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I go sparkling Perry a guy. Yeah, I'm a big lak rogu. I'm actually had a big fan of spin drifts, but the spiked ones are some of them are pretty good. Um, Killing Scott sent like a hundred of them. So are Fridges stocked and so jack Pot gotta put some work into him. Anyways, Jared, what's going on? Man? Last time, last time I talked to you, you were a net was I was in NAPA and I was just filled. I was a passive listener in the a lobby of

uh whatever. I don't know what you guys were talking about, and you had just informed Ben and Ashley. Well, Ben Out actually was already obviously in the know, but Ben was informed that you are opening a restaurant in Rhode Island, coffee shop. Yes, it is true. We're opening up a coffee shop slash lounge, which we're extremely excited about. I've been working hard about it. It's been my dream to

own and operate my own business. I've worked in the restaurant, you know, the restaurant industry for like ten years, and so an opportunity came along where we found a spot that we loved. It actually used to be a coffee shop that I visited quite a bit. And it's down in South Kingston, Rhode Island, so near the beach, is about twenty minutes from Newport, and it's gonna be called Audrey's Coffeehouse and Lounge. Audrey is my mother in law's name, So one, I'm sucking up to the in laws, which

is always a good thing. And two, I just love the name. Audrey's feels very homey and family and that's what the vibe I want to go for with this coffee shop. Very you know, we have stone fireplace in their couches chairs. I really people to imagine themselves in front of a fireplace on a crisp fall day, having either a coffee or a martini. That's kind of the

viber going for while sitting on like a red couch. Um, and we're using Ben already knew about coffee shop as well, because I talked to Ben about it a few months ago. Because we're gonna be using Generous Coffee as our main vendor, because I love Generous obviously, I love all coffee, I love Dunk, and I love Green Mountain. I also love Generous, and Generous is just such a great company. It's a nonprofit.

Ben is the owner and operator of it, and and it's just one great tasting coffee, which is obviously probably the most important part because people are coming in for the coffee, but to all the profits go back to you know, hope and humanity, which helps build UM Housing, which you have been a part of greatly. You've been

down to Hunters with Ben Um, so that's great. And then just getting things everything organized right now, going through getting the business license, creating a new LC, applying for a liquor license, getting furniture and their equipment, hiring people, um, you know, computer system health department approval um. There's just a lot of red tape they have to go through. I enjoy every step of it, but it's nerve racking because I'm doing it all by myself and there's just

a lot to be done. And you know, when we first did this, Ashley wanted to be a part of it as well, you know. She you know, I was gonna handle parbatly like the business part, but she would help with the menu and the interior decorating. And that just hasn't been the case unfortunately right now, just because Ashley has been so debilitated, and dude, it sucks. Like listen, I'm so happy that we're pregnant. We were trying for seven months to get pregnant. Some people try for five years.

You know. We are so happy and lucky. I've always wanted to be a father. I'm so excited to be a father. But dude, Ashley is just getting crushed and I feel terrible. She's I'm not joking. She's thrown up four times already today. It is three o'clock on Friday. And to the point she threw up, she's like so uncontrollably sick. She pissed on the floor. That might be a little too much information, but like as she was

throwing up, she couldn't like control herself. And it's like, I know, everybody is different in some pregnancies aren't that bad and some people get really sick. But whatever Ash is going through just is tough. And so it's been, uh, it's been a hectic day to say the least. So that's why maybe I'm a little bit on edge on that. And I feel bad because she's just laying on the couch right now and she's just you know, she was throwing up on the couch, and um, it just sucks.

I feel bad anyway. All right, Well, a lot of a lot of notes because I feel like you just covered a lot of grounds and I didn't make sure I get to each thing. I had that all built up, you know, and just let it explode out. Thanks for the events session. I'm glad to help my second and can be your events session, all right, just to start from the beginning. So there's a couple of notes that I want to at least touch real quick. So about it's a cafe you called it right, Yeah, it's gonna

be a ca, Yeah, cafe, coffee house. The technical name. We're going with this coffee house because I really like the sound of that. Got you. That will lead into one of the questions I have later on Audrey's. I just want to comment on name. Audrey's love the name it's TI unless it's it seems like one of those names that when you're walking through a cute little town, you'd be like, let's go to Addres and grab a quick cup of coffee. So kudos to you for that

name very well. Um, are you going to be manning the shop most of the time, Yeah, so I will be, especially early on because I wanted to be run the way I wanted to be runned ran um. And I also want to be the owner and operator and I want to, you know, Ashley and I are most certainly going to be the face of this place, and I want to, you know, be behind the counter and making drinks. That's where I thrive as well. I just love uh, I love running around. Uh. You know, anybody who's worked

in the restaurant industry knows that. You know, as much as we complain about it, there is an addiction to it. And when you're running around behind the bar or the counter doing whatever you need to do to get people in and out. There is this high that you get and I certainly get that, and I'm excited for that. And I'm also excited just to you know, introduce myself

as the owner. You know. That's It's it's nice going around and people even when I put a banner up the other day and on in front of the shop just to say, you know, Audrey's coffeehouse and lounge coming soon, and um, you know, people are like, oh, you're You're

opening the coffee shop here. We're so excited when we missed it because the plaza that we're in, there's condominiums, there's a hotel, there's a private neighborhood, so there's a lot of people already living in the area, which is great, and it seems like there's a lot of people excited to have a coffee shop back in that plaza. So it's cool just being like, yep, on the one opening

it and this is what we're doing. And it's certainly nerve racking, um, just because you know, it's it's not cheap, but you know, anything worth doing is worth investing in. So that's the kind of way I'm thinking about it right now. Um. Follow up question to that, can I be hired as a part time employee? I would like to work. I would like to work at Audrey's for one week a year, okay, and I want to do

it solely as you know what you wy. It's funny is like you have obviously like you and your friends, Like let's say like me, Ben Nick, you Tanner, like

we've done. Then this is gonna sound super vague and narcissistic, but like it's gonna be there's a point to it, Like we'll get paid by bars or like by events to like show up and just like say hi to people, and so you could like leverage your friendships and be like, listen, just come to the coffee shop for a like a day, a couple of hours maybe, and that enough to like be like draw some people in. So hopefully like that. Oh dude, I've already thought, like I'm gonna have Bachelor

watch parties. I'm gonna fly you guys out. So it's gonna be like, come meet Dean from the Bachelor, you know, come meet Dean and Kalin while watching you listen, You're gonna do it and you're gonna like it, and you have no say in the matter, I'm offering my services as a barista, not as a passive participant in a watch party. Okay, I want to I want to work this the five am to one pm shift Monday through Friday,

one week a year, and that's all I'm offering. And I want to make whatever minimum wage in Rhode Island is or whatever barrices make, whatever the running wages for it is that Okay, I mean that sounds fantastic to me. I would love nothing more. Great. Um, And then let's move on to the next thing. Okay, So what was the next thing? You were talking about? The burden that

you feel starting stuff? How come I know that you're about to finish up your bachelor's Yep, you should have taken more entrepreneurship classes or have you have you considered even like doing like a minor entrepreneurship or anything. I have not. I really just went back to school to get my degree as fast as humanly possible, and the way to do that was to graduate with my degree in history liberal Arts. So I actually just finished my last class. I took my final exam yesterday. I got

a ninety four on it. So it looks like I'm gonna get an a minus in the class and then I'm done. It's so weird, man, Like, it's just like, okay, great, yeah, now I have my bachelor's. Like cool on a Thursday, you're gonna walk aut graduation. No, I don't think so, because I have to apply for graduation in August. They were just waiting for my last grade to come back to make sure I passed, and so I don't think about it. I definitely should would graduation. I'll fly out

and watch you walk with all. Right, well, if if I'm allowed to, like for code restrictions and all that kind of stuff, well hopefully hopefully things don't get worse. But you know, everyone of your family would love it, actually would love to see it. Your parents, her parents, like everyone. They would be like a big, big spectacle. I think that's definitely something you should at least consider, don't just immediately discount the idea. Um. And then my

very last question. Ashley is now three months along, right, yeah she is. She'll be fourteen weeks next week, so she's a little over. There is this ordinary for because like I wouldn't I mean, again, knowing nothing when it comes to pregnant or anything like that. I would just assume that the real sickness, like the real like side effects would come later in the pregnancy. Is this pretty standard for like earlier first second trimester? So apparently the

first trimester usually is the most sick you'll be. Um, yeah, I but it depends, like you know, it's so it's so weird. I was talking to a friend of mine, she has to two kids, and she was like, oh, yeah, my first trimester, I was. I was pretty in bad shape too, but I only threw up once. And I was like, Ashley has thrown up I'm not joking, probably fifty times. And so she's just I think um are

more extreme than others. And we all knew that if Ashley was gonna get sick, she was gonna be throwing up constantly, because you know, she can't do anything subtlety. Uh So I just at some point, it's starting to like, there are there are moments when she feels like she's

trending in the right direction. We'll she'll go a couple of days and feel you know, okay, but then she'll immediately revert and go back to a daylight today where she can't get off the couch and she's just throwing up constantly, so I think she's definitely got one of the worst of it. You know. It was funny because Raven, Raven and Adam just announced their pregnancy, which is so exciting.

Congratulations to both them. They're gonna be incredible parents. That I've only met Adam and Raven once, but I really really liked them a lot and I wish them nothing but the best. But it was so funny. Raven and Ashley were talking before Raven and Adam announced, and um, Raven was like, oh, have you thrown up yet? And as she was like have I thrown up yet? She's puking into a garbage bag. Um. So it all depends.

Like I don't mean to scare anybody, it's just I think it's frustrating as a guy because I was so ignorant to how bad, you know, how sick somebody could possibly be while being pregnant, you know, I mean everybody says morning sickness, and I'm like, oh, it's okay, you get sick in the morning and then you can feel better in the afternoon and the evening. Like, no, that's

not what happens. And then I knew, like I think I've just seen from TVs and movies, Like I remember from Knocked Up when Katherine Heigel realizes she's pregnant when she's interviewing James Franco, and she just like goes to the side and throws up, and then she's watching it back and then she's laughing, and then she just throws up. And that's when Bill Hayters like, wait a minute, you pregnant.

So I in my head, I was like, Okay, that just kind of happens, like you just throw up to the side, and then you go on with your day and you're not nauseous all that much, which is not what's happening to Ash. It's pretty bad, asked. If you think about it, a one pound baby fetus is calling the shots, you know. Oh yeah, dude, our our kid is h If there's any indication our kid is gonna be uh high maintenance to say the last, good for them. All Right, Well, ja, we gotta get to a quick

break because we have some great guests coming up. We've got Giovanni and Sinco from Love Island, and the host R. L. Vandenberg is going to join us later on as well. So we're gonna take one quick break and then have them join us. Hi, it's Ashley Liken, Ttie, and it's Benjamin Higgins and you guys may know us from the Almost Same As podcast were recap the Bachelor franchise, and wow, do we have a Bachelor atte finale to recap for

you this week? And we've got the one and only runner up, Justin Glaze giving us all the tea from what he thinks about Greg's exit to Blake and Katie being together. Now, what a dramatic episode. Well, hey, make sure you tune in listen to our podcast Almost Famous right now on I Heart Radio, app, Apple Podcasts and everywhere you listen to podcasts. Welcome back to help I Suck at Dating. Dean here, Jared here. We have some very special guests from, of course, the CBS show Love Island,

which is on Paramount Plus. And guess what the finale is August fifteenth, that's coming up quick. We have uh Giovanni and we have Melvin a k A Sinco. Gentlemen, how are you doing today? Man? I'm doing a great. Welcome to help I Suck a Dating. You're in the perfect spot. So, guys, I'll start with you, Giovanni. You talk about you suck at dating, So what made you want to sign up for Love Island? Man? I signed up for Love Island so I can get a chance

to actually, uh find a real connection. You know. I'm a busy dude. You know, my my uh my careers were listening in the the best sor I travel a lot, so it's hard for me to actually you know, find people, actually make general connections, you know. So Love is was was a great place for me to be isolated and just get to know somebody one on one and hopefully to build something. But you gotta see how that happened. Well, house things go for you right now? Like how is uh?

I know you're what's going on with your with Olivia? Right? Yeah? I was. I was coming up with Olivia, and uh it was you know, it was great. I tried, I tried my best, you know to make things work with us. Um, you know, because she obviously she was coming into the villa, she was there, she was a businesswoman. I'm I'm attracted to business minded women, and um I was seeing something co work there and um, you know, there was sparks. But then eventually it just faded. I wasn't her type.

I guess you know she's she's lasting the girl. I'm a South Florida dou so you know I'm outgoing wild and wild individually. I speak my mind. I tell you how this, and you know, I guess I wasn't her speed. You know I wasn't. I wasn't a speed and what she was looking for, so you know, And again dumped from the island and I shaved my chest. Save shaved your chest. I've never seen somebody grabbing clippers so fast and everything. I'm like, baby, you gotta listen to me.

Let's let's at least making a castle more like the fin did so when I was when I was on Bachelorette, I was one of we had a boxing day and I was one of the only guys that had hair on my chest. And so when I went on Bachelor in Paradise, the producers were like, hey, listen, we have this really funny idea for your intro. What if we shaved your chest? And it was like forty year old virgin And I was like, there's no way to do that, Like, no, I can't do it, guys. I like the chest hair.

I gotta support the chest hair on one of the few, so I'm not gonna latch Javonna. I'm a little disappointed to shade, but that's okay. I get it. I get it real man, man, Yeah, I don't shave my face. Say boy, I said it now, bad face, now going ahead, and now like I was trying to make it work, and you know I was. I was just doing too much to make us work too. You know. Just see what she liked and that just just me. Jesus didn't like me. Yeah, she's got to accept you for you

chest hair, facial hair, everything. I feel like, I feel like the chess hair would be good to not have on the beach, either Love Island or Bachelor in Paradise because then it's like, okay, you lost the underlayer. You know, that's like a little sweater. But that's okay. It's more of like, you know, just like chest. You know, hey, when you get caught, got the chest they keep warm at night. You know, that's nice to give you guys a c um. We didn't get that. We didn't get

that that luxury. But sickle, I want to hear from you, man, tell us about your experience, because you were dating uh cash, right, yes, dating cash and a couple of cash still going to know each other. Then, Um, I don't know. She kind of like I didn't feel a vibe at least she as she wanted to open up to me, you know what I mean, And that's all I was looking forward for her, and so I moved the trainer to see

how that connection would go. And after that, I felt like between the two connections I made, my connection with Cash was a lot stronger, so I want to pursue that, but by that time it was kind of too late. Cost some more happened, and then she came back to Charlie. So I was kind of stuck in window like day, like a yeah, bro it really it was a good check.

I's how everybody. I was like Dann like, I'm mentally I was trump andre paring for it, but obviously it wasn't prepared to as I wanted to be, so uh yeah, I was just like Dagn. I was a little bit spain whatever. The girl I wanted close in to see if other people can come in here and sway me and stuff like that obviously didn't work out. I got the boot for it too, and the money we're here, man, we all know out was still sucking. Sorry you guys, I feel I'm a feeling you guys are gonna be

just fine. I think. So when you finally got the call to be like, hey, we want you to be on Love Island, what was your initial thoughts? Were you hesitant at all? Or you were like in, I'm in, obviously this will be a great experience, new experience, and so I never did before, and so I'm all about that. I'm all about new experiences and trying things new and me new people solid you know this is gonna be dupe.

I was ready. I was suwer ready. So I'm a little unfamiliar with Love Island, like the way that it's isn't it Like, so you cast means that are still there, They're still there like now right, like it basically films and then gets there the next day, right literally, yeah, both of you. So both of you guys haven't even really had a chance then to like see if there's gonna be any type of connection outside a Love Island

with the people that you're with. I mean, we we got an idea, we got an idea of who who's who's a true connection? You know being in the villa, you know, like like you know, you know, you know what's real and Russ fake. You know, we're not kids hit so you know, Josh and Shannon, that's definitely a real connection. Um, I feel like that was the strongest connection there, Josh and Shannon, like they hit offs in this day one Oh no, bro will and heroes like

that too, though, well we're right, we will. Carol was like that. But like for me, like I really see that Josh and Shannon will take it, you know, above and beyond, like the last longer outside the villa. Well then, Giovanni, for you, do you think once Olivia is out of there, do you think that there's any chance for you guys

to rekindle anything? Man, that was the last trip. That was Olivia's last trip, Like like if like if you as being in the villa, you know should like tell you know, we have all the time in the world. It gets to know each other and just just been being in there and meet going above and beyond showing you that you know everything that you've been looking for and a man and and what you've been what you want you like, like you know you want a man to be on the top. You show you attention. You

know you want a business man. You know, you want somebody that's gonna like it who you are. That's That's everything I was showing her. And to the fact that she didn't realize that or failed to realize that. You know, you want to know what's missing until it's gone. And you know that ship, that ship done sailed. And you know, I'm pretty sure when she get out the villa, she's gonna have a lot of options for her. But you know, I'm moving on, and but you know, we could be friends,

but it's it's over. What about you thinking, because I know a lot of people have been, you know, kind of vocalizing that they want Cachet to to find you, you know, like, go get off the island and come find your man. So do you think that there's any chance of you guys rekindling something? Oh, I see want it? He seemed cares are you want everything? That's the case. I don't believe um as a personality. Bro. I love cash, Bro, She's a great person to love hanging out with her.

I think from the standpoint that we both on now and how we left things off, I'm sure how this cut the balls in her career, You don't mean what she kind of like wrote me off to do with Charlie and that was her choice, you know what I mean. So I don't know how that was doing right now. But at the same time, like, if she wants to talk out Thors, that's gonna be on her and we'll figure it out from there. But I'm open minded to everything.

I'm single, I'm still single. I'm still open minded everything. So um, we'll see, we'll see whatever. And what was both yours overall views of like your impressions of being on a reality dating show. Would you want to do more? Would you want to do different shows? Like if they have another season of Love Island, Like I don't even know if you if they can bring you back or I don't know exactly the rules, or if you guys want to, like, you know, go wherever acts on the

beach Bachelor in Paradise. Would you guys be hoping for it? I want to Hey, hey, if I could be on the reality show seeking long with it? We uh, we're good. You know, you know I'm with you know, Um, after I've experienceding Love Island, you know, it's definitely a great experience. If something that's coming along, you know, I'm on for it. You know, I'm out for it. I'm I'm down to still explore the horizons, you know. And you know, just she was out there, she she was for us. You

know obviously we suck at dating. Uh you know, I try to make a girl like me, but it was dead, you know, And I'm I'm on for it. You know, I'm gonna see what comes next. And you know, I'm I'm at individual. I stayed late, I keep it real. So that's that's me. What about you thinking at my point of view, like, yeah, I was trying to come in and be honest over and everything and still we called the players. Was like, dahn, I can't win. You

know what I'm saying. I suck too. So you feel me like I'm done over to anything you know coming up? I don't know. XL BEJ I want to be crazy. I can see you want to not acting a fool. Xm ebch Olivia, Papa, what say you had options? I just had one. I wish I wish you would have stayed took cost more. Bro. It's definitely got to be a gut check, especially like in real life I mean it just it always goes to differently, especially with all the world watching. But we wish you guys nothing but

the best. We hope to see on the TV again soon. Um, thank you guys for joining us. We look forward to uh yeah, like I said, seeing more you guys, so take care. Yeah, we're gonna see you guys dating on our TV screens yet again. I have, I have, I got a gut feeling about that one. So congratulations on everything, guys. I know it didn't work out, but I we really appreciate you taking the time to come on. Help. I stuck a dating seeing how you guys suck at dating.

So it's fantastic and everybody listening right now. You can catch up on all the season of Love Island that's already aired. You can go on Paramount Plus catch up on everything before the finale on August fifteenth, which airs on CBS. Boy Jerry question, Well yeah, I think he's taking it. I Love Island, just take who's taking the prize? Get the lottery? Oh my god, that's a Jared. Yeah, what do you thinking? What do you think? You're hoping it up the whole time? So I think you know

a lot better than I would. So I'll say will and care as well. Yeah, I'm well, well care what is the what is the prize? What do they walk away with a huntred thousand? But I want to I want to gonna split it. I want to be gonna split that hunted thousand. They don't split it, that's gonna be crazy, dude. That was It's the same thing though, Like there's there was a show in Bachelor called Bachelor Pad where it's like a cash prize and you can either share it or split it. And the last season

the air, the dude took it all. They had to like both asides similar in Levan, where like they both had to either agree to share it or if one person said they take it and the other person said share, then they got to keep it. And so one dude was like, took all the money and she said share and he got it all. And you bake the internet if you take it a moment. I didn't know about a time, but then I met him on Bachelor in Paradise and I went back in YouTube Dell. I was like,

oh my god, that's crazy. He gotta go off boy Island. All right, boys, I appreciate you joining us. Thank you so much, Thank you having Thank you guys, Thanks good boys. All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating. We have a very special guest who's joining us. Now. We just talked to two contestants from Love Island, and now we're going to talk to the host, which, of course, again you can watch Love Island on Paramount Plus catch up on everything before the finale in August fifteenth, which

airs on CBS. It is Ari L Vandenburg Ari L. How are you? What's going on? I am super good. I'm here in Hawaii as you know. Um wait, you just talked to two people from Love Island. No, we can't share that from nation with what what can I know? Oh good, you didn't hear me. Never mind, we had a Javanian sinko on here. There were sharing about their exit from the island. Oh my god. I love them both so much. I won't tell what. I promise I

won't say it. Thank you. Yeah, that's that's where the NDA you agreed to when you joined the Zoom call. But uh so we were just talking actually before we brought you in a little bit about the live time of Love Island. And I'm curious to know more about that as well, because obviously you're in Hawaii. The show films in Hawaii. So for someone like you, what it like? What is that experience like? Is it like more high stress?

What is it exactly like for you? It's honestly one of my favorite aspects of the show for myself as an entertainer, because I feel like, you know, I was well, I used to act more often, Like back before I was hosting, I was acting. I mean I still would act, but right now I'm hosting obviously, but um yeah, when I when I'm acting, you know, you don't see something for a year and a half and it's like you

don't know if it's good. You forget about it, and you just like, you know totally, it's just out of your life kind of. But this it's like instant gratification. It's like Instagram on steroids. Like we turn around these episodes like it's it's so insane what this production can do. Um, you know, because what we're filming on a Monday, you're seeing on a Tuesday, and that to me is just

like gets me riled up. How's that even possible? I have no idea that editors and I mean they got some good ask people working on this show, No kidding. Hunt Bachelor takes months and but like obviously I guess it must be different. But like, I'm so we were talking about this before you came on, Like I'm so used to a show that films months prior and then you know, get it gets aired. You know, it films in March, airs in August, and then you're it's like, oh,

we're filming on Tuesday and it's airing on Wednesday. That's gonna be nerve wracking. I love it. I love it because it's like if you anticipation, there's nothing to be like really scared of. You're just like, oh, it happened already, Okay, cool onto the next you know what I mean, Like it's great beauty abad it too is if you do something wrong or bad, that'll quickly get swept into their under the rug because it's the next thing is already happening.

I mean, I don't really do anything wrong or bad, but it's right. But knowing that you if you do make a mistake, which again you're not gonna make that was a show I think kind of like hey, listen, I get it. I love the Confidence. So how do you think this season a Love Island is different than like maybe the previous season. Well, we're actually on an island, which I think is really important for the show. Obviously last year we're shooting in Vegas last year, which to

be honest, was awesome. It just you know, this show belongs on an island or Love Island, um. And I think that bringing it back to an island because the first season we were in Fiji than Vegas, and now we're in Hawaii, it just like brings romance and sunsets and like more, I don't know, it just feels very small, romantic setting. Yeah, it's so romantic. So I think that having it here is just really special. And definitely were you a fan of the show before becoming because you

haven't hosted all three seasons, have you I have? Yeah, oh you have, but it's but it's a reboot from an older no, so it's um, it's a huge success in the UK, the UK. Okay, that's what I was mistaking it with. Were you a fan of Love Island UK before taking the hosting gig for the Love Island

reboot in America? Yeah? So so I had. I had known about the show, and I had never watched it, and then when I had my first meeting with CBS, they told me all about it and I was like, wait, that sounds amazing and I hadn't even gotten the job yet, and I immediately went home, turned it on and watched like forty five episodes in a row, and my fiancee was like, what the are you watching like because I was like, this is amazing, and then I ended up

falling in love with it. And then they're like do you want to do you want to test for it? And I was like, yes, uh, screen test please, and then I did that and then I booked it and I was so excited because I was already addicted at that point. And surprise it took so long to get to the States. I mean that show has been huge in the UK for quite some time. I didn't even realize, like it just it's only been three season in the United States. Huh, that's insane. I feel like it's longer anyway.

I think something that you know was definitely different for the States were was the fact that, like the UK one, you know, when you're watching you're like, whoa, we could never show half of this stuff scandalous. Yeah. But the cool thing is is like we have Paramount Plus now, because what's not making it to broadcast? Um, because maybe it's too steamy. They can put it on Paramount Plus. Which is like, oh, I see, I didn't know that.

I just thought that they were taking the episodes that they aired on CBS and then you can binge watch it to catch up. But you're saying that there's like a little X rated on the paramoun facts ready, but you know a little bit like if this if the shows PG, we're going to PG thirteen on Paramount Plus totally. I mean it's blowing a little r Sometimes I'm like, whoa, I'm not even joking you. I was like, oh, they're like yeah, they're not. I don't know. They've got some

under boob side boob. We got all the things on Paramount all the boob. I love it. I mean, so I've only been watching on TV, but I guess I need to switch over to Paramount Plus. Then if that's the case. Um, So, all everyone that you've seen so far this season, if you had to pick one couple once the shows over, who would you think you would be betting on? Right now? Because this is the finale

is almost less. It's almost a week away. Yeah, yeah, gosh that that's so hard because honestly starting, you know, at the very beginning, like I had, I had placed my bets, and now I'm just like, I don't freaking know. So I just I think like things are constantly changing, which is why it's so addicting. It's like, I mean, things could change today, and you know you would have no idea. I mean, yeah, I don't. I don't know. I love everybody. I think everybody has like such a chance.

It's pretty insane. So I mean, i'll just tell you right now, I'm like obsessed. I'm obsessed with Corey. I just love Corey and I think he I feel like he really needs his shot at love and um so yeah, I mean, I don't know if he's gonna win, but who knows. I'm looking for him. I'm rooting for everybody.

But yeah, it is really funny talking to you about it because you truly have no idea who's going to win, because it hasn't happened yet, you know, like I'm so used to seeing, like you know, when Chris Harrison did interviews when he was hosting, and you know he had to like play at coy because obviously he knows how the show ends, but you truly just have no idea because it hasn't happened yet, which is mind boggling to me.

I don't even know who wins the day of like because the voting America votes and it takes you know, time to figure out the vote it's and give you give them. They give America time to actually submit their votes and winds until they tell me in my ear and I announced it right then and there, like it's my favorite thing because I'm even tucked and especially like my favorite thing is when um, I have to send

somebody home. It's not my favorite thing, but when I do have to send someone home and I don't know who's going home, and I'm like my face cannot not react to what's happening. So they're like, this person is going home in my ear and I'm just like wait what And I'm like, oh, okay, I have to announce that. Okay, got it? Like it's so it's like such a different I've never hosted a show like this before, so it's really interesting and really fun and it's different. Before you

go are you. I just wanted to ask you pretty much about your career as a whole, because you know, I think social media is such a fascinating component of life today and you and so many other like content creators, if you will, have taken this and ran with it. And I just want you to kind of expand upon that for a minute. Because your fiance's Matt cut cutshell right, And so I see Matt and I see you, and I see like you're in videos with like man in

right man and Matthews. Yeah, I love her. She's the best. And like, you guys just do such a good job of creating content on Instagram, funny skits, but like you've really cultivated this audience and I think you guys have done such a good job at it, and I just want you to talk about, like how did you even start doing it? How did you get into this? Okay, let's see. Well, I, like I said before, I was acting and all I wanted to do was be a comedian,

like do comedic roles. And I was auditioning for everything you could imagine, and I was I just like was up against um always, I'm up against you know, huge names, which is like such a cool position to be in, but it's also such a hard position to be in because us the names are booking the shows, right, So I was always like pissed. And then I was like, I need to create my own Like I need to I need to make you know, my own TV show where I'm the star of it and I can like

do whatever I want. But that also is really hard to you know, like getting a show off the ground and actually having someone by a show. So then I was like, Okay, I'm just gonna do YouTube and start doing my own skits and maybe make you know a little show on YouTube. And in the process of that, I was like, dang, this is like you need you need money to start a show on YouTube, Like you need someone to edit, someone to film, someone to do

your hair and makeup, like all these things. It's so much work and um and uh so so then Vine came out and I was like, oh, Vine, you don't need hair and makeup. Vine, you don't need an editor. You don't need it's like this silly app that's six seconds. So I just started posting dumb, stupid sketch is on there which were literally six seconds, and I was like building a following on there and just loving it because I felt like I was really putting things out there

that I could actually be like, oh this is me. Um, and you know, I get to be creative on there and it doesn't it doesn't. It didn't feel like something that could hurt my career, you know what I mean, Whereas like YouTube, it's there, I mean, so is Vine, but like it, it just felt like a little bit easier and not so like set in Stone right as YouTube. So I just made a bunch of vines and created this following and then continued to do it once Vine

was done, more so on Instagram and making longer videos. Um. And yeah, it's because I mean I just get to like do my style of acting and I get to act my scripts and I get to and I still want to act and I still love acting. Um, So if you know you should, you should keep doing it because I'm sure you're great at it. My point being is like I respect and it really inspires me when people have the not only creative capacity, but like the drive.

Like for you, for example, it was like when you got told no no, no, no no over again because these names were getting picked over you. You could have been like you know what, it's not for me, like I'm gonna, I'm gonna do something else, but you kind of like looked at certain things through different lens, like I'm gonna, I'm gonna put you in a category right now, but like The Rock is someone who has always inspired me.

I'll never forget when Scorpion King came out. I know this is like Dean's laughing his ass off right now, but like everybody was like, oh, the Rock wants to be an actor, Like, oh my, what a joke, Like Dwayne to Johnson trying to be in movies. Here he

is the biggest movie star in the world. And it just goes to show you, like you keep keep doing it, like don't let people tell you know or tell you that you can't do something, because like I feel like social media has a stigma about it and I and I think it's stupid because people are like, oh, you're so a media personality. It's like, yeah, I am, and I work hard at it and I do a good job, and I'm going to keep doing it. I I totally agree. I mean, I am basically the Rock. Um obviously, Like

I totally get where you're coming from. And it it is. It is such like a thing that I when I see him, I think to myself what I think for myself, which is, um, do things that bring you joy. And I really truly think that the Rock just like does anything that brings him joy. Like the movies that he does, you can tell that he's living his best life. You can tell that he's like having fun. I truly apply that to my everyday life where I'm just like I, I I want to do things that bring me joy. Love

Island brings me joy. Um, social media brings me joy. I Also, the word influencer is so influencer right, I feel like I'm genuinely like a content creator and and it makes it easier for me to be like, oh, social media is like a job instead out of being like I'm an influencer, even though I guess that's what they call it. But content creating is so different. Like I like, I write scripts. I cast people in my scripts, I act in them, I direct them, I edit them,

I do everything for them I have. I never hire people to do anything because I never end up liking it, So I'm always like I just have to do it. Um. And it's just like so much more work than you would even imagine for one minute, right, Like it's crazy, so so yeah, and that brings me joy, like I have fun doing that. So I think it's just the most important thing, especially with just social media, is like doing what you love always or just in general in

life is just doing what you love. And you know what I mean. I think a lot of people do what you love and work hard at it and then you know, let ever all the chips faller them in. But I just wanted to mention that because I I really I love it, because I follow man and she posts a lot, and I just I love it. Well, we're on topic of it is the fanboy real quick. I do remember back in the days of sitting in my freshman seminar class on my Vine app and seeing you and Matt pop up on it all the time,

and I was like, man, these guys are hilarious. And then obviously transition well, and what's funny too, is like the growth. And I'm sure you get this all the time and you probably talk about all the time, but

you're in mats relationship. The maturation of that is really interesting too, because you're like best friends for so long and I'm sure everyone like you've I was thinking, I don't think I ever commented it or anything like that, but I'm sure everyone is always like, you guys need to be together, you're so cute together, blah blah blah, and now here you are engaged to get married and you've you've catapulted a vine career into a successful hosting career,

and you guys are both crushing it. So it's just like a wonderful, wonderful kids mit thing. Guys, thank you. I know it's you know it actually, whenever like someone brings it up, because you know, you forget where Him and I have been friends for years before Vine even started, and so we but everyone thinks we met on Vine, which is so funny to me. We're like a Vine relationship even though we've been first all along before that. Um, but we definitely became such a unit on Vine um together.

Everyone was always like, you guys should be dating. Are you guys secretly dating? And we we were not until you know, until four and a half years ago. Now we started dating, but m yeah, and then we're engaged. That's awesome. Well, everybody who's listening, go follow Ari l

on Instagram even though you definitely already do. Plus, check out her and her fiance's Matt's podcast, Riled Up with ri L and Matt, which of course you can get anywhere you get your podcast, and most importantly, make sure you watch Love Island's finale on CBS, which airs August fifteen, And if you need to catch up on any of the episodes, you can get the PG thirteen maybe an R rated version of Love Island on Paramount Plus right now binge watch it before the finale in August fifteenth,

which airs on CBS. R E L, thank you so much. You're a pleasure. Thank you so much. You guys are awesome. I want to have you guys on my podcast. We don't ever have guests on it, but like I always want to, so like anytime you're available, let's do it, all right, cool, speaking speaking from experience, this podcast is solely carried by the guests that we have on, so he's not lying. So just just to close the loop on that. Thank you again for joining us. Sorry, I'll

appreciate it. And yeah, whenever you want is will definitely join you. So let us go. Good luck with finishing up the season. Hopefully some crazy stuff happens, but it will definitely be tuning in. So thank you, thank you, thank you, of course, big thank you to Ari l Sinco and Giovanni for joining us UM. But it's time for mine and Jared's favorite segment, the emails, and we hope they're actually real this time, because they're pretty juicy.

I don't think they are, judging by Marina's, they're pretty juicy. It's funny because like, all, yeah, I don't know, I don't know, it doesn't matter, but I'll like, I'll see things on like like what like TikTok read it Instagram and then they like dating foibles and I'm like, oh, I should remember this, or like, oh, I should make a fake email account to send them to our um

podcast emails so that way we can discuss them. I haven't done it yet, but it's it's possible that maybe these are them, maybe people have done in the past. Maybe I will do it. Maybe I did do it and I'm just playing coy anyways, first email is from Marina and she has a burning question, what's the deal with Jared mentioning that he plays softball in the last few episodes. I don't understand why that's a defining characteristic. Okay,

it's a little harsh, but sure. Speaking of softball. Speaking of softball, Marine is on a co ed team with her coworkers, and she has a crush on the team captain. They've known each other for about four years now, but they've recently left the place where they work together, so there isn't any more hr red tape, which would assume is a good thing. They're the only single ones on the team and they've never gotten any vibes from each other, so she wants to know I should I go for

it and ask him out? Or should I not? Because she's a little bit nervous, and she always goes as a group after the softball game and the two of them are usually last two to hang out at the end of the night. What would you do if you were in her shoes, Jared? And how would you want someone to ask you out on a date if you were him? Listen? I feel like this is either a fake email or this is a buddy of mine who actually has a crush on somebody that we play softball with.

Uh going in under Marina, because who else would like just bust my balls like this? What's Jared. What's Jared's deal? And in Marina's defense, you have very bustable balls. Fair point. Uh listen, just I don't know you have a crush on your team captain. You guys known each other for about four years, all right, I don't understand what the issue is. Why can't you guys are the only single ones on the team. Here's the thing, though, Like let's

say this. Let's say this guy ticks softball seriously, and I don't know if Marina is a quality enough softball player to really, you know, pique his interest. If you will listen, just the fact that she's out there is gonna him attracted to her. Like anybody who any girl who tries to play softball, it's immediately an attractive quality to me. Uh so I think, listen, Yeah, it's nervous. You guys totally Marina go out as a group after the softball game. Let you guys kind of like hang out,

see if there's any vibes thrown back and forth. That's what I would do. I would try to get a group of people after a softball game. Hey, let's go grab beers. Boom, this guy shows up. Now you're grabbing beers with them. You guys, what she's saying that she's done this before and she's never got any vibes from the guy. So how do you how do you, like, how do you put the vibe out there that you

want to get the vibe back? I mean you you make it a point to just talk to him like one on one while you're out with a group, or you make a point to like sit next to him, you know, every time that you guys go out, you know, and that you like, you know, always bring up conversation. And then at some point, honestly, Marina, you're just gonna have to ask him out. I think a good way to go about because like, let's just give her some

tips on how to bring up the conversation. Initially, I think the good way to go about it is if they're at a bar post game and they're the last two left and then he has to the last two left there, but she could casually bring up like, how is dating going, and then the guy goes, oh, you know, like it's hit and miss. Got on a couple of days, nothing great, and like once you start talking about the topic, then you could be like, oh, like maybe we should go on a date. Oh you want to go on

a date? Okay, where should we go? Oh? You want to do this? Okay? Like you know, like you kind of like let one thing lead and do another thing. Or Marina, you go up to the person that you're closest with on the softball team. You asked them, You're like, hey, listen, I have a crush on Blank, Yeah, can you do can you kind of like get some intel for me? See if he's single, see if he'd be interested in going down with me? No? No, no, nope, no, what's

wrong with that intel? No? I don't agree. I don't disagree with your friend going up to the guy that's called the guy Randy. The guy's name is Randy. Now I don't disagree with I don't disagree with me Marina's friend going up to Randy and be like, hey, Randy, Marina has got a bit of a crush on you.

Are you at all interested? Like, if you're gonna have recruit a friend to help you, make sure that the friend is beating around the bush and getting directly to the point, because we beat around that Like Marina should beat around the bush, but her friends should be the direct one. Got it? Okay, So you think that Marina should have the friend go up to Randy and be like, hey, listen, Marina, so you know kind of has a crush on you. What do you think would you ever go out with her?

If Marina decides to recruit a friend for help, that's how her friends should help her, all right, I think you should recruit a friend. I think that's the best way to get this going. All right, So Jared thinks Marina should recruit a friend to ask Randy al I think that she should ask leading questions by simply asking how dating is going for Randy, and then that can snowball into hey, let's go on a date some time

and touch lips? Jack Pott. This message next email is from Taylor with an h Hey, guys, I'm currently in a committed relationship with the same person that I have dated since high school. I don't know how old Taylor is, so I don't know how long that's been. We've since bought a home together and share a pet. I've been noticing a lot more lately how different we are, though, from what we like and what we enjoy to who

we are as people. I've been feeling a lot less attracted to him romantically because of the lack of effort being put towards our relationship. I feel like it could ruin my day It could I feel like it could ruin my day to day life if I completely if I'm completely honest about how I'm feeling towards him, but I feel stuck and don't know what the best thing I can do is any advice on something I consider to do to try to make it feel to make

him feel better, to make me feel better. Help. Well, let's think about this very second, because you and I'm sorry, you and ashually are similar but still pretty different. Similar, So it's like, how do we silar I'm saying, I don't know, like there's similarities, but I guess my, my, you guys are very different. So how do you guys make your differences let you lead into a romantic relationship? I mean, I think you just have to accept the

person for their differences. See, you know, I mean I think a lot of people get in a relationship and once things start going wrong, they always envisioned the grass being greener on the other side, and it's like, oh, I you know, if if this is I've said a simillion times of the podcast. But if like, oh, this thing is wrong and then this is obviously not my person, and I'm like, well, that's not always the case. Sometimes in a relationship, actually in every relationship, you're gonna find

things wrong with the other person. That's just what being human beings is all about. So you kind of have to accept their differences and hope that the best of them is what you really enjoy and what you love most and and the most important thing. So I think, uh,

you should definitely address this with your boyfriend. I think they're still just boyfriend and girlfriend even though they lived together bought a home together, and now that's crazy because that's not crazy, but that's you know, that makes a big difference. I had a cousin who bought a house with her now ex boyfriend, and holy crap, when they broke up, that was such a headache. So hopefully, Taylor, you guys don't break up especially share pet as well.

I have another friend that shared a pet with her ex husband and like, it was so awkward because they would have to like pick them up on Tuesday and her new boyfriend would calm and the new boyfriend would have to pick up the pet from the from the ex husband, and it's just like caused a whole issue sometimes, like they couldn't even be in the same room, so it's like mom had to bring the dog out terrible. So, Taylor, the most important thing in a relationship is communication. Said

it once, said it a million times. Talk to your partner about the things that you're feeling. Okay, it's okay to talk to them and say, hey, we're having issues, like I'm I'm feeling weird about certain things. Let's talk because if you don't talk about it, it's gonna snowball in the situation is going to get way worse before it gets better. Yeah, I agree with what you said at the beginning of the of your of your sil

delivery there soliloqually. Sure, I do agree that it's a choice, and I think that like I'm gonna pull from a personal experience, like so early late teens, early twenties, mid twenties, I was in the firm. I was firmly believed that it's like in the world, there's like your soul mate, right, and once you meet your soul mate, everything is going to be perfectly entwined and everything's gonna go super well,

there's not gonna be any issues. And as I've gotten older, not especially with my relationship with Kalin, but as I've gotten older, I agree that what it really comes down to is just a choice that you make to be in a relationship with a person despite the differences that you have with them, Like Kaylin and I are night and day different as well, like like I would say, even more so than you, and actually I would say more so than any of my friends that are in

relationships like she's you know, the great beauty queen, uh whatever. All we all know how Calin is, and we all know how I am, so we know how different we are. And there are times where I struggle. Well, there have been times I would say it's gotten less and less as we've gone on, But there have been times where I struggle with like, is this the girl for me?

Like she you know, she she's curious about things, but she there are certain like reservations that I have because there are a lot of disconnects in our personalities and our interests and all that kind of stuf up. But then as I've gotten older, and as our relationship has drug along and war on, I'm like, no, as long as I like consistently make the choice to have her

in my life and to focus on our relationship. It doesn't matter whether we have differences or not, because I know she's a good person and I know our relationship makes both of us better for different reasons. And I think that maybe that gets lost. I think, especially on young people, that idea gets lost because at least in my case, like I was saying, like, you just have this idea where you're gonna find someone everything's be perfect,

but nothing's ever gonna be perfect. It's really a conscious decision that you have to make to commit to a person. And just like understand the grass, like you said, the grass is always been it, but the grass isn't going to be greener in my life. Sometimes the grass is ship grass could be. And you're like, it's like there's like a hill in front of you, and so on the top of the hill there's green grass, and you're like, man,

that looks good. I just want to get to the other side of the hill because I know that grass is going to be so green. And then you get to the other side of the hill and it's all burned from wildfires, and you're like, get me the hell out of here. I want the grass that I just came from, because that grass is way more comforting and nice. So just remember that. Okay, I like the wildfire reference in the state of catastrophe that the world is in. But hey, you proved your point and I respect that,

all right, fair point. That's my opinion. It's a choice. It's and Jared, I think it said the same thing, and we both said in a lot of words. So maybe we could just go ahead and wrap summarize that real quick. It's a conscious effort, make the effort. You love the person not for their similarities to you, but for the things that they are about themselves. Um, that's

all I think you need to know. Anyone will not need to know, but I think that's all that matters when it comes to being in a relationship with someone. I'm gonna stop talking because I feel like I'm just rambling and rambling. Well, I hope that helped. Taylor with an H Taylor with an H. And I'm going to leave it up to the listeners to guess where that age falls in the name, because I think there are

multiple places. Like I'm looking at the name, it doesn't look like the tailor, but the age could fall almost anywhere in the name and so it's up to them. It's a mystery solved. The solve the mystery, you get a cookie. UM. Big thank you to our guests Sinco Giovanni and r L for joining us from Love Island. Be sure to tune in to Love Is It airing every single day Love Island, Yeah, Monday to Friday, every single day. UM check it out and check out the

PG thirteen slash R rated versions on Paramount Plus. The finale is August fifteen, so be sure to tune in for all that as well. UM. Look you to Shared for sharing your UM business venture on Audrey Life on the podcast job sharing your freaking new business venture for the first time Benz heard about it. Ask she's heard about it. Who else has heard about it? Freaking everyone else but this podcast. So thank you for finally at

least sharing that with us. Appreciate. I just I want you to like break some I want you to make some groundbreaking news announcement on this podcast for once. Not the pregnancy, not the proposal, not the restaurant, not the I don't know, I don't know what's next, not the calls of the baby. Yeah, sex of the baby. That's what I am now demanding. We announced live on help I Suck a Dating. Do you agree to my terms? I don't. Unfortunately, I'm not the boss in this relationship,

so you're gonna have to talk to him. Mr ms Ashley, I can, Eddie. I'll give you a thousand dollars if you announce it on help by Second Dating. Okay, all right, let me let me talk to the boss. Let me talk to the financial advisor in this household. I do not regret saying that whatsoever. I will legitimately give you a thousand dollars if you announced it on this podcast, and I'm sure the listeners would appreciate it as well. But that's gonna do it for this week's episode. Thank

you everyone for joining us. We look forward to talking with you next week, where maybe we'll suck just a little bit less. Follow help by Suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast