I got to the end of the, of the set, like, number 200, right at exactly six minutes, like, right at my goal. Um, but of course, those last 30. Air squats were just insanity. And, uh, and then I pretty much just collapsed and I fell on the floor in the gym. I didn't pass out, but it was, um, just this horrible, intense headache, um, that just shot in the back of my brain. I could feel it like right in this like pinpoint location in my brain. And I was just like, Oh crap. Not good.
And, you know, I, after laying there on the floor for, I don't know, five, 10 minutes, I finally was able to get up.
Welcome to the Superhuman Father's Transformation Podcast. If you're listening to this, you're about to witness some of the most incredible transformations that have ever happened on the planet, and just by listening to this, you will be inspired to have your own transformation.
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This, today, is about Ryan G. Um, it's his Transformation Day. How you doing, Ryan?
I'm doing well. Just got to my hotel here in Kansas City, made it just in time. Yeah, man.
Dude, I, I, I can't even tell you, like, I've been waiting for this moment. Like, since you, since you signed up, like, I knew instantly, bro. I knew it was gonna happen. And then we hit some, well, we're gonna get into this, obviously. Let's not get into it quite yet. But there were some obstacles.
And I don't think I've ever seen anybody respond to something so Potentially scary or at least like an injury because everyone gets something right like oh I pulled my back or uh, my tummy hurts or uh, you know I stubbed my toe or broke a finger like whatever but dude like you were taken completely out of the game and yet You still hit your macros, and so we're gonna jump into that a little bit and how you're able to do that.
I just wanted to say, I'm going over my core values tonight. I'm going on, I don't know what, a 16 hour day so far?
I didn't even see you in here, Kyle! Let's go!
I got a podcast right after this that'll put me at like 19 hours straight of grind. And then I'm going deep into our mission statement and core values. And I, Ryan, I want you to know that one of our core core values will be because of you. Um, you embody it. And, uh, I just had that epiphany right now. So thank you. You saved me like 30 minutes.
Let's go. I mean, this is just fire. So, so what, let's get, let's go ahead and just get started, you know, um, right out the gates. I know people, we know you, you know what I mean? But like, give us just a quick background, like the reader's digest of who is Ryan. I mean, and Ryan's, we kill this program. I don't know what it is, you know?
Let's go. So real quick, you know, maybe who, let's give us a little backstory, like who you are, where you come from. And what made
you join the program?
So, my name's Ryan Gemlich. I, uh, I'm
from... I always say it wrong. That's why I say Ryan G. Just so everyone knows.
It's not an easy one. Um, so yeah, I'm from Livermore, California. And, uh, I'm a mechanical engineer. I work in, uh, defense. Um, which is why I'm out here in Kansas City this week. Um, but yeah, why did I join the program? So, this goes back to last December. And if you've read my post, you've kind of got a taste of this already. But, um...
You know, I, I've been working out for a long time and, and, you know, trying to make some effort to build strength and, and, you know, ideally look better too and all that stuff. But, um, anyway, so back in December, I was in the gym and, and, uh, you know, pushing up. Some heavy squats, and I get this call that my house is on fire from a neighbor, and I had no idea if my family was okay. Um, so I just, I pretty much like dropped everything and just ran out of the, out of the gym.
You know, I'd, I'd walked there, and so it was a sprint to get to the house. 0. 3 miles. That's it. 0. 3 miles. And I, I could see. My house, you know, this just pillar of smoke and flames coming from the roof of my house, and I still could not sprint all the way there. I was out of breath. And here I'm thinking, you know, I don't know if my kids are okay. I don't know if my wife got out. Like, I had no idea what was going on as I was running toward the house.
And, and so, you know, In that moment that it hit me as like, dang it, I'm out of shape. And if I had to run to save my family like right now, I can't do it. I'm just not there. And, and, you know, it wasn't like I wasn't trying. But, um, anyway, so that was sort of like step one as to how I got into this. I knew, you know, after Getting through the brunt of the fire and, you know, replacing everything and, you know, whatever, like we got into a new house and whatnot.
Um, but after a few months, you know, starting to get settled in, Um, I knew it was time to work on me, um, and you know, not just certainly my fitness, um, but, you know, other areas too. I mean, I think one of the realizations that I had, you know, having my family, you know, in peril was that they are the most important thing to me. And so I have to be present and I have to be, you know, the best man that I can be for them. I'm sorry. Let's go.
No, no apologies. Keep it coming, bro. This is just, I just love this so much. Like I'm so fired up just thinking about peril, like everywhere. Like how symbolic, you know,
Ryan, do you notice something that the men that win this game, they're tapped into something deeper that they have an emotional side. All of them, every single one of them. Think about that.
So, um, anyway, a few months go by and, you know, it's, it's March, um, starting to go back to work. I mean, I'd started already ahead of that, ahead of that, but, you know, starting to get to a place where I could actually, you know, function in life again. I started trying to eat right, you know, started counting calories on my own. I've done it before. I've lost weight. Um, I wanted to be able to fit in my pants, you know, that was my first goal.
And so as I'm doing this and starting to lose weight, I think I lost, you know, 10 pounds on my own or something, um, with a goal in mind of like, Oh, I think I can get to like 195, you know, like, that's my goal. If I can get below 200, solid. Right. And, you know, that's my goal. That's my goal. Um, and, but then I see this post from Ryan Christianson. I don't say that right. Sorry. Ryan Seed. Anson, I think, something like that. I don't know if he's on here. I'll forgive you all.
It's Christianson.
There we go. Christianson. He's here! My family argues about it. Let's go! Some say Christianson, some say
Christianson.
This is so good.
I love it, dude. Keep
going, Ryan. I see Ryan, you know, he's gone from dad bod to just completely shredded in 80 days. And, you know, like, we have a few things in common, you know? He's a family man. He's got kids and, you know, busy career, I'm sure, and, you know, we haven't been close for, you know, a couple decades, but, um, but, you know, like, I'm looking at him and saying if he can do it. I can, I could do that, right? Like, or something close to it. Um, and, uh, so I contacted him.
He, got me Kyle's info, talked to Kyle. Um, you know, and I, I don't, Kyle, you probably remember that first conversation. I was like, oh, I'm gonna, I'm about to have surgery. You know, like I, I, I don't know if now's a good time, like it's always a, a re you know, whatever. But
resistance always is there.
Um, ultimately, I. I decided that, you know, if I had the support of my wife, that I would just do it and, and do whatever it took to just make it happen. And I told Kyle, I remember, you know, when I signed up, I was like, you just tell me what to do and I'll do it. And, you know, the caveat in my head was I'll, and I'll do it perfectly, you know, and I don't think I said that, but, um. And so, yeah, that's what started it. Uh, that's how I joined up, I
guess. Awesome. And so let's, let's, before we get in deeply, let's kind of look at some of the success you've had. So what was your starting weight and how much weight did you lose? You can, you can count like, you know, you can take those 10 pounds off if you want, you know, cause I know he's very calculated, you guys got to see this guy's graph, like it's, it's so good. Everything is perfectly planned. Anyways, continue.
Uh, so yeah, I started at 215, but, you know, I've been as high as 230 in the past, you know, my weight tends to fluctuate a lot with my stress levels and whatnot. Um, at least it did in the past. Mm hmm. And, um, and so that's where I started. And you said, where did I end up?
Yeah, what was your bottom weight?
Well, I, I want to say kind of what my goals were along the way, because... Sure. Hey, let's play.
I, this is your night, bro. You take it. Go ahead. Share.
I love it. It changed dramatically over time. And, you know, initially it was, like I said, it was just that I want to get below 200 pounds so I can fit in my size 36 pants, you know? So good. So then, then I thought, well... For a long time in the early years of my marriage, I was hovering around 185. I think I can do that, you know, so I pushed it, made it. And then I was like, you know what, when I got married, I was 175 and pushed it, made it.
And by that point, Like I knew how to do it, you know, and, and so it was just like, why don't we just go all the way and, and lose it all. Lose all the fat. Why not? And actually be able to see my abs. Um, and so I, my final weight, uh, the lowest was, uh, 162. Savage,
dude. That's just, and you guys have seen his pictures, like. That's
awesome, bro. Let me just say that's incredible.
Great job. No joke. Like this is. The beastly and he can lift weight too, which is fun, but so before I think we should go into the story first before I start asking questions, Ryan, I think maybe I'll jump to the question of like, what was the biggest obstacle?
And maybe this wasn't maybe I'm assuming, but, you know, give us the, uh, okay, so the air squats, we have like, you know, Like you would do a 200 air squats straight, you know, it's kind of like a rite of passage or something, you know, at least at the time and, um, Ryan Christiansen. Like him and I
were going at it. We do it with the
bar, you know, like competing with each other
on the BOSU ball or whatever. And so
Ryan, cause he's another Ryan, which we're savages, I guess, he kind of connects with this. And so he goes ham on the air squats. And so kind of, I'm going to leave it from there, Ryan, what, what, what happened and, um, maybe just give us a little story. And what was your response? Okay. That's kind of what I'm looking for.
Yeah, go for it. First week of the program, you know, I see this first week, the big change for me in terms of my workouts was I was doing a lot of heavy, you know, five by five only workouts like trying to make the most of my time in the gym, you know, three to four times a week. And so I was squatting a lot, three times a week. Squat was, was every workout pretty much I was doing squats. And so when this thing came up of like 200 air squats, I was like, Oh, I got that. It's easy.
You know, there's no weight on the bar or no, there's no weight. Like it's just me. And so I think the first day I tried it, it was, uh, I did it in half minutes. And. You know, it was a lot harder than I thought, but, you know, I got through it. So then, uh, week two, um, I was like, all right, I gotta do better than last time. And of course, by this time I'm hearing about Ryan, the Ryans, you know, and their, their time at the bar. And I'm like, holy crap.
So I got it done in seven and a half, I think week, two minutes. And then week three I was like, I can do it under six. And so I just pushed it, like, really hard, and, um, you know, maybe this is easy for some of you guys, but, you know, I was still, I don't know, close to 200 pounds. This is wild! Like, it was, it's insane. And, uh, and so I just, like, pushed all the way through it. I got to the end of the, of the set, like, number 200, right at exactly six minutes, like, right at my goal.
Um, but of course, those last 30. Air squats were just insanity. And, uh, and then I pretty much just collapsed and I fell on the floor in the gym. I didn't pass out, but it was, um, just this horrible, intense headache, um, that just shot in the back of my brain. I could feel it like right in this like pinpoint location in my brain. And I was just like, Oh crap. Not good. And, you know, I, after laying there on the floor for, I don't know, five, 10 minutes, I finally was able to get up.
And, uh, you know, I, I think I had a bunch of lifts left that day and I just kept going, you know, and I was like, ah, this really hurts my head, but I think I'm recovering. And so I, you know, I got better. Anyway, I ended up going home, going to work, you know, was doing okay, more or less the first day, second day, same thing, go to the gym.
Pushed all my lifts, did everything, just with this splitting, horrible headache, like, worse than I've ever had, it didn't go away throughout the night, you know, I could hardly sleep, um, and then, by the third day, it was so bad, um, you know, the very first lift, I, I felt this shooting pain again, like, right in the same spot, and I was like, I can't do this anymore. Like I got to stop.
And so I, you know, I set up a visit with a doctor for the following day, met with them and, you know, they did all these cognitive tests, you know, try to make sure that my brain didn't actually explode. Um, and they pretty much gave me a clean bill of health and said, just rest for a couple of days. And I said, okay, I really didn't want to, you know, I was like, I was in it and, and it had. The workouts were non negotiable at this point.
And, you know, I was like, if I can push through this, I will, you know, and, um, so, yeah, I think I, I went to work the next day as well and, and just absolutely felt horrible. And then by Saturday. I got up and I was like, all right, I'm just going to walk, just, that's it, just light walk for like 20 minutes, which I did. And as soon as I stopped walking, the, uh, the room just started spinning and I got super dizzy and nauseous and I just felt horrible.
Like this, this sort of fog came into my brain. And, uh, at that point. Alright, I gotta, I gotta go to the ER and figure out what's going on. Cause like, my face started going numb, my arms started going numb. Like, I was like, there's something seriously screwed up with my brain.
And um, so I went to the ER, they ended up doing like a, A CT angiogram, um, looking for a brain bleed, um, they did a spinal tap to look for blood in my, in my, I actually did five horribly painful spinal taps, uh, to the point where I was like, cause I couldn't get the needle in there,
you know, probably didn't hurt as bad as the air squats. So you kind of prepared for that, I guess.
told the doctor, I was like, just let me die right now. Like, just stop. Like, I will just die. I don't care.
This is so gnarly. Okay, so continue. Jeez.
It just didn't get better, and, you know, and the, by the end of the day, they, they, they said that my, my, um, spinal tap was clean, there was no visible blood, I guess, in my, um, cerebral, cerebral fluid, um, the CT angiogram, they didn't see anything, um, which is the most sensitive test for, you know, certain types of things like aneurysms and whatnot, um, Clots, you know, that was sort of the next thing they wanted to look for. Um, so I had to go back for an MRI, later an MRV.
And so this is going on like a whole bunch, a whole bunch of tests, a bunch of imaging over the next couple of weeks and they found nothing, but I'm not functional, like I can't even go to work and I can't even like, I can barely walk to the bathroom, you know? And then of course, speaking of bathroom. At this point, our entire family comes down with the flu and it's like the worst flu ever. There's kids puking in place. My wife is puking. I'm puking.
And I mean, it was just on top of everything else. It was just like completely miserable. Um, although it was great for my weight loss, but, um, and then, yeah, so I go over once the doctor sort of gave me. You know, like, hey, you don't have a CVST, like a blood clot in your brain, you don't have...
You know, a major brain bleed, you know, I've talked to neurologists like nobody could explain it But I just had this sort of fog in my head and it wasn't COVID by the way If that is a question, there was I was certainly tested for that. But
while this was going on He's communicating with me and he's hitting his macros Like he's still doing it. It's insane
Other, like the two days or three days that I couldn't eat anything at all, you know, I, I hit my macros. Like,
if you're wondering, like, yeah, he hit them and he's communicating with me and I'm feeling like, shoot, like, what are we going to do? Like, he can't go to the gym. I was like, there's no way, like, he's gonna, I, I, you know, I, not that I didn't have faith, but I was like, this, it's inhuman.
And then he tells me, so he starts going back to the gym, and it's like, baby, like, it's like he gave himself rehab, again, like, Like, he started from the bottom, this is, it's insane, so keep going, so, okay, so you got, you, you got,
This is the essence of the core value I'm speaking of. This is the relentless attack of the superhuman father. So, understand, this is what it will take for you to become that man. This. Non negotiable, relentless, the most valid of excuses, means nothing to us. Yeah, dude. So good. Savage.
So, okay. So we go back, we start the process again. How does that work? What does that look like?
It was pretty ugly for a while. I mean, for weeks and weeks, uh, you know, I felt terrible all the time. I didn't think I was ever going to come out of this fog in my head, like, whatever it was, nobody could explain it, um, in the end they called it a brain event, and that's the best they could do, that's kind of a cop out in my opinion, but, um, but yeah, um, or no, they called it a significant brain event.
Add a little significance to it, that's good.
I started trying to go back to the gym and at first I was honestly just going back just to, just to make the habit. I didn't even do anything, I just showed up. And just sat there and let's go because I didn't want to lose that habit of like the early morning wake ups and you know, all of that. I just sort of, I might walk around, I might pick up a couple little dumbbells here and there, but I couldn't do anything.
You know, like the slightest amount of exertion would, would just put me into a headspin and I'd be all dizzy and just feel horrible all day long.
Talk about going to failure. It's beautiful. It's so beautiful. Like he was doing what he this message is insane. Please eat this up, guys. Keep going. Keep going, Ryan. You're
killing it. And then, I don't remember exactly, so, so this thing happened in, at the beginning of May, and I think it was probably by
Craig says you make him feel like a pussy. Ha ha ha! That's so good. Keep going. Keep going. It
was probably by the beginning of July, I guess. I don't remember the exact dates, but, um, where I started to feel a little bit back to normal, um, where I So how many months? So
July, so what month did we start? How many months have we been battling this monster? How many weeks? Basically, like,
I'd say eight weeks where it was just awful.
Eight. Weeks! You guys. Doesn't budge. Undeniable. Keep going.
Um, during that time, I mean, I'll just say, like, it didn't It didn't change the trajectory of my weight loss at all. Like not even slightly. And I, I tracked, you know, I, I weigh myself every day. I track it. I mean, if you saw my, my plot that I made, I was, I was keeping track of it. And, uh, anyway,
so, so how did you ensure that you were going to hit those weight loss goals, even though you couldn't be, you couldn't, you weren't tackling the resistance exercise at the level that you wanted.
I mean, it helped a lot, I'll say, to come into the Zooms and just listen to the savages around me. Um, I think for me, I, that was something that was completely unexpected for me. I, I thought going into this, like, okay, this is about fitness. I'm going to just do whatever the coaches tell me to do. And, and that's, that's the end of it. And, you know, like, okay, so they have these zoom calls. I probably don't have time for that. So I'm not going to do that.
But, but, um, I gotta say it helped me get through a dark time, you know, internally, because it was pretty depressing to like face the thought of I'm going to live the rest of my life without. full brain capacity and, you know, have, be in this sort of fog, you know, not disperse.
I mean, he has, he has a PhD guys. So like, he has a brain. Amazing, dude. So, okay. And so you're in the Zoom calls. What, what, what made the Zoom calls so special? Like, what were you getting out of them? Like, how did they help you?
I think it was just inspiring, I guess, um, to hear stories and, and, you know, to hear people. open up about their deepest issues, you know, and, and their, their deepest concerns and, and then get help, you know, like this is not something that men typically do. You know, and even, even in forums where they normally should be able to, you know, I felt like that's, um, I mean, that was something that really helped me, um, get through that time.
And so it pushed you, you know, you're able to do that. So, and what it supported you in continually, continually pushing throughout this painful experience, but also you leverage the macros, I imagine, right? You're very meticulous. Yeah, so you guys see that if you're not hitting, if you're not dropping weight, dude, all you can do at times, he couldn't even walk right. Resistance training is to build muscle. Okay, it's to send a message to your body to retain muscle.
So you guys are trying to lose weight by lifting weights. You're gonna fail. Okay, this is a this is a piece that he was completely missing. And yet, yeah. was able to drop weight because he was so tight on his macros. Let's go. Absolutely inspiring. Alright, let's dig in a little bit deeper. So, you get to start going to the gym again, you work your way up, um, and now, now you're lifting, are you only, I mean, for your weight, I think this is probably the most you've ever lifted, right?
For how heavy you are? Or, or are we close? Like if, if we compare body weight.
Um, I did get pretty close. I mean, I would say strength wise, I'm not to where I was before all of this. Got it. Sure. It's still taking time. And, and the training's just not like geared toward that, or at least it hasn't been for the most part. Like, Yeah, sure. You know, low, low, uh, low rep. Yeah.
Yeah, not that stack of five by fives.
That's all I was doing, you know, so yeah, I was getting strong. But, um, but you know, not getting that definition and I was never able to pair. The getting strong part with the good nutrition at the same time. I could do one or the other, but I could never seem to get both at the same time. So,
so outside of fitness and finding that, you know, body fat percentage that you didn't even know you were looking for, but you're a savage and you found it. What is the, you know, one or two biggest things you've taken away from Superhuman Fathers and how has it blessed
your life? So let me just, I wanted to pull up, let's see, where is it?
He's meticulous, my friend, see?
He's prepared. Told you. Um, so for me, It was, it was definitely the, uh, and again, like this was very unexpected, um, but taking part in the zoom calls and learning how to be a better father and how to, and how to be a better husband outside of the fitness. But just, um, you know, it's not like I, I'm a, I've been an impatient father overall or an impatient husband, or I feel like overall. I've tried, you know, pretty hard in that area over the course of our marriage and family life.
Um, but was I present? No. Was I like 100% present for everything? No. I was in La La Land half the time. You know, and, and I think that was, you know, we, we talked a lot about love languages and stuff through, you know, all these different zoom calls and, and, you know, I've read those books and, you know, I've, you know, made efforts to improve my marriage before, but I think it just never really clicked how important it was to my wife that when she speaks that I listened to her and.
And, and I'm 100% present, like, for all the things that we do as a family. I mean, you know, I'm the guy that would show up to the kids soccer games because that's what you're supposed to do. But was I present there? No. I didn't grow up playing sports. I didn't care. I don't care. You know, like, honestly, like, sports are just whatever for me. A brain with muscles. I started being more...
More present and, and showing up and, you know, not making, not having to make an excuse every time I'm late coming home because guess what? I stopped being late coming home from work. Wow!
Josh, that hit me right in the
heart. Let's go,
dude. I said, you know what? This is the time that I am contracted to be here. You know, of course, you know, it's a salary job, so there's lots of flexibility. But like, instead of, you know, trying to please everybody at work, over every little thing, because that's just my personality, I said, you know what? The most important people that I have to please in my life are right in front of me every day.
And they're the ones that matter, you know, like all this other stuff, it's a job, you know, like it's important, you know, like I, the job that I do is important for our national security. It's about having a deterrent for our enemies. And so I've taken that to heart over the years and, you know, put in a lot of extra time when. I probably could have got away with doing less, honestly, and other people should have taken up the slack.
Um, but yeah, it was just sort of putting, putting that into focus and, and being there, being there in the morning when I'm needed, being, being there in the evening when I'm most needed. You know, those, those hours between. Um, you know, dinnertime and bedtime where you, as a father, you have to be present. Um, and I can't always be, cause I'm, you know, traveling and whatnot, but, um, but when I'm there, I'm there.
And, and so I wanted to read, if you saw my post, you might've seen this, but this is just something that my wife wrote. Um, she said, I'm so proud of you, Ryan. You started with a goal and you crushed it. Then you crushed another one and another and another. It's motivated me to be more disciplined in my own approach to my health. And I've already seen results with Whitney at Warrior Moms. So this is, you know, this is four months after I've, I've lost 40 pounds by now.
Um, you know, our family had been through some stuff. Um, so she says, and while I love all of your shredded new muscles, I actually love The changes to your attitude more, um, superhuman fathers for anyone wanting to get out of a slump approaches the whole man. And I noticed immediately the difference in my husband's attitude toward me and our children. He's more present, more committed, more intentional.
And despite having the most difficult year of my life, in terms of personal tragedy, it has been the best. Year of our marriage. This is new, in part, to Ryan deciding and having the support to step up and show up every day for his family. I love you. So, that's it. Right there.
Damn.
Dude,
yes. Just, uh. Yes, Ryan Gimlish. This is so good. Just
sit in this for a second, guys. Just sit in this for a second. Give it, let's give it a minute, I want you to let this soak in, and just feel this, everything points back to this, everything. Let's go, beautiful.
And it comes to, to macros. It starts, it
starts with macros. That's what Ryan Christiansen said,
in, in his he was like, I came here to get ripped, and He talks about how he found so much more and, and he's like, and it all started with the macros. It's so weird.
So, okay, we've talked about your relationship with you and your wife and being present in the home. Um, how about your, just how you feel about yourself as your position as father and leader in your family? How's that changed? And what does the change stem from? This is a new cloud. This was ran. I didn't prep you for this question. It just came at you, bro. So this is inspired.
Um, I mean, certainly I think my confidence is completely different. Um, and, and, uh, you know, that's just I think already all the ways of life, I guess, you know, I, I just, I'm approaching life with, with just a different energy. Um, that includes all of my kids and, and everything too. And, and I think, you know, I've talked for years, you know, I've, I have a son. David, all he wants to eat is cereal, you know, and I've told him for years, you got to eat some protein.
And this is before doing any of the macros. It's like, eat something else in your diet so that you can, you know, whatever, like grow and, and, uh, have energy and whatever, like be healthy. Um, he never listened. And, and, uh, You know, before. Now he listens. Let's go. Um, my son, Jacob, like, you know, he's a great kid.
He's 15. Um, I think he was, he was interested, I guess, in seeing my progress over all this time, but it wasn't until the day that I posted that he was like, Oh, that's my dad. I'm doing. Yeah, that's my dad. And I'm going to do whatever he says. And, and, uh, You know, I'm going to get my own ads. And so we, yeah, we started having a little competition in there for a while, but you know, like he's been hitting macros every day. So
that, that lady that, um, reached out to me about her son, do
you know about her? Right.
So my son's been coaching a lady's son who knows Ryan. And, um, he just, he's, he's, he, I think he's down like 10 pounds or something, this kid, and he's been struggling with weight for a
long time. He struggled when he was a baby, you know, I remember.
Inspired by Ryan's transformation, when he was asking my son yesterday, hey, do you have healthy, uh, Thanksgiving meals? Because I want to hit my macros on Thanksgiving.
Let's go, dude. He's 14? Is he 13 or
14? He's, he, I think he's only 12, 12 or 13. Okay. Yeah. So
it's crazy when we talk about how your transformational effect people you would never even expect. This is how this works. And so remember, if you don't follow through, whose life were you supposed to save? And you didn't. Remember that. Next time you don't want to follow through with what you said you would do. There's a greater calling for you. You have it right here, the proof.
And you know what, Kyle? Now this may be voodoo, guys, but I really believe this.
Cuz you can get in the shame cave if you're not careful with this cuz you're like, oh, I already lost so many humans Dude, they're just still in the dark, bro Yeah, they're just cold and like have their hands out so would you please just put yourself in this the state of being like Ryan G has gimlitch and just Would you reach out and grab their hands with your unwavering, savage follow through, even when you can't walk because your brain feels like there's a knife in it? Please. Beautiful.
Okay. Uh, I got more questions. Kyle, do you have anything? I, I see it in your face. I feel like there's something, you know, I'm just spitballing core values while we're, okay, perfect. Then I'll ask my questions because that'll guide it for you. Okay. So, all right. You have somebody who's new to this program. Okay. What is your, I mean, it could be a few things. That's fine. But just advice. I need help, Brian. I just started. You know, what should I...
What should I do or think about or what, what's my energy, whatever, what do I need to prepare?
So I think first up I would say Participate as much as you can Because I think that you know just jumping in headfirst Which is really what I did and and I think it's what you have to do really to be successful is just jump in Do as much as you can, as early as you can, but, you know, obviously with the idea of, of, uh, progressive overload and with everything and that, I mean, that might include macros too. I mean, for me, I, I started day one, hitting macros, like I was like, I'm ready.
Let's just, just tell me what to do and I'll do it. I'll get my scale out. I'm going to measure this and I'm going to make it happen, like to the gram or pretty dang close.
And look at his weight loss trend. I'm telling you guys, just powering
those macros. Um, And, you know, it wasn't, I think a big part of it too was like, figuring out how to just squash all of my excuses that I've used for so many years. Ooh,
now we're getting somewhere. Help me, Ryan. I have so many. How do you squash
them? I mean, you know, I, I kind of know the science behind this to some degree, like I'm not a nutritionist or whatever, but it's like, okay, I know what I need to eat and what I need to not eat. I knew that already, really. Um, but like, how do you get the discipline to maintain that through all of the.
The chaos in life, you know, like I'm on a trip right now and normally I would have shown up, um, in Kansas City, starving, and first thing I'd want to do is stop at a Chipotle and have a giant burrito or like a bowl or something, you know, probably like 1500 calories, 60 grams of fat, you know, like, I don't know. But we're all
so hungry right now, Ryan.
Keep going. But, you know, instead of doing that, I, uh, stopped it at a grocery store on the way to the hotel and I grabbed everything I needed for the week that I couldn't pack in my suitcase. And so I have my yogurt, I have my grapes, I have my, you know, raspberries, like all the good stuff. And, um, You know, all the protein, I've got the chicken, you know, I'm, I'm ready like for the whole week and I'm weird. I'm weird.
I mean, I go up to the meetings and everybody's just downing peanut M& Ms, which is my favorite, by the way. And, uh, you know, all kinds of snacks. And then they go out and have this huge lunch all together. And I, I show up with my little lunchbox filled with, with Ziploc bags of ice from the hotel, uh, to keep it cool. And I eat my chicken sandwich, my, my open faced chicken sandwich. And, uh, and, and I'm weird, but you know what? It works. And, and I can, I can do this.
I can, you know, go on these trips and. Hit my macros perfectly, you know, um, same with like family events and, and eating out and everything else, like there's ways to do it, you know, you can, uh, I don't know, like one of the, one of the things for me, if you're really in a bind or whatever, it's like, find the subway, like there's gotta be a subway around, six inch double turkey sandwich, take off half the bread and you're there. You know, just throw away the bread. You don't need it.
You know, especially when you're down in the cut, like when I was at 1450 for like, what, eight weeks or whatever.
Dude, he tortured himself. I mean, I want to say that I tortured him, but he would, he would pester me and he'd be like, okay. Okay. Cause he, he already knew this stuff. Honestly, there's things that Ryan knows that I don't about this stuff. Okay. Like this is my favorite thing about him. And yet he was humble enough to be like, Hey, can we do this? And I was like, hell yeah, we can do this. Let's go. And it's just so fun and so exciting to watch this and to be weird.
Like. If you're not weird, that's one of our core values, I believe. Right, Kyle? You know? Get weird. Yeah, we're gonna keep that one. Oh, we are? Good. Good. I'm glad. So, um, but if you're not different, you're not, you know, you gotta live like a savage to have the results a savage has. And I, it's so fun. Go, Ryan.
I wrote this in my post, but you can't, the equation doesn't work out. You can't eat like a typical American. You just can't and have a family and, you know, uh, have a career and, you know, provide properly and be there for the people that need you in your life. Like there's, you can't do it all. You can't out exercise. or out workout, you know, what you're eating. If you're eating like a typical American, it just, it doesn't work. There's not enough time in the day, not enough hours.
And so we, you know, we work hard in this program. We, you know, we, we do a lot, probably more than, than, you know, most people around us fitness wise, but like, um, it won't make a difference. I mean, you guys have all seen it. The people at the gym who are there day in day out months and months and months.
I, I see the same people every day and some of them are, haven't changed a bit, you know, in the whole time I've, I've, I've been in the gym and had my whole transformation, you know, and so like, that's the part of the equation you just got to get down and, and then everything else falls into place.
Amazing. So how about we do this, Ryan? I'm going to see if there's anything else that you want to share with the team, because I know that there's going to be some questions, I think. So I want to leave a little time for that, but is there anything that I, and I want you to actually think here, because you are aligned right now. So is there anything that you feel like the men should know?
Like, if you were to teach him something or, I mean, you've got most of it out, but, you know, anything that you feel like you need to say.
I don't know, I mean... Be a savage? Just be a savage. Just do it. No, just, just be, be the discipline.
Be the discipline!
Inspire those around you.
Inspire, I, I love that, dude. That is so good. Okay, my friends. Uh, if you have, there's been hands, so we're gonna, Jay's had his hand up for a while, and then we'll hit Greg. Go for it. Go J, Mr. Three Stripe Brown Belt, O. G. Fightwear, hey, I gotta order a shirt from you, text me,
oh he's there, look it, he's there dude, he's training right now. I'm not, I'm not training because I got fresh ink, you gotta let the tattoo rest. I'm supporting, I'm supporting my brothers.
Good. That's amazing. All right, brother, what's your question? What you got?
What up, Ryan? My question is, are you
scared
that if you go ham again, that
that's going to happen again?
Do you have
fear or what's going on with that? So, let me translate. Are you talking about if he goes ham on the food?
No, on the chill failure. Like, the hard piece of the workout. Oh, on his head?
Oh, okay. Okay. I'm a slow one. Go
for it. Uh, so I definitely have been scared, um, especially as I first started getting back in the gym and when I started doing deadlifts again. I mean, that's something, because, you know, that increases your blood pressure a lot. There's no way around it.
I'm coming after you, Ryan. I want your deadlifts.
Keep going. And so, you know, and I've definitely felt like I had to limit myself, you know, like you have to strike a balance between where, you know, what, what failure really means because sometimes you can push yourself too far. And I did, you know, like, um, and so I think the key is just. Recognizing that and, and, uh, I'm, you know, I'm very careful to just, and always have been other than this air squad fiasco, but, um, like I'm always very careful to do progressive overload.
Like I'm not going to lift 365 pounds on the deadlift if I didn't first lift 360 pounds. Seriously, like those are the increments that I take. I go up by five. That's it. And, and, uh, you know, same with the squat, you know, like, um, so I think it's just a matter of doing one more rep or, or going up and wait, you know, just a little bit.
Um, and, uh, and just understanding, like, Or at least, at least trying to understand where those limits are so that you don't run into the same issues because, you know, there's plenty of other ways you can get injured too. I've been injured doing deadlifts just, uh, from being distracted, you know, during a lift, a heavy lift. And so, um, in, in years past. And so.
Here's a core value. We do not make decisions based on fear or scarcity.
Let's go.
Beautiful.
That's why you're all here. You made a decision to put down some money, a chunk of money, to have the opportunity to better yourself. Going the opposite route, like most people, they choose scarcity. They choose fear, and then they will never become anything near what Ryan has become. And they'll be chasing their tail for the rest of their goddamn lives, wondering why it's not working. So congratulations.
Greg. Greg's got his hand up. Muted. Yeah, I'm not muted. He's ready.
Yeah, I'm driving and it's dark. So I had my camera off. Um, yeah, it's got a couple of things to say. Yeah, I'm, I'm down with that micro loading, you know, I had half pound and three quarter and one pound plates, and you can really make some great progress, great linear progression to hit your limits. That's really good philosophy. Uh, that's good stuff and about the house fire. I burned my house down by accident in 2013. We lost everything.
So I got some, uh, I know what that feels like going through that whole process and scary, but yeah, man, Ryan, you are, you are a full on animal, man. Very impressive. Your physique and the flex and the flex, uh, Chat or whatever flex, uh, post blew me away. I'm like, this guy has just gotta point on. I think all that heavy lifting gives some real muscle density. Uh, just great physique. Um, let's go, but I'm gonna get jumped on for this. This is the point I wanted to say.
It seems like you bring some innate qualities to this whole process that we're. already there. Like you're meticulous, you're thoughtful, you're, um, I'm imagining, you know, a PhD, you're driven, uh, you're goal oriented. How much, how much do you think you brought to this process that is innate, that we, we hear?
I mean, you can hear it when you're talking, like, you got the flu, you know, like, screw this, you know, I'm still, it's going to cut back on my food, you know, I'm still going to hit my macros, um, I'm going to, you know, I can't. I can't work out at all, but I'm just going to go to the gym and sit.
How much of that whole process that you're relating those, uh, attitude or those qualities, do you feel you already had and how much do you think you developed or caught or grew from being part of this group?
Uh, I think, you know, I, I come from a background of like hardworking men, you know, like going back generations. And, you know, my dad is insanely hard worker, you know, the kind of guy that just He would work from six to seven or whatever every single day, day in, day out and, and, and do probably more than his share.
And so when it comes to just like grit, you know, like just, just the, if you, if I, if I want something and it's, it's my goal to have that thing, like I'm going to make it happen. Generally speaking. And so, you know, that's if you ask pretty much probably most PhDs, like it's not about being smart. It's not about. You know, any, you know, quality like that, even it's, it's really about like, how much can you suffer because that's what it is. It's a suffering mind.
And so, you know, from that perspective, yeah, like I've, I've been through it, you know, and, and have suffered in lots of other ways in life. And, and, uh. I mean, not that bad, I guess, but you know, yeah, but you know, like I know how to work hard. I know how to, to, uh, and I had that going into this program. Um, but, uh, I think it was more what this program did for me was more about aligning. My goals with, with what would be the most beneficial in the longterm for me and for my family.
And, and that was something that I think I didn't even know what I didn't know, right? Like there was, there was a lot of just like self reflection that came in even just a couple of weeks of being part of this. That I was like, holy crap, like I am not aligned at all. And I don't even, I don't get it, like this is, I have so much work to do, and it's not just on my fitness. And so I think that was the, the big eye opener for me, going into this. Beautiful. So
good. Let's go.
Thank you.
So, Kyle, you got something to say, Kyle? You got that look in your eye. He's got a look in his eye. There's a humility. Yes, that was literally the word that was coming out of my mouth, dude. Humility. That's exactly what was coming out of my mouth. Amazing.
You see, Ryan's got an ability to not lean on his strengths and took to it very naturally. And that's what, that's how we roll, man. We like to roll on like, well, look at all the stuff that I'm doing good. Look, I'm okay. I'm all right. That'll keep us stuck forever. Yep. We got to lean into our weaknesses and
no summit. That's it man
expose expose ourselves.
That's exactly it expose and admit to your weaknesses and And just crush them.
I mean because there's I mean, I just little things like I would eat out for lunch Constantly because I was too lazy I was too lazy to just put a sandwich together and an apple or whatever, you know Like just anything I could I couldn't do it My wife would be like, why can't you just take leftovers from the fridge, put it in a little Tupperware before you go to work, and then you have lunch, and it's healthier than whatever crap you're eating at lunchtime. Yup. Like,
it's too hard. I can't. I'm not able to. You made it your strength now. It's your strength now. That's what's crazy, dude.
Hey guys, I want us to hang out, but I gotta go get on this podcast. Yeah, go get on the
podcast. We're gonna, we'll take these two more comments and we'll wrap it up. Ty, we love you, bro. Love
you guys.
Thank you, Ryan. I'm proud of you, buddy. Yeah, go crush, go crush that podcast.
Thanks, man.
Alright, DDP. Who's the DP right there? I just see DP. Who's that? That's my brother in law. Oh, yeah, dude. Let's go. Go for it. And I think Chad had something too. Go for it. Hey, um, yeah,
so I'm Ryan's brother in law,
and I'm going to tell you, I was,
I'm breathing
heavy because I'm doing my walking, so
let's go! Bonus burn, baby! Anyway,
um, Ryan shocked the crap out of me when I saw the post and, uh, the picture grabbed my eye, but it was what the words that he said that shocked me because if, I mean, I don't want to talk bad about anybody because I love his wife.
She's my sister. Um,
and I only, I've known Ryan since they've been married. How long is that now? 15 years or so?
Going on 18 years. 18? So it's been that long already? Yeah. But I
only see Ryan a few times a year because I don't live in Livermore. Until this, uh, until this last year. Um, I've been going up to Livermore quite often. Pretty much every weekend for several months. One of the things that Ryan didn't mention is that he had to be there for his wife. The tragedy he was talking about is my mother passed away in June, and he has a couple of in laws, me and my sister, who gave him crap a lot when we were trying to get the house ready to sell.
And I know that when my sister, you know, when I'm around, my wife and I would go away, I was thinking, man, Andrea is really hard on Ryan. You know, and, and I always were trying to think of ways to, to, to, to talk to my sister and, and say, don't be so hard on him. I see the stuff that he does. He, he, he does so much for you. But when I read the post and when I'm hearing him tonight, I'm telling you, your mind could be right. Your body could be right. Your spirit could be right.
Your heart could be right. But if they're not all right together, you can't do what you need to do for your family. And when he, that story that he wrote on the Facebook post. It's inspired me to start. I've done years of, of mind, you know, working on my mind. Uh, my wife got me into that years ago. I, I poo pooed it for a long time saying, Oh, that's such a bunch of mumbo jumbo. And then I, uh, then I saw Ed Milet speak once and he chewed me up and spit me out.
But I've never been able to get all of those things right together. And when I, when I read Ryan's post, it just inspired me to no end to see the direction that he turned because he easily could turn the other way. Thank you.
Easily, and he just, I don't know, I don't know how else to say it, but you're my inspiration for this, brother, and I'm so grateful that you sacrificed so hard for this, um, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get there, and it's because of you that got me started here, trying to get everything right together, instead of just one at a time. It's never gonna work one at a time. That's all I want to say. Yeah,
that's what I'm talking about, dude. Thank you. All right, Joey. What you got, Joey? What's up? What's up brother? Good to see you.
Yeah.
Hey, so I was just gonna go back to what, what
he was talking about and, uh, you know, having the mindset, like a hardworking mindset
and being able to kind of wheel things and, you know, manifest things. And I felt like I've been able to do that my whole life, you know, with career and where I wanted to be in life. Why the, I can't seem to grasp it with this, you know, with with, with my health,
with my fitness. It's just like, I don't know what it's, man, I can't get ahold of it.
And like, I get there, I do good, and then, got a little
slip up. Do good, get a little slip up. So it's
just, you know, keeping control of it. How, I'm just curious
how he went about that. How he pivoted. What was your pivot, Ryan?
I, I don't know. I can't like, pin it on one thing exactly, but I think it's just the realization that that it's all tied together, you know, and I, and I think that's one of the things that has just been drilled into me in this program is that you're not being your best self if, if you're carrying around an extra 50 pounds, like I was and or a hundred or more. What is the trigger that causes the, the discipline, right? Like, to, to be able to just go in day in, day out and, and hit your macros.
But there's got to be something in there. I
got a question for you. When it was really hard, when you had the brain pain, and, and you were hungry, and your wife is yelling at you, what made you still hit your macros? What were you thinking about?
I think, you know, it wasn't so much the abs, and that wasn't it. Exactly. You know, I didn't even think that was possible at that point for me. Um, so for me, it was. It was thinking about the alignment, you know, and, and being, and the commitment, you know, like we, we go into this making a commitment and I try to keep my commitments to the best level that I can. You're never going to be perfect in it. I mean, I just shared last week, like.
I had a pizza binge, you know, like, that was such a good share to Friday or Saturday. I don't remember. But, um, you know, and it happens and you just forgive yourself and, and, uh, recognize like that tomorrow's another day, but you better be having more wins than losses. You know, like, that's, that's the key. And that's all. Yeah. You
love trends. Ryan loves trends. Yeah. So, um, beautiful. Joey, that was a great question, man. Um, and we'll, we'll touch more on that. Feel free to reach out to me and bring it up again in the, in another Zoom call. We'll tackle this, bro. We got your back. Like, it's not easy for any of us, and we understand, dude. And there's no judgment, there's no shame. This is so cool that you're able to just say that. Like, this is really hard. It is hard, so, but you're gonna do it.
You're gonna do it, bro. So, alright boys. Ryan, I'm just going to say the word that comes to mind is lovely. I mean, that was lovely. That was just, it was perfect. It was beautiful. I'm fulfilled. I feel, you know, my cup is full. So thank you. Um, if anybody did not get to say something and wanted to share with Ryan, you know, reach out to me. I can connect you or you can post it in the chat. But if there's something that needs to be said, please don't hold it in.
We'll make sure that it gets to him. Okay? Thank
you, Ryan! Thank you, thank you, thank you. Yeah,
you make me feel like a pussy.
Every time I get on one of these calls, I want to start over. I want to go get chatted to him so I can get posted like one of his savages every time. I know, dude. It's ridiculous. I love you guys. Alignment. We'll cut again soon. Michael Davis. We'll cut, you and I, we'll
cut again soon. It's our turn soon again. So anyways, um, I, I know, see I'm lingering. It's, it's like, ah, it's so warm in here. But we must, we must end. So, uh, I'll post this to Zoom up later. Again, we're here for you boys. Any, anytime, anything. Let's go.
Peace. Thanks everybody. Thank you.
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the reason why, why I'm here, I'm, there's something universally, there's something in the universe that I really believe puts us where we belong when we're ready to go there, you know? And I, I was unhappy as a husband, unhappy as a father, unhappy in my job, unhappy in my fitness, full of fear, worry, doubt, indecision, zero courage, no action. I mean, the list goes on and on and on. I spent years. Not even looking at myself in the mirror when I brush my teeth.
And that's, I'm being really honest about that because I didn't like what I saw looking back at me,