Listener question: can we choose the pattern?

Listener question: My therapist said that going down the rabbit hole of emotional suffering is a choice. It was said that we have a choice when we notice the unhelpful conditioned pattern kick in and we can access more supportive inner patterns within us. But I recall you saying that we don’t have a Choice? Im confused and don’t know what to trust anyway. Or is my mind using doubt as another destructive tool?