Single Parents with Kimrie Lewis

It's finally a sunny day. And if you can see my outside my window right now, but it's finally a sunny day Montreal. It's been brutal March. I feel like I don't know what it's like back in Lex. Thank you forgetting what what what nice weather is like. But March is just brutal because you think winter is over, and for anyone that lives in a city or country

that has snow, you can totally understand my pain. It's like I just can't wait for a sprint to come along and for me to have some sort of energy back. March sucks, Mark, I remember mart Island. March is the worst because every but he just assumes that snow is December, January, February, and then March comes and weather changes and it doesn't because it just hits you. It's like blind sides you with snow because you think here springs right around the corner,

and then boom, eight inches of snow. Yeah. Well, we say an Italian matso pazzo, which basically means March is crazy because you never know. There's always that one last snowfall that you're going to get, and I feel like it's probably gonna happen someday soon, and then it's going to be like a week of spring in Montreal, and then summer is going to be for two months. Always one upping me. She has to speak a town on this podcast. I speak too language. I speak English and

bad English. Do you notice to my Rhode Island accents? Sometimes? You know what the thing about Rhoe Islanders? Yeah, it's bad. I hate myself for it because sometimes I'll add ours to words I don't even know why, and then sometimes I'll drop ours from words that are supposed to be there, like ca pok. You know, that's kind of like the

Boston side of me. I think We're Island has its own unique language, though I find myself sometimes saying ours and words that just don't belong and I don't know why, and it makes me feel like a big dummy. But that's okay. What are you gonna go far from a dummy? You don't feel like I have an accent when I speak, um,

what do you do? What you do is you pronounce your words very very well, like when you say important, you know, you pronounce your tease and make sure that I haven't mean to bring something up to you there is I can't remember what we were talking about, but a couple of weeks back, you were talking about what we in America would call exzema, but you said exem yeah, and I was like, oh god, I think Vanessa saying because I'm a man, I wanted to correct you. I's like,

oh my god, Vanessa saying it wrong. Oh I should say something, but kept to myself and then I texted my my brother in law, who is from uh He's from Manitoba. I was like, how do you say this word? And I said, I wrote at zema and he wrote he sent back exeema. I'm like Oh, that's that's a Canadian thing. I had no idea. Yeah, we make up our own. I thought it was more about what really because we speak to languages and sometimes I get confused.

Like I remember on the show when we're filming The Bachelor, I was on the couch like right before I think it was the last date before the engagement episode, and I was talking to Nick. They didn't air this because he stopped and he started laughing everyone started laughing at me. I was like, I feel so stupid. Wait, how do I say it? Contribute? But you got but the real way things contribute? Yeah, And he just I was like talking about I want to be able to contribute to

the relationship and blah blah blah blah. And I was really into what I was talking about, and he just tasked me. He's like, contribute and I was like, what are you talking about? You mean contribute? English is such a weird language. Think about Well, anyway, I guess we should. I guess we should talk about dating stuff, right, I don't know. This is a podcast about relationships and stuff.

There was an article, actually, Vanessa that I saw you brought to my attention about bad Boyfriend Alert did you see this. Honestly, you saw because you're the one who presented to me. So there's an article on It's the Taco the Taco dot com. I don't know what that is, but of course headlines bad boyfriend if he does ten of these twenty things run for the hills. Uh wait,

did you read them? Because there's some of them that I'm like, I think there's some guys that I've dated that did hit ten of them, but I'm like, they're not through. They weren't bad boyfriends. But let's look at them. So the like number twenty, he makes his girl feel guilty for being happy. I think that this is just bad characteristics of a bad human being. Like, that's what it is. Like a lot of these things are like he makes his girl feel guilty for being happy. Yeah,

that's just being in you know, Yeah, exactly. And then the other one too, he disappoints her every time they make plans. Number eighteen he constantly texts his ex. But they're just friends. Listen, if you're in a relationship and some dude, whether actually whoever it is, boy girl, doesn't matter if they're texting their ex. Big problem, big red fire you mentioned and you were honest about how you were still friends with an ex of yours an X who and sorry, not an ex? No, you're I'm getting

this story wrong. You're your best friend is a female? Yes, so, well one of my closest friends. Yeah, her name is Crystal. I've been friends with her for a while. Um And well, actually, well here's the thing. So when actually and I first became friends, actually couldn't understand the concept that I was really close friends with this particular girl and we're both single, because she just assumed that this girl must have had

a crush on me, which was never the case. And then she met Crystal and found out that it was so much more of a brother sister relationship than anything else. And she's not an X at all, Like I I I used to be friends with my ex. Um. But I think when you're in a relationship, unfortunately, it just has to change on both sides because it makes the

other person feel uncomfortable. Yeah, And I think, and I say, there's no reason we're in twenty nineteen now, there's no reason of having to completely hate the person that you dated in order to move on from a relationship. I think you have to forgive forgive yourself for you know, the feelings that you had, and then forgive the person for what they did to you, and you can still have an amicable is that an English word? Amicable? Amicable relationship,

amicable relationship? Um. I I'm really good friends with one X of mine who basically right after the show aired, he he was the only ex that called me and texted me and was super supportive. And I was like, I'm buying your u r L named Vanessa gamalta dot com before someone else takes it, and he was just really supportive and then yeah, um, and you know, but whenever I'm in like a relationship, he understands, and I understand whenever he's in a relationship that the texting is

not frequent or almost stops completely. Um, And there's no there's no hard feelings there, don't you find though it's easier to move on from a breakup if you hate the other person. I know, but that's that's yes, that but it makes sense though, Like, Okay, let's say Jared, you are okay, Let's say I break up with this guy that I'm dating now okay, because you guys are engaged. I don't even want to put that like bad Judo

on you and Ashley. So let's say the guy that I'm no bad jud So let's say the guy I am dating now breaks up with me. It would be so much easier for me to like hate his guts in order to just like totally think all the bad things that he's done or turn like turn off all the good stuff that that has happened in our relationship and in order to move on just like, oh, I'm

better off without him. No no, no, no no no, but I want to And that's like the old men And I'm really honest about this, but it's so much healthier for you in order to appreciate the person for the positives that they've given you. Yeah, And I just find the yes and no. Because I went through a breakup in my early twenties with somebody that was dying for very long time, who's the most wonderful person, and there was no reason for the breakup. It just felt like

it was time to go our separate ways. And I'm it took honestly, probably about eight months between the time that we broke up to really cut it off because there wasn't any reason for each other to hate one another. It was it just the feelings were there as strong as they used to be, and we were growing apart

and we were going in two different directions. And I found at that time other people going through breakups where they had a reason to hate that person they were breaking up with, and it was so much easier for them to move on than for me, because I didn't hate this person. I truly love them as human being, but I just don't think I was in love with them anymore. So it was this this long, horrible, exhausting breakup that ended up taking like eight months to finally

really cut the cord. Because you want to just sugarcoat around everything. That's so funny that you mentioned so breakups and heartbreak. And I was reading this article and I wanted to find out and I'm switching articles now, but I wanted to find out why women. I feel like

women suffer from heartbreak more than men. And I was trying to figure out why that was and why I was always as hopeless romantic and I still am why I, you know, always picture this like romantic life that I was going to have with this guy who was just going to sweep me off my feet, and it was, there was never gonna be any red flags and life

would have been perfect. And then I'm like, all these freaking Disney movies I used to watch where Cinderella or The Sleeping Beauty or whoever, like, it's always a man coming in to save the woman and you know he ends up like being this super romantic guy at the end of the movie. And then if you like, graduate from Disney movies to rom comms and it's always a happy ending at the movie. That's not real life. Yeah, well those you know, those movies just playoff of gender roles,

which we need more of in today's society. That was a joke, that was, but it's true. And then I was reading up on what actually is a heartbreak and they were saying heartbreak is um is. So basically, in a heartbroken syndrome, stress hormones caused the heart to enlarge, which affects the ability to pump blood, which is kind of like a mini heart attack. So there's I mean, it's a classic symptom of a heart attack. Medically it

is a mini heart attack. Well I don't know if it's actually a mini heart attack, but it's a symptom of what a heart attack can feel like, yeah, it's not a wild Well this is where I read online and you know you can't. It's obviously true. Yeah, exactly like my birthdays on the twenty nine. So you're saying there's science to why women feel more heartache during a breakup. No, I was just trying to understand what isn't that? What

is you know? Because when you have a heartbreak and you've experienced this before, it's just like pain that you can't really describe unless you've gone through it. And I keep getting it's like, oh, have you ever been through a heartbreak? I am the queen of getting my heartbroken, So yes, I under I totally empathize whenever someone comes to me and they have a story of you know, a relationship that didn't end up working out, and truly

the only thing that helps. And I hate saying this, and I hate when anyone tells me this because that's not what you want to hear. It's time time heals all. Whether that's like for you, Jared, it was eight months to get over someone that you didn't hate, but you just fell out of love with, or you just weren't really into, or if it's someone that really did you wrong and it might take you I don't know, two weeks, a month. It's just time heals a broken heart, and

it's the worst thing that you want to hear. Yeah, time does heal everything. You know what's funny about time? You want to know? It's really funny about a time. We have a time that this podcast starts at right, and we want to start on time now. In order to start on time, we need you. Look who decided to join the party? Therey is Hey, hey, everyone, fill me on what I missed. We were just talking about love, heartbreak, relationships, time, time.

It's all about time, really, Dean? How are you? What was going on? Why are we late? I'm sorry for being late, you guys. It's okay. What happened out at the fan He's going to be living in You know that traffic in l A just sometimes sneaks up on? No, no, no, I need you to give me a thirty second story as to why you're late. I needed to be completely false, but give me a good one. Oh man, No, come on that thirty seconds Dean. What walk of shame were

you doing? I'm exhausted today, you guys. Again, I apologize for being late. I just spent the weekend with Peter and Alex and I just exhausted. How is dear Peter and Alex? You know they're doing really well. Um, Peter Who and Alex Who? Peter Kraft and Alex bordakov A. Right there we go, two gentlemen for my season. Is

Alex doing Paradise? He is Australian Paradise, the same one you saw, so I saw because you tagged him and I looked at his Instagram and I saw him post a picture it said Bachelor in Paradise and I thought, to my they haven't enough the cast yet. So for the listeners out there, there's an Australian Bachelor in Paradise and Alex along with a couple of other Americans are going to be down there. This because Jared did that

last year. Yeah, I did it last year before Ashley and I got together, when she did win two games. I did Bachelor and Paradise Australia the same thing, um. And it's funny because he filled me in on a lot of what happened down there, and obviously being on a beach and Fiji for a month sounds amazing. Um, but it just sounds a little bit different than the experience that we had with the US Bachelor Paradis and you've done both, I guess, so you would know. Well,

it was different. I heard so some cast members that were on my season of Bachelor in Paradise Australia went back and I talked to him a little bit about it, and they said that they were a little bit more strict this time around, because in the season I went to, it was a free for all pretty much. It was crazy because on the American version of Paradise, you were on camera legitimately cameras. Dean, you can attest this in your rooms, they wake you up at eight o'clock in

the morning with a camera in your face. You go to bed at two o'clock in the morning, there's still a camera there. With Bachelor in Paradise Australia. Literally, remember, I'd wake up at like end in the morning. That's what's That's what he was telling me. Pay on down to the breakfast place. There were no cameras, nobody's miked up, but everybody's hanging out talking about what happened the night previous.

And then I remember being mind boggled because we're talking about serious things that happened at rose ceremonies and cocktail parties, none of it being captured, and then like one o'clock in the afternoon, they'd be like, all right, guys, let's get miked up, and then they would put us in these chats and like, Okay, let's talk about what happened last night, like what we already did, but I guess

we'll talk about it again. So it just didn't feel as authentic because it wasn't the first time we were talking about it. So that's exactly what he said to He was like, Yeah, I wouldn't, you know, be for not forced, but I wouldn't be required to do anything on camera until about noon every single day. And I'm like, that's a night and day difference to Bachelor in Paradise US, because it's like you said, you're up at eight am, Um, you're Mike basically the second your foot step touches the

ground after leaving your bed. Um. But yeah, I mean it sounds like it's fun fies. You obviously would be a blast. Um. Do you know who else went down there? Are you allowed to say? No? I don't know. I don't know. Am I allowed to say I don't know. Let's not even go down that road. Is it somebody that's been on Paradise, the American version that the two Americans, all three Americans including Alex, that go down there? Um? Did you watch your Australian Paradise season when it was airing?

H No, I did not, because it was I was with Ashley at this point. So we filmed in November of seen and then it didn't start airing I think until like April or met something like that, because it was so different because with Winter Games with you guys, you guys filmed in December to air February. February a month and a half later, and so mine was a little bit weirder, and also I couldn't really I watched

some clips of it, A lot of it was on YouTube. Um, but obviously I was with Ashley at the time, so I didn't really want to revisit a time I was in. But you didn't kiss anyone or anything like that. Now, I was there for two weeks, went through five rows ceremonies, did not kiss a girl, did not kiss anybody, and from what I understand through Alex's uh explanation of it all, it seems like the Americans are brought in kind of as novelties, right, Like the Australian UM viewers don't really

care about the American cast members. They care about obviously the Australians that they've seen on Bachelor, Bachelorette UM or the I guess the newcomers that they bring in as well, and then the Americans are they're just basically not like to be made fun of, but just essentially as a novelty, like, oh, look at this American we brought into Like yeah, well they were going to bring in Australian contestants to the American version on your season as novelties as well as

just like outsiders. But then obviously you're kind of stu. You know that whole thing went down with do you know Courtney Dover was supposed to come down to Bachelor Paradise on my season. Yeah, he was at the hotel.

He's at the hotel. Never went down, and then that's the Bachelorette Bachelor in Paradise, so he never came down the steps because obviously there's that big um shut down for like a week and a half, and then that's why, well that's not why, but then they were like, Okay, we're gonna have you come on Winter Games No Courtney, Yes, yes, Yeah. It was funny because there was a girl that was on my season in Paradise, Kira, who's supposed to go on the American version in the hotel same thing is

called anti the villain or something. She was. She's fan dude, She's awesome. She's just one of those people you know, like it's hard to compare in contras. But like Ashley was kind of like the villain of her season, not really but just like dramatic. Nobody liked her, and then not nobody liked her, but and then she went on

Paradise and everybody fell in love with her. Right the same thing with Kira, where like on her season she causes drama, she's a little like scandalous, and then you know they end up loving her because she's just real and authentic and crazy and it's fantastic. So why don't you Kira on bechelor in Paradise Australia because it was there was not that romantic chemistry, but I loved being around her best. Romantic chemistry obviously is very important, very important,

as we all three of us know too well. But before we move on, my name is h ov h to the ov that that that Tom Brady runs out to that song. Just keep just keep talking. Sorry, I keep doing your thing anyway. You guys heard about joy Bird, have you? Guys? Of course we've heard. Well I've heard about joy Bird. Well I've are you redecorating your home? Um? Yeah, actually just ordered a couch from them? Really what kind

of couch? I can't remember the exact name and model of it, but it's like this, Heather Gray beautiful couch. I want a great couch so badly. Tanner and I was just over Tanner in Jade's house and they got a brand new couch. I can't remember if I got it from joy Burn or not, but it is the most comfortable thing. And honestly, the problem is our couch at the condo right now smells like because we got

a puppy. She peas everywhere. And here's the problem. She peas everywhere, and now our other dog, Gurgey, who's five, smells her peep want to mark his territory exactly. So now, dude, it's horrible. We well, how long have you had this new dog for you? I feel like you should have your potty train by now. She is potty trained, but apparently so she is about nine months. We got her

back in September. She's potty trained, but she started reverting back, going back, peeing inside, barking at people, and we were looking it up and dogs can have adolescent years, so she's kind of like a teenager, right, she's like lashing back. She's lashing back a little bit. So it's causing a little bit of an issue with the couch, which is why we need a new couch. But the great thing is now we have joy Bird, and we all know that you guys have heard about the revolution and online

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we make it that far. If I'm on my deathbed when I'm a hundred and forty years old, I want to return my joy Bred couch just has to be a reason for it has to be like a manufactured defector. So even if it's the best couch of all time and I'm a hundred forty years old, I can't return it. Well, if there's a defect, like say, maybe the leg breaks, but Joybird is so good, the leg's not going to break.

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ruin furniture and rugs. Ashley and I know all too much about that, so we're trying to find new, affordable and timeless furniture for the condo ray now and hopefully for our future family home. And we're trying to make our apartment a little bit more adult like and less bachelor bad esk, you know. So we just ordered the Soto chair and Taylor felt gray and maplewood. I'm pretty stoked to get that in the mail. So you guys can see how joybird is revolution denizing online furniture shopping.

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felt gray in maplewood, Um, are you gonna breaking in? Well, that's a personal question. Next and next and on that note, moving right along, So literally didn't come up with questions. I'm on my on the internet right now googling questions, But I kind of like that. So here's some fun questions for Dean and Vanessa so you can learn a little bit more about the host and their pet peeves. Ready, are you, as Dean, what's your silliest recent fashion trend?

What do you think the silliest fashion trend is recently that I've you've encompassed, You've seen, you've worn. I don't leave the house that a beanie on? Yeah, what's up at that? And it's eighty five degrees in Los Angeles? Is it because your hair? So Dean's hair is Dean You're growing up, growing out the flow? Yeah, I love flow, dude. I'll never forget this is God. People are gonna think

I'm so pathetic. Well, Tom Brady grew out his hair and tails and tent and literally when you put his helmon on, blow was like his hair was out of the helmet. Do you remember that? As he was the unanimous m v P. It was the most badass move. Like he's on his on the sideline fixing his hair and then he goes on the field and throws for four touchings and it's like this man, this man, he's

not a man. He's superman. I feel like dared. I feel like he would be your How do you say the name Blanche captain Blanche when you're allowed to cha on your significant other? No? First, no? Actually, and I don't have a hall pass, No hall pass? A pass? Was Tom Brady? That what you and Tom Brady could be as brothers? That might be worth something exploring? All right? To answer that question, it's a fantastic opportunity. But I

would not want that. I would just want to I would want to go on a double date Tom Giselle Ashley me. You know what I mean. That's not too much asked. What if you guys pulled the switchero actually gets Tom for the night and you get Why do you have to ask me these questions on air? Because I think we all know the answer to that. He's the one person for me. I love her, she's out bunching her. Yeah. But if you guys, all right, what's the ciliest trend you've seen in Vanessa? Are you've worn?

What was the weirdest thing you've ever won throughout your entire life? Weirdest? I can't think of weirdest, but the one thing now I just feel like I've become really lazy, and maybe that has part to do with the fact that I'm in a relationship. But I'm always in leggings, leggings or like, I don't wear do you order int anymore? Either? I think Dean has inspired me, That's what's up. I love that. Well you don't wear Do you wear the order when you work out? No? I haven't worked out

in a while. So well, First of all, I don't think you're I don't think your man is too upset about you wearing leggings around the house. Dude, there now. But you know, when you just want to feel good as a girl like you, just you want to be dulled up a little bit. I have to get back into that phase of feeling good and looking half decent. Oh my god, you're right now on this TV scream and I say, you have never looked better in my opinion. Oh stop it. That's Jared's part. He's the one that

compliments me. You're the one that makes fun of me. I think it just might be your relationship glow. Yeah, let maybe the nice guy. Okay, well, sorry for giving you a compliment. Um the most one and one of the most embarrassing things I remember wearing was in high school. I used to be the two polo guy at both code dude. It was horrible. I had no idea what both of both both of the college people actually did that. I was trying to be cool East Coast five. I

guess guys I dated this. I dated this guy who would pop his collar. But then I realized he was wearing foundation. Well how old was this guy? Uh? He must have been nineteen. That seems a little young. You know. It's another thing that I didn't do. But I've seen other guys at bars, and I just saw this past weekend, guys who are at it like a beach bar, and they're wearing a button down shirt but it's not buttoned. It's just opened with nothing underneath it. That's I like that,

that's a move. I like that you can get away with it. But the T shirt underneath has to be baggy. It can be like super tight. No no, no, no, no T shirt chest hair flowing out. I like, I'm like like a white tea with like a blue button down open. But here's the thing at the bar, if you're just walking around with a button down shirt that's open and you're letting your chest flow. Just like either one take the shirt off, go shirtless, or two button the shirt. I think you're not pet peeve weird. It

really depends on location. You can do that on like you said it on like a beach bar. Yeah, this was a place was like a like a restaurant slash bar that was on the water. Just sig. I don't know, but even still like, bro, come on, come on, if it's a lenin, maybe you can get away with it. Um. In high school, I also wore tall teas. You guys know what tall teams. Oh my god. Yeah, every T shirt that I owned in my closet went from my

shoulders all the way down to my knees. Basically it was just an extra, extra, extra, extra, extra extra large T shirt. Um. I had like thirty of them. And I also wore uh um fifty what are those hats that the fitted hats? Yeah, So basically it was like we all thought that we were gangsters bringing a picture up right now. And that was what Dean looked like in high school and in hindsight, not my best look.

I also I used to wear basketball jerseys to school all the time, and my favorite was my Paul Pierce Boston Celtics one, but I used to tuck it in. I thought. I never thought anything of it. My dad just taught me to like talk in my shirts at a young age, and so I would talk in my basketball jersey. I'll never forget. That's cool one of them. So I'm walking through school like beating you up, yeah

with your long time um. So I remember I was wearing a white shirt underneath and my basketball jersey over the top, and I had it tucked in into my jeans. And this was like before home room, and all of a sudden, one of the coolest kids in school. I'll never forget. He started walking up to me and he started like on talking my shirt and he was being he was like bro down to that. He's like, don't

do that. Don't ever talk to hi. He's like football jerseys, Yeah, you can talk in basketball Jersey's no, And for some reason that just stayed in my mind as one of the most impressionable things that ever happened to me in high school. Like, okay, all right, don't talk in the basketball jersey. I was. I was rocking your Celtics on. I saw that broke. It was a kg number five, number five, a great one. Anything is possible. I feel like you guys should start a side podcast on sports.

I don't think I know enough about sports. I think my sports knowledge is steadily declined as I've aged. How you feeling about Joe Flacco? Baby, I feel really about him. Honestly, nobody's gonna listen to this podcast after that one do Flacco? He is a new quarterback for the dever Broncos used. Um, which technology from science fiction? Do you wish existed? Time travel? Yes? What is it? Back to the future of course, all three of them? Really? Um? What technology? Yeah? I mean

time travel is just such an easy one. Maybe like a shrink ray or a shrink ray would be pretty cool, be able to like go microscopic. I used to fantasize about that after I watch um Um Honey, I shrunk the kids Like I always imagine myself being just like the size of an aunt and running around and having a whole new perspective on life. All right, what's the dumbest chorus from a recent song? The dumbest chorus from a recent song. I gotta be honest, this is gonna

be an unpopular opinion. I think especially to our and it's thank you, thank you. That's a song that's my anthem. Why do you like that song so much? Why do I love that song? Because we were just talking about how it's so much easier to hate someone that you dated. So it's like, that's your like polite way of saying I hate you by I know, but it's kind of pretentious, isn't it? Like thank you? Next and it's like, I will say, the music video incredible. I'm a big Mariana fan.

I like Ariana. I'm just not a big fan of that particular song. I like her music. I just think she's really pretty. She's beautiful. How do you feel about Pete Davidson and Kate beckt Cell? That's an odd pairing. Huh? Beck and Sell was the girl from Titanic? Right? No, Kate beck Cells from Underworld? Right? Yeah, okay, next question, she's well, she's also the wife, she's Adam Sandler's wife. And click, that's a big, real friend. That's a big

point of reference for a lot of people. I would agree, that's the first one came to Academy a word wing Click, what did it win? Best makeup? All? Right? That's fair I guess Yeah, the makeup job was pretty good towards the end of the movie. Uh, what job would you be absolutely terrible at? Modeling? Podcast? Anything that needs to he needs to be on time for one time the USA? What do you think you would suck at as a job? Suck at modeling? I don't like to I don't like

being photographed. It gives me so much anxiety. I like taking pictures of people, you know, No, I have to for Instagram, you know, to like get that engagement. It's like, yeah, that's like our world right now. I know. I don't like it. That's why I start a YouTube channel because I feel like I'm better with video than I am with pictures. I don't think I suck at a job. I'm really good at everything. Um, what is what's your

perfect Saturday? Look like? Great question? Staying home in pajamas, not showering, not brushing my teeth, brush your teeth, sat Yeah, like not like completely allowing yourself to be lazy. Huh and ignoring hygiene is different than being Yeah, I know you're talking about that. You just gained a lot of points in my book with that answer from the guys about to live in a van but just the beach day with the boys. Each there the boys. Yeah, that'd

be a good one. Maybe maybe wear my my button down shirt to a bar, unbuttoned it all the way and just drink some Coronas corona with a lime. I'll take a Corona rita please, part in Vanessa. Do you have chest hair? I've got a couple. Let me say, let's say pulled down. Oh yeah, there we go. There's a couple of lanning. You know, why don't we bring this conversation back to dating? So bring it back. Let's let's talk about red flags when you're first dating someone.

What are some red flags? What are some red flags that you consider a big like no, no, and that's like your time to say thank you next. It's such a vague answer. If you start seeing holes in the stories that people tell you, and then you maybe you don't even want to have to call them on it. Yeah, but what kind of story? It's like, like people love to embellish. People love to make themselves sound cooler and

better than they really are. And the second that I like start to catch people doing that, I'm like, this is just I'm out. So you don't like a try hard. Somebody who's really even trying to impress you something exactly, someone that like thinks that they need to make something up or embellish or exaggerated truth because they think that will make them look better. But I feel like that's at the beginning of every date that you go on, like the first couple of dates. They're always going to

try to make themselves sound or look cooler. I get it, but I absolutely hate when people do that. You guys always give me every being so self deprecating, and that's one of the reasons I do that is because I I want to avoid that at all costs. I agree, I like being self I like being self deprecating as well because of that. But to be fair to any of these people who are doing it to you, you are seen as kind of like a little bit of a sex symbol from The Bachelor, So maybe they're just

trying to get on your level, you know what I mean? True, right, I've got my life together. If you don't want, if you did, the amount of women that hit me up to try to like slide into your d M s or try to get your number or your attention is wild. And whenever I post a story with you or something. All my friends text me and say, hey, what's what's Vanessa's deal? Hey, Dean before the four friends that you keep mentioning, it's literally my entire Instagram that goes crazy

every time I post a picture of you. Well, yeah, because it just is. It's the way that it works. You know, you have a lot of female followers. I have a lot of female followers. But then my close friends are always asking me who's that girl? It's jes girls, it's Vaness. I love that feel so much. What if Okay, what if the guy I'm a really okay? Do you? I know, Jared you said that you and actually have

each other's passwords for your computer and your phone. Um, what if, like you start dating a guy and I'm someone who's really curious, I'd want to know, like, oh, what's he texting or who is he texting? And if he starts to like suddenly shift his phone away from you, that's like, dude, what are you hiding? Certainly, yeah, we've talked about this for because like even like when guys bring their phones into the bathroom, apparently that could be a red flight, even though I bring mine. Because I

listened to the music while I'm in the shower. Keep the door open. Keep that door open. That's my policy with my boyfriend, like keeping that door. What about when I go to number two before showering, solely so I could get like if you know, like there you get the steam. You want to get the smells so they don't hear you. The noise. Thing is the big thing for me is I'll literally go, I'll take a shower sometimes just so I can go number two and get

away with it. If there's no fans in your shower, No shower on are so wasteful, just just courtesy flush as you're going, no, no, because you don't even tell them that you're going to the bathroom. You say, hey, I'm gonna take a shower real quick, alleviate yourself up your number two, and then you jump in the shower and pretend like you never even did it. No, you leave the door. And this happened to me one time. The door was unlocked and then shower and all of

a sudden, I'm like, okay, here's my private time. And I sit down and all of a sudden it was like like the doors are opening, and I frantically get up and shut the door, and she's like, what are you doing? It's me and I'm like, I'm not in the shower right now, and it's like, God, I have to lock the door because I do you live with your boyfriend? I can't remember. No, uh no, I don't live with my boyfriend. But where I'm like, I don't care. I don't have any secrets. I don't like to get

about the whole privhecy thing. But I'm someone who's so open, like I'm open and about a lot of things. So I'm like, Okay, I'm going to take a ship. What's the big deal. I don't know. I don't know. If Ashley said, hey, I'm gonna go take a ship, I'd be like maybe I'll use that terminology. But I'm like, I'm going to the bathroom, like I'll be long wink wink. No. Yeah, I'm like, all r, I gotta go the bathroom. But

I also don't want the door open. I don't want I don't want anybody, whether it be actually my my my parents, my friends, Like, I just want that time alone, you know, it's just such that's quality. I don't want. I don't want to smell and here it myself, so I don't want anyone else he's gonna go to a public bathroom. I literally put my headphones in because I can't hear other dudes doing their business because then I just need to like zone out. Yeah, whatever, I'm weird.

I don't know. No, I think I'm weird because every time I talk about it, people look at me like, why would you ever want to talk about your business in the bathroom, and like why wouldn't I. I used to have to take off my shirt every single time I went number two. Yeah you said that before. Yeah, up until I was like years old, every single time, whether I was in a public restroom, personal bathroom, my shirt comes off and I hang it up. I don't know.

I just think you get hot. I felt like the smell would come up and get stuck in the shirt or something. It was just like this weird thing that I had just the shirt. Dude, I'm going to give you some poperie. They send me a box ball pants always come down, they have to. I had a due that was shrip totally naked to number two. If I ever saw Dean walk out of a public stall with his sure at all, I would take this shirt off in the stall and hanging up on the hook on

the wall the door. Maybe do you do you put the shirt back on before you walk out? Yes? Absolutely, And I don't know if you were like. So, next up, we have a guest coming into studio, Jared you wanna do you want to talk about who we have coming in? Next? We have Kimry Lewis and she stars on the ABC Hits show Single Parents, which airs Wednesdays at nine thirty. And it's funny because Chris Harrison just made I guess

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of that Apple before? Right? Um. I met a guy on a flight last year when I was flying from like Bombay to jode Poor with my friends when I was in India, and he was like he was he was an Indian man who lived in San Francisco who was just maybe one of the smartest people I've ever met, Like just you could just tell by having a conversation with him. And he was like, you have to invest

in the stock. Uh. Trump justin posed tariffs on this metal and their stock took a hit, but it's actually not really that big of a deal and it's gonna rebound. And I was like, Okay, I'm gonna invest in the stock. Invested not like a whole lot of money, but like I bought a little bit of it and it's done nothing. But DOWND could have been well that's what I'm saying I was like, I just trust this guy's judgment. I don't know what it is. It's only in two hours.

But anyways, well, that's why you should use Robin. It's a little bit smarter. Yes, that's what Robin has great about because it does give you the research and the data that it's a great name to take from the rich, give to the poor. Yeah, take from everyone else and give it all to me. Before we jump into having Kimrie in studio, let's set, uh, have a couple of emails. What do you guys say? Yeah, let's do some email.

I feel ghostly. So we have three emails, two of them, um, or maybe all of them are more Yeah, they're all. I think it's probably because all of the codes that we have for all of our sponsors used the word Dean, and so we just hear the name Dean more often than people are just like, let me ask you. No, that's fine, they love you more. Um. From the ladies of Maple Street. I'm just gonna read a couple. This

one's short and easy. It's titled Blimps and it says, dear Dean, have you conquered your fear of blimps yet? And thank you ladies of Maple Street. But I want you to know I never had a fear of blimps. It was a fear. It was a fear of heights. Um. And I was at a NASCAR race yesterday with my friends and there's a good year blimp was circling the entire time, and I was like, I'm one of very few people that have ever flown one of those. Um. So yes, I guess I've conquered my fear of blimps,

even though I never had one. Fear of heights is also something that is you know, but you've conquered that obviously. Yeah, skydiving seems to do the trick. Well, Okay, here's the thing with the whole fear of heights thing is I'm like super sarcastic, and I think that I was just joking around with them a little bit. I was like, oh my god, I'm terrified of heights, and I am like, I have had stints of fear of flying. But I think they just built it up to be a little

bit more than it really was. Um. All about conquering fears and all that kind of stuff. So yes, I have conquered that. UM. But ASA you can answer this one for us from Maxwell. So, Maxwell says he has trust issues in therapy, and we know I'll know that you're an advocate for therapy. So he says, my parents hate me and repeatedly tell me. So it's gotten to the point where we no longer talk to each other

at all. I am a twenty year old to have started taking dating seriously because I need love in my life. But every time I meet a new girl, one of three things happens thanks to my family issues. I struggled to trust them, I trust them too much, too fast, or I just keep them as far away from my heart is possible. How do you handle traumatic family problems in your dating life. I've tried therapy, like all of us who up into therapy, but it hasn't worked for me.

So what's your advice from Maxwell? Well, starting to date at twenty years old is that's you know, you're you're just starting to learn a little bit more about yourself, and when you're introducing someone else into your life romantically, it will bring up some form of issues that you may have. And like you said, Maxwell, you have trust issues.

And I'm thirty one years old and I just found out that I have major trust issues, So I totally get it UM, and my therapy is focusing around why that why those trust issues exist, and I did get to the bottom of it, and I still have trouble with UM. I guess allowing myself to trust other people. But once you start noticing signs of UM, like let's say, with me, would be trusting that someone is seeing the truth.

And I'm going to have to get to the autumn if whether they're lying to me or not allowing yourself to say okay. This is an example that an exercise that I do with my therapist is like a scientific fact and then like a Vanessa fact. So Vanessa fact is he's always lying to me, and I'll write that down on a piece of paper, and then a scientific fact next to it is has he ever lied to me? And I'll say, well, no, he's never lied to my face or I've never caught him at aal eye, So

this person has never lied to me. And you change, you change your your thoughts of UM that you may have into an actual scientific fact. And that's helped me realize like my rights from wrongs and when my trust issues appear, and when I could try to change those Um sentences are phrases that I have in my friend about in my head about a specific person, and how can I make them more realistic. So that's something that's helped me. That's not about way to do it, to

play Devil's advocate here, I will say. And it's funny because I was thinking about this before you started um explaining that, and it's a great point. I think that's actually a really good thing to practice. It never discount a gut feeling. I feel like sometimes like gut feelings can kind of like transcend information that you have in front of you for whatever reason. I don't know exactly what it is. But if you but I'm gonna stop you.

If you have trust issues, it's really hard to decipher between your gut and what your trust issues are telling you. I agree with that. I don't know. I just like I've had gut feelings in the past and I chose chose to ignore them um and then looking back, I mean, I shouldn't have ignored them. So that's that's kind of my take on it. I'm the same way I'm I've kind of been on both sides of the spectrum. Same with Maxwell is I'll trust too much too soon, um,

and then sometimes I just won't trust at all. And I think that really spoils down to the people that you're introducing into your life. Is if you trust too much too soon, maybe that person is just a trustworthy person. If you don't trust at all, then maybe that person just isn't meant to necessarily be in your life anyways. Yeah, obviously I don't want to speak to Maxwell because he's going through a different situation that I. You know, I don't want to pretend that I have answers to Um.

I only wish him the best, But I amost don't trust somebody who doesn't have trust issues. You know, you have trust issues because like who hasn't been lied to? Who hasn't been kind of? There's is are you just the one human being who hasn't had anything bad happened to you or somebody lied to you? So I think maybe it's just like if you don't have trust issues, I'm not sure you've had enough life experience yet then that this doesn't play to Maxwell. I'm not trying to

pretend it does. This is just me like literally formulating thoughts in my own head. I mean, like somebody who's just like so trustworthy or so trustful in other people. I think it's just naive. I think it really just boils down to what the other person is willing to tell you about themselves and if they're you know, because there's a lot of we all have dirty laundry at

the end of the day. But if you're not, like, if you're not forthright about that, then you're probably not going to be honest about a lot of other things that are happening at w have happened to you as well. So someone so, someone like myself who has trust issues, I need to date someone that will tell me everything about themselves now, not something that they're going to feel

comfortable telling me six months from now exactly. Well, yeah, for example, and you don't I don't know how to answer this, but in your relationship, do you guys know all each other's dirty laundry? Uh? Yeah, we we Yeah. I'm suring not all of it, but at least as it comes up in conversation, you're not willing to Yeah, But even Vanessa said, what if it doesn't come up in conversation until like nine months down the road, Well, that's fine. I think as long as the story I think, right,

as long as the store doesn't change. And I'm someone who like doesn't like drip drip relationships, Like, I'm sorry to into it, but what I meant by that was say, it just doesn't come up and random conversation until like ten months into the relationship and you're like, why didn't you tell me that earlier? And he's like, well, I didn't want to. I didn't think it was really relevant. You need to know, Yeah, well no, what We've had conversations and I said, listen, whatever you think that you

need to tell me, I would love to know. And I'm someone that won't judge, just tell me how it is.

And I love honestly, there's nothing sexier than a man that can just be them else and be honest about their past and be honest about what they want in the future, because I've been in relationships where I was in one where he who I thought was the love of my life and for two years was telling me he wanted kids and then one day woke up and was like, I don't want kids, And I felt like I was lied to for the lat for two years of dating him. So I think that along with my parents.

Divorce has led me to want to be in relationships where it's like honest, And maybe this is where the talk comes up, like I'm going to take it like I just want to be honest about stuff. I don't want to feel ashamed of anything that I do, or I don't want to have to keep anything a secret. Here's here's a scenario. I'm curious to get both your thoughts on because you say, like, there's nothing sex to you about a guy who's just completely honest and tells me the truth. But what if a dude cheated in

his past relationship and he told you that early on? Yeah, I would appreciate him telling you that, But when when didn't give you so much hesitation to date him? I think correct me if I'm wrong. But I feel like a lot of people have either emotionally cheated or physically cheated, um, and I'd rather know if that person has I'd rather know from them instead of finding it out through the grapevine. Yeah, I agree with that wholeheartedly, and I take it back.

I don't know if a lot of people have cheated, but I'm just saying I think a lot of people have done things in their past that they're shamed of, whether it's cheating or I'm willing to bet more people than we think have and more people that are willing to admit have as well. Um, do you think only cheating is cheating or emotionally? Like, if you're texting another girl that you find attractive, is that cheating? You know?

I think if you ask me that question a year ago, I would say that physical is really the only way of going about it. But now I think that there's two forms, emotional and physical. Well, yeah, but it all depends on what the texts say to right. And I also think people have their own definition of what cheating

is to make themselves feel better. Like we got that one email that came in a couple of weeks ago, and she was basically saying like how they've gotten bed together and but nothing physical happened, and then he never returned her phone calls and he deleted her off of Instagram. Remember that, They were like, oh, maybe he was dating someone and in his head, laying down naked next to someone else probably didn't mean cheating because they never physically

got physical. That would sums. I heard that about the girl that I was doing Anyways, Vanessa, So we do have Kimry Lewis gracing us with her presence in our studio. Hi, guys, I'm so excited to be here at a whole uber fiasco. But I'm excited. Thank you so much for coming. We appreciate it, Thank you, thanks for having me. So you might know Kimry Lewis from the ABC hit show Single Parents, which is on Wednesdays at nine and thirty. And you

we just saw Kimry. We're from the Bachelor franchise, all three of us and you just had a special guest appearance who was also He's like he's the King of Bachelor obviously. Yes, Chris B. Harrison and you guys were at the mansion. Yeah, we had a crossover episode, two crossover episodes this week. Um, I was on The Bachelor with Late and Easter and Chris was on our show. Yeah killing it. So are you a Bachelor fan? I am?

You know, I hadn't watched it, watched it in a long time, but I started watching, you know, to prep for the to prep for Chris's arrival. Arrival, dude, the most and what a season to like be on. This season was crazy crazy. It was a good season. Colton was a good bachelor. Jump that fence boy was so romantic. I thought so too. He was like, I can't take it anymore. I gotta go after her. If it's not like taking this show, I'm going after one woman. I

was like, oh, well, that's what I wanted. It brought up two conversations for me. One Either he wants Cassie so badly he's going after her and taking giving everything he can get, or he wants what he can't have. I think he just wanted to get away from anyone. I think so. I think he's run away from production to I mean, he's like two and a half months in and he's like losing his mind. He's like, I

just need to be alone for a second. But I think it also said a new standard, like if you're not jump and fences for me, get out of here. Sure you know I want to see you jump over goddamn fence for me, please. That's what Kimmy, that's the point I'm trying to make. I don't think he was jumping the fence for Cassie. I think he was jumping this fence for his own sanity to get out. Yeah. Wow, Well, now we're going to see it was like a two fer,

right because he jumped the fence because Cassie left. But he kind of needed to get away from production to really collect his thoughts too. But Kimber, your native l A And what would you call it? What is Angelina? So I'm from Roland, So I'm still learning out these firms. What do you guys call yourself? Rhode Islanders? Okay? Nice? At some point a person native from l A is an Angelino? Ya native Angelina? No? Stop it? Yep, right baby,

Well I'm from Montreal. Someone Montreal, Montreal in Colorado? Al right, Colorado? Still? I mean I still think Angeline, don't catch you'll beat like it's just it's it just it feels like palm trees. I feel like you should have halo over you. We told more about single parents. Single parents. Oh man, it's it's a great show. It's created by Liz Maryweather and J. J. Philbin from the New Girl franchise, and uh it starts myself late me Stir, Taryn kill Um, Jake Joy and

Brad garrett Um. And it's about this group of parents who come together who you know wouldn't ordinarily hang out with each other, but because their kids are all in the same class, they hang out and help each other through social issues and dating and the whole nine. It's a village. Now, you're an actors and a comedian, I am. Yes. Do you do stand up as well? I'm a stand up comic. My home club is Flappers and Burbank. Have you been to Montreal for the just for last festival?

I have. I've been to Montreal, but I haven't been for that festival yet, so I'm looking forward to it. I have a friend, I have a bunch of friends who have been and they say it's amazing. Oh, it's it's my favorite time of the year. Yeah. Yeah, every big comedian, Kevin hard, Um, Jimmy Kimmel comes out there. Tiffany Hattish started with yep, Yeah, she filmed her special last year, I think, or the year before. Yeah. I

think Canada is just like a clean New York. That tell us a little bit more than with single parents. How do you guys stay? I guess topical with the events as a single parent, because you're not a single parent. I'm not a single parent, but I grew up in a single parent household, and so and I have a

lot of friends or a single parents. So I just have a lot of experience and you know, experiences to pull from UM related to that, you know, I think more more than ever, there's a lot more single parents. Like people aren't doing the whole married thing. They're not waiting around UM and so you know, in this coming episode, we talked about, you know how financially how it can be a burden. You know, you have that one person income.

We talk about, you know, how do you how do you be the best parent you can be for your kid? How do you start dating? You know, how do you tell your kid that you're going to be dating somebody else? You know, like do you have a specialist that comes in or like a therapist that helps prep or gives you guys advice on we know how to interact? You know, we pull a lot from our our group, and we we got a lot of mask cort On, Jake and I are single. I think the other three are married.

But between us and the writers, we just got stories for days. Like you said, you grew up in a single parent house, Absolutely sure you can draw from a lot of experience from there. Yeah, I remember, like I hated on my mom's first guy. I was like, Uh, you're not coming up in here. This is me. It's you know, it's me a mom. This is what it is, is what we've been doing. Um. So yeah, I made it very difficult. Um. And then my dad also got remarried and that was the whole thing. So you know,

there's um, there's that, there's the real life. And I think that's what I love about this show is that it talks about real issues. It deals with real issues. It's not you know, picture perfect, um, but it also

has heart and it's funny. Well and like you said to now, more than ever, seems like you see a lot of single parents, so many, so I'm sure it's very relatable for a large part of the population where they can tune in and kind of because it's a it's a comedy, so they can tune in and kind of get a laugh out of something that they might be experiencing in their personal life. Absolutely, and you know, we have a lot of kids who watch too. I

like it. It's like I'm a family event. It's like I get my wine, you get your juice box, let's do this. I feel like it's also for people who are single in the last episode, your character gets um an invitation to her ex is whether your ex husband or your ex boyfriend or ex husband wedding, wedding. And that's like, I remember every time I would break up with someone or someone would break up with me, I'm like, I would dread the day I find out that my ex is now getting married or my ex is engaged,

or my ex has moved on. So like that was a moment I was like, I totally relate. Yeah, it's a trip. Like in now with Facebook and everything, you see that it is in your face um and yeah, Poppy had to deal with that in the last episode. I've been dealing with it. H personal. Well, I got a lot of ex is out there. Shout out to them, big shout out to our ex is because Vanessa, you bring up an interesting point, but how you dread the day you find out an X is married or so

and so think about x is of ours. Well, while we're on that topic here, it's like someone since someone's getting married this year, or any of your or Ashley's X is going to be at the wedding. Uh, well, yeah, I mean bachelor axes. That doesn't I mean Caitlin is invited. Okay, sure, I wanna feel like Kayla Quinn or obviously we're not friends with Kayla, so that would be we're not gonna be invited in Kyla's wedding. And then but Caitlin, I

believe is invited. She got to save the day and she's technically an X. And then for I think that's really the only one that we've like quote unquote dated from the show. Uh, No, we're not that. We're you know, we're friendly with Sean and Katherine, but we're not you know, friends with them. But they're nice people. But no, I think that's really it anyway. Interesting, But it's a it's

a weird thing, awkward, it's an akward thing. You know, like your life is in the public, So if you were dating someone, it's like your ex is going to know that. Well, my ex boyfriend DJ my wedding no longer married. But yeah, my ex boyfriend, the guy who I went to prom with DJ my wedding, how'd that go? He got the tunes? Dude? Wait, did you know that he was djaying it? Or were you hiring a company?

And then he showed up? No, we knew. Now, ex husband, we interviewed and we sat him down, was like, hey, you know, what do you like? He was like R and B you know, classic hip hop. And my husband was like, you got the job. That's a real power move. I think that I'm going to just seek out one of my exes who probably isn't even a DJ, and she'd be like, hey, I'm getting married, you want a DJ it for me? Yeah? And I also think he

gave us like a better rate. You know, he gave us that like that that ex discount rate, yeah, or the ex inflated rate because he's like I'm going to yeah, but he messed it up so you felt bad. It was that guilty discount. It's You've got a lot going on then, professionally, right, I do so besides the acting in the stand up comedy, what do you kind of I guess enjoy doing the most just all of it. Yeah. Yeah, Well I also write. I'm a writer for Kevin I do. Yeah,

Kevin Hard. We have a new show web series coming out on Kevin's network. Um, and I'm also directing. I'm directing my first short film and a month thanks so much. Um. It's it's a dark comedy. We uh, I can't talk that much about it. Oh come on, you tease. We haven't shot it yet, so you haven't grand pre now. So I'm very interested from an actor's perspective of the difference between being on set as an actor and being

on set as a director. Absolutely, always her stories, you know, whether it be someone like Jordan Peel who has US coming out or Ben Affleck because you know, and US looks terrible, fantastic. I was watching the preview for it, and I think I had to close my eyes for at least half of it. And it's just a preview,

Like I can't the movie is gonna be twenty times scarier. Yeah, but I feel like I hear a lot of these stories of actors who are going through the business and then learn that they want to become directors and create their own film. Is that what happened with you? That's where it's at for me. I think stand up helped with that bridge. You know, as an actor, you write,

you're you're not writing your own stuff. You're saying other people's words, you know, But is a stand up and as a writer and you know, now director, you're saying your word. You get to kind of craft that story that you want to tell, right, Um, so yeah, I'm looking forward to having a lot less hours in hair and makeup. Yeah. You get to show up and sweatpants and where and just have a coffee in your hand and yell ye stuff with people. Yeah, that's super exciting.

I'm good at yelling stuff with people. Why don't you do bulleth Why don't you direct end act in the same film. I think that that'll be that'll come out on the line. But you want to focus your all your effort on directing right now. I just wanted to be good. I want to knock it out the park. And did you write this short film as well? So you did not write this one? Okay, so you're directing other So that's another story. You're directing a different story.

Does that make you nervous at all? It? Um, it's a relatable story, so it doesn't make me nervous. And I'm working with people cast and crew that I know, so you know, is it about single parents? It's not about single parents? That would be funny. He's good a get information other people. Yeah, recruit all my my cast and my current show, like guys, let's go do this other thing. Um, No, it's it's not about single parents. It's it's all women in the cast. I can't say

that that. Yeah, all women. I'm in front of and behind the camera. Okay, nineteen we're behind the camera. Took you guys. Yeah so I'm not. Yeah, I'm one of my favorite directors of all times. Kathin Bigelow. Oh my gosh, she's fantastic, brilliant Point Break. People forget that she directed Point Break. It's one of my favorite movies of all time. The Old One, Old One, okay with Kiano come on and Patrick. I mean the No One's pretty good too, Actually,

I'll be I was pretty pleasantly surprised by watching that one. Anyway, before you got into acting, was there anybody that inspired you, whether it be stand up or acting, that got you thinking like, man, I want to do this, this is what I wanted to do with my life. Whoopi Goldberg always been my inspiration. Um. She just I think the way she started off, you know, doing theater. I come from a theater background, major in theater at n y U. UM that live storytelling is for me has always been

my passion. Um and how she was able to catapult that into film and television, and you know back that, Like if you think about Whoopee, like she was doing stuff back then that no other black woman was doing before, I mean way before her time. You talked about like like if you pitched a black woman doing a show about being a nun like a former criminal who turned into a nun, like, we would be like what um?

And that was years ago. It was decades ago. So um, I just love and appreciate how she took her own story, owned it and you know, made it a story that we can all, you know, talk to and relate about. Now, whoop you doing nowadays? Whoopie is doing the view and she still does she still does dates. Yeah, yeah, man, she's grinding. She doesn't Yeah, she's not a big flyer. I know that she doesn't like to fly, so whenever

she can. So well, come on with your with your status, your celebrity status, you and will you have to be best friends by now? No? Do I have celebrities you good to tell by my d M you guys sides M. I am very offended by that. I don't know why. Okay, questions, So you're single then? Yeah, I know you said you're divorced Um, let's get you on the Bachelor, dude. Let's make it happen right now, you make it happen. We've

already got the inside line. We already know Chris. You know Chris, you've been at the mansion, so it's like a second home to you know, to layout. Yeah, I could just I could pull up right now. We could shoot it real quick. Come on, let me know. Do you guys have any friends? Do you have any single friends you can me up with? I mean to come up, you have to cook you up. Yeah, how's your credit? What's coming? And talked about it last week bag on

the plane. We could work with that, we could we could work with So what's dating like for you in l A? It's a trip? Um? I I was just telling my publists. I went on a I had my third date at my birthday party. Basically yepkay, it was great. That was the thing. Like, you can't invite just anybody to your birthday party, you know what I mean? Like, these are the people who I love the most, were closest to me. I had some you know, I had some family there. So um, he just blended in seamlessly.

It was he dressed the part big test. If if someone you're dating can get along with your friends is actually one of my most important tests, per absolutely. Our first date was thirteen hours and on airplane, No was plane. It was like four dates in one. It was amazing. We went to like a carnival game show trivia thing. I really like, you know, competitive staff side was into that. And then we went to eat, and then we went to coffee, and then we went to we took a

walk around the block. It was kind of like out of a movie. Um, so, yeah, we're still dating. He got me good gifts. That's important. Wait, so you're you're not very single, you're dating? Oh no, I'm su I'm single, you're single, I'm super single. We're Yeah, that was just he just happens to be a nice guy. The thing is, too, I feel like, with your schedule, it's gotta be time to even carve it's gotta be hard to carve away time for someone else. That's true too. But now we wrapped,

so I got time. I'm on all the apps. I just signed up a j date. Okay, no, I was gonna say I'm on all of them? Am I Jewish? No single? But that doesn't mean I'm not open. I love you. Are you on? Ya? Oh? You are on dude. I would totally swipe right on you. I would do that in a heartbeat. What's your riot song? Um, it's it's Chance the Rapper right, Yeah, so I take it. Yeah, I was award winner. I was going to say earlier.

As a guy, especially after a couple of days, you never want to be described to friends as he's a nice guy, he's a nice guy. Anytime a girl described someone as a he's a nice guy, it's not going anywhere, but he's a nice show. No, I described my boyfriend now is a nice guy, and even like we had someone on and I was like, I want someone who's nice. I want Jared just said that Vanessa's relationship isn't going anywhere.

There's there's a difference. No, No, there's a difference between saying your significant other is nice and then me asking, hey, how was it with that guy? And you're saying he's a nice guy. That is two very different things. I don't think I've ever heard someone talk about their future husband in the first sentence. Saying he's a nice guy. See nice to me is like a turn on. I not a date once and this guy I saw a

homeless man who was in a wheelchair. He went up to him, knew him by name, and gave him money. He was like, hey, what are you doing gave him money. I was like, dude, I would have sex with you right now. Guy on the street, Um, we're still talking. I like to have a lot of burners going. Okay, yeah, he's a nice guy. Okay. Great kindness is a wonderful turn on. Kindness is something that everybody should have, that

the majority of people do have, which is fantastic. But what I'm saying is when people describe someone as hey, he's a nice guy, as the one of the first things you come up with as a person tree, I find that usually it's not going anyone unless being a nice guy is what makes you want to jump their bones the most. That might be all right for you to come back. I want you to come back on this podcast and about five or six months and see if you're still talking to that guy. Okay, good, you know.

But you know why I like nice because I did the bad boys already. You guys are misinterpreting my words. I'm not saying you should be with a nice guy. I'm not saying your boyfriend is a nice and that's not a turn on for you. What I'm saying is that that is your default response, he's a nice guy. It's not going to because you're saying it's so dry like he's a nice guy. Because girl, he's a nice guy. You know, like he is nice. It turns on the Yep.

It makes me think about the inflection. Of course if you change that up. But I just I still I'm gonna stick with my words. I'm painting with a broad brush because it's more interesting that way. Um, But I want to know, Yeah, I think I think it's underestimated. I think kindness is underestimated. So I think every woman wants someone who's nice and kind, but they also want somebody who's a little bit of like a rough side and little bit of a bad boy side to them.

But someone who's like going to treat his mom nice and it's going to think about you on like not not the special occasions, like the guy who's gonna like bring flowers or chocolate because he thought he saw them, he thought about you, but he's also like he's got that side to him that's you know, is it too how many dates until you want to see the flowers from a guy I never even met, I never even met. I agree with her. I never even met my boyfriend now and he sent me a bouquet of kit cats

because he knows that only flowers. So you sent me a bouquet. Why do they do everything? Because you guys are chasing it. We are even playing ground. Yeah sure, but but do it No, I'm listen. I don't preach what I say because I obviously do the opposite. And I get things for Ashley and I want to make her feel special. Actually also does a lot for you, but actually does it's it's different, yeah, surprise wise like she'd be, you know, but it's not just gifts like

you guys don't just you don't have to bring gifts you. Also, I want to see how you're interacting with waiters, you know, with the people that you like. If you're mean to a waiter, it's my biggest pet. Peeve. Did you work in the hospitality industry? I did it worked at Danny's. Shout out to Danny. I'll be honest, I really do. Actually,

I honestly think it should be a college curriculum. I think there should be a class where you were quired to look at work at least four to six months in the restaurant industry, because that teaches you so much about life and how you should treat people. Absolutely, I worked at a restaurant for a month in college. Hated it. Quit which restaurant? It was just like some local Mexican restaurant in my college town. What did you do? Bus? Yeah, I was a bust at a bar back, but I worked, Okay,

I was. I was a buss er too. I worked in a hotel for five years, so I think that's that's my equivalent. That's good. I worked at Bubba Gump, oh yeah, yeah, in New York too, and you know that must have been hectic, you know, it's it's a lot of tourists and New Yorkers. New Yorkers aren't the nicest time, especially a Bubba Gump. You're not many local New Orkers are probably gonna be going Bubba Gump. Right, It's true, Right, that's very true. There's a Bubba Gump

on the Santa Monica Pier, right, I just learned about that. Yeah, if the single parents doesn't come back, I might have to fine. I think you're just fine after Scandal and our Single Parents, You're gonna be just fine. Well, I was going to ask you too, because you're a stand up comedian and uh an actor. Um, do you have any ambitions to be on SNL? Because I don't know.

When I was watching Single Parents, I just saw your churisman, your personality and your communic timing, and then obviously I saw Taran who was on SNL Urse who was on there for a year, and I was thinking before you came in, I was like, man, can we would be a really good cast member on SNL. You know, I would enjoy that sketch life, but I would enjoy it as my own show. So I recently wrote pilot that I just sold. It's a sketch show. Yep, that's that's

what I want to do. Just every single time you talk, you're talking about something else that you're doing. That's just as well. That's why it's so hard to day you and I got our asses together. Man, just casual drops the pilot that gets picked up. I mean, I love it. What else where else could we fine? Do you? I guess because you're on Instagram? Yeah, yep, on the Gram, I'm on Twitter and face what's the handle? Give us a shame of everything? I am Kimber and it's k

I am r I e yes. Spelling is also like a turn on for me. Third Great Spelling Champion. I want my sixth grete spelling be so you know, I'm sure my words are a little bit harder than yours. Not to brag. You guys have so much in common. What's your side? My birthday? Just great synergy. Um and Single Parents want to Single Parents air Wednesdays. Obviously I

knew that, but I just wanted the listeners to know that. Yeah, So Wednesday nights at nine thirty a b C. You can check Single Parents is a new episode coming out this Wednesday. Guys, check it out. It's amazing show. Before you go, though, Kim Marie, we do have an email and one more email that we have to answer that. I would love to get your thoughts on. Let's do it because you were so many connections be made between you and Dean. There's something about Dean that you should

probably not hit me. Hit me? Do you? You can tell me anyone? I'm moving out of my house in a couple of months and I'm going to live in a van full time. Okay, I figured before you guys going first day, this is something you should talk about. This an conscious choice or is this like a forced at a necessity. Um No, I've just always wanted to do it, and so now is my time to try it. For how long are you going to live in as well?

Roughly three months but maybe longer. Who knows? Three months minimum? Well, what kind of van is it? Oh, it's gonna be I don't know, you like like an old school of e W. Like it's gonna be like a van that's converted into a living space, you know what I mean. So it's got like a bed and a fridge. It's gonna be a nice van. It's not like I'm just gonna buy a van and sleep on the seats in

the back of it or anything like that, you know. Um, but yeah's something I've always wanted to do it, like I've I've told Jared in Vanessa before, I lived in a bus for like four years as a child, and it's just kind of returning to my roots sort of thing now. But you know, after all this talk on the podcast about this, there's no turning back. Oh well, so that's the thing. And I'm kind of scary because I don't have the van yet, right, Like I said, two months to basically buy a van turn it into

something I want to live in for three months. Um, but I've got my room rented out already, so it's like come May twenty, I think is the day that my sub lease begins. And so regardless, I'm out. You know, well, if you need a couch to crash on before you get your van, I'll sleep on your peace stay And it's hopefully we'll have a new one from Joy run by then. Um. But this is an email from a listener, Sarah.

It says the headline is a van life. It says, Hey, there, my husband and I and our dogs are moving into a van on April one. So I was excited to hear that Dean is doing the same thing. We have rented out our house and our quitting jobs to fully immerse ourselves in it and travel. As far as showering, we have a solar shower pretty much a bag that you said in the sun to warm and has a small nozzle that we try it out and worked well.

If you find yourself not in the city, I appreciate hearing Dean's outlook on life or respect that he's going to live a minimal lifestyle despite all his success. That really doesn't question. It was kind of just like gonna be a van question. But that's okay, it's very nice if you, Sara, you should do like a pimp my van. Yeah, you know, do you think exhibit is free here? I mean,

what do you do for showers? Well, that's why she I think brought up the whole shower thing is because initially I plan just on a shower for three months, which just sounds like the most deberating thing of all time. Are you just going to get a life supply of daty wife, I'm gonna get like gym memberships and bathe in the ocean. I'm gonna be gone for like a large part of the three months as well. Like I'm gonna be in Europe for a month, so I'm traveling.

And then yeah, you get a gym membership and you shower there. So I guess the question to you cameras, would you ever see or consider yourself dating a guy that lives in a van. I'm down. I'm actually open to it. I'm open to anything and everything right now, that's great, all this green post Saint Patty's Day too. Keeping it real. Um, what if you met a guy at a bar and he's like, Okay, do you want

to come back to my place? And you go, sure, we're hitting it off, this is great, and then his place is just around the corner on the side of the street in a van. You wouldn't be. You wouldn't be like I would freak out. You would Yeah, exactly,

I would freak out like I would mean. First of all, I always text my best friend you know, hey, this is my location, you know, sending that, you know, for first dates, which I don't think guys are, Like, guys aren't afraid of losing their life on the first date. Women are not. When they're sex on the line. I think guys will basically do anything well, even with sex on the line. I think women are you know, we're fraid. You should be it's good to you should be saying

you should always air on the side of caution. I guess it's the point that I'm trying to make that I do do that. Yeah, but if it's like if it's somebody that I had already met and you know, felt comfortable and safe with then yeah, sure we'll go to your We'll go to your van, but no, of course it's very smart. Always keep your location services on and let a friend know where you're at all times, because you just don't know. It's a scary world we're living.

It could be or it could be exciting, and yeah, you can need a nice guy in their van, and who knows, who knows. Thank you so much for coming, thank you for congratulations on our success, and obviously we wish shooting nothing but the best moving forward as well, and as Jared sent, six months from now, we want to get you back in here and see if you're still dating a nice guy that I'll keep you guys posted and everybody can see a single parents on Wednesday's

ABC at thirty. So big, thank you so much, kimry Lewis for coming in. Big thank you to joy Bird. You can go to joeybird dot com slash d Dean and receive an exclusive offer for off your first order by using the code dean um. Also big thank you to Sleep Number. You can find sleep Number at one of their five seventy five sleep Number stores nationwide. All you have to do is visit Sleep Number dot com slash Dean Dean and the one to find the one Nearest, and a very very big thank you to one of

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to if only dot com for for more information. It's gonna be US three. I think Blake's going to be there, Ashley and Ben are going to be there, back Up going to be there to all the homies are gonna be radio podcast. But I think Janet Kramer is gonna be there, Wells is going to be there, Easton is gonna be there. Mark are you coming? Mark? You're not coming? Nobody's gonna come. If you don't come, you're not gonna

raise any money for the Red Cross. UM. But anyway only dot com if youmation about that it would love to love to see you guys there. Yeah, you guys can come sip wine with us and it also comes with a four course meal on the Napa Valley Wine Train. Thank you guys all so much for being listeners of the podcast this week, but be sure to tune in next week. We got a very very big episode for you. Um tune in then maybe we'll suck a little bit less.

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