Why Pride is so complicated for some with big business showing their support one day a year... Pride is more than just one day and Host Steve V shares what it means to him and how he'll be celebrating... Gov. from Tennessee denounces Pride plus names it Nuclear Family Month... We share our list of Top 10 films to watch this Pride season Hot Topic: Adult Star Drake Von is arrested for assault but was it a publicity stunt? Hot Topic: RHOB Kathy Hilton steps down from WEHO Pride amid alleged gay sl...
Jun 09, 2026•52 min•Ep. 766
Kodi and Teddy break down what Pride means to them Teddy recounts the history of Pride and how it is reflected in today's society The hosts discuss how they feel the community interacts in Pride celebrations Allies and how they fit into the Pride equation Hot Topic: A History of Dykes on Bikes Hot Topic: California moves to reinstate a lifeline for LGBTQ+ youth removed by Trump Hot Topic: Patagonia releases its list of demands to drop lawsuit against renown Drag Performer PAttie Gonia Hot Topic:...
Jun 04, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 765
The Hosts recall their experiences with Casual Sex and "Friends With Benefits" What does the "Casual" in Casual Sex Really Mean? Shame around wanting more from the Casual? Are you Actually "Catching Feelings"? The difference between connection and Casual Hot Topic: Taylor Brown, Trans Director of NYC LGBTQ+ Office, Responds to Killing of Eryka Caldwell Hot Topic: Wilson Cruz & Johnny Sibilly have something to say about Rami Malek going gay-for-pay again Hot Topic: Drag Race alum Honey Davenp...
May 28, 2026•59 min•Ep. 764
Viral studies/statistics about gay men having hundreds or thousands of partners have circulated for years Many are based on older convenience samples, bathhouse culture eras, or niche populations—not necessarily representative of all gay men Yet the stereotype persists because it taps into cultural fascination and fear around gay sexuality Why are people SO fascinated by gay male sexuality? Why does society obsess over gay men’s sex lives more than straight people’s? Is there still moral judgmen...
May 21, 2026•58 min•Ep. 763
When did you realize your friends became your REAL family? Did nightlife help create your chosen family? The hosts share how hookups became friends and discuss if this is a 'gay thing'... The hosts share if that have slept together before.... Friendships that have ended over the years Have we aged differently than our friends have - what's important to us could be different than our F “Which is messier?” Your ex joins the vacation? Your husband’s ex joins the vacation? Or your former threesome p...
May 19, 2026•55 min•Ep. 755
What experience changed the way you approached sex? The hosts discuss What made you realize chemistry and compatibility aren’t always the same? The hosts discuss Host Steve V shares how the BDSM culture influenced him and how it shape him sexually... Rupaul and Pedro Amoldovar have very opposing views. Rupaul philosophy is survive, protect your peace, avoid getting consumed by outrage, focus on joy/art/self-preservation while Pedro's is silence and comfort can become complicity; artists/public f...
May 14, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 761
The hosts share how f*ck buddies are easy to cultivate... The conversation switches to FWB and what are the traits that can lead to cultivating a good one... Host Steve V shares how his husband started out as a FWB but turned into a boyfriend and now husband... Host Kodi shares why he's looking for a FWB... Host Steve V shares a recent threesome with his husband and his former f*ck buddy Hot Topic: Am I supposed to tell my FWB that I'm having sex with other people? We discuss... Hot Topic: Did G...
May 12, 2026•42 min•Ep. 754
Michael Furfari of Gay Smut Club and Gay Smut Studio explains his love of 'smut' photography Michael shares why he loves polaroids What makes a good model Why the bartenders, go go boys, staff make some of the best models What was it like working with our very own Kodi A new project that involves MOMA... Michael weighs in on why so many gay guys are fed up with gay dating apps and shares a recent dating story... Hot Topic: Gay immigrant couple reunited after 150 days in ICE detention... Hot Topi...
May 07, 2026•57 min•Ep. 759
The hosts share how A.I. is useful and if they use chatbots or not... If you could would you want a 'perfect' partner that said everything you want and mirror you? The dangers of our A.I. future discussed... Are we numbing loneliness instead of solving it? Has sex become a distraction from deeper needs? Hot Topic: We review "Devil Wears Prada 2" Hot Topic: Archer, the gay app is shut down amid Sniffies getting 100 Million investment... Hot Topic: Actor Sydney James Harcourt on dating DL guys and...
May 05, 2026•48 min•Ep. 758
Part 2.5 of Gays and Travel whether we feel more adventurous sexually or not this time focusing in on Sex Tourism What is sex tourism and did an article get it wrong? Is sex tourism taking advantage of a less empowered culture? What about sliding into people's DM's when on vacation for a future hookup... Would you take a sex focused ship cruise? We talk about the launch of RU5H: https://www.ru5h.com/ New Segment: Confessions in honor of Madonna's 'Confessions 2' - the hosts share a confessional....
Apr 30, 2026•59 min•Ep. 757
There’s the version of us we talk about… and then there’s the version of us that comes out at night, on vacation, or when we think no one’s watching. Confessions = a recurring space where we say the things we usually don’t say out loud. They hosts share whether they feel more social and confident when they're on vacation The hosts share a spicy hookup story each from a past vacation... Hot Topic: Madonna's on the grid! Grindr grid that is....plus she stopped by the iconic Abbey in Weho Hot Topic...
Apr 28, 2026•53 min•Ep. 756
There’s a new study saying gay men feel hotter on vacation … and honestly… we didn’t need science to tell us that. But now we’ve got data—and it’s kind of fascinating why. And with Madonna’s ‘I Feel So Free’ —this idea of shedding identity, becoming someone new—it kind of lines up perfectly with this idea of vacation energy… Being in a new place = you’re “new” on the grid You’re not trapped in your home city’s hierarchy or typecasting Vacation hookups vs. real-life dating - the hosts discuss Hav...
Apr 23, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 749
The hosts breakdown a recent raid at a private sex space in Dallas that had the cops instilling fear tactics and making a few arrests...what really was behind this raid... What is a 'safe space' actually and how much trust do we as gay men put into these spaces? Do younger gays actually know what a raid actually looks like as opposed to our gay ancestors? The hosts share spaces they've been to where they feel safe and where they draw the line... The hosts speculate on the larger issue of what is...
Apr 21, 2026•47 min•Ep. 754
Have you ever been emotionally off… but still physically on Do you lean into sex when you're off… or avoid it? The hosts discus types of sex we have: Validation Sex, Escape Sex, Connection Sex and Chaos Sex... Dating while healing... can you date while you're working on yourself or healing? Fun Lightening Rod the hosts play about sex while working on yourself Hot Topic: Boomer Banks says that scrotox reshaped his balls for the good after an early health issue...Do bigger balls matter? Hot Topic:...
Apr 16, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 753
We talk a lot about confidence, sex, connection… but what about the days we don’t feel okay? What if growth isn’t about arriving… but about showing up anyway ? Can we be a little messy… and still be worthy of love, sex, and connection? When do you realize you're not okay mentally or emotionally? The hosts discuss... Gay culture tells us to show up perfect—hot, confident, ready for sex. But what happens when we’re not? Should you be in a relationship if you're not okay? What about sex....can sex ...
Apr 14, 2026•56 min•Ep. 752
The hosts share how their sex lives have changed or evolved over time using a backdrop of actor Rupert Everett who started having sex in his teens in the 1970's The hosts share their early years of what sex looked like post AIDS epidemic The hosts share what positions they liked when they were younger vs what they enjoy today The hosts share what's important and to them in sex today and what actually gets better with age.. Let's talk desire - what turns us on now! Quick Fire with the hosts like ...
Apr 09, 2026•59 min•Ep. 751
When your phone shows you old photos… what’s your first reaction? Do we romanticize our past selves more than they deserve? Youth obsession in gay culture (twinks → invisibility fear) Is sex tied too tightly to youth in our community? The hosts share what reinvention looks like to them... The hosts share what makes them feel sexy now... The hosts share a fun lightening rod of what would you do... Hot Topic: 17th anniversary of Grindr and gays share their most unhinged screenshots Hot Topic: DC b...
Apr 07, 2026•54 min•Ep. 750
The hosts discuss what they may be shedding this Spring...sexually, old habits and the things that don't suit us anymore. We Tried It… But Are We Still Into It? What parts of our sexuality and specific sex acts if any are we shedding and what are looking forward to trying... Sebastian shares how he's been living a celibate life for awhile but, does share a juicy 'rom-com' type of experience he had last year... Host Steve V shares how couples therapy is going to be a pro-active experience for his...
Mar 31, 2026•53 min•Ep. 748
The hosts share how and when they embraced being a 'daddy' and what it means to them Fantasy vs. reality of what it means to be a 'daddy' Power dynamics that can exist from emotional maturity to financial security... Not all age gaps are unhealthy Are you rejecting older men… or rejecting your future self? When the dynamic of 'daddy' and 'son' doesn't work...we discuss Hot Topic: A new douching system that has got the bottoms in a frenzy... Hot Topic: A Tik Toker is showing us how to to tell the...
Mar 26, 2026•55 min•Ep. 747
If you took age out of the equation… who would you choose? And when reality comes back in—age, distance, sex, expectations—what actually holds up? The hosts share their relationship age gaps Would you date differently if you didn’t know age? Do gay men actually embrace age gaps… or just sexualize them? The host discuss Would this series work for gay men? Do we have sex first and then get to know the person? What about relocating for someone...would you? Do long distance relationships really work...
Mar 24, 2026•46 min•Ep. 746
Follow Aidan Wharton on IG: @aidanwharton Aidan Wharton's Substack: https://gaybuffet.substack.com/ Aidan Wharton's Podcast: Getting Close We welcome Aidan Wharton to the show to discuss friendship, why it's harder to find true friendships that show up for us and find real connections The hosts and Aidan discuss nudes, 'close friends' on Instagram, managing them and how Aidan's nudes were stolen and the trauma it caused. We talk about the currency that gay men participate in with our nude photos...
Mar 19, 2026•53 min•Ep. 745
What is looksmaxxing? Looksmaxxing is the process of maximizing one’s physical attractiveness through various methods, ranging from improved grooming and skincare to extreme, sometimes surgical, interventions. Originating in online "incel" forums, the term gained popularity on TikTok in the 2020s, with practitioners, often young men, focusing on optimizing facial structure and aesthetics. Do gay men looksmaxx? Would you take a pill that would make you hotter and younger? Are drugs like Ozempic a...
Mar 17, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 744
The more options people have, the harder it becomes to choose. The hosts share their personal stories... What makes someone stay emotionally? What actually creates lasting connection? We discuss how gay men are redefining what relationships look like often without children and with monogamy and open relationships... We talk alignment in a relationship and even when you find a partner you need to continually align... What makes relationship material?? The hosts discuss Hot Topic: Gay men share th...
Mar 12, 2026•59 min•Ep. 743
The article suggests dating success today isn’t about perfect profiles or better apps — i t’s about authenticity, values, emotional maturity, and consistency. But do those ideas actually match how gay men really date and have sex? Do gay men actually follow this advice… or do we just hook up and hope something happens? Have you ever performed a version of yourself while dating? We discusss it easier to be authentic after you've slept with someone? Is it easier to be authentic after you've slept ...
Mar 10, 2026•46 min•Ep. 742
Mama Tits aka Brian returns to the podcast to discuss his stage 4 Prostate Cancer journey including being diagnosed just last year with no symptoms Meeting the love of his life last July and how they kept the relationship under the radar which was new for Brian... How Brian's man stuck with him even after the stage 4 diagnosis plus asked Brian to fight Getting back on stage as Mama Tits and how audiences have responded What treatment has looked like with stage 4 Prostate cancer Mama Tit's messag...
Mar 05, 2026•1 hr•Ep. 741
Has app culture conditioned us to keep looking for “better”? Have you ever felt disposable after sex? Have you ever treated someone else as disposable? Does abundance make people easier to replace emotionally? If sex is easy for some gay men then why is it so hard to find and keep a lasting healthy relationship Has sex changed for us as we've grown older? The hosts discuss Is their a middle ground of hot gay sex and true meaningful connections? Hot Topic: Connor Storrie is definitely hot right n...
Mar 03, 2026•52 min•Ep. 740
“Being gay is like turning on the sink and water just comes out.” According to a a popular influencer is that Sex is easily obtainable...is it? We discuss... Or is that something only some gay men experience? And if it is easy… why does love feel so much harder? The hosts discuss when they felt like sex was more accessible in gay spaces... Is sex built into our gay community for some of us but then is affection and love that much harder to find without any examples or tools? Do body image, age, ...
Feb 26, 2026•58 min•Ep. 739
Its vibrant LGBTQ+ culture, particularly in the Zona Romántica , has made Puerto Vallarta one of the most beloved queer travel destinations in the world. For many travelers, it’s not just vacation — it’s community, identity, chosen family, Pride celebrations, and belonging. Messages from friends and family about the fear that was instilled in PV and what's next... “What’s one moment where you felt truly seen or safe in Puerto Vallarta?” “For our listeners who travel there regularly — what draws ...
Feb 24, 2026•43 min•Ep. 738
Today marks one year of marriage for Host Steve V and Diego! Relationships are hard but what makes them last? We discuss... Relationships don’t stay still they evolve hopefully and they should evolve We pivot to dating and how hard it is to move past a first date, ghosting, compatibility and more... Hot Topic: America's Next Top Model the documentary - we break it down Hot Topic: Jeffree Star and Adult Performer Drake Von seem to suggest their working together... Hot Topic: Suing the Trump admin...
Feb 19, 2026•58 min•Ep. 737
What if falling in love didn’t start with dinner? What if it started in a club, in a blur of bodies — and still became something real? Many gay men’s relationships don’t start with courtship — they start with attraction and physical contact (e.g., hookups on Grindr, at bars, in clubs). The hosts share how they met their partners... In the movie 'Paris: 5:59' Théo and Hugo meet literally mid-sexual encounter — and from that physical meeting comes emotional curiosity. Does this mirror gay experien...
Feb 17, 2026•49 min•Ep. 736
