Don’t Worry Dean with Kirpa Sudick

Thank you guys for having me on, Thanks for being had um before we um, before we get to that, I got a question. We talked about this a little bit before we recorded the podcast. But Jared, you're back from Italy, Kirpa, you knew that he was in Italy? Jared, how was How was the trip? I just want to hear, like a quick quick trip? It was fun. Listen. I'm gonna be honest. I'm not a big travel guy. I'd never have been. I'm not the person who says when they're like, what do you like to do? Like I'd

love to travel. I'm a homebody. I don't flying. I get motion sickness. I'm I'm I'm a baby that way. But it was fun. It was really nice to go. We were very lucky to have Polaris on United which was like a complete game changer. And then we got there. There the so her friend rented out this I don't know a castle. Uh it's about an hour and a half north of Rome. So we flew into Rome, drove there. There was no WiFi, no TVs. So that was um fun for like ten minutes and then we were like, oh,

this is bad, but it was very nice. UM and it was stunning. Uh. So the Whearstal dinner was Friday. That was outside and with stunning views and then the you know, the place is incredible, it's just being in Italy. UM. Food was really good. So then Sunday we drove to Rome and that was really fun. Sunday Monday we stayed in Rome. Ashley and I UM had some time to ourselves, which was great. UM and uh I had many many

cappuccinos which was quite wonderful. We missed Dawson a lot, but you know, as errands, you know, you definitely need some time to um. You know, remember like, oh that's right, we're in a relationship. We should really do dating things because they're fun and we enjoy doing them, which is why we're married. The first trip away from him, no, it was our second. Our first trip away from him

was for Paradise, which will air this this week. We got very lucky enough to be asked to go down there and hang out with the cast for a little while. So that was the first time we left him. This time was definitely harder because he's we're just you know, I mean, it's it's cliche to say, but our love girls for this kid, you know, more and more as every day passes, and so we're so connected to him now, and he's becoming such a he's developing such a personality

that it's it's different leaving him now. Now it's not like, oh, would just take care of him. He's fine. Now he's like smiling and looking at you and interacting and like laughing and like not saying words, but he's like laugh and it's like, oh, it's just like, you know, missed that. So I don't know kids very well. Um, he's old enough to take care of himself all your way. I guess what does he do this? He's just like order pizza every night. When we were in Paradise when he

was four or five months, it's much different. It's like, hey, you know, he fed, he gets fed. He just don't let him die, you know. Now it's like he needs to play and he wants to interact and his you know, her grand her parents brought him to a pumpkin patch and he was able to like see the colors and really you get to see his reaction to things. He's reacting to things, which is quite awesome. So he had

a babysitter. He wasn't just free range in the house. Yeah, you know, they took him to do things and we got to see that. And it's crazy, man, because even we were away for six days and he was definitely bigger when we came back. Then when we left him, it's like, damn, it's just he's growing up so fast. Well that makes sense. Um, I guess you didn't really catch the joke there. Purpose you have gotten it though, say the joke again. Your old kid is not gonna

take care of himself, Jared's least, that's good. I'm glad. I'm glad to hear you had fun. Your pictures look great. Um, thanks for pizza. Look delicious, dude. The pizza was definitely so much fun. I will say walking around. There was a moment when I was living in l A. Because I never really appreciated living in l A. Wasn't big l A fan. Still not, sorry, guys. But I was driving to the grocery store and I was on the phone with my sister and she's like, what are you doing.

I said, Oh, I'm driving right now to the grocer strum on Sunset, And then I thought for a second, I just said that I'm driving down Sunset Boulevard, you know, and that has such a movie buff and a pop culture person of interest that that really was like wow, I let that soak in. I'm driving down Sunset just to go to the grocery store because I live here.

I live in Los Angeles. And I had the same moment of realization when I was in Italy, because of course it was you know, it's inconvenient, and there's a lot going on in your jet lagged and we didn't fall asleep before in the morning, and things of that nature. But then we're walking to dinner on Sunday and walking down this cobblestone alley and I was like, man, and we're walking down this small cobblestone narrow alley in Rome. That's you know, you just have like a moment realization

of how cool that really is. Um. Yeah, definitely you're living the dream. Uh kurpa? What's going on with you? Can you feel listening on what you're what you're up to, what you've been up to, what life looks like? Um? I know that's such a generic question. What are you're supposed to go with that? But what have you been up to lately? Um? I just moved to Santa Monica with my boy, so that's been an adjustment, like living with someone, but a good adjustment. Um. I'm doing Donal

hygiene still part time, like on the side. And then I just signed up actually for a life coaching program to become like a life and wellness coach, so starting that soon. Nice. Where Santa Monica did you guys move to? We're right behind the high school if you know where that is? Yeah, of course, very nice. I love Santa Monica. I always regret not having lived like closer to the Promenade. I guess I don't. I don't know why, but I've always kind of wanted to live in that area. Yeah,

it's good. That's awesome. And so you live with your boyfriend. You said, how long have you guys been together for? We met right before COVID, So we met in February of that kind of like sped things along because we basically were shocked up together all during COVID. So you guys started dating in February. Obviously, the pandemic hits in March, and then you decided to quarantine together. Yeah, damn, that was well. You guys really figured out quickly whether this

relationship was going to make it or break it. Yeah, exactly. Let's yeah, what was it like a month in? Was it awkward? Because I mean so many people wait months years to move in with each other. But now you know, like listen, you probably fart and you're like, hey, listen, I don't know. Yeah, you know, dude, I there's So there was actually a couple at the wedding. One of the girls still has not farted in front of her husband. They've been together since high school. High school, and they're

in you got me. I was like, he's like, he tells her, He's like, please far in front, I mean, please, for love of god, she just doesn't want to, and she she farted once in her sleep, talking about I don't want to say their names, but yeah. But and then of course I'm looking at Ashley and she's like

stinking up the entire bedroom most nice. So was that weird for you, like when you guys first moved in, where you're still in that like phase where you're like, oh god, I need to like I don't know, like that scene from Bridesmaids where like Chris and Weeds put makeup on um. I think things progressed pretty quickly, like the makeup thing that was like done pretty fast. I was like, I can't keep up this, like sarade, You're

going to see what I look like. And at the time I was on acutane, so I was going through like gnarly acne. I was like, this, poor guy, if he can deal with this, like the God's end actually takes a speA lack of I don't know, something like that something. Yeah, So no, it was just really easy. Like, of course there were awkward moments, but like I didn't feel like I had to like be someone else. So I was like, Okay, I knew, like this is this is solid. That's a great sign. Yeah, that is that

is a good sign. You know, Klin still is not farted in front of me, what's still waiting for that special moment? Even in her sleep. Uh well, yeah, I'm usually asleep before her, and she is awake after or before me too, so I don't really get to like see her sleep. Very Have you ever walked into if that makes sense, have I have you ever walked into a room and smelt possibly a fart and been like that had to have been her, had to have been her? Uh No, I don't think so. Wow, No, I don't

think so. That's just um, that's just she's she just doesn't want to be seen, I guess in that light, which I guess. Okay, more power to her. But I'm in the same I'm in the same boat as your friend. I'm like, just do it, just do it for me. Um, how did you meet the boyfriend? Because I don't think we've talked to you. We have talked to you on this podcast before, but I don't think we've talked to you since having met the boyfriend, have we? Um? I

don't think so. I So we met on bumble oh yeah, on the apps, and I think we had matched a few months. So we matched like twenty nineteen, but like things just kept getting pushed off and like I would cancel or something would happen. And then finally in February he was like, I have an extra concert ticket. Do you just want to go with me to this show? And I was like okay, and yeah, the rest is history and the rest what was the show? Dermot Kennedy. It's like I was curious, like what band you guys

really bonded over? No, it was, yeah, Dermy Kenny. He's a really good artist. You guys should look him up. Well, I der M Kennedy sing. I think it's more like pop, but like soul full pop. I don't know how to explain it. It's okay, Google, says Irish singer songwriter. Yes, okay, nice, Well let's get to know. Okay, So go if you're listening to this podcast and you're on the fence about going on a bumble date with your guy, maybe take him to an Irish Kennedy date. Irish Dermy Kennedy date.

Oh my god, my tongue twisted there. How was a concert being the first date? Like okay, yeah, because that's really risky and I knew going into it this could be the best date or this could be the worst date because you're stuck with someone for so long. And we did dinner before so that was like a good way to feel it out and like see if there was any chemistry beforehand. We got to talk a little bit um and then the concert was great because I mean, even if it hadn't gone well, I could just like

watch the concert or him and be fine. But no, it went well. It was all good. Yeah, that's a gamble because even dinner beforehand, you're committing uh, a good five hours with this human being. Usually on this podcast, we always advocate getting drinks with someone on the first day because then you can or either coffee or drinks because then you can go have one drink. If it's not going well, then you're like, okay, have a good one. I'm good. But no, Yeah, that was usually my go to.

But something was telling me like go to the concert, like yeah, say yes, And I was like, okay, listen to your gut. Yeah, damn. How you guys live together? And I've got a question, how do you work part time as a dental high as a dental hygienist. How

does that work? So luckily? As a dental higgenis. You can either work in different offices, like so most donal higgenists don't have a full time office because office don't want to pay you or want to give you benefits, so you're always part time, usually at a few offices. And then there's also something you could do called temp work.

So if an office hasn't has a high jenis that calls out sick or is going on maternity leaves, stuff like that, they'll look for a high jenis that is open to temping, and you'll just go either for the week to help out, or the day or a few months. So that's what I've been doing. Okay, Nice, that makes sense. I've always wondered because I always thought that was just like a like a normal Monday through Friday's nine five kind of job, you know. Yeah, No, it has a

lot of flexibility. It's nice. Okay, that's cool. Um, well, Jared, what else? What else do we have for Kirtpie? Well? Always curious, Kirpa, because you were obviously on Colton season of the Bachelor, But if my regulation, you were never on a season of Paradise, right, No, I wasn't was there? Ever? I'm very curious as to why you were never on Paradise because was that ever a conversation. Yeah, I went were all like the medical testing and everything, and it

just never happened. They didn't need me, So I don't know, so you wanted to go. I mean I was open to it because at the time, when it was after Colton season, I went through all the testing, I wasn't dating anyone, um, so I was like, yeah, if it happens, it happens. And I like all the girls from Colton season we're going on. So I was like, it would be fun to like even hang out there and even if I don't meet someone there, like just have a

good time. Yeah. That's so crazy. Yeah, because when you were coming in the podcast, I was like, oh, Kurpa, Yeah, of course I know Curpa. And then I was obviously researching you creepy um. But then I realized you were never on Paradise, but you made such an I just remember you. I remember so like you made such an impact on Colton season. It's kind of shocking that you

were never on Paradise. I guess I just assumed, um, But so Colton was there only one season in Paradise after your season to the Bachelor and then COVID hit. I think, so maybe that has something to do that. Maybe they were like, we'll bring her on, like if she's still single next year, maybe something didn't work out, and then obviously COVID hit and everything. Yeah, but then now you're dating Taylor, which is very sweet. So you guys have been dating so the big in the pandemics

for over two years. Yeah. Yeah, and so like, I mean, what's what's the status? You think this is it? Are you guys obviously is this the one you foresee an engagement marriage? Yeah? No, definitely, We've talked about it. I think I want to be in a place where I'm more like financially stable and know what I'm going to do in life, because I'm still trying to figure that

out because I don't. I do want to get out of dental hygiene completely, so I think at some point, yes, that's coming, but I'm okay to wait, Okay, that's good too. How old are you? I'm thirty. You got plenty of time. Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, we're not going to rush it just because people are expecting it. Yeah. Well, and so can we talk about this for a second as well, because according to this it says you've been engaged before. Is that right? Yes, I was engaged. I got engaged

when I was twenty four, I think or twenty three. Yeah, got you what and what like kind of experiences did you learn from that? Because obviously super young and I know what, every will gets engaged with the intention of breaking off an engagement, right, So like what did you

want to take away from all that? Um? Well, I think back then when I first got engaged, I was kind of going with the motions like, oh, this is what you're supposed to do, like you meet someone, you get engaged, you have kids, whatever, whatever, And so I was more in that mindset and not thinking like is this gonna like really make me happy? And so I think at a certain point I just like had a break down and I was like, this is not the person I want to be with, Like were family issues,

Like his family wasn't a big fan of me. So I was like, this is clearly is not the person. And so that's why it ended. You said his family wasn't a big fan of you. Yeah, more of like a race thing, not like they didn't like my personality or anything. They just preferred that he was someone that wasn't the same ethnicity. That's so stup. Yeah, unfortunately unfortunately. Indeed, I'm I'm very sorry that you went through that, and

thank god you didn't end up with that guy. I don't know, I don't know if what his thoughts on it were. That's um yeah, I mean we always talked about on that on this podcast about how important it is to um like have be get along with the family, or how important is it in order to get engaged with someone, Like if you don't get along with the mother in law or the family, you know, is that kind of a huge red flag that might factor into

whether you get married to someone. Yeah, it is absolutely. You, Like, you're going to be spending holidays and lots of time with these people. You want to get along with them and be accepted. Yeah. Yeah, And this new boyfriend of yours obviously there's no issues with all that. Now. His family is actually coming into town today for his birthday, so we're all gonna hang out and they're staying with us.

So we get along really really well. Nice. When when did you meet the family, Because you guys started dating during COVID, did you meet like through a zoom No. I actually so his family lives in Chicago, and I think it was we're man in February. I think it was like July. He was like, do you want to go to Chicago? And I was like, okay, yeah. I met them pretty early on compared to like I think if I had been dating someone outside of COVID times,

everything just was very quick. Yeah, well that's that's kind of like the blessing on the curse of COVID, right, kind of gives you the the chance to speed things

up a little bit more. Well, that's great. I mean just hearing you talked about everything, hearing about how you've been engaged before and now you're in this relationship, and how you see it happening again, because I always, I guess, I don't know how I feel about it in the sense where it's like if you're talking to someone that's been in a relationship for two years, that's never been in like a serious long term relationship, and they're always

talking about getting engaged next, you always kind of are like, okay, sure, But knowing that you've obviously been through it already before, I think there holds a little bit more weight to the idea of it, right, Yeah, definitely, Yeah, so that's good. I'm really happy for you guys. Thank you. What does he do for work? Let's make sure he's up to your standards. Let's make sure he's uh if it's the Bill, No, he's great. He's a graphic designer. He works for Hawk Media,

and he's extremely talented. So he definitely is up to my standards. Okay, Okay, I guess we'll let this happen then. Um, that's good. Okay, Well, congratulations. I hope you guys. Obviously I wish you all the best. I guess I should say you. Um. We're gonna take a quick break though, and then we're gonna come back with Jared's favorite segment of the uh hot topics. Bro, hot topics, damn hot topics.

You were here last week, so we don't have to suffer through this, so but stay tuned the other brake. We'll be right back. I'm just kidding. I love the hot topics Mastard. All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating myself. Dean Kirpa, you're still here. We're going to get into some hot topics. The first one is about a fifty six year old Utah grandma who's serving as a surrogate for her son whose wife has had a hysterectomy. First of all, I don't know this.

I know the word hys directed me. I'm gonna be honest. Think it's where you get what does it that? What does that exactly entail? I think it's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all the female reproductive stuff taken out, So you're essentially it's like getting a vasectomy for a woman basically. Oh okay, way yeah, yeah, sorry, way more intense. I didn't mean it down play that at all. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, fair point. Well, at fifty six, Nancy Hawk will soon

experience something truly unique. So I'm reading from the People article music the People article about this. She's going to give birth to her own granddaughter. Now she's serving as a sturry gift for her thirty two year old son, Jeff and his wife Cambria. Now Jeff and Cambria, they're already parents two twins that are three years old, and apparently they went on to have a lot of complications from the birth of her twin boys. Now the couple hope to have a fifth child. They had Oh my god,

excuse me. So they've had two boys and twins, so there are four kids. They wanted a fifth, but Cambria, the wife, had a hyster direct to me, like we talked about following apparently a pretty traumatic birth of their twins in September of last year, because now they're well a couple of years three year old, three year old twins um and so, uh, they go on to talk about.

Then that's when Nancy, the the grandma, stepped in and said that I just suddenly had a feeling a few months ago after that I should offer to be the surrogate. This is what she told. She said, I told my son and he teared up and was shocked. I hadn't even told my husband at this point, but he was very supportive. And then Jeff goes on to say, I feel grateful to have such a selfless and loving mother that was willing to make that kind of sacrifice for

my family. Having experienced over the past four years of infertility treatments, I know how complicated the process can be, and doubted that it was possible for her to carry a baby force. But I was very moved that she would even offer. Apparently doctors told her that she was healthy enough condition even though she's fifty six, you carry a pregnancy um and become a surrogate. And she began

hormone treatment back in January two. Within weeks, she became pregnant with the fertilized embryos from Jeff and Cambria quote, She's sacrificing so much for us in our family, and we just felt so grateful. Cambria spoke of her mother in law, so this that's crazy. So I'm trying to put myself in that position where I okay, you're you know, you like if I was so if this was happening and Ashley was having infantra, you know, fertility issues, and my mom was like, I want to carry your baby.

M hmm, I don't know. I don't know, man, that's something I have to I mean, first of all, the offer is incredibly gracious, obviously selfless. What they're doing is pretty amazing. But if I put myself in that position, I don't know, man, I don't know if I could do it. I gotta be honest. That's because then it would be I mean, let's just I'm being around the bush gig, but like this me would be you know, obviously not the physical, but like the wealth physical. Yeah,

I don't know how to say this. I got nothing, I got nothing. I don't know what to say. I don't want to say. I don't want to say it a little freaky, get a little weird. Now, if this is going down, listen, it's beautiful. What I'm gonna say is that people are entitled to do whatever they want. It's a beautiful act. Uh, it's really you know, sad that Cambria can't have more kids, even though they both heard Jeff want more kids because of the traumatic birth

of her kids beforehand. So there's a lot factoring into this story. Um, I can't believe the mom in fifty six is healthy enough to carry a kid. That's that's insane in itself. Yeah, that's crazy. I don't think i'd want to put my mom through that though, because I know pregnancy is a lot, and at fifty six, that's a lot for your body to take on. My thing with it is you guys already have so many kids. Just like, give it a rest, just just call it quits.

There's already enough people in this world. Don't like work so hard to bring another one in If you like I get if you have zero and you're going to one. Maybe if you're going from one to two, But what did you say they had five or four or five or something like that, give it a rest. Come on, you've got four healthy kids, Like, let's just let's not risk our mom's, our grandma's healthier, um by by having her birth another child, Like, we don't need a fifth child.

Four to five. The returns on a fifth child are not nearly enough to make it worth that in my opinion. Um also on the on the same note, in the same vein, I guess it kind of reminds me of a story or a situation that I was in, uh for some reason. I think I've shared about this on the podcast before. But I used to think that I was sterile, Like whereas I couldn't I was shooting block, I was shooting blanks, essentially, is what my assumption was. And I thought this for maybe about a decade or so.

And in that entire time, and this is back when I was like really not really gung home, but where I was like young enough to be like, yeah, I could see myself having kids, And I was like, well, if I can't have kids, what am I gonna do because I'm sterile, and so in the back of my head the entire time, I was like, oh, well, that's fine. I can just have one of my brothers, uh give provide a sample that we can then use to inseminate whomever the poor soul is that I'm going to have

a child with. Because I was like, I was thinking, like, that's the closest thing to me was my brother right, So I was like, Okay, cool, I can just do that. Long story short, come to find out I'm not sterile. I got tested at a sperm sperm bank in Los Angeles.

Um relations, yeah, yeah, thank you very much. They're not the strongest swimmers in the world, but you know, there's some there's some good ones in there, and uh, it's it's a little bit different obviously than like a surrogate, but it is similar where it's like I would have and I did never ask my brothers for this too, by the way, that I just assumed that they would give me a sample per my request on a moment's notice.

Um So, I don't know, I don't know where I'm going at this, but it's kind of similar in the sense where it's like I would have leaned on a family member. I could see why they would want a family member to be a surrogate, But a fifty six year old woman, I think, Um, I think that's too old. I think not not too I don't know is that inappropriate to me to say. I just think that there are better options on the table than to have your grandma fifty six year old, six years old to carry

the child you don't want to happen to her. Yeah, it is a lot on woman's body. It's pretty insane. Is it a slow hot topics day? How did that make the tough? It was the first one, and I was I was, I mean, it's a pretty interesting story. But yeah, it's just one of those things when you really think about it. As I was reading it again, I was like, wait a minute, I don't know this is different. But hey, to reach their own I'm very happy as long as uh, you know, everybody's involved in

loving and you know they already have four kids. So hey, if the grandma wants to do it, good for her. Yeah that's true. That's all that matter. As long as she wants to do it. Have you guy seen the movie? Don't worry darling, No, no, no yet, you haven't seen it, okay, So, so it's good. I liked it personally. But Klin was talking about so we just saw it in theaters the other day and she was excited about all the drama that's gone on in that movie. Have you heard about it? Yeah?

So so, Jared, you could probably explain this better than me, and Kirpa will get your opinion of it. I don't know, like you just hear stories that apparently so Olivia Wilde is dating Harry Styles and Olivia is uh directing the movie as well in Harry Stone was starring in it, and then there was like all this drama I don't know. First, like apparently Harry's role got offered a Shila a Buff, but then because Olivia and Shila Buff were they dating.

I don't know, there's like drama between them. I don't really know. And then like it got taken away and then Harry got cast, and then their stories that Florence Pugh who starts in the movie, and Olivia wild hate each other and they were arguing on set every single day, and then Chris Pine is in the movie. I don't know if you saw it from like the premier Uh, there was a there was a video where Harry walked in and it looked like he spit on Chris Pine. I don't think he did. But there's like just a

lot of drama. Is that kind of where you're going at, Dean, Yeah, there's a lot of drama around it. And then what happened and then Olivia, Um saw that Harry and the other girl that you just mentioned, that Caralce Florence Pugh, We're like hitting it off, and Olivia got jealous or something like that. Anyways, it's this movie where Olivia the Big Pictures Olivia I directed this movie. There's been a lot of controversy around the cast, I guess, and I

don't know. I just thought it was interesting. I thought it was something worth bringing up. Kaylin the only Kaylin never I thought that she never wants to go see movies. Um, but she never was like, let's go see a movie tonight. And so the other day she was like, I really want to go see this movie. And I was like, Okay, that's very unlike you, but I'm down. Let's go do it and we go see the movie. And I liked it. I didn't think it was the best movie in the world.

But I was entertained for the most part. And then after the fact, she was like talking about all the drama that had unfolded in the movie. Uh, and she was like, I really wanted to see it because I wanted to see how the all the drama played out on screen. And I was like, Oh, so you only wanted to see the movie because you're interested in the off screen drama. I just thought that was a little interesting, Like that was the big hook for her to want to go see a movie, you know, that was their

plan all along. Yeah, to promote it, That's what Klin was saying, and how a live But then she made a good point and she was like, I don't think Olivia Wilde would put her reputation on the line like she has just for more ticket sales, because I think one of the big things was that Olivia Wilde was saying how much of a feminist she is, and then that she's supporting the other Penelope lapew Uh and how

she wants her to be comfortable. But then it finds that we come to find out later on that Olivia actually was begging child about to come back onto the set. So it's like a whole It's like there's a whole lot of misinformation out there, a lot of heat said she said, Um, yeah, I caught that to Easton. Easton's calling out Penelope Lapew. It's like, yeah, no, don't worry, darling starring Harry Styles and Pepe Lapew coming to a theater near you. What's her name again, Florence Pew? Penello?

Did you say Penello? Be Lepew? Florence Pew. I've never seen her in anything before, but she was a good actress, and I think the whole movie was fine. But you tell in the movie like that there was tension, Like did it play out in the movie that way? Well, it's kind of a tense movie, so if there was, they did a pretty good job of like organically putting into the movie. Um, but I will say I was

pleasantly surprised by Harry Styles acting. I didn't expect him to be a good actor, but he was pretty good. So if you guys have the chance to go see the movie. I rated it a seven point eight out of ten. Kalin gave it a six out of ten. I'm curious to hear what you guys would have to say about it. I know I know what the twist is in the movie? Um, because I didn't. I don't really have that much interest in seeing it. But again, the drama surrounding it made me very interested in the

film itself. And so I was reading reviews and watching YouTube reviewers because you know that's what I do. And uh, one was a spoiler review and I was like, I gotta just know. So I found out what do you think of the twist? Um? I can see what people thought it was predictable. Um. But anyhow, we won't get into it. Let's get into the last hot topic before we end up moving on from this podcast. Apparently drafting season is upon US guy's drafting season. I'm not talking

about the NFL. I'm not talking about basketball. I'm talking about dating. YEP. It's apparently a new sex trend that could go terribly wrong. So this is from the New York Post after enjoying a quote, I can't believe I'm saying this slutty summer complete with sex parties and three sums. With that, who are they interviewing for this interview? Who's having sex parties and three seas? Their life is far

more interesting than my own. Many singles apparently are making proactive plans to find a more serious partner to settle down with. This is called drafting season, which is this falls hottest dating trend, with uncoupled youngsters crafting a roster of potential paramours to date over the autumn months before they finally choose a winter to commit when winter arrives. Think of it like sports drafting, but only one person

comes out of victorious before winters. Quote cuffing season coffing season. If you guys don't know something we talked about on this podcast. That's when you couple up with someone during the winter. It's cuffing season. You handcuffed to each other, and then of course you know, you have your single summer. Isn't that quite pathetic that we're like, okay, so the falls drafting season, as you can still get out there mingle a little bit. It's you know, you get your

October Fest. It's cold, it's kind of chilly, but you can still go outside. But then once winter hits and the sun sets at four thirty, especially around here, it's quite depressing. You want coffing season because you just want to go home and like binge Netflix with someone and then once the weather starts changing, You're like, all right, screw this person. I want to go back out. I'm ready for summer. I'm gonna go to the beach. I'm gonna mingle and have myself a nice little June, July

and August. Yeah, we're we know what cofing season is. It's the only thing you got to add to this. I mean, yeah, wait, I'm so confused. I thought that you were explaining what coming season was to us. No, I was just kind of like, you know, going off the cuff a little bit. Anyway, I'll continue reading the article here. So apparently a sex expert named Kelly Gordon was interviewed for this article, and she said this period of tryouts separates would be relationship materials from ghosts. I

don't know. I mean, I know ghost rs. I guess same thing, bread crumbers and love bombers. Yes. She goes on to say this is an exercise and self awareness and self preservation. However, the sex expert Kelly Gordon says that some people are so desperate when winter's winter hits that they end up set dling for whoever is available,

and often this is just bad news. Drafting season does allow a singleton to take their time trying out potential partners over a period of months before making a final pick. Just like sports teams, they take stock of their relationship. Make good choices, you'll spend time with. You'll make choices on your health and happiness. Botta bata ba. For those looking to try our drafting season or the order over the autumn, Kelly Gordon has some hot tips though ready.

She advises that dating should be kept fun and non serious until you figure out which partner you like best. She also urges single people to take their time, don't rush to make something exclusive. Remember you have the whole season to try things out, given that drafting season is meant to be a time of experimentation. Kelly goes on to say that singles should be open to dating people

who are not their usual type. Now at the end of this drafting season, making the right choice about who to pick for the winter is essential and it could

possibly lead to love that last a lifetime. So pretty much what Kelly Gordon is saying is that you should just have your own personal bachelorette season over the next two to three months where you go on dates with like fift twenty guys before you pick one and you give out that final rows just for the months of January, February, March, because once April hits and those flowers come back a blooming bye bye. So pretty much, it's exactly like a

Bachelotte relationship. You know, you date someone you and then you know you you give them a final rose, and then you guys go on to date for like two or three more months and then you break up. I mean, I don't hate it. I think that's pretty yeah, pretty great. I hate it, and I'll tell you exactly why I hate it. I hate it because this is the same article that was talking about sex parties and three somes and so everything they say after that is completely worthless

to me. I don't think anything they say carries anyway after the sex parties in three someome summer that we all just that. So I don't know if it's necessarily the best idea in the world to do what they're recommending, but it would be really interesting to see instead of like a draft uh and dating like fifteen to twenty people,

I guess it kind of is the same. I want to see like a like a bracket style date off where It's like you could be you could have a bachelord or a bachelor, right, and then you have twenty what would it be like thirty two people and they're like head to head and they slowly eliminate down to the final two, and then at the very end, the person chooses one person that would that would be It's kind of like bachelor Bachelorette, but but it's different enough

to where I think it could still be interesting. You guys start something, Yeah, we're onto something, And if you're bored enough on your own and you don't feel like waiting for the TV show, then I could see you wanting to do it on your own and just like, you know, making your own thing out of it. But I just I don't know. And after you said the whole sex party and three something, I kind of I kind of tuned out because I was like, Oh, I'm not gonna listen to anything this article is to say

about anything. I don't know. I'm suppose you didn't read the next one about the actual celebrity that's Keenan Thompson run down celebrity. I think, yeah, Keena Thompson's very much a celebrity. Well, this last one well we'll get to before we wrap things up. So Keena Thompson the SNL Uh not a lum because he's currently honest and l the SNL cast member, former Nickelodeon alum. Also, r I P to Coolio, who passed away yesterday. And uh, the reason I bring that up is because Coolio wrote the

theme song intro to Keenan and Kel. I don't know if you guys remember Keenan Kell and Nickelodeon. And uh, it's like it's it starts off with like Coolio and he's like, oh, here he goes and and then it starts the intro and it's the coolest thing ever. And anyway, So r I P Coolio Gangsters Paradise. Uh. But Keenan Thompson anyway, estranged wife is dating his former SNL co star Chris Reid. Does anybody know who Chris read? Is? Chris Red? Chris Red? Excuse me? What s I read?

I can't say words anymore? No, he played Kanye West. Oh that's all right, that's so good. Uh, he's a very funny SNL cast member. Anyway, So Keenan Thompson's estranged wife, estranged wife is it a stranged ex wife. Are they going through a divorce? I don't even know these things anyway. His estranged wife has moved on from the longtime SNL star with one of his former co stars, Christina Evangeline.

Evengelant Evangeline is dating Chris Red. TMZ reported back on Tuesday, claiming there is no bad blood between Thompson and Red over the budding relationship. Sources close to the new couple told the outlet that read became official with teen Keenan Thompson's wife excuse me a strange wife, within the past year, and that there was no cheating or overlap in the relationships.

In fact, that Keenan and kel Alum reportedly have been living separate from his estranged wife since two thousand and nineteen. So I guess they're still co workers. I want I have known it. If their friends or not, well, what you know? I mean, the only thing we can compare it to is like Dean. If you know Ashley and I got a divorce and then you started dating Ashley a year later, how would I feel about that? I don't know if I could do the podcast anymore. I

don't know if I could work with you. How would you What would you feel about that? Not good? Not good at all. I definitely would just quit the podcast. And I just kept dating Kalin two and then we just had sexy threesomes all summer long. I would definitely quit the podcast then, yeah, yeah, that's that's a reasonable response to that. I would probably quit the podcast too. I'd be like, who needs this? I don't suck a dating anymore. Well, it says how would you deal? So

I'm so confused. Oh it's former sent Alko star. So it's keen non snl anymore. I don't I don't know if he is, but that's still weird. Yeah, how did they meet? That's what I'm curious, Like, did Keenan introduce Chris to his wife when they were going well? And then yeah, probably it didn't work out and then Chris was like, let me reach out, you know, I've always

had a crush on her. Yeah. But it does say that they've been living separate lives since two thousand nineteen, so that's a long time to heal and be okay with one of your friends dating your old wife. You're a strange wife, is it your ex wife? Is it? You're just your like you just don't talk to your wife anymore. I don't know how it all works. Dude, Chris Red is not on the show anymore. That's crazy. He yeah, he says he was a cast member of

SNL from two THO. Damn. I mean, obviously, conspiracy theories are coming to my head now. I think it was Keenan, like, Yo,

this guy's dating my ex wife. It's gotta go right uh yeah, because Keenan is probably one of the higher ups in US and now now he's been there for a while, right, Well, that's why I thought that Keenan would be the one who would leave SNL because he's you know, you see a lot of big stars, Will Ferrell, Adam Sandler, people who make such a big name on SNL and then go on and do movies or other things. So I was like, oh, maybe Keenan's gonna start doing that.

But no, Keenan still in there, and Chris Red is not on us the more, which is funny because he was so good on it. H I've never been a big SNL fan. I don't know. I just can't can't buy into the humor. But some of the skits are funny, I would say, I could watch like the highlights of the skits, but not a regular episode. Yeah it's not like good anymore. Um, but Jared, you know what, that's gonna probably do it for this week's episode of help

I Suck at Dating. Um slow news week in the hot topics, which is a bit of a bummer, but uh, it is what it is. Kurby. I'm sorry we couldn't get anything more spicy for you out here, but thank you so much for joining us and co hosting with us this week. We are going to take a couple of days off and then we're gonna be bad on Thursday with our caller segment. Kurpo, You're gonna stick around for that, trust me. Uh it's good fun. Sometimes we

had we have last week that really enjoyed it. Um, I can't remember, but uh so stick around for that, Kurpa. Thank you so much for joining us. Best of luck with everything, and we'll see in a couple of days. We'll talk to you soon, or maybe we suck just a little bit less. Follow help By Suck At Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast