Parental Control

I just blame rhode On public school systems. Anyway, we have two very special guests are gonna be with us right off the bat from the HBO Max show My Mom, Your Dad, which is like the best name ever, Karen Larrea and Brianna Simone. Brianna, Karen, thank you so much for joining us. How are you good? Thank you for having us? Thank you? Oh my god, of course. Where are you guys? Uh? Where you guys zooming from? We're in sunny Miami, Florida. Very jealous. This is like, this

is a peak in of the future. In twenty years, Jared's gonna be on a TV show called Your Dad, My Mom. It's something is something went off? Something his wife wants that right. But you guys, thank you so much for joining us. So I have yet to really dive into my mom, your dad, the TV show on HBO Max. But can you guys kind of give us a like like Phillis in on what's going on with the TV show? I read like the you know, the synopsis,

but I want to hear from your perspective. All right, Well, the TV show is basically our college aged children nominate us to try to find a second chance at love, and we get whisked away and we go into this second chance retreat and kind of it's like, you know, kind of like what you guys, Hey, Hi, how are you? We're living together and basically the parents are trying to find love, but we don't know at all that our

children are down the street in another house. We knew they were going to be another house, but we thought that they were going to be you know, creating intent for social media, telling the dating consultants, you know, things that we like and what we like for dates, and actually they ended up being the dating consultants and they

were pulling and manipulating all the strings. So either with sabotage dates, make this, make dates happen, set us up with different people, and we don't find this out at all until we leave the retreat, So this whole time we have no idea they're watching. And you know, we're a little different with people that we date than our children. Of course, that was my next question. Yeah, I was

gonna Brianna, how was it watching your mom date? Well, I think before we get to that question, we have to at least make it clear if I heard you correctly, Brianna was the reason that you were on the show in the first place. Brianna came to me, yep, and she said, Mom, she saw the show on social media. I think it's like on Instagram, I want to do this show. Let's sign up for it, you know, let's see if you tried all kinds of dating. And I was like, you know what, that's probably fraud. I don't

even want to go there. I'm like, it's probably not even legit. And it's like, come on, mom, and I you know what, go ahead send it anyways. If it's legit, we're not going to get picked. Yeah. Picked. So I think I think that's an important distinction to make before we hear from Brianna, because everything that you see your mom do, you kind of have to go like realize

that you set this up for yourself. Yeah. The whole time we were saying there, I was like, we're watching your parents, and we're all saying that we don't want to watch our parents make out with each other, Like the producers sitting there like, yeah, but this is when you signed up. Oh, you don't really have a choice. Nice, but it was it was awkward. It was definitely really awkward. Well, so to Jared's question, then what was it like kind

of pulling the strings behind the scenes. It was fun pulling the strings because it was so powerful we were Honestly, it was just we just want to mess with our parents and let them go on dates that are going to get them out of their comfort zone and stuff that they usually wouldn't do on dates. But then you watch it and then like you're just wow, I'm watching my mom date and she has as absolutely no clue that I'm watching. Yeah, my mom doesn't. My mom's a

different person when I'm not around. That's what I was going to say, is how different did you feel like your mom was watching her date versus just like how she is or how you thought she Because I know my mom is always like you have no game, and I'm like, you have no idea what I'm like when I'm like trying to pick up someone. So how different

was it? It was? It was very different. I mean you always see your mom and parenting like they're taking care of you, they're driving you to school and whatnot. And then I'm watching her date just like me, and I'm like, do I look at that currnty? Yeah? I think the answer to that is yes, probably that's part

of dating. Yes, you can get a little cringey, especially to the third party perspective hair flipping, So yeah, exactly, Brian, I gotta ask them, what was the reason for you wanting to nominate your mom for the show or like getting involved in the show. I mean, my mom just doesn't have the fuck what do you doing? And she just never really listens to me, so like it's work, will help me get her to listen to me, And okay,

it was. It was. I just found it on Instagram and I was like, I mean, this might be legitate, but it might not be, but I'm just going to sign up for it then. So, Karen, how does it feel hearing your daughter say that that you don't have the best luck do you agree with her or are you kind of like, well, um, I absolutely agree. It's been eight years since I've been divorced. Here, i am single.

I don't make the best choices sometimes, um, or you know the majority of the time, and this is why I'm here or why I was on this dating show. Are you dating during those eight years or were you kind of like no dating? Yeah, getting yourself out there, Yeah, putting myself out there, dating, healing, being in relationships and the wrong people with the wrong people, absolutely getting crushed, getting okay, then getting crushed and then you know, wrong

people wrong. Just yeah, good choices, Brianna, it seems like you guys are obviously very very close. How much did you feel like you because watching your mom date over the last eight years, did you feel like, I know what she needs, I know what she wants? Like did you feel like when you were in the power position watching that, you you were like, that's that could be the person for her. Like did you feel like you

knew what was best for her? I mean not to sound coffee, but like, yeah, I definitely know wrest for her. I've I've watched her through I mean I've watched her with my dad and then also passed my dad. And it's just I feel like I know what she needs and she just needs to listen to me. And you'll see in the show she doesn't even listen to me in the show sometimes, so and she didn't even know it was me. So I mean, I'm I have a I have a mom who was I was like a

single child parent situation for a long time. So I saw my mom date all the time, and I if we would have had this show, oh my gosh, it would have been wild because I would remember. I remember she'd come back and I'm like, oh, he's awful. You shouldn't date him. And you know, you're totally watching it, and you you do, you know, I feel like that mother daughter bond, you sort of know, like I want to see you with this type of person, or this

would be good for you, now, you know. So, um, I think it's really it's so cool, but I know it would have been crazy for me. So I give you guys kudos for doing this. I can't imagine how like cringe e it was, but also how kind of cool to like be a part of that. Yeah, And so she says that I date that I put blinders on and I have tunnel vision, and I tell her it's different dating in your twenties where you want to date four and five people. When your forties, I'm like,

I need to focus. Like, if I like him and we're passed on date two, that's who I'm gonna date. I can't be dating three guys at the same time. That's just not It's not my generation. It's just not me personally. There's like you tunnel vision and you get focused on one person. I'm like, it's just that there's a different dating when you're your twenties versus when you're in your fourties and you have all this baggage. Karen, did you rect know that you were going on the show?

He did not know what was coming much on the show. What I saw a reaction out of the two of you. What why the reaction? I I mean, it's it's just it was just really funny because he had absolutely no clue. And I have a I have a difficult relationship with my father, so I even though from me so um. Actually my brother is the one who showed him he was He was like, oh, remember when mommy and my

sister went to l A to go work. Well, they went on a show and then like pressed play and then my mom went to cross the screen was like hey, and my brother was like texting me, like live texting me. He was like, just did this, And I was like, yeah, you did not just do Like those are my kids. I mean he was going to find out sooner or later. Yeah. Yeah, And honestly, it's been eight years. Is it really his boss? Can you reach out to you or anything at all? Oh? No,

really sorry? Yeah, yeah I did get the intel that he sat there and watched the whole season though. Nice, that's mean curiosity killed the cat. Yeah. I would have done the exact same thing. I would have watched. Oh no, I wouldn't have watch what I said. I would have totally done it too. I would have sat there and watched the whole thing. It was like an ex husband with kids. Okay, yeah, it was just like a random

ex boyfriend. Now, But if it was like I was married with kids and I would sit down and watched, especially your daughter's on it, you know, you were on it and pulling the strings. That's that's big. But I'm sure he was curious, like what you guys talked about, what you what you share. Are you guys like in your relationship on the show. So I guess you don't really talk to each other on the show, right because

you don't even know that your daughter is there. But outside of the shower, you guys were really open about like sex and dating, like with both of you were open with dating. I think that just because the way that she was raised, she's not pretty open about like the whole details thing and like sex thing because my mom grew up in a Latin household. That's not what you do Catholic Latina households, so that's not what you do. So she's not into that. So then I'm not I'm

not comfortable going to her about that. But like, if I'm dating somewhere, I'm sure that someone, I'll definitely go to her, but I'm not gonna get into the So now that Briannaette you have set up Karen on a date quote unquote, how does that play back to you, Karen? Are you setting her up on dates? Are you more involved in her dating life? Now? She's she's will like even showing it's not so cute, and I'm like, are

you blind? I have been listen, I'm guilty of being like at restaurants or something and I see a kid and I'm just like, I have a daughter, and she's like, I'm gonna kill you. But but here's my thing. Don't you think, Brianna, don't you think that since you put her in that situation, she's allowed to put you in a similar situation at least once or twice, just to see how it works out. Oh, I like you good. I think you know that too, or just at least

a little bit. I mean, like, I'll do it once for like, I mean, she doesn't have great taste for herself, so I pick someone A lot of times. We're better with other we're better like giving advice to other people, who taking her own, So maybe she'd be good. You know, you hit the nail right there, And we're great at giving advice to other people, but we don't take it ourselves. Yeah, I give her all advice, don't take my own? Is that? Isn't it funny how that works out? Because I feel

like it's just so true. Um okay, so you guys, So just to reiterate to our listeners out there, the show is called My Mom Your Dad, streaming on HBO max um it sounds like all the episodes already out there on HBO Max. Right, So if we were to binge it today, what would we see. I mean, obviously, don't spoil anything for us, but like give us like some of the nitty gritty, you know, like what we can expect when you start watching it. You're going to

see a lot of cringe genus. Of course, that's what we tune in for, is the cringe genus of course. Of course. Um, you're gonna see the parents get messed with a lot on their dates, and it's it's pretty hysterical. I remember sitting in the house just watching it and we were just crying laughing because of like the things that that just they would come up with for us meddling with our parents. It was it was really hysterical.

And it's all genuine too. And I I, yeah, reality shows, you're like, it's probably kind of fake, but genuinely, this really you can't really tell like forty fifty year olds what to do. And then like us kids are kind of just sitting there like we're just here to mess with our parents. It was fun. I gotta ask them, what was your main goal out of the show? Was it to mess with your mom or was it to find her a partner? I mean it was more important

you think. I mean, like I definitely was trying to find her someone or at least get her to open up options. But I mean once I got there and I learned that I had this power, I was like, I'm doing I'm messed with her, and I did. So you'll have to watch out for that in the show, because I I mess with her pretty good. And they didn't find out going in. They had no clue they were going to have this power over. They found out once they were at their own house, So they had

no clue at that point, you know. And and for the parents, there was for us a lot of heartfelt moments, a lot of emotional moments, you know, some digging in deep emotional moments as well. Um some sweet moments, obviously, some falling for each other moments. There's some shocking moments that happened in the in the in the series, so

some crying, a lot of crying, lots of crying. Well I gotta I gotta say, you give any child even a small sliver of power over their parents, and they're going to squeeze every ounce that they can out of that, So I can't blame I can't blame you, Brianna Adam, not at all. Um, So does the does the show end well for you? Again no spoilers, but does it end well to the maybe? Like, are you happy that you're you did the show at all? I'm absolutely happy

that we did the show. Definitely need the viewers to watch all the way through. We're gonna, We're gonna, Okay, some great moments in there. Nice. What is the biggest thing each of you learned about yourselves or each other? I mean, for myself, I really learned to be more vulnerable, which I have a lot of hard It's really hard for me to be vulnerable from being hurt so much and putting my walls down, and that for myself I learned.

Um for you, I think being in a house full of kids that also have gone through the same experiences and watching their parents who have also gone through the same or similar ish experiences of going through a divorce with kids and being a single parent and being part of a single parent household and watching your parents go

through divorce. I think that really brought us together because there were moments that we would sit there and we would get really deep into each other and the the trauma that being through a divorce does bring for kids. I think that brought us way closer then if it wasn't about our single parents, if you just throw the kids, I think we probably wouldn't have gotten as close if

it wasn't for that's similar instance that we got went there. Yeah, it's definitely, uh, definitely helps when you can bond over like a shared experience, whether it's positive or negative. But was there any was there any? Was there any sparks or love connection among the kids in like the producer room? There there was some love connections. Okay for the kids, Um, not for me personally. I did go on the show with a boyfriend, but I am single. Now that's not

with what are you letting America know that you're single? Well? Yeah, I mean all of America does listen to this podcast. It's good to know Brianna's single. Is it is it because of the show or is it just something else? No, you just you have to learn that you're you are worth more than some things that people give you. Well, I've got a I've got a favorite ask of you. Next time your mother tries to set you up with a cute young man. Maybe just just humor her for

a little bit, you know. That's all we that's all we can ask is just a little just try at least a little bit. Um. Well, great, So you guys listeners, My mom, your dad now streaming on HBO, Max, Karen and Brianna. Thank you guys so much for joining us. You really appreciate it. It It sounds like it sounds hilarious, it sounds tear jerking. Um, my girlfriend is a sucker for reality TV shows, and this sounds like definitely something we're all gonna binge, probably within a couple of days. So, um,

we're excited to watch. We're excited to watch your love story unfold. Karen. I can't wait for you guys to watch it. Yeah, thank you guys for joining us. We appreciate you so much, Thank you so much, so much fun. Thank you guys. Commutly, we'll see you next time for the for the sequel. When it's uh, I guess what would be what we name it? My kid? Your kid? I guess my dad, your mom? Mike. Well, Karen's setting up Brianna. That's what I'm saying. That's it's gotta be

the kid centric show. My daughter, your son, Brianna's got she's got she's got it, she's got it up there. All right, guys, well, thank you so much for joining us. We hope to hear from you again soon. Yeah, absolutely, thank you so much. Yeah, of course, yeah. Fine. You know, I was thinking as a I would love to see that show, but from the perspective of an overprotective father, and the show title would be my daughter your son dot dot dot dies or uh my daughter my shotgun.

I don't know. Uh. Well, we're gonna take one quick break, I think, and then we're gonna get right back to it. So stay tuned through this break. All right, everybody, welcome back to help. I suck at dating and I just got to get out with it and say I feel bad, I feel guilty. I feel like I withheld everyone's favorite part of this podcast on last episode because we didn't get to the emails. So bonus segment. We're going to get to one email before we say goodbye. So I

think Easton's out there. Easton, what you read an email for us? I am out here, and I think he blurred background for all the listeners out there. He's like he's got on a portrait mode or something like that. He said, his room's messy. Oh my gosh, this is of course, and we had to see it makes us more curious. Come on, everyone's listening to the podcast, No one's going to see this. Okay, for everyone listening at home, I'm gonna unblur my background. Oh there's a day that

as I made. There's a there's a closet that is slightly opened. There's a box back there. My god, it's hideous. My wife's gonna kick You can't handle this anymore. Oh wait, actually I mean carry Bradshaw's apartment now, Oh my goodness, look at that. And that is where I shall remain. Okay, before you read the email, have you been watching the new Sex in the City? Unfortunately? Yes, I give me fifteen seconds of your thoughts. It's an abomination. It shouldn't exist.

It's horrible. It's the worst thing that's ever been can addito television? That truth? Because Caitlin's been watching it too, I'd love to talk to Kalen about it. If she likes it, I think that's grounds to have her committed. It's it's terrible. Okay, Well, maybe guy can talk about it all right, Cools. I've been texting Ashley quite a bit about it, and she she's on the same page. She's not happy anyway. This is from anonymous. I've been

dating my girlfriend for only six months. It is a super new relationship, but so far things are going great. Over the holiday, as I was over at her parents house in Oregon, my girlfriend and I left the house to go grab coffee and one morning, but I forgot my phone inside, so I ran back into the house

to grab it. Obviously, her dad didn't know. I came back into the house and I overheard him on the phone in the living room talking to someone, and he said, my wife won't be home from the third to the fifth, so come over then. I miss you. It sounds bad, but I don't want to jump to any conclusions. Should I bring this up to my girlfriend, I don't even know what I would say, and I don't want her to think I'm accusing her dad off something. If I'm mistaken.

Maybe I would feel more comfortable if we'd been dating for longer, but I guess if she were in my isshoes, I would want her to tell me I'm stuck. What should I do scary Well, firstly, don't drop to conclusions, because I tell my friends I missed them all the time, and whenever Kalin's out of town, I always tell him to come over and hang out with me. Um. That's I just wanted to preface with that. But I would

love to hear your opinions. First. I was actually thinking the same thing, and I was like, Okay, the hopeful version of me is like, maybe it is it's a friend, somebody they haven't seen in a while, and it's like, oh, this would be a great time to catch up. And but you know, if if we're gonna if we're gonna go the alternate route. But it is something a little bit more scandalous. Um, yeah, it's gotta be dealt with like super lightly. And and I think the right thing

to do would be to say something. I think like it all just comes down to now, like how it's said. And I got to think about that, so somebody else talk.

I'm not sure how I would say. Uh. This reminds me of a little movie called Meet the Parents, where Ben Stiller sees Robert denn Arrow outside the grocery store talking to a very sketchy man and then he hears him on the phone talking about something called Operation kom and so Ben Stiller is convinced that he's back into c I A. But then it ends up finding out that it was actually a surprise honeymoon trip for his daughter and that was his real state agent that he

met outside. And Kosumui is an island off the coast of like Costa Rica or something. So my point is, don't jump to conclusions. Could be anything. I wouldn't tell I wouldn't say anything. This this is what I would do, because you guys are giving a whole big non answer here. This is what I would do. You know the dates, you know the dates that are just think it's gonna be some suspicious activity. Just go like planned dates with

your girlfriend at the house during those same dates. Be there the fourth, the third, fourth, and fifth every day. Don't even give them a second to be alone. See what's going on. And then like let's say he's gone or he's being suspicious and leaving the house without saying anything. That's when maybe you decided to say something. Easton's got Easton's got good advice, as he always does what I say. Stay out of this. You'll have a dating this girl six months. Her dad is up to his own thing.

Pretend you didn't hear it. That's nice, it's not your job. That's bad advice. I'm surprised. I don't think that's bad advice. I think what's gonna happen is gonna happen anyway. He's this man. If he's cheating on his wife, he's not gonna stop just because his daughter's brady new partner has poked their head in. Uh So, I think it can only cause a problem. It's not really your place to get involved with this. You don't even have all the facts. Like if he had, like seen the man making out

with somebody, that'd be a different story. I think you're going to cause a problem if you like mention this or plan a suspicious outing around the same time. I say, back off. I disagree most believe with what you're saying. I think that Okay, don't say anything, Sure, that's fine, but still try to be in the area. Don't like, don't say anything to anyone, don't even let your girlfriend know about anything, and just like try to be in the house on the third, fourth, or fifth and then

make your own decisions from there. Like, let's say it does end to being a guy friend, but like I don't know, like what if the dad is like trying to push the girlfriend out of the house for those three days as well, and the boyfriend gentle nudge to get her back into the house for one of the days is all that it takes for them to walk in and see something maybe that they're not supposed to see.

So that's what I would do. I would go, like, maybe I've been maybe I listen to too much True Detective, but like tomorrow it's like start of Mary Kay and Nashley style heist the Dean's going for anyway, that's your email. Well, I feel like my advice is the best, So Anonymous,

take my advice. Ignore Eastern specifically East, and you could let take my analysis or Jared's, but just don't take Eastern people to put yourself in her put yourself in the wife's shoes, you know, like, w didn't you want someone going the extra mile to find out whether your

husband is an infidel or not? I don't know. I must like I almost say like if this was me, that I would make a list of like all of the different kind of pros cons of of like if you do say something and it ruins like a marriage, and then or if you do say something that ruins your relationship, like kind of the different ways that you could go about because I almost been like I wonder if he could just say something to the dad because

I think, for me, well, this is the thing. Like for me, if I was walking around like with that, I would always then be a little awkward like going forward, like I think it's going to somehow eat at the

relationship regardless, do you know what I mean? Like I think there is something sketchy going on, You're always going to feel like, oh my god, I know that the dad is like if he is cheating, I know that he was doing something sketch and like I got that, you know in my head, I'm walking around with this secret like is he going to marry this girl like

in two years and always think this. I don't know, I'm like going far with it, but like I don't know, make like a little pros and cons list, like think it through, think what you would say if you're going to say something, and and then just like maybe sit on it or stopped by the house on the fourth and be like started dossier on this man sent an anonymous letter, leave it on the doorstep. On the second and say, I know what you're up to. Don't do it. You know it's good for you. I know what you

did last summer. Invite Invite the dad like a basketball game or something, you know, like something lighthearted. On the fourth, and see if he accepts. If he accept great, If he doesn't accept, or he might be like, oh my friends in town. The third to the fifth, and then you're like, there's my answer right there. Bought a bang, bought a boom? But what to what extent is his friend? I'm just saying there we need answers, anonymous, get your answers,

and then please email us back. Well, if he's like my friend Carl, I think you have your answer. But also if it's like my friend Analyie, I don't know, you might want to investigate further. Well, were just so for the best. I'm sure everything's fine, but you never know until you know that's gonna do it. For this week's episode, big thank you to our two guests, Brianna and Karen b Shure to check out their new show Your Mom My Dad on HBO Max streaming now. From

start to finish. I love it when they just drop all the episodes at once so you can just fly through it without having to wait every single week. UM check it out on HBO Max. Thank you to Analyst for guest hosting with us again. You rock big. Thank you to Jared and Easton for reading the email for us. But that's gonna do it for this week's episode. Be sure to the next week where maybe we suck just a little bit less. Follow hell by Suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast