feeling emotions creating more separation: listener question

Can you please speak about feeling emotions and sensations in the body. I've heard you talk about the need to feel difficult sensations fully but for me this sometimes seems to solidify the sense of self, the idea that there is a 'me' who is deliberately choosing to feel this thing which is separate to me. Could you perhaps talk through what's happening when you allow a sensation to unfold? I realize this can be hard - maybe impossible - to put into words though.