Help We Suck At Being Newlywed?
With Dean Aungler, Haylen lurkey Man, Jared haven An iHeartRadio podcast.
What is going on? Everybody? Welcome to an all new episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? Kaylen and I listened to our last episode and she always made fun of me for trailing off at the end of every sentence. And so this week on Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? I am going to fix that problem.
Can't wait to see We're here.
Yeah, we're gonna see, We're gonna hear. I want to just take a quick second and appreciate the way that Jared looks right now. Jared, I've known for I want to say, six or seven years. I don't I legitimately think that looking at you right now, this might be your best look.
My best look. It's really the black T shirt. I appreciate that, buddy. I got a haircut. You know what, I got botox, I.
Got a spray tan.
Oh oh, okay, I got a spray tan. So I'm in Dallas right now. That's why my schedule has been a little chaotic. So I got this opportunity to host a show called First Look, which airs on NBC. It's like late night after SNL. But it's a travel show and it's really cool. We've done a couple of things with them, and so we're showcasing the city of Dallas and it's a really cool opportunity for me. And I wanted to make sure that I wasn't looking like a Cullen on camera. Yeah, dude, I get pale, as you
guys have probably noticed. I get so pale it sucks. So of course I couldn't go on camera like that. So I was like, all right, I'm gonna get a spray tan. And then you know what's even funnier is that I didn't even get a professional spray tan. Ashley has this stuff. She's like, trust me, I can give you a spray tan. I'm very confident in this. I said, all right. So the night before I left, or two nights before I left, I was standing in the living room at eleven o'clock at night and then just I
wasn't naked. I had boxers on, but like the boxes rolled up and just standing there and Ashley's spraying me and rubbing me down. I was like, if anybody could see us right now, and how pathetic I must look. It's a very vulnerable spot to be in. Dean, You've been naked on the podcast. But man, just like having my wife just really get in, like for the first time, like looking so close, like rubbing my feet to for the Spraytan.
Well, I've been here. So is Ashley with you in Dallas?
No, she's home. She's home with Dawson. We're going to think about bringing Dawson in Ashley. But I've been filming. It's like ten hour days, and so it had been pointless.
So you're hosting this show by yourself. Yeah, okay, interesting, that's I know. That's so cool, very very cool. That's very cool. I feel like typically what people like to do for people like us shared that you know, our thirty percent of a hole, and once our wives join us, then we become the other full hole. I think we're Batman exactly.
We're fully under understanding of our status exactly exactly.
So it's nice to, you know, break out on your own and do this on your own. That's pretty awesome.
It was shocking when they asked. I was like, are you sure you're this is Jared not Ashley. I didn't know if you're inquiring about the right person. Okay, second question was you look great?
As I mentioned earlier, it is the tan that I think is what makes you stand out to how you normally look. You always look good, but it is nice. It is a good glowing tan. And the amount of the amount of faith that you had in Ashley to rub something on.
Your body, you don't have that faith in me.
It's not that I wouldn't, it's just I totally would because I don't care. But like, I'm not going and hosting a show you know that everyone's going to see and like we U should just you just still did chose not to hire a professional spray tanner. That's just impressive. Good for you. Yeah, I was nervous.
I asked her a couple times because I was like, oh, I got a schedule spray tand because obviously I procrastinated, and then she was like, I'll just do it, and.
I was like, are you sure.
It's just like trust me, I can do it, And I said, all right, I just want to I want to clarify something so I get this out there.
In the world.
You feel confident, very confident that you'd be able to give me a spray tan and I will not look abnormal on camera, and she said, yes, I feel very confident in this.
I said, all right, let's do it. It looks like you we did hit something that. What's that little dent up there? Dude?
I was just thinking that, you know what it it's so weird. I feel like sometimes this is more prominent than it's not. So I've this is a scar from when I was about a year and a half two years old, I ran into the corner of a table running after a ball, shocking and cracked my head opening and it's been scar ever since. And I feel like sometimes it's more prominent.
It's probably when you get the fresh botox, and actions is when it shows up a little bit.
More obviously, get the eyebrows really high up. I have yet to get botox. Oh, I don't know if I ever will.
I don't know. Yeah, I mean between cal and to it. Kaylen, you're open about your botoxic yet, right, Yeah.
I just got Daxify. I'm off the botox training onto the daf Taxify train.
And I think that if you look at the two of us from when we first met till now, it's it almost might be the best selling like case study for botox or taxapoint, because you look just as good, if not better, than the day that we met. And I look like I've aged twenty years and five years. So if that's not a good case study for botox, I don't.
Know what botox. All it does is freeze your forehead just a little bit.
Yeah, but you do it to mean youthful.
Looking, right, Well, I do it because I have this one line right here in my elevens that I don't want to set into a permanent.
Gotcha, And how do you get that? Do you just get that rink naturally? Yeah?
Because I scowl a lot.
Yeah, Yeah, I was gonna say, how do you think you get it? A lot of scowling? Yeah, And I like the botox because now you can scowl at me and I don't even know you're scowling at it.
Yeah.
It's pretty frustonrating.
Because there's no movement up there. Yeah, that's good stuff.
I think I think give it ten years. You guys both have it done.
I mean, look, I'll do it. I would do it just for fun. I would do anything once, and that includes botox. I know, guys, I've gotten botox. The problem is I get self conscious because I see some of the guys that get botox, and including like listen, I got no I. Tom Brady definitely gets botox.
But I've seen interviews with Brady where it's very clear that he'd like just got it because his eye, you know, And this happens to a lot of guys where like, you know, the eyelids are like the eyebrows are really up, you know, and it's like they're talking like this, they always look they always look surprised.
I was like, oh, I can't you know, it.
Looks good afterwards, but man, that first couple of days, you're like, just stay in the house, Just stay in the house. But also it doesn't affect this right the lines near the eyes.
What does that do that?
But that freaks me out because I don't know. I've just heard so many things. You can do, the bags, you can do, the crow's feet, My bag just a little scary.
I would love to get my bags taken care of.
And it's like a long needle.
I hurt, and then if they hit the wrong thing, then your eye closing.
Oh that sounds miserable.
And maybe that's a story that's not true.
But my whole life, going back to middle school and high school, my biggest insecurity, one of I had a lot. One of my biggest insecurities was my bags because I'm not a morning person, as.
You know, and every day we got to talk about it.
We have to talk about that, obviously, And every day I'd walk into school and I'd be like, dude, you it looks like you have four eyes because my bags were there, like I was talking about myself. Said no, no, no, I just think about it like my eye and my bag of my eye were two eyes, and so I would have two eyes on each side. It was my biggest insecurity. And now it's better. Like you know, I woke up at seven name today and I don't know great.
I don't look great, but I don't have the bags aren't as big.
As they used to be, so I've never really noticed your bad.
Can you do things like that, Caitlyn, aren't there like little things?
I don't know. Ashley does these where it's like a little sticky things. The eyes, yeah, yeah.
Brett was wearing at the wedding. Brett really cares about skincare. Yes, he does, just embrace it and the eye roller, the ice roller.
Bread is a better man than I could ever hope to be. Bread is just awesome. I love Brett so much. Should we talk about the wedding or should we talk about our brain scans?
We should talk about the brain scans real quick. So Dean and I did narrow feedback and got these brain scans. They did like fifteen minutes with your eyes closed, fifteen minutes with your eyes open, and then they came back with our results. It's like alpha, beta, beta, all these different waves, and Dean, I don't know know where to.
Begin, so so just just to help disc paint the picture a little bit better too. What it does is you wear this little cap with a bunch of nodes on it, like I want to say, twenty five nodes, And what it does is measures your brain's activity in
those certain spots of your brain. And so you get like your prefrontal cortex, you're that's actually the only part of the brain that I know, and you get like all these other little sections of your brain that are firing during certain things with your eyes open and your eyes closed. And then you wait a week and they process all the information and they come back and they gave us like an hour and a half long explanation of what of our things mean.
It was so interesting.
It's very interesting. Brain Code Center in Denver. I'm sure there's other and I left it to go first, very bravely, thank you. And she was like, okay, so before we get into this, you know, if you have any gray or blue, it's not good. And then she scrolls down to these diagrams of my brain. It's like five pictures on the top and then five pictures on the bottom, all of different phases of your brain, and nine out of ten of them were all gray and blue. And
I was like, that's not good. And there's there was one of a lot of red on it, and I was like, what's this one. That's got to be good. I got a lot of red and a lot of activity on that part of my brain. And she goes, oh, yeah, that's your trauma center. Did you have any trauma as a kid? And I was like, yeah, a lot. And she was like are you impulsive? And I was like, oh my god, so impulsive. She goes, do you have do you get afraid?
Very easily?
I was like nope, never, I'm just chill all the time, and she's like, yeah, that's those are those are things that like it's fine but not good. Yeah, And there weren't really have any positives with my brain.
Oh there were, there were, because you're fearless. But Dina set in his theta waves. So Deane is always sleepy. He has trouble motivating, trouble motivating, trouble finishing projects ADHD.
She said, I have ADHD.
No, she didn't diagnose you.
She said, there's signs that's right in your brain, and then she scrolled down to the speed and his speed.
Well, before we get to the speed, there's this other section where it's like which parts of your brain communicate with the other parts, and it's so Mine was so chaotic. It was like one red line for one part of your brain communicator with another, and it's basically the whole brain map was covered in red lines. And I was like, oh, that's got to be normal. And then we can go and see Kaylen's and that part specifically was completely.
Blank and a single red line.
I was like, why do I have all these chaotic red lines? And she's like, did you have any had trauma when you were a kid? I was like, yeah, I had probably a handful of concussions, and she was like, that's why. I was like, I haven't had a concussion in seventeen years. You're telling me I'm still seeing a side effects from that. She's like yeah, She's like that'll last for the rest of your life unless you like train your brain's plasticity like this. And then yet to
kate what Kaylen is saying. Then we scrolled down to the processing power of our brain and I'm like, oh, here we go. This is the good stuff. And she reads my number. It's like eight point five hurts and she like audibly goes oh. And I was like, what, Like, it's good, right, that's really impressive, and she goes, no, that's that's one of the lower ones. I've seen. Your brain processes information very slowly. And I was like, I wasn't expecting to be so embarrassed by my brain results.
And then they go to Klin and her everything was great for the most part of mine. It's like she has a lot more stress and anxiety than I do. I think was the main thing, but all the other positive things were way better. And then they go to her processing power and it's like eleven point five hurts and we're both like no, like, no, way, that's awesome. Your brain is so productive and processes information is so fast. And then she also is like, oh, that's way too high.
So appairly there's like a sweet spot, but it's so interesting. Sorry I'm rambling here.
No, it's a thing.
And so the goal we have to wear these little headbands that we start training tomorrow, and the goal is for neuroplasticity, so to be able to go between alpha, beta, beta, all of these. So I'm stuck in beta, I'm stuck stressing and have anxiety, and I have a hard time sleeping, and Dean stuck in the sleepiness wave.
I'm drowsy, chill, and nothing phazes me. And it's so funny too as a couple to know these things, and like if we have a reaction to anything that the other person does, or like let's say I forget at something or I'm sleepy or Kaylen is stressed, then we can both just be like, look, that's just how my brain is wired. And it's honestly helped us a lot,
I think, just communicating. It's only been a week and we haven't like trained the brains yet, but it is super enlightening and insightful for us as a couple.
I think, Yeah, so anytime, Kaylen says, Dean, take out the trash, and then three hours goes by and the trash is not taken out, and she says, Dean, I told you to take out the trash. You could say, babe, it's my brain. I process things very slow.
It's already begun. I have a slow brain.
I have a slow brain. It's so funny too, because I've seen some of my friends and I've told them about my results, and it almost like is a crutch that I'm leaning on now, where like if I just feel like being stupid for a little bit, I'll just be like, sorry, guys, I got a slow brain. I'm just going to phase out for a lot.
And let me just tell you his processing power. She wants it at a nine. He's at an eight point five. But she also mentioned that he has trouble connecting, yeah, like with me, friends, all the stuff. Like everything she said was so spot on and me too. And basically all she said was I just stressed about everything and have a hard time relaxing, and then I have this little e or cloud in the back of my brain that, like, She's like, basically, you wake up and it's sunny, but
you're like, why is it cloudy? So you have a hard time kind of like being positive, which I do have a.
Little bit of that.
We're so opposites and basically every single way, Yeah, and I have a trouble. I have a trouble what being connecting with people and being empathetic was the big one too. And I'm socially awkward, which I was like, yeah, I get I never said that. She did say that. She's like, do you struggle with social cues?
And I was like yeah, all the time, I'd never heard her say that.
I'm pretty sure she said that. I don't know. I have a slow brain, so maybe she didn't say that. Anyways, it's very interesting and we're excited. I think what we're gonna do is we're gonna they gave us like these little head bands to train her brains. So if you guys see us improving, I understand that it's because of brain contcenter.
No, I'm so exciting.
And Ben Higgins and Jess were the ones that got us turned on to this, So shout out to them, and I'm sure they would do the same thing for you and Ashley. If you guys wanted to do that, I'm definitely down to do this.
Kaylin, I can't imagine you seem like a pretty positive person. No, Dean, what do you think it's Calen positive?
She is?
She?
She?
I think she at her core, she's a positive person. But she lets the intrusive thoughts win sometimes and she lets this is This is my biggest gripe with Kaylen's brain is she'll allow future events that haven't even happened yet to stress.
My brain so fast. I'm thinking of every possibility to.
Stress her out. And so she'll get mad about things that haven't even happened yet. And I'm like, Kaylen, you can't get mad about that. It hasn't even happened yet and so far outside of your own control. And it's just so it's just interesting.
Yeah, my brain just like thinks of everything, and I yeah, can get caught.
Up in things.
But so that's their brains.
It's just a small you or cloud. It's not it's not anything too scary.
Yeah, But Jared, I want to talk to you about her wedding. Yeah, the wedding. Tell us about how it was the best wedding you've ever been a guest at.
Obviously it was great. I know that I've been. I feel like I wonder what that brain scan would say to me, because I feel like I'm in a constant cloud the past couple of years.
I got to be honest because I've wanted to reach out. It is one of those things too where I feel like if I did it when I was twenty five, it would have been way better because I feel like
my cloud is growing as well. But we were talking the whole time about it, like I wish all of our friends could get this done because it'd be so interesting to compare things and like, like, like we were saying earlier, all that helps you do is better understand people, and so if all of our friends did it, and like it's a fun competition thing, you know, like I would love to see where you do better than me at, but I would really love to see where I do
better than you at Like those types of things. Yeah, I'm curious.
I definitely relate hard to Kalin's the little cloud thing.
Dude.
If I am dreading something and like I know it's coming a good four days before it's there, I'm just like I I just like get that like down because I'm like it's coming, like it's four days away, and like we have to do it.
That you can get rid of that cloud. Essentially interesting.
But the reason I say the fog is because I've been meeting to reach out to you guys, because I just wanted to tell you how amazing your wedding was, because it's cool. What I love about weddings is it makes you mushy, and like, I feel like I was just so much mushier at the wedding and immediately following in the wedding than I am right now, which makes me sad, which is why I wanted to reach out and just like expose all my feelings about you guys
and tell you what I thought about the wedding. And now I feel so much more practical, and I hate being practical and talking about these things. Yeah, yeah, because it's like you're in the moment. But yeah, when we first got there and drove up, first of all, you guys put us in a room with Wi Fi, which was the best thing ever. I was could not when we found out we were in the main lodge right upstairs.
Ashley and I just were like.
Woo. It was awesome, and so we got to stay in the main lodge. The grounds is beautiful there. It's so much more because when we were going there, we were nervous about how reclusive this resort was gonna be, but it really was very modern. Ben was scaring the shit out of us. He was saying there was no insulated heat. He was saying that there's gonna be no service and the WiFi is gonna be extremely spotty, and it's just you know, we're gonna be kind of on
our own. I was like, there's no insulated heat. He's like, yeah, everything's heated by fire and the installation the insulation on the cabins is not very good. So like it's gonna be really cold tonight. I'm like, well, Jesus all right. And it was not like that at all. It was very comfortable and warm inside the cabin.
So we got there on Friday, we had the games.
It was really great meeting your brother's dean because I've heard so much about them and I cannot believe Brett was the one who spoke, right, Brad, Brad, Brad's the one who spoke, dude. I can't believe you weren't gonna let Brad talk. His speech was so good.
He did give him a great speech. It's not that I wouldn't let him talk. I just I guess we did talk about that. I just didn't want to have to. I didn't want to ask anyone to talk because I didn't want to give that pressure to anyone. But he volunteered himself. He's like, he texted Kaitlin behind my back, and I was like, I want to talk, and you're right. I did think I had a little trepidation about it, but I'm glad he spoke because he's good at speaking.
And your two girlfriends, I forget their names, what are their names? Elli and Tory were so cute and adorable. I felt very proud in that moment because when they spoke at rehearsal dinner, I looked at Ashton and I was like, I don't know if Dean and Kaylen were speaking in hyperbole, but they said, the only reason that people are speaking is because of the advice I gave on the podcast.
So I feel a little responsible right now. Responsibly responsible, Okay, great.
So then I felt very proud in that moment that everybody that spoke crushed it.
I was like, hell, yes, we should have let you speak. In that case, I just want to say that the only reason people are speaking is because of me. You're welcome, You're welcome.
Yeah, I'll take all the credit for Dean and Caln's wedding. So we got there and then the rehearsal dinner was beautiful. Loved the speeches. It was just so nice and that whole outdoor table with the lights and between the trees it was The food was really good. I love that everybody really dressed up for their Western chic Ben just looks straight out of eighteen eighty two. And so playing games that night was so much fun. Dean, Were you hungover?
No, you know I didn't. I did get drunk a couple nights, but I was never hungover. It was nice to little cold plunge in the morning and like hot tab cold plunge, hot tub cold plunge. And no, I was never hungover. I mean I was, yes, I was, but never like pounding headache or anything like that. You know, yeah, I was a little nervous.
I was like, please just tell me, Dean, because then when we went up to sleep and this was like probably eleven thirty, like your boys were like shots and I'm like, oh, dude, please, like Dean, come on, baby, Oh, I gotta do it.
I intercepted Jared and Ashley on the way up to their bed the first on Friday night. I was pretty drunk. I was like on one, I was like, you guys, can't go to bed until I talked to you for thirty more minutes. And so I just I just like sat at the bottom of the stairs with Jared n Ashley probably like two feet away, basically just like you, screaming, like speaking way too loud considering how close we were to each other.
It was the best part of the wedding for me. It was amazing, and Ashley and I loved it so much. The next day, obviously, was the day of the wedding, and I wish so bad so because that when you talk to us, you were like, Jared, I'd love for you to get ready with us, and I was like, I would be honored, I would love to hang out with you. So during the day I was kind of hanging out and I saw your brothers walking around, so I was like, all right, I know they're not getting
ready yet. But then it was like one o'clockish one thirty and I hadn't heard from anybody, and I texted Judene. I was like, you guys still getting ready? And then I was kind of looking around and I was like, I don't want to miss out if case they are getting all ready. So I was like, ash, I'm just going to head to Dean's cabin and just see, like what's going on. So I walked over and I felt so awkward because it was only you and the cameramen and I knocked. I was like, oh, are you Are
you guys get ready? We're like no, we're not getting ready. But then that's when I saw you that you cut your hair yeah, And I was like, holy shit, you did it?
Fuck yes, I yeah. That whole haircutting thing was a bit of a debacle, just because I wish that I had washed it and I've gone it looked so such along rant about washing my hair, I should have washed it. I didn't wash it. But that whole thing was interesting.
I completely misjudged the amount of time it would take me to get my hair cut, get dressed, and write my vows, and I thought that I was going to have like two hours to kill with all my buddies in the room, like just drinking beers and hanging out
before the wedding started. But no, I like, like Jared came in, and the only other person that came in was my one of my brothers, Ross, and I like had no time to like go and get on my friends and like bring them to the cabin and like get ready with me because I was caught from noon until from like eleven, I guess, until two PM when
I had to be ready for pictures. I was like doing something the entire time, so I like didn't have a chance to like go get people and be like, hey, we're getting ready, let's go kind of thing, you know.
And Caitlyn, I love that you had Emma come do your makeup because she's the best, and she's also just the part of the family, like she's just and it's cool because I don't know, like we were talking because Tanya is engaged, and she was like, oh, I think you know, I'd love for Emma be there, but I know she has another like Tanya has another friend that wants to make up, so we'll see. But it's also I'm sure that you were very happy that Emma was
with you that day because it's your day. Yeah, you're the bride, and so of course you want your makeup to look great. And Emma does such an incredible job. But also Emma's just the person that you want to be around on the day of your wedding.
Yeah.
And someone kept telling me that they're like the person your makeup artist is so important, not only for the way you look, but you're spending so much time with that person, just like face to face all day. And she is the best person. She just kept me so calm, and she's so fun and energetic.
I love Emma.
Show and your grandparents are the sweetest.
Oh yeah, uh, your I didn't know your grandmother was like the most badass woman ever. Uh. And your grandfather's so sweet. It feels like she definitely dominates the relationship and that's the most adorable thing. And Dean, I don't know if you remember at the reception afterwards, because you were obviously like feeling it as you well should at your wedding day. But you're at Kaylen's grand Kaylen's grandmother wanted a tattoo.
Yeah, And I went up to Dean.
I was like, Brokaylen's grandmother wants to you need to like get her at the front of the line before anybody else.
And then you were like, yeah.
But I want you to get a tattoo, and I was like no, no, no, I like, I want to get a tattoo and trust me. But there's a huge line here. Which it was cool that everybody wanted a tattoo.
We were excited. Everybody at that wedding wanted attack. We were excited, and I was kind of surprised by the amount of the amount of excitement about the tattoos. Like I thought, there's gonna be like five or six or seven or ten of us that wanted tattoos, but there was a list of sixty not sixty because there's only seventy people at the wedding, but there was probably forty to fifty people on that list. Yeah, maybe even more.
What sucked is I didn't realize he wasn't going to size them, which it makes sense, but I also didn't realize every gonna be so big, like Dean's ghost is huge. So that definitely cuts some people from the list, which might have helped in hindsight.
Good clean lines, though actually I haven't really looked at it yet. Until today. It's a good look good, it's a good ghost.
And then so you have to get you have to get a tattoo with Klen's grandmother.
Oh yeah, she.
Said she's going to schedule the appointment. She told me that, oh.
I missed that. Maybe I should schedule it. He should, I should take the initiative on that. Okay, I think you should take the initiative. Okay, but.
Yeah, yeah, dude, you just looked straight up like Jack Dawson.
It was insanity, like you straight up.
It was just I just wish and accept the compliment.
It's just we're gonna be looking at those pictures for the rest of our lives, and every time the first thing I'm going to see is my greasy hair. And it's not bad, but there were some no, it looks good. There were some pictures where I like slicked it back and I like didn't settle back properly in time.
So now Dean has a mullet and I kind of like it.
Yeah, the mullet place, the mullet place. It slaps and place interesting.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And then of course, my favorite part of any wedding is the ceremony, because that's why we're all there to witness the union what I find so cool, And obviously, you know, you guys are the ones that have gone through this, so I'm literally just witnessing everything. But you know, we always talk about family, and obviously both of you have had stories about your own personal families, and so for me and Ashley as well, I could speak for
her about this because we talked about it afterwards. Was so beautiful about weddings in general, but specifically your wedding is that it was the of course not the beginning, because you guys have been together for a while, but really the symbolism of you guys are family, like you.
Know, it's.
I think just you two being each other's family now has such a gravity to it compared to other stories, Like of course Ashley and I are family and we
love the symbolism of it and coming together. But I think for you two, with your own personal stories, I think that there's just a more of an impact to that moment of YouTube just joining to be one and really, you know, the very very infancy of your relationship and the beginning of your family and and you know, going down this path I just found beautiful and it was really cool to witness and of course you know your guys vows. I mean, we're just well, I spicked over Jackson.
By Jackson, I mean crushed it. Yeah, so good, so good. He was the perfect I'm glad we asked him because if it was some person we didn't know, it wouldn't have been good.
And I don't know if any of your other friends could have done what.
He did, like Mike could have, but Jackson was much better than Yeah, Jackson was perfect, dude.
Jackson crushed it, did such a good job, funny, entertaining, emotional.
I just know you guy.
You know I love an efficient that really is just personally chosen by the couple and can give really a perspective on both of you that other people don't have and really just make it personal because that's why we're there.
We're they're celebrating your love.
That's one of the things that I love about speeches is that like I want to I want to witness YouTube.
You know, I was telling Ashley.
I forget if I told someone else too, but I was like on wedding days and wedding you know, ceremonies, even with our hearselenar as creepy as this is gonna sound and it's not meant to be that. I just love watching you guys. I love watching your interactions and you guys interact with each other and your friends and your family on your day because there's just so much happiness.
Like I'm you know, uh so anyway, that's cool.
But then your vows, your personal vows again, just like Dean, you went first, Yeah, and just bro, do you realize that everybody in that area was crying like you?
I can't even that's what people. I felt like I was blowing it because I was reading the notes for the like I just wrote them down. I hadn't had a chance to like read them and kind of like get a pace for the vows. And I remember reading it and then I remember like stuttering a couple of times and literally looking into the crowd and be like I suck at this. And then so like the people kept saying they were crying. I was like, what do
you mean you were crying? I was like, I I didn't even know how to put a sentence together.
Dude, Well, yeah, you flubbed a couple of times. But it was very endearing because it's like up Dean, but it was yeah, I think what happened. I can't even like get through it. As soon as you said I want to talk about my mom, it was like, oh my god, here we go, Like I can't handle this shit. Yeah, and you started speaking, and I think what makes it? So? There's a couple things that were going through my head
during this one. Of course, you know, we've talked about the relationsip that you had with your mom, the relationship that your brothers and your sister had with your mom, and so to hear you just kind of talk about it in a very grand environment but very personal and vulnerable was emotional in itself. And you know, just knowing how much she meant to you, how much you miss her, and knowing that she was still, you know, very much
there in spirit. And I think also you telling these things, of course, like the person you're talking to is Kaylin, and we're just witnessing it, and so I think for us, you know, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I would imagine this is the scenario that the most important woman in your life up to this point has been your mother, and now you're kind of talking
about your mom to the most important woman in your life. Now, which is Kaitlin, is really just a powerful moment and that I think had everybody in tears, and just of course like Dean, you being the Golden Retriever puppy you are and just the innocent man, and like how everybody loves you. Just yeah, a lot of tears. And then of course personally for me and Ashley, you know, I was thinking about your mom not being there and just how me personally, like the idea that I wouldn't be
there for Dawson's wedding is just tough to swallow. Yeah, like I thought, I can't even process right now for sure that I can only pray doesn't happen.
So yeah, a lot of emotions going on in that moment, man. Yeah, being apparent I can imagine must put a twist on the emotions when it comes to that kind of stuff, because it's like the last thing you could even imagine is not being there at Dawson's wedding, you.
Know, No, Yeah, And so the whole thing are emotional.
And then Kayln, you started beginning your vows and just the way that you talked about Dean and your relationship blossoming from how you guys started in Paradise all those years ago to the moment that you are now and what Dean has done for you personally and within a relationship was just cool because I think what calin you present this like you're very calm, cool, collective, like even like we talked about the brain scans, like things that I didn't know about you in terms of like the
fear that you have that I can relate to in terms of like, well, if something's happening in a week, I'm going to be depressed for a week because I just dread it coming. But you put on this exterior that like nothing bothers you. You have everything collected, like you are just, for lack of a way of putting it, put together very very well. And don't take this the wrong way, but that's just not the truth, because you
wouldn't be human if you were. And you have your own story with your own family and how you were brought up, and I think you talking about those things in your vows and what Dean has done for you in a relationship stance, and how you've have grown and you've grown individually but also grown together with Dean over the past few years and having this moment where you guys finally make it official and put the rings on each other. It was just beautiful to witness, and you
guys looked incredible. Obviously some of those photos damn, well, I didn't know that you guys took photos in a boat, like god, damn straight out of the notebook. Man.
Yeah, we debated on whose idea that was. I still think it was mine. Well it was mine. Well, thanks, thanks, Jared. We appreciate the kind words. It was fun. It's so interesting to look back now because I've talked on this podcast before, not about how I wasn't excited for the wedding, but how I was.
You've said that, You've said.
That it just yeah, okay, fine, let's say that that's what I was saying, which maybe isn't too far from the truth. But now that it's over, I have like post wedding post trauma. Yeah, post wedding depression. I guess it would be because now, like you know, aside from having a kid, that's going to be the best day of our life. It was so much fun having all
of our friends together. It was so much fun, like being the reason our friends were together, which I don't really often experience that I hate hosting parties because I have the insecurity of like people not showing up, as we've talked about so many times, and now knowing that like that grand event of our lives is behind us is kind of like saddening to me because it was so fun and because it went so much better than
I could have ever possibly dreamed of it going. And now to know that's not going to happen again for ever, his kind of well, that's.
What's crazy is that Dean never wanted a wedding. He was like adamant, he wants to a lope, he doesn't want this. He wasn't excited about it. It was stressing him out, like he made all of those things known. And then a few days after the wedding he was like, we were just on a hide, like still are It's just the best day of our lives. And he kept saying, oh my god, that was the best day of my life.
That was the best weekend of my life. And just to hear him say that someone who didn't want a wedding is so cool.
Yeah, it was great. And then it was so interesting too. We were hanging out and Aspen a couple of days afterwards, and one of my kind of friends from high school came walking by tapped me on the shoulder and I was like, Hey, what's up, blah blah blah. So I got married. Congratulations, I'm getting married this weekend in snow
mass which is right right next to Aspen. And I was like, Oh, I've got so much advice for you, Like, relish every moment, understand like everything is, everyone's there for you. You're you know, you're the main event for the most part,
and just make sure you cherish every single moment. Because if I could go back, it's not that I didn't cherish every moment, because I really did, but I would say, like, just take it all in because before you know it, it's gonna be over and you're gonna be wishing it never ended. And it was just so interesting to have such a I like have. I don't think I've ever flipped on something so hard as I did about that I have about the wedding.
You know, it's crazy to see.
Honestly, Yeah, on part of it here too, is like hearing Jared and our other friends talk so positively about it, and I'm sure there were some people that maybe had some negative things to say that we just don't hear. But all I've heard is the positive things and just hearing about how this party that we put on for everyone went off so well and everyone had such a great time. It was just a very positive experience for me.
Yeah, very positive.
And Deane and I talked about this a little bit, just having friends that pump us up for marriage and get us so excited for marriage. Like Dean was talking to Josh and Josh was just telling him how awesome marriage is and how great it's been married, being married for two years and having friends that enjoy marriage and don't shun it is being cool.
It's so funny. I told Josh this so many times throughout the course of that weekend. I was like texting you, like thanking him for coming to the wedding before we you know, just like when he rsvp'ed for the wedding. I was like, thank you so much for coming. I can't wait to hang out with you guys. He was like raving about marriage. He's like marriage is the best thing. I just like kind of going on and I was like I was like, okay, yeah, yeah, whatever, whatever, Sure,
I'm sure it is. You probably just like have to say that. And then last week I was playing golf with my buddies in LA and we're on like the twelfth tee or something like that, and I've had a couple of beers and I was just like standing up there. No one said an word for like thirty seconds, and I was just like, I said this hell. I was like, marriage is going awesome, you guys. And then I was like, shoot,
I'm becoming the guy that like preaches marriage. But granted, one of the guys that I played off with regularly is married and he was like, yeah, it is. And then like to my two single friends, I just feel like I'm the guy that's like trying to preach this gospel of marriage. But it's true. It's like marriage, we're a weekend, so who really knows how things are gonna go,
but a weekend. I like him so happy to be a husband, and like it's it's the coolest thing I've ever done, hands down, And I like, I'll say it till the day I die. His marriage is way cooler than I ever possibly thought it could have been. So it's going, well, it's going, well, yeah that's awesome. But we're glad, you guys. Had fun. We're glad you guys stayed warm because I know that you were stressed out about that.
No, it was great, It was awesome, So thank you again for having us.
Yeah.
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I do want to talk about like the biggest dating news in all the world.
Oh, Taylor and Travis?
Oh is that it is?
That? It?
Yeah? Yeah, one of these is the biggest dating world. You must be in a unique situation because you're a big NFL football fan, you are you well, yeah, but I I don't give one crap about Taylor Swift. But you are married to Ashley, who I'm sure cares very deeply, and Kayln cares as well. But I don't think anyone cares harder than Ashley about that type of stuff, like pop culture, Taylor Swift's type of stuff.
Yeah, there's a lot of intricacies. There's a lot of going on here.
Yeah, I'll tell you what. As a football fan, I'm so sick of it. I don't want to see Taylor Swift on my screen every time Travis Kelsey gets mentioned on Sunday Night football. I don't want to have to watch the Giants game the next night and still have to be hearing about Taylor Swift.
But I'm trying to put pull their her lyrics into every single aspect of the show.
I agree.
I am just so confused by their relationship because she's so private and was so private for so long that she dated Matt heally was kind of public, and this is like so public.
I don't understand. It doesn't make sense.
Yeah, yeah, is cute, but like Travis is hot, Taylor can get anywhere.
Travis is hot. Travis Kelsey's not hot, Bro, He's hilarious and he's hot, and he's like the Harold that does the best tight end of our generation. So he's got a lot go Okay, but.
Taylor Swift doesn't care about football, it makes.
Sense for her to use him to bolster her singing career.
That's insane.
Yeah, obviously he's lifting her up. Wait a minute, you think just quickly hands down the best tight end of our time.
I would, oh gronk yeah, good point good, Well.
You know, I don't know, it's it's a debate anyway, point being listen, just it's it's getting too much.
I respect Taylor so much, and.
That's why it's like, bro Travis Kelsey, all right, Like I guess, like I like the fact that she's dating a man, you know, like like like you know, he's a football player, Like, yeah, that's a Mayan. You know, she usually goes for a more feminine man. But that's totally fine. But like I like her changing her her uh her likes. But it's just like it's not gonna last, Like everybody in the world knows this will not last,
which is totally fine, just have fun date. But like the idea that these Swifties are now twisting themselves into a princil about how like, oh, no, we're gonna love Travis Kelsey, We're gonna love the NFL. This is great, even though you know, in six months when it doesn't end well and she writes a song that says like I dated the football player and we're like, yeah, we hate Travis kelcey, you know, because it's just gonna end
that way, which is totally fine. But the over like, dude, I don't mind, of course, Like it's pretty cool, Like oh, when the first time it happened was like, oh, Taylor's in the suite, That's pretty cool, dude.
It's getting way too much. It's getting overboard.
The Kansas City Chiefs are now the evil lumpire to me, like I am rooting against them every single time they play, and I'm rooting against them, and I pray that when they lose, there's just a shot of t Swift in the owner's booth or whatever boots she's in, just sitting.
There because it's like it's time to open I root against enough. It makes me sad. And I was watching this TikTok video the other day. It was so funny. It was these two guys sitting down watching football, big Chiefs fans, and they were like going through Taylor Swift's past relationships and they're like, yeah, so Taylor Swift dates guys typically for about two months. That puts us at
week twelve of the NFL season. That means Travis Kelcey is going to hit a major slump Week twelve and the major crunch time for the playoffs, Like and then Travis kelsey is gonna start playing so horribly because he's gonna get this on slot of negativity from all the Swifties. The Chiefs are screwed. We're not going to win another
super Bowl. And it was just like so funny. How like it because you're right, Jared, Like they're gonna presumably they'll break up at some point unless they get married. That's awesome if they do, because marriage is awesome, but awesome, but just but that will not happen both of their track records combined, because Travis kelce is kind of a serial dater as well.
I think at least like yeah, do you remember he had a show called Catching Kelsey and cringe. That's right, so cringe Tanner Tolbert, his sister was on that show.
I did not know. That's funny. Well, it's gonna be interesting if they break up in the middle of the season because it will have an impact regardless of whether we regardless of whether we'll see it or not, it will have some sort of impact on Kelsey and the Chiefs, and it's just gonna be curious to see that because they are, you know, every year it seems like they're super Bowl contenders, like the favorites to win the super Bowl, and this could either help him or hurt them if
they're going to stay together. The sheet and she wants the Chiefs to win the super Bowl, they have to break up like in March, exactly right, They have to make it to at least March.
Also, should we talk about our house before we go?
Yeah. So one of my favorite things about the wedding is the aftermath. We were in Aspen on our mini moon in the hotel and Caitlyn was just like sitting on the couch in the hotel room. She's like, I just love it here so much, and I was like, yeah, I know, I tell you all the time about how this is the best place in the world, and she like is kind of like would always like nod her head and like agree with me, but she didn't really have a full understanding of how great it is.
Oh I did, because every time we go to Aspin, I would be so sad when we left, and I always felt like it wasn't enough time.
But I think what it really took was the wedding weekend for you to be like, this place is what it's hyped up to be.
Yeah, but if you put it at the.
Well, we put in an offer, We extended our mini moon God and we we stid an extra day. We stayed at the Saint Regis, which was awesome and probably the only time we'll be able to stay there. And then we saw two houses with our realitor, and the second house is the one so we've been we thought by now we know. Yeah, it's been a longer process than I thought.
We submitted an offer, we got pre approof for a loan. We're like going through the process of hopefully finalizing this. We did under shoot low ball. They offer a little.
Bit bit Well, if you look at the neighborhood. All of the houses are at a certain price and ours is way above. So we're trying to bring him down a bit. But yeah, he won't give us a price back, like we gave him an offer. He won't counter offer with us. He's just like, well, what's your number. I'm like, we gave you a number, Well what's your highest. Well that is our highest.
It's a little more involved because it's a new construction house and so that like we went't and viewed it, but it was just the framing was done and so we didn't see any finishing. We didn't see an drywall, we didn't see any flooring, nothing like that. But it's on a golf course, which is awesome, and it's big. It's like a four bedroom, five bath.
House or bed six bath, yeah, thirty three square feet. So it's perfect for kids and we wouldn't have to move again.
That's the thing is, we would buy this house and because like we're not going to raise our kids in Vegas, no chance, And we would buy this house and it would just be like the perfect house to have two little kids running, five little kids running around, seventeen little kids running around in So this is it in Aspen, right outside of Aspen. Yeah, it's a few towns down. Did you guys fly in to Aspen or flying to Denver and drove Aspen? Yeah, so you didn't drive through
this town, then this is it's further down. It's further down Deley Kill And saying not to say the town.
Well you just said it's on a golf course. We're just going to give away exactly where nine.
Courses in the valley there. But it just made my heart so happy to hear her want because like, I've always wanted to live in the valley again, but I can't. I can't just transfer that yearning for it onto you. Like you had to come to that conclusion yourself, and the fact that you did is so awesome because I grew up there and it's it's a it's a bubble
in a good way. Like you know, you're kind of cut off from the rest of the world in a way that like you're not worried so much about crime, you're not worried so much about all of these like geopolitical things that are going on. Of course you still care about them, but they don't affect you so much on a day to day basis, and so to give our kids the same luxury of growing up in a town like that would be. So it's similar to like
you moving back to Rhode Island. You know you love your childhood so much, and so you want to give Dawson a similar experience. And it's the same for me, Like I want my kids to be able to go hiking and skiing and growing up on a golf course. My kids are going to be sticks with the golf clubs. It's going to be awesome, obviously. And the next time, it's just so, we're probably not going to get this house.
We're hey, we're banking well, of course we want it really bad, but it's like, I don't think we should put allur eggs in this basket. And if we don't get this one, then we'll just continue to look for something else that might be suitable for us. But just the fact that it's even within the realm of conversation is so exciting for me.
Hopefully next week we'll have a number that's just yeah, been drawn out quite a bit.
It's so interesting too, because when I was living in la I was looking at people that still lived in the valley, and I was like, how could you still live there? There's so much more world to see, There's so many more people to meet, so many more things to do, And now that I'm thirty two and married, I'm like, all I want to do is get back to that quite a little town and start a life.
And if I were to do if, I don't know what kind of business I want to get into at some point in my life, but it would involve building things or some type of like creative thing, and I think that that would benefit that type of stuff as well, living in a small town like that, where creativity is kind of like apexing out there like in a smaller town. I don't know. I don't know how to explain it.
Yeah, also real quick, I don't know this is true, and I need to look into it. Maybe I shouldn't even speak on it. But someone said that they're trying to pass a bill so if you leave LA, you have to pay taxes there for ten years.
That doesn't Yeah, I should fact check it.
But that would be crazy and good thing we got out when we did, Yeah, all of us.
I gotta be honest. That sounds like LA, which is so frustrating. Yeah, it's like we were so good to you.
You can not let people believe it's crazy.
Yeah, I don't know. La is great. I do love La.
Yeah, but I'm happy we got out and I'm happy we're not settling down there.
It's just funny that our price range. We were looking at houses in LA and they were less expensive than the house we're going to buy in Colorado.
You know, well, it's just prices have gone up. It's the market these days, you know.
It's the market these days. Yeah, so hopefully we get a house in Colorado. Obviously, we'll keep you guys updated on the podcast because it is an ever changing situation that we're in right now. We did, we moved really fast up to this point, and now it kind of seems like everything's come to screeching halt, halt.
Yeah, and it's frustrating.
Yeah, yeah, it Yeah, it's.
Frustraating for me. Dean doesn't think it's frushating.
I don't know.
I mean, the thing is, you still have a great house in Vegas. There's really no rush. I mean, I hope you guys get this house, but even if you don't, I mean, it kind of makes it fun where you can also still continue looking. It's always nice house hunting frustrating as it is.
That's what I keep telling Kaylan. It's like, yeah, of course we want to be there sooner rather than later, but we're not in any rush because we have this house.
Yeah.
And then like if we were to buy this house in Colorado, what would we do? Would we sell this house or would be rented out? Because our rate is so good in this house and it'd be crazy to like, our interest rate is like two point nine percent and you're not going to see that probably ever again in our lives, and so just be crazy. That's all the house at that rate. You know, it's just there's lots of a lot to process, and it's just it's just so great to see that, Kaylen, so much.
All good things though, all good things, yeah, all good things, all exciting thing.
The new mortgage would not be a good thing. It'd be expensive.
But oh that's all right. Yeah, you know you'll just nothing, no find away.
We're gonna we're gonna know it. Yeah, we're gonna find a way. But I guess that's probably gonna do it. How much longer are you in Dallas for? I leave Sunday?
So there for a while filming some b roll outside of Dallas.
Right now, I head down.
Immediately after this podcast, we interviewed this woman, miss ople Lee, who is ninety seven years old, and she is such an inspirational story. She was born in Fort Worth, born and raised there, which is like twenty minutes out of Dallas. She's the grandmother of Juneteenth. She is the one who was able to really push for Juneteenth to become a federal holiday. And she was there when President Biden inside it into office, and she actually has the pen that he used.
So it was just it's great hearing her story.
And she's just an amazing human being who does like so much work that I could even fathom. She's still she still is dropping off. She was like, I gotta drop ninety seven years old. She doesn't drive anymore, she has someone driver. She's like, I gotta drop ten boxes of food off at this local church to hand out.
And she's like, I do it every day. And I'm like, oh my god, some people are really good at making you feel like a piece of crap. Seriously in the world, yeah right, and we won't be that great ever, but anyway, so doing some cool stuff like that and so it's fun. It's cool. I'm excited. Nice man. Well, congratulations on branch down on your own and get rid of that old ball and chainey or Yeah, get her out of the way.
Yeah this woman, that's awesome. Well that's going to do it for this week's episode, Jared, thank you for carving time out of your busy filming schedule out there. You guys are very busy as well, Senor and bought it. We're not busy. Trust we take one call with the real or to day and last ten minutes. That's not busy. But thank you so much for listening to this podcast. Everyone out there who listened, be sure to next week, where maybe we suck just a little bit less. Thanks
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