to stop the discomfort right now, so it isn't motivated to make good long term choices. For example, when I am highly stressed I start to crave ice cream (particularly cookies ...
Sep 27, 2017•32 min•Ep. 286
Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money Support the podcast! Dealing with money is a fact of life. We can't live without it. In the best of all possible worlds money would be perceived just as a tool that helps us to fulfill our daily needs. The problem is that on an emotional level we don't perceive money as simply a tool. Instead, we write stories about ourselves in terms of our relationship with money. Not having money can mean that we don’t feel worthy. If do have money, we feel like we ar...
Sep 20, 2017•41 min•Ep. 285
There is a very common struggle that caregivers have. It is that they are notoriously bad taking care of themselves. If you have been around the self-help world for any amount of time, this is not going to come as a surprise to you. What might be surprising is that one of the places that this lack of self care shows up in the way that caregivers struggle with money. In this conversation with Melissa Lester we talk about why caregivers struggle with self care and struggle with their relationships...
Sep 14, 2017•39 min•Ep. 284
Support the podcast! I might seem counter intuitive, but there are three good reasons to why our loved ones don't want us to heal and transform. This can even be true for the people in our lives who are vocally supportive of us. In most cases this lack of support from our loved ones is happening on a subconscious level. This week in the podcast I talk about the three reasons why our loved ones don't want us to change and I provide a tap along audio for each of the reasons. You can also find the ...
Sep 06, 2017•26 min•Ep. 283
Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Desire can be a double edged sword. When we want something that we don't have, but see others with it we feel left out. In some cases we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other hand we can feel bad for having desires as all. When we have desires we can beat ourselves up for being ungrateful and unappreciative for what we have. What I find most amaz...
Aug 23, 2017•19 min•Ep. 282
Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now. No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward. Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less st...
Aug 16, 2017•15 min•Ep. 281
Support the podcast! Why do you tap? It seems like such a silly question to consider. Obviously (!) we tap to make ourselves feel better, remove pain, to be healthier, and to create a more enjoyable life. I don't disagree with any of those ideas. In a global way that is why I use Emotional Freedom Techniques as well. But it doesn't get to the heart of the reason why we tap. For me, there is a simple underlying principle that informs how I understand change, where to start when working with an is...
Aug 09, 2017•19 min•Ep. 280
Support the podcast! One of the first techniques that any good tapper learns is the "movie technique". In the movie technique you replay the details of a past event in your mind, as if you are watching them in a film. As you replay the past events, the moment you get to an emotion in the memory, you stop and tap for the emotion. This is a very effective way of clearing the emotions from a past event. The problem is that there are often more emotions that need to be cleared than just the ones tha...
Jul 19, 2017•11 min•Ep. 279
Support the podcast! People with a kind heart and helping disposition are often those who have the hardest time reaching out for help. This can happen for reasons ranging from not wanting to be a burden to others, to believing that since we possess the tools of healing, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Everyone (and I mean everyone) needs help from the outside. We can't and aren't meant to go it alone. This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script for those who find it di...
Jul 12, 2017•12 min•Ep. 278
