Listener question: people pleasing

Listener question: 
I wonder if you could consider the following for a Listener Question on your podcasts?

I realise virtually my whole life I have been a people pleaser. A learnt and essential approach growing up in my family. I can now see the destructive nature of being this way.  I seem to follow a cycle of     People Pleasing  > Rejection > Victim > People Pleasing etc etc.  How do I break this cycle and how do I simply be me?

I would sincerely appreciate a little guidance with this Clare.