April 6, 2025. Welcome everybody to the Women and Money podcast as well as everybody smart enough to listen. Suze O here. Now, I am actually recording this on April 2nd. And that is because we needed to leave to go somewhere on April 3rd. All right. I want you to listen to me today and take out your little Suze notebooks. Where are KT and I going? A few days ago I got a text from my nephew, telling me that his son was killed in a motorcycle accident.
And how broken he is and how he would trade his life if he could to have his son alive again and how he just doesn't understand how this possibly could have happened. Aaron Orman, known also as the Dude, was only 24 years of age. So while you're hearing this, KT and I are with Travis Orman. Both my nephews are Travis. Travis Race, on KT's side and on my side, Travis Orman, and we are with him because all he wanted from me was a hug. And a hug sometimes can be worth everything.
So I'm sure by now I am hugging him many, many times over, but as I've been thinking about this the past few hours, I've been thinking about what is not replaceable, and this is where I want you to get out your Suze notebooks as I already asked you to do. I want you to write down everything in your life that if you lost it, you seriously could not replace it. Now I get that if you lose your house. It's possible for you to replace it with another house somewhere else, so that doesn't qualify.
You lose your car. It is possible for you to get another car. And replace it, so that doesn't count. What is truly not replaceable in your life. Are you writing it down? And I know as you're thinking about this and you're writing things down. Probably you are writing down the names of people. Relatives loved ones. That really are not replaceable no matter what. And then when you're finished with that, if you go to the next column on the other side.
And put down all the things that are replaceable. And that you fret about so much of the time. All of you write me about, oh Suze, I've lost money in the stock market. And actually you haven't lost money in the stock market, you've lost your gains in the stock market if you bought at the right time. Suze, I've lost my home. Suze, I've lost this. I've lost that. I want you to really, really ask yourself.
All the things that you have lost, and I'm not saying that those are not incredible tragedies. But I think it's important. In life that we always keep everything in perspective. Everything Just think about that for a second. Because when you know that you've lost something. But yet you do have the ability through either hard work or through whatever it may be to eventually replace and go on. Then you can't lose your energy, your courage, your determination
to rebuild the life that you once had. Maybe it won't be in the exact same place that you were living, but you can rebuild a life that you learn to love again. What struck me from Travis talking to me, I said, Travis, how are you doing? He kept saying, I'm broken. I'm broken, Aunt Suze. And I said, well, how's your daughter Amanda doing? And he said she lost her best friend. Erin was her best friend, and she's broken, but he kept using the word broken over and over and over again.
And it's true. I'll never be able to fix it. I'm not sure if he'll ever be able to understand it. Life sometimes deals us lessons that we're never able to understand. But it does deal us lessons that eventually we just have to accept and go on. However, there's a big difference between being broken because you've lost something that is not replaceable and something that is. And so today's podcast is going to be very short but I hope very profound.
Because things actually happen in life, they do happen. And when they happen, it puts everything in perspective. It puts everything into this like picture frame of what is really clear and what isn't. And my wish for all of you is that you live your life that way every day. You don't wait until something happens that snaps you into reality of what's really important. You don't spend all your energy festering on all the problems that can be solved.
You don't waste your time going, what am I gonna do? What am I gonna do? Oh my God, I'm afraid Social Security tariffs, all of these things, you take action. The actions that I talked about in last Sunday's podcast. So you do something. And when you can do something to solve it. To make something that is replaceable replaced. Then all of a sudden it's not so hard. So I just wanted to say all of that to all of you today and why we are doing these podcasts early. And just to know I love you all.
And bottom line, it was so right for us to go. It was so right. And I know if I could be talking to you, given the fact that I am there right now, I would be saying to you, not only was it so right, but it was so necessary. We will be back on Thursday, so until then there's only one thing that I want you to remember when it comes to your money, and it is this. People first, everybody, people first, then money, then things. Now you stay safe and strong.