Where's the Ring? with Lexi Buchanan

I'm good? Oh, thanks for coming. So where are you in the country right now? I'm gonna Ryland. Dean's in Vegas. I would imagine that's correct. Ye. I am in Arlington, Virginia, so right outside of DC, and um, yeah, I've been here for about two years now. So my wife actually is from Great Falls. Yeah, I M I probably just tell people d C because no one really realizes that for Arlington's right outside of it and I love it.

We like have a little house and I have my own backyard and a driveway, so very different from New York. Whenever I my fiance is from Fredericksburg. Really we create a little triangle down there, which, um, that's interesting. I like it out there too. I went out there last year or two years ago for a Thanksgiving and I've never been to d C or anywhere in that area and it was nice. So, um, kutas to you. It

seems like a great place. Obviously if Ashley and Klin can be from there, I don't see how anyone could speak ill of it, right, No, I can think of some things. Yeah, yeah, there's probably some things that aren't so savory. Um. But Lexi, So it's your first podcast ever. We're so honored to have you part of the experience here with us um and as a co host then the less so you we saw you on Peter season. Um,

what have you been up to since then? Because that was like, at this point, that was like three years ago now, wasn't it was a long time ago? Yeah, actually as of September it was three years ago. So yeah, pre COVID It honestly feels like a lifetime ago. Um, so much has changed, but I think I credit a lot of it to going on the show. So, um, you know, I'm in a very happy relationship. Um, that kind of happened right after this show and from there I moved to Arlington. Raham Now, I UM love my job.

I got a dog. That is my whole life. Like I became one of those dog people. I guess it just happens to you, whether you wanted to or not. But I think when I went on this show, I was in New York, I loved my life. I was very single, dating a lot, like definitely looking for a relationship, but I think I was I didn't know what I wanted. I needed to find myself and I think the show helped me find what I actually wanted in a relationship. But I was looking for in a partner. Uh, just

kind of put some pieces together. And um, I mean I personally don't think I was built for the show. It was hard and I'm not a competitor when it comes to dating. Like I loved the girls. I just fell in love with all the girls and my friends, and I saw how much they liked you know, Peter, and I liked him too. But I was like, I can tell you guys are connecting, Like I don't want to get in the way of that, like I want you to it seems like you guys really like it.

Just so I don't know it was I struggled with the competitive aspect. I absolutely love it. I had the best time and it was such a good experience. But I think it helps me leaving the show know who I was and what I wanted in a relationship and

just kind of set me up for success. To your point about the other girls forming connections, I think maybe that just makes you um less willing to lie on TV about something, because I feel like a lot of people will inflate their feelings towards the person that they're supposed to be just makes a better human being at the end of the day. Yeah, I mean that's good,

and I mean I I guess that's true. I was very honest and I didn't realize that other maybe part of it was kind of lying to yourself a little bit too, maybe inflate that connection. But I mean we've all been through it. You're so wrapped up in that moment and those are your only thoughts and that's all you really know, so it you know. I'm not saying

I didn't like Peter. I did. I really was trying to find the point parts of us that connected, and there were some things that I was like, oh, I could actually see myself with this person, but I was looking for more of a connection and not necessarily, um, just a fiance, right, fiance for the sake of fiance. So good for you, right, good for you? Yeah? And then and then how did you meet your boyfriend? Was there any type of like sliding into the d m

s afterwards? Because you say you credit a lot from the show, and so I would imagine there has to be some like connection there, right, Yes, Well, we actually dated in college, so I knew him in college. We moved to New York together, we were kind of together, and about nine months in he broke up with me, and I was devastated, like beyond devastated. I really thought that he was the person I was going to be with,

and it just kind of shocked me. But it ended up being the best thing because we were best friends and both of us being right out of college being new to New York, like we needed the time to be individuals and just experienced the city and focus on career and our own wants and goals and um, not that we couldn't do that together, but it was just

too early. So um, I like was shocked that he broke up with I still tell them that where we're together now and I'm like, I still can't believe you, you know, did that, but uh, not to bring up old wounds. But you know, now I'm curious. No, it's not it's it's really not even a wound, because I think it just part of our story now. But he was like it was a little scary, it was all too much, too young. I wanted to focus on career

and and I, you know, I thanked him. We ran into each other at a bar like nine months later, and I was just like, you know, like, thank you. I really appreciate you doing that, because I don't think I had this strength to do it. But in hindsight, it was what needed to happen. Um, neither of us ever had a bad word to say about each other. You know, we we kind of ran in the same circles in New York, but never really crossed paths, which

was great. Um, but we both would hear, you know, well, we only has good things to say about you, and I would say the same, and then you know, I was going on the show is really I think me putting that to bed, being like, okay, that relationship is over, so that that ended in Like, I didn't go on the show until so those three years I was just you know, exploring the dating of New York, which is way harder than The Bachelor. And yeah, people are career focused and I like that. I think it's a city

for you know, focusing on work. And when I think when I think of a guy in New York, I think of a guy in a suit with slicked back hair, clean shaven, on a scooter on his way to work. I swear to God, like the amount of electric scooters. I'm like, you're grown anyway, continue, But that's that I would assume is the dating pool in New York. Yeah, I mean you get a mix of everybody in New York.

But I don't know, I think, um, you know, the breakup was definitely a pivotal point in my personal growth of like, Okay, I'm going to be more of an individual. I'm in New York. He it was hard, but he really did do me a favor. So let me just live my life and see what happens. Um. So I did that. The show happened, and I end up going on the show, and obviously, and then I get back, I get my phone and I had a text message

from him, just really nice. We hadn't talked in years, but it's like, so proud of you for putting yourself out there. I think it's awesome. You're gonna make your family like. So it was just a really kind, nice message. This person is my my best friend like for years. So um it made me like emotional and I was like, how can I be getting this emotionally, I haven't even talked to you in years and no offense, But I cared more about this person than like the experience that

I just did for six weeks. So it put things in perspective for me of like, that was a connection that I think I'll always have. I wanted the best for him regardless, like let it go and maybe it'll come back. And we started dating. I wasn't going to go on paradise because I now have, you know, this new relationship. And then COVID happened, so I didn't even have to worry about that and here we are two

and a half years later. So for for all of its flaws that the show has, I think one of the great things about it is, um, if you're gone long enough, you have the experience to like see what it's like living life without your cell phone, right or like other distractions. It's it's great, right. And then so it like forces you to think of and focus on things that maybe you wouldn't before or like dive deeper

into them. And I think it's interesting because I think that there are a few people that have you know, you're on the show, and while you're killing the hours of downtime that you have, all you're doing is thinking about like back home and people that you know and all these things. Like I don't know, it just it does kind of help provide some some clarity and other assets or other places of your life. So I mean,

I definitely it's so interesting. Is like you're like supposed to be on the show dating a person, and like even when I was on the show the first time, I was thinking about my ex girlfriend and I was, I don't know, it's just weird. It's like why am I even thinking about this girl? And I'm supposed to

be doing this girl? But I don't know. I think when you're in the on the show, like you have to think about such serious things, like you're thinking about how will our families you know, like each other when they meet, or how will we build a life together? Now now that you you know the person you're dating on the show lives in X city and your ine y city, Like, how will we make that work? You're thinking about like real things, So I think, of course

you're going to reflect on past relationships. But I think as far as my relationship, this was my big love and I was really like, I thought that was really gonna stick. So I went on the show and I explored other options and it kind of just ended up leading me back to that person. So for me, it worked, just not the way normally. Doice. I also think going on the show makes people confront the fact that their significant other or their ex significant other has finally moved on.

I feel like I've heard a lot of stories about people going on the show and then they're back together with their X and it's interesting because I do I went through a similar situation obviously much different because I'm happily married with Ashley, but where there was an X and I was on the show and it caused them to come back into the picture. Because it's weird seeing your ex date someone else, and really it's not even

just date someone else. It it makes you think like they're they're done, they're over, like they have moved on with their life. It is over between you two. And I think that a lot of people have this negative condemnation towards that, which I don't agree with, because I think people are flawed and I think if you don't think you're flawed, then you're full of crap. And I think some people need to kick in the ass. And I think sometimes people need a put to do, to

act or to follow their heart. And I'm not saying I just I don't know. I don't think that that's such a bad thing, you know, because like there'd be I'm sure that when that guy reached out to you, if you told your friends, your friends probably told that,

they were like, tell this guy to kick rocks. Get that, like now you're on the show and he wants to reach back out, and you know, in more words, yes, a sense of oh he's only back because he went on the show, But that genuinely wasn't like it just knowing him, he's not really a person for the spotlight

in general, but like you said, he goes. I kind of thought you could really be married, like you could be engaged, and then that would be it and absolute really, because you know, we had four years that we could have tried it again and we really didn't. We really like, we're just gonna let bygones and icons and just be happy for each other and support ab of each other people with the classic Jared Haben out of his hat.

Damn right, he pops on instead of pulling a rabbit, pulls a little patchy facial here boy pulling out of the hat. Yeah yeah, he says, Oh, you're into someone else not happening, So you're coming with me? Now the time to act, right, I mean now, I mean we've stood the test of time. I think there was definitely some initial like are you sure you want to get back into that? You know, like you you're you're on the Bachelor. Why would you not go on Paradise? Why

would you say no to this? And I'm like, because that's not what I care about. I'm like, I'm sorry, I don't like I genuinely I cared more about finding Well, did you like, do you make him sweat it out for a little while? At least? I think that would be like, actually made me sweat it out a couple

of months, not not too long. But it was funny timing because we went like our first like we hung out in New York in February, like around Valentine's Ish time, and then New York shut down in March twenty one, so like a month later COVID happened, we would have gone, and we both never went back to New York. So if we didn't, you know, like actually meet up or hang out within that month of time, we may never have. So it's it's just funny how timing works. So you

guys been together for two and a half years. You said, is there any because and you guys aren't engaged, and if you're not engaged, is there any talk of engagement coming up? Yeah? I mean we we go to so many weddings. I feel like all I've done this year and go to friends weddings, and now it's to the point where it's like, oh, any anything, Like we talked about it, it's definitely in the cards, but I want to be totally surprised, and I have not pressuring him whatsoever. Um,

so we'll see. We're we're definitely on the way there, but how much longer? How long can you last without eventually having to apply a little bit of pressure. It's a good question. I'm almost thirty. I'll be thirty in June, and I think that's what our birthdays or three days apart. So we're planning some sort of big thirtieth birthday trip and he's probably gonna watch this podcast later. So if he wants to do it around my thirtieth birthday on our big trip, that would be fine. That's then you

wouldn't be surprised. That's true. God, Jared, I don't know anywhere around that, and we're in the thirties. I don't want to be like a. I don't want to be UM thirty three and you know, still be dating. I think that's kind of my window. But now that you have said it and you think he's not gonna do because you want to be surprised, maybe now he's gonna do it because it's like a like a reverse psychology kind of thing, you know. I'm a I'm a big advocate for for that idea solely because I want all

like um anniversaries to be on the same date. I really want, like, like, if you guys have two birthdays three days apart, why not just throwing engagement in there. On the same right around the same day. You guys have the same type of life, you know, you have the same moment here because he's like that was he actually asked me to be his girlfriend right around our birthday, so that could just all be one beegnd, I love it. Well, I know you're recently engaged, and I know that was

you know, a long time coming. So congrats, thank you, I appreciate it. But and that's where this she I told her it was going to happen before the end of so she uh, she claimed she didn't know, but I think she did no more than she's putting on. She was more angry than anything else. Yeah, yeah, I gotta marry this guy now. But it's funny. Oh yeah, no. I was talking more just spending the rest of her

life with this difference right here. But she's already signed up for that, so it was the hike that she probably didn't sign up for that day. Well, so we're talking about our wedding and she was asking when I wanted to get married, and I said, I want to get married on the same day we got engaged. That way, we could just like have one anniversary. But it turns out the same day. Next year's on a Tuesday, And I was like, great, let's get married on a Tuesday.

And obviously that's not gonna happen, so obviously going to happen. Just I agree, I agree, but I don't know. I don't have a Tuesday wedding be totally out of the box. Yeah, that's my dream, but you celebrate all week after, so you just have like a whole That sounds great. It's true. I should do that. You should only try to base your relationship in your wedding around content for this podcast, and having a wedding on a Tuesday gives us talking points.

So on a Thursday, that's right, that's right. Um, if if I had it my way, that's how we would do it. But the thing is it's not it's not my day, so it's mostly her column the shots, which is fine. I'm fine with it. You know, I'm happy to come around a lot like I'm like, okay, I kind of with you. Now, let's just celebrate our birthday and our dating anniversary in one weekend. There's always a day, there's always some listening. So Jared, let me ask you this.

So you now you started dating on a certain day, you got engaged, on a certain day, you got married on a certain day. You celebrate birthdays. Do you guys, do something for every single one of those occasions? You dropped them, Like, once you get married, you can drop the engagement. So that's what I signed up for, but apparently not because still every every year because my wife has a hundred and twenty thousand photos on her phone or whatever, so every day it's a constant reminder. This

is when we first said I love each other. This is when you came out with your feelings. This is when we first started dating. This is when we officially started first dating. This is when we got engaged. This is when I called my grandmother to tell her we got engaged. This is my birthday, This is our wedding anniversary. Now it's holidays, this is my nieces. Because the problem is families got it. Literally every day is something sorry to like go on that tangent, but there's always like

that you needed to get that off your chest. So I just need a lot of calendars. We didn't strike a nerve, it seems like we have. You guys ever seen the show Parks and Recreation. Yes, I love that show too. Leslie, Nope. There's an episode where she's like, she does that exact same thing. She's like, this is the time that and and I first heard Taylor Swift together. This is the time that we first ate our pancakes together.

That's that's kind of how actually comes across to me in terms of celebrating annivers Its very sweet, but it would make my life so much easier if I agree with you both if it was just around the same time. Granted five years ago, when I didn't have as much going on. Of course, I was the person saying, no, get married on a different day, like have different days,

really enjoy it. But now there's just too much going on, and it's like, let's just narrow this down as much as possible, so I you know, we can actually like enjoy our lives a little bit anyway, anyway, um anniversaries, so you can just take a back seat, I would think, I know I will. It's it's hard because he gets so much attention, rightfully, so um that like sometimes I'll smother human attention and naturally's like I want attention, and

I'm like I'm being a good father. Leave me alone, woman, Lexie, do you see kids in the future for you guys, if and when you end up getting married. Yeah, I mean I'm part of a big family. I have five younger siblings, so I grew up like in a crazy household with tons of little kids turunning around. Um and because of that, I want, like to max but um, no, I do have kids. Is this something you guys have talked about and it's like everyone knows, like all on

the same page and everything. Yeah, we talked about literally everything. Um. We just like we like to plan, we like to talk about like how it will be, but we don't, Um, I don't know. We don't have like a set plan, which I personally like. I like I said, I kind of want to be surprised. But yeah, it's getting to the point where, like I said, I'm getting to thirty and I know that's young, but it's to me a milestone. H I'm like, wow, I should probably being more of

a planner. Well, especially if you want two kids. I mean, it is young, but you do have your biological clock. I guess that you need to keep keep in mind when you do. When you guys do end up getting married, how do you picture your wedding over the top extravagant or like a low key elopement. Um, I don't like. I want something kind of in the middle. I want it to be small ish, like intimate, but definitely it

feels like a celebration. Um. I kind of want a destination wedding, which I don't know if people like or don't like. But both of our families live in Florida, and I don't really want a wedding in Florida. Um, So you could do like St. Bart's or Caribbean or something. Yeah, I mean I'm one of like it sounds like silly, but I'm just not one of those people that I've ever really thought about their wedding. I'm someone decisive. I changed my mind so much like my my opinions change,

my style changes. I feel like by the time I get married, I'll have an exact idea of what I want. That's true. We're still always we're not even engaged yet, so I guess I was kind of jumping the gun a little bit there. Rings Ring Shapes is where we're Okay, let's talk about that. Like you said, he might listen to this podcast, So just generally speaking, not to anyone specific, what type of engagement ring style? Would you prefer really simple like just school band one diamond um, like emerald

cut or just a round cut? Um? Yeah? How many? How many carrots are we looking at here? I'm not going to be picky. I have small hands, so I think like even one carrot would look really big on my hands. So exactly do you feel like you do? Am I jinxing myself by tomorrow and like seeing Um? It's funny because you have the exact same style as Kaylin's thin gold band one emerald cut diamond um, so you know, is coming back like just a really classic stuff and I think that's that's what I want? Did it?

It's funny too that you said you have small hands. I was talking to Wells about his engagement ring to Sarah and he's like, I'm lucky man. Sarah's got small hands, so the diamond ring looks way bigger on her than it actually is. So he's like a baby hands and I really have child hands, so he's he's he can get me like an actual child. So I was ring and it would probably fit. I think I have a four and a half really small fingers. Oh wow, that is small. Yeah, yeah, I was gonna say I think

Caln's is six. Yeah, fun factor on me. Child hands. Um, I did get because I lost Caylin's first engagement ring, so I had to get her a second one, and it's only it's a small little baby half caret and even that one looks pretty big because she's got small hands as well. But any update on Nope, I cleaned the garage yesterday. I still no ring, so moving on

to the next room in the house. But yeah, yeah, well but one of those things where you just like blacked out because you had so you're so much pressure on you about this ring and you don't remember where it is. It's just it's just me generally being an idiot. Um. I thought about it two I've done I've done a lot of like personal reflection and introspection about this, and

I was like, this is gonna sound so late. I was like sitting meditating for like an hour one day, just like breathing and just trying to like access a part of my brain that I've never accessed before, just because I'm like, there's no if I can't remember doing something, how can I be certain that I ever did it? In the like you know, in the first place, and so I sat there for an hour, didn't say anything, kept my eyes closed and just tried to focus, and

I got bored, so so bored. But I was like, I have to do this, and it was walking by right now, isn't explaining this story and I couldn't. I couldn't remember it at all, and I like, I kept hitting this roadblock, and I was like, then, I just I couldn't have moved it. It It wasn't me. And then just this past week, I've um, I've had a couple of things in the exact same vein that I know I'm the only person that's touched and they're just completely

missing now. So I know I've accepted full responsibility. At this point in my life, I have moved it. I accept that fate of mine. I just don't know where it is, but it'll turn up still eventually. At some point, I think she's messing with you and just moving stuff around. She really could be. It could be. I do agree, there's like a sliver of chance that she's just messing with me, moving up around. Maybe she stole the ring and she's going to propose to you with said ring. Yes,

that would be. That would be a baller move. But I I think there's less Yeah, I think there's anything else in the world. Yeah, I would agree, But man, what a great ending it would be. Yeah, wouldn't that be cool? He didn't lose the right now, that's yeah, that's the silver line that would probably part. Uh. Well, we do have some hot topics that we want to get to. Um So before we do that, let's take a quick break. Welcome back to help I Suck at

Dating Dean myself. Lexi Buchanan is a special guest host today. We do have some hot topics we want to get to before we wrap this podcast up. The first one is about, well, what I guess I would say is, in my personal opinion, the goat power couple. Because there's no longer Tom ad Zell, it's Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck. Do you think that that there? Most like, do you think that that that's the goat power couple? Now? Number Ray says ja Z and Beyonce, But jay Z cheated

and Lively that's a good one. What about Mila an Ashton? Yeah, they they're like probably up there. What about don't feel as real to me? What about Cluney and I'm all, well wait, Cluney, now get the hell out of here

with that. Um Actually, I don't even know. This is all like personal bias as well, the fact that I love Benefer so much because j Lo is like the Queen of Queens and Ben's like such a rugged Boston guy who's just like you know, was an alcoholic, performed himself, you know, Like I can't belave he's with Jennifal Lopez again. It's so amazing. But yeah, Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively. I gotta be honest, I really like Ryan Reynolds, but I've never been a He's just there's just too much.

It's too much of the same with with Ryan Reyolds for me right now. It's just I need him to be a little bit different some of his movies, or a different character, because like even in all the interviews I see, it's like he's dead everywhere he is, so like I I just really need Ryan Ralds to do something different and then I'll be back on the Ryan Railds train. Anyway, this is not about that. I move on Jennifer Lopez on dating Ben Affleck for the first time,

way back twenty years ago, when I was still a teenager. Quote. It turned out to really bite us. So j Low reflects on a relationship the first time around with Ben Affleck. Quote, we were so young and so in love at that time, really very care free, no kids, no attachments. We were just living our lives, being happy out there. It didn't feel like we needed to hide from anybody or really

be discreet at all. Now, obviously they broke up in two thousand four, and she said quote, we were just living out loud, and it turned out to really bite us. There was a lot underneath the surface there, people not wanting us to be together, people think I wasn't the right person for him. I never shot away from the fact, uh that for me, I always felt like there was real love there, a true love there. People in my life know that he was very very special in my life.

When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real. I don't know that I recommend this for everybody. Sometimes you outgrow each other or you just grow differently. The two of us we lost each other and found each other. So Lexie, I feel like this kind of is a little bit of your guys story as well, where you broke up needed to go your separate ways and then

you came back together. I as someone who's also kind of gone through the same thing, and dean to the very very small fraction of it because it was only a few days where he left and came back. I don't know. I'm sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonda, and sometimes you kind of need to let something go and see if it comes back to you. I agree with that. I mean, I think that it's all about timing truly, Like you can always that can always be a connection or the right person in the you know,

in one sense of the word. But the timing and whether or not it really like works out, um, I think is really critical. Like I knew that he was right person for me, or I had that inkling, but I was so young I wasn't really ready for it, and now I'm just distracted by the cue. Furry man that joined this also agrees distance makes the heart grow fonder. Um, yeah, I think I agree with that. I think to Lexi's experience, not to obviously speak for Alexei, but you were saying

you guys did a little bit in college. It's kind of nice that way because you kind of get like build a foundation, and then you go off and do your own thing for a little bit, and then you come back and you remember how great something was, and then you're just like a better person at that time in your life. Anyway, So um yeah, I mean I don't And Jared happened to you too. Well. I think j Loo and Ben are a little bit of the exception as well. I mean they said they went off

their separate ways. I mean Ben had kids. Does Jlo have kids? Okay? She does? Sorry with Mark Anthony, Mark Anthony, Thank you, Alexi. See I could just ask Lexi. I don't need Ashley for information. Uh. But they went off, they got married, had kids with other people, and then each one of them obviously got divorced and came back to each other. Um, so that's, you know, a little

bit of exception to the rule. But I also think, you know, I mean, it's not m hm like to your point, Lexi, when John ended up ending things with you and then you guys went your separate ways and then you came back to each other. I mean I think that you should let an X prove that he's still into you if they want to get back together with you. You know, Ashley certainly they did that with me.

It seems like Lexie, you did that with John. So I would recommend if like sure, timing can work out, but if there has to be some discretion where you have to make sure that they're not just doing this out of jealousy, that if they're they want to get back with you, they have to really prove it and they have to, you know, put effort in and you have to see changes in growth before you can really commit to the person totally. I mean then my personal experience,

it was really just a matter of timing. I think if you know, the relationship has a lot of issues, and you have trust issues or infidelity issues or whatever it may be, um and it was a toxic relationship or a bad relationship, and then that person comes back years later when you're clearly doing well and they try to get back in your life, Yeah, I don't. I would never. I don't think I would have even entertained

it or considered opening that door again. I think because it was such a good relationship and I went out and dated and really explored and I just never found that connection again. And I even went to the extent of you know, putting myself out there on TV and really like seeing what could be um, and I always kind of had him in my mind, but I was ready to shut that and see if there was someone

else that was better suited for me. So I think really putting that to bed and then it ending up coming back, but it being such a positive relationship and it only being like it it was. It was always what I was looking for. It wasn't me just falling back into something or um, you know, just accepting what was it was. We gave it time, We really let each other go, We really grew as people, and we came back at the right time and we're able to

form something stronger than before. M Yeah, I um, I agree with how much and put on this topic Ben talk, I gotta be. I think that's what it's coming down to. It's not my favorite subject. You know, I kind of zone out when it comes to the the hot topics. The dating headlines of the couples are hard because I just feel like there's like a little bit of you know, the media involved. Yeah. I don't like to say because I really don't feel like we know them at all.

But I just used to support Ben and j Love and that's great. I definitely support them, and I support you and supporting them. I don't support you and supporting him supporting them. Um. It's just it's something I've never It's hard, it's not hard. But Calin is really into these these things as well. Maybe not as much as Ashley. Um, but she is always interested in what's going on in in all these these people's lives, which is great. I'm happy that she's interested in it. But I just I

can't seem to to find the care, you know. Not that it's not that, not that I don't care about them. I just I think, like you guys said, I think media can sometimes paint a picture of someone and then um, you don't get the full picture, and then you know,

maybe it's wrong or maybe it's right or whatever. And then I just feel like, because it's happened to me before too, where the media has done said something about my relationship that was entirely false, and so maybe I've just taken that and I'm like, well, if there's lying about my relationship, there may be lying about everyone else's relationship. To see, I'm not really into like the gossip. That

doesn't really get my interest. It's more of the relatability with these couples that really like the Ben Flick dunkin Donuts photos. If you guys have seen that where he's like carrying the duncan through through the front door and he's disheveled and he's like spilling the coffee like that I love so much, And like there's that video. It's the funniest thing. It's where Ben and Jayla are walking through and then somebody comes up to him and he's like, oh, yeah, no,

it's good to see you. And then as soon as he turns his head, his smile immediately just gets dead serious and he's like, oh, it's good to see you. And it was the most relatable thing. I was like, oh my god. So that's what that's what gets me. I don't really care about the gassip Like I feel bad that they have to be on all the time. I mean, like even the tiny little bit of attention that I got post show, I was like, oh my god, the people are people know me in a restaurant like

I have to like always, they just have to. You feel like you have to be perfect. So I can't imagine being Ben in gent Oh my god. I think I think that's eventually, I think, eventually, guess to the point where they like just like maybe at the beginning for them, I bet you they were like always wanted to be polished and put together. But I bet you eventually, and especially now that they're older, they're kind of just

like who the who the hell cares? You know? Yeah, I mean, hence the the and the massive phoenix on his back, like the crazy tattoo, middle aged tattoo. I have one more hot topic before we wrap up. I want to talk about the next hot topic. It's my turn to talk about great Love It Because you always got to read the emails. I want to read the email and I want to read this one. So it

turns out Ellie Golding, who is the singer. Obviously, she is married to Casper Choppling and they have a child together. But Ellie Golding is now on the celebrity dating app raya UM. According to the article, she's on there just to make friends and to meet fellow celebrities in the industry. I guess, so I want to I want to turn it around and ask you guys the same question, Ash or Jared if you found out actually was on RAYA

or any dating app. How would you react and same to you, extee if you found out your partner was on a dating app and then like, obviously they're gonna be like, oh, I just want to meet friends, but really, are they really there just for that? Yeah? Yeah, I think so. If you're in a public relationship and you're on Riya, you're either one being truthful that you are only on there for business purposes, or be you're in

a open relationship. That's really the two ways, because it's not like Ellie Golding is going to cheat on her husband Casper in the open. Everybody knows, like if actually had a Riyah, Yeah, Ashley's too known, just like Ellie Goulding is too known, there's going to be a headline. So clearly your partner has to know, and okay, this I would think unless Ellie is like, you know, the only way I'm going to get away with this is if it's in the open, because no one would ever

believe I'd be so stupid to do this. It's the only thing I think of if she was actually cheating. But my point being, it's either business purpose. I'm coming out within the next month and this is a huge stunt that could be probably most likely that's smart, Lexie. We gotta start doing stuff like that. Alright, LEXI, your partner, if you found him on bumble or hinge or riya, how would you react? Um? Not well? Not react? Well, no, I I mean we were just communications, very big were

we talked about everything. So I'd be really surprised if he didn't tell me before and it was just for that purpose. So um, yeah, if I if I found out and he didn't tell me before, I think there'd be a reason he was hiding it because he is not Ellie Golden, and it would be very low key if he did that. That's true. And also what a thing like cheating obviously is horrible in any facet or

any whatever. But to just make it a dating account and not tell your partner about it would be borderline psychotic, I feel, because I mean, that's that's cheating because you're like personally, I think any thing you try to hide is in the realm of cheating. If you're in an open or honest relationship, and you really shouldn't feel like you have to hide anything. There's gotta be things that

even the most honest people hide. Though, Yeah, I guess that's but like what, like, what would you be hiding. I'll tell you what. Kalin's never farted in front of me. Really, just definitely talk about borderline psychotic. Is your stomach still operating? I think pre wedding it has to happen like just

one just to hear it. Yeah, but that's kind of that's that's like kind of her hiding something from you, right, Okay, I imagine Kalin's farts are so cute, like they're I bet they're like I bet they sound exactly like this. It sounds like, Jared want we talk about my parts. Especially's farts are one thing like actually, it's like we've seen them, We've seen him, I heard, but Kalin's parts, I imagine, like how did that go? It's just that's

what I imagine. Thanks. I'm glad that you're marriaging and Cain's farts right now. That's good to hear. Um. Yeah, loves that we're talking about this. Yeah, Jared, Is there anything that you withhold from Ashley? No? Unfortunately not she's raised comfortable. Did you get insurance on the ring? Um? I barely have insurance on my body yet, I don't have insurance there. He doesn't have insurance on himself. Do

you think he got insurance for the ring? Everybody else thought and I was like, no, you don't anyway yet. So no insurance on the ring. But is there anything I hid from you? I don't think so. I love how I have to ask my wife that question. Yeah, not know. It's just so pathetic. How pathetic I am. I have to hide something. I need something, But that's gonna do it. For this week's episode of Help I Suck at Dating, I think that's a good place for us to stop. A Lexi, thank you so much for

co hosting with us this week. For the listeners out there, As you know, our new format is uh this episode today. We have our callers on Thursday. Alexi is gonna join us for that as well, So thank you for tuning in this week. Be sure tune on Thursday as well, where maybe we suck just a little bit less. Follow help by Suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast