Transformation through Service with Isaias Coppiano

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And you're like, Oh, how do I leverage this to rob an excuse to inspire somebody like BJ's interview last week, he saved it for the end. Like, Hey, fuck all of you. I have all your excuses. I had this guy, um, he's on Facebook and he posted something about how he was just hurting, you know, and I don't even know him. I don't even remember how he's my friend, but I sent him, you know, I can't help it, right?

I just sent him some love and I gave him that perspective and, uh, he sends me this message and he's just like, holy shit, like, thank you. Like, I, I know how to, I know what to do now, cause he was stuck, you know? He was stuck in that thought process of woe is me, or I'm unique in this, or this happened to me, and I, I hate everybody, and just one audio text, cause we talk about it so much, you know? You can make it real concise, like, listen up, motherfucker, this is what you need to do.

And, dude, that's you guys! And he's like, he goes like, he's like, hey, hey, hey, can I? Can I message you later, you know? And so who knows, maybe he'll come into the group or something. But, but that's what we do here. Cause there's pain coming for all of us. And there's moments where we're not gonna know what to do. And, scratch that. We know what to do. We know exactly what to do. That's responding in line with our values and raw excuses. But there's gonna be those moments that surprise us.

So with that in mind, um, let's see. Everybody's coming in here. We got 38 I think we can get going. So, all right, let me give you guys a little background here. So East IES, first off This is like godly. Okay, not just this transformation, but I have a history of Jiu Jitsu Recent 30s. I started 30 or something 31 and I changed schools to train with this Ecuadorian they call Sinistro He's a savage. He's amazing. World's He's a savage, dude.

And a couple of his other buddies, and they level my Jiu Jitsu up insane. And I have another coach at that place, and there's no connection here, like, there was no I didn't find Isaias because of this. What's insane is Isaias finds Superhuman Fathers, I think it was over Instagram or something, or I don't know. And, uh, they know each other! How psycho is that? They know each other!

Like, I don't know if they grew up together, same small town, I don't know the whole story, but that, right then I just knew, like, okay.

He says, he says my whole, this is like, this is of God, you know, he's got my whole heart, I was like, it's on, let's go, we're going all the way, and I watched him as he showed up to office hours, and he's like, I have these questions, he's giving me these looks, and I remember the first time I spoke to him, I saw a little bit of me in him, because he liked different names, and he was fat, you know, and I was like, oh, I know the pain, and he has this beautiful, and Wife or soon to be wife or

at the time they were fiance. I don't know what's going on but they have a kid together and that was rough and I could just see pain in his eyes and We began to connect and he began to show up and he would just take notes and I'd almost giggle cuz I'd be like damn Dude, like this guy he's sure he really cares. Like he I don't think he missed a zoom call. Thank you.

He didn't and so that he's very Was very focused and he just trusted the system and then something happened and the results started to roll in but what before the Major physical results started to like he became like his philosopher, you know he's constantly tapping in to how to overcome pain and chaos and how to reframe when we're being selfish and purpose And, uh, he took that and almost made it his own, and then he just began his own coaching group in Ecuador.

He's got a friend that's a savage who also trains Jiu Jitsu. But I want you guys to look at this. I mean, I, I, should we just look at it? Maybe we should before he talks. I hate to interrupt while he's talking. Like, give me a second here. Let's, let's go in here. I'm gonna share my screen. Let's see if I can find this nonsense. I think I posted it in, uh, the team chat, right? Here, let's see. Yep, there it is. Perfect. So let's, let's do this. Okay, I know I'm working on my technical ability.

It's way improved than it used to be. Okay, I couldn't even share anything. So share screen, start broadcast. Okay, it's going. All right, so you should be able to see now. Look at this. Okay, look at this. Look at this. It's just a face, dude. Look at this. Look at this. Are you kidding me? Like, what? Look at this! Insane! And so, that, that's a physical, that's a physical representation of what's happened on the inside.

And he's got this group now, and uh, calls it the tribe or some shit, I don't know. But, how long has it been, Isaias? How long has it been? When'd you start? How long has it been?

Man, just coming through some, uh, to some Zoom calls has been fucking amazing for us and for what he's done. So, I think Isaias, he was referring maybe to how long have you been in Superhuman Fathers, but together with the tribe, we've had

I couldn't see it at the moment, but I posted a story today in which I mentioned Kyle and you, Ryan, and I said that... I don't know if anyone here has seen the Lord of the Rings, the second movie, which is The Two Towers. There's a poison king and he's all gray, his eyes are gray, and he doesn't realize that he's poisoned. Now I can see how poison, how, how, dude, I was drowning in poison, man, and that poison was my comfort.

Uh, I have a beautiful girl who is soon going to be my wife, uh, Uh, shit, I cannot say much because I'm going to show her this re shit, whatever, I'm not going to show her this recording until I give her the fucking ring, so. I promised her I was going to get posted, I fucking got posted, I'm buying this ring next week or something, man, as soon as I get all the fucking cash, I'm buying that shit, man. Uh, and after that I'm showing her this recording, so.

Uh, she, basically, I was fat, I was lazy, I already knew how to count macros, I already knew how to do gym, uh, everything. I was just lazy as fuck, I was, uh, Ah, heh, has to be more expensive than the program. Uh, I, uh, I don't think

And I would get angry when people didn't show up on time, I, I had this, I've always had this ability to like to Connect people and I use it for the worst possible shit. I was addicted to video games, man. What, uh, I don't say it with shame anymore. I used to be ashamed of that. So basically, uh, Daniela told me one day, Hey Zaius, I don't like your habits. I don't like the way your life is going. And I feel like, uh, I'm not in love with you anymore.

So I'm going to go back to my parents house. I'm not going to live with you anymore. And I remember that day I was crying. I was fucking sad, but I was so addicted to video games that when she went to sleep over here in this bed with my son, Bruno.

I started playing, but something just stopped me from playing, and I watched Instagram, and I saw this video from Kyle, which is the most impactful video I've ever seen from him, and it's basically a video in which a son asks his dad and says, Hey, dad, why are you lazy? Why are you fat? And his dad says, Well, I'm too weak to endure discomfort, and I gotta drink my beer, and I'm too tired of work, so I'm not playing with you. Something like that. And the kid at the end says, Okay, I get it dad.

I love you. I want to be just like you. And at that moment I cried my fucking eyes out. And I don't know about you guys, but I didn't ask him any questions. I just gave him a call. I appointed. I spoke to Michael Davis. Shout out to Michael Davis. That guy is a wizard. Guys, if you're not connected with Michael Davis, You're missing out. The guy's a wizard. I'm not joking. I've told Michael Davis. I literally take notes when he talks He's a badass.

Fucking love you Mike. So I connected with him After that, I connected with Ox. I think shout out to Ox as well, and I didn't ask questions I just got in the program and my life changed

So basically, now I feel that I used to feel that I was stuck. I used to feel that I had so much fucking potential. I'm a natural extrovert and I could connect with people, but, and, but I was not having success, you know, I was, I felt like I had like this, uh, Potential that I was not using, I felt like, um, I felt like I could do so much more, but I wasn't, and I didn't know what was stopping me.

Now I know that it was me, but, uh, what it changed for me is, uh, my identity changed based on, uh, this program's structure, and when I changed my identity, my matrix changed. What I mean by that is now I see different. When I used, when I used to see scarcity and hardships, now I see opportunity and abundance. And it's the first time in my life that I could actually say that being authentic, you know, it's the first fucking time

Cooking and food is my fucking love, cooking. You guys see that I'm always posting on that Recipes and Nutrition channel, and I think that's no coincidence. And I think that the way this program is made is that you start paying that debt on the bank, uh, that we call in Spanish la cuenta en rojo, which means when you're in red, like you owe it. And you owe it to yourself. And why do you owe it to yourself? Because that's the only way that you can be in power. I like to talk about being in power.

And why do you love, and why you got to be in power? You got to show up in power because that's the only way that you can truly serve. That's the, that's it, man. If you're not in power, you're not serving. And if you're not serving, you're not loving. And if you're not loving, then your sedations are bigger than your purpose. And it's that simple, man.

Pure Hedonism replaced with Stoicism now, and I realize that that, that's the man that I don't want to be. Uh, I got this idea from you, Ryan, and, and I wanted to say this at the end, but fuck it, I'm gonna say it right now. I just, and I know that, dude, guys, Ryan doesn't need this, but I'm gonna say it anyways. We owe so fucking much to Ryan, man. He's, he's, he should be praised so much more.

The word you put, man, You gave me my fucking purpose and I want to be, just like you told me with the same words, you said, I want to be the man that can suffer. Fuck, I want to be the man that can suffer too, man. And sometimes I'm afraid of, I'm afraid of saying this kind of shit, but. It is the truth, man. Now my identity is discomfort. Fuck it. I want that discomfort, but at the same time, it's funny. Cause I say this, but the little bitch voice is never gone, man. It's never gone.

Never, ever.

How do you, how do you continue being the man who can suffer in those moments where Like, I think you were at a wedding or something, or you wanted to like, have a cheat day or, or something. It was like the hardest day, which I probably was my next question, but it was this really hard day that you, you know, you wanted to... Not hit your macros and you decided to hit your macros and it was really hard for you and that's just an example How how are you doing that?

Because the old you say it couldn't do that.

Well, at the beginning I was so low on a budget that for three months I didn't eat my macros, I just ate my calories. And I used to eat a lot of protein, a lot of carbs and low on fat, but for me it was okay because it was truly, I was going through a rough spot, so that was not an excuse. I know it sounds hard, but it was not an excuse. I tried and I got that lean now, now I'm kind of better. And I can hit my Goose X every day.

Shout out to BJ, who called me out on the Goose X. Shout out to Ben Jorgson, who, He, that guy, man, I will never forget a pose he put in. He said, At this point, it's harder to miss than to do the Goose X. And I was like, fuck, I wanna get there, man. I'm gonna share with you some tips on the Goose X lately, but, Answering the question, um, You said, how do I get back in power, right? Or how do I stay in power? Okay, so there's this exercise, That I applied. I try to apply it every day.

Sometimes I miss it, to be honest, but Uh, this exercise was given to me by, uh, Evan Von Worldhoff. I think it was given to him by Chris Flores. I think that Ryan, you gave it to me in such so many ways, but I was so, so stupid that I couldn't see it. And it was perfection by the man himself, Chad Henkel, that guy.

Dude, there was a time where I gave a Chad a call and we, we stayed up talking like for two hours and a half and I slept like three hours and it was the best bad sleep that I've ever had in my life, man. Chad fucking coached the My Ass Out man. So these exercises called the Vale Lenses, in which I'm gonna say it like. I'm going to say like express, but you could do it and you could write it. So basically you write down two values that you have, right? Two values that you love about yourself.

Two values that you know that you have. We're not perfect, so it's not like a hundred percent, but uh, the ones that you know, that you like about yourself. I'm not going to say mine, because if I say it, I might suggest, like sugestionarlos, like I might put like a bias there, right? I don't want to do that.

So basically you do put two and you put one that you don't, uh, one that you admire in someone, one that you admire in a, in a, in a mentor, in a leader, one that you think that it's amazing, but you don't have. So now you've created yourself a mind structure to take decisions and base the decisions on what's truly important to you, which are those values.

So you have two strengths of yours that you can rely on, and you have one of the values that you don't have, so you're forced to work on that. So that, Chad, I mean, I used to call it the value filter, Evan showed it to me like that, but Chad changed the name to the value lenses, and he talked about this guy, I think he's from Mosey, I'm not sure, he talks a lot about lenses. He said, Hey, Zayas, you created the value lenses, man.

It was like, no, okay, so I'm going through a hard decision, which is. Uh, today, for example, I got so much shit to do, but, uh, I, uh, I know Bruno, my kid. I haven't seen him today. I've been super busy. Uh, he's there, he's here with my family, so I said, okay, fuck it. Uh, I'm gonna ask him if he wants me to sleep over, and I'm gonna do it. That means my whole schedule for tomorrow might be fucked up, but who cares? He's my son. So, what should I do? Value Lenses.

I put my lenses on, and I do my filter. The two values that are important for me, and the one that I'm lacking, uh, and based on that, I take my decision. And why is this so important? Cause... When you lose power, because I don't know if it might resonate with some of the other guys, but maybe not with the new ones. But once you hit your non negotiables, you're, you're on track and you start suffering more and getting out of your comfort zone, you will fucking get in power, man.

You will fucking get in power. How does getting in power, how does that work? You're fully present. You can keep on delivering, keep on delivering, and you might be tired, but you have a limited energy, man. It's weird. It's just weird, man. I remember Ryan talking about once he slept like at 1am and he woke up at 3am and he was doing like burpees on the, on the sea. Remember that time where Ryan used to go to the frozen water and do burpees and shit? So, uh, once you're in power...

And you realize how important it is to be in power so you can serve. You realize also that you can lose that power when you fuck up. When you lose your temper. For me, it's losing my temper. For others, it might be going to a vice. For others, it might be slipping in. Whatever it is. Using the value lenses, you get the fucking backing power. It's amazing. Also, service. Once you fuck it up, service, service. And how to avoid that?

I think that the way you avoid, um, losing that power, or you avoid, uh, fucking it up is remember your purpose. You don't make it about yourself, you make it about your purpose, uh, and actually being conscious about what it means and, uh, to, to a certain point, I think that all the times that I fuck it up, now I realize, and I was thinking about this today, I was thinking, for example, let's talk about food for a minute.

Uh, I don't know if you guys know, like everybody's got their systems, and I'm all into the GooseX, which is the best, but I only eat two meals a day. Whatever it is. It works for me, because I have Godbrother.

I'm hungry man every day My last meal is like a thousand calories on my on my lunch and every day. I'm hungry at night right now I'm hungry. I just got my water here And every day the Beach Boys, the bitch, comes and says hey, hey, hey, go eat, go eat, hey, hey, hey, hey, look at that sweetie. Okay guys, so my mom cooks out of this world. I've known people that they can taste, uh, they say I don't like lasagna, I don't like cheesecake, but when they try my mom's, motherfuckers, they love it.

And that's a fact, man, that's a fact. So I'm fucking cursed. Because I gotta, I gotta stop on that, on that sedation, which is my mom's cooking, so I would, I would, every day I would stop eating at lunch, and I, now I realize that, because I binge on food, and I've, and I've quit on my, uh, on my plan, on my structure, and I've eaten, and after I finish, It was just fucking pleasure. It was no power. It was no, I lost all my power.

So right now I'm feeling hungry, but man, motherfucker, I'm feeling powerful. And when you, once you realize that and you gotta navigate your journey, and that's why it's so important for you to do the non negotiables perfectly, man. Whatever it takes. You wake up, whatever it takes. You eat, whatever it takes. You train and push hard. It's not about going and training a bit. You gotta push fucking hard. And then you see, fuck, I'm in power, man, and is it worth it to lose this power?

I mean, just for me, it's not, man. For me, it's not.

You're killing it and this happens everybody You know, all of a sudden you wake up, we've, you and I have spoken about this too, you woke up and you're like, shit, I did something, I don't know, I'm not in power right now, what was, how would you say in the opposite of what you said, in power, what does it feel like to be out of power, and then how do you get back to power?

I can, I used to believe that whatever I was thinking, that was me. That's not me, man. I can control my thoughts and I can separate from my mind and say, okay, so my mind is a fucking organ and it works for me. And you don't want mine? I love you, but fuck you. You work for me, and I decide what you do, and I don't care about what you think. Oh, so you think this? Fuck you in the face! Like that. So, when you're not in power... You start thinking, maybe I'm, maybe I'm, am I thought right?

Am I, am I, this is what I'm thinking? Is this, is this true? And it's not, man. You guys, for all of you guys, just by being here, man, just by deciding to join this program, starting this journey, you're, you're massive steps away from the guy that you used to be. You just gotta follow through, man. You, you will have mental breakdowns, you will cry. I hope that Chris, uh, can see this interview. Today I spoke with Chris, with Chris Flores. He's, he's, he's, I love that guy.

We've had, uh, and I remember I was asking for a refit day once. I was asking, I was, hey, hey, hey, my refit day. And I was sending pictures, and I was sending me on the ice, like, for three minutes. I was saying, it's a learn, give it to me, Chris. What else do you want from me, Chris Flores? I was joking. And he didn't give it to me. And you know what?

I had such a mental breakdown that I told Jose Eduardo, I said, yo, if Chris was in front of me, I would say, Hey, Chris, I want to punch you in the face. Let's fucking fight, man. That was my fucking mental breakdown, man. Cause I was just, I was just, I wanted to eat, man. I wanted to eat. I wanted to eat so much.

And this is gonna happen to you guys, and you're gonna hate your coaches, but, man, now that I have a group that we run with Jose, dude, all the work behind closed doors is fucking hard, man. And we gotta appreciate them, and we gotta appreciate Ryan.

So I know that it's going to change people's lives, you know, and now I can truly, and I truly believe that I will die when I die. I would know that I tried to make the world a better place. That's, it's wild, man.

It's not cool. Come over here. Hey, but I gotta go through the fire. Yes, motherfucker, but it's better. Okay,

I will do everything, cause food is a gift from God, and if you use it correctly, it can fucking connect you to God. And I know it sounds weird, but macros connect you to God. Now I'm gonna explain that shit, cause I'm not that crazy. I might be crazy, but I'm not that crazy. Okay, so check it out. You control your food, and you control your temper, right? I have it, I have it written over here. Okay, let, let me, let me.

And once your mind is strong, you become, you get your spirit strong. And once you get your spirit strong, you can connect through God. How did it all started? By food, man. It's that easy, brother. Brothers, it's that easy. You control your fucking food and it's like a domino effect where you will get your soul so fucking strong. Your character will change. You will learn how to suffer and in that suffering, you will see God's blessings, man.

And if you think this, and if you're, I don't know, Christian, Catholic, whatever, or you believe in, in God, now that you know that by suffering, you will open different gates that will let you, will allow you to see, and you will see God too, because God is everywhere, and he's there, man. It's weird. I feel like sometimes I suffer so much that the next day I wake up and I, Nugget's coming to my mind. And I'm like, hey Riot, I got a Nugget. And he was like, hey, no, you can see, brother.

And I'm like, yeah, what the fuck? So we

And once you, once you have a mind that is strong and a soul that is strong, you can start to see different things and train. It's like, for example, uh, let's talk about the gymnastics. I don't know if anyone has done muscle ups here, but you cannot do muscle ups if you don't have a first, you can do bars and you can, you know, have strength in your shoulders. Like you go levels, right?

So you control your food is the first one, and then you start, you get strength on your mind, then strength on your soul. And after that it's like you're able to connect to God. It's like God needs that at at some point.

So once you give them the same amount of macros every day, it's like your body gets tapped in. It's like, okay, this is how we're going to work, and you start getting seen results. Uh, for me, my results came when I was just hitting Goose X every day and, and also in your mind, it's like, you get, you winning a battle every day, brothers.

I mean, and this is one of the hardest battles because I mean, everyone can wake up early and everyone can, uh, do exercise, but if you don't eat properly, you're not going to get the results. So, imagine winning that battle every fucking day. And it comes with side quests. So you can get the goose eggs and the side quest is hunger, the side quest is the meal prep, the side quest is explaining to your wife, hey baby, hey baby. I got a macro on my things.

Breakfast or lunch, because I'm going to have a date with you at night, so I got to suffer a bit more, you know. So you're just getting win, win, win, win, win. I saw, and I think, and I want to give a shout out to Ryan Coleman, who's always putting reels over there. He's a badass. And he put up a reel that said, it's not about positive affirmations on a mirror. It's about having a stack of wins on a daily that can justify you thinking that you're a savage.

So you, by hitting your macros, you're getting a fucking big stack of wins. So if I could tell, like, to the new guys here, man, 7 months ago, 8 months ago, I would never imagine how this interview was gonna go. I I I I I saw people, I was just fat, and I was seeing people, and I said, like, what would I say when, when my interview's up? And now I say, KILL YOUR FUCKING MACROS, MAN. MAKE IT DELICIOUS. Uh, guys, reach out to people, reach out to people, watch the fucking zooms.

I've only, in my eight months of this journey, I've only missed one zoom, and it was Ryan's fault because he didn't give me the link. If it was not for him, I would have never missed one

And what I, and how I connect this to my journey is that through the non negotiables and through suffering, I realized that what we're creating here is that we're creating the spiritual, the spiritual strength to carry ourselves. And how does that look like? We all have this inner child, man, and I think that's a fact. It comes from the traumas that we had in our childhood, from our insecurities, personalities, and everything.

So, you get your soul so fucking strong that you're able to take that inner child who's always beat, who's always there on the floor, and you get to carry him, look him in the eyes and say, I got this, uh, we're gonna do this my way, and you get to carry your inner child and start, and start jogging. And once you do that, He was like, you're like this, right? You're going, going, going. Once you do that, you peak on top. And that's where Ryan always is.

And I never remember I asked him, How does it feel to get shredded? And he said, Well, one day you're gonna wake up, you're gonna see yourself in the mirror and say, What the fuck? I'm shredded. I think that happens with a connection with getting shredded on your soul. That's the way it works for me. That's the way I think it was. Yeah. So, uh, Can I keep on sharing things? Is that

Anyways, keep going, he's saying, this is too good,

Suddenly, everybody's a PhD on nutrition and coaching and exercise and everything. So, today a friend of mine, I don't know if he's in the Zoom right now, Fernando, he's in the tribe with us. He told me like, you know what, people's kind of seen me as the weird guy, as the crazy guy. And I was like, yeah, because society's standards are fucked up. So that, that kid, that might even come from the family, man. So if you're new here.

And you find it like people's looking at weird you looking at you weird or you feel like maybe you're not you know You may be kind of crazy. Fuck that man You're in the right path, and I'm telling you cuz I was on the bad path and now I feel like I'm Reborn I'm not poisoned anymore and I can see and and it's all worth it man We cannot let the standards of society define us. You gotta create your own standards, your value lenses, your core values. You gotta create what you want to do.

And you don't need to be confident, man. I used to believe that courageous people and confident people were the ones that didn't feel insecurity. Or didn't feel fear. That's not the way it goes. The way it goes is that when you're brave, you feel fear, but you fucking do it anyways. That's the way it goes. So, everybody's gonna be... Everybody's gonna tell you you're crazy, and you're like, maybe we are, but... Fuck, I'd rather be crazy than be the guy who I was before, man.

I know that for a fact.

I used to believe that, uh, and I want to give a shout out to Jose once again, man, this guy's my accountability partner since day one, since I started the program, and I remember Ox telling me on, when Isaías, you need this. Like the program and I felt like she cannot tell me what do I need man? You don't even know me, but now I can say dude, I fucking needed this Ego will come in many ways man. Ego will come in in pride, in pride, it coming In fear.

For me it came in insecurity and I want to share that with you guys. My ego came in Perfectionism, which is a disguise for insecurity And I just want to let you all guys know that you can inspire so many lives, and this is not a joke, this is not a motivational speak, uh, uh, motivational talk, this is the truth. You can inspire so many lives, man. And that's not only a choice that you get to do, but it's a responsibility. And when you're in your deathbed, remember that...

You will be able to think and say, how many people did I inspire? What happens if you try to inspire on a daily man? What if you change someone's lives? Like dude, knowing that you can do that and just trying to pursue that just gives you a whole new purpose in life. That's how, how things changed for me too, man. And Ryan, you used to tell me that I could inspire and you trusted me even when I didn't trust myself. And now, now I say, dude, thank you for that. Thank you for that gift.

Now, a funny fail that I want to share just if, so if, if I ever gave somebody a call out of the blue, I had a broken screen and I was poor as fuck for three months and I couldn't change my broken screen. So I just dialed. Everyone. So at the beginning I used to, I used to text people like, Hey, I'm sorry, my screen is broken. I don't know who it was, but somebody, someone told me, Hey bro, no, it's okay. You can call me. I was, No motherfucker, my screen is broken, man.

So in case I call you out of the blue, maybe God allowed it because I got so much nuggets and so much wisdom of calling you guys. Reach out to people, man. I'm the fucking weirdo. I've reached out to everyone. You can reach out to anyone. Just reach out to a brother. Get in the zooms. Just reach, reach, talk. Give a call to somebody out of the blue. Talk about whatever. Uh, share, share a struggle.

It's funny because I know, I've known people, there's people that I've known from my whole life, yet I feel closer to people here than to those guys, man. It's the truth. And, okay, so, connecting back to the, to the, VJ, what a savage. It's not a door feast, it's the Holy Spirit. Fucking love you, man. So, connecting back to the inner child, I want to share one of the wildest experiences I've ever had, man.

And I'm going to make it short, because, uh, I know we're running out of time, but, um, I remember I was in a marriage and, and you know what? Let's talk about a bit about the, we're here, right? We got our fake self. This comes from the book A Weeding the Devil and the fake self will come in, in many ways. That's the bitch voice that tells us to, to drift, right? And, um, my fake self is some fucking smart guy, man. I gotta give that, I gotta give that to him.

I used to, I've seen people, shout out to Cory Tucker who told me that his fake self is called Henry and he used to say, fuck you Henry, I'm gonna fucking hit you in the face. I cannot speak to my fake self like that. I used to call him weak Isaias but now I cannot even call him weak, I just say young Isaias because I know he's a kid and he's hurt. And I remember I was, I was at this, uh, marriage, it was my friend Steven, and I texted Ryan and said, Hey coach, can I have a cheat meal?

I'm gonna marry, I'm in a wedding, right? And Ryan just goes, two hours later, hold the line. I was like, fuck, okay, I'm holding the line. And I was at this marriage, I was talking to Jose and I said, Dude, Ryan said to hold the line. And Jose goes, hold the line, fuck. And I'm like, Hey Daniela, I want to have a good time with you. I cannot eat, Ryan told me no, so please just help me, help me with this. And that, that's a nugget there.

Our women are our best accountability partners and our coaches. Tap into your women, man. Serve them. Give them love. Okay, so I tell Daniela, help me. And I found myself not being hungry, not being in on food, but I found myself depressed. A 31 year old guy, civil engineer, father of a kid. Going with his soon to be wife to a wedding, started crying in the middle of the wedding because he couldn't eat. I was crying, man.

And at that moment, it's the first time that I didn't, I, I, I not only saw myself getting out of my mind, but I saw myself getting out of my body and I could see my inner child, and he was hurt. And I spoke to my fucking inner child. I know this sounds weird, I, I don't know, I might be, I must be tripping. Maybe they put some mushrooms on my, on my coffee or something, because I just drink coffee and, and diet soda for the night, but.

I saw myself hurting and my inner child told me, why, why do you do this to me? Why is it gotta be this way? And I said, Hey, Sayes, I love you. I know this is hard, but this is the way it's going to be. Just trust me. And the guy said, okay, from that point, it was never Wicky Sayes anymore. He was young because I saw him and I felt him. I felt just like when I hugged my kid, I felt like he was a kid. And then I realized that.

Many of my traumas, and I don't know if this resonates with anyone, but many of my traumas come from being hurt as a kid, from different aspects in my life. Like, it's more common than you think in many aspects, and we got to definitely got to heal on that, but we're not going to be able to heal until we learn how to suffer. The ability to sit in discomfort, like Ryan says, is the capacity of suffering.

It's a key factor, and guys, this is conspiracy theories, but at the same time, it's the truth. Check out how society is. They give us instant gratification through social media, they give us porn, they give us drugs, they give us food, they give us... They're poisoning us through every fucking channel they can, because that's the way they control society. They control men. How they control men? They give comfort. They take away their capacity to suffer.

And once you realize this, as clear as it is, There you say, I gotta tap into this shit, and I gotta show my kids this shit, and I gotta be able, and learn how to suffer. Funny thing is that, my inner self, he's a badass negotiator, I'm gonna start learning sales from him. You know what he used to tell me, like, hey Zaius, you're at a wedding, you're 50 pounds down, I'm not telling you to binge on food, but just have a hundred more calories. Have those shrimp. It's protein. Have those shrimp.

Go and eat that shrimp. Like that man, so remember even if it's logical, you can get away from your thoughts if your thoughts don't align with your values, this is wild man, even if your thoughts are logical, you can tell fuck no if they align with your values, and that's why it's so important to be aligned with your values, and if you don't act with your values, you're never going to be aligned with your values, so decide your values, you're And fucking execute with power, man, with ambition.

Let's go. I hope this

Um, it's really incredible. It's really incredible. Um, obviously the aesthetics, right? You know, you put in that hard work and I know what it takes to do that stuff. But for you to. To kind of like extract information and like pour yourself into the group with love and then just kind of be able to like teach and just philosophize and just kind of, you know, give back in the way that you're doing the way that you're leading and speaking.

I can tell that you've been doing that with your tribe and uh, it makes me really proud as fuck, bro. So I just wanted to tell you that and I like you a lot better when you drop the F bomb like

We've known each other since we were kids. And I had no idea what it would do to me to try to serve somebody and open up to somebody enough. You understand that you also need help. I'm saying that to say, trust the people around you. You have no idea how much, uh, And I'm almost tearing up with this, dude, because I'm so proud of Isaias. I've seen him, uh, work so hard.

Um, so, I'm proud of you, man, and I, I'm so thankful with Superhuman Fathers, with Ryan, with Kyle specifically, which I've had the opportunity to speak to and know, because you guys have no idea how many people you've changed, not only by those people being involved into the group directly, but everybody else who gets affected by those people.

You guys ignite fires that then eventually Fucking fire up other people around, and Isaias has done that with us, with me, and then with the group that we have, with the family, so I'm proud of you man, we're here, always for you, supporting you, and thank you for Superhuman Fathers, you guys are changing fucking lives, every single day, it's, this is incredible, I never thought something like this existed, or could be possible, I honestly gave up and give up any hope on, like, humanity, but

this shit is, like, real, man. So, thank you guys. Thank you Isaias, keep up the good work man, you're changing fucking lives, and I'm so proud of you that you've changed yourself, and I'm not only proud, but I admire you man, which is a different feeling, so,

The way I see you treat your kid, it just tells me, it just shows me that I can also treat him like that. I want to treat my kid just like you do, man. And thank you, man. I appreciate it. Now, to be fair with you guys, uh, most of the time that I was just reaching out to people and talking to groups is because I was unemployed. So, uh, I'm sorry.

But there it comes to mind when I think of how wonderful it would have been to be where you are at that age for me to see you with all of the wisdom and all of the The kindness, man. There is not a person in here that is, that is more kind than you and gives more love and doesn't give a shit about what, uh, people think of God and blesses everybody with God every time that he speaks, man, I just got to tell you, dude, I'm so, I'm so proud of you, brother. I'm so proud of you.

And you are, you are the epitome of brotherhood. You are, that word, brotherhood, it lands with, you know, your picture is right next to that in, uh, in the dictionary, my man. And I mean that, I mean that wholeheartedly, brother. Um, and, and, and just quickly, and I'll, I'll let, cause I know everybody wants to talk. I know when we spoke, I was in a big battle with Henry. And I'll tell you, I think the key is to invite him in. Walk hand in hand with him. Walk hand in hand with him.

Invite him in. You guys need to work together. That's my nugget for you, my brother. You're throwing a bunch of nuggets out here tonight. I want to share another one with you. And you're a wonderful, wonderful human being. And I'm honored to know you.

I remember the time that you gave me on the call. I remember the nuggets you gave me. I remember, you know, that I've never told you this, but you're, I'm going to send you the picture. You look like my uncle, Luis Roberto, which is my dad's brother. You got the same vibe. I just feel like I'm talking to my uncle, man. And thank you for changing my journey. Thank you for... I'm your American uncle. Yes, you are. And you know what, uh, Corey?

Uh, it's funny that if it was not for you, my journey would have been different. So every win that I have is your win, man, every win that I have is your win. And I owe this to so much people. If I could give a quick shout out, uh, dude, I don't want to, I don't want to leave nobody behind, but I just, I could say so many names. Philip, Christian, Kai's, Chad, Mikey, BJ, Daryl, Evan, Kyle Willis, Larry Tucker, Michael Davis.

I could really, I could say so much, man, and I know that there's so many people that's not going to be in the names that I said, uh, Levi, Aaron, Corey Gallop, uh, dude, I, I'm not going to end if I say every name of the people that has impacted me, and I just want to say thank you. If I can be kind and give it back to you, it's because you have given so much to me, man, and I really appreciate it. Corey, I fucking love you, brother, and we're in this together.

And your wins are my wins, and every time that I win, it is for you too, man. I love you too,

Um, you know, I probably don't say it enough, but, you know, you, you are, you are always there, and, uh, You just lurk in the background, and it's just like, boom, there he is. Like, when I need something, it's like, you know, at the time of crutch, you, you come through, you know? It's like... You're always there, man.

You know, you were serving without even knowing you're serving and dude, you, you are very inspirational to me, you know, um, man, I'm so proud of you, bro, like seeing you, like, it's like, I swear, man, like, just the other day, you weren't like ripped like that, man. It's like overnight, you just, boom, I was like, God, man, where'd this guy come

I remember, uh, you, since I was, uh, coming in the program and you're such a nice guy. You, you, you got such a unique energy. You used to post a lot of videos, man. I want to see your videos again, man.

When we spoke, when you told me everything about the, the, the experiences that you had, uh, Levi told me one of the coolest things I've heard about Kyle, man. And I told Kyle this, and he was so happy about it. He said, and I said, hey Levi, hey Levi, look, so check out, Levi's young and I'm young, because we're the youngest years, and we talk about amazing things, but we also talk about childish things. I said, hey Levi, how does it feel to be around Kyle, man?

Because I'm in Ecuador, you guys forgot Kyle over there in the States. I don't. And Levi says, he said, yes. It feels like you're around the disciples of Jesus. And I was like, fuck, man. And I told that to Kyle. He was fucking happy, man. It was amazing. Thank you, Levi. I fucking love you, man. I gotta, I gotta meet all of you, man. I'm going to go to the States and just spend all my fucking money and get in depth so I can travel all over the States and, and, and hug you.

And I, and it's funny cause I'm always, you know, writing this type of shit. Like the other day, I just, they were calling right together, like on the same call. And I said, I want to be in the middle and hug you guys, no homo. And it's the truth man, I just want to hug you all you guys, I love you man. Thank you Levi, you're a savage, you're an inspiration. I will never forgive you for being posted before me, but I gotta give it to you, it is what it is. You won man, you're the best.

I told you bro, I had to. I had to, you I wouldn't have, you wouldn't have come through. You did and you, you did and you kept up your word. Thank you, man. That's super inspirational for me. I love you, bro. Love you, bro. Gustavo, you had your hand up.

It's like fucking shit, man It's like I want to be like that guy and actually you Isaias and Jose Eduardo are guys that I can tell that, fuck, I want to be like those guys, not actually, not, not even, not just thinking about, uh, being ripped, like, oh, uh, losing weight or stuff like that, it's just like, things that come up with, Uh, changing your mind, changing your, your lifestyle makes you, uh, drag people of just for being authentic. I think being authentic makes you change everything.

And that's what I, I want to tell you and also others that, dude, uh, these things actually change lives. for all of you. So keep on this

May God bless you and we're gonna fucking dominate, bro. We're gonna fucking dominate. I'm telling you that. Yes.

But this guy, even when I didn't text back, even when I didn't show up, he showed up every fucking day and sent me a message. 63 of them, exactly. That's why he's posted. Because he shows up for everybody else when nobody else fucking shows up for him, even on those days. You're the fucking man, bro. I'm happy for you.

I've learned so much from Handsome Rob, man. He's, the guy is the baddest. So, uh, thank you. Thank you. We should connect more, man. Like I told you, I miss you. Love you back.