Talk Daddy to Me: Parenting 101

At Being newly weds, now known as Suckers. We were doing our joint podcast, as we always do. We recorded that earlier this week and uploaded it, and then we told you find folks who listened to this podcast that we were also doing separate podcast because we were all suckers for individual things. I'm a sucker for being a dad, because I am the dad. Dean is a sucker for traveling, Kaitlin is a sucker for pop culture. I'm definitely more. I'm a sucker for pop culture too, most definitely traveling

not so much. We're going to Disney next week. I'm very excited for that. I'm a sucker for traveling when it comes to things like that. But I gotta be honest. You know, Ashley and are extremely lucky that we still get to travel a lot, and I'm not. I will never complain to the level of like, I don't want the life we have because I'm so lucky. Guys, I'm so lucky. First of all, we're all lucky just to be alive. When you really think about it, it is

pretty crazy just breathing. You know, not everybody can say it. Not everybody can say that they're breathing, So that's pretty awesome. But more, you know, not more importantly, but furthermore, Ashley and I are so lucky. I know I say it all the time, but when we complain about things, we do it to get things off our chest. Like I know I do, so does Ashley. But like I know, every time I say something, I'm like, I know that we are so grateful for the things in our life.

We have a healthy child, we have a roof over our head, We're able to you know, have some money saved up for a rainy day. Don't get me wrong, I work hard, like I'm about Audrey's all the time, grinding away just the restaurant industry not making money off that. But I believe in what audres is. I believe in the concept, you know, I believe in myself to a

certain extent. I think everybody does. I only believe in this elf is to a certain extent, and that extent only goes so far, and then all the doubts creep in at like eleven fifteen at night ray when you're about to go to bed. That's when you're like, oh, everything could fall apart right now, and then I try to fall asleep and I can't, obviously, but I feel like there's just a lot of people that go through that. Anyway. This podcast is not about my internal demons. It's about parenthood.

If you're listening to this, you're probably a parent. So I just wanted to say, you're doing great. Just keep doing what you're doing, because none of us know what we're doing, and we're just doing things the best we can, and at the end of the day, that's the most important thing, doing the best we can. Dawson is doing well. He's currently downstairs. I was thinking about there was a news article that came out. I had to deal with Tom Cruise. He's awesome, but Cruz announced that he's moving

to Warner Brothers. So he's done a ton of movies with Paramount. He's not exclusive with Paramount Pictures, but like pretty close, like for example, the Mission to Possible Movies, the Top Gun movie is like his biggest hits are all up in Paramount. But then there was some He released a post on Instagram saying that he is going to be starring and producing and creating these franchise movies and Warren Brothers. The reason I bring this up is

because I love Tukers. I grew up with Tom Cruise. Like, to me, Tom Cruise is like everything I want to be.

Maybe not everything. We all know that there are certain sides of his celebrity status that maybe I'm not on board with, but in terms of like how he treats people, his work ethic, his movies that I just adore and mean so much to me, like Tom Cruise is the man, And I was thinking about how what happens if the things that I love Dawson just doesn't like And while of course I support him, like I want him to love the things that he loves, but also I love him so much I want to share in a lot

of these experiences with Dawson, and like, I'm excited to show the movies that I love so much to Dawson one day. What happens if he just hates him? What happens if he's like, Dude, Dad, Dad, Matchbox twenty sucks? Like do I say, bro, you suck? I can't say that, Obviously, I would never say that. So I was thinking about that the other day, Like, what happens if the things that we love Dawson doesn't love? Like right now, we're pretty good. Like he loves football, which is great. He

loves throwing the football and he loves watching football. I'm like, this is great. I can It comes down to bonding, you know. I want to bond with Dawson. And the only way I know how to bond with Dawson is to share the things that I love with him. And I guess that will come naturally the more I think about it, Like when he gets older and he starts loving the things that he loves, He's gonna want to

bond with me over those things. And then of course I'll want to love those things just because their opportunities to bond with my son. Is that the purpose of this podcast just for me to vocalize everything and really figure out things. Is this like therapy? Kind of felt like that. I feel like I just came to a resolution. Now I understand. I'm not really that nervous anymore, because I've realized he might not like the things that I like and he might not be able to bond with

me over those things. But that's okay because he'll have his own things that he loves and it won't be about the thing for me. It'll be about spending time with my son. Okay, I feel better about that now, that makes sense. That's gonna be interesting to go through. I wonder what he's I wonder what he's gonna love

like right now. He loves football, he loves Aladdin, he loves Ladin a lot, and like the toys that we get and like I got a Power Ranger, toys and Teenage Mutant Eternals, Superman and Batman again, all the things that I love that he loves right now. And for Ashley, he loves Aladdin. He loves new kids on the block bands also, I love those things. Shout out to Backstreet Boys. I'm sorry, but the greatest boy band of all time for any of you in sinc lovers instincts great. Don't

get me wrong, Backstreet's better. But like, I'm curious about the transition when he starts saying, Hey, Dad, I want to like I love this, And I'm gonna be like, what is that? You know? Because right now he only loves the things that I introduced to him. But they'll come a time where he introduces things to me that I will learn to love for the sole reason that he loves them. It's kind of weird being a parent, how that works out. I was also thinking about people

who aren't parents. I'm not gonna say I'm jealous. Jealous is a strong word, because I wouldn't change anything. I love Dawson. I would never not want Dawson in my life. Having said that, like a lot of the people who work at Audrey's obviously are younger, don't have kids, and they just wake up and the entire day is about themselves.

Like they wake up and it's like, you know, they make themselves food, they take care of themselves, you know, they go to work and then I just think back upon that time in my life and I get it. It's all about perspective, right, like, my perspective is drastically different now that I'm a parent, I'm a husband. You know, there are other people in my life that I need to sacrifice, things for which I'm more than happy to do.

But it's so interesting thinking about myself ten years ago or even just you know, however many years ago, even when I was at with Ashley. I mean, the big game changer is really dawesome because Ashley, it was a fully functioning adult by the time. Better obviously with Dawson. You know, it's like you, first of all, you don't wake up. He wakes you up, so you're not waking up on your own time. You're waking up whenever your

kid wakes up. And then you know, my entire now, my entire day, well a lot of my day revolves around Dawson, because it's like, all right, well, I'll wake up, I'll change Stiper, I'll do the things, and then Ashley, we'll get up, help take care of him. So I can go to the gym and then go to work. But then I also only go to the gym for a certain amount of time because it's like, all right, well, I can only be away from the house for a

certain amount of times. I'm sure that you know, Ashley's not alone with Dawson all day, so it's like I'll, you know, she'll put him down for a nap, and then I'll come back after nap to help take care of him, so she has some relief. My point being

in this conversation is that it's just insane. I can't even like put myself into my own headspace where I was prior to having Dawson, where it was isn't like I had to devote a majority of my entire being to someone else to ensure that they're surviving, enjoying life, ah, learning, ah, you know, being raised. Anyway, long story short, so whenever I hear someone complaining does have kids, I'm like, shut

the hell up. I'm kidding. I don't say that because I know everybody has their own issues, but seriously, shut up, you know, just kidding. Oh golly, I saw an article too. I was looking up topics for this this podcast because I was like, all right, parenting parenting, that could be called it too parenting one on one. I'm sure there's already a podcast called parenting one on one. It's just too easy. But I saw something and said The Color Purple.

Great movie, directed by Steven Spielberg. I remember started it started oprah. I remember watching that movie as a kid. Great movie. I think there was a roommake. But anyway, point is the only reason this headline got to me. It was because, so The Color Purple has a PG thirteen rating? Is it okay for kids? Am I? The dummy here? Isn't PG thirteen? Doesn't that mean that it's suitable for ages thirteen and up? Right? Anyway? I saw that and I was like, wait a minute, what do

you mean suitable for kids? It says PG thirteen. Isn't that the whole basis of the rating system? So we know, like, oh, okay, where is this movie suitable for I guess there's some gray area, right, Like what happens if your kids twelve? Can they not watch a PG thirteen movie? I don't know what is Jaws rated? Because, oh my god, that's what I thought, guys, Jaws, Jaws one of them, you know, scariest movies of all time. I don't know about that,

but like, people were terrified in this movie. There are people being eaten by sharks, and there's blood and it's quite scary as a kid. That movie's rated p G PG parental guidance. Now, that movie came out in nineteen seventy five, so PG is a lot different back in nineteen seventy five than it is now. But can you imagine that? But what else do we want to talk about on this podcast? Guys? I guess that's a question I should be asking. What do you want me to

talk about on this podcast? I got? I am very excited about this. I feel like I could talk to myself for hours. I have conversations with myself all the time. Ashley has videos of my lips moving, my eyes closed, my lips moving. Because I didn't realize that when I talk to myself sometimes I talk out loud, but I talk to myself all the time. I think they say geniuses to themselves or psychopaths. I can't remember football coin really, But what do you guys want me to talk about?

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want to hear about on our individual podcast. Because of course we're going to still come together Dean, myself, Caitlin, we're gonna talk, We're in chat, we're gonna talk about our lives, talk about dating. I love doing the podcast with them, I really do. I wish we could do it in person more. Unfortunately I live in Rhode Island. They are now living in Aspen, which looks beautiful. But it was so much fun being able to record together at the Golden Bachelor, and there's such a different dynamic

when you're in the room with someone you know. We can be in a virtual room and it works, and it works well, but there is a distinct difference when you're actually physically together, being able to like, joke around, play off each other. It's just a different dynamic one that I enjoy immensely, and I wish we could do it more, but unfortunately it's not physically possible. My point being is that we're still going to do those of course, and then we're each going to do our individual podcast.

So for me personally, I would love love, love, love, love love if you could tell us what you want us to talk about. Also shout out. There was a very very nice woman who came into Audrey's actually earlier today from when I'm recording, and she listens to the podcast, and she came from all the way from California. Well, she has a gen didn't come just for us. I mean, that'd be very sweet. Maybe I should just lie and say that. But she had some time share and she

stayed in Newport. Newport's beautiful. If you haven't been to Newport where island, guys, go check it out. Not right now because you know it's kind of gross outside, but anytime after May, May through even December because the holidays in Newport adorable, but summer's the best. Definitely check out Newport. Let me go back. Shout out to the woman who

came in. She said she listens to the podcast. And anybody who comes up and tells me they listen to the podcast, please know how much that means to me. It just means the world, It really does, because you know a lot of times just like you guys, I'm sure you have a lot of doubts about yourself, but you keep pushing forward. Everybody has doubts about themselves, so it's so nice when someone reassures me about the podcast. And I'm sure it feels great when people reasure about you,

know you, about anything in life. So anyway, you're wonderful. Thank you so much for coming and really appreciate it. Anybody who listens who's been to Audrey's, thank you so much for coming in and supporting Audrey's as well, because we work hard, and it's just just me, like I work really hard, but there are a lot of people that work hard at Audrey's, a lot of great people. You know. I'm very lucky to have a lot of

wonderful people that work at Audrey's. And it's tough sometimes to feel like it's not as successful as it should be or as I was hoping it would to be, you know, full transparency, Audie's just well, I don't really make money off of it, but again, I do it because I've always wanted to own my own place, and I feel like I have a good grasp on the restaurant industry and I feel like I know what I'm

doing to a certain extent. Once again, that line to a certain extent, But that doesn't mean it's not hard. You know, anybody who owns a restaurant can tell you how difficult it is. And also, like I care about my employees, I want to make sure that they're they're well off, you know, that they they don't have to live paycheck to paycheck, and that when they're there at Audrey's working, they're being compensated and they're being compensated well.

And I want them to know how much I appreciate them. And so anyway, point is, there's a lot of people that work hard, and so when you come in to Audrey's, you're supporting me, yes, and that means the world to me, but you're really supporting them as well, you know. And I have people who work for me that have families and kids, and you know, they're paying for college, and so there's you know, just like in life. You know,

everybody's got their own things going on. But I just wanted to say thank you because it means a lot, and it means a lot for you to listen. Hopefully this was not too boring. I kind of just rambled, but honestly, it was so much fun. I enjoy rambling. Ashley, you will definitely be a co host on this podcast too, not every week, but like she's definitely gonna pop in and just give her two cents, because that's what Ashley does.

She comes in and she tells me exactly what she's thinking, which at the end of the day is a great, great thing to have because I'd much rather have that than never know what my partner's thinking. That would be frustrating. So, once again, thank you so much for listeners podcast, and I think I'm gonna end it just like we end suckers, which means make sure you tune in next week, where hopefully we suck just a little bit less. Thanks for listening.

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