Hi Five! With Alayah Benavidez

thank you for having us. Of course, so the general premise of the show, from my understanding, uh is that you ladies invite five men to live with you four weeks because you just want to like fast track to getting to know you, which I could not agree with more. Let's just cut through the BS. I think that's what Bachelor does a lot, and I think it actually works out pretty we You cut through the BS and you're like, Okay,

I'll find out your favorite color later. But what I really want to know is working your heart, so exactly tell us your emotional traumas Aleta to tell us a little bit about the experience of five Guys a Week okay, so I was gonna thread out there. At first I had to ask. I was like, is this the right show? Is this a dating show? Because the title will definitely insinuate something else. Unfortunately, it is just a dating so show. Um, I've never done speed dating in my life, so this

was not speed dating, more like speed living. And it definitely was a roller coaster to say the least. I had a blast. I got to know these guys more than I thought I would. But yeah, it was very interesting. So I gotta ask alexis why, um, and why five guys a week instead of like shake shack a week or in and out a week? Why you decide to go with five guys? My misinterpreting the name of the show, you're eating? You're it's like a fast food thing, right,

You're definitely good joke. Thanks, Thanks, I play on for a while. I appreciate. Yeah, I love it. I definitely did also think it might have been related to five guys. So unfortunately, no burgers, no prize, um, yeah no, just just five men cooking in my kitchen, or at least learning to cook. I would like to say, yea, yeah, so could you explain to us like the format of the show. Then, so they come into your house and

it's us like a date in the house. They cook for you and all that stuff for So the premise of the show is that, like it literally is blind like a blind dating from this except they show up at your door, like these men are literally delivered to our to our houses and we don't know what they look like, we don't know their names or Asian nothing, and they just stay with us. We live with us for but for like five days and for a week,

and um, yeah, pretty much we had to. We didn't have our phones, we didn't have TV, so we really had to get down and get to know each other better. Phones, no t vs. So what did you guys do? Just talked the whole time we talked. We tried to like create games, like there's one in my episode. We had like a wrapping like game going on. I wasn't great at it, but I tried. So. Yeah. Well, and there were cameras in your house too, I would imagine right everywhere,

twenty four hour surveillance. What is that like like that that has to make dating a little bit more awkward than it normally is. Yeah, I mean, like it didn't make things a little bit like because obviously, like I didn't want to do I wanted to keep it all PG my family, my coworkers watching this. On top of that, like you haven't mindful you know of of what the public might see here. But for me it came out

very naturally. I feel like, you know, most of us girls are pretty easy going, so but I definitely as them like mom of the house, or rather the owner of the house that they're staying in. I had to like keep these guys like in control. I mean, five guys is a lot of testosterone. It was a lot for me to handle for someone who dates like one guy at month per se. Well, it's nice to just kind of knock it out in one foul swoop right here, just get it over with exactly this, throw them all

at the wall, see if one six so joyce. How is your experience, UM, in the house with the five guys was it? Did you find that there was tension? Awkwardness? Were you just in heaven? How did you feel? Well? A little bit of all of the above, you know. First and foremost, I have to say that all the guys on my episode were outstanding, um, every one of them, and we're all still in touch. Um, they're all Actually when my episode airs, I'm having a little party. They're

all coming in. Um, we're gonna watch our episode all together with some family and friends at a country club. So we're excited to coming in a day before we're gonna go voting. They the relationships, I think we all you know, look, five guys moving in cameras twenty four seven, Um, you know, and I'm I'm the old viddie, right. I mean, that's the thing about the show, it's there's a variety of different ages and a variety of you know, kind of all different people, so it's not really geared towards

just one audience. It's it's really I think if there's a wide spectrum of ladies. There were a total of twenty of us, all different ages from twenties all the way up to the sixties, so the experiences are all different. And when you're with Cameras seven, I mean, you know, I'm fifty five. If it takes a lot, I'm waking up, don't make up. I got guys, Um, you know, twenty

four seven. But the process works, and the good news is that you really get to see who people are because you can't be on you know, you go on a date, you know, two hours, three hours, and you know everybody's on. They're bringing their a game. Now you're living with five guys, and the walls come down and you really get to kind of peel back and see who people are. And I had just an outstanding group and I'll be friends with them forever. Um and the

process works. Um, that's what I have to say. I think, Uh, you know, shout out to Lifetime and Original Productions. They did a great job in matching me with with my cast. They were fun. Don't you think It's so funny? How well, at least for me. Every time I see a new dating TV show, I'm like, well, they did it again. They thought of something completely original. But that's it, Like they they run out of ideas and then you hear something like this, and I'm like, man, they keep coming

out with these incredibly original ideas for dating. This one's so cool. Like it's true when you live with somebody, you learn a lot to screw the first date. Come over, let's live together. How do you do the dishes? Yeah? Did you guys like delegate responsibilities among the men. You're like you're you're on dish duty, You're on trash duty.

How did you guys do that? Yeah? Yeah, Alexis is saying yes and Joyce, but we have Joyce and I have a very different like age group of guys, like I think minor, you know, literally mid twenties and hers are a little bit older than more mature, like they know what they want and my guys are still young, you know, like it was from and on this age I can say like a lot of people at this age group don't know how to cook, some of them filling with their moms so they get they don't really

have to clean much. So I had i this is my house. I walked in. I was like, using the dishes, you sleep the floor, you clean the table, because I was not going to live with this mess in my house. I feel like they would either be really into that or really not there like yeah somewhere like yes, and some were like oh no, like she's a good much here and I was like, yes, this is why I have trouble dating because I'm very bossy. The guys that were just like pigs, They're just just leave everything on

the floor. Yeah that was yeah, it was. It was I was immediately like, but to the credit of the show, at least you can identify that early on and uh and not have to like date him for three months and then come to find out he's, you know, a slab like that. So that's good. Like popping bottles in the first night and I'm like, is this Jersey Shore or are you here for love? Baby? Like which one is it? And then you kicked them out right to

start your dominant You'll have to see. But Joyce, you were shaking your head now, so you kind of just didn't uh, you didn't delegate any responsibilities as much now, So I'll tell you my show was certainly different from Alexis. Um my guys, I was like princess. I mean I was in charge and they were they couldn't do enough for me. They were like, you know, fighting to clean up and fighting to cook. I made all the guys, man,

I'm like your guys. Oh, they were awesome. Thumbs up. Um, you know, I sent them a letter before the show because I wanted to see what their cooking skills are. I travel all the time. I can't really have a fast food guy. Um, you know, Kenny cook if I'm not around, and I asked them to jumble my jumbalaya, and they all came, are you prepared with um food? And it had to represent something about them, whether it was their favorite food, their culture, and I'll tell you

they were. They came a game on. I will tell you I was a little nervous when the one guy walked in with a cooler. I was like, Oh, does he have a fetish? What's in that cooler? So you get a little nervous because you know you're inviting five total strangers into your home and you don't really know how it's gonna go. And you know you have to drill down. You have to get to know who they are. And I'm pretty good at that. I'm a pretty good read of people. But I just, um, they were all awesome.

And everybody I always have dated, they always get a nickname, and these guys are no different. So um, I have funny Man, music Man, we have w T is the World Traveler with beans um because beans easy um. And that we have has Matt. I'm gonna leave that. I don't know. I don't know if has mats and name I would want so much. So So you were saying the whole cooking thing was kind of like a like a test, for lack of a better word, where you want to make sure that they're self sufficient and independent

enough to at least prepare something for themselves. And they came with their a game, all of them. That was great. I I'll be honest, if I was put in that same situation as a guy that was expected to bring like a signature dish, if you will, I would fail, and immediately I would be I would be kicked out right away. So I'm proud of your guys for at least being able to step up and and handle that appropriately. Um,

so did you guys? You guys all didn't live in the same house, right, you guys were in separate houses. Not not not you and the men, but Alexis and Joyce. Right, you guys are in separate houses. And then you were saying there was twenty people. Is that was there? Twenty uh re leading ladies, twenty different leading ladies. That's amazing. That's a hundred guys, Matt, matthe thank you, thank you. I went to sixth great algebra. Um, that's a lot

of guys. That's that's very impressive. So are you close with all of the other the leading ladies, because you two are you two seem very close. You two seem like your your best friends. So are you close with the restaurant? We're pretty close. Yeah. We have like a little group chat and we all support each other. We all went through this experience, so I would say yes, yea awesome like a sisterhood. Sister sisterhood guys, So we all went through the experience and the process work for

some of us, we didn't work for others. So it's just, you know, funny to kind of see everyone show. We're so excited about the premier last night. I thought it was terrific, and you know, each one of us are very different, so I think it will not I think it'll be very entertaining and certainly not boring. And the

women are in charge. So did you guys get to did you guys get to talk to one another before the men entered your house or like and ask questions to be like, Okay, what was your experience, Like do you have any advice for me? No, it's just kind of you guys didn't talk till afterwards, And yeah, we didn't talk to afterwards. Um I did pass along like a little message. But we didn't talk to each other until after, like literally until this month. So and no

one knows that the outcome. No one knows anyone's outcome, right, So that's what's kind of interesting. So we're all kind of rooting and we're seeing a little clips of the shows. But you know, we were all on text last night. What do you think she's gonna pick? What do you think she's gonna pick? This One's rooting for this one? Now that's intentional, right, Like, are you guys you just kind of keep it interesting for everyone to watch? Or

are you? Um? Like, how come? How come you guys don't know the ending results for each other just because it's the show. Everybody's got a tune in. No, I like it. I like the cliffhanger. I do like that. You guys are true fans right there? My curiosity, Oh my gosh. I remember after my first season of being on The Bachelorette, it was between Peter and Brian and Peter and I were super close, and I would text Peter every single day, like, tell me what happened, Tell

me what happened, and he wouldn't. He wouldn't, he wouldn't tell me he's doing exactly what Joyce and Alexis are doing right now. Oh it killed me inside. Um, I gotta know what was it like? What was the elimination process? Like? As time war on, I would imagine you went from five to four to three to two? Right? Was that a hard part of the show for you guys? For me, I can be brutally honest and I think, and I will tell you I think on my episode there was

some really powerful moments. Everyone walked away with a life lesson and that's what made I think my episode so great to why we're all really great friends? Um, you know, everybody really walked away either learning something about themselves, learning something about what they wanted of a relationship. Um. You know some some of the fellas did get a little emotional and and you know, um some have you know after the show said, you know, all of the conversations, um,

you know really made me think. And they've done certain things since the show. So for me, I really felt like I was on a journey. And as difficult as it was to let them go because they're all fabulous and you know, I date all of them, but there was one, uh, you know, you there's there's you know, you're narrowing down and you kind of know what you're looking for and what maybe is the perfect fit for you. Um. So it was hard, but it was um you know, I think we were also honest and all the walls

had come down. I don't think it was surprised, Sack, but that definitely is a good sign. I guess, alexis what about you. I think, like any like any you know, dating show where elimination is involved, the big the beginning is always easy, Like I one guy I was like, you better pack your bag and get out, and the other like closer to God towards eliminating. I was like, oh, this is getting a little bit tough because I really

have these great guys here. So at the beginning it was pretty easy, and then later on it got a little bit more difficult. Um, yeah, that's it was. It was definitely hard because I think like people like connect themselves in the elimination process, so they feel kind of like really disappointed. And I really didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I just was looking for the one, and in my from what I've seen in that very little bit of time, I had to eliminate them, but they

were all good sports about it. Well, well, props to you, guys, because that would definitely be the most challenging thing for me. I have are enough time telling our dog training we're not going to use them anymore. Like I can imagine telling people on TV that we're not gonna be dating anymore. You know, So kodas to you. That definitely takes some

fortitude for sure. Uh So, going on to the show, I gotta ask, what is your family and friends think about did they have any like input about you, guys going on the show and you think that alexis I feel like you're probably close to your family. Yeah, so I'm actually I'm Latina, what are you Connectory and my family and are very very close. This is so unconventional, But my family and friends expected this on me because I'm not a conventional kind of person, like I do

very spontaneous random things. So they were like, this is her being crazy again, and yeah, Like, I mean they all supported me. Um the closer we got towards it, they were like, oh crap, we're gonna be on TV. And I don't know if I how I feel about this, but my family and friends all supported me. They know the kind of person that I am, and so it can kind of fit with my personality. Yeah, do you both live alone? Yes, So let's just who do you

live with? My dad and I co own a house and so I lived in the house that I own with my dad because you know or cities. Definitely, these guys had to move into the house with you and your dad was there. Oh my oh, I honestly like dad interact. My dad is a Puerto Rican man, so it really would not be easy for these guys. The guys would have done running. That's what I want to see. Hey, it's a survival of the fittest. They were very, very uncomfortable and uh in the time that they got to

uh meet him, Oh my god, that is amazing. Um so joy Sorry, I know Dean as you as well. What did your friends and family? What did they think when they found out that you were about to be on a reality dating show? So I think my son, although supportive of the process, was like, does it really have to be on TV? You're my mom, and you know, I don't think anyone really wants to see the mom kissing anyone on TV? So right, So thank you Alexis,

but um, you know, so I think it. You know, it was a little bit challenging for him, so he really didn't want to participate. Um and neither did my brother, but my cousins and my friends was supportive of it. Um, you know, I'm terrible at dating your show, I do stay or suck at dating. And you know, they go, she goes through him like big candy. She's like big bank. Bank gotta go to the you know, I kicked him

to the curve pretty offense. So they actually said it's gonna be awesome for you to not have your computer and not have your phone. I did feel a little naked, I will say the first couple of days without that. I mean, I'm a business person. I'm always with my phone and my computer and it really and that was probably my life lesson is the balance. You know, I didn't have a lot of balance and you know, just prioritizing um, as my mother continues to tell me, Um,

you wasting you pretty. You know, I've got to be going for a long as I'm getting older, so um, you know I have to strive for the balance. And UM, it really kind of pushed me to recognize some priorities. Um, and so after this it's different. Yeah. I mean, I feel like going on reality TV show, which is every single one of us have done now and assume I have you learned a lot about yourself and you really

get some life lessons out of it. So I'm very happy that both of you felt like that this process, we all spoiling anything, was definitely a positive experience. So make sure everybody tuning in watch five Guys a week every Wednesday starting last night. Last night was the premiere. Do you know Alexis Enjoyce when your episodes are airing? Can you even say? I'm August three, Lifetime August three,

and all yours two weeks July. So make sure you guys tune in every Wednesday Lifetime, uh, for five Guys a week, but make sure you definitely tune in for Alexus episode July twenty seven. Enjoys August August three, August after weeks. That's great, so you get Alexis one next week. Very cool. Well, thank you ladies once again for joining us on the podcast. Thank you, thank you. We should have gotten you on that show. Five Guys and one

SHOOTE in my apartment. That's going to get interesting. Oh god, that'd be such a good TV that that should be some pretty crazy TV. If there's a season two, we got to get you on it to the to the best of our ability. We have to. We have to at least try. But um, hellyeah, thanks for co hosting with us. This is an absolute blast. An let me know you're just uh, you're a short distance away from work, which is great. We can catch you an lunch break, um,

alves are very cool. Your boss to give you an hour and a half off for lunch, Like, that's a pretty And I still have another hour so I left early. Oh that's amazing. If you guys are hiring, maybe I'd rather work here. It's like, wait, and I can wear scrubs. Basically, I'm moving to Texas. It sounds like, um um, but thank you so much. We're looking forward to hearing from you again, getting some updates about your life. Uh, you know, five guys in a week, it's a possibility. We'll we'll

put that on the backboarder for now. But keep sucking as much as it does right now. Next season, I have some unfortunate news for you, Aliah. It probably will continue to suck and to no faults of your own, just because dating it's just hard enough as it is. You know, it's it's not easy. It's getting harder to us. But anyways, thanks for having me, guys. Yeah, thanks for joining us. Thanks for so great Jared, I love you listeners, Thank you, Alexis and Joyce. Thank you for joining us.

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