Amy Sedaris

Hey everybody, it's Bruce and welcome back to the table. And we are in my favorite city, New York City, at my favorite restaurant in the West Village via Coroda.

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We like Well if we do what we like, we like that, like that salad we love to catch at the pete.

You love the chicken.

Yeah, fall us in the air. There's a misty rain going on, and if you have pulled up a chair today, you're gonna laugh your ass off because we're having lunch with the funniest person I know. I mean literally, pee and my pants, funny two pizza, pizza, super talented, incredibly beautiful, super fun Amy Sedaris. So pull up a chair, grab some lunch.

And enjoy.

I'm Bruce Bozzi and this is my podcast Table for two.

Okay, Well, first of all, if you pulled up a chair today on Table for two, this has been long overdue, I mean long over and it's been a dream. And I asked Amy over the summer, and you went to LA, you were working, you were doing stuff, and we are finally here on this rainy, beautiful New York.

Three days in a row. It's like happy Bates misery weather right.

Truly, truly, but for someone who lives on the other coast most of the time, any day of the week, like you know, I opened the curtin and if it's a blizzard and Brian's home and I say, oh my god, it's a beautiful day, he goes.

You know, it could be like shitting.

And so you are having lunch with the incredibly talented and friend and fellow aries Amy Sedari.

Hey, Bruce, thanks for having me. I love your corona.

How great is this restaurant?

It's the best.

How many do you think you've been here?

Well, it's hard to get in and even though they gave it, Oh call this you know, email us if you ever.

And I'm not you know right, well, you're you're you know.

What's so interesting about you to me is you are truly an introvert. You are an introvert.

You think so I do. I think I'm a little I can be both.

But yes, you're that mix because certainly all the characters that you play, but you as a person, I don't, I think, and I find.

I'm like my dream a Genie bottle. You like to be in there.

You know what.

I went to your dream Genie Bottle once and it was the coolest.

Space on Christopher Street.

Screen, porch door, oh yeah, and all the patterns on the walls, everything, it's show you And I thought, this is magical, this land.

And I never thought someone.

Could like create their space and really be fully self actualized.

What how did that happen?

Well? You do. I mean, I've been to your apartment. It's it's so grown up. I love the way your couches were arranged, just like you can have a meeting over here here here, like laid out lot, no knick knacks. Yeah, but it's nice.

It is nice.

You get tired of it living in a busy city. You don't need all that more stuff in your house. Yes, but I got rid of I did this video for a New York magazine that came to my home, and when it aired, I watched it with a volume down and just looked at it. It was like, oh my god, it looks like a crazy person lives there. And that's what triggered me to have a big give everything to the Cure thrift store and all the money went to diabetes,

What would you say your style is.

I asked somebody once, a decorator who came into my house. He said, it's s eglectic. You know, you like you collect a lot of different stuff. Is that the right word I'm looking at.

Because it's such a a reflection of your personality, but also kind of a reflection of what I think your mind is empty?

Well, I like everything. I like everything out to have a story, like where is that from? And I got a story behind it. I don't like it when people give me stuff I don't like, especially if I don't know them. And yeah, it makes I just if I want it, I'll get it, right, I'm not I don't know a gift bag person unless it's Apple.

Yeah. Yeah, because it's truly you.

Yeah. Or I'm too lucky. I come from a talented family like Gretchen will make me my you know, paper flowers or you know everyone kind of chips and it makes you stop, David, you will do our work. His boyfriend will do art work. And so I'm pretty lucky.

That way, right, And that's all meaningful. It's family. Yeah, So let's talk about that. You come from a big family, you have brothers and sisters. Though you were born in our lovely state, you went south, right, How did all that influence you? Because like the thing like and it's so fun to.

Watch you portray all these characters because you go so deep and you really embody.

Them and they're so I'm unemployed.

Go on, you know, you things coming out.

I have something today. I know we'll go back to what you're talking about, but I have a bit. I have something today. So I got to asked. Fine is on my bucket list, which I hate the expression bucket lit. But the Simpsons. I get to do the Simpsons today at five, and I get to do the voice of Maggie. No, he's never talked, so the baby, the baby, and I have to say it's kind of like an AI episode and I have to say for four words, that's it.

So don't tell us the lines.

But kind of yeah, I don't know the work. I worked on it last night. I just worked on it all night, like yeah, but I gotta say words and hit the you know, so, it's a it's a big challenge for me. I'm going to bring my I wear a mouthguard at night, so I'm going to bring that and see if that helps me. But I'm stumped. But it's such a big it's huge.

How fun is it because you do other voiceover?

Yeah, I do a lot of voiceovers, and you're you know, you're super good at it.

It's always great to hear your voice because you also change your voice, so like it's right. How difficult is the process of looking at like matching and looking.

Well, sometimes you don't get to match anything and you're just reading it. And it's interesting because I really am a poor reader, you know, to see a word, say it, to hear it is you know when I had difficulty in school with comprehension, you know so, and I still do so A lot of times I can read, I don't know, I'll hit you No, I just hit the words.

The words, do the line reading. But then you bring what you bring?

Yeah yeah yeah, just their intention right wow? And that that helps me a lot. Like BoJack was fun because I had the character down. I knew who princess. I'd been working on that voice for a while. It's a little strisand is a little bit of Stris ends and oh your big dummy Bruces is fantastic. Oh you stupid idiot. When's the sala gonna come? You know two when two was twenty two, So she's a little bit you know. So that was fun because I felt like I could

The characters you play, because you know, like for characters that like work in grocery stores and waitresses, like are they all pulled?

But do you think that area? Like how did that area for sure.

I mean born and raised, you know, and I don't know state. Yeah, I mean I was like as a southern hospitality, entertaining the come and get it dinners. And but we came from you know, New York from when I DM went to the South, so we kind of were on a dead end kind of a little country around us. And then it turned into you know, a popular neighborhood and got more suburban. But I loved it, you know, Like then I moved to Chicago, and that was like, oh, I wonder where that taxi cabs going.

Now you you get removed because it sounds like as a kid, one of the things that you can have on that street is create a freedom Mike riding in the woods, pretend imagination.

Right, So that is so aiming.

With each other, living in your head because your parents are fighting and yeah, I mean it's same with I mean, anyone who grew up in the sixties, can you believe all the freedom chasing after bug trucks and can you believe something away within?

He's playing Spud?

Well, I mean I grew up the first early years were in Jack and Queen's on the street playing spud, you know, throwing up the ball s p U D and then everyone freezing and then you get bean by the ball.

But while cars are whizzing by you. Yeah, I can't do that.

You can't do that anymore.

It's crazy, I know. It's the wildest sort of game. You guys played like one of those memorables you.

Know always you know those big wooden they run wire around it in construction sites. It looked like gigantic spools of thread. But you can get inside. We put someone in it and push them across the horrible horrible things, no, horrible and life threatening. Yeah, getting locked out of the house all the time, so you're just like surviving, not like purposely.

Out everyone out.

We always reell that get out, did you.

You've have to say your brother.

David was the most create I mean I emulated David and he was always doing little movies and we had a fake cooking show growing up. I mean he was my play buddy. And then and Tiffany, I mean we all did. But David was like you know at the beach. She would marry these movies and we'd all perform in them. And but he was also really mean in his evil. You know what is in the will bear innis over the ravine ravine, just crazy ship. But he would He's the one who introduced me to doing character work.

Wow.

And I would imitate his characters. And you know, anything David did, I would do. And then I was really close to my younger sister Tiffany.

Yeah, no one makes me laugh like you just so you know.

Or Andy knows how to put quarters in me. He just puts them in Andy, I know what you're doing.

You guys had a dinner and he posts you. Dinny always puts you on the spot. You were like this, I was watching it from LA and you were like, no, Andy.

No, don't, don't, don't. I don't know what I was trying to get out of you, Because you know, he's the ultimate stir.

Yes, he sure is a little devil pushing buttons. He pushes buttons.

I met you. You know you have a side hustle and it's called Dusty.

Oh my Dusty Tails cupcake business. Still I need it allowance money to pay for the hay my first bunny. Yeah that was in the nineties and I decided what else am I going to do with three in the morning. So I got into making cupcakes and selling them at different cotton.

We did it for a baby shower.

Oh yeah, yeah, I'll still do it on request, not chocolate. But and I'm always like, no repeat business, cash only, and I'm not available for another six months. I mean, I always make it really hard. Now I do chocolate chip cookies and shoeboxes because I have thousands of shoeboxes and it's hard for me to get rid of a box, a good box. So now I give them away with cookies for one hundred dollars cash, no repeat business.

Thanks for joining us on table for two.

Throughout her career, Amy Sedaris has played one of a kind characters on shows like Strangers with Candy, at Home with Amy Sedaris, and The Mandalorian. I am so curious to know more about where she pulls her inspiration from.

No Strangers candy.

Jerry Blank was we could talk about her because she was I mean, Amy just did.

She's in me.

I just can't go it's gay.

You know you're gay, right.

You sent me a xerox copy of a Jerry Blink headshot and said, p on me dag.

I print them out myself when people want a headshot. It's on that Lindsay paper. It's a bad I mean, it doesn't even print well, but it's like that's all I got, you know. And I still make lighters for people. And I think it's a girl scout in me that like that transactional because.

And first of all, I think those are the best gifts because you're never going to get another one like that, and it comes from you and you're like, oh wow, this is the most unique thing.

You know.

One girl wrote me she's at her house burned down and she lost the picture of Jerry and I was like, I sent her new one, but burned all the edges to it. The characters. It's different each projects. Sometimes I have no idea until I see wardrobe and I let them like, I'll trust you if I trust the wardrobe person. I look in the mirror, I'm like, oh, I know this person, but really only have like five characters, and they just keep reinventing themselves. Okay, maybe that's why I

So, and I'm going to get to the number one on the call sheet.

That's a good name for something. It is crawl sheet.

Yeah, that's a good uh memoir title.

Yeah, number one, number twelve.

Number sixteen thousand, girl scout you Yes, it's like in your blood?

How did that begin? And like you. I mean most people like in their middle school years. Leave. You stayed senior year.

And when I moved to New York City, I went to the HQ headquarters on twenty third Street and I said, listen, I have been a girl scout my whole life. There are two badges I didn't get, Sign of the Star and Sign of the Era. They're the most important ones.

Really, why did you get them? What does you have to It's just.

Then explained to you. Right, I got all the other ones, but it's like they were just like the big, the major ones, and probably low self esteem or something. So I said, clearly, I've done all this stuff. I brought my book, I went through all the stuff I had to do to earn it. So they mailed them to me. So I have them now. And I'm a horrible at auditioning something to try to get it. It's not my you know, So no, I can't remember less of my auditioned.

You have to repeat first grade?

I repeated first Gray Bruce, That's where everything started. Like that sucked. That sucked. All my friends would a hand of me. It was a failure. I mean it was like so my second first grade teacher was a big inspiration to me, and she wore the best high heels and that's how my obsession with high heels started. All I would do was look at her feet every day.

Really yeah, when I met you.

One of the early memories I have of you is out when you were visiting Andy and I was in the house share at the time and summertime, and we were all hanging out and the tam I know you, let me tell you, like gorgeous and the hair blonde.

From the summer sparkle. It was like a movie star laying there, you know, talking And it.

Never wore sun block. I will know why used that number two number four. They don't make it anymore. Vacation makes a version of it. Wow, but it's not anymore, do you know? And I wear sunscreen now.

I mean, if you wanted a tan, you would just put make up.

Farmers can't walking around right, yeah, you know, but I don't know why I didn't get sunspots on my face, my aunt. My legs are shot, but not my arms in my face, and I don't know why? Is it weird?

Well, thankfully?

And also my first prescription was when I was ten. I went to the germatologists and he wrote on his pad that I had dry skin and to use Jurgons lotion. And I'll never I felt so special. I had a script, you know, and I stared at it and that's when I became obsessed with lotion. Really, I'm a lotion theme constantly because he told me to apply it. And I still have a Jurgon's bottle and I think the headquarters is in Cincinnati. But again, I'm like, why can't I

Yeah? What were the shows growing up that you watched? That infant?

Like, were you I dream a Jenie loved I dream Jamie costumes and the wigs, and you know, I think that's started. I mean I watched se TV PTL Club with Tammy Faye Baker. She was a good character for me to imitate. And I got a big kick out of Carol Burnette show. You know, the Brady Bunch. We thought they were so queer. All of us were like, oh my, you know, we kind of made fun of

No, it's never a were you like, were you guys Saturday morning TV? Like until in the news? Can?

We watched TV all the time? You know, yeah, are you kidding me?

Saturday mornings you'd watch TV and then when the cartoons and stuff ended, it would be like in the news and it was his and you were like, it was noon, You've been watching TV for six hours.

Elvin and the Chipmunks was my voice as far as voice voices go. I mean that people always say who do you want to meet, you know, dead or alive. I'm like, Elvin and the Chipmunks, you're kidding me? I was like, I love them. Ernie Kovacs, you know, you know, he was really big into props and stuff, and I liked uh, Jonathan Winters, you know, Peter Sellers Older.

They were all I can see all those in you.

But s C TV was a big because I'm like, the set design was interesting to me because I got the impression they just made it like doors would swing open by accident. The Dracula show, what was that? What was soap opera but with all vampires.

Dark Knight, Dark Shadow, Dark Shadows. Yes, yeah, oh so what what soaps? Did I watch? Soaps? Did you watch soaps?

Yeah? Secret Storm was a big one.

I don't don't know that one. Secret Storm.

Yeah, that was the when my mom watched Secret Secret Storm. Great name opened up with waves crashing against a rock, edge of Knight, Edge and Night.

Yes, that was ye thirty minute one.

That was good. She watched that one too.

Yeah, No, I was all, I mean, it's like, what did we do? We watched TV TV.

That's why we're a cool genuary. And it's like, you know, people say, if you watch Instagram, like they're like to these kids now, they're like, we were kicked out of our house. We were told like come back, when the sun comes down, like, I don't want to drink if you want to.

My mother would be like we'd.

Go swimming and it would be like a really hot day. She wouldn't want to do laundry, so she said, you don't need towels.

Just stay outside. The sun will dry, like mom, like a freezing just stay outside.

I mean she takes you to the pool and wear's you out right exactly. Yeah, that's what we did. We were all on the swim team.

Yeah, yeah, but it was good.

That was but we watched TV, but we did have that time to play and use your imagination. Playing House was my favorite. So Publa, you make the fake liquor and you would die.

And write costumes? Were you more Ardreamagenie or Bewitched?

I dream a Jinie, but I love Bewitch.

I loved Aunt Clara right, And I was going to say, so Aunt Clara was your favorite?

What were you know? Were you more Dreamaginie or her evil sister?

Oh? I liked him, but I loved it when they I wanted to do that on Strangers. I wanted Jerry to have a cool aunt, but it would be made up with the brunette. You know, we forgot to it. You did it.

I was watching a scene you did.

You played six characters, but the camera was going like boom boom, boom boom.

One at home with Amy Sinaris exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean that's all. Then I realized, oh, I have to memorize both sides of the script. But then I had a teleprompter that helped. Especially the second and third season. I really used it a lot because it was like, I can't do this, you know. Yeah, that was and I wish they all got paid separately.

Would have been nice.

We saved a lot of money with me doing all those parts.

You know, of course, you know you're a businessman. I didn't think about that.

Yeah right.

It's like very entertaining for the viewer realizing, you know, one person's doing.

All the work.

Want to work, I mean, I don't want to sit in my room and wait for a scene to be over, you know what I mean.

It's so okay, let's talk about being number one on the call sheet.

What do you think keeps you from because there's no reason that someone hasn't developed a show that is you.

You're the full on star of the show.

So I mean, maybe I stand in my own way. I mean, I do have an idea for a show, but now it's not the time to go out and pitch it is.

It's a little rough.

I HiT's rough, and I don't want to I would hate to do that, and then nobody takes it, and it's that show you a back burner, which is what I was really gonna call my show the back burner with Amy Sins, but you know I don't, so then I'm like, well, I can't do that, you know, I don't know. I just like to think about things for a long time. I know it sounds like a stoner mentality, but I got it. It's like a stew you got

Take to percolate, to come to life, and then of course to get the funding or the permission, because you're constantly asking.

For because you want to think of everything. You don't want someone to suggest that you haven't thought of. I'm always like, that's how I get it when it's a personal project. But that can slow things down and prevent me from moving forward.

Have you seen something recently that you were like, wow, that really can't you know? I never thought about that like or.

Like that kind of I did think, I haven't seen it yet, that show Chaos. But I did have that idea. But why hasn't anyone done a modern day Greek the Greek gods, but play them like contemporary character. I did think of that, and then I heard there's a show. I was like, oh, that's funny. I thought about that idea, but I didn't. I just thought, why doesn't somebody do it?

Like?

I didn't think, oh, I'll do it.

See, well that's yeah. Yeah, we all get in our own way, most of us do. I mean some of us don't. Like they're just have a million things going on for some reason. I mean I get stuck.

Yeah, I get stuck. I need someone to work with. Yeah, and if the people that I trust, you know, they're all working on other jobs and it's.

Harder for me. You have Okay, So you had great partnerships with.

Colbert and Danello. Yeah, and Paul and I still will work and he helped me with at home with Amy Sedaris, or if I have an idea or need help. You know, he's still there for me, right, So at.

Home with Amy Sedaris. That's is that that's shot in the studio.

That's not Yeah, that's why people like being a guest. It's like, we'll get you in out, you know, yeah, you know everything. We never left the studio and that's all.

So was the genesis of the books.

Yeah. I did the books first, and that way I could slide the books across the table and say, this is what the show is.

You know.

So everyone was like, what do you mean what visually? What does it look like? And You're just like, this is what it looks like. And then they would understand, Oh, okay, So.

I mean you like every time, I mean, you work so much.

People say I do, but I'm always like I don't work enough. I'm always like, oh, I want a job. I want to work because I feel like I'm like I was a waitress and I worked in grocery stores and I always had three jobs you know when you're younger. And once I got into acting, if whatever you want to performing, that's when I felt like I got lazy, Like I felt like I was always hustling, always making money,

Like was the skirt short in that?

Yeah, back in the day. Always yeah. I love a uniform. I stole my red Lobster uniform, my name tags, and my wind Dixie uniform Girl Scout uniforms. I just love a uniform. Job.

I stole my NBC page uniform. Oh I supposed to turn it back in and I had, like I literally on a hangar.

Have the jacket, the pins from nineteen eighty nine, the the tie, the short, the pants.

That's fantastic it We're gonna have it.

I love it. You stole these well.

I save stuff so much because I'm like, oh, if I do a show, like a lot of the stuff on at home was a lot of my own stuff, and I bring in racks and be like put these on people who background or guest stars, or my own shoes and props, and I always think, you know, I'm gonna need them. But you know, I'd love to own my own prop shop. I've talked about that for a long time because there's not that many in New York or costume places anymore.

Really are That's a great idea, I know it. Really.

There's Alias which is great right here, and I'll bring clothes there sometimes, but I'm always jealous when I go there, I'm like, why isn't this my place?

Well there you go like, that's like and that's part of the whole package because you could still work.

Yeah, you still have you know your shop and you do that. You own real estate. Right, I'm working this out. Welcome back to Table for two.

We've been having an amazing lunch with our guest, Amy Sedaris.

While our meal has.

Been delicious, Amy has also recently discovered a new love for a certain type of candy.

I ate so much bonbon candy. So I went on a one day like how much a one day fast? Yesterday?

You did like a full fast? No?

I do that prolonged fast. You can do one for one day or five day. I really like it, just a reset, that's all. You still eat on it.

It's like eating or drinking.

It's eating like they make soup pack. It's just like astronaut food. It's like, but at least I can. I'm disciplined and I do it break. It gives you a break.

I like that. But I just.

W it ate so much candy and I felt disgusting and I have a headache from it and I can't even believe I'm eating that much candy.

Well, Amy, this is how I feel like my Like I was the type of kid that I got, like the big massive Twizzlers bag or like the big Dots Member Dots and I'd say, like someone be like, oh, I go, would you want one? And they'd be like, oh, maybe later, and I'd say very clearly there won't be a later, like I will eat the whole box.

Yeah.

So I really had to like work on not having one because it would how many is a lot?

And like what got you to have the first one?

Well, I was hanging out my apartment and my friend Adam Salmon was visiting and we had some people over and they both brought bags of bombon chick candy, and I was like, I can't believe you guys eat that stuff. Like I never got into gummies and the fish and the iron, was like, how can you just eat it? And then one night I was high and I was hanging out with some friends and that bomb bomb was in my apartment and I started eating. I was like, oh my god, this is what you guys have been

Load up my lunch box really with candy.

And Maritina cherries. I had cavity in every tube and I felt, oh my god, I'm back to it, right.

Yeah, it really is interesting.

It's like, it's an interesting question you're posing, is acknowledging you have a problem.

You have a problem, and how am I going to quit this? Because bombomb bomb? So yesterday did you get stoned? Are we you're hanging out?

It's just no, I had n't brought in air. I went there to get some bond bonds for my godson's birthday. He likes these sweet and sour ones. I was great. I don't like sweet and sour, so I walk there and back. That's a good. Yeah. And then I got a few marshmallow jelly ones on the way home and I ate half the bag and then I gave the rest of my dorman and they gave it to their kids.

That's the only way to like, you have to get them out of the house.

So like, so you have none right now in the house.

I do, ah, because I ordered some through the mail and I saw before I came down here there it was. But I don't eat.

Candy anymore, So you don't eat candy except for that.

No, No, I'm now not anymore. That's my attitude, just like I don't eat candy anymore. So I'll bring that up to maple.

When I write, sometimes it takes a very specific mindset. I had to do that with cigarettes.

Oh, I tried, I tried, I tried, I tried, and then one day I said, you don't smoke anymore, and I never smoked.

The air.

Wow, it's pretty good.

At some point in my.

Thirty late thirties, like mid thirties, thirties, and then when I did, I had one years later it was most disgusting.

Thing.

What I'm trying to do with alcohol now is the same thing, like, which is just stop, like like.

Really just do it. It's occasion, occasion having a glass of wine. It's hard. You have to really change. But once you change your mindset, you're able to do it.

Well, we'll see. I mean, I tried and then I failed.

So yesterday it was rough.

Yesterday was easy because I fasted all day. The day before was tough and the weather didn't help and it was just but I did walk four miles to get it. I mean.

But still, well, that's always I think a very good thing too.

So when I find like I eat something that's really horrible and I feel it, I walk and I just count myself and I.

Walk because you're in your skin is when you got it all.

Yeah, you gotta get it terrible. But yeah, but you got to move it out because that helps move it out too. Yeah, you know what I mean, you gotta it's tough.

I mean the sugar. It's not like Mike doesn't stay in your tongue if you spit out. It's not pink. It's not it's sweetish candy. It's something better about it. It's just it's just so fucking good.

Oh it's good. That's Swedish candy. I know exactly what you're talking.

Pretty pink bag.

Yeah, they have it in on Avacinnie out in Venice.

But I like the way people carry it around and that the way the people look into the bag is a good visual, Like you don't just reach in and you know, you were like, you look and you're choosy, and then you pick the pink marshmallow woman and you I like the whole way. I like the way it looks.

I do too.

And recently we were at that place in California and I got and I was like, oh, let's all get our bags.

And my bag was gone.

Within minutes because I couldn't pick one or two and then put it the bag away to save for later. They all had to be consumed before we were about to have dinner, which was going to be pizza and pasta.

So I was like, I don't is it used to be.

When people say what are your favorite moments? Used to be your business class or first class on American airlines? Watching a cult movie, you know, like a spiritual cult what's uh?

Like?

What's his name?

You made?

You drink the kool aid? Like you mean the real Yeah, yeah, yeah, Jim Jones, Jim John and eating one of their Sundays at the same time, five episodes on the way to La hate that flight. Now it's bonbon candy in bed, massaging Tina and watching Belmont. I mean, who want you wouldn't want that life? And I thought this just got replaced and eating candy, massaging Tina and watching.

Them right, Like, that's a perfect I feel like if you have the ability just to have the self control, that's a nice, enjoyable thing. You're alive. We should be that. It's why I don't want to give up alcohol completely. I want to enjoy the glass of red wine. I want to enjoy the margarite foundries. Yeah, I just don't need to have it every day.

Right, you do feel it? The older you get of wine, Yeah, because.

That's what happens, because you get the tolerance whatever, feeling of relaxation, s like the you know, the bombs you start you so, I don't know, we're alive, I know.

But the older you get, like I felt it the next day and I felt it, you know, you get the sugar crash. I don't take naps. Impossible for me to take a nap.

My eyes open at four o'clock.

Well, I fell asleep and it was from the sugar.

What has been the most challenging time in your life would you say, because.

Like I know, like first grade, Well, when you lose somebody, when my mom died and then when my sister died. You know, losing a sibling is so different than losing a parent. Then you divide people up in the world. You're like, oh, you haven't lost a parent yet, you get on that side of the street because you don't like the way you see things after that with loss is uh? Is that that's hard for me to lose people, to lose pets, to lose things I love, lose his

Yeah, it's interesting you say that with the parent.

I haven't lost a parent, and I'm very fearful of that. And I understand because I have many of my friends have lost parents. Yeah, I a parent or both parents, and I do know that's a life defining moment.

But my death, you've probably dealt with a lot with it, you know.

Well I was so I did, Like, you know, I was that generation of young men that were like I wasn't you know there were no fifty year olds when I was.

You know, they were all you know, that generation was going right, But I was living in the fear of and we were all like existing within it.

And yes I saw people, but I think, you know, I have have loss in my life, but I think the it's.

Interesting how you phrase that, like, oh, like okay, you're.

On that side of the stream, Like that's how I felt that, you know, but it makes complete sense.

Like you don't know it until you experience.

And then you have empathies for other people. Because when Cole lost his brother this year, I mean, I didn't know how to word it, but it's like it's so hard to say it's a gift, but it's like, what you're gonna learn from this? You know now that changes who you are now and how you see other people. Yeah, it's just such a strong So I'd say that's what I struggle with the most. That's losing yeah people, and I can't imagine or you get your friends start going yeah,

Yeah, but it also like and like you're sixty three, I'll be fifty nine, so we're like in the same boat.

It's jarring to me sometimes to say my age when people ask me, I don't feel it.

And I I just don't put an age with you. You know what I mean. You don't seem like you're any age. You just age. Yeah, you know what I mean. I wouldn't think, well, how old is that? You just look fantastic you always have. First time I met you, you had a full face of makeup. True. I was like, Andy, who's your girlfriend? That's Bruce.

Amy my name right, the first time.

My name like that, We're gonna still pick this is good because it's because he talked about you so much and you were best friends. So that's when I was like, who is this Bruce and why do I bo why does he bother me?

And then yell that makeup on why did I have to make it?

I think it was around New Year's Oh yeah, it was a New Year's party Sarahead Restaurant. Yeah, I mean Sarah gets us together. She's just really nice. One wants a party for their big and she's so good camaraderie. She brings people together.

Yeah, I'm super so excited and happy for you for this afternoon. I think that's me too. That's the news.

I just want to it's not in my little prepertoire. I don't know if I'm going to do it, and I don't think. I don't know if I'm going to do a good enough job because of it. I don't know what a baby voice is.

But I think you'll figure it out in the process, as you're saying, I think you will. I mean, look, there's nothing that would show that would say not to the pressure and make you be nervous about it. That the body of work, the talent, the years.

See It's like, it's like, what brings us together today to me is everything we've done. One thing veers off. We're not sitting at this table today like and Norman Lear said that to me when he invited me on his podcast, which I was like, oh wow wow, But he really wanted to ultimately talk about me being part of the Palm and the allian and being gay. He really wanted to understand thank you. And it was like, oh wow, I get it.

He has a double scotch.

Oh this is I like the tall glass.

Look at the hearts, They're so pretty.

So I really do feel and I share that because I think this afternoon, when you find yourself in the booth, everything that you've done in your life brings forth the creativity that will you'll find that.

Well, as long as I'm in the moment, nothing's better than being in the moment. And you know, when you're in the moment, or you know when there's a split second surprise and you know in your own life and you are forced to be in the moment, you're like, shit, that's the moment. Like can you believe how deep and

You're just like.

You're in the moment. Like the best moment I had was playing a donkey in this play that David and I wrote, Call and I was car all the donkey and over sex donkey, and we rehearsed all week. We did it all but not until it was opening night and there was an audience. He came alive. The donkey came alive in me, and I was like, holy shit,

Yeah, that's funny.

It's funny too, like with being the donkey, the over sexualized, Like yeah, it really when it's like happening is when.

Oh my god, nothing's better. It comes out yeah, I didn't know that was what Colin was. Well, I'm hoping that will happen in the booth. I'm just going to be a baby.

Yeah, a baby. I mean you can practice all like what you think babies are, but you're just I did a baby. You're the baby.

The baby.

Whatever the baby is in you is gonna be the baby.

Yeah, you know.

Yeah.

Any as we drink our cappuccinos and everyone who's pulled up a chair today, I want to see it.

Finally, you got to do this. You are one of the most special people I feel, and I really do feel honored that that I'm a friend.

I didn't I didn't regret it. I didn't like I gotta do that. It was like, never had that feeling. So that's off to us, right, Cheers, cheers, Thank.

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