Gaslighting and ghosting: listener question

My sister has recently 'gaslit' me more than once and has now 'ghosted' me.  She did pull me in originally ... until I stepped back and realised.

But now there's silence because she won't talk to me, saying it stresses her out.

So I feel stuck.  Yes, I did want something from this other person - and now I must not.  

Am I looking for where "I am" doing this (or have done this) in some area of my life please?