Dating Questions and Sucky Answers!

your stories. I had a customer coming to Audrey's who said they wanted to call in help us like a dating that they had a question that would be amazing. I know, I was like, call in, get email us, let us know. I mean, it's kind of a lot. You have to email us and be like, hey, I want to call in, and then after you email us, you have to actually call in. You know, we we put our listeners to work. You guys are doing a

great job. Though even better, you could just stop by Audrey's, drop the little hint that you want to be on the show, and then we can finagle some sort of thing to have happening. Yeah, we know some people, but yeah, we know some people, UM, namely ourselves. We let's get to our first call. Let's see what we can bring him into the waiting room here. I think it's Bridget, right, Bridget, our first caller, Bridget either Yeah, Hi, how's it going? Hi? How are you? You sound great? Your audio is so

much better than ours? Really? Wow, that's Carla. How's how's it going over there? Um? It's it's okay. UM. I'm kind of in a new um situation ship with a guy. UM. We've met up about four times so far. Last couple hangouts were initiated by me. UM. In general, I just seem to be more keen to hang out with him than the other way around. UM. He does have a much busier schedule though. UM. I've decided not to initiate another hangout on my own and see if he ends

up doing it. My question is how long do I keep up the texting like waiting for him to an isitiate a date if he is interested and continue to see me. Shouldn't he be initiating a date to UM? Kind of just it's weird that I am the one only making plans for well, i'll tell you what I know. You said. He is a busy guy. But in my head that makes me think that he should be the one making plans more often, because you know what's worse than trying to make plans with someone and being like, hey,

does Monday at six pm work? And they go, no, I'm busy? Does Tuesday at five pm? Work? No? I'm busy? Then all you want to do is be like, okay, well, then you just tell me when you're free and we'll

see if we can make it work. So for me, it sounds like he might not be interested because if he was and it was him being busy, then it would be like he should be the one making the plans, you know what I mean totally, And if you've already been initiating the hangouts, then it's time for him to you know, pull his pants up and say okay, I'm gonna be the ones saying, hey, what are you doing

next Saturday? Because there's only so many times you can be told no. If his when his busy schedule before you're like okay, never mind, then you just tell me. So I would say, let him initiate, and if he doesn't, then obviously he's not worth your time. Okay, yeah, I like that, that's what I think too. And it's how did you guys meet each other? Um, we've met like unhinge like on the apps. You know, those are tricky because, at least in my experience, it seemed like everyone was

always talking like five people. Yeah, and it's just like you could be a tent out of tent, which I'm sure you are, Carla. Uh and for some reason, this person still wants to be talking to three other girls and there's nothing you can do about it. Yeah, It's just that's just the nature of the game, which is

so frustrating. Um. And I do think that makes people less likely to go out of their way to plan stuff because it's like, well, why do I plan something with this person when I have all these other people that are going to plan stuff for me. So I wouldn't sweat it, but I would say take a step back and see if he does anything on his own part to initiate Okay, Yeah, thank you guys so much, appreciate it. Ye bye bye Bridget. How are you welcome

to the podcast? Okay, So I'm calling because of my zooming in because of my boyfriend of two years, almost two years, and we were about to move in together, which was very exciting. Um, and then the other day I accidentally on his phone stumbled into some sects and nudes that he had been My gosh, yeah, he've been sending, not even receiving. Damn sending and receiving. They were both sending and receiving sexts and nudes. Ye were helpful. This

is over? Is it over? That's what I need to see, Okay. So I confronted him about it, and UM, he didn't deny it, obviously because I would be dumb. It was right there. But he said, you know, this is a He said that it was over and that he was really sorry. He didn't really give me a reason. But he also told me there was no physical connection that they had had. Um, he really regretted it. He still loved me. Blah blah blah. You know the story. I told him I needed some space to think about things

and and kind of reassess life. And I'm just I'm I look okay, because I've got a nice like based on him, but I'm I don't know what to do like this. I thought he was the one, and and so I want to give him another chance, and I guess I'm here to to be like should I is this over? Do I do? How long? How long ago were the sex um? It went back three months? And then how long you guys beating? Just almost two years? Yeah? No,

it's this guy sucks. I'm sorry. I know you've built a relationship with him, and uh, I know you guys love each other, but I mean, it's this is cheating. It's not like he was talking to an X or talking to someone new and then it just like escalated and he got uncomfortable, and then it was like, I can't do this. You've been together with two years. He was not only receiving risky photos and knew in his own head that like, okay, this might be crossing the line.

I mean he was sending them. That's like for me that I would be like, okay, then how could you ever trust him? How could you ever go back and anytime he's alone with his phone? How how would your first thought not be He's he's talking to somebody. Shouldn't be. That's That's what I've been wrestling with. That's why I think it just it might be over. I'm sorry, that's my advice. You know how hard it is to meet a person? I mean, this is he was? Is it that?

What's harder dealing with someone like this for the rest of your life or being single and trying to find someone now, you know, I don't know. I don't know either. Actually I do, but I'm I'm being facetious. I agree with Jared. It's those types of situations are so frustrating because the relationship is seldom the same as it was before the infraction, if you will. So it's like, even if things were great, it's hard to imagine them being

good again. Not that you wouldn't be able to get over it, but it does like that's that I don't know. I just I also agree with Jared that it seems like that's kind of like the wine that needs to be drawn. But again, at the end of the day, it's up to you to decide what you're like. Tolerance level is about stuff like that. Um, I don't know. Personally, I don't think I could do it, but you might be a stronger person than me, you know, I don't know.

That's what I'm trying to figure out. I mean, you hear all these things about how like you know, real relationships happen when you like hit a bump like this and you figure out like how you rise above it or how you work together to like keep going. But I just don't know at what point, like you said, where is the line? Like what point do you call it? And you're like, no, this is something I can't get over,

this is something we can work through. Um, and trust is a big issue for me, so um yeah, I mean just because bumps sometimes helped make relationships stronger, doesn't mean you should start driving the car towards the bumps, you know. So I don't know, Like Jared said, I'm out, I'm out of this one. But Bridget, you know, it sounds like you want to work through it, And if

that's what you want, then that's all you need. I think in my opinion, I mean you could try, of course, if you want to work through if you love this guy trying to work through it, But um, you know, I mean obviously the big onus is on him to make him. He needs to make you feel like you can trust him again. So that would be that's a

big hill of the client. That's a really good point, Jared, and I think that's where I'm going to go from here is just like kind of give it a little bit more time and wait and see what he does, see how and if he can make me feel comfortable in this relationship again, and like I trust him because right now I don't, um, and I'm not quite ready to just cut it off. But um yeah, yeah, thank you for listening. Oh my god, of course, Bridget, thank you so much for calling in. Thanks. Will you call

us back with an update? She's gone okay. He said that was good advice, Jared. She never said anything about my advice, and your advice sucked, Bro. That's why I thought the speed bump thing wasn't pretty good analogy. It was. Actually I thought it was a very profound analogy when you said, just because they're speed bumps in the relationships,

it doesn't mean you should be driving. Yeah. I think that should be something on our instagram, you know, like Dean Angler, you know, you should right next to your check mark Instagram. How's it going, Paul, and how's it going good? Welcome to the podcast? What's going on with you? Too much? Yeah? I just wanted to get some help because I suck at dating. So hey, don't we all? Um? So yeah, my thing. So I just got out of

a toxic five year relationship. Congratulations, But I do have a four year old son with my now X. That's the positive, I guess. But yeah, I figured I should go out and meet women. So, you know, I went to some clubs and some bars, and I don't really have friends to go out to those places with because they're all married. Um, so I just decided to go alone. And I've had the best experience every time I go out. You know. The first time I went out, I drank and I had a good time and I actually hooked

up with a pretty girl. And this week, yeah, this week I didn't have any luck per se. But I've met a lot of cool guys that you know, want to hang out and go to bars and clubs and all that stuff with me in the future. So um yeah, I refused to let my past relationship kind of bring me down, but not success just going out alone and

meeting new people. But I want to know, is it weird that I'm going out alone in hopes of meeting a great girl like the girls find a creepy that I have no friends with me at the club of the bar, you know, like I don't want to come across as a creeper. You know, you know who else didn't have friends that they went out to the clubs with Ryan Gosling's character from Crazy Stupid Love, and no

female found him creepy. So you know what, if anybody calls you creepy, just tell them to go watch that movie and see how many friends Ruyan Gosling's is surrounded by at the bar. So the moral of the stories, if you look like grind Gosling, you can just basically do whatever you want. Yeah. I don't know if I have those types of looks, but yeah, then it would be it would be a non issue. Um, it's funny that you say this because I used to think that.

I I think when I was like twenty to twenty two, I would probably be like, WHOA, what's this weirdo doing

by himself? But now I been doing stuff by yourself is like the coolest way to do things, and that includes going to clubs and going to bars, especially like in your case, it's hard to meet girls, right and and if you don't have the friend group to go out to you with clubs and bars because they're all married like you were, saying then, like, the logical solution is to just go by yourself, And I think as long as you're able to adequately explain that to someone

that you're meeting, then it's a non issue. Like, yeah, sure, there's probably single guys that go to the bars by themselves that are creepy, but I don't think that that's gonna That doesn't sound like that's what the person that you are, So I don't know, I don't think it's an issue. I think it's cool. I always am trying to tell Kalin to go do stuff by yourself more often because every time I do something by myself and I like feel i don't know, invigorated and independent, and

I think all of those things are good things. At the end of the day. I'm sure that's exactly what Kalin wants to hear. Klin says, hey, let's go to a picnic and in the park, and Deans like, you know what, you know, what I think is best if you go by yourself to have a picnic in the park. I think it'd be good to go on picking by yourself, I do say, though, She's like, Oh, I really want

to go see this movie. Will you go see it with me and I'm like, no, I don't want to see that movie, just to like kind of test the waters, and then she'ld be like, fine, I'll just go alone and I go. Honestly, that would be awesome if you want to a movie alone. I would never be so

attracted to you. Then I would hearing you do something that, because it takes a lot of balls to do stuff by yourself, like especially in social settings as Paul is talking about here, to go to a social setting where all you need to do is like talk to people and be social. Your friends are always your safety blankets, and if you don't have the friends or the safety blanket there with you, it can be really intimidating. So I think it's great. I would agree, Paul. Keep doing

what we're doing, buddy, doing a great job. Don't let other people bring you down, have fun, enjoy your life. You just gotta have a relationship, and don't be intimidated by going up by yourself. So many people do it cool bring the four year old with you to the bars. I'm sure that's that would be a good, good, good conversation starter, good icebag that then you'd be the creep I guess wait at least seventeen more years. Um, but Paul, the best of luck. Thanks for calling, and we appreciate you.

I'm sure you'll you'll find someone here pretty soon. Thanks, guys, appreciate it. Here's buddy Dean. Have you seen a movie by yourself? Uh? Funny you mentioned it. No, I haven't. Really you've never heard the movies by yourself? I don't think so. But I'm not much of a movie goer as it is, Like, I never cared to see movies in theaters, especially God, it's just not I know, I know it must sound insane to you. Obviously, it's a very alien to me. I'm I'm like, you're a psycho.

Even going to movies like with friends or in groups, it's always it's never really been very appealing to me. But I often go to dinner by myself. I'll go golfing by myself. I'll do many things by myself. Um, but I've always I've always wanted to go to movie by myself. I just don't know, yeh, like ever by myself. I just don't know if there was a movie that I wanted to see bad enough that I would be willing to go by myself. It would be a movie that everyone wanted to see, so I wouldn't have to

go by myself. That's not true. I want to go see I've seen many movies that a lot of people. I want to go see Fast five by myself. I remember that it was like a ten o'clock showing. I was home. I was living my parents at the time, and uh, it was like nine thirty and I was bored watching TV and I really wanted to go see Fast five. And I was like, you know what, there's like a ten o'clock showing. I'm not tired. I'm just gonna roll up to this movie theater by myself. And

that's what I did. First movie I ever saw by myself with Super May Returns in two thousand and six, because I wanted to see it so badly and I was eighteen at the time, and uh, I wanted to go to the Thursday night midnight show, which used to be a thing for theaters but now like like, for example, Halloween ends comes out Friday, but there's showings at like five o'clock on Thursday, so I'm like, okay, so it really comes out on Thursday. But it used to be

a thing. You were like, you had to wait till midnight to go see the movie when it's released on Friday, like you would be surrounded by all other geeks. It was fantastic anyway. So I couldn't go to the midnight show because I was working at Hollywood Video at the time. So I went to go see the eleven o'clock showing and it was. This is how endearing I was. I called the movie theater and the morning of and I said, Hi, do you still have any tickets available for Super Member?

Turns out eleven am and she goes yeah. I was like, okay, I'm on my way in fact, and uh yeah. So then let me ask you this, how does going to a movie by yourself compared to going to a movie with say Ashley or friends or something like that. I um, I mean, I love going to movies by myself because you don't talk to her in the movie anyway. And the only thing that I don't like is that you can't talk to anybody when the movie is over, because I like talking about it, walking out what I liked,

what I didn't like. And Nashley is a great listener, and she also really likes talking about movies. But what I will say, the one thing that I do love is that sometimes Ashley and I've talked about it in this podcast before, likes to ask questions during the movie if she gets lost, or she'll like make comments, or she'll get up to pee, and all of the above are very distracting, especially the questions part, because then I'll

get annoyed. But then she it's frustrated at me because she's like, I'm I need I don't know what's going on and need your help. And I'm like, listen, figure it out on your own. If you can't follow the movie, then maybe you're not, you know, film intelligent enough to be watching a movie like this. But I don't say that, and I don't think that's true, but I would bust her balls in the in the moment and say that. But anyway, so sometimes watching it by myself, I'm like,

I'm not distracted. I want to go see Spiderman No Way Home. This past December by myself, because I was working so much, I literally just took a three hour break. There's a theater in the plaza and this is showing at three o'clock. At two, I said, guys, i'll be back in three hours left. Watch the movie Came Back. It was perfect. And yeah. So when you go to dinner by yourself, do you sit at the bar? You sit at the table, always at a table in a booth with my back to everyone. You're joking. No, I

want to just be by myself. You don't go to the bar. Heck no, then there's a chance the bartender might talk to me. I don't want it. I don't want that. Yeah, but it's more of like on at all. If I go out to eat by myself, I'm going to the bar. I'm sitting at the bar. I'm watching TV. So what do you do in the booth? Just on your phone the entire time? Just yep, on my phone the old time, set my fantasy lineup, watch some TikTok videos. That's the whole people of going out by yourself is

you can just don't have to talk to anyone. You can just be on your phone, living in your own little world. I'm a big bar guy. I I like, I don't like having full and conversations with other bar patrons, but I like the community aspect of it. So like they'll be like, there'll be a highlight of a Patriots game and then you know some guy would be like fucking slap bands, yeah, or or just like even just like we'll just vent for a second, Like I can't believe they got rid of Brady, Like I know, man,

it's crazy, like I'm missing. I just don't like the high stools, you know, like high stools. I love high stools. Maybe it's because what are you six to? Yeah, they make me feel taller, like I'm six ft, but like I've always wanted to be six too. I feel like that's like the perfect guy high. So maybe the stool like me up a little bit. You know, I'm not slap so you feel like you're And I also love bartenders, like we've talked about this before in the podcast, Like

I'm not talking about just female. I'm just talking about male female. Like there's there's I guess maybe because i've bartended, there's like you know this, it's like, hey, we're we're one and the same. You know, you and I we're part of this community together. You know my woes. We've seen some man, we've we've been a battle, We've been to battle. Anyway, Um, hey, I think it's time for us to say goodbye. I agree to the lou to loose Superman. Thank you guys for listening to this week's

episode of Help I Suck at Dating. If you haven't already, go back and listened to our interview with Maggie Turiki on Sunday. Uh interview with Maggie. No, it was kind of more just like a guest co host thing. That was one more appropriate way of setting it up. She's fantastic. You're gonna love it. I guarantee it. If not your money back courtesy of Audrey's, we'll just give you a couple of three cups of coffee or something that's not happening if if you have the chance, go check out

Almost Famous because they're recording live in Audrey's. Is that right, that's right at Audrey's. Now, granted this podcast will be released until next Thursday, so that it would right, Yeah, yeah, so that won't be it's tonight. So a week ago when you're listening to this would have been the live Almost Famous podcast at all, just coffee house and lounge.

So hopefully it went well with Ben Cassie Jill is going to be there from the season in Paradise and of course my wife Ashley, and then I'll be cooking and uh you know bar rista NG and bartending, so it'll be fun, it'll be good times. There you go, folks, go enjoy it. And if you haven't had the chance yet, go check out Audrey's and Providence, Rhode Island. Easton Rhode Island, You stupid son of a Oh you stupid am ser um.

But yeah, I love you, buddy. I'll talk to you next week where maybe we suck just a little bit less. Follow hell by suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast m HM