Baby Brady

care about Tom Brady retiring. What we really care about Jared Phillis in on the New Life update. Come on, well, of course Ashley just gave birth, but also Tom retired, which is very sad, unbelievable. Hold on, I do have to say he he retires literally the day after my son is born, which is why we added the name Brady because his name was initially Dawson Dmitri Haven And everybody's like, oh, you're not gonna name him Tom or Brady and we're like, no, I might be too much,

too on the nose. Blatah blahdah blah. Then the news came out Saturday that Tom was going to retire, and even though it wasn't official, it felt like it was only days away before he finally announced it, and I was like, Damn, Ashley and I both were like, maybe we should have Brady in there, Like we love this guy so much, you know, it's so us to name, like have Brady in there. We were thinking, like, we still like Dawson Dmitri, so we don't want to take

that away. Is it weird to have him Dawson Dmitri Brady have been because he's still gonna go by Dawson Dmitri more than anything. And then we were looking it up and it's much more common than you think to have four names. So we were like, screw it, like we're going to regret it. We love Tom Brady, so screw it. So we put the name Brady in there. I like to think that it was like Tom Brady almost knew that Dawson was just born. He's like, you

know what, it's my time. My time has come. The throne will be passed once this young man grows to be of age and I can finally say my piece and get out of here. A thousand percent of somebody texted me and said, I think. Uh. Like he was like, I think God just wanted to give you the joy of having a son before giving you the trauma that is Tom Brady retiring, right right, Because it's Tom Brady retired, you'd be so upset, but you can't be upset because you just had a brand new baby boy. Um no,

and it's it's awesome. So yeah, Ashley wooked me up Monday morning yesterday at like a little after one, and she's like, I think I'm having contractions, and I was like, all right. She's like, I'm gonna give it a couple of minutes because they feel like period cramps, but they're pretty intense, and she's like, I have this, and so she's like, I'm just gonna give it another minute or so, because they've been happening every what feels like ten minutes.

And so another ten minutes goes by and she's like, it's happening again, and so we're like, let's just go to the hospital, because of course we want to get there. So we called everybody then we needed a call, went to the hospital, and thank god we did, because you know, of course they found out that she was an active labor and and the contraction started getting a lot worse,

but we were able to get there in time. She got the upper dural, thank god, because she was progressing so fast that the doctor said, had she been there an hour later, she probably wouldn't have had time for an eper. Darl and Ashley would have flipped or lid. So yeah, you know when we got to the hospital.

It's so weird though, because every time you watch a movie, it's like the woman is rushing into the hospital in the wheelchair and they're like, you know, even me, I walked in the hospital, I was like, hey, my wife's in labor, like almost expecting them to hit like a

red button and did like alert alert like um. But there he was like, yeah, okay, go checking out the front desk and I was like okay, and I was like, did I mention my wife's in labor and um, so of course, I mean they worked as fast as they can, but we're still at the front desk for like ten fifteen minutes, like going over health insurance. And meanwhile, like I could tell Ashley like every few minutes is getting a contraction because she's wincing, and I'm like, this is

not how I thought it was gonna play out. We finally got in the doctor's room and they checked her and she was about five centiments dilated. Sorry, my dogs are freaking out, um, but she was five centimeters dilated and she was having contractions every four or five minutes,

which is fast, especially for a first baby. She began to be an active labor labor probably a little before two am, and we get you know, she gave birth at ten one am to Dawson, so she was only in labor for about eight hours, which is fast because usually they say you you should plan on for like

eighteen to twenty four hours for your first kid. I was gonna say I didn't based off a very limited information, but just judging by your Instagram story and then like the follow up stories and posted all that kind of stuff, I was like that, it seemed like gonna happen pretty quickly. Yeah, and uh, it was insane because you know, after she got the emperdul, they were like, Okay, we'll check up on you in a couple of hours or in an hour or so and make sure that you're okay and comfortable.

If you need anything, bring this blah blah blah blah blah, and so she's laying there and like fifteen minutes goes by and she's like, I feel like I need to poop. And that's the first sign that you're ready to push. It's so weird, but as a woman, a sign to know that, like, hey, you're ready to start pushing is you have this feeling like you have to go poop constantly. And so she was like, maybe it's passing. I'll let it go, and it was consistent for about ten fifteen minutes.

She's like, no, that feeling hasn't gone away. So the doctor came back in. They were like yeah, So they tried pushing for a couple minutes um, but then the baby wasn't in the right position, so they needed for

like forty five minutes. She needed to do some maneuvers on the bed, like she was doing some yoga poses to make sure that you know, Dawson's head was as close to the southern border as possible and um, and then we started pushing again and she pushed for about an hour and a half before Dawson entered this world.

And Okay, so when you said five centimeters dilated or millimeters however money it was, does that not mean that his head is five meters millimeters poking out of the So you so a woman needs to be that's awesome. Trust me, I didn't know these answers either. I figured five five millimeters dial it and meant that he was

like crowning at five millimeters or I don't know. No, So her well, I mean that's her vagina needs to be able to open a certain amount of centimeters in order the baby come out safely, and that number apparently is ten centimeters. So she, uh, they needed to wait until she was dilated till tense centimeters before they could start pushing, and it wasn't that bad. She you know, like we said, we got to the hospital a little bit before two am, and she was dilated tense centimeters

about seven am, so that's when we started pushing. Pretty nice to be able to drive to the hospital at that time because the road is probably clear, you're just confined down the road. We got there in like twenty five minutes, smooth sailing, and uh, as you know, as the guy, it's just more I'm I'm just you know.

I was right there though when she started pushing, I had a foot and so I was holding her foot and pushing her leg back, and it's it's it's so much more um, you know, knock on Wood went so smoothly. It's so much more calm than you'd think, because it's just you know, you're just there and she's pushing and I'm holding a foot, and the you know, the doctors at the end, you know, just doing whatever that she needs to do down there, and and you know they're

not really hiding much. You know, they always say like, don't look underneath the curtain. There is really no curtain. It's just like all out there. Um. And so I ended up, you know, as we've talked about on this podcast before, my stories about passing out in movies, I was thinking, oh god, am I gonna faint right now? But I looked and I was fine. It wasn't. I

didn't find a gross at all. Um. The only time I found a gross was when T M I. But you know, I could see the doctor's hands, which of course they were scrubbed up and glubbed up, covered in blood. And that's when you're like, like, that's crazy. It just

looked like, you know, they stabbed someone. And um, I will say it was pretty crazy when you know, they're telling you that the heads popping out, and I can see, like I'm looking at Ashley while she's pushing, and like, out of my peripheral I can see like the head just sliding out. I'm like, holy sh that's the head of my son. Um and uh and then he came out and it was just like, now there's a baby.

There's a baby in this world. And uh, it was weird because full disclosure, you know, so many times as we talked about this podcast, especially as a guy, I have been so detached that I was almost waiting for this overwhelming moment of just unconditional love to just weigh

over me. And that didn't happen. You know, of course I got emotional and it was my son, and like, there's this baby here, and actually just pushed him out, and you know, I started getting choked up from being overwhelmed in the moment, but I didn't feel this overwhelming sense of like, that's my son, I'm his father, and it concerned me. I was thinking, oh, no, do I

have no soul? Am I a bad human being? And then uh, you know, of course I start spending more time with HIMIM holding him in my arms, and I start feeding him, and he's looking at me. And when he's looking at me and I'm feeding him the bottle and he's kind of crying or making those little noises and like I actually and I were talking about because we just got back to the house and how like my love for him has already grown exponentially. Um, and I can only imagine what it's going to be like,

you know, tomorrow or the next day. And uh, it's pretty cool. It's uh, it's cool. Did you gonna cut the U bilical cord and stuff? I did cut the cord. I didn't think I was gonna do it, but the doctor was like, you want to cut it? And I was like, yeah, sure, why not, We're right here. So they clipped them up and I got to cut the chord and and um, you know, I've I've changed his diaper twice already, and uh, it's it's it's been good.

It's uh, you know, he's just this little thing. He was born eight pounds four ounces, so he was pretty good sized. And he was ten days early. So if Ashley gave birth on her due day, he would have been a monster. Um. So he was born officially what January thirty one, January thirty one, at ten one am. A little weird story to her. Ashley's mom's birth birthday is was yesterday, January thirty one, so Dawson was born on his grandmother's birthday on his mom's side, and then

he was born at ten twenty one am. Coincidentally, my mom's birthday is October one, so kind of incorporated both grandmas, which was really cool. Isn't his middle name based uh off of one of your grandparents names as well? No, so his Ashley's dad's name is Dominic and I we both loved that name Dominic, but Lauren wants to name her child, so that name was out. And then we were thinking about D names for some reason, and Dmitri came up and that's how we were like, man, we

really like Dmitri. Dmitri because Ashley has always loved the name Demitrius, and she was like, Dawson Demitria. I like the sound of that. And that's where de met you came from. I mean, hey, there's nothing wrong with the D name. I think once you name a baby with the first letter D, destined for greatness obviously, Um, well, congrats, man, we're so excited for you. I can't believe that the day is finally here. And if I'm excited, I can only imagine how excited you are. Um, how bunch of

rest did you guys get when you got home? It wasn't bad last night, So knock on one again. I don't want to jinx anything, but he's been so chill, he's been sleeping a lot. He only had really one fuss um and it lasted like three minutes. Uh. And he got his first bath this morning. The nurse gave him a bath and she was like, oh, he's he's gonna cry after this, like he's gonna get a little fuss say that I don't like their first bath. He was fine, didn't cry at all, went back immediate and

the crab and fell asleep. And she goes, I've been working there for fourteen years. That's probably the second or third baby I've ever given a bath too that has not cried. That's a good sign. It's a great sign. So I hope it continues because he's nothing like his mom and dad. Because we're paying in the asses and overly emotional. So you guys just got back from the hospital like right now, literally five minutes ago. Yeah, okay, Yeah, I guess I kind of assumed you guys were like

running errands or something, but yeah, that makes sense. That typical. I feel like you spend two to three days in the hospital. Yeah, so we were going to spend two nights, but uh, Ashley gave birth so quickly, like we said,

it was about eight hours. So he was born ten thirty yesterday morning, and you know, he had visits with the pediatrician and he uh you know, had the dur durses hunt, the doctors and the nurses do all their testing and everything looked good and and so Ashley looked good because obviously they didn't make sure that she's okay and kept an eye on her and and uh, everything went smoothly. And so yesterday they said it's up to you. You know, you guys are more than welcome to stay

two nights if you'd like. But you know, if everything checks out, you'll probably be able to leave, you know, tomorrow evening at some point. Why wouldn't you want to get home? All right? Well, I know it's only been not even thirty six hours since the birth of your firstborn, But does this encourage you or discourage you? Guys? To have maybe more kids. Uh, it's so weird. I don't know it's really going to If if I had to lean towards one way, I would say, of course more kids. Um,

but um, I guess we'll see. How you know, the first six months ago, first year a gooes. You know, how traumatizing it is or how wonderful it is. It's just it's interesting to see how low maintenance the baby has been so far, considering how high maintenance he was when he was in Ashley's stomach. I know, so weird. Um. He loves food, loves food, Bro's what do you mean? He just probably drinks formula or milk or something right like well, because the nurses are like, oh he may

you know, not want to eat. At first, he's been chugging formula. He cries, We give him a bottle, immediately falls asleep. He's fine, and he's they want ten million leaders the first So the first couple of times he feeds, they really say, okay, you're gonna feed him every three hours pretty much, and he should only have about ten

million leaders each feeding. And he sucks it down I'm not joking, probably eight or nine seconds, and I'm like I feel so bad because they always say, oh, if if he's sucking his lips or like looking for a bottle or sucking his fingers, he might be still hungry. And I'm like, this kid is doing so I've been giving a little bit more food, a little bit more food, and um, he's happy. Nice. Um. And you guys have like the baby room and everything. I already prep for

him pretty much. So we're in Virginia obviously, but we have a little the guest room we've kind of turned into a nursery, so we have the crib ready to go, which we'll sleep downstairs in the guest bedroom and he'll sleep with us, not in the bed, but in the crib. And then how long did you guys get back up to Rhode Island. Uh? So, I'm going to stay here,

probably at least another week and a half. I think the tentative plan is I'll be here for about another week and a half, head back home for a few days, be at the shop, you know, make sure everything's good, catch up on things, drive down here, get the car, drive down here, spend like another couple of nights here and then and we'll pack the car together and then drive up together. Well, so it's gonna be like a good ten hours right now, it's about six and a half.

About traffic, it's really not bad. Okay, it's not bad. No, dang well, I mean a lot on the on the horizon for you guys. That's pretty exciting. It's good. It's good, guys to be able to get back and like, obviously have you guys back in the same household. I know you guys have been doing like a kind of like a long distance thing for a couple of weeks at least, so it's gonna be good to have everyone in the same root for a while. Yeah, it's crazy, and I'm

excited for my parents to meet him. And um, like Lauren is coming over right now to meet him. She couldn't because you know, with COVID protocols they want along anybody in the hospital. So um, it was it was cool man. Yeah, it's just like so weird. Like now we have a baby and he's here and uh um it's fun though, It's it's been fun thus far, and

I think the fun is only gonna get better. I mean there's gonna be trying times obviously, but even snuggling with him and like having him just so I having something even it's only been twenty four hours, so dependent on you, um, you know, just it makes you love him so much. So I'm excited for the Netflix documentary that's gonna come out in about five years from now about your nationally story. And it's gonna start with Bachelor in Paradise Season one or two whatever. The first one

was Bachelor Paradise Season two. It's gonna show your guys as highs and your lows, and it's gonna move out of this season three Highs and Lows, and then it's gonna move on to Bachelor Winner Games. It's gonna show Bachelor in Paradise Australia, and then it's gonna show some of your guys videos and then all of a sudden, it's going to be this video right here about you

talking about your brand new little baby boy. Unbelievable. Man. Yeah, it's been a wild ride to say the least, and there's we've talked about it again on the podcast numbers times, but there's definitely uh um, excitement and trepredation when like talking to Dawson about like, hey, this is how your mom and dad met. It's not always perfect um, but

now there's life or love. So but I think it's kind of a cool thing, Like he's gonna be able to look back and like have some visual like representation of how his parents like kind of got along at first. And sure, I think a lot of the stuff will be led out, left out, for sure, but like it's still gonna be fun for him to be able to look back and see that, you know, I I hope so.

I think so too, so, especially because it ended so positively, Like I mean, you know, when he's old enough, I would imagine, like, you know, mid teenager, like he'll have a good perspective on kind of what was going on. And it's like, I mean, you know, at that point too, it's like, oh, both my parents are still happily married, Like why wouldn't I want to go back and see them fall in love and all that kind of stuff.

I just think that's really cool, and I think it's a very unique situation for a kid to be able to be in. But it's definitely unique and I'm excited for like his first as well. Obviously that's such a generic answer and everybody says that, But even when we were walking to the car, and we stepped outside and I was like, this is the first time Dawson has ever been outside. Yeah, this is the first time. Yeah, son has ever been on his face. This is the

first time ever. And it was like it was just, you know, so wacky to think about, like took it in from walking around. Yeah, first steps, Yeah, I have those happened. When do those happen first? Yeah? He said his first words. It was Tom Brady, Um. But yeah, it's cool, man. So like his first car ride, you know, even putting the car seat in, it was like, you know, so many times you hear about it when you're becoming a dad, and it's like the car seat right, You

gotta get the car seat right. So as I was doing it and buckling it in, I'm like, holy, this is that moment for me right now where like you always think about the first time you see it on TV and movies like the dad can't put it in right, And of course I was struggling with it, and I'm like, oh my god, this is crazy. What is my life

right now? Pretty amazing? Man? Uh has Like I mean, obviously like everything's changed for you in that regard, but like as most of it said, in yet, like you have a freaking kid, like or is it still pretty? It's still it definitely hasn't said in yet because it's just weird to think that we have a kid ashually

and I have to have a son, you know. Um, you know, I think about my own parents and now, like the the way I view them, he's going to view us, and that is something I can't wrap my head around yet and I'm sure at some point it will, but uh, definitely not yet. Yeah. Well, hey, we're super happy for you. Obviously. We know you got your plateful over there, so we're not going to keep you for too long, but we appreciate even just jumping in and

talking about it. Dude. Of course, suck army buddy. Thank you so so dude this But by the time he's thirteen, this podcast better still be around and I want him to be like dead sock. So oh, it's so funny to think back when you started coasting this podcast with me. You're just a wee, little single lad, and now here you are a father to a beautiful two inch long baby boy that's the right eight pounds four rounds his baby. Alright, guys,

well I will talk to you soon love you both. Yeah, congratulations, We love you. UM. Can't wait to hear more from him. Follow hell by suck at Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast