Listener question: I have a question, on behalf of my wife. She suffers from severe chronic pain. I would like to read her some of your writing, probably starting with SANE. However, to her, the idea that she should look on these intolerable conditions or circumstances as just part of the content of life, or as something to be accepted as just part of the Present, is insulting and like a slap in the face. It is hard, maybe impossible, for her to NOT believe in the reality of the constant pain wi...
Nov 19, 2020•8 min
Listener question: When you experience that awakening and realisation, how do you know the awakening and realisation, that feeling of total awareness and love, are not just more products of conditioning? How does anyone know that you are not just thinking and believing this is the reality of love and awakening?
Nov 18, 2020•10 min
Listener question: Staying with the contraction, not running away from it, we do get info. But how to interpret the info if the only reference point you are aware of is in the story you have lived? If life tells me to go right I will gladly go right. But isn’t my interpretation of what life is telling me always based upon good and/or bad within the story? Maybe even creating a new one as I sometimes see happening ( “God spoke to me and he wants me to……..(fill in whatever you want)..because I am ...
Nov 17, 2020•10 min
Listener question: I have a question which relates to teenage children and my developing understanding around this conversation. As a parent I’ve loved, supported and guided my children on their path to become independent young people. When they behave in a way which goes against my own values, beliefs, and rules for living, I find myself in a state of suffering. I’m beginning to see that this suffering is caused by my own need to feel in control in order that my ‘self’ feels stable. I guess you...
Nov 16, 2020•13 min
Exploring how often, the asking is reinforcing the apparent reality in which the self cannot get what it wants.
Nov 15, 2020•14 min
Exploring the impossibility of a self existing separately from the body, mind or environment.
Nov 14, 2020•11 min
How can there be no such thing as rejection?
Nov 13, 2020•13 min
Exploring how the physical rules of how form works are generally reliable while the 'rules' of the self are not
Nov 12, 2020•12 min
Listener question: What am I?
Nov 11, 2020•10 min
Listener question: I've just finished reading 'Sane'. A challenging read for me to stick with if I'm being honest. I found myself constantly wanting to run ahead to the 'how to' section. I realise from my other reading in 'the conversation' that's it's not about the how-to. What I took away from the book, and I hope this was the point you were trying to get across, is that it's not about the beliefs that I hold about myself (I), but that the 'I' itself is just a set of beliefs. Correct? So the q...
Nov 10, 2020•13 min
Listener question: how do self fulfilling prophecies relate to this understanding?
Nov 09, 2020•13 min
Exploring why the understanding that Trump is a concept created by the mind can enable us to be and do what it is we demand of him (or any one else we have a reaction to).
Nov 08, 2020•14 min
Exploring what drives behaviour. As the self identity is transcended, the need to 'be someone' falls away leaving just the pure dynamic passion of life in form.
Nov 07, 2020•10 min
Exploring how behaviour is not controlled by a separate self, but it revelatory about what that self is believed to be or need.
Nov 06, 2020•11 min
Exploring how that thought - and the one underneath it - 'this should not be happening to me' are what fixes an apparent reality in place for the duration of that resistance.
Nov 05, 2020•9 min
Exploring Paul Hedderman's term 'selfing'
Nov 04, 2020•8 min
Exploring the two main differences between escapism and transcendence
Nov 03, 2020•14 min
Listener question: How would you explain non duality / spirituality to a ten year old?
Nov 02, 2020•8 min
Looking at Gangaji's words: We have tried everything to get rid of suffering. We have gone everywhere to get rid of suffering. We have bought everything to get rid of it. We have ingested everything to get rid of it. Finally, when one has tried enough, there arises the possibility of spiritual maturity with the willingness to stop the futile attempt to get rid of it and, instead, to actually experience suffering. In that momentous instant, there is the realization of that which is beyond sufferi...
Nov 01, 2020•7 min
Looking at Unmani's words: " Recognising who you really are, will destroy you and your whole life as you know it."
Oct 31, 2020•8 min
Looking at Alan Watt's words: " This image of yourself is obviously not real. Any more than the idea of a tree is a tree. Any more than you can get wet in the word ‘water’."
Oct 30, 2020•8 min
Looking at Tony Parsons' words, " Being is totally whole just being. And it is alive and fleshy and sexy and juicy and immediately this; it’s not some concept about ‘there’s no-one here’. It’s not some concept about ‘there’s nowhere to go’. It’s the aliveness that’s in that body right now. There is pure beingness, pure aliveness."
Oct 29, 2020•6 min
Looking at the quote from Deepak Chopra " The real you is a field of intelligence in which the person you have identified yourself with, all other persons, as well as the environment in which they exist, all co-arise and co-evolve as a result of your own self-interactions."
Oct 28, 2020•7 min
Continuing a conversation from a webinar yesterday about what happens when it is realised that reality is a hall of mirrors
Oct 27, 2020•7 min
Listener question: Can you explain the film metaphor?
Oct 26, 2020•10 min
Listener question: Clare, I have three of your books, I listen to your podcasts and I have watched some of your videos. Yet I cannot work out how to live a life that is not dominated by negative thinking, anxiety and occasional panic... ....these thoughts were like the straw that broke the camel’s back with all the other shit in my life. I’m waiting for an appointment with a consultant. So I don’t feel well. I feel shit actually. I need to decorate some of my house but don’t feel well enough. I ...
Oct 25, 2020•14 min
Exploring how this expression can add to the confusion or take it away
Oct 24, 2020•5 min
Question: If reality is made of thought then how do I change it?
Oct 23, 2020•11 min
Exploring how it is what it is... and it also isn't...
Oct 22, 2020•8 min
Exploring the circuit breakers of mental suffering and how they can never be the ultimate solution.
Oct 21, 2020•9 min
