Twin Flames

Partly in my brain. There you go, another way that we cannot separate you and Nick. You guys look very similar, act very look very similar, a very similar alter egoys. I'll take that as a compliment. If I look like him at his age, which I won't say because he'll probably hate me for saying it, then I'll be a happy man, my friend. You know, I'm sick of this.

I'm just sick of this at that age saying. I was telling Kalen the other day, or actually even just this morning at breakfast, I was like, oh, look at your hands. They've got more wrinkles in them than I do. Like in the palms and the palm of a hand. I was like, your palm has more wrinkles than I didn't mind you, and she was like, don't look at them. The wrinkly I was like, that's just literally part of

life and growing older. It's like, you're gonna have wrinkles, and so at any age you look exactly how you're supposed to. Try telling Ashley that she gets wrinkles forcibly removed through technological advances. I mean, listen, of course, we're never going to be able to get into the mind of other people. But at the end of day, it's like, just let nature run its course, and like, if you get a little wrinkly, that's just how nature intended you

to look. I may have just gotten a vivacchi facial, which is something I've never heard of before, but Ashley wanted me to get one because she got one. They numbed my face. So my face is still very numb right now. So if I start like my tongue goes numb, then I start just blabbering. Just take over the podcast for me. I'd appreciate it. Your skin does look a little like pulled back almost, Okay, well it wasn't like it wasn't what would that be a facelift? Yeah, no,

it was not a facelift. It was like there was like little needles. It was not an enjoyable experience. I don't know why facials are like described to be enjoyable. They facials. Have you ever had one? Um, maybe like

once or twice or anything like this. So a couple of years ago, my first facial ash wanted me to get one because I have tons of black heads in my nose apparently, so she wanted to get those removed because if you don't get the blackheads removed, apparently your nose becomes like your great grandfather's you know, where it's just like all bubbled up and pussed out, quite disgusting. So she was like, get the black heads out now, because I don't want you to have this puffed out

nose when we're older. I was like whatever, So I go and they have to extract them and they're like zapping my face and then digging like a scalpel into my nose, and I'm like, I'm sorry. All my life, I grew up thinking that facials were some sort of enjoyable massage spa experience little did I know that I'd be bleeding, legitimately bleeding from leaving a facial anyway, that's

my facial story. That sounds painful, But listen, in the defense of that whole situation, at least like they're getting your natural features to shine injecting or well, they're they're they're taking the things away to make your natural self shine rather than adding things to make you look different, you know. So I think that's defensible in my opinion. But there are things like botox and you know, uh, lip injections and all those things. I personally am not

a fan. I know everyone's different. Do what you gotta do to make yourself feel beautiful, don't get me wrong, but I mean, I don't know, especially in today's day and age, especially living in l A. I'm sure you're not gonna counter much of it in Rhode Island, but as you know, living in l A for four or five years, however long you're there, it's like pretty prevalent. And I don't know how we got on this topic, but I'm very passionate about it. I don't blame you.

I uh, you know, I always said I never get botox. But Tom Brady gets botox, and if Brady does it, I'm kind of having a change of heart. I could see myself getting botox at one point. Luckily, right now, I don't think we need it. Caitlin and I were walking down the boardwalk here and her Mosta this morning and we saw Jared Goff riding by in his motorcycle

and I'm sorry, on his bicycle. I knew who it was, and like, I think, like we made out of contact whatever and sound important, but in the back of my head at the end, like after he had passed by, I was like, crap. I should have yelled out got lions as soon as he rode by, but I unfortunately did not. Do you think he knew who you were, which is why you guys made eye contact. You know, it's entirely possible. Yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if there

was like some unspoken mutual respect between the two of us. Oh, dude. One time I saw Tofa Grace in Hollywood and I was I was staring at him because I was like, holy crap, that's to for Grace, And then he saw me, and then we probably had the same experience you did with Jared Goff, where we just stared at each other for like a good four seconds because I was like,

that's Toll for Grace. And then he made on contact with me, and he he didn't He like looked at me as if he knew me or like was trying to register in his brain where he recognized me from. And then I was like, oh my god, I think till for Grace knew who I was for a second. I think he might watch The Bachelor. So it's like stuff like that. That is one of the coolest experience of the show for me, like being like, I think

that guy knows who I am. I don't want to sound like an idiot or anything, but who the heck is Toll for Grace? Dude? That seventy show and he was in Uh he's the main guy. Yeah, I think his name is Eric in the show. And then he was in, um, what's the eighties movie? I really liked it? Uh, take Me Home Tonight. He was in that it came out a few years ago. He was in Spider Man three. He was Venom. That was probably the biggest role. He was Venom. He was also in Ocean's twelve or thirteen.

At the very beginning. He yes, it's right. Yeah, yeah, he rented the room that Brad Pitt owned the hotel I love. He's an Oceans he might be told, but he's an Oceans eleven. He's at the poker game. That's right. Well, that's right. So that's how he met Brad Pitt, and in my opinion, that might be his biggest recurring role in the Oceans movies, like come on, man, you can

that's pretty awesome. It's it's funny that we talked about this thing at the beginning because we have a headline that we I think it's important for us to discuss in terms of dating. Uh, it's the Jane Fonda shares her truthful outlook on dating, and it's that she would want a younger man. So she tells USA Today that she shares her truthful outlook on dating. So obviously she's a legendary actress, she's an activist, and she talked to an interview last Thursday about being a three Damn she's

eighty three years old. That is good for James that she looks great. But she talks about intimate relationship and she talks about what she you know, like she talks about her fantasies and quote, Jane Fonda says, I don't want to be in a relationship, a sexual relationship. Again, I don't have that desire, do I fantasize? Yeah, here's my fantasy. I'll just put it out there, Jane Fonda said. But the problem is that, like a man, I would want a younger man. Isn't that awful? It's a thing

about skin. I would want a younger man, and I'm too vain. So she's been married and divorced three times. That sucks. Her most recent marriage was to billionaire Ted Turner. They split up back. Oh my god, so she has been married in twenty years because they split up back in two thousand and one. Uh So, listen, Jane Fonda, you're eighty three years old. Girl, go for a younger man. First of all, if she's gonna date, let's be honest.

Statistically speaking, the person is probably gonna be younger than her, just from from rage, you know what I mean. We're looking at average lifespan here. Yeah, exactly. But Jane Fonda. I saw a picture of her recently. She looks awesome. She makes pretty good. Whenever I hear the name Jane Fonda, I think of that Key Avalons Mickey Avalanche song more junk in than trunk than a Honda. I know you want to do the Jane Fonda. Have you heard that

song before? Yeah, it's just it's it's directly where my mind just zeros in on. So I mean, listen, if you're big enough to have a song written about you, you're doing something right. So I think it's it's very much within Jane's right today, younger if that's what she wants to do A girl, I don't know, like listen, like let's say, you know, you get divorced three times, you're in your eighties, what do you get, Like, what is younger to you? You're like someone in their sixties,

like at that point somebody in their seventies. Well, yeah, of course, Like I like you said, law of averages. Everything is really like the majority of people in the world are gonna be younger than you. So it's like how much younger are we talking here? Like is Jane Fonda gonna date like a twenty five year old guy? Because that's a little creepy. All right, let's be honest, right now, Okay, do you have your you have your computer in front of you, right, I do want you to.

I want you to google a picture of Jane Fonda. Just do Jane Fond, so you know what she looks like? Alright, an one, okay, yeah, yeah, she's still cute. That my question, Dean, you as how old? I'm twenty nine, I'm twenty I'm thirty next month? Thank you very much? Oh my god, yeah you're getting old. So as a thirty let's just we we'll aid you up as a thirty year old man. Yeah, looking at Jane Fonda, what she looks like? A three? Dean? If you were single, would you date Jane Fonda? Absolutely not?

Okay you would you go on one date with Jane Fond if she was like Dean, I'm a huge Bachelor fan. I loved you on the show. I would love nothing more than to go on a date with you. Would you go on a date with her? I would be very interested in sparking up like a very platonic friendship with Jane Fonda. Shure, that sounds awesome. I'm sure she's got some great stories to share. I think I could entertain her with some of my own stories, but I

don't think there would be any romance involved. To be fair, she said that she doesn't want to be in a sexual relationship. Again, she doesn't have that desire, So this could work out perfectly for both you. Yeah, do you want me call Kalen over here and apologize to her and say, like listen to hey, I'm gonna go on a date with Jane Fonda And it prevented the opportunity or presented the opportunity of course, like you know, no

promises or anything like that. Why not. Yeah, yeah, I can see that actually, now that you you put it into perspective for me, I could see that being a realistic scenario for me, Like the Kalen is out of the picture. What's the biggest age gap you'd ever date a girl at, like a romantic like physically date. Yeah,

like a romantic relationship that you are committed to one another. Um, that's a hard question to answer because listen, like, obviously, I fortunately I don't have to put myself in that scenario. I've dated older in the past before Calin. Of course, Calin's four years my junior. But in the past I've dated girls as upwards of like ten years older than I am. My brother dated a girl who was twenty plus years older than he was, so uh, you know,

the Ungler genealogy doesn't discriminate against age. If there's a spark, if there's a connection there, then by all means will pursue it. Um. But thankfully I don't even have to. I don't have to consider this hypothetical because I have klin and and um, she's not even three years old. We're podcasts, we're here for entertainment purposes. Hypothetical is what we do. I would say I would go upwards of

like early forties, mid forties. I would say I would say the same for like a committed relationship, because it would be tough because it all depends to you know, family, what you're planning marriage. Like, if you're dating someone older, they could have easily been divorced and maybe not want to get married again. Remember they don't want kids, or maybe they already have kids. That throws a wrench into dating. Obviously for me though, like if we're putting all those

factors to the side, I'm not gonna lie. Yeah, I would go. I would go even upper forties, I think, and you're at two you know, obviously Ashley is the one woman for me. But if I was single before ash Yeah, I'm not gonna lie like a woman older than me who like puts out sexy vibes that was good things? Is that like is that like a king thing though, like once you like one and done, like once you get it, you're over it. I'm like, Okay,

check that off the list. Or is that like an actual thing where it's like there might be some longevity to this today? You know. I gotta be honest, I've I've never experienced it, so I can't really answer that question. I don't know if it would have been a one dumb thing or if I would have been head over heels like Okay, I'm in love, this is over, like I will do anything for you. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

You want to know what the best thing about this whole conversation that Jared, what that is that none of it matters because you have Ashley and I have Kaylin, and we're very very lucky in that guard well, extremely lucky. Obviously. Did you ever have I was gonna say, did you ever have a hesitant? Because Klein was four years younger than you, Um, do you do you see that as a big age difference? Like my parents are seven years difference, and as a kid, I never thought twice about it.

I was like, oh, that's just what you know marriages. You marriage someone, he married someone seven years younger than you. But now as I get older, I realized what a big age difference that is between my parents because they got together. My dad was twenty seven, my mom was twenty when they got married. So for you, Dean, you know, Calin's four years younger than you. Do you think that's a big difference in age? Uhh, that's a really good question, Jared. Um,

it was. I wouldn't say it was like a hesitation, but it was definitely a thought that had crossed my mind at some point because, like I said, I want I want to say, like, historically I did date a little older, like most of my girlfriends and my twenties were like late twenties, early thirties. Um, you know, because listen,

like I'm super mature, really intellectual. It's just very like interesting and so that like you know, obviously tailors towards an older crowd a little bit, obviously obviously, uh and so across my mind. But I don't think there's every any like I don't think I was ever like twenty four when I was twenty eight. It's like, that's not going to pass. Because you know, women on average, I think, I think it's pretty commonly known that they mature faster

than men. So I was like, Okay, cool, she's four years younger than I am. She's still probably four years more mature than I am, So that in itself was like okay, whatever, like this is a big deal. And actually than you. She was just funny because I think he was four years more mature than her age and your four years less mature than your age. So if you really balance this thing, oh, she's pretty much emotionally

two years older than you. Well, by that math, she would be twenty nine and I would be twenty five, which is very very possible. Yeah. I mean mass was never my strong suit, which is why I ended up

on Bachelor in Paradise. There's a lot of math. It's it's so funny too, because I was just telling Calin some stories when we were at breakfast, just now about the things I would do when I was nineteen or eighteen or nineteen, like a freshman in college, and she was like, you would do those things, and I was like, yeah, I was an idiot, and she goes like, that's like beyond I the audic. That's like like I was actingly at fifteen year old. I think that typically do skew younger.

I need to know what one of these things was. I mean, just explain a legal version of it, if these things were illegal. The main story that threw her off really bad was I used to just get really drunk with my friends and like have each other like we would all just punch each other in the face to give each other black eyes. Um, eighteen years because we're idiots. Absolutely, because we're idiots. And there was I think that you didn't think like women are going to

find this sexy or like look like a badass. Yes, of course that's nice. That's like I would say, like that six of what it was. I say it was like thirty, like showing up to class as a freshman in college with a black eye and everyone's like, WHOA, this guy got into a fight this weekend. That's pretty cool. You should see the other. Yeah, that's what I would always say. And then the other ten percent is just like you know, just being drunk and stupid and young

with your friends. I told you that story, and she was like, she looked at me like I was an insane person and I'd like shared some of my other like the link went, you know, underage drinking stories with her before, and she's always like, those are bad. But she like the way she looked at me after me telling her that story was like, who the heck am I dating right now? Because I have no idea who

you are. In my experience, guys are very stupid. So we didn't punch each other in the face, but I was also in high school we did this, but at football, like in the locker room, we would have challenges of punching each other in the same spot, giving each other a dead arm. So like you would wind up and punch as hard as you could into your buddy's arm, and then your buddy would do the same thing to your arm, and then you would continue this back and

forth until one person gave up. And then obviously the one person that gave up just lost pride and respect. But when I look back upon that, I'm like, what the hell is wrong with us? Why do guys do this? It doesn't matter with us, We just punch each other for fun. And you guys were punching each other in

each other's faces, right right. It got so bad to the one point where there was this girl that I was like really good friends with that I like, I like, had her pin me down on the ground and I should like start punching in the eye to give me a guy. And I was like, you're not punching me hard, punched me harder, and she started like punching me harder. And she's like, I'm scared, I don't want to punch you harder. And I'm like, punch me harder. Uh, And

it sounds like a sexual fantasy. I'm not gonna lie of yours where it was like a little crowded party like I thought. I thought it was hilarious. My friends probably didn't think it was as funny as I did, but they were still around me laughing. Anyway, let's move on to a different subject. Yeah, there is one subject I want to talk about before we get into our guest this week. Now, this has covered on us weekly. Uh.

Two people that we know from Bachelor in Paradise. One person is your mortal enemy Evan bass Uh screenshot at a text message between him and I guess his soon to be ex wife, which is really said Carly waddell Um, and it was really weird. I remember seeing this live while on Instagram. I saw that m posted because Evan doesn't really uh post anything on social media anymore. And

then so I was curious. I clicked on his story and it was a screenshot of a text message between him and Carly and they were going back and forth about I guess who Carly would date after Evan after the divorce went final. I don't really know. It seems like kind of a flirtatious text message back and forth like oh who who would you date? Oh who would you date? Ha ha ha ha. But it was really weird. And then Evan added the caption when you're soon to

be ex wife won't commit to appropriate boundaries. So obviously I immediately showed this to Ash and was like, what are you making of this? Because this is really weird and then she had no idea what it meant. And then Evan deleted it. And then the reason that's so interesting is that he tagged so his next story, he

tagged me in it. So he deleted this. Then he posted a story and tagged me in it, and he said, um, I forget what he said, but he said something about like how he was joking and he's headed into surgery tomorrow. And then he said tagging at Jared Haven because of facial hair, because he you know, he he had like the same facial hair I did in the picture. M and so I responded, uh and uh, I don't know. I haven't heard back from him. I hope he's doing

all right. But it was but he deleted that too, and then he went on this Q and a. Um. But of course, uh, you know, us Weekly covered this because it's Evan and Carly and and they talk about how Evan wants Carly to marry an Italian because it will make him happy, but he doesn't want any her dating anybody. Sure it has to be someone over six ft. And it was just weird and the idea that he screenshot at this. I don't know, do you have any thoughts about this? I just figured we touched on it

because obviously bachelor related. I mean, I've never I don't really know either of them. I know that Evan is a slimy human, uh and no, I'm just kidding. He seems like a nice enough guy. He just always wants to help me on Twitter for whatever reason. Um, but at funny that he tagged you so and you message him and he never responded to the message. He said that he was going into surgery and and he seems

to be all right right now. But I was just like, hey, hope, I hope it's gonna you know, I hope you're all right. It was surgery. It was dental surgery. I believe that he posted about yeah. Yeah, so it was everything was good, thank god. Um, but I don't know. I just I I really really Uh. I love Carly. I haven't talked to her in a while, which is sad because Carly

and I were really close. So I was on Bachelor in Paradize season two and three, right before you were on in season four, and then Carly and I were both on those seasons and our second season together, season three, Carly and I became really close. We were we were really really good friends. Uh, and I have some very fond memories of us just laughing on the beach together. So was there ever a moment where you were like, I kind of want to date, like date Carly or

take Carly on a date. No, we kind of joked about it, but we there was never any type of that chemistry. But between the two of us, like we were just we were like I don't know what's a good comparison, but like we were like I can't think of it, but we were just I guess there's no good comparison. It just wasn't that chemistry, you know, like I have that chemistry with ash Um, but Carl and

I were just like best friends. Um. And it was really funny and like being with her throughout the time that she dated Evan and seeing that firsthand of them kissing and not liking each other, and then her breaking up with him, and then then you know, developing this relationship that obviously ultimately turned into a marriage and having kids and now sadly is ending. Um. But I love Carly.

I really care for her. I hope she's doing well. UM. I hope that she was aware that Evan like screenshot and I just always get people post screenshots of text messages. It's like, I don't know, I just hope was there any public explanation as to why they were getting a divorce? Um? No, not really, UM, just that it's felt like there were time to go their separate ways. I don't know, so I hate like talking publicly about divorces and things like that,

because I don't want to step on anybody's toes. I don't want to like divulge any information that they don't feel comfortable being in the public eye, that they haven't talked about themselves. Um. So, I think all they said was it was time for them to go their separate ways, which is really sad, especially because you know they have a couple of kids together. Um and uh. But at least the good news is they seem to be on

friendly terms. That's nice. Hopefully he didn't piss off Carly by screenshotting a text message and placing it online, but she could have easily given approval. We have no idea, but I'm not gonna lie. When I first read it, I was like, this is freaking weird. I mean, at the end of the day, the divorce is bad enough, but when you have kids, it kind of amplifies. They're like the need to at least stay amicable with each other. I can only imagine, at least that's my interpretation of it.

So hopefully they they're able to maintain speaking terms. Yeah, and it seems that they do. I mean, they're just you know from I feel we're talking about this text message, but Evans the one that put on Instagram, they seem friendly, like, they seem like there's a nice banter back and forth. So well, Jared, while we're on the while we're on the topic of bachelor headlines, I got another one here

for you. So apparently Bennett from um Tatious season That's right seemingly shoots his shot with Peter Webber's ex girlfriend and X no, I just ex girlfriend Kelly Flann again. So according to this full US Weekly article, UM, I'm just gonna go ahead and read it verbat him here talking sweet and looking fine. Bennett Jordan would absolutely offer a rose to Kelly Flann again if given the chance.

According to his Wednesday Instagram posts, he says at thirty six, I realized shooters have arranged for a reason and can't be afraid of taking long distance shot. You gotta keep shooting basketball emoji the Harvard Lumber out. However, I didn't realize brief clips of quote fantasy could give such feels until earlier this week. Kissy face emoji. The caption was paired with the brief video of the shirtless reality TV personality playing with his hair and winking at the cameras,

set to the song Fantasy by Mariah Carey. The post was an obvious nod to Flan Again, who posted a similar video to her own Instagram account two days earlier, utilizing the same soundtrack. The attorney tworld for the camera to show off a new haircut. What's going on with this? Um? So I did a little stalking because this piqued my interest. So Kelly posted on her Instagram like a video of her. You know, what do they what do they call that? Where you like you flip your hair back? I guess

that's what you call it, you know. And it's like she her back is to the camera and she flips her around. She looks beautiful and her hair looks great, and she does it to that Mariah Carey song, which apparently is called Fantasies. I think that's what you just said.

And then Bennett, in the most Bennett way possible, posted a video on his own Instagram to the same song, talking about shooting his shot and talking about Fantasies, which is the name of the song, and he's running his hand through his hair, which is an obvious nod to Kelly flipping her hair, so obviously he is very interested in Kelly. Wants to take Kelly on a day. I don't know. Here's the thing. I don't know if he

quote unquote shoot he shot his shot. Uh Privately, I'm curious if he deemed her, and it was before this whole thing, it was like, hey, you know, I'm Bennett. I was here, I've seen you. You know, I'd love to get to know you more. Blattah blah dah blah. Or if Bennett just was like, screw it, I'm going to post a video that's exactly like hers and let her know, wink wink come into her. Probably the latter. It's definitely more Bennett. I saw, I saw it, Um.

I have one very civic feeling about it. I bleeping hate it. I think it's the worst thing I've ever seen. I like had a clothe You know when you watch a scary movie and you like watch the movie through your fingers over your eyeballs, and you're like, oh, I don't know if I can watch it, but I don't want to miss anything super important. But I'm ready to

close my eyes if I have to. That's how I watched everything in that story he posted and then very regrettably, I wish you could go back and turn time around and fix this that I did. I watched a couple more videos on Bennett's Instagram page, and it was just some of the worst stuff I've ever seen in my entire life. If that's him shooting a shot, he does not have Steph Curry range. He has DeAndre Jordan range from exactly, He's got no range. She's got no game.

It was bad, and I mean bad, and I don't like listen, he might be a nice guy. It all might be satire for all I know. I don't know, but it was mind blowing lee bad. Why it was the worst thing I've ever seen in my entire life. That's why I like Bettett so much, because I think

that he has zero game. And I'm saying this in the most endearing and loving way, because I think, like he's just he's a little wacky and like I I like, I think I relate to people like that who are kind of like just weird, and you don't want you don't want to relate to people like that. His videos, like there was one where he, uh, what did he do? He was like licking caviare off his hand or something like that. And to make matters worse, this is the

same guy. I think that I was talking to Noah from Tastious season about how emotionally intelligent he was and how Noah needed to learn emotional intelligence, and then I see these things and I'm like, bro, what are you doing? How in this? How? How okay? You take this video? That's one thing short. Maybe should like send it to the person directly, but you watch it a couple of times and in your head you're like, you know what, Yeah, looks good. I look good. That was slick, that was hot.

I'm going to post this on my Instagram page for hundreds of thousands of people to see. Are you like, unbelievable? I still, I mean, I don't know. I don't I don't want to. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know it there that we don't. I don't think it's I don't think it's satire. I think he I think oh, I don't think so either. I think here's what I think. I think he has let the attention that he's gotten from the show get to his head

a little too much. He's like, Wow, I'm hot. People want to see more of me, more of me licking my hand, eating caviare winking at the camera, running my fingers through my hair. This is what people look. They think I'm hot. I'm gonna keep doing it, and it's just it's, in my opinion, very frustrating. But hey, more power to him. If that's what he does, that's what he needs to make himself happy. That's exactly what he should be doing. So do you think Kelly is interested

in Bennett? I don't. I don't see how anyone with the level head on their shoulders could even have a glimpse of interest in what he's doing on Instagram right now. And like I said, he might be the nicest guy, but just the stuff he's doing, it absolutely needs to stop. Delete your Instagram, sit down and talk to like, uh, consult I have a consultation with someone that knows what they're doing. Let them, like reprioritize where you want to go with your social media game here, because what you're

doing right now is not working. Before I knock on Bennett more, let's move on to our guest, Jared. What do you say? We have a great guest coming up on the podcast. She is a renowned psychological expert. She is a life coach. It is Drs Cheyenne Bryant. She's coming up right after this break. All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating. We have Dean myself, of course, both are here and we are joined by

a very special guest. She is a renowned psychological expert, a life coach, author of the award winning Mental Detox. It is Dr Cheyenne Bryant. Doctor. Thank you so much for joining us. Thank you for having me Hidin. Hi, Jared, I'm I'm excited to be here, um, because I love you know, I love what I do, which is being an expert at giving away. Half of it is my opinion.

The other half, obviously is my expertise. And I mean, you know, to get paid to do that and be able to change folks life while doing that, that's the real pay check. I always say that, of course, you make money doing what you do or I do, But the real paycheck is seeing these folks have breakthroughs, seeing these relationships and marriages actually succeed. They're not always easy.

Through the process of getting to some of the successful milestones and then changing up the like the the dysfunctional patterns that we all, including myself, tend to have and a lot of times it's just that folks are not aware of it. That's the part that makes it awesome. It's not like there's just big fix and everyone thinks you have to do. It's just bringing awareness to a lot of people, so they have an understanding of the crap that they've been doing that they weren't aware of

and why things continue to not work. Gotcha, you say that people aren't aware, but what exactly are they unaware of? Good question? That's real good stuff. So one, they're not even aware of the fact that the dysfunctional pattern uh, the toxicity behavior that they've been exhibiting, right, like all their life for the most part, from Kittle into adulthood are things that continuously give them in results that they

don't want. So we usually grow up having this ideology of the life we want in relationships and marriage in general, right, and then we bring in this dysfunction um that is not in alignment with that, and we keep beating that dysfunction over the head. Are should they running that play over and over again and just watering that see it? And one our harvest looks like pine pones, and every time we go to picket it hurts and it doesn't look like alphals and oranges. We go, what the hell? Right,

what are we doing wrong? That awareness of what are we doing wrong? Or what do we continuously keep doing? That is learned behavior is where the awareness is not, and so oftentimes it's just as easy as saying, Okay, Jared, Listen, you've done this particular behavior several times in all of your relationships and it has gotten you this negative result every single time. So tell me where is this working at for you? And if it's working, let's keep running

that play. But if it's not, sweetheart, lust, all we have to do is go back to the drawing board, just like in football baseball, and we just draft up a different play Listen, it doesn't work with Brady. You think he throws the whole season away. Obviously he doesn't, right, Obviously Bright is not throwing no seasons away. Have you been looking on my Instagram? But I am I am

a football fanatic. I first of all, I love sports, but football is my my sport and a you know, I mean like or not like Brady, and I love them the same person can like them or don't like them. You can't take away. The best study is on the fielduired. You're singing Jared's song here with the Brady talking, and it reminds me a lot of that that famous Einstein quote. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again

expecting different results. And so those bad habits, doing them over and over again expecting positive results is going to obviously not not be so much the case. So is that where Dr Brian is that where you got the mental detox thing from then is to kind of detox those those ideas and those habits and then kind of start overs from scratch or the whole Mental Detox book, the whole theme of it is your life as a guarden,

just just to simplify it. And in your garden you have all these seeds that have in planet from your childhood and your experiences and who you are naturally water than. Then you all of a sudden wake up one morning and you're in you're in adulthood and you're going, oh whoa, okay, this seed, this seed that see this tree, this plant has to go. It is no longer serving me because I'm not six year old Dean. I'm twenty four year

old Dean. I'm trying to figure this thing out called life, and I can't apply those same right recipes to the twenty four year old experiences. It just doesn't work. I just wanted to interject you a quick Dr Bryant. Six year old Dan and twenty four year old Dan not that far apart, that different. I you know what, I

agree for a lot of people, probably myself too. But that's when we start to say, okay, the fact that there's no you know, discrepancy between six and twenty four, Okay, let's start to take inventory of our garden because there should be some difference, at least some difference that started to come into your life. And that's when you look at your garden, you take your inventory and say, okay, let's not make this thing harder than it is. We have to beat ourselves up, right, be easy with yourself,

be compassionate with yourself while you're plowing out what doesn't work. Listen, it's not like you have to beat up yourself, which is epitome of safe safe, you know, self hatred, in the opposite of self love, because you're rooting out what doesn't work. The pruning process is natural throughout the entire process of our life for any new growth to come. Plants, leaves, trees get pruned, even if it happens naturally through the

different seasons in order for them to get harvest. And so we have to be okay with going in our garden and going, okay, I see that this prom this prone, and then smiling, going now I can get that harvest that I've been wanting. Now everything can grow in and I've made room for the newness. And and not only the newness, but I've made room for the other plants that were trying to grow. But look, we're stuck because you got toxic over here, dysfunction over here, got a

dead plant over here. You keep watering, and listen, no matter how much you water your dead plant, it does not come back to life. And no matter how much you water your fake plants, it doesn't make them real. And people understand that you don't stop watering the flowers to water the weeds. Never never, Well, I guess my question because you talk about, hey, you need to change certain things in your life. You need to formulate a new game plan, take out the toxic aspects of your life,

prune the tree. And I feel like when people really reflect, they truly know the toxic things in the in their lives, the things that they really love. I think the problem is, at least in my own personal life, is actually taking the steps to get rid of those things, because, like from myself and I'm sure a lot of people, I have a huge unwillingness to step out my comfort zone, or I'm stubborn, or I'm afraid of change. So do you have any advice for people who know what they

need to do but are having difficulty actually doing it? Totally? The first thing for you, you must you must be an Aero sign or you Jim and I Aquarius or lever which one I'm not. I'm a Scorpio. I was gonna go second water yea to move and change. Um, but I love what you said because you're absolutely correct. There are some people who really Jared believe it or not, because you appear to be very high functioning. Um, what you just saying, Look, Doc, I'm aware is just me

really putting in the work. Right. So you do have some folks like you are high functioning, who are are high intellects. This is the place that they process from the intellectual processing. So they get it. They're like, I know I'm screwing up. I know what I'm doing, dude, listen, but how to and and and maintaining it is just something I'm not doing. Then you have the folks who just really don't get it though, Jay, they really are doing this dysfunctional powder and they're like, I just don't

see it. I just don't understand. And Dean is saying that that's something that he can relate to. And so what I love about what you said is you have both of those two different spectrums. It's called polarity, right, And so imagine those two people getting into a relationship. I want you to look at the gridlock you go into when you're saying, I know what I'm doing. I'm just trying to figure out how the hell i can fix it. And then okay, if I do know how to fix it, I need the motivation to do it.

This person is saying, I don't know what the heck I'm doing. That so wrong? You, the one who knows it's saying, you know, how would you know? Look at this they're saying I don't and don't make me feel inferior. Don't make me feel small, don't defeminize me or emasculate me depending on who this person over here is right by beating on me, making me feel bad about what I don't know. This is where the whole life coaching and giving tools that say, Jared, hold on, now, you've

gotta have some compassion. This person doesn't function from the same space you do. So everyone's not like you when you can't self project onto her who you are, because that's just not fair, and love is not self projection. Love is intended to be liberating, free and unconditional. So I always say, can you love the pieces about a person you do not like just as much as you love the piece as you do. If the answer is yes, let's rock and roll. Let's keep this thing going, let's

go to the altar. We're good. If the answer is no, and you're trying to shift our change and get her to understand that she knows what she's doing, we we have to we have to get some tools in there, or we have to start to unbuild that home and reconstruct or possibly getting to a new one. Right, So that's where the gridlock comes in again. We have to have compassion for each other because we're not cookie cutter.

Do most of us want the same thing to be acknowledged, loved and respected, Yes, and have a peace of mind. But that part is very can be cookie cutter. The process to getting there, there's nothing cookie cutter about that journey, and that's where relationships gets screwed up at not in the end result. It's achieving the end result. So you said that love isn't projecting yourself onto your partner. I guess that made me think, dr, what do you think

love is? Because I'm curious as a life coach, as someone who's been uh you know, coach so many different couples, single people. Uh, what do you think love is? So the first thing love is is experiencing yourself pushed out. So everything that we experience in life is experiencing here ourselves.

So that's why the first thing to true love is self love capta because what happens is as you and I say you and I dare get into a relationship, I start to experience all of my toxicity, are all of my loving pieces of me through the relationship with you,

because you're just of me pushed out. So that goes into what should the experience of love look like it should look like I completely in my authentic self, showing you all my conditions, because as in order for you to love me unconditionally, don't you have to see my conditions? So why am I coming in with the mask? And why am I embarrassing who I am? And then moving from there, it's loving each other wholly unconditionally, because stick

with me. If I'm experiencing myself that I'm only loving myself, ethics t that I'm loving you. So my love for you is a direct reflection of my self love for myself. Okay, a's peace. Then I facilitate you. I facilitate you. That's holding you in this safe space while you grow and shift, and growth isn't always for its sweetheart, growth is like a slingshot. So I am supposed to facilitate you, not control you, while I'll allow you to be a creator of your world. And if I can love myself wholly

and unconditionally, guess what I can do for you? Because I love them unconditionally. As I give who I am, I give who who I am, and that is it's again you get it, But a lot of people they can hear it. But they can't process that, so they're controlling their self projecting and they don't love themselves. And then they point at you and Dean they're like, oh, Dean,

you don't love me in these ways. And guess what Dean is saying in the session, Dude, she has insecurities, she hates this about herself, and she's projecting that onto me. Do you see there was revolving door of that. There's same thing, just different languages. Yeah, that doesn't breed really good situations. And I agree with you. I think I thank you for saying that. It's a good step that I'm aware. I do think a lot of people are aware, Like they're aware of the door. Um, they're just really

nervous to walk through it. Um, Which I can't blame them. It's it's it's tough, and you know, and dr As we kind of navigate out of this COVID pandemic and start getting back into somewhat of a normal uh world, do you have any advice for couples out there that may have started their relationships during this pandemic world and now are starting to tricolate themselves back into normally. Absolutely.

I think first the couples who started um during the pandemic, they had a really, really at great advantage at getting to know more of the authentic self, right. And so now that we're opening back up, and then we're gonna begin to dress ourselves up. And I say that with clothes, but I also mean that with masks and with images that want those to see, and different things we color ourselves up with for for validation and for acceptance. And I want to say that in the midst of that

both parties too things well three things. One is to stay authentic, right, which authenticity means true to yourself. The second one is to facilitate more than you attempt to control. Troll looks like this. Facilitate looks like this. You can't

receive anything like this, facilitate your wide open right. And the third thing is if it happens to not work because of the external ways of the world, happen to seep in, because now everybody can come out of their little cubby hole right out of hyron nation, be okay with that relationship not working. I think that's one of the most important things Dean and Jared is people can

deal with the emotional piece of the breakup. Most folks aren't surrendering and accepting that it's okay for things not to work. It's just like being at a job and you want to higher pay, so you leave that job to go to another one that's paying better, right, or can advance you in a better way. It's okay for you to leave this one job or career to go

somewhere else that is better fitting for you. We tend to believe you that if we've invested too much time, we have to stay here because this is where we bought real estate at how many people have bought a house and twenty five years later they sell that home with a lot of equity in it and go build their retirement home, and that that retirement home happens to be their dream home. Here you go. So some relationships are that build up, and of course we all want

to be with one person forever. We know that's the whole dream. I do too, I want that. But you have to be okay with things not working. And so if the pandemic coming to an opening exposes you know that this was a season that you guys needed to introspect, to bond, to to learn something from, to see more of yourself be fully accepting of that, and be fully accepting of you know what, and it's okay that it doesn't work. It doesn't make it that you didn't mean

you felt. It doesn't mean that you won't find someone new. It doesn't mean that as a guy you can't sustain a relationship, or as a woman you're not good enough. It just means that it ran its season. And want you to tally up all the blessings and the great experiences you've had, and I want you to take all that pack up and be okay with it. That's them we all at end the day, we just really want to be okay. That's what we really want. Will I

be okay when I walk through this door? Like Jarrett said that I'm afraid of We're only afraid of not being okay. We would all face a big bear. If we knew we'd be okay, we could take them out. Or if we didn't win, we got a little stuffs. Yeah, he'll be okay. Why would we not? Because life is not about win or lose. Life is about experiences. Words don't teach experience does so? Doctor My question to you after we're talking about Hey, some relationships are meant to

take you to the next step. They're not meant to be forever lasting. Do you believe in soulmates? I do. I do. I believe in soulmates. I believe in the twin flame thing. I just don't believe that there's one soul mate. I don't think that you have this one soul mate that you're looking for in this big world. And just God, please let my soulmate just find me or me find it. You know, I think that you

receive what you believe. And so I love that you said this because I've had mostly women clients saying I'm just looking for that one. I'm just looking for that one. It's it's been years and I just can't find that one. And I'm going listen to what you're speaking into the universe.

You're asking a universe to seeing you one person. You're gonna shift up that affirmation and that request, and you're gonna start saying there are countless men right, countless women who are all just waiting to be with me, waiting to love me, and I just have to choose the one I want. And I'm not exaggerating. Within a week or two, my client is saying, Wow, I cannot believe how that affirmation right in the law of attraction and putting into the universe has shifted how much of an

attraction I have now with men. And it's because what we're looking for. Guess what we will find, Because what we're seeking is seeking up. So again, if we're looking for that one soul mate and you're going, um, you know, and forty and fifty and where's my soul mate, well get out of your own way, because if you think there's one soul mate, how in the hell are you gonna find this one person in this big world? But how about saying, oh, my god, everywhere I go, there's

my soulmates. Soulmates are everywhere so much. Are across the street, they're walking in the bathroom, in the restaurant. Soul mates are on social media, they're on my phone. There in the parking, struct shore parking, everywhere I go, Oh, I just can't get and I can't get enough of my soulmates.

And I promise you, I promise you with all of me, you're gonna see a shift in your experience and you're gonna be like and then you start connecting with people, You're gonna start to have this this cleavingness of harmony, because listen, we see in others who we are, not who they are. We see in the We see the world as who we are, not how the world is so scary world. You've got a lot of fears. Let's talk about that beautiful, harmonious world. You've been meditating, buddy,

Good for you. That's how it goes. I gotta meditate more. Dr Brad. Are you are you advocating for polyamory or are you just saying once you find them one of the many soul mates out there, go ahead and hunkered down with that guy or girl wherever it might be. Because of the field our men. I take clients in and I say, what are we doing? And whatever their goal is, if it's multiple partners are one, I helped them reach that goal if they believe it's healthy for them.

And then if they get there and they don't like it, I say, you know, let's run a different play. Let's try something different. Don't get stuck on one thing, because then you become discouraged. Right. I want them to be empowered the entire time. But for myself personally, I believe in in you know, and just one on one. I don't share. I don't want to share in any capacity. Um And and it might go back to my self love. You know, I love on myself a whole lot, and I,

you know, experiencing myself outside. I'm very territorial with me and my space and my peace. And I like, I like intimacy, and I personally can't see my self experience and intimacy outside of it being a one on one experience. And so I like, I love intimacy. Polygamy, It's like, how do you get the intimacy because intimacy still so one on one? And I want to say something else about soul mates. It's not always in a romantic setting. Because my mother is truly my soulmate, because we just

when I we just get it. And there's you know, some parents who just don't go along with We just get each other. And she said, if you weren't my daughter, you would still be my best friend. And I'm saying that because we are such kindred spirits that we if we even have a disagreement that goes a little too far, we're both just in a heartbreaking like, oh my god. So it doesn't last long, right, Maybe a couple of minutes and we're both like, I'm sorry. I'm sorry too.

So I'm saying that to say that's so made experience is so fulfilling that we should want it to be with just one person, not polygamy, but we should we should want it to be with our brothers. You and you and Jared Dean can be so mates as as gross it happened my soul mate, You see what I mean? Yeah, I completely agree. I don't think that there's just one

soul mate. But also thinking it's saying that does not mean that you have to be in a polygamous relationship, Like you can be with one person and also believe that maybe there was more than one soul mate, but you just found the one that was better making a choice. And then it's funny because, uh, one of our friends, who's who's on the podcast quite a bit, Kendall, she has a twin sister and she says that her twin sister is her soul mate. Um, so that was pretty

cool to hear. And doctor, thank you so much for joining us. You were such a delight. Make sure everybody listening go on Amazon check out her book Mental Detox. Also, you have an incredible website where you can sign up for a lot of your classes doctor Dr Bryant Institute dot com. Correct, got it? Oh perfect? Yeah, and you can go up there and doctor and sign up for

a lot of Dr Briant's classes right now. Um, tons of good stuff on there, Doctor Cheyenne Bryant, Thank you so much for joining us, Thanks guys for having me, and yeah we will welcome back to help I suck at dating. Big thank you of course, the Doctor, Shyenne Bryant. Jared Askin, as always, the very pointed questions, fantastic. I don't know, I don't know who we got today. I know we got Becky back there, Hannah, we got Mark Mighty, just immuned as Mike, and there's the married. We've got

email talk. You know what else? This podcast needed another guy? Come on. So you guys remember did you ever watch the show Blues Clues? Yeah? Yeah, yeah. Do you remember when they got mail and they would do the little male jingle. I can't remember what it was, it's mail time, It's mail time. I just remember the Blue Clue song where it's like we just got a Blues Clues, we just got that's it. We just got a letter. We just got a letter that was that's what it is.

We just gotta wonder what it says. Can we make like can we make like a quip for that for every time we get the emails? We just gotta let I'm gonna play it real quicken to an email. We just go I don't know if you're gonna we can't play it. We're gonna get copyright. Yeah, you're right, you're right. I think now Mark's gonna read it. I think that's Euston. He will have a male email intro for us by next week. That's what I predict. Yes, I would, I would do just about anything for that. But I'm sure

Eastern so happy about Let's do more work to do? Hey, did you don't mind? Right, I'll tell you what. I'll do all of the audio, sound engineering everything for it, and I'll send it to you guys, and then maybe we can implement it into next week's episode. Fair well, today, My job is easy. It's a very short email us from anonymous. What is your favorite thing about your partner as a person, and what is your favorite thing about

them as a partner? And then she asks I assume it's so she What is your least favorite thing about them as a person and as a partner, Yeah, you want to go first? I might. I might call Kalen into the room for this, And that's okay with you, guys. Yeah, I mean she's right there, bring her on in. But while I'm bringing while I'm bringing her over, why don't you go ahead? And I'm trying to favorite thing about Ashley as a person, I probably say her her transparency.

Ashley is the most transparent person I've ever met. And I find it such an endearing quality. You know when she's sad, you know when she's happy, you know when she's mad. Uh. She just cannot hide at anything. She can't tell a lie. Uh And I find it very innocent and I love that quality about her. So that's probably my favorite quality about Ashley as a person. What about as a partner. As a partner, she's um, she's terrible now, uh. Ash As a partner, my favorite thing

is probably her her just overall loving. No, she truly really cares about my happiness. Uh. And that's a very humbling thing in this world when you find someone who really just cares about making sure that you are happy. Uh. So that's probably my favorite quality about her as a partner is that she just she loves me and I love her, and it's it's cool to be a part of that. And what is your least favorite thing about her? Um my least favorite thing. She's gonna kill me for

saying this, but I think it's kind of funny. So listen. You know, I'm sure sometimes you guys, isn't nice waking up next to each other and maybe there's like some goofiness or flirtation, you know, and then it gets like touchy and feeling it's really cute and it's fun. You know, you wake up, you guys ever kind of have those moments first in the morning, Yeah, okay, Ash does not wake up like that. She is just like like just

like I don't know how to describe it. It's like her face is smushed and she's puffy as all hell, and she like she hates the morning and she wakes up like dollumn or she's just like and it's like, oh god, Ash. But other than that, she's fantastic. But I I find it funny that like we we don't have those moments, like I I wear very much an old couple in that aspect where there's like no cute moments in the morning as beautiful Becky. So Becky's busting

my balls right now saying Ashley is always beautiful. Ashley is always stunning and beautiful, and I love her so much. But sometimes in the morning, it's not like, you know, I don't look that good anymore. I'm not sorry, I look like too, but there's a you know, there's no like, none of that cuteness in the morning. It's all like.

One of my very first memories of Ashley when I first met her, was on a trip to Taha with other friends of ours, and I remember waking up in the morning and I walked out in the living room.

I'm I'm a late riser, you know. I can be a morning person if I have to be, but typically I'll get up around like nine am, um, and Ashley was already wide awake in the kitchen like lounging around the living room him and I walked out and she was wearing this like blue robin hood mask over her eyeballs, and I was like, what do you like just met this person? I was like, what are you wearing? Why

are you wearing this? There's like six people in the house right now, you're walking around looking like freaking Robin Hood over here. And she goes, it's an ice mask I wear every morning to deepuff my face. And then like a very reasonable, like logical, practical things to be doing. But I just remember, like, no shame at whatsoever. She was like, this is my this is my method, this is my um you know, this is what I do every morning or whatever. And I was like, yeah, okay,

that makes sense. But I see what you're saying, Like that's what I love about her so much because I love those things about her. I love that she walks around with an ice pack and she wears face mask and she does all these obscure things. It's her best quality. But you know, I would say, if you're making me gun to my head, she was the worst quality, I would say, it's not even the worst quality. It's just like,

you know, there's no cuteness in the morning anyway. I'm sorry, Klin, come back where Calin go, Well, there's no cuteness in the morning over here either, apparent I very much deny that. I don't believe that, alright, Cale, Well, the listeners are dying to know what is your favorite thing about your partner as a person and about them as a partner. Oh, I didn't read that correctly. Wait, go back for your favorite thing as a person and as a partner. Okay,

as a person, I said this multiple times. Dean just makes everyone feel so loved and special. I think that's his best quality. He does such a good job of like listening, and I don't know what it is. It's just like everyone walks away from their conversations with him just feeling better about themselves. So that's my favorite thing about you as a person. I'd feel more loved, and especially if you showed up on time for the podcast every once in a while. Personally, I was having WiFi

connectivity issues today. Interesting. Yeah, everyone everyone's sitting working on the podcast right now. I was like, I never feel that way whenever I stopped talking. Not always feel like the worst person after that is not true. No, I completely agree with you, Kalen. Dean always makes me feel better, Like I always feel better after I talked to Dean. Yeah, he's just he's a great guy. You're very childlike, Dean. This is why I brought killing in here, was to

like toot my own horn. A little bit. You know. It's true though, like not to say that like you're a kid, because you're not, obviously, but there's you know how when you're with a kid and like you could be in a really bad mood, but then like the kid is like, hey, look the sky is blue. Isn't that so cool? And you're like, wow, I'm what am I mad about? Like this guy just loves the sky because it's blue. That's kind of the similar energy that you have, Dean, where you just bring that's like you

never we're arguing. Whenever I'm in a bad mood. It's like he instantly lists me out of it, even if I fight it so hard, just because it's like that childlike spirit where he's like, just be happy. Life short, you know, unless you're the one that puts me in the bad mood. Oh, then he's in a bad mood for like a week. Oh gosh, week, No, it's like a day maybe two. Do you guys want to hear

a funny story about what happened last night? You know, like how the on the keys you got a little flipout keys, like you like press a little button and then he flops out, you know, talking about like car keys, like car keys. Like it's a key. It's like a little rectangular fob. You press the button, it's like a blade exactly. It's like a little switch blade. I was

like walking out to my van to get something. My van has one of these little switch blade keys, and as I was walking past, Kaylin and I like flip it out, like like watch out, I'm walking by, and immediately, without reacting whatsoever, her she punches me in the gut as hard as she possibly can. And I look at her and I was like, what the heck was that

And she goes, oh, I didn't punch you. I was just reacting to you flipping your key out, And I go, yeah, you reacted by punching me as hard as you can in the stomach. It was. It was insane, It was. It wasn't as hard as I go. It was a very gentle second thing. I only watched comedies, but at that time I was watching Flight Attendant, which is like a spookier show, and I think that was like just me being tense from watching the show and I just punched to It just sounds like a lot of excuses.

She says, it wasn't that hard, but she's just trying to minimize exactly how hard it really was because you were going to kill her. Dan. She was like, this is the moment, this is it right there? All right, well before we before we drag this on for two much longer. I'll get into these questions since Calin only really answered one of them, and that's totally fine. It's that's I'm glad we got you for any part of this podcast. To be honest, I know you're a busy girl.

So what is my favorite thing about Kaylin as a person? I am gonna wait for her to leave the room before it now. I'm just kidding, um what it is? It? She is? It's all this all the time. I think she's one of the smartest people I know. Uh, and I always admire her ability to pick up on social cues and have conversations and uh, you know, all the stupid little inside jokes that I create my own head. She's usually pretty good at picking up on those pretty quick.

So that's one of the things that iminded most about her as a person. As a partner, she's very selfless. She is even with this. She's had a stig infection for like the past week, um, and I try my best to take care of her. I buy her you know, I bought her like things to help take care of it, and I like have made her coffee and breakfast and all those things. But even with the stig infection, she

still makes me coffee in the morning sometime most times. Still, you know, it's very selfless, even though she is the one dealing with these hindrances on the eyeball. But she's getting better fortunately. Um. What is my least favorite thing about calin? Uh? May all speak ladder so she can hear me say this. My least favorite thing about Klin is she always needs a timeline. She always needs to leave. She's always in a rush for no reason at all.

She always needs to be somewhere in ten minutes, even though whether she gets there in ten minutes or thirty minutes, there is not going to be a single gosh darned difference in anything at the end of the day. So I feel like she reaches out to me, hurries me up when I don't want to be rushed, and she gets me out the door earlier than I need to be ridiculous this see, this is like a job interview. I feel like such an asshole right now. I was trying to give like a real answer, and you're like, oh,

she's timely. No, that's her worst Quality's time. I was gonna go two for one. I can't remember what it was now. Um um, let me just defend myself for a second while you're thinking of yours. I love my wife in the morning. She's the best in the morning. That's why I always take pictures of her in the morning, because I find it so cute and endearing. I was just trying to find something. See here, she is to

wreck the day. It's fine, You're not gross. You're not so gross a morning, and you're not gross at all. I just find it. Son, he's allowed to say that, I'm not. We have while we have her here, Let's ask you the questions there. Yeah, what's my worst quality? Be honest, I love you more than anything. Nothing would offend me. Um. He like when he's mad, he takes

everything to an extreme. This is fair, Like it's just like it was a stupid and get over, like to get angry over and then like he makes it a way bigger anger, like this is the stupidest example. But this is what happened. Recently last night, we like we missed cameos, Like we missed maybe three or four cameos within the past three weeks. Okay, so that means like they expired. So we lost out on fifty dollars. And he went from us missing one cameo too. We're bad

at cameos. I don't swear they're gonna leave it out. We should even be on this platform. And I'm like, what and sharing we completely of them and we do a good job at that. I just get mad at myself for like not being like I I expect more for myself. So it was like, you know what, let's not even if we can't do it right, let's not even be on cameo. That's but that's what he does about everything that he's angry about. That's a fair point. So that's his worst quality, all right, Well what's my

best quality as as a partner. We'll do one more and then we're gonna get out of here. You're very sensitive and you're very forgiving. Oh that's sweet. Yeah, you're you're so sweet. I love you more than you okay, but by now, you're very sweet. I love you brush my teeth, Okay, I methright, Well Dean has to go now. Okay. Well I love you and love very You're very You're very nice. You're very nice. Okay, well, well we'll talk about this week later. That was probably my favorite segment

we've ever had on help I Psychic Dating. Uh, did you answer to you? Did you ever figure out what the second one was? If you want to talk about it anymore? I totally forgot to even try to remember what that was, and I didn't want to cut that off any any shorter. But Easton chimed in and said, I have a completion rate on cameo in response to your completion, which is very, very commendable. I've got two cameo stories. One of the first one that's not east

and related. I sent my cameo to be free on my birthday last year, and within five minutes, I think I had like five requests, and I was like, there's no way I'm gonna get through all these cameo requests. I did like twenty of them, and then I was like,

that's twenty minutes. I'm never gonna get back. Um, And so I left four incomplete cameo requests and so sone is a far better completion percentage what I have and Easton, I paid you for a cameo once as an anonymous fan, and I think I wanted you to say something along the lines of uh something. It was like, I wanted you to be shirtless. I requested you to be shirtless. I requested you to like talk about mark and chair and like something, just like to remain anonymous, and it

never got completed. I just want to go ahead and wait, I'm trying to get the screen to focus. I'm holding like cameo app right now. I'll send you a screenshot. We can't say it. We gotta end the podcast. Eastern Eastern is lying for some reason. I have a forty four cameo streak out of forty three cameos. I somehow did I have a streak this longer than the amount of I did free ones? You know they say six

of the time. It works every time, every time. I want to say, I paid ten dollars to Easton to take a shirtless cameo and I never received it, and I am not pleased. I will send you another shirtless video doing whatever the hell you want as soon as this is over. As long as you pay me, I can up. Yeah, I need that twenty dollars. I need it. Man. Well that's the thing is you got it. I lost it and now you have ten dollars. That's probably why you got the streak was because you like didn't request

or not. You said I don't want to do this, and then they still gave you the streak. Anyways, such bs it is, BS. Well, we'll get sorted out, we'll get started out. And I still haven't got a chance to stare into Easton's nipples. But that's life. Sometimes sometimes you get the nipples, sometimes you don't. Anyways, that's gonna do it. For this week's episode of Help I Suck at Dating, Jared, I love you today. Thank you for being my podcast soul mate. Big thank you, buddy, love

you too, Yeah yeah yeah. Big thank you to Evan, Carly Bennett, Kelly Flanagin, and Jane Fonda for all giving us something to talk about on this podcast. Of course. Big thank you to Dr Shyenne Bryant for she was very, very smart and I wish we can get her back one of these days to tell us more about uh their wealth of knowledge that she has. Thank you to Mark and Easton UH for reading our emails Easton for working on our equip for next week. We got a mail. We got a mail. We got a mam mam, mam

mam mail. And that's about all I got, so Jared, anything else you want to add, I'll just end it on in Eastern's nipples. I think that's a good way to end in this podcast. Uh. And thank you to Ashley and Kaylyn of course too for chiming in and sharing their experiences dating us. The horror stories. Really, let's be honest, Yes, yes, we should dedicate in the whole episode to horror stories from dating. Maybe that's down the line, Maybe that's next week where we suck just a little

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