I suck at Dean ungler Can I heart radio podcast. I'm Dean Unglerts. I grew up in Aspen, Colorado, went to college University Colorado, Colorado Springs. I currently live in Los Angeles, and I suck at dating. I mean, publicly speaking, Paradise was just the worst experience of my life. But I've been on some pretty horrible dates, I guess at my time. Okay, so there was one day I went on.
We had a first date and it went well, um, and then we parted ways that time, so it was like, I guess, technically the second date, instead of going out, we decided to order Chinese food into her apartment and like watch movies and I guess maybe what I eat for lunch or what I ate for dinner. Uh. It made me very very ill, and so I was I wasn't planning on staying over, but I ended up sleeping at her house basically on the bathroom floor, puking in the toilet all night long. And that was like the
second impression that I ever had meeting here. And then I mean we continue to talk for a little bit after that, but I think like once you get that memory, just ingrained in your mind, you're probably you know, might as well cut your losses. At that point, I kept like getting up and like going into the bathroom by myself and like stay here, like don't come look. And then like she'll like be and like standing at the bathroom door, like like feeling bad from like genuinely like
caring for me. But I'm like I just don't want you to see me like right now. Um, I mean she was a sweet girl, but it's just it was a lot to process. Like first real date. I was probably twelve. Maybe we saw Lord of the Rings in movies. Um, she fell asleep like thirty minutes in and I had to pretend like I was interested in the movie. Afterwards I could really explain it to her. I think it was it was the Twin Towers, right, and that one was just so long, and there there seemed to be
like they were like like false ending. So many times they were like cut to white and you're like, oh, that was a great movie, and then it would cut back in and you're like, oh, I wouldn't say that was a bad date. But that was the age where you're like questioning whether you should be holding hands, whether your arms should be around them, um, whether you kissed him at the end of the night. What areas do I do I need to improve in the most I
would say my communication could sure you some improvement. I would say, maybe I'm a little too critical at times, and I give me an intern I take it mile on certain things. Maybe like I get into my own head or I like self sabotage that type of stuff, you know, read too much into things exactly. So yeah, so maybe that's that's something I could work on. I don't know. This is why we need the dating professionals to be on the show to help me. I mean,
if if there were any problems, I'll be married. Right now, let's talk about Bachelor in Paradise. I mean, we can do a full just eight easy of it real quick. Well, my main excitement going into Paradis was hanging out my my guy friends from the season, because they were the only ones that was in contact with going into it. And then fast forward to the first day we were there, Christina and comes down and you know, I wasn't really interested in anyone else but Christine and I seem to
hit it off. And I told myself going into it, if I found someone that I liked, I would stick with that person and you know, just ensure that it was it was her and I the entire time. And obviously with the shutdown and everything, it kind of complicated things. But uh, coming back from that, it's like, I don't know, I think there's like a new perspective that was granted having kind of lived in the real world for about ten days afterwards, and then I wasn't really sure about
my feelings anymore. And it kind of comes back to that self sabotage where maybe something is going well and you don't necessarily I don't know, why do people self sabotage. I guess let's figure that out first. Um. I think people's self sabotage maybe because they get scared of the
potential of what it could be. Maybe, Um it's like it's unfamiliar and maybe especially in that situation, like to be so connected to someone you like risk a lot more because when you're not in complete control of something, obviously you're you're at risk to their actions affecting you a lot more. And maybe, like you know, when you fall in love with someone or when you get married to someone, like their actions and there uh, their words influence you a lot more than they would otherwise. I
don't think I'm afraid of commitment. I think I'm I'm in the world in the realm of commitment. I think I'm a realist. I don't want to have to sacrifice certain parts of my happiness for for someone else. I think that I think the right when the right person comes along, there will be there. They won't have to be any sacrifice. You know, like that you just compliment each other to the point where, h you're you don't necessarily have to argue, you don't have to fight about anything.
You don't have to Um, I don't know, step on each other's toes, because that's that's my ideal, I guess soul mate. Right. In regard to Christina, there there were certain litt petty arguments that we would have, and especially when you know your your ten days into a relationship and you're you're having these weird little arguments about things,
that's kind of an immediate red flag. UM. I think that those arguments for US two were stemming from she cared a lot, and she was very invested, very quickly, and I maybe took a step back and she didn't necessarily like that very much. But I would never dive into like a fully like marriage, potential committed relationship with any hesitations. You know, I just think it's something that should happen very organically. I thought by being honest to both of them the entire step of the way, that
was enough for them. But um, even after like talking to my ex girlfriend and my my like my girlfriend before even going on the Bachelorette, and like we kind of like had to post mortem and talked about maybe like why I didn't work between us and how it all started between us, and how she sees similar characteristics and what I did on Paradise to like the beginning
of our relationship. And it's like, I mean, it's it's just eye opening to like watch it played back because in our thinking, everyone's own minds there they can do no wrong. But then when you watch it from like a third party perspective, i e. Of video camera on the television, you kind of see, you know what you're doing wrong instead of just living at through your own eyes. Um, And so like maybe maybe in the moment, it wasn't
the worst thing. Although I was very emotional a lot during the filming of Paradise, but watching it played back and like seeing people react when you're not around, because you can't see that when you're there. Obviously, it's it's pretty difficult. I guess that would probably be the hardest part. I think I would go back to Paradise. I think that with this new found perspective, I can handle things. I mean, obviously it's it's a it's a work work in progress, but I think that it can only get
better from here. And you know, as as crappy of an experience as it was, it definitely lent a lot of insight and growing opportunity for me. So it would be interesting to see it, I guess displayed again for a world to see. I don't know, I have a little bit more insight into I guess the way that people are affected by, you know, what you say and what you do um instead of just the real world application. So I would I mean, I'd have to consider it, but i'd probably go back