Your Chairlift or Mine?

remember over? That's thank you cop crop crop. Anyways, we're gonna mix it up a little bit this episode. We want to just dive int sae emails right away. We got some guests later on. We're gonna have Brittany from Tim Taylor Tasian Island. We're gonna have Melissa Brown um to discuss relationships, and we're gonna have Erica. I'm going to butcher this last name Kaibartes in here as well. I think that's how you say it. Who is a matchmaker? So um, we're going to dive into all those guests

a little bit later. Before we do that, I figured, you know, why not, we'll stir up a little bit. Because if there's anything that time has proven is that if you defy convention, good things happen. And that's what we're doing right now. We've never opened with emails. No, it's probably gonna the number one listened to the episode. Well, here's Alice. She wants to know. She says, I chose to pursue a career that has been my lifelong passion. However,

I have never been in a relationship. Dean, from what I understand, you feel a similar way. But do you think you will ever reach a point where you're completely satisfied with who you are and where you're at in life? Then she asked the question to Jared, but I'll he's not here today, but I'll throw this out to both of you as well. The Alice points out that when Ashley first one on The Bachelor, she had never been in a relationship at twenty six. Would you say that

before you got to know her? That was a turn off for a red flag? So I'd ask you, guys, if you met somebody who was in there late twenties at least it has never been in a relationship, would that be a red flag to you? Probably? Since the short and sweet and simple answer. Hold on, what's your definition of a relationship? For me has to be at least like a year or two year relationship. If it's like, I don't think that you can define someone else's relationship.

I think if someone says, yeah, I used to have a girlfriend, nition is yeah. But I mean I can say I had a boyfriend for a month, but that's just someone that I was casually dating for a month. So what I would have to know what is being a relationship? In my opinion, it's when you put the label on. It is when you start calling someone your girlfriend or when you start to consider yourself their boyfriend. Yeah,

but let's say you're dating someone for three months. You think a three month relationship is the same thing as a one year relationship, So you don't have you don't go through like the waves of the ups and downs as opposed to someone who is dating a significant or significant other for an extended period of time. So anyways, my point is, yeah, it would be a little bit of a red flag. Well, it depends on the relationship. I think there can be very intense, powerful three month

relationships and there could be very casual three year relationships. True, very true, right. I do want to point out earlier in the email, she says that her and I are similar because she chose to pursue a career that's been her lifelong passion, and so she's never been in a relationship. We don't really have that in common. I usually you'm pointing that out, and here we go, we started the

episode again. That's not even self deprecation. That's why I've been very vocal about my um my moving through life very ambiguously and uncertainly of where I'm going to be next. Um So, I think that she's kind of saying she make the relationships take a back seat to her career, which is fine. I love women who are pursuing their careers as opposed to pursuing and looking for their significant other or men or whatever. Just you know, I think nowadays,

in nineteen, we shouldn't only be focusing on love. We should be focusing on things that make us happy and internally we can give that love back and to circle it background. I think what Alice is saying is now I am focusing on traveling and doing the things that I've always wanted to do, and by that by working on myself and finding love with myself is will help me find love downline. I think that's what she's saying,

because that's kind of what she mentioned later on. I've only just started do that recently, so I guess when I think of a career, I think of it since I was eighteen years old. But I do see what you saying. I guess I do agree with her. I

think that's perfectly great. I think that there's there's that famous quote, fall in love when you're ready, not when you're lonely, And if you're pursuing something that you're very passionate about, like your career, you'll always you'll never be lonely because you will always have that that you're working on, striving for to be better at, and then when love comes,

you're ready for it. We had a quote yesterday and scrubbing In that seemed to strike a chord with a lot of the scrubbing in listeners the scrubbers as we call them, and it was needing nothing attracts everything. I mean, if you are completely happy with where you are and what you are and who you are, then that is a very attractive quality to have, not somebody who's kinds of the look of a relationship who's still working on themselves, that sort of thing, focus on you first. That's great.

I love that. I don't know why I didn't think of that. Dang, it all upset myself. Jasmine sends this and she says, I really identify with what Dean has said about feeling non monogamous. In my ideal partnership, I will be open to intimacy with other people, probably friends, but not always. I started seeing someone I really love spending time with, but during a casual conversation, he expressed that he is monogamous. We've only been dating for a month,

but it feels so good. But is it fair for me to keep dating him knowing that I truly think I'm non monogamous. I think it's fair. I think I wonder if maybe an a monogamous person in a non miss person could still date. I don't see it would be challenging. I certainly think it'll present its challenges, but I don't think it's impossible. I hear scoffing from Canada. Uh No, anxiety just kicked in. I wouldn't be able to date someone who isn't wired the same way I'm wired.

In terms of being monogamous. Sure, I'm not I'm not. Again, I'm not saying it's ideal. I don't think it's going to be easy, but I think it's certainly possible, especially if he's open to it. Maybe his monogamy lies in the fact that he doesn't want to stray to others, but he doesn't mind if his partners strays to others stray. Maybe it's a loose term in that sense, but he's open to like letting her do her thing, but he's gonna stay monogamous himself, you know what I mean, M boy.

I don't think a monogamus person could handle that. Like I said, I think it would be challenging, but I don't think it's entirely off the table. Could a non monogamous person find the person that makes them a monogamoust? Sure? Probably? Yeah? Yeah? Um well, Dean, do you feel that way? Do you feel like right now you're in a state of not

really wanting to be monogamous? Would if someone that you're like, oh my god, this person is my ideal person blah blah blah blah, whoever it is, and they want to have a monogamous relationship, would you months. Okay, No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Um. It's funny because i've actually ever since obviously we talked about initially on this podcast a couple of months ago. I bring it up with friends, uh female friends, and I always say, hey, would you ever

consider being in a polyamorous relationship? That's what it's called polyamorous, right, I guess is that when you have multiple partners, like you're all like a thruples when a woman has more than one husband, and polygan miss is what a man is more than one wife. So what would be the same if like both partners have multiple partners? I guess. I guess The question that I always ask is would you be interested in a polly or would you be open to the idea of a polly relationship? Because that

on a date, not of you on date. It's just like friends with lifelong friends of like you know obviously females who are dating all that kind of stuff. Um, and you know obviously they know my uh tainted track record with dating and how challenging it's been for me to be in these monogamous relationships. So I asked them openly, I'm like, hey, what are your thoughts on a polly relationship,

and every single one of them is absolutely not. They always say absolutely Now I know someone who is right now kind of dating someone who is not really monogamous, and I I love the amount of honesty that goes on in those kinds of relationships, because when you're in a monogamous relationship, there's all these like unwritten rules that

you think apply to every relationship. But then when you're in an open one, you you're open, You're you're kind of forced to being open about things that you're doing with other partners that may potentially That's all it boils down to at the end of day's communication. And it's a challenge most challenging part because we're conditioned to like think that we're supposed to be monogamous, whether it's biological

or whatever. I'm not here to argue that point. But if you if you have thoughts about other people and you're in a monogamous relationship or conditioned to think that we should keep those thoughts secret, and then we should share those shots thoughts with a partner, And if you have them and you start sharing them, you gotta be a challenging conversation. But it could ultimately lead to I don't know, better feelings for each other and and just

maybe happy yes for everyone involved. But again it's challenging. I don't know, Like like the non monogamous thing is, uh, it has to be done right. There's a lot of rules that need to be late and I believe it has to be done right. Um. So for Jasmine in her case, like she said, she's seeing someone that's monogamous and she really likes him, but she thinks she's polly. Um tell him absolutely, There's there's no getting around that.

And unless you don't want to tell him, because here's the thing, you're not gonna want to talent, because he's gonna leave. He's not gonna be But I doubt he leaves is my thing. I don't think leave. I really don't. Okay, but if you're, if you're happy now, I wonder if you drop that grenade on him right now, because maybe you keep that to yourself and see where this goes,

because maybe this is the guy. But what happened, But what happened in the Mark that always used to say, be yourself, be open and honest, even with your shortcomings, and then let the people that are gonna love you for those shortcomings, love you for their shortcoming, because I don't think that being a nonmonogamist, And maybe this is me being insensitive, and I'm sorry if that's the case. I don't see it as a shortcoming. I also don't see it as a trait as a I'm gay, I'm straight,

I'm Christian. You know, there are certain things about you that are kind of set in some degree of stone. I'm not sure nonmonogamy is set in stone. I really don't like anything you just said. I'll be honest. Do you feel like if you didn't have any of those experiences, would you you be open to just being monogamous? Because I feel like you've been jaded, and you've been jaded because of you know, some things that you've gone through

in the bashelor world and personal things like that. Do you feel like if those experiences haven't hadn't happened to you, you would want to be open to monogamy. At the end of the day, it's not something I'm not open to monogamy. It's just that we all go through phases in life, right and right now, I'm in a phase where being in a relationship doesn't interest me, not for the fact of monogamy, but for the fact that it can kind of put restrictions on the lifestyle that I

want to live. I eat, traveling and going skydiving and what it do. I understand what you're saying, but I'm just saying that the main driving factor for me to not want to be in a relationship right now isn't monogamy. Well, monogamy is a fear on the list. It's not number one. It's not the one reason preventing me from wanting to

be in a relationship with someone. And then when I when I have conversations with people at seeing that they're open to Paulli, it's it's more so for me to just kind of probe and understand people's reactions to that a little bit better because it's such a new thought to me at least to be vocal about, you know, Explain to me, Um, you just referred to it as a phase, which is all I was kind of saying, is this could be a phase you're going through. Explain

to me, just like being gay or being Christian. No, I don't see those as phases. Maybe I misinterpreted so you'd misinterpreted. He's saying that it's not like I guess, like a label, right, is that what you're saying? More, I'm saying that whether you're gay, or you're straight, or your Christian or your Jewish, those things are fairly set in stone. I don't think non monogamy is necessarily Okay, okay, I kind of see what you're saying, but I still don't necessary more of a phase where I don't see

those other things as phases. I feel like those are lifelong commitment. Okay, okay, okay, yep, now that makes sense to me. Okay, all right, I can't for the day Dean comes in. He's like, oh my god, I'm in love with so and so, and you're never gonna want to go on another day with anyone. I mean. The thing with me, though, is I fall in love very easily and quickly, but then I fall out of it just as quick. I don't know. I have addiction to My therapist told me I have an addiction to novelty,

and I still think that's true. I love experiencing new things and then when they're no longer a novelty to me, Yeah, it's interested in like a sister wife situation. You're interested in seeing a person for a while and then another person for a while. The novelty of new people. Right, it's not even people, but yeah people places things. Yeah, okay, okay, And I know that's not fair, like it's it's unfair

to bring someone into that situation. Um, but yeah. My therapist told me that she's, yeah, you have an addiction, addiction and novelty. And I was like, I try to like she was like racking my brain to try to argue with her, and I couldn't come up with an argument. I was like, all right, let's take a quick break and then we have our first guest here. In a second, she's with something called It's just lunch. If you're tired of vading apps, this is a new way to meet

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who's from As Mark said, it's just welts are you there? Hi? An? Hello, how are you? Thank you so much for calling in today? Hi Melissa? Hi, thanks for having me. Oh my gosh. Of course some Melissa tell us what what exactly is? It's just lunch. So it's just lunch. We are a personalized match making service. So we're not an app, we're not online. Um, we're an alternative to do an app aroundline. Um. But basically our clients work with matchmakers. So we set

up dates for our clients. Um, and we'll set up lunch dates or we'll do drinks after work. Okay, And how do people I guess find you guys? Then? Is it just all word of mouth? Yeah? Yeah, Actually a lot of our clients do come from word of mouth and referrals. Um, that's actually the number one way. But you know, we're out there. We're in a bunch of cities across the United States. UM, but we have a website and UM we obviously UM reach our clients either

through our online efforts for they'll call in. They'll hear about us and call in UM and so typically they'll just check us out see what we're all about first before they actually speak to a live mass taker. And so do you do you notice a trend in singles? I guess I don't know the age range that you guys typically work with, but are they moving away from those dating apps? Do you tend to see that they are?

It's it's actually a real thing. And I don't know if you've heard about UM I r L, but dating in real life is it's actually like a new phenomena where people are really ditching the apps right now. UM. They want that alternative. They want to actually date in real life. UM. You know, we believe personally it's just lunch that you really can't predict chemistry unless you meet that person phase to phase. I mean you have to

be sitting across for that person. You have to have that interaction UM and wiping and winking and not even actually going on a real date, you know, is it? Is it really challenging way to actually, you know, meet the love of your life. You have to get in front of us and meet face to face. Well, one of the benefits that I could think of that comes

right to mind off of a dating app. Of course, you're gonna have a lot of conversations, but you can kind of gauge the chemistry before you meet with them face to face. So that was my question. Is it a blind date? So we're so it depends no. Typically no, a lot of our memberships, you know, they do see photos, so they do have that pixel in front of them. They you those pictures which pretty much what you see online.

But even then, I mean, yes, you may say, okay, I can tell that you know, they're pretty, I could tell their handsome, I could tell them attracted to them, but you really can't tell until you see their smile, until you see the way they communicate, you know, until you hear that laugh. I mean, there's so much more to chemistry than just a picture and looks and and so. But it is a good way. I mean, I think starting off having a sense of of who that person

is is important. Um, but with that dark clients, you know, like to utilize the personalized matchmaker because they kind of stepped through all the nose for them, they could just focus on the ones that they wanted me and not have to get through all the nose, you know, to find that. Yes, so what would you see is the most top trending qualities that a man is looking for and a woman or a man is looking for a

man or in their potential partner. Yeah, well, I think for I mean, for men, it is a lot of it is looked, I mean, and for men and women will know within the first twenty minutes they want to see that person again. Really, yeah, it is pretty quick. No, I'm surprised. I'm surprised that it takes a date period. I thought it would take at least three because the first day you're just trying to gauge and see, like, you know, how should I act her on this person

just to get a second get a second date? And then after the second day that's when you really start to know, or the third day, you really start to know with the person's true colors, or at least I mean true colors. I hopefully think it's funny hearing both of your responses to that because so typical you're thinking it takes oh my gosh, twenty minutes so long, and then you're saying it's it's not long enough. Um, And so you know it is it is. You know a

lot of times with men it is looks. But for for both men and women, I mean, they're pretty quick to tell right away if they want to meet that person again. And what do you see yourself? What is your the success rate of it's just launch versus like a typical or traditional dating. What's a traditional So so for us, um, you know we are we focused on first date. UM. So we do get to uh develop relationships obviously with our clients because we do get to

know them really well over the course they're memberships. Um. Sometimes we don't always hear about all the success stories unfortunately, but you know, for us, you know, a successful date was a successful first date and that they want to you know, that they want to see each other again, and that they exchange phone numbers and that they ultimately had a great time meeting that person. Um. We do

hear success stories all this all the time. In fact, we probably hear every day, if not twice a day on different stories of clients that got married or got engaged, so we of course love hearing those. Yeah, of course. Well so so if you're almost strictly a first date service, how many I have a question, And I don't know how many times are you willing to work with someone before you're no longer willing to work with them? Like, how many first dates are you willing to set someone

up on? Oh my gosh, we never throw in the towel over here, I mean we always we we always look at datings. You've got to be proactive, and that's actually one of my pieces of advice that I always give clients is have an open mind and don't throw in the dating towel. Just because you haven't met your special someone doesn't mean it's not going to happen. You just have. But you never see anyone like abusing this

as them Now. They're not getting second dates because they're not interesting, but they're not getting second dates just because they're like, I want to see as many first dates I can go on. So you're like thinking about like serial data. Yeah, okay, So well, we were a fee based service and so our clients are typically a little bit more serious and that the app and maybe some of them more of the freest type because there is an investment that's made, and so when they're investing, they're

obviously taking dating a little bit more serious. A lot of our clients, you know, are looking for relationships, They are looking to get married. Um, they are looking to be with the one, even if it's not marriage again, or they're just taking dating very serious. You know, they

want to they want to go on meaningful dates. Well, so I'm gonna be honest, when when you said that you were a fee based service, I thought you were going to follow it up by saying we'll send them as on as many first dates as they want, because that means we're they're paying us more money. Well, we actually would love our I'll meet someone, um, but of course if a client hasn't met someone, it's just it just it happens. I mean, it's still dating. We don't

have a crystal fall. We can predict a marriage, and we can't predict chemnistry, but you know, we can get pretty close to it and we can work with the client directly. And that's part of working with the matchmaker is is that feedback, the interaction, all those discussions about what you are looking for, so we can get as close as possible. But there are clients you know that they have kids, a lot of frogs to find their prints,

and that's okay. You know, we want to keep working with them and help them, you know, find their one and eventually it will happen. I guess I want to know. So, Unlissa, you're married, right, I am, Yet, what advice? I have two questions. What advice would you give to our listeners who are in a relationship, are looking to have a healthy relations relationship. What advice would you give to UM to those listeners and to how many matchmaker as you have?

And how many of those matchmakers are married? Oh my gosh, Well, we have a ton of match stickers throughout our offices, and depending on the size of the location, you know, we may have two to four in one particular location. I mean, I think maybe there's some offices that even have sex matchmakers for a particular city. UM. I actually I don't know that death of how many are married. I mean, our clients are all different ages, our matchmakers are all different age ranges. We have, UM, but I

don't know how many are actually married. I know, for me, when I wasn't married, I personally would have loved to to date through its just lunch. Obviously we can't. We can't do that. Um So I had a fine alternative ways to meet my husband, right, And how did you meet your husband? We went at the dog park. You're not gonna be a perfect first state to a one,

I know, well, it definitely. You know, even our clients that are dating through us, we always tell them be proactive, like still put yourself out there, you know, go to the dog part, go to a party that you maybe wouldn't normally go to, try a new coffee spot, you know, get out there and put yourself in situations that you normally would to be in because you may come across or be introduced to someone that you normally would not meet.

I mean, I I see what you're doing, and I think it's a great idea because, like you said, it's a lot more challenging to meet someone. Especially one of my big gripes with dating apps, as great as they can be, you know, you can get connected to a lot of people through them, um but the mindset changes a little bit when you decided to drop the dating

app and take it more seriously. Again, it's not a spot that I'm in right now, but there is just a different mindset when it comes to dating offline versus online. Right And so are you guys dating right now? Are you? What are you guys doing? Vanessa and I are boyfriend and girlfriends. Know, I'm happily in really a very very new relationships. So or at the beginning stages of still getting to know each other. I'm single, is traveling and

he's single, non monogamous. Oh my god, that's for him to say, we need to we need to put a definition on what actually through it this one we should get you on from its state. I mean, I really appreciate the offer, but I don't think I'm ready for

that right now to be ready. And you know what, I can totally appreciate that response because you know, you want to be ready for this type of experience, you know, because you know that you're going to be meeting people who are serious, and so we want our clients to have the same in return. So I can appreciate that, honestly. So what cities are is based out of you You're mentioning multiple locations earlier. We are, so our website actually

has a list of all of our cities. I mean, we're pretty much across the United States, so any major city we're definitely in. And then we're also in Canada and we service Yeah I know, I don't. Aren't you from Canada? I am? And every time I like hear these services or some like products that we're talking about, I'm like, well, is it featured in Canada? They're like, not yet, So that makes me really really happy. Do you know which cities in Canada are Montreal or I am? Okay?

So unfortunately we don't have an office there though yet, Pessa. But we are in Toronto and we service clients in Calgary and Edmonton, Vancouver, Victoria. So Montreal is next. We gotta we gotta start setting singles up there. Oh and there's a lot of singles out here, so I'm sure I'm sure they're going to be making use of your services. Yeah, that would be a good, that'd be good. Are there a lot of singles in Montreal? Single girls? Are guys?

Single people girls? One of your biggest Montreal had single guys in Montreal. That's single girls. Right. We'll get into that conversation later, deem, but I'll explain why it was so hard for me to date in Montreal. Okay, it's it's a very different city as its supposed to you know, Toronto or l A. They're more close minded when it comes to anyway. That's a whole other conversation. Could you meet your significant other but not that you're your new

guy in Montreal or is he from somewhere else? No, so he's from Montreal and I haven't dated anyone in Montreal in the last seven years, so it was a very big deal for me. Um. Yeah, and it's it's been. It's been fun and exciting, but it's still a very beginning stages of the relationships, so we're still getting to know each other. It's the fun stages. It is. It's fun, but it's also scary because like when am I going to find out and Julia will last? Because it's not

gonna be fun forever. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. When you say when you say it's the fun stages, you make it sound like there's only a short amount of fun to be had, it's finite, and then it doesn't exist anymore. Oh boy, alright, you have the butterfly sage. Yeah, the butterfly. Um okay, Melissa. So for the listeners out there that want to consider giving It's just Lunch to try, where can they find you guys? You know what, I have a good to our website because that way you can

get some more information about who we are, our process. Um, there's a great page that just kind of a answer is all commonly asked questions. You can see some of our matchmakers. UM. So I would go to It's just lunch dot com and there, you know, you can read up on us and then you can contact us. Your phone numbers listed there, or you can actually just you know, request to speak to a matchmakers for our website as well. Amazing.

So there you go. If you're listening to this and you want to get rid of the dating apps, you want to meet someone in real life. As Melissa puts it, go to It's just lunch dot com. Check it out. Um, Melissa, Well, thank you so much for calling in today. We really appreciate it. We love what you're doing. I think any chance people in two nineteen can get to disconnect, it's always beneficial. I love it and get it get it in, Get it in Coebec. Girl, We've got to get these

Montreal single people and starting to match at all. Right, we're on it. We got it. Thank you so much, Melissa. We'll talk too soon. Thank you, take care bye. Can before we jump into something else? Can we can we define what monogamy? Let's do it. I think it's time. Should you want me to like google it and reading? Let me ask you what's the difference between a non monogamous and a guy who gets a player? No, well, there's a huge difference. So when I the honesty behind it,

is that what it is? Yeah, if I'm dating someone who's saying, hey, I want to date you, but I also want to see if there's other people I can date, I'll I'll respect him a lot more as opposed to someone who's doing it behind my back. Because when I when I keep saying non monogamous, I keep I feel like I feel like people keep thinking that, like I'm sleeping with someone every weekend or something like that, which isn't the case that that was a replayer would be

I guess someone that's sleeping. Oh, don't you fart your lips at me. Um, it's just that I'm just not I just said like I'm I'm basically a sexual At this point, I feel like do like a to a degree, you know what I mean? Um, And so when I say now I'm monogamous, what I mean is I guess that's why I want to hear. What you guys have to say about it, is it you're dating people, but then while you're dating them, you're also telling those people

that you're dating other people. If they ask you, are you just coming out right and saying it right away. I think there's different rules that apply to different relationships. If I weren't with someone just knowing how I am, and I think I have a little bit of chest issues, I would want to know everything, so I wouldn't want to know just There's this one movie on Netflix. It's

called Newness. Have you heard of it? It's good in the sense that it explains like relationships nowadays and how people start dating each other and then they're open into their They're opening themselves up to the possibility of dating other people and the fact that they have to be honest with each other. But then one secret becomes another bigger secret and another bigger secret, and then it starts like the snowball effect, and then just ruin the relationship.

So I think there there has to be rule rules. I mean, this is coming from someone who is monogamous, so maybe this is complete like BS, but I would assume there has to be a ton of rules in order to still have that level of respect for each other, especially especially if you're sleeping with other people. That that's a whole other risk factor for your health. So let me ask you this, and don't use your current relationship

as an example. Maybe just speak generally about your life when you at what point in a relationship with talking to a guide you become non monogamous. I'm sorry the second you start a conversation with that, you're not talking to a single other guy. I'm not physically seeing anyone else. I'm not, Um, I'm not. And I think this is one of my uh the fool on how to stay in English, Like, I don't know how to keep my options open and I do tend to put all my

eggs in one basket. And I guess that's why I get my heartbroken in the end, because I didn't take things slow and my expectations are very high from early on. So yeah, I think that's but that's but that's something I know that I've realized about myself. I'm not saying that's what people should do, and they should do the opposite. I think being open to dating more than one person.

I don't know, because at what point do you say in the relationship, Hey, the beginning stages of relationship just give me anxiety because I'm like, are you sleeping with anyone else? Do I need to? You know? Is that what you're saying to them when you say I'm a non monogamoust Are you saying I could sleep with somebody else tomorrow if I wanted to? Because I think that's

a fear. Is the safety element? You don't want to be with a guy who's sleeping with other people when you're not around, whether it's behind your back or you're upping up about it right right? But if someone like you said the difference between the players that they're going to be doing it behind your back and you have no idea. But if someone like Dean is honest about it, then I want to say, Okay, what are the rules rules? What are our boundaries? What are we willing to compromise?

And what are we willing what are we willing to be comfortable with? Sure? Maybe This is just one of the other one of the unteen reasons why I just avoid relationships altogether. Oh my god, alright, I don't know. We have another guest on the line. It's also darn confusing. We do have another guests. Think about this. We'll take another break, but think about this. Wouldn't it be a great way to get to know somebody on the chairlift

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to know each other. Is that right? So tell us about that because obviously we have in front of us here, but tell the listeners what that method is and what what you kind of where it kind of came from, what gave you the idea, and what you saw when you were in Wisconsin. Sure, so, UM Wilmot, we went

to a awesome surlisting events. We partnered with UM these key resorts there and they were hosting a speed dating event and I was there to help UM, you know, the single UM events partakers up and so really it was just an awesome vibe there was. It was knowing UM, there's a lot of participants. Everyone was really excited to be there, and we had people of all ages that were there. UM I'd say about fifty people part book

in the event. A lot of people. UM, we're just at the sea resort and they wanted to send up last minute, so they did. That was awesome, and so myself and another inch maps maker UM started coordinating and setting everyone up and then once we had successful matches, we sent them up on the lift. And that's kind of how it went. Doan I feel like you'd be into this? Yeah, I mean it's more up my alley than uh sitting down for a drink for sure. Yeah.

About three minutes, Well, there's that, and there's the aspect of shared interest, which I think is pretty important. Um. Okay, so Megan, so you, like you said, you had people sign up beforehand, but you also had just basically people walk in that saw you kind of advertising it and they're like, hey, we're interested. That's what it sounds like. What was the division of male female? Was it? So it wasn't exactly fifty fifty, but it was closer than

what I thought it was going to be. UM. And so there was everyone successfully met a match, Everyone went up on the c lift with someone from the event. UM. And actually there was an interesting situation that had happened. Everyone had went up and there was one woman behind. She was in her later twenties, and I was just like, hey, you know what, let's just go find you someone, right,

So her and I just went up the hill. We started walking towards the list, and coincidentally, this gentleman who looked like he was probably in his twenties too, he came down, um the hill, you be down the hill and I just kind of started, you know, conversing with him, and I said, Hey, you know, you wouldn't happen to be single, would you, he's like, no, I am a single and he's like, I didn't pay for this event though, I'm like, no, that's fine. And I introduced them and

UM I saw them go. I stood at the bottom of the left because I was watching, you know, how successful things were going and how things were going. And UM, I saw them go up and down um the hills together multiple times and they totally hit it all. You like, you're like the best friend every girl wants to have, just randomly going up to guys and saying like, hey, are you single? Um? So, what was some of the interests? And I had asked um. I had asked Melissa this earlier.

What are some of the interests that people have, like qualities that they were looking for. Obviously they have like the interest of wanting to be physically in shape or not even but just like having the interests of skiing or snowboarding. What are some other things that people were looking for? Sure, So, you know, obviously a lot of people, it just depends on what everyone has different pieces and

different styles. UM. I see a lot of people looking for people who are active, UM advent for its you know, they someone who just kind of you know, goes to work Monday through Friday and then just kind of watch the movies on the weekend. They want someone who is willing to be spontaneous and excited. Um, And I love I love seeing that everyone you know to to really want something exciting and um. You know, most people are just looking for someone genuine, someone who they can communicate

well with, and you know, someone who's not too uptight. Um. Everyone you know, Like I said, everyone's different, piece are a little different. Everyone's kind of looking for something different. But I see more often than not people looking for someone who they can, you know, be spontaneous and go on fun trips with and just have fun with. Vanessa, would you ever do something like that? Yeah, I think I don't know if I would have signed up for it,

because I am some who's extremely spontaneous. Well maybe not as much as Dean, but I am someone who is spontaneous. And I think if I was at the hill and I would have seen a sign to say sign up, and I was single at the time, I totally would have done it because it's what you're It's three minutes of your time or however long it takes to go up a ski lift, and if you like the person. Then it's like, Okay, well if you don't like them romantically, you can still become friends with them and go skiing

down the hill with them. So I think it's it's a really cool concept. But I assume if people do sign up, um to be a part of this, they're not necessarily getting a background check at the mountain. But if you are a member, then you are getting a background check or people are getting background checks. So we obviously, you know, take a lot into consideration, um when it goes into that type of you know, pre represents and and looking and um, you know, providing the security. UM,

I just do. I'm certainly a matchmaker here, so I, um, you know, work on what everyone's looking for. I um make sure that I'm setting my clients up with people who are exactly what they're looking for and they have

a lot of common interests and UM. So that's what my job is here is just thinking sure that my clients are meeting people who they're compatible with and who they have similar interests um with And that's kind of my definitely my main goal is to make sure that I'm setting people up with people who you know, they're going to have an incredible first date with and Megan beyond interview, what other Uh, what's something similar? Like, what's

what else? Could you guys do you know? Like what's next? Sure? Absolutely, well this. We really liked this event because it was so different. Um, it's a great idea that I'm definitely so I think that this is going to not only encourage myself, but encourage you know, the other mapmakers. Um. And it's just fun to really think differently and to go out of the box when it comes to event. I mean, you know, we're working with people who are I was surprised at how many people have showed up.

I was so excited to see that that many people have signed up because, to be honest, that's kind of scary to I mean, definitely go out of going out of your comfort zone and doing something that, um, you know, not everyone's the most comfortable with. They didn't know if you know, who they were going to need or what it was gonna be like. So they definitely put, you know, their trust in us, and I'm really happy to see

how successful it was. It was incredible. So I'm definitely starting to brainform with my team and we are thinking of you know, the most unique ways to set singles up use them. So um yeah, I can't have anything exactly lined up right now, but I am definitely using that unique activity to make sure that you know, um we we just continue going up from here and get you know, incredible singles everywhere. Um to interact based to face.

I I love you know, something that I had noticed was and I said this to someone who asked me, They're like, you know how successful these things this event was? And I'm like, look around. You know, We've been just for three and a half hours and I haven't seen one person on their cell phone. And you know, it's amazing. Yeah, I mean the volumes and everyone was just engaging, and I mean we had people in their early twenties to their sixties and everyone was talking even year olds. We're

talking that the twenty year old you know. Yeah, just like being able to connect even if you don't connect with someone romantically, everyone is looking for a form of connection out there, and I think that's a beautiful thing that what you guys are doing. Yeah, it's incredible. I'm so happy to be a part of it. I'm happy to part of it too, not through you. Yeah, thank yeah, thank you for calling and so for listeners that might be interested and uh, interested in seeing an event or

tending an event. I'm sorry later on, are they able to find out the website? It's just lunch. Yeah, absolutely, um, just you know, researcher local. It's just FUNS Office. You can always call us to um and we'd be more than happy to you know, providing me all the information about the events that we host. We are busy, we love to connect people's face to face UM, so we're always posting events and yeah, absolutely, just get your local. It's just FUNS Office. A call and they'd be more

than happy to providing you that information. Yeah. Well, thank you so much for sharing, and thank you for doing what you guys are doing, connecting people, uh in interesting locations like that. Like that's awesome. Absolutely, thank you guys so much for having me. Thank you bye bye. But it's really interesting a snowboard, really interesting concept. Yeah, you're on the lift, you're meeting people. Yeah, it depends how

many how many fireball shooters I've had that day. If I'd be willing to do something like that, you know, like I said, I don't think I would have signed myself up. I think if it was there. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, I was talking to Dean. He wants a much bigger chair your way up. He's gonna want to fit a lot of people in there. He's not he's not comfortable with the one on one show. This is what I'm talking about. I hate where this is skewing.

It's skewing in the direction I don't want it. Dan, tell me about Brittany Rose and why you wanted her on the show today. Brittany Rose. So we had the host of Temptation island Mark Wallbury. That's right, Marky mark Um. And I mentioned Brittany a little bit because so when I moved to Venice like two years ago, I moved into this wonderful little bungalow with a couple of my

friends moved out of there. And you know, obviously when you move out of a house, you get a lot of mail sent to that old address before you are able to relocate everything to your new one. And uh, this girl moved in and I was getting just like a stupid amount of mail, and I kept I was gone for like months on end, and so it would just like pile up um and so I would have to check in like at least once or two twice a month and be like, hey, I'm waiting for this

piece of mail. Will you please let me know if it comes in or not. And it turns out it was Brittany who's on this show Temptation Island. And then later on she was like they were considering casting for her and vice versas she was considering going on the TV show. And obviously she knew that she know that, she knew that I made a fool out of myself on Bachelor. So she's like, let me pick your brain a little bit and and kind of understand a little bit more about the reality t V around before I

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com slash Tean. So we have Brittany in studio. Brittany, I was just telling them. I was just telling them we had Mark in about a month ago. Just listen to that this morning. Actually, great guy, hilarious. I was telling them our origin story about how we came to know each other's. Yeah, I live in Dean's old house and he needed his mail and I still get mail for you, So I actually have a pile of did you bring it with you? We live like two blocks

away from each other, so it's not so bad. Um, Okay, So fill us in a little bit about tempted well, actually fill us in about you first, because the listeners want to know about you, and then we can feel we can dive into the show a little bit. Um wow, I have a lot of stories. I guess. I grew up in the music business. Actually, my mom was an indie for Clear Channel when My Heart and Clear Channel were doing their things, so that's pretty cool. I grew

up in the music industry. I was homeschooled off the time. I had some health stuff I dealt with in my early twenties, which led me to Tuloo, Mexico, where I worked with a doctor and started a retreat company with my mom. And I'm all good and healthy and happy and um yeah, I teach yoga, I rescue dogs. I love people. I like to throw events with other people that I love and are kind of like minded, conscious creators. And that's my gist. I'm still young, so figuring it out. Really,

it sounds like you got it all together. But when it comes to nothing to find him getting the zen attitude to a whole new level. Aren't you the zen attitude? I love that I need that on like my license plate or something. So what made you want to go on temptation? Island. My old roommate was actually asked to be on it. She's an influencer, and without telling me, she gave them my information instead. Classic Yeah, and I got the old d M on Instagram and I talked

to them. I didn't interview. I did a second, a third, and then at some point I was doing like psych evaluations, working with the doctor who actually was Dean too. Just a wonderful group of pat Oh having a brain fart Hilda, I was gonna say, Helga, Oh, I love Hilda, sweetest can be Huh. The whole team has just been super welcoming. And the main thing that really tipped me towards yes was casting is incredibly adamant that the singles they're casting

for Temptation Island are looking for love. They're truly looking for a partner in their life. They're not like temptresses and temptees or whatever you'd call them. They're really really at that that stage in their life where they're looking for a partner and someone to settle down with. And you're just sick of saying nama single men, right it just what did it say about downward dog? I'm looking to down her a dog with it. They must have

cut that out anyway, nothing so I happened. And then honestly, Dean was the last person I spoke to. Was like, I sat on the contracts for a few weeks. I've never done anything like it. I hadn't watched a single reality TV show for more than like five minutes. I'm like, Dean, I need to talk to you. You're the only one other person. And then I really know that can help me get like a gauged on this, and he's like, Britt,

it's gonna be great, you know. And worst case scenario, I go a month with digital detox and kind of going on some lavish experiences and doing things I'd never experienced before, and it was very different than I could

have anticipated. Though, Well, I have a question. So you seem like someone who's very much into well it says here that you want to connect with someone on a more spiritual level, and I find I was actually just having this conversation with my friend the other day and I'm like, I don't know if I'm able to everdate someone who isn't open to the idea of going to therapy and just like healing from within in order to be able to be in a healthy relationship, and now

you're in a position where you're single, you have your together, and now you're entering this world where there are single men who are coming with stories from their past and their relationship as well, and you're learning about them and you're discovering a things. I mean, I don't know if I can get into details, because I have a feeling

you may kind of connect with Carl. I haven't watched any of the episode that I I haven't watched any of the episodes, but I'm looking at um, some of the couples and their bios and well, Carl is a fitness freak and he's a little bit older older, he's thirty one, he's all that old. This has got a good eye for this kind of stuff. Well, I have a feeling that I mean, you need Look, he's very good looking. He's very handsome, that's for sure. He's very

good looking, and he looks charming. Um but side exactly. But that's what I'm saying, like, how are you so how are you able to get that level of connection that you want to get to a kind of person like you wants to get to if you literally don't know anything about these people and they're dating other people at the same time, so it's like, I don't know, it's it's a whole mind game. Well, you know it's awesome. Is since we didn't have phones or laptops or music

or books or anything like that type of connection. Is that actually much more possible in an environment like that where you're just living with these people twenty four hours a day. There's zero distractions, nothing like you're just with them. So I think that the circumstances of it really support an authentic connection happening, um, which is a beautiful thing.

And I'm kind of thinking about my thoughts, so I don't give anything away here but um, and you know what, not to toot my own horn, but I will a little bit like I definitely wasn't chasing anyone down. So allowing that that authentic connection to happen naturally, if it's there is is I think always the way to go. Would Mark say earlier in the episode, when you want nothing,

you attract everything everything? Yeah, boom, like dropped John Lennon or something that's eastern on the sound effects lad Um No,

that makes a lot of sense. And uh, I mean, obviously I've talked to you a little bit before, before and after the show, and so how so as the show's airing afterward, while the show is airing, what is it like for you while it's airing obviously, like without giving anything away, but just like experiencing it, Like because you know, you're getting attention from random people on the internet and coming in and doing podcast interviews with people

that suck at dating. Um, Just like, what what's kind of your experience been with it all? It's a trip, Like it is an actual trip. I find myself at a loss of words. Every week it changes. You know, it's still relatively a new show, so I know the network is spending a good amount of time and effort building it up and reintroducing people to the idea of it.

So every week it's so different, everything like doubles the responses and whatnot, and um, seeing myself on camera UM has actually relieved a lot of my anxiety I had leading up to that. I thought it was going to be ten times where than it than it actually is. Yeah, And I'm cracking up because getting a little bit of heat from some of the other single chicks, Like because I'm coming across as I was, which is like not wanting to deal with any of the drama and just

kind of walking away from it. And as the producers would say, I'd walk away into yoga as that was going on. Um. And then tonight, actually the show's on at ten o'clock Eastern and it's actually my first date with Carl's so oh yeah, you've called it, so it's gonna get Why do you go on a date with Carl? What was it about Carl? Um? Well, because he picked me, of course, I'm just kidding. Um. We we just like

the first time we did talk, we connected hardcore. We actually were avoiding each other mutually for the first week in the house because we were both attracted to one another different reasons. He was like, you know, I don't want to go down old Carl kind of route. And you're the most beautiful woman here in my opinion, and I've been avoiding you, and I'm all like blushing back in kindergarten again, and I'm just like, wow, you're I definitely have a little crush on you, which is why

I've been avoiding you too. So we talked and we both couldn't believe that one another thought that way, and Uh. He picked me for the date the next day, so I was really excited for that. I can't wait to watch. Thank you. What do you guys doing that smile? Look at that smile? You can spoil the activity? What do I? Okay? So I forget. I think it's called speed boating. Can spoil the activity? Dan, just give us like a synopsis? It's okay, it was in the preview. I think it's

called speed speedboating. It's like a giant jet ski and takes you on the verge of vomiting and nausea, but having so much fun. So we did that and nothing like vomiting on a date, right, Vanessa? I was I did I vomited on my first date? Really? On Naell television? Yeah, it happens to the best. Was it your first day? I thought you did it on the airplane? It was my first, my first one on one. Oh, I thought

that that was like one of the last ones. Because that, you want to know what I was really upset about. I mean, you are amazing for making it through that. I love I love you for that. I don't know how I did. I told the producer it was so weird because remember that day to I told it, or the day before I told a Lan. I said, A Lan, just make sure like if ever we do anything where I can get sick. I get really nauseous, Like even if I'm in a car reading, I'll just like vomit everywhere.

And he's like, okay, So he called Hilda, and Hilda gave me gravel or whatever the drawing and you guys have in this state. And I was exhausted after that because it was just like a rush of emotions and They're like, I was sick and I was on like

three drama being pills that day. So I was having a cannon conversation with the producer once about how I was like, I've always wanted to experience your gravity, right, And I was like they were like, oh, yeah, but the only way you can experience your gravity is if you go into space, right, And I was like, well, no, there's this airplane that you can take that just drops you so fast, so you can experience waitlessness for it's like two minutes or something like that. Right, Yeah, Yeah,

there's different levels of it. And then Bennett walks in, who's like one of the executive prisoners of the show, and he like laughs, at me in the face. He's like, yeah,

Nick and Vanessa did that. Uh. And he was like telling me about how like how difficult it was to set up and how like me as an individual to be so challenging for me to do because it's like it's very expensive, right, And I was just like, I was so envious of both you and Nick and in that moment, because that sounds that's like a major bucket list thing to do, you know, And I know, I think there what the franchise was trying to do it for years and then they finally got it on my

season and you got the date. We're actually watching it on YouTube right now. Oh yeah, and he French kisses me right after. I'm like, dude, you know, there's residue of comit in my mouth and there's the vomit. Now we haven't seen it yet, but you look happy so far. It was so much fun. It was a lot of fun. Um, there's the kiss. Oh that's not awkward at all. I can't see what you guys are watching, but I could just remember it in my head. It weirdly looks romantic.

It really was, and he really did. He took a really good care of me. It's funny because I've never watched next season. You look beautiful. Wow. Um, I've never seen nixt season. And now that I obviously him and I are good friends, it's which is weird to watch him in zero gravity make out with you, my co host of this podcast, right, let's go it out the world? Um? Okay, so, Brittany, do you do you spew it all in this episode

or now? You'll have to tune in to find out the brass tacks here and it's airing on um Tuesday nights, ten o'clock Eastern on USA Network Network. Some silly reason. Um, but everything, but it's been all all been going really well. Yeah, Uh, there's some there's some drama still within some of the cast afterwards, which I wasn't expecting, you know. I was really hoping going into this and and then completing it all together that everyone could celebrate together and just have

each other's back, at least on a professional level. But there's some personalities that aren't fully lined up with that. Do you ever meet on the show? Do you ever meet any of the girlfriends? No? Really? Yeah, so you

have no idea what they look like. I have no idea what their personality is like, so we didn't know who they are, we didn't meet them, but there is at the beginning of this season there's like two ceremonies where the couples are there, the girlfriends are in there four chairs and like the first date selection they had to pick their day. It's in front of their significant others. Awkward,

so awkward. I still feel uncomfortable. Um, So there was that, you know, we got to see them, and like there was definitely some cattinists coming from the group of single ladies to the couple girls and some comments here and there. It was just a very um high strung like kind of intense scenario for everyone to be in. So you could like cut the tension with a knife, I think. And that was my only experience with them really and then hearing what the guys would talk about in the house.

So you wouldn't communicate with the girls, and I'm assuming after the show there is a form of communication with some of the excess or if they are excess or at least the members. Yeah, like you mean between like the cast across Like, yeah, I'm talking about no, I'm talking about this. So let's just say hypothetically, speaking, Brittany ends up with Karl hypothetically. Hypothetically Hypothetically, my intuition says, Brittany ends up with Carl, or at least she likes him,

and then Nicole's like, what does Nicole end up calling? You? Like? Do you guys? Like? I just feel like it's a it's a whole other thing of especially when you see someone say say something about you privately that you didn't see you in the moment, but then you watch your back on TV and you're like, yeah, Shade, yeah that's your Did you do therapy? I asked the executive producer. I'm like, so you're gonna pay for my therapy now?

I said, I don't even need therapy. If you want to figure out who you are, just go do Temptation Island. I can do anything after that experience. Um, but yeah, no, no communication really with girlfriends. But what I will say is like, so Evan Smith and his girlfriend Casey, I went to middle school with them, and in high school I think with Casey, I think she went to a girl high school, but we grew up in the same area.

And I got on set and I realized, I'm like, wait, I've known you guys for like, because that was weird, easy story. He does, he really does, and he's getting a lot of heat for it right now, which is kind of to be expected. But I do feel for him, and I think he's handling himself really well. A lot

of heat because of how he's acting on TV. Um well, because you know his backstory with his dad being murdered and it was his mistress's husband, I believe, And so then Evan being on Temptation Island like just opens up the door for that conversation and for comments to be made. And um, he's getting a lot of for it, and it's it's hard, but he's handling himself with a lot of grace and there's a lot of us that have

his back, so he's got a support system. Mhm. So looking back on your time on the show, maybe what's aired or just generally speaking without again, you know obviously that she's he's gonna still airing. Is there anything that you regret m having gone on before Britney left. She's like, I'm not going to drink any alcohol. I don't drink, so I'm not going to do it. And I was like, Jan, did you drink on your season. Are are you kidding me? I didn't have I only one drink and that wasn't bin.

That's impressive. Impressive. Yeah, even going into Winter Games, I was my third cho was like, I'm not gonna have a single drink after the After the first night, I didn't have a single drink and look at the next morning, I was like, good for you, this is going to be a great season. And then later that night I was like drinking with everyone having fun. It's just like

there's something wrong with it. It's just like there is can there are things that you can do that you don't think of because there are cameras around, And then we watch it played back and I'm just such a lightweight. I would be so embarrassing. I I definitely there's some moments, for sure. I I take solace in knowing that maybe about three percent of the whole experience is actually being shown because I definitely ate a platter of McDonald's one

night and just you guys McDonald's. I'm so jealous. Yeah, it was. It was a prize for a game we did in the house one night. That was our that was there what we won. So there was that and I had my first martini ever, which led to like black outnight. Here's my counterpoint to what you're saying earlier about how relieving it is to meet someone without any distractions around you, like your cell phones, your books, your TVs, whatever it is, because you can focus slely on the

other person. But you're acting obviously outside of your typical character because you're drinking, you're eating McDonald's. So do you think that meeting someone under these circumstances, because that's not a true reflection of you outside of the show, is still an accurate way to like an interesting way to meet someone interesting? Yeah, accurate also kind of yes? But

is that sustainable outside of that environment? I don't know, because if I'm if I'm in this environment and I'm all of a sudden drinking every other day like I don't in my usual life, and I connect with someone that does do that, then maybe it's setting you up for something that's not really true outside of that situation, you know what I mean? Um, But also, like to be honest, because it was such an unusual and kind

of anxious scenario, the booze helped a little bit. Like I usually smoke weed, you know, to to clear myself down in my everyday life, and that wasn't happening in Hawaii. So they didn't let you smoke on the show. They didn't let us know, let you poison yourselves with alcohol, but they won't let you smoke a plant. It's legal in Canada. That's right countrywide right now I'm talking about I'm talking about up north. Canada hasn't invaded Hawaii yet,

but I think probably pretty soon. That Canadian military, it's pretty it's making moves. What you haven't heard about this? Oh, the Canadian Navy sent out ships to go conquer Hawaii. What yeah, Oh, come on, guys, we're going to get the refugees and that's what we're bringing them into our country. That's what we're doing. We're helping out. Um. Okay, So the show airs Mondays and Tuesdays, No, just Tuesdays. We're post Bachelor, oh right right, because yeah, because it's just

for people that are craving more. Which, by the way, this is the first season of the Bachelor that I've started to watching. What do you think so far? I'm just jaw dropped, like maybe I should have watched some reality TV before I did it. Oh, that's how I felt. I didn't watch any I watched maybe two episodes to kind of understand what the concept of the show was, and I'm like, let's just go and see what happen. Yeah,

you're telling you watched Unreal. Yeah I did. Also, job everyone always gets like the hev gs from watching that show, but I watched it. I was like, well, yeah, like obviously that's how it is. Well, I mean, it's an exaggerated version of it. But I think from being on the franchise, it's so fun to see like, oh, that person is that producer, that person is that crew? I don't know, but I mean, hey, who knows? So are you happy to the one on the show though? Yeah, yeah,

yeah I am. It's taught me so much about people. It continues to and same with myself. It's teaching me more and more every single day about myself, the positive and the negative sides of it. It's just a huge learning experience and it's a trip. Like That's all I can say is it's a trip. But you know what, I've been going back and forth on a daily basis us with fans and talking to them truly about their lives and what's going on with them, and I want

to help people. So it means a lot to me that I've got people hitting me up, like valuing what I have to say and my advice to them on how to deal with what they're struggling with in their life. Like that is the greatest honor to me. So if it helps me to do more of that, thank you, thank you, thank you. So what's next for britt Rose Yoga? Um? I am creating some online content soon with my little

brother who has a production company, Super Talented. So I'm going to do some like online yoga classes and fitness stuff and then just like probably recipes and things like that. And I actually have a This is great the first time I'm telling anyone I'm working on Meditation Island retreats. Meditation Meditation Island. Yeah, smart, Are you allowed? Legally allowed? I believe I am. Yeah. I mean productions invited, gratis right,

I'll take care of them. So, um, I mean I've already done retreats for so many years with it's my family business, and I'm rebranding the company at the moment to make it more of a platform because I'm friends with so many leaders and teachers that I wanted to be more of a community thing and not just retreats. But we'll keep doing that too. That's so smart. I'll definitely come to one of those. I'll maybe come to one of those. It's going to be so much fun,

I promised. I've tried the whole meditation thing, and I still practice it occasionally, but it's just it's hard for me to do. It's so hard for everyone. Yeah, we'll make up any excuse to not sit with ourselves and silently half. I get there too. I'm trying to get a rise out of you. I love myself. No that I mean both sides of that exist in all of us. You know, it's wild, But I was doing a lot

of that in Maui. I had no choice. Like, the only thing that I had to keep me calm was nature, you know, whether it was like the toads or the ocean or the birds or the gecks and meditating and affirmations and just recentering myself in that environment. And have another questions for britt No, I just love your positive outlook and it doesn't seem you have that much anxiety coming off of reality TV show, and especially an intense one like Temptation Island. Um, and I'm really excited to

see what happens on your Day with Carl. Thank you so much for the support for watching Day with Carl. Who I mean, I'm looking forward to it. So I'm over for the watch party later. Sure you having a watch party tonight? All right, I'll just walk on Tuesday at your old house. Okay. Well, so over the listeners out there, where can they find you on? Like your social platforms? Instagram it's britt Rose Yoga b R I T Rose like the flower yoga. And then I also

have a Facebook page Brittany Rose. I'm on Twitter now, which I'm new to the game. Please come make a full out of all of us together. It's britt two underscores Rose. I will say I didn't have a Twitter until Bachelorette started premiering. I never used it, but my friends, you have to make a Twitter, like make it right now, kind of fairly use it. It's a whole other I

don't understand it. It's basically like a face book status on steroids, yeah, like I'm peeing right now or just hit but it's it's like, yeah, it's just like a Facebook status, except anyone can follow you instead of just your friends. And I have never updated my Facebook status, and whenever I did update my Facebook status, I looked back on it like six months later, embarrassed for making

that my Facebook stay. And so that's all that Twitter is for me, is just a chronological display of everything I've ever said that and I'm embarrassed by That's exactly what Twitter is for. No, And especially like if I'm like drinking or something with my friends, I'm like, oh, this is gonna be so funny, want to tweet this, And then I tweeted it, and I like, up the next morning, I'm like, why did I tweet that? That's the silliest thing, Like I don't know, Just make your

Twitter just for that and have no shame in it. Yeah. I can only access my Twitter after a couple of beers. Um, okay. And then Temptation Island is how many episodes in our week right now? Like six? Number five premiering this week? Yeah okay, and that's five out of like fifteen, isn't it. I think there's eleven almost halfway through that, yeah, which is crazy. I don't know how, And we're going to see you all othern episodes am I allowed to share that?

Of course you are? Why not? How would answer is yes, I'll blink once if the answer is yes, Oh did you guys see that? Holy cow, I can't believe she just did that. She blinked that many times? No, I'm just here. Um, what was your question? Vanessa? Uh? Well, there are eliminations because I didn't know how many times I was going to be Um, I don't know how many times my dates or whatever parts of my conversation with Nick we're going to air. So do you know

have you seen all the episodes before they air? No? I don't even think they're done cutting the full season, And so the cast is is experiencing this alongside with the fans, like we have no idea what they're going to show. Um, but there were eliminations, That's what I will tell you. All Right, that's good because there are a couple of contestants I don't really like very much, so I want to see them getting next to Yeah,

well exactly. I want Brittany to get cut her right, surely, surely. Anyways, we'll we'll see your date with Carl tonight. It's gonna be great. We all suck at dating, except for Vanessa and Easton. I don't know, suck, but oh sorry, I have you yelling in the mic, Brittany. We will see you on Temptation Line tonight. Uh you said ten nine Central. Yeah, ten o'clock eastern here in l A. It's on at

seven pm on USA. Okay, I think it's right after wrestling. Good, get my wrestling fixed and then just jump on over the Temptation and it's perfect. I'm pumped. We're gonna watch that date with carl Um. It sounds like we're gonna get to see you a little bit more of you this season as well, sounds like, and so we can circle back with you later on in the season then, right, Yeah, Dean,

thank you so much. This is so cool to like actually see your podcast and be here with you in your environment and anytime you want, but you can always come back. Thanks. This is not my environment, by the way, this is just though. Yeah, it's great. Really, you rock,

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