Conditioning and parents : listener question

Something became clearer this morning when I awoke.  It was that there are no "them" that condition us. I used to think that my parents did most of my early conditioning but of course they didn't.  This body/mind does/creates the conditions - yes, based on its environment, but the actual "data" it absorbs is its own. This was a Wow.  

I thought that if they had conditioned me then the same would be true for my children and I had felt guilty.  But just as I had no control over my parenting, I/they had no control over what was accepted as true.

Your thoughts would be great