Dean and Jared's Q&A Live on Stereo!

how's it going over there? Oh? You know, just live in the dream right now on the East Coast, it's actually quite nice. Uh. You know, Ashley and I are planning to watch Christmas movie. I'm thinking Christmas Vacation. That's personally my favorite Christmas movies of all time. Elf is up There to Home Alone is a great one. Um. Ash wants me to see Best Man's Holiday. I've actually never seen it, so that's another one we have to watch before December. But other than that, Man, we are

doing well. How was How is things over on the West coast? West Coast is good weather, It's perfect. It's gonna be a very warm Christmas out here this year. Although I don't plan on being here for Christmas. It's nice to know that I can play some golf leading ups for the next couple of weeks before I get out of here. It's a little bit different than I think you're experiencing out there, But eventually I'm gonna drive up to Montana and celebrate with my brother whilst quote

quote celebrate with my brother up there. But Jared, we have a very special stereo episode today for our listeners. Right, we have a Q and A that you put out there on Instagram. We're gonna be answering some questions live here on the Stereo app, like we just said, and we're excited. We're excited to be on the stereo app. We've never really well we've done a live podcast before, but we've never done a live audio podcast on stereo, and what better way to kick it off than here.

But I gotta say your avatar is spot on. That's what I said. I made it, and someone said I didn't look all that cool, and I was like, you know, I think it looks exactly like I do. But yeah, well that doesn't necessarily mean it looks cool, but it just looks exactly like right, Well, that's that's kin. I see you have a little so you have a little heart under your left eye. Yeah, that's just kind of like, you know, that's how I see myself. I I wish I could get a face that too. I just don't

think the society is ready to handle that yet. Uh. Also, I think you're a little too tan in your avatar than you're in real life. But I tried to give myself a little color. You know, I'm not going to make myself pale on this thing. Yeah, that's fair. That's fair, all right. Jared asking some questions, Man, what do you got for us? All right? So we asked some questions on the help I Stuck at Dating Instagram, which, again, if you're not following us, go follow us. It's a

grand old time. Um. And this is some of the response that we got from Suck Army, which, if you're new to this podcast, help us Suck at Dating. We of course referred to our wonderful listeners as suck Army, which did and I have a little is pump musical rendition of sucks suck, suck, suck suck everybody. So that's always fun. Um. So, anyway, the first question from our help. I suck a dating Instagram is for you, Dean ers It's uh says what was it like the first time

Dean met Kalin's family, which I believe very recent. Yeah, so I've actually met her family kind of in two different scenarios. She's got a grand grandparents live in Las Vegas, and her uncle and aunt live in uh in the same neighborhood, and so I met them a while ago. But just this past Thanksgiving, I finally got the chance to go and meet her her parents in Virginia, her siblings. And it's always a stressful time. I gotta say. I mean, I'm sure you can attest to this as well. It's

like meeting someone's family for the first time. Is it's just a lot. It's like, you know, you have to kind of like hunker down and get ready for like some big, deep, serious conversations and um, you know, put your best foot forward. We were there for like two days and so it's you know, it's forty eight hours of of trying to impress and like prove to her father that I'm like a you know, uh, what's the word capable? Man? No, Uh, what's the word I'm looking for?

Not capable but like deserving of Klin's affection and love and all those things, you know. So it's it's pretty stressful, I guess. But at the end of the day, I think pretty well. I don't want to speak for her family, but I think that, you know, I knocked it out at the park. I like them. I think that they like me at least enough to where there was I really wish we could get I really wish we could get Calin's family on this podcast too. It's kind of

like to hear the different stories. I mean, I'm sure Dean. First of all, they obviously love you. Everybody loves you. You have this warm warmth about you whenever you meet somebody. But I'm curious about what their thoughts were about you before they met you, because I'm confident they fell in love with you as soon as they see you. But uh, sometimes your reputation, You're reputation precedes you reputation. Well here's

the thing too. If and when I become a father and I have a daughter, and in you know, twenty five years after she's born, she brings a guy over for Thanksgiving that you claims to live in a van and doesn't have a job and these things. It's like, I'm gonna not be excited to meet this guy, so uh, it's kind of like a it's it's a bit of an obstacle to overcome, I think, but you know, hopefully I was able to to hurdle it with with with some some aptitude, but I don't know, I don't know.

I it went well for me. I had fun. I met her siblings, who she adoors, and you know, she loves them, and obviously she's really close with her mom and dad, so it was nice to be able to kind of meet them for the first time. It's it was it took a while. It was a year and a half after dating before I finally got the chance to get out there and meet them, which, um, you know, I'm probably is a little little longer than it should have been, but it is what it is, all right.

Another question coming from the Instagram, what's your best pickup line? I heard this pickup line when I was in middle school and it's stuck with me ever since I don't think it's appropriate. I don't think you should really use it. It's pretty funny, I would say. And again, this is twelve year old Dean that would say this just because I thought it was hilarious. Would walk up to a girl and I would say, Hey, is that a mirror in your pocket? And they'd be like, what, No, there's

no mirror in pocket. Your pocket in my pocket and be like, Oh, that's weird because I can see myself in your pants. Oh god, him got him after? That worked? Never, it didn't. It didn't work once. But it's you know, I think it was a little ahead of its time, is really what it was. Yeah, you just you needed to wait another like six or seven years before you're able to drop that. You were just a man before your time. That's all. Let me hear what yours is. Well,

I don't know if I exactly had one. One of my favorites, of course, is are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see. That's always a good one. I'm also looking up some cheesy pickup lines on on the old Internet. One of my favorite is, Hey, my name's Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight? I also like this is a good one. Well here I am.

What are your other two wishes? Hey? Jared, before before you read the next hour will pick up line We've got a message and I want to top to play? Is that okay? Yes, please, Okay, we've never done this before. We're recording live on the stereo app, and so we're learning as we go. It's it's it's been fun. But let's see how this message. Here we go, here we go? Ready? Hey, wait, this question is for Dean. Do you man escape? And if so, what pattern do you do? Do you do

a landing strip? Do you do like a heart? I'm just looking for some inspiration that is from user A one to just some random anonymous user. I guess he sounds like douche. Wow, that's I mean, it's a very personal question. Do I man escape? Story? Short? Is I do man escape? I probably don't do it as frequently

as I should. And it's this is actual. Really it's a good question because I feel like men don't talk about the patterns that they shave into their you know, their pubic regions enough and we should start to normalize this conversation. So I do man escape. I what I like to do is everyone's most men at least have a happy trail that goes from their belly button to

their waistline. And what I like to do is just kind of carry that happy trail down all the way down to the base of you know, my my the genitals, I guess, for lack of a better word, Um, so it's just it's just one continuous line of hair, just a giant landing strip that goes from my belly button down to the base. Uh and then the rest of it is just nice and clean shaven. So that's kind of my that's my method. It's it's it's worked for me. I'm happy with it every time I see it in

the mirror. Um. It detracts from the the the the very embarrassingly small size of my other man parts. So you know, it kind of keeps me, keeps me happy because of all that stuff. Jared, what about you do you man? Escape? You know I used to really stay on top of it. My poor wife. Now you know, once you as you've known, once you get into a relationship, you get comfortable, you start uh losing yourself a little bit. And I would include manscaping and that I'm no I'm

no pattern guy or I'm no landing strip guy. I just you know, I you know, I just shaved the whole thing. I'm a hairy man. If you haven't noticed from my chest hair, very hairy ass, just the lots down there. It's quite growth disgusting. Uh and uh, so I I do my best, not as good as I should, though, but you know, like you said, when you're you know, clean up down there. Uh, the the you know Junior grow you know, he just looks a little bit bigger,

And that's always the nice. Absolutely. Hey, I'll take anything I can get. I need all the advantages, you know, so I appreciate that. So I should do a job. Do you go like electric razor? Do you straight razor? How do you electric razor? All the people who straight razor? That part if you're a man, Uh, you're insane, that's

you're crazy. I've done it a few times, you know, as like a young curious kid in my late teens or like twenties, and I'm never gonna say it ended poorly, but it just it just creates so much just comfort down there. Yeah, it's just do you have are you harry? Uh? In general? Like do you have hair on your butt? Uh? It's a really good question, Jared. Uh. You know, I'm actually I'm pretty hairless for the most part. I don't

really grow facial hair. I don't really go chest chest hair the but I will say, ever since a young boy, all of the hair that I wasn't growing on my face and on my chest and stomach congregated on my butt crack, and so I have a hairy butt crack. I'm not gonna say it's overly harry. I think that it was fully growing the butt crack care when I was like fourteen. It fully grew out, and it just kind of maintained that, you know, that bushy nous ever

since then. So it's not like abnormally bushy down there, but it definitely was the first part of my body that started growing hair was the crack of my butt. And I was actually really self conscious about it for a long time because I would like see my friends growing like beards and you know, mustaches and stuff, and I'd be like, well, I've got butt crack care if that's like any consolation for you guys. But yeah, I

it wasn't. I'm pretty hairy down there, unfortunately. And there was actually on the show there was a group date where there was a wrestling group date where the guys had to wear I forget what they're called, but you know what the sumo wrestlers wear where their butt cheeks show, so the guys had to wear those and think I was dude, I was sweating, for lack of a better phrase, my balls off. I was so nervous that they were gonna put me on this group day and that I

would have to wear this thing. And honestly, I was gonna say no because America was not ready to see my ass cheeks. Uh, And I didn't know what I for a second. I was like, am I gonna have to go up and like just going the shower quickly and try to shave as much as I can. Before you know I, I take off my pants and we do this thing. Thank god that you're telling me you've got hair on your cheeks, Oh dude, Oh yeah, oh yeah.

Not to get t m I, but all over. And one time I shaved, I I shaved everything, and it was the worst decision of my life because it was it was it was itchy, it was uncomfortable, it was so cold. My ass has never been so cold in my life, and it was just it was just uncomfortable. And I was like, never mind, I'm never doing that again. I'm just gonna accept you know me as me, and you know I'm just a little bit of a gorilla down there. And that's quite all right self. Love is

beautiful on the contrary to that story. So my brother is a big I don't I hope he doesn't mind to share the story. I don't think he'll ever know that I shared this story. But he's a big outdoorsman. Uh you know, he hikes and and and goes back country skiing all the time. And he had a month long excursion in Alaska where they sat at the bottom of a of a mountain on a glacier for for an entire month, they slept in a tent, uh you know,

freezing conditions, peeing and pooping outside. And before that trip, for preparation, he got his This is what he told me. Obviously, I don't have anything to confirm the story, but I believe him for for no, I don't don't know why I wouldn't believe him. He got his butt crack waxed, not shaved, but waxed like a Brazilian wax because he

didn't want he wanted to have cleaner poops. Essentially, you know, you don't want to have to worry about a dirty butthole when you're out in Alaska skiing glaciers every single day for a month. And he said it was the most incredible experience of his life. You know, he said that he moved more freely. And I wonder if the waxing is different than that's shaving, and that's what maybe makes the difference there. But he said, that's waxing permanent.

Absolutely not, Okay, just yeah, you know the more you know, absolutely not. We have another we have another voice question. Do you have baby names picked out for your future children? Ah? So user Becky. Becky wants to know, can you last? Becky wants to know do you have Jared? This actually kind of more pertains to you and actually because hey, you plan on having kids, But do you guys have

a child names picked out? We do, Well, we have one name picked out and Ashley, Ashley likes it for both sexes, where I just like it as a dude. So we have a name. We don't we're not saying what it is. But if it's a boy, if we have a boy, uh, then we we definitely have a name picked out. If we have a girl, we have to discuss further because the name I don't think suits a girl as well as a boy. So, but we got name picks out. We talked about it, you know, we just will you tell us what it is? No,

we said we were not gonna say anything. Yeah, yeah, I don't know if you're heard in the background. My my wife a k A. The you know, devil on my shoulder who's always lottoming and just waiting to pounce. Uh, is told me not saying anything, so sorry on your shoulder, but also the angel on the other shoulder, she's both. I think, all right, I have names, I'll share them. I'm not I'm not a scared little bitch like you, Jared. This is ridiculous, I think so. I think I was

listening to someone. Some people were saying the effort, So I think it's free, free game. Um, if I have a boy, I'm gonna I'm gonna name him a Hunter. And if I have a girl, I'm gonna name her Debbie. Uh. And I understand Debbie is kind of a dated name, you know, it's kind of more of like a boomer name for lack of a better the word. But I think I think everything is cyclical, and I think that name will come back into into style. I also don't hear the name Alex. I think Alex can go either

girl or guy. So, um, those are the three names that I'm kind of like, you know, leaning towards. I like Debbie. That's cute. Yeah, thanks, thanks, Yeah, I like Debbie. I really like Hunter. Hunter was the name of my best friend that died when I was like really young, and so I've always wanted to like let his legacy live on through that. You should totally do that. I just think it's a badass name too. It's like, you know, even if I wasn't doing it to commemorate my friend,

I still think it's a cool name. You would totally give birth to a Hunter like that is just like the ultimate Dean child Hunter, because I think of Sean Hunting is pretty good. Yeah, I think of Sean Hunter the Boy Meets World and Sean Hunter is like one of the coolest characters to have a grace my television screen, And like I could totally see and give birth to a Hunter and him being like just a full school didn't he adopt like a drug addiction at some point

on that show? Um No, I don't think so. I heat No, there was an episode where they tried alcohol and like Sean had like a sip or two and got so drunk and Corey was like traumatized watching that episode back in age the best. It was definitely like catered to scare you know, twelve year old little Jared not to drink, and it worked right right, it worked never drink out all in his life. All Right, we're gonna do another voice question here. I'm gonna press the

button this time. I don't know if I pressed the last time, but I'm pressing it again. What is your favorite thing about each other? Oh, that's a favorite question. I'm like, like I'm blushing. I'll let you, Dared go first. My favorite thing about Dean, there's so many. Probably my favorite thing about you, Dean is just your overall, uh,

your your overall personality. It's hard to quantify you into a single sentence, but you always have a smile on your face, always make people around you feel very comfortable. I think one of the things that I really love about you most is the fact that you just you truly care about other people's feelings to the point where you want to make sure that everybody's happy and smiling. And you'll go out of your way to make sure other people are doing okay, and not everybody possesses that

quality and you do. That's one of my favorite things about you. Oh man, it's so great to hear you say nice things about me. I love it. It doesn't happen often, so don't get used to it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. My favorite thing about Jared, I think is it's funny enough. It's it's it's ironic because the thing that I like most about Jared is also kind of the thing that

I make fun of him the most. Four. I really like how Jared gets so excited about like the nerdiest things like Star Wars, Disneyland movies, you know, just the boy bands, all of those things. Uh. And I think the reason I make fun of you for it is because I'm envs of your ability to, like, you know, be so passionate and excited about these things. Um. And so I really admire that that characteristic that you're able to You have, you know, really good passion and really

strong passion for those types of things. And well, I think that buddy, Yeah, I think I think one of the reasons I admire you so much for that is because that's something that I wish that I could see more in myself so I could keep that up. Buddy, it's thank you. Well, it's funny because I feel like that's one of the things that actually and I really bonded over when we first started becoming friends and then ultimately, uh you know, partners, uh, partners in crime, Bonny and Clyde.

Really that's what they call us. Yeah, But as everybody knows, Ashley has no shame, and that's one of her best qualities is the fact that she is just so transparent and she is passionate and lets everybody knows what she loves. And I'm very similar to that. I I played a little bit more close to the chest, but the chest, but once like you know, somebody brings up something that I'm really passionate about, then like they see the other side of me. And so that's one of the things

that really bonded over early. What's the next question, Dean, let's play it. I know you're in relationships now, but when you guys were dating, what was your number one non negotiable deal breaker? Like we need to know, like we need to nap a non negotiable breaker I have.

I had a pet peeve when we were dating. I went on a date one time and the girl that I went on was just very ignorant to the bar and waite staff, and I cannot stand that, especially hospitality background, like when somebody comes over and introduces themselves, or if they're a bartender and they say hello, make eye contacts, say hello back, don't you know, wave your hand. I just remember the waiter came over and he started doing his spiel. You know, He's like, I'm so insolve be

taking care of you. These are specials, and like halfway through, she was like, oh, I'll take a pomegranate martini. And it was like, you know what, No, you won't, because this state's over. You just confronted them. She didn't even look at the waiter when she said it. She was looking down at the menu, and I was like, you know, how you treat other people is a big, big factor in whether I want to go on a second date with you. So that was definitely a deal breaker. Nice, Yeah,

that's a good one. I would say my biggest deal breaker would be, uh, this is kind of like a weird blanket that doesn't apply. But I'll get more specific as I explain it is, uh just close mindedness. So uh, you know, for things like religion or politics, you know, those things are naturally going to come up in conversation. And if people like have your beliefs whatever they are,

that's great. But if you like just choose to not even just like try to see the other perspective on things like religion, politics, and obviously other things kind of down that lane, that's kind of a big deal breaker for me because, uh, you know, like I said, believe what you want to believe. That's perfectly fine, but I think that it's you still should at least take the time to try and see it from other people's perspectives as well, And if you can't do that, then that's

a big deal breaker for me. Completely agree. Yeah, i'd say both those things that we just discussed, and if you're a New York Jets fan, deal breakers see it. But oh the Jets fan, huh I'm I'm I'm I'm half kidding. See, I think you're kind of be like a turn on for someone to be like a Raiders fan, you know, uh why, Oh you're a Broncos fan. That's right, Yeah, I could see that. There's like a line, right, like

Ashley and her family are Giants fans. That's a little bit of rivalry, you know, seeing how they beat his toys and Super Bowls that I can have fun with. But if they were Jets fans and I was like surrounded by green and white New York Jets paraphernalia everywhere, I'd be like, you know what, this is kind of

disgusting and I lose respect for you. Yeah. Well, I guess I think it's kind of hot in the sense that, like disgusted has to be one of the strongest emotions humans can feel, you know, So like if I'm disgusted by the black and silver, or in your case, the blue and white, or after the green and white, whatever the heck Jets colors are, uh, it just I think it's just kind of like, you know, create some passion there,

so like heated. Yeah, no, I could totally see, like, you know, some some passionate moments being made that could be quite fun. But in terms of like a long sustaining relationship, yea, not having it? Sure? Sure? Well, I mean yeah, because unfortunately you don't have to deal with that all right, next question, we're going to get into it right here. Hi, I'm going on a first date with this guy that I met on a dating app. Do I show up early and sit in the car

and wait till he shows up? Or get a table first? Or do I show up a little bit late? What's the best way to go about the situation? Thank you so much for the question. I know, and a great name, Nancy. That's my mother's name. That was Nancy. I have an aunt Nancy, who I adore. So yes, all around, A great name and a great question, and it's it's one that we actually I don't think we've ever even discussed on our podcast. I want to say, I hope we disagree on this, but I want to say, just show

up when you show up. Who cares if you're early? Who cares if you're a little bit late. Time is just the number that we assigned to the position of a son. It's like, who cares if you're five pence early five minutes late? If you do show up earlier, though, Nancy, if you do show up early, do not just wait in the car, Go inside, get a table, Maybe you order yourself a drink. You know, it depends what if

you drink. If you don't drink, don't but you know what I mean, there's no need to just kind of sit in the car and wait, just go in, hang out and then when he texts you or whatever that he's there, like, great, I'm inside, come on in, you know. Leave it up to the guy living in a van to tell Nancy it doesn't matter if you show up on time. Time is relative being an hourly. Who cares? What the reason? Yeah? Um? No. Well, first of all, Nancy, thank you so much for the question. Of course, we

are on the stereo app right now recording live. This has helped by second dating, dany babies, and myself uh answering questions. This one comes from Nancy. So shouldn't she be on time for a date? I think so? I think being on time? Uh. One of the turnoffs for me is when somebody's running late and they don't let me know, and they're like, I don't mean like five minutes late, that's fine, But if you're running like fifteen twenty minutes late, already a bad taste in my mouth.

I think there are different rules for a guy and a girl. I think for Nancy, you're fine not showing up early. Um, you can show up right on time or even five minutes late if you want, but be you know, be respectful of other people's time frames. If you do get there early, my suggestion is don't go to the table. My suggestion is checking with the host dam let them know you're there, and then go to the bar. Like Dean said, even if you don't want to drink, order yourself water or you know, coke. Uh,

you know, do whatever you want. But for some reason, I find it quite sexy when if I show up there the woman that I'm on a date with is at the bar. I don't know why. Maybe it's just me working at bars all my life. But because you've seen one too many James Bond movies or something, you know, I always envisioned myself being James Bond when I go on. It's especially when I fall on a full text. You know, I walk up, I order a strawberry jack ory shake

and not stirred. Um. It's good stuff. I will say too. Just to be clear, Nancy, I don't think you should intentionally be late. I think that plan to get there on time, but sometimes life gets in the way and slows you down a little bit. And so if you end up being late, like Jared said, just communicated clearly, uh, and say hey, I'm gonna be five ten minutes later,

however long it is. Because I agree with Jared, if you don't even communicate that you're going to be late, that's very frustrating, just like cand of keep the other person in there now. Yeah, don't be You could be fashionable, fashionably late, but let them know, be respectful of somebody

else's time. Alright, next question. Hi, So I have kind of an unrelated question, but a bunch of my friends are considering getting back with their exes because of quarantine, and I was just wondering if you had any advice on how to tell them to not do that. Yeah, remember why you guys broke up in the first place. Yeah, yeah, I definitely. It's funny because I feel like, I think this question from a few other people like that I'm

friends with. Uh, it's just like convenient and comfortable and you kind of know what you're gonna be getting yourself into. It doesn't come with a prerequisite of we're just gonna be together for quarantine and then break up again afterwards. I personally don't think it's a good idea. I think Jared probably agrees with that. It's just like, like, like Jared said, it's like, why did you break up with

them in the first place? Are those problems resolved? I think that when we start to like kind of think about our exes when we're single and lonely, we kind of romanticize the relationship and only remember the good things about it and forget about all of the reasons why we broke up with them in the first place. So at least to bad things. Yeah, I agree, I think Unfortunately, I think the user name was Alison. Thank you Alison

for that question. Uh, listen, Unfortunately, sometimes your friends just don't listen to you. They have to experience it for themselves. And so even though you know it's a bad idea for them to get back together with their X, I feel like the only way for them to realize that it's a bad idea is by getting back together with them and then being reminded of all the reasons why

they broke up. So, unfortunately, the best course of action might be for them to get back together with them and then realize a couple of weeks in like, oh, that's right, there's a reason as to why this has ended because there's there's a difference between someone telling you it's not gonna work and then it actually not working.

I agree, And it is kind of it's it kind of like closes the door on it completely, where it's like maybe you would have spent some time wondering whether it would work again or not, and sometimes you just need like that that that, yeah, you get some closure. All right, Jared, we're gonna try something here. So it said there's someone waiting a mind to talk to us. Are you ready to talk to someone? I'm a little scared. I'm not gonna lie. We don't usually do this dating.

I'm pressing the button here on the stereo app. It's me and Jared talking live with someone. Here we go, Oh, change partner. No, I don't want to change partner. Oh, I'm just kidding. We're going to ask you, okay. Claire and Dale have me questioning love at first sight, and I want to get your ays as perspective on that. Is that real? Do you think love at first sight is real? Or is that just a factuation? I don't know. I need to know. I need to know more on that.

I don't know. I need to know. I'm sorry making fun of it's only it's only because we love them so much and they're so near and neared our hearts. And thank you so much for listening. What was what was your name toward Bell? Yeah? Yeah, well you know that was Tori are one of our very very favorite listeners, and she has made it very clear that she is our biggest fan and said, Tory, we appreciate that question. She stalks us both it's kind of like creepy sometimes,

like she just constantly d ms or comments. It's like getting a little moms. We appreciate the love and the comments. There is just being facetious love at first sight. I don't know if I necessarily believe in love at first sight. I don't. Uh, I don't know, maybe just because I've never experienced it myself, so it's hard for me to rally behind the idea of it. But it's hard to imagine like just that happening for me. What do you think? Well, my wife would kill me for saying this, but I

do not believe in love at first sight either. She does, she said, and it's the sweetest, most endearing thing, and it's so great because she says that she fell in love with me at first sight, which is so Disney and fantastic and I love every second of it for Dale and Claire. I don't know, it's so hard. How do you know the difference between love and lust? Literally the first time you set eyes on someone? Like, how

does how can you have listen? I'm well, I'm a believer in emotional intelligence, but like, my god, how much I'm more should intelligence must you need for you to be able to decipher the difference between love and lust? Literally the second lay eyes on someone, Like, I don't know if I can buy into that or not, because like, here's what, Here's what I think love at first sight is even a thing is because, like you just said, we're lusting for someone. We see someone, we're like, Wow,

that person is really hot. I wanted to know them better, And then when they get to know them better, they realize that they do love them as well when we like that. The reason that love at first sight exists is because we're always reminded of the success stories of love at first sight, and we're we always forget about

the failures which happens to us. You know, nine nine out of a hundred times love at first sight fails at us because we're attracted to someone at a bar, we go up and talk to them, we realize we have nothing in common, and then we move on. We we don't hear these stories. We hear the I walked up to them, we fell in love, and now we're married with three kids kind of thing. Um, that's kind of why how many times have you heard or I've

heard it before? We're like they someone says they thought it was love at first sight and then it proves itself that it wasn't love at first sight and it didn't work out. And like, I I completely agree with you, Dean. I think, listen, there's you know, you might feel those those you know, infatuation feelings right away and then you

grow into love with someone, and that's fantastic. But I don't think like because it also you know what it like really just devalues what I believe love is by saying you can truly love someone, uh, only by seeing them for you know, ten seconds, fifteen seconds, Because like, love is complicated, and it's intense, and it's hard sometimes and it takes effort and and like you know, it

takes trust, and there's so much that goes into love. Um, The idea for me personally, that something so heavy can happen so instantaneously is something that I just choose not to believe because I feel like a d values what I think love is. Yeah, well said, well said? All right, well guys, we are recording live here on the stereo app. Still we have a couple more questions. We're gonna get

to this next one right now. My question is for Jared. Jared, I am a diehard Jets fan, and I know you are a diehard Patriot fan, So I'm wondering, how is it living with a Giants fan after they beat you twice in the Super Bowl? Oh? Wow? Yeah, Jetman coming

in hard with the questions. Uh. You know, when I first met Ashley's parents and we went downstairs, I saw a blow up poster of Tom Brady getting sacked by Michael Strahan and Super Bowl for you two, and it just maybe want to leave the house and never come back. But luckily we've won three Super Bowls since we lost twice to the Giants, So honestly, the Giants losses don't even hurt me that much anymore. I mean, we've won six for Christ six, Like, how much more can I

possibly ask for where the best of all time? No other franchise has ever won six Super Bowls in the span of twenty years. Like, hey, it's pretty good. You know, I could be worse. I could be a Jets fan. Dang think I hate Patriots fans. You guys are such losers. Oh, it's so easy to be a fan of the best team for the past two decades. Yeah, congratulations on your six Super Bowls. Why don't you try having a freaking losing season for once in your life. Oh, you're gonna

have one this season, and you're gonna cry about it. Yeah, I can't wait to see you cry about this losing season. You guys are dude. It sucks. That's why. Like I never took for granted in the past twenty years. It was like, I know that someday this is gonna end and it's gonna suck afterwards. So like, I'm going to enjoy this as long as possible. And trust me, I know where you're coming from, because now as an outside

er looking in, God do I hate the Chiefs. I just want the Chiefs to lose well, and the Bills Man Bill's Mafia is real this year, So you got that I know, but the Bills are good like whatever, but the Chiefs are like really good. And you know, people are already like saying Maho, like will Mahomes catch Brady six bowls? And it's like, shut up, can Homes just win a second one before we start talking about six? So I'm getting really tired. The Broncos played them pretty

competitively last week too. I have to say that. I just want to point that out. I like, if you give us a real starting quarterback and not a freaking practice wide receiver to run quarterback for us, we you know, I'm not gonna say we're the best team, but I will say we're more competitive than our record set. Uma, are we gonna try this phone call thing again? Before we sign off? I will have two more questions to

get through. I'm scared if I take the phone call, it's gonna push you out and then bring them in and you won't be on the thing anymore. So one more question. Okay, what is the equivalent of flowers to a guy? Like? For example, a guy can get a girl flowers if like they're sorry or on a first date, But what can a girl get a guy like? That's an item that's equivalent to flowers. I know exactly what

Jared's going to say about this. Do you hear me going in the background shared say no, No, Jared's gonna say, we don't know how, we don't know who's listening, the age demographic that's listening. So I don't think this is an a teen plus platform. So I wasn't gonna give an eighteen plus answer. I was gonna say, Jared is gonna say, just get me flowers, Jared. I think Jared thinks that flowers as a gift can be given to guys as well, Like the male equivalent of getting a

girl flowers is getting a guy flowers as well. Yeah, I gotta be honest, I don't know if I'd be too happy if I actually got me flowers. I'd be soaked. If Kalin got me flowers, I do feel I feel so cool about that. What type of flower would you want? Would you want roses? You know? I roses are very cliche, I gotta say, but I still wouldn't hate Maybe just like a nice medley of flowers. Yeah, I don't know.

I don't see why flowers have to be so gender specific, you know, I don't why not just get your boyfriend flowers for that listener that that sent that question, Hannah, I think what's your name? Um, Hannah? If you if you made your boyfriend upset and you want to do something to make him feel better, just get him some flowers. I think you'd really appreciate it. Or maybe buy him you know called duty cold war. Uh, maybe get him like a platter of wings from ling Stop. I think

all of these are are adequate. It is kind of funny though, when you think about like flowers are seen as like this universal gift that all women love, and like there isn't like I'm trying to think of something towards a guy that you can get him, Like I

don't even know a TV? Is that? Like? You know? Well, it's funny because Caroline was talking about what she's gonna get me for Christmas and I was like, the only thing that I want that I don't have right now is an Xbox, like the new Xbox just came out, and she was like, I've tried so hard to get you a new Xbox, but they're sold out everywhere. So if anyone works for Microsoft and listening to this live recording on the stereo app of help. I second dating,

Please send me an Xbox for Christmas? Very much. All right, we're gonna get to the next question. Here we go. What has been the silver lining of That's a good question, you know. Here what do you think has been the silver lining this year? The spardine? I think it allows us to like realign our priorities and our interests. You know,

there was a bunch of stuff mid quarantine. I remember seeing that was like if if you have an excuse not to do something and it was time and you still haven't done it during the quarantine, then you don't have an excuse that It's not that you don't have time, it's that you're lazy. And so it's kind of allowed

us to like maybe see ourselves more clearly. You know, because a lot of people are working from home, a lot of people are furloughed or you know, collecting unemployment and are hoping to get back into the workforce eventually, and so a lot of us have a lot of time on our hands to do things, and I think a lot of us are kind of taking that for granted. And um, you know, I I see myself do all the time too. It's like you know, I've gotten a

lot done. I've learned how to play the saxophone. I've worked on my van a lot, I've done a bunch of other things that I've I've wanted to do for a long time. And I finally have been able to use this as as kind of like the catalyst to push me there. But then I also feel myself kind of like sliding into these lazy rets where I just played too much call of duty or you know, I've play a lot of golf, which is fun for me, but maybe not the most constructive thing for my life overall.

So I think it really kind of like allows us to see ourselves more clearly. You know. Yeah, I agree. First of all, we need more videos if you playing the saxophone, because I need to see the progress in this. You were posting and then you stopped. Yeah, I I haven't taken a lesson probably in a good two or three months. Uh. And it's you know, it's it'll get there. I think once we moved to our own house and I finally have like a recording studio per se, I'll

be able to to practice a lot more. So. Ah um, Well, so I think for me, the silver lining for twenty luckily has been the time we've been able to spend with family um as as funny as it was to quarantine at my parents, you know, my my in laws for for three months. Really, UM, the idea of like, I mean, that's just never gonna happen again. You know that that that time that actually was being able to spend with their parents because we were quarantined, like, that's

probably never gonna happen again. So that was definitely a still aligning the ability to just really be with be with family. UM. Once again, we are on the stereo app uh coming to you live help by Second Dating. It's Pappy's dad A K. Dean and myself JAREDY and we're gonna answer one more question on the app uh. Dean, you want to press play because you've been doing it. I don't want to screw it up. Here we go, Jared, what is your best piece of a marriage advice? But well, Dean,

I think you can answer this to saying how you're married. Um, best marriage advice would be whoever you're going to marry, just don't forget that this is somebody that you're going to have a conversation with every day. Multiple times a

day for the rest of your life. And so I would just say, make sure whoever you're going to marry that you know you have a friendship with, because this person will ultimately become your best friend, whether they are or they're you know, whether they're your actual best friend or not, because you just spend so much time with

this person. Luckily, for Ashley and I, you know, we're obviously very close friends for quite some time before we started dating, and I, you know, I've seen the difference in this relationship compared to previous ones, um because of that strong foundation that you know, we were able to luckily build. Um, you know, just coincidentally, just because you know, obviously I was a little hesitant jumping into a relationship

with her. We don't have to go down that story, but I would say that's my best advice is the idea that like this person that you're going to marry, which you hope to spend the rest of your life with, is somebody that you will ultimately become best friends with, whether you want to or not. UM. So I think I think that you're a big thing for a successful marriage, speaking from experience as well, is insparency and communication and I know, like you you hear that beat to death.

And I'm not talking about communication like talking about your feeling obviously, talk about your emotions and your feelings and your desires and your requirements and all those things. That's that's very, very important. But I think transparency in the

sense of everything across the gambit. Like Kalen for instance, you know, she has her her face, uh log into my phone, my passwords, she can log into any one of them, like, not that she ever would, don't like she never would log onto my Instagram, but like she has the ability to at any point. We have you know, each other's like bank logins, we know each other's credit scores, we like everything like she like she literally is an

extension of me. And if anything, if I ever needed to get into like I'm like logging into my Facebook sometimes and I'm like, hey, do you remember my Facebook password? And she'll like tell me that. And I just think that that has kind of allowed us to have like a deeper understanding and trust in each other. Um. And so that is my advice for all transparency. I think

that's great advice. Yeah, yeah, well, I think that's going to do it for our live Stereo episode, Jared, we recorded live on the Stereo apps for the first time, and I think we're gonna do this a few more times actually, so be sure to follow Help I Suck a Dating be sure to download the Stereo app in the app store. Uh, and we'll kind of keep you guys posted if and when we do this again, because it's nice to be able to hear live questions, um

and answer them here live as well. And and the live kind of adds a whole new dynamic to it, you know. If we're recording prerecorded on the Help I Suck a Dating podcast, we can like take things out, but this not so much. Whatever we say sticks around forever. So uh, what do you think? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, alright, we're gonna say by now. I'm sorry I was reading something while I was while I was saying the Fords, So we're gonna say by now. Thank you guys for

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