Dial S for Sucky Daters

her in here. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much for calling in. You got me Dean, Well, I'm and there's Jared to help you answer whatever question you might have for us. We're here to help. So what do you got for us? All right? So, basically a couple of days ago, I woke up, you know, before my boyfriend and realized my phone was downstairs. So I reached for his phones to check the time, and I saw a message on his home screen that he got

two AM from a woman saying thinking about you. Oh yeah, um about two years now? Two years? Yeah, that's pretty bad. So what did you do next? What was your next move when well before I was washing the blood off my hands. No, I'm kidding. I was right there with you, Jared. I didn't kill him. I didn't. Um. I actually didn't know what to do, so I just kind of left for work and decided to talk to him about it

when I got home. And when I confronted him about it, he said it was just as co worker who reached out since she knew that he had like this big presentation that morning. Oh man, please spare me. He honestly said that. Yeah, And I didn't like ask him or anything to go through his messages. I'm just kind of hoping that you know, he's telling the truth. Yeah, he's never really lied to me before that I know of that. You know of? Right? Well, Serena, what do you think

about this? I'm going to give you like the girl finding the message versus I'd rather have a guy's opinion on this, but I would literally be spiraling. I do you know? Do you know the name of the girl? Have you met them all? No? I I haven't met her. Her Her name is Emily, but like I don't know,

I don't really know a lot of his work friends. Well, you need to get to know, Emily, like you need to go there like sniff this out, Like, oh, hi, Emily, you're the one who texts my boyfriend two in the two in the morning because you're very concerned about his presentation the next day. That was so kind of you. And if you reach out again, I will end you know, Um, I don't know. I mean that's tough because it seems it's sketched. It's totally sketch, even for a co worker.

Come on now too in the morning thinking of about you. You're only thinking about somebody at two in the morning, not because of their presentation, but for other reasons. So, uh, it sucks. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Um, but my advice would be not to put not to just push it aside. It's like, oh, it was nothing. I think it was definitely something, and I think it's

something you should really address and talk further with your boyfriend. Yeah. Unfortunately, I feel like you're probably right, Yeah, right, definitely, Serena, I got a question, what would you do if you rolled over and saw that message on Jamie's phone? I would I would probably, Okay, So like the savage me would like literally wake him up and be like who is this and like, let me read that's going on.

But because I am a little bit more like timid and like I like to have all the facts so that when I shoot the gun, it's like ammo after ammo after am Like you can't find yourself out of this situation. I would probably do my due diligence and like smooth and like see who this girl is, what's going on, and really get my facts in order so that when I do approach him about the situation, either it's this girl trying to get at him or it's like a mutual they're like having a little thing behind

my back and then take it from there. Yeah well, yeah, Caroline, I agree with that too. You gotta get a little bit more information, but definitely don't let it uh pass by without any further I don't know, judgment or like research, because it sounds like there might be something um going on and that would necessarily like yeah, yeah, so keep keep that in mind. But we wish you the best.

And I'm sure, I mean, I'm hoping that it really was just the work thing, but I would say just using like the surface test, it might be a little something more. But we hope you the best. Hope the best for you. Thank you so much. You guys appreciate it. Thank you, thank you. What's going on, Graham? Welcome to the podcast. How are you? I'm all right. How are you guys doing? Thank you for going in. What's what afflicks to you today? Uh? Well, I mean so I've been with my girl for a bit over a year.

We just celebrated our year anniversary about two three weeks ago, thank you. And about a week later, they had a girl's trip out to Vegas. It was one of her close friend's birthdays and they went out and um, which was great. You know, I got a little time to myself. She went out with her girls. She comes back, but and she shows me this new tattoo. I mean, I love I love her. I just gotta tell you, I love her. I think she is the one. I think this is gonna work out, Like that's it for me.

I can't imagine my life without anybody else, which is great. But in this tattoo, she's looking at me, and she's looking at me with this approval, and she's showing me that she had my name tattooed on like really small on her ribs. And I don't know. I don't know. It's there's like like I just started feeling this pressure. So she got Graham tattoo on her ribs in Las Vegas on a girl's trip. Yes, yes, I mean it

could have been worse. She could have been been like Graham. Look, I got a tattoo of a guy named Mike on me. What I'm saying, I feel like when girls go on girls trips and their boyfriends are at home, they're just assuming like all these bad things are happening. But if your girl came home with your name tattooed on her ribs, that like wife her pressure there, she's got a bad like serious about you. I agree. I think this is all good things for your Graham and I like that.

I like that, but there's a bit of pressure, you know what I mean? Like, I know, I feel like she's the one, But do I have to now like propose in a week? Is this what that's meaning? Like I suddenly feel like, oh do I things are moved? Like do things have to move fast? Now? You know, don't overthink it. I think she just got a tattoo of you, which is really yeah, I mean forward, but

are you guys been Dane for a while. I don't see any reason why you think you should like fast forward the proposal of the marriage now, becauseides all the pressure is on her. I mean, if it doesn't work out, she's the one who's get tattoo removed. Exactly true. And I wouldn't say it's that so much pressure because I

feel like she did it spontaneously. She didn't like premeditate saying like, oh, like the next step in my relationship is getting a tattoo of his name when I'm in Vegas with the girls trip, you know, like it was like a spur of the moment, like I love this man or whatever, I'm going to get his name on me, and I think he'll love it and it'll just be like for Funzies and like, yeah, yeah, I agree. It's

a good point. I think a good way to get rid of some of the pressure to Grammys, you could just have her get Cracker on the other side of it as well, and that way she's just a big fan of like Honey Grams or something like that. I'm not gonna lie, I was saying the exact same thing, and then so she could do one rib Graham the other rib cracker and then on the lower back it would say s'mores, or you could do chocolate and marshmallow, like chocolate marshmallow on the back, and then you know

she is a smore. There's there's options. But I do agree with Storena. I think it's hot. I think it's great, and I think that she loves to do and I know the pressure is definitely there. Um, but just keep in mind if it does end up going south at any point, she does have a fallback and she can just get a small tattooed on her lower back and all will be well, man, it's crazy that I'm that

easily replaceable by a delicious snack. No, you're not. It's just it's if I would say she's using the tattoo against you, saying like I got your name tattooed on me. You need to do this, this, this, and this for me, then I'd be like, I didn't ask you to do that, Bute and Graham, I got news for you. I've been married for three years. We are very replaceable by a delicious snack. If Ashley had to choose between myself or nachos, I honestly don't know what you'd picked right now in

the moment, probably nachos thousand nachos. Um could always you could always butt and get a tattoo of your own as well, just something something along the same lines as that. I don't know that it might be more of a commitment to ye talking about pressure, yeah really yeah yeah, but Graham, thanks for calling, man. We appreciate it. Thank you, luck with everything, and I mean you're in this for life now, so about thanks man. You guys have a

good one. Thanks a lot for everything. Appreciate it all right, see you, buddy. Our third and final caller is Claire. Welcome to what their pleasure it is to have you? He thank you. What's going on in life of Claire today? Oh we're launching right in right, Yeah, that's how we do it here. Um. So I've I've been with my boyfriend for about five years, um, which is kind of hard to believe. Um, and you know it's uh well

a little bit of a delicate subject. But um, we're kind of lucky if we're able to have sex like once a week. Um that's you know, on a good week. Um. So I wouldn't say that it like affects our relationship or you know, you know, we're happy. It's just kind of like is it normal? I mean, we're just kind of like tired at the end of the day. I am pretty much tend to just like watch Netflix and go to sleep. So I'm wondering if we should be making more of an effort to like make the time. Yeah,

I mean five years is a long time. I think once a week after five years, that's, uh, that's pretty good in my book. I gotta say, what do you think? Yeah, I mean when you said once a week, I was like, all right, hot and heavy, good job. And then you're like, oh, that's a bad thing. Never mind, Okay, I gotta read You're like, we're having too much sex. We're having sex once a week. It's too much. I guess it's all relative, right, I mean, yeah, I don't know. I think that's great.

I think if you guys can keep doing it once a week, I think most people would agree that that's, uh, that's pretty good. I don't know. I'm I'm curious. So Serena has been in a relationship for six months. We're not gonna ask her to get into the nitty greedy of your of her sex life, but what do you think about once a week, Serena. Um. I just feel like if both partners are equally initiating the sex, then

then it's a common understanding. But if one person is doing it more than the other, or the one person is just you know, not there, then I feel like there's a conversation that can be had. M h. Yeah, that's a good that's a good bit of advice. I saw this. I saw this video on TikTok the other day about this exact scenario and the therapist, and she

was like a sex therapist. She was saying that rather than talking about like giving pleasure to your partner whatever it is, make it seem like you guys are both doing something like you're both like escaping into each other's bodies for like a fun amount of time and essentially like you're going on like a like a vacation of sorts, you know what I mean. So I think I think a lot of it has to do with like psychologically, like just like making it seem less of like a

chore and more of like an adventure, you know. Yeah, especially in five years is a long time to be in a relationship. I mean, Kaitlin and I have been in a relationship for three years my girlfriend and I mean we definitely have seen like a downtick in terms of frequency, which I think is pretty standard. But um, five years, once a week, I mean I'm impressed. I think I think that's pretty good in my opinion. Okay, great.

I was worried to be like a red flag. It's a red flag, like Serena said, is if one of you are not getting satisfaction with what you need. I think that would be the only thing. If one of you has more sexual needs than the other and you're like once a week is not doing it for me, and the other person is like, well I'm fine, then that's a red flag because then you know, you've got to make sure that you know you're happy in a lot of different departments within a relationship and then includes sex.

So yeah, definitely definitely. Well hopefully that helps Claire. Um yeah, just uh, you know you're doing something right, so keep doing it and best of luck moving forward. Hopefully our advice doesn't lead you too far straight here. But thank you so much for calling in. No, thank you. I feel like we should get gold stars now. Everyone gets a gold Star participation medal. Yeah, Thank you guys so much.

I really appreciate it. Thank you for calling in. All right, well that's gonna do it for our color segment, our fifth color segment we've ever had, and they're just getting better and better and better, especially with screena here giving out the great advice. Um Trina, thank you for guests co hosting with us this week. You really appreciate it. Thank Yeah, it was a lot of fun. We are excited to see you and you're badass NFL agent boyfriend to take over the world the distance, but I'm confident.

I mean I you talked pretty highly about them. I could definitely say, Um, I had one more thing I wanted to say, Oh yeah, best of luck on your on your well you already moved to Miami, but best of luck, like you know, getting up to speed and all that kind of stuff out there and challenge came to you. I just looked up you guys, and congrats when your kids gorgeous. Thank you and I appreciate it and treating you well. Thank you. Traveling traveling more than

I have. But yeah, well I'm unemployed, so I all I have time to do is travel these days. But unemployed, that's what we call it unemployed. I started telling people I'm retired. I don't know, that's even better. It's even better. They're like, wait, what you are I'm like, no, not really, I just I'm sick of telling people I want to employed. Um, Jared, I saw a Topic on the other day and it was good. Kaylin wanted to see it really bad. We saw a top Gun and she said it was the

best movie she's ever seen. It's so freaking good. It's just good. So it was good. Miles Teller is awesome. There were a couple of things, a couple of scenes where I was like, it's like super like over the top, but generally overall I was I was. I was impressed. I like almost cried a couple of times. And I don't even think I remember seeing the original Topic that. I'm like, why am I so emotional watching this movie? Do you need to see the original to see the

new one? I don't think so. I mean it helps. Kylen watched the original the day before going to see the second one, and she said it helped. But like I said, I hadn't seen the first one in like twenty years, and I was still getting emotional in the movie. Theater. So I just wanted to say that. I just want to say, your boy did it, did it well? Um? But three thanks again for joining us. We appreciate it. We can't wait to check in with you again sometime soon. Yeah,

best of luck with everything. Travel safe. If you hit some turbulence, just hold on for dear life. I guess I'm saying Jared was saying you always looked at the flight attendants for approval, and like I literally made a story on my aser about this. It's just like when all the scared passengers are looking at me and I'm just like terrified inside, but I have to smile. Okay, so you are terrified on the inside or not? Calm great, this is awesome. What a way to leave off. Can't

wait to fly again. You can start messing with people and just like looking terrified every time you hit a bump, like I don't know, that'd be pretty funny, but that would be so funny. The one time I did look scared, like it was just fear, like fear, I was just strict staring at If I saw the flight attendant look scared, as I would die of a heart attack because I'd be convinced we're going down. She they know something I don't. They know something I don't. The pilot's talking to them. Hey,

there's never been an accident do to turbulence. Just keep that in mind next time. Um, but yeah, we gotta we gotta wrap this step. So Serena, thanks again, best luck with everything. Jared, I love you. I'll see you next week, maybe when we stuck a little bit less. Oh wait, actually you know what. I won't be here next week. I'll be in Pakistan. So, um, maybe Jared'll suck a little bit less and next time you guys hear from me, I'll suck a lot a bit less

because a couple of weeks. So don't don't suck in Pakistan, bro, don't suck in Pakistan. Great, all right, we'll see you guys later. Follow help by suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast