No Use Crying Over Spilt Paint

Hell, we suck at being newlyweds with Dean Angler.

Kaylen Lurkey and Jared haven An, iHeartRadio podcast.

What is going on everyone out there that sucks at being newlyweds?

Just like, uh, I hate this intro, bro, you're sounding seductive.

It's a beautiful day here in Bali, Indonesia. I'm joined by my beautiful fiance Kaylen Miller Keys Jared Habn And before we start today's episode, I just want to say one thing. Hah Bieber.

Had Biebert, kaylenlyn.

Ah Bieber Day, due.

You.

Thank you so much all you cool cats and kittens out there. Really appreciate you taking the time to listen to us sing that song for the beautiful cabin so much. All right, well let's start the episode.

Nothing has ever got to sync up, especially when we start singing Kylen, happy birthday?

Thank you?

Is Dean spoiling you?

No? And my birthday's technically over here in Bali. It's my birthday in America. So I guess I get two birthdays this year.

What time is it in Bali? It's eight am Friday morning right now. It's what it's like eight pm Thursday night for you in Rhode Island.

Yeah, it's five pm for AA.

Yeah.

Yeah, so we took off. We left LA at twelve in the morning. On Kaylen's birthday, landed in Taiwan. Was it Friday? No?

Was it?

It was on her birthday. We were just traveling all day for the birthday. Which is funny because we were traveling all day for my birthday. This year. For my birthday, I took us to Japan. This year, for Kalin's birthday, she took us to Bali. Yeah, that's how we do it.

Last year for my birthday, I took us to Mexico City.

Yeah, and I took us sky diving.

Well, you guys should definitely keep taking advantage of this, because I promise you one day in the near future, your birthday is going to consist of, oh, yeah, it's your birthday.

Have a birthday.

Do you want to like go to dinner or something, if we have time, if the kids aren't acting up.

Yeah, yeah, birthdays. Birthdays are the second most important holidays out there, I think.

Yeah, it's just hard when you're traveling. Like Dean didn't have a great birthdays. We were traveling on his birthday. I didn't have a great birthdays. We were traveling on mine, but we're making the best of it.

Today. We're gonna go get massages right after this.

Yeah, you're shopping now.

Yeah, we're in Bali. It's just oh my god, I didn't. I forgot how long it is to get there here. It's fifteen hours. It was like a twenty twenty five hour travel day.

Who's a little tired.

Yeah. I'm the type of person. I'm such a loser.

I judge people who when I say like, oh, what are some of the things that you like, They're like, oh, I like to travel, And I'm like, ah, we're just I don't think you and I are on the same wavelengths. I hate traveling. I'm the type of person bally looks great, looks beautiful. I mean, I'm sure, of course I would. I don't want to go. I gotta be honest. I have no desire to go because all I could think about is the twenty hour travel that's going to lead to and from this destination.

Yeah, now that's reasonable. I've noticed too. Whenever I get back from like a big trip, I'll tell some of my friends like, oh, yeah, I just got back from wherever, and they're like, oh I was it, and every time I'm like, yeah, I was all right, I don't really Ever, I'm never really like, oh it was awesome. I mean, like there are certain trips like Pakistan is awesome, but

Which I think is just like human nature. We're just never really happy.

Yeah.

We travel just to make ourselves feel better about home. Yeah yeah, they're like, oh you know what I did miss this place?

Yeah right, this couch is really comfortable now I think about it. It gives you like good stories, and it makes you more like interesting and gives you interesting experiences. But like traveling, you know, it takes a lot out of you. It's tiring.

It's funny coming from two people who are constantly traveling.

Yeah, this is our last international trip before the wedding, so we're soaking it in.

I mean, the only reason I travel so much is just because I'm like running away from all my problems in the US, whether I'm like living in the truck in Colorado flying to Pakistan, I'm just running away from all my problems. What are your problems? Oh my god, where do I begin? How much time do you have?

We'll soft three.

There's so many I don't even know where to begin. Anyways. Anyways, Jared, what's up with you?

Man?

What's going on?

Oh?

You know, just loving the dreams. Spend a lot of time at the coffee shop. I golf today, though, which was awesome. That was a lot of fun.

I saw that, so that was exciting. What else is new in the world of Jared? Let's stick Let's stick on the golf subjects for a second. How'd you do? How'd you play on golf? Dude?

I can't believe I'm about to say this. I shot in eighty five. It's the bestuffve ever played.

That's great, I know.

But we don't have to stick on golf, even though I do try to get Ashley to come golf with me because I get why she doesn't want to do it. Like I view it as a bonding experience. I'm like, hey, come drive the cart like we've talked about many times. She's just not into it. But uh yeah, I mean, what's new in the Haven household? Dawson is getting big.

He is so happy.

Now I walk through the door, he's able to say dad, dad, So he literally like he gets excited now.

He puts his arms up. He knows to do that, and he's like, dadda.

I'm like, ash just kill me now because his life is never gonna get better than this.

Nice I saw that video you posted. He takes his sunglasses off, looks out into the distance, puts him back on speeds away on his little on his little race car.

Yeah, dude, he's just like he's always looking around. He's discovering things and he gets excited about everything. He's just really happy right now, much more than I've ever seen him. And the fact that he's happy, chubby and speaks gibberish and as cute as he is, it's just like, you just need to like stay in this spot for at least another seventy years, uh, because I never want you

Uh.

I stayed chubby till so I was a little chubby baby, and then I was born chubby, my poor mother. I was ten pounds two ounces. I was a big I was a watermelon, so that was troublesome. And then I stayed a little chubbs then thinned out at three or four and then put some more weight back on, probably because my dad took me in McDonald's all the time. I have very fond memories of Ronald McDonald though, and like I would we would like go out to eat

Dude.

That was like at least three nights a week from my dad and I and uh, because they had back then they had like the twenty I don't know if they still do, but they had like the twenty piece chicken and nuggets for like two ninety nine. You know, Fish fil A's. I was a big fish fil A kid too, But yeah, I was chubby, and then once I started playing sports in high school, I started thinning out, well, it would.

Take him three days a week because you don't want him to be chubby the same way you were. You want them to lean out a little earlier on the y.

Yeah, it's gonna be like a once a month saying, hey, like tonight we're getting McDonald's, so that's gonna be good. But I also have no doubt that he's he's actually I feel like starting thingming out now because he's growing. But once he starts walking, because he's still not walking, he's delayed in that, but he's standing and he definitely, like you could see that he's starting to have the capability of it.

He's just late.

And as soon as he starts walking, dude, he's going to thin out so fast because he can't stop crawling now. And once he starts walking, he's gonna be running. And only does his throw balls that he just loves it, dude, it's like my dream cone true. He's just like he's grabbing balls and throwing.

Them at me. I'm like, yeah, bro, keep throwing. He throwing Let's see how far you could throw this thing.

So that's pretty awesome.

Nice dude. Babies are sick, especially with fat cute little babies that sleep through the night. I know.

So now because we're we're still on the same trajectory of that, you know, we want to start for a second probably here in the next couple of months. And now I'm we're getting into that stage which is what everybody tells us, which is at some point it's going to get easier. And then you get in the mindset, oh, we could we could have another one, like we could do this, and you just kind of like start forgetting

It's kind of like traveling, you know, you go and you do it and you're like, oh, okay, this this isn't that great, but then you look back a little bit later on and you're like, oh, actually this is really cool. Uh or that was really cool. Yeah, it's like why do you know?

You just look back at traveling and you're like, oh, that's not really that great, and then you end up in BALI. That's like us with kids. You know, you're like, oh, what, Like there were some cool parts, but there was not cool parts too. Yeah, the shade goes down automatically. What's going on with the automatic shade? How do you get that in your house? Ashley's very fancy with this. This was she I didn't know this was the thing. She met with blinds and curtain companies. I was like, ash

Sounds expensive. Automatic shades are so expensive.

Dude, it's so expensive. Ashley. I was like, Ashley, what are we doing? And then she was like, oh, we'll just spend the extra money. We'll get it nice. And I'm like, I don't know. And now we're doing the lawn too. Dude adds up so fast. Oh oh my god, it's crazy. I'm like, actually, I will do it.

Those are the two most expensive things. I feel like window treatments in the backyard, dude.

Dirt freaking dirt. You know how expensive dirt is. Just like, I will go shovel some up.

Yeah, rocks too. We spent thousands of dollars on rocks.

We Hey, if you need anyone to build you a deck, I'll fly out for the weekend and build you a nice deck. Yeah.

I can't wait for you to come and just buy me a deck that's like thirty seven degrees and slanted.

Oh no, I'm not gonna buy you. I'm gonna build you a deck. It's gonna be now flat from side to side, front to back. It's going to be as big as you want it, in any shape that you want it to be. It'll last a couple of years.

A couple of years, isn't a deck supposed to last? Way more than that.

The deck will out last the house. Just trust me, I'll whatever you get quoted on a deck, I'll cut it in half, come out and build it in a weekend and then uh and then I'll leave.

He did that to one of our friends. They got quoted something insane.

So Dean built them a little bait deck model and brought it to them and he's like, I'll build you the deck for a quarter of what they charged them.

They were trying to charge him one hundred grand for a deck, but also like some backyard stuff, well yeah, and like some rocks and some pavers and stuff.

I've nevers you better get more than just some backyard stuff for one hundred grand with the deck.

Holy correct. I mean they are kind of like a little bougieer of a couple. But like the fact that you could even get one hundred thousand dollars quote in their backyard, which was like five hundred square feet is mind blowing to me. It's just expensive and like all these contractors know that people want a nice backyard, so they're like overcharging. I don't know, Caylen.

I got a question for you, is do you think that would you categorize Dean as a handyman?

Oh?

For sure. He can do anything. He like, literally can do anything in the house.

It's so crazy because I was thinking before I was with Dean, I would task grab it everything. And the only thing I used task grab it for now is for like pulling up the weeds in the front yard. Yeah.

Cool, I don't like pulling weeds.

Yay, No, I get it, you're above that. Ah. But so when you say you can do anything, like like, if there's a pipe that's leaking, Dean's on it.

Oh, I'll fix it. I'll fix it.

Yeah.

No, seriously, he can do anything electrical, he can hang things, he can build things.

You can do electrical work. You're telling me you're not gonna zap yourself.

I mean I've zapped myself a few times. I've rerated a few outlets, I've hung a bunch of new light fixtures. I did all the electrical in my van that thinks still hasn't burned down yet. My thing with it is like a The amount of information out there to learn how to do this stuff is so plentiful, like YouTube and blogs and stuff on the internet. You could learn how to do anything pretty quickly, or at least I

Yeah.

And I feel like for a pergola, I could be misquoting them, but I think they quoted us at like fifteen thousand or something, maybe twenty thousand, and Dean probably built it for two.

Yeah, yeah, for two. And I built it in a weekend. Yeah, I built it. The wood was like five hundred, yeah, and the brackets were like fifteen hundred. So yeah, two grand beautiful pergola.

Kaylyn, do you find Dean's handiness that's a word that something you're attracted to.

Yeah, in two ways.

One, I think it's Yeah, it's like hot to see him back back in the backyard, like sweaty with his muscles stirty. Yeah, also hot that he's saving us thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars.

Yeah.

Well, I am the stay at home husband, so I do need to pull my own keep. So I'm saving us money while you're making us money. It's a good system we have. What was I going to say, Oh, she doesn't love how I'll start a project and get like halfway through it and then not finish shit, or like I'll make a mess and she'll be really mad about the mess in the garage.

Yeah, we now need new stools because he painted the perkole of black and got black paint on everything.

Oh my gosh, there's a drop of paint on the stool that we have.

Spelling Easton just reminded me he spilled black paint all over our carpet and we had to rip up the carpet.

Oh as if we were already planning on ripping.

Up the carpet when I, oh, I still just I can picture it perfectly in my emotions when I walked out to see a whole bucket of black paint just spilled.

Across our carpet.

Yes, but we had already like it's fine, I'll clean it up. We had already decided at that point that we before that point, that we were going to place the carpet, which I did, by the way, thank you very much.

You did.

Also, you spilt it in the bathroom all over the tile in the grout. We had to like go in with the grout like with toothbrushures.

Oh, we had to.

Yes, yes, I was there, Oh, you were there, and I helped. I did more than you.

Scrubbed for two seconds and you're like, yeah, you got this. No, not even that. I was like, I got this, I spilt it, I'll do it.

We're playing into Easton's hand, but ye just saying.

I like how Easton just lights a match and then just tosses it and lets whatever happen happens.

Whenever I'm whenever I mess up like that, I take it upon myself to remedy the situation. I didn't make you scrub anything or ask for you to scrub anything. I always say, I'll do it. I got it, don't worry about it.

Yeah, so there are much more pros than there are cons. But you know there are still a few cons.

Okay, sorry, I'm saving you hundreds of thousands of dollars every day?

Is it hundreds now every day?

Yes?

Yes, it's that much every single day, maybe more.

And I think those should be like your your wedding vallus towards Dean, like, there's some pros and there's some cons, but I think the pros outweigh the cons exactly, I do, I do. What was I going to say? Yeah, because I'm picturing Dean to be like Jack from This Is Us, because I feel like that's why so many women are attracted to Milo vent Emilia from that show. Because he was a handy. He was good looking obviously, first and foremost, he had a mustache, which Dean has a mustache right now,

So Dean has those qualities.

Yeah, Oh my God, it's so nice. And I talked to my friend's husbands and they're just like, Wow, you're so lucky. You don't know how lucky you are. And I'm like, no, no, I do I know how lucky I am. You think they might be right that you might not be you know how lucky I am. You might not be fully aware of just how lucky you really are. No, Because then my friends like their husbands and maybe they're don't have the time, but I think most of their husbands just don't want to learn how

To do it, or somebody to say they don't have the time. That's basically the saying them saying I don't want to.

I want to. Here's the thing, because I actually don't have the time. Because a lot of actually and I go back and forth on this because I say, hey, I want to do it, like the lawn. I was like, I can do it. I can do this. She's like, when are you going to have the time to do it? I said, I don't know. I mean, obviously it will take a little while for me to make sure that everything's going through. I've never done this before, but I'd

But the garage. See, that's the other thing she never lets me.

This is bullshit. Actually, the more I think about it now, I'm just venting. You guys are like my therapy session because she never lets me do like even the garage. The garage should be my space. That is my space, that's me, that's my area. And yet it's like she wants everything organized in her fashion. And I'm like, yeah, I get that, but I can organize this and just tell you where things are. But she doesn't want that.

I just give up with a garage. I had to give up control on that. And it's fully dean space. He like, I've got my clothes out there, like my winter clothes. I'll switch out winter to summer, and that's all that's out there, minus my tennis rackets. But Dean has like fully organized done. It's like his space, it's his workshop. And I was like, you know what, you do it and you did a great job organizing.

I was going to say the opposite, and you have too much of a hand in the garage, similar to what Jared just said, you're moving stuff around.

No, all I have is my I switch out my winter clothes and summer clothes, so when it's summer, my winter clothes are out there, and that's all.

That's out there, I guess. So yeah, so you're moving stuff in and out of there all the time, and I'm losing tools, I'm.

Losing Oh my gosh. Okay, Jean loses everything and blames it on me.

Okay, I'm not evenna. You will give about this right now?

Yeah, it's crazy, How Caitlin do you do this? Because Ashley will just move things and not tell me, and it's so frustrating when I'm looking for it, like my keys. It's it's so when we walk in, there's a little desk, draw cupboard area or whatever the hell you want to call it, right to the right of the door. So I always put my keys on top of there because

Yeah, story of my life. Kalen moves things, doesn't realize that she's moving, and then I don't know where anything is. And then just even the other day, I was looking for something for like a month. I looked in Enjoy that I didn't even know existed in our kitchen, and sure enough it was in there. It's just, you know, it is what it is. I guess it's the pros and the cons. Right, pros and cons wedding valves right there.

I know that we're losing time here, and we really buried well, we didn't bury the lead, but we haven't talked about the lead, which is Kaylin, it's your twenty eighth birthday. Even though in Bob it's past your birthday, it's still your birthday. So you just turned twenty eight. Yeah, like,

No, I'm not really much of a birthday person, and like some of my friends will have like huge birthday parties every year, like have to do something every year, and I'd rather like go on a trip, just be somewhere. I'm not a huge birthday person. And the only thing I think about is the fact that I'm getting older. And I know I'm twenty eight, but thirty is coming up in two years, So that's kind.

Of all that I've been thinkingful, Welcome to the potty pal. Yeah, potty, I have potty.

You know. I just really wanted to go my good old New England voice there. I have something that I think maybe will blow your mind. So you are twenty eight years old now. So when you were telling people many years from now, when they ask you how old are you when you got married, You're gonna say twenty eight. So you are the age now that you are getting married in And I think that's kind of when you think,

I like it.

How old were you when you got married?

I was thirty Damn I was old. So Ashley was thirty one then, yeah, Ashley was thirty one and I was thirty. I'm thirty two, so you got me beat by two years, so that's pretty good. Yeah, that's crazy, man. I feel like thirty was so young, Like holy shit, I feel like I got married young, which obviously I didn't.

I was thirty. Yeah, my brother got married at thirty eight. I'm still ahead of him. Other brother got married at thirty six, so I'm still ahead of them by by four and six years. That's pretty good, just two years behind Jared. But yeah, it's interesting, you know, especially when

No, I couldn't think about it like I think about my mom all the time, because my mom was twenty when she had my sister, and she was twenty two when she had me. So like at so Kalin right now, at twenty eight, if you were my mom, you would have two kids, one six years old and one eight year old.

Yeah, that's terrifying, crazy yea. But also let me ask let me ask you this, how much do you feel close? I mean, obviously you love your parents. Do you feel closer to your mom because you guys are sort of close that you guys are close in age, You're closer in age to your mom than you are from being born. So, but does she still feel like your mom or does she feel like a No, she feels like an old lady. No, she does.

Yeah, she doesn't feel young. I don't think she'll because she's my parent, you know, so she'll never feel young. And I don't necessarily feel closer to her because we're closer in age. But sometimes I do remind myself because I'm like, oh, my mom's still in her fifties, which feels so young because I'm in my thirties, right.

I mean, I'm just saying, like even some of the some of my best friends that I golf with, like one of them is like forty six, and that's that could be the age of one of our parents, you know. Yeah, I mean that's obviously that's like pretty not kind of that lustream, but like it's kind of close, like they're they could have gone to high school together, you know what I mean. Yeah, that's crazy.

So another year older and we're spending it in Bali.

It's uh, it's a good place to spend your birthday.

Yeah. Well we haven't really left the hotel yet, so she woke up. Yeah. Yeah, we got in late last night, early morning this morning, and now we're gonna go birthday shopping. Kiln's got a two hundred dollars budget.

Two hundred.

All right, we'll give you two fifty this year.

No, no, no, I saw way more on your birthday.

Oh yeah you did. It's not about who spends more, okay, It's about the experiences we make along the way. So, yeah, we're gonna go out and have a nice little birthday shopping spree. And do you remember the birth birthday gift you ever got, Kayla.

Oh, that's a good question. Dean got me flights a flight to Spain one time. That was nice, to.

Japan one time.

Yeah, Japan, yep, I forgot about that one too. Yeah. I like flights.

I like flights. The flights are cool because they lead somewhere.

Yeah, I'm not really I don't really need more stuff, so it's hard to like. I don't I don't want, like, I don't know, I don't really need anything. So I'd rather go on a trip. Sounds like, sounds like someone I.

Know me.

My birthday trip.

Yeah, no fun. Yeah that's great. Yeah, I'll feel let you take me to Bali every year for your birthday. That sounds I think I.

Was thinking this on the way here.

I think this is the last time I'm going to come to Bali unless we're like on a big trip in Indonesia Asia and and we stop here.

But it's so far, it is so far, and it's both of our second times coming here.

Yeah, you're still not even through the trip yet though, And you've already decided that because the flight.

Was so long yesterday and we flew economy because there's no way we're paying for first class tickets.

They're crazy.

Mm hmm yeah, yeah, Well I don't really like this is that we're working on right here, where we're holding the we're sharing a microphone essentially, so you can't almost say something, and then she'll put it right in front of my face, like.

Just in case you want to say anything.

It's almost like you're like expecting me to say something.

It's a just in case thing.

And then I feel pressure like, oh crap, now I have to say something. What do I say?

Well, it's a good thing you don't host the podcast or anything.

That will do it.

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