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you today. We have Vinny from Jersey Shore, and of course and of course Double Shot at Love. That was such a Jersey or accent. Of course, of course, well it's more of a Rhode Island accent. But I've always loved jose Shore. Jersey Shore was the only reality show I ever watched before going on The Bachelor. Really, did you ever watched the Real World? Or was like top not?

I never got into Real World or Road Rules or any of those MTV shows right here and the Newly Wed Show with Jessica Simpson and Nick lash actually was huge into that show. Dean, you is that show still on Rules? So I actually I think Vanessa might have gotten this too. I got asked to join the challenge like a year ago, but it was infringing upon my bachelor contract and I was so I was like, please let me find a way to break this. I'll be on the show. I don't care what it takes. I'll

do it no matter what. And it just ended up falling through. I So I was really upset about that. But UM, well, you're not on contract anymore. Unless you do it, reach out to him, You'll be fine. We're really excited to have Vinnie and studio. But first we're going to talk to a body language expert. Her name is Katilise l She has a website called Love Destination. It's a complete online relationships streaming service. Um and I want to make sure we're saying your name correctly, catil

was l Oh. I did, okay. So you are a relationship and body language expert and I checked out your website. There's so many amazing things going on there. You have documentaries, um uh, courses and TV shows. So explain. Can you explain to us a little bit more what you do

and how someone like ourselves can benefit from your website? Absolutely? Well, look, let's just start with a simple fact right when, whether you're looking for a new partner, whether you're already coupled up, looking to her broken heart, or to fix your relationship, the reality is relationships aren't always easy, and there's a matter of fact, for a lot of us, we get to a point where you know, our relationships are downright confusing.

So the idea behind the Love Destination is really to provide experts at your fingertips, courses, um expert tips and resources, as well as documentaries and films, so that no matter what stage of your love relationship you're in, you've got these amazing resources that will help you navigate your navigate your relationships, improve your confidence, you know, overcome self doubt, and really mean that you can have more fulfilling relationships

with yourself and others. Because at the end of the day, you know, if we're going out generally dating or we've got a wonderful partner, but we're also having issues with ourselves in terms of self doubt, in terms of being not able to say no when or express how we feel, and that's actually going to affake all of our locationships, not just the one we have with ourselves. So your website. Love destination dot com is a complete online relationship streaming service.

And you talk about body language and also about the simple action of a kiss and how a kiss can determine what someone what their intentions are in a relationship. And I actually have a funny story about this. I was kissing a guy. Oh this is I mean, it's pretty dirty. I was kissing a guy and you know, it started off really sweet, so I thought my intentions his intentions were like, oh, he wants to date me. And then like you know, some really good tongue action happened.

I was like, Okay, this is interesting, and then that's exactly what I think of a tongue action. Then spits in my mouth like this strike So I spat in his mouth? WHOA hold on, on on, let's just make sure that we're clarifying. Is this like saliva going back and forth? Not to be to t M. I but you said it, so now we have to clarify. Or was it actually like I mean, in your mouth? Yeah? Was it wet the hawka lugi into your mouth? What does that even mean? No? No, it wasn't like that.

It was more like a poor listeners. They had to just hear that. Oh no, so then I knew. Then I knew what were facts about. Here's some interesting facts about kissing. And we actually got a course on how to be an amazing kisser, and it covers this is that you know that men and women have pre wide

differences when it comes to kissing. So guys are more likely to like a kiss with a lot more saliva because theoretically, when you kiss somebody, there's a small amount of testoster and that's released in your mouth, and your cheeks are the inside memories of your cheeks are actually impermeable, so over time that teststo slone might actually improve your libido or makes you more in the mood. But I

don't know about speaking in your mouth. I've actually never heard of I've never heard of somebody somebody you do say you do say a kiss is worth a thousand words. I've never heard anyone say that before. Is that a real thing or is it the thing? So kipping kissing affects us emotionally, Biochemistry affects our biochemistry, it affects our thegeology.

It actually activates all five of our senses. So when we kiss, this is why it's actually an important part of mate sellection that helps us bond to the couple. When we kiss it actually we get information from our sensors, smell from obviously the seni a chemically in oursal life. But it also, yes, it challenged us about the other

person's intentions. As we said, So basically, if somebody speak in your mouth on the fruit cues, just basically up straight in and go straight for the hot you know, smooth pass with no tenderness at all, no eye contact, or literally doesn't kiss you at all, then you can pretty much guarantee that person if it's the first kiss,

is really mostly after some physical action or intimacy. But if you if you have somebody or you're in a long term relationship and you know, we have more touching, more caressing, perhaps you know, a kiss on the cheek, from the nose, kiss on the forehead, which activates Yeah, isn't it? It's so beautiful and this, you know, shows

it gives us a sense of security, feel nurtured. It indicates a level of emotional and physical intimacy, and it shows you that yes, you know, they think your heart potentially depending on how close your groins are, you know, that's really important. You could just be platonic as well, but so that you know that they that did there for you, and when we're talking about relationships, that's that's

just as important as the hot stuff, right. So you have a twelve lesson video of how to be an Amazing Kisser on your website, loves the Destination dot com. I guess my question is kissing is hard sometimes, especially as guys, we sometimes maybe I think that the girl will like it or don't like it, and then we

get insecure and then we overcompensate. So is it really can you tell a lot in a relationship by the first kiss, Like with Vanessa's story as an example, Like maybe that guy was just like I'm you know, girls like this, and like maybe he maybe he didn't mean to like put on this vibe that he just wanted a physical action, but maybe he was just well I

don't know what else he did. But this is the thing is that you know, and they's a big big thing here when we're talking about dating, when we're talking about first days, when we're talking about first kisses, there's one big thing that gets in the way, and that is nerves. When we an expectation, So two big things

that really stuff us up when we're talking about relationships. So, you know, when we're going for that first kiss, obviously when we're nervous, it actually affects the amount of for lie in our mouths, affects them our ability to actually connect with somebody for a start, and it actually can affect our ability to kiss like we normally would. You know, we're not usually our best self when we're so stressed. We can't even remember the person who are about the

kids and we can't even remember their name. Um. But the thing is is there was a study done and it found that if you flank the first kiss, almost seventy women and nearly sixty of gods won't go there again because the kids does. What it does is it actually affects us subconsciously our decision whether or not we want to go for round two. And that's not always because they're a bad kids are. Maybe it was because their breath was really bad. Perhaps it was actually their

genetic compatibility. So kissing actually does information about somebody's genetic compatibility as well. And sometimes it's not actually that the person was a bad kiss. It's just the fact that maybe we wouldn't make good babies, which doesn't mean we wouldn't have a good relationship. But you know, have you

ever been in that situation? I know I have where you think somebody is gorgeous and you're so attracted to each other you almost can't breathe, and then you go and kiss them, and then all of a sudden, it's just like, oh, oh god, it's like kissing my brother or kissing my sister. Um. And that's because your your kiss is letting you know that you're actually just not genetically compatiblely said, the first kissing actually really really important. Well,

so let's say for the listener. For let's say out there somewhere in the world, there's a listener listening to this right now that just recently experienced the first kiss with someone they were so so interested in. It didn't go as maybe they had expected it to. What would your advice be for follow up with them or next step? Do you think that they should maybe given another try? Do you think that first kiss is a big enough indicator to then cut ties all together? What kind of

advice would you have for someone in that situation? Yes, absolutely give it another try. Definitely do not go missing in action. I've had some really funny stories, were not funny, heartbreaking stories of people who literally were so mortified by the first kiss that they just didn't speak to never again, just didn't follow up, fell off the edge of the planet. So definitely, the best advice I can give you is, you know, humor goes a long way when it comes

to dating relationships. They are just as nervous as you are. And if the first kiss was bad, they're taking as much responsibility for it as you are. They're thinking, you know, there you go, Let there go. I'm a loser, I'm not attractive of such a bad kisser. What have I done? And so make you know, make it playful, be lighthearted about it. Suggest round two. You might say, gosh, that was that was a bit awkward, wasn't it. I think

I was pretty nervous. Maybe we should have another round. Um, but do this to what your body is telling you. So if you're it's terrible, it could be terrible because you're both felling really anxious, because you're both um feeling awkward, or because you really like this person and you're really nervous that that's going to affect the kids. Or it

could be that they're actually just not into you. And the way that we tell that is to think about sort of you know, flirting one oh one, um, and there's a course on body language of attraction if you want to name one on that love destination, but flirting

one oh one. So when we're attracted to someone, we have increased proximity, increased eye contact, increased touch, and so we would have a lot more you know, holding of your gaze, you know, touching your face, getting close to you, their their torso orientated towards you, their mouth open, and you can't fake a kids. So if you're not into a kiss, your lips are cold, hard and definitely not moist or plump. But when you're into a kiss, what

happens is, you know, blood flow increases. We actually get blood flow goes to our lips and other parts of our body and it actually makes the warm plump and increases also saliza and lubricates, and so if somebody is into the kiss, then their lips are going to let

you know. And so there are some signs there that will let you know if you if you're not just listening to your expectations and hopes and dreams, if this person is the love of your life, whether or not it was just a bad kiss or whether they just maybe not into you, which happens right From an evolutionary perspective, what is it about kissing someone that's so arousing for us? You know, like why do I get a little tingle downstairs when I kissed someone for the first time? What

is it? What is it about the actual process of doing yes? And you know, kissing actually sends out neural networks into overdrive. It actually releases serotonin and dopamine or a pine front and or a stellar mine. It actually sends us on an obsessive pie. That's why you can sometimes kiss somebody who you have this insane attraction to and then you cannot get them out of your head.

It literally on cloud nine. So we have an incredible amount of nerve endings dedicated to our and a lot of these nerve ending same as with our fuehead samers. With the ear there there are biggest de Roginus zone. So obviously when where the somebody who's if if if your ears are on a Roginus zone and somebody who's kicking your ears or lips which are definitely on a roginous zone obviously that you know, this is all part of arousal that stimulates us in other areas as well. Um,

how can I say, well you? So you also spoke about body language, and I don't know what the percentages. I think it's like really high. Our communication is through body language, nonverbal communication. So for the body language, but

then we also have facial expressions and paral language. So in actual fact, the amount of our communication that's non veriable is much closer to the body language is one aspect, but we've also got our face, and then we've got the way we speak so curly, which is our speed,

our tone, our pitch. So you could say you know, I love you and in other words get lost I talking to you today, or you could say I love you, and it doesn't mean the same thing, right, So it's not actually the words we're using, it's our nonverbal communication that loads that we're meaning. Um, in terms of courtship befo,

we're talking about love and attraction. Then it's even higher because we have a part of our brain that's actually dedicated two courtship seas notts and I'm sorry, So we have a part of our brain that's actually dedicated to understanding courtship signals or mating because obviously finding a mate

from an evolutionary perspective is pretty important. UM. And so when we're talking about courtship, when we're talking about dating, which we're talking about obviously relationships, communication comes much more into it. But if we're talking about attraction, it's very much near be all about nonverbal communication right at the beginning.

Oh well, yeah, totally touched case eye contact. Like you said, it's all about nonverbal communication, especially at the beginning, because you're too scared to actually articulate how you actually feel. And so, and you know, the thing is is what a lot of people don't realize that our bodies shoot out over ten thousand stimulize a non verbal stimula during every interaction that actually you reveal not what we're thinking, because you know what it reveals our emotions or negative

emotion or positive emotion, or how we're feeling. Um, that

actually reveal how we're feeling. But a lot of the time body language or nonverbal communication is actually misinterpreted because our we all have we all come from different experiences different Um, we all have different hopes, dreams and expectations and Also, the closer you are emotionally to somebody, the less likely it is you believe it or not that that in some cases you'll be able to accurately eat their body language, particularly if they are aligned, because you're

actually really home to the outcome. You know, you believe the reality is we you know body languages. Non Verbal communication is our first language. It's how we communicate when we babies right, how we get love and affection. Um communicate Danie babies catchy. I have one question I really want to ask you, but first we're gonna have to take a small break before we get into it. Hiring used to be hard, multiple job site, stacks of resumes

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can what advice can you give them? UM to communicate more with their body language, like I know when I was working UM at one point I had my arms crossed and my manager was like, no, no, no, no. Make sure your arms to the side so you're welcoming. Um. So, for someone who's at a borrow or at an event, how should they stand or what should their facial expressions be like in order to attract you know, a significant

other or someone they would like to date. Absolutely, the best advice I think is anyone is often we think of non our body language or nonverbal communications from our perspective. I feel comfortable crossing my arms and I deal with my friends and so there's nothing wrong with it. What we need to do is flip it around. The reality is most people, particularly in the dating scene, if they're out there and they're actively looking for a hook up or love or whatever they're looking for, are going to

feel nervous. They're going to feel intimidated approaching you, just like we do when we see someone we're attracted to. If you're single, they're going to feel the same way. So the key to attraction, the key to being liked, is actually we like people who like us. We also like people who we see more often, and even if it's three times in the space of half an hour. Of research shows that we will be more likely to give that person yet or go on a date with them.

So my first thing advice is to do a non verbal check of your body language. Ask yourself the question, would I approach me? Do I look open, friendly and approachable? If I was having a crap day? Would I look at me and think that's a safe person. If the answer is no, uncrossed your arms, uncrossed, your legs, scan the room, make eye contact and smile and straight away what you're sending out to people, remember the nonverbal the kids, we send out ten thous stimuli that reveal what we're

really feeling. Your non verbal communication is going to say I'm a safe and approachable So that's my my first um thing it's about It's actually about the other person. It's not about you, and realize that you know, we all feel as they were the only person sometimes you feel is nervous, the only person who feels like we've got nothing to say, or feels like a bit of a loser. But you know, stranger anxiety is part of the human condition. We all we're pretty wide to feel

that way. It keeps us safe when their baby is not necessarily as adults. Another thing that I would say in terms of the familiarity effected. If you were the bar, it's just say three times, so walk not past that person to bump into them three times, but sort of

just walk past them. You know, you might to go into a drink and then maybe walk past them to go to the bathroom and just smile and make eye contact if you walk past three times, and that's going to increase the um the likelihood that they would be more open to at least talking to you. I used to do that all the time when I be at bars.

I would just if I saw a girl that I was attracted and I wanted to say hi, instead of actually just going up, I would always make sure that I was walking past them and try to make eye contact, you know, just to break the ice a little bit and hopefully it would be like a more natural meaning instead of me coming up. But Katillo, we really appreciate you coming on now. I don't want to mispronounce your name. I'm terrible with names. Katia, Catty, I think Katia, And

I just wanted to give the listeners as well. If you hop on to love destination dot com modes on Android and I always as well. If you're put in promo code love dirty. Um, you can get extra love so you can get thirty days free access. It's been more loving your life free to dirty days perfect perfect and we you see even on your website right now, I see that you have. Also you can just do a seven day free trial as well. Um, so you

guys can use the code. But this way you get thirty perfect And what was the code again, love dirty? So just one word love thirty I love destination dot com. You can get a thirty day free trial. Uh, Katia, am I pronouncing that right? Perfect pronunciation? They are perfect good. I always get self conscious about that, but we really appreciate you joining us. Guys. Go check out Love Destination. They have tons of courses on kissing, body language, how

to get over a breakup. There's there's documentaries, films. It's a pretty incredib A website. So definitely go check it out. Thank you so much, Thank you very much, love chatting to Okay, I'm going to try this one more time, Katia ka no no no, katais he talked about We talked about language last week's podcast when we were talking about man escaping. Just a little a little less bit of hair can really add to yourself confidence is in your body language because you work around with your shoulders

back very confident. When he was saying that name, I just want you to know that Jared standing up here shoulders back, like I speak too languages. I speak English and bad English. So when I need to pronounce a name, which I am terrible at name, am I? Oh and I got Katia Lewis said. Lois said, am I saying that properly? There you go. I like that you guys should stop Dan, maybe you should it in Yeah, exactly

in Your body language is really poor. Right now. Your legs are crossed, your arms are crossed, because it's early for you. He's not making eyes in the morning. I guess it's pretty early. Do you guys think you have bad body language? Um? I think I have bad body language. When I'm at a dinner and it's a really loud environment, I tend to lean really close to the table um, and I'm like crouched over, so I'm like into a small little ball, and I'm not like open and like

it doesn't look like I'm sitting confidently. I'm like like a little ball leaning towards a person trying to hear what they're trying to say. See for me, I feel like I have awful bad body language. Usually all the time. My legs are always crossed and my arms are always crossed. I don't know why, but I've noticed that more and more because people call me out on it because they just feel like I'm a little cold and it's not

that it's just maybe it's just a comfort thing. But I don't know, but I need to work on it. There's oh sorry, because I studied this body language in university. About body language on love destination dot com, it wasn't, but I'm pretty sure she does talk about this. Katia laise L talks about this on her website. Pay attention to where your hips are being pointed towards. So if let's say you're on a date with someone, but your hips are pointed towards like the other direction and not

towards them. If I'm like driving to the basket the hoop and basketball, like, where you are pointed No, So like let's say right now, I can't see you, guys, I can't see where your hips are. But like let's say, if you're talking to Dean, if your hips aren't towards Dean, that means your interest isn't towards Dean, it's you're not paying full attention to Dean. And I've paid attention to that.

When I'm on a date with someone, I'm in a relationship now, But when I was on a date with people, um my hips were if they were like pointing towards another direction and not towards the person I was on a date with, I was like, yeah, now, either I'm uncomfortable, or he's making me uncomfortable, or I'm just not into him. There's a Last week I talked about Jordan Peterson, that

clinical size psychologist. He wrote a book and the first chapter is titled Stand Up Straight with Your Shoulders Back, and he talks about his obsession with the lobsters and how when lobsters fight each other, the winning lobster like puffs is, you know, quote unquote shoulders lobster shoulders back, and the losing lobster like kind of shrinks into a little ball, and how the winning lobster gets like a rush of serotonin and then it walks around and like

basically shows up to the other lobsters that have just won the fight, and how humans are derivative of lobsters a third of a billion years ago, and how we basically act the same way. And how if you basically pretend to be the lobster that won the fight all the time and like walk around with your shoulders back which has puffed out, people respond to you in a way that's going to be more beneficial for you together things that you want. Two things going to mind with

that one. I agree with that wholeheartedly, because when you think about people who just naturally act confident, aren't you drawn to them immediately and already approached them differently than you would somebody that you feel equal to. Like a good example is you know in the you know, on the show, if somebody's walking around with their shoulders back and confident, I would always be super intimidated by those people because I just immediately think that they're just, you know,

a better human than me. Um. And then secondly, I went to the beach the other day, I had some lots of shoulders you know what for you? You were looking Tann, I was wondering why you're looking so tan. I wanted to say that I'm just so full of dad jokes. Eastern, I feel like you're full of dad jokes. Yeah, I am. Do you want me to Yeah? I want one right now. I want a dad joke from Eastern Uh. We should take a break. That's a good dad joke right there. We'll be back in a second. See how

this is thing, guys. All right, let's jump into a couple of listener emails. UM. I listened back to our podcast last week where I read the listener email from Ben for Ben, and I was like, Wow, you have the reading ability of a literal six year old. I'm going to try to better myself this time around. This email is from Caitlin. She says, perfect on paper, but no chemistry, and I'm gonna try and be a storyteller

with this one like Mark does. Perhaps. Caitlin says, I'm twenty four and I just want that person that's my buddy, my friend, and my go to shut You're messing up the flows. Oh my god, I can't believe you. Just do you want to start over? I'm a relationship person. I like being able to take care of someone else. I feel like that's what I was put on this

earth to do. I keep finding these guys that are perfect on paper and are willing to give me everything I want, but I just don't feel the emotional connection. Am I crazy? I want the passion and the love, So should I? I want? I want the passion and the love. So should I be giving more to these people paper perfect guys and hope the connection to develop? Okay, it's not my fault. This is just written it weirdly. Or do I wait for someone that sets my soul

on fire but maybe not be as paper perfect girl? Okay, yeah, you got plenty of time. Yeah you got plenty of time. I made. I had time to fall love a couple of times, then go on the Bachelor, get engaged, and then break up and now be in a relationship at thirty one. So I think, I don't know if you guys can relate to this. I think, um, when you I think, at the end of the day, you need to make sure what you value in a significant other and in a partner, and if the connection is there,

then that's great. But if all you're looking for is really what's on paper, like unicorns don't exist and you're not going to find someone that meets all the criteria that you have listed. So I think you know, make sure you have like your top three top five things that you wanted a partner, and you want to have that bond, you want to be able to like you know, that fire that makes you want to kiss them and make out with them and do stuff with them. So

let me ask you. Let me ask you this question, Caitlin, are you perfect on paper? If you're not perfect on paper? Because I bet I'm willing to be but her version of paper, but her version of perfect. I'm willing to bet that these guys aren't perfectly at the point. But just saying exactly, make sure your house is in order

before you criticize someone else. Like so, So, for instance, if Caitlin is looking for this ideal sociological image of someone that she wants to date, but in reality she doesn't reflect that in her own life, then that's why it's not working out. Is because just because you are seeking the things that you think are going to make a good partner, not but not what necessarily makes a

good partner for you. I think there's a difference. There's a huge difference you have to find because if there's no emotional connection, then obviously it's not the person for you. I mean, that's just pretty generic and obvious. I feel like. I mean, there's a lot of people that, even in my own life when I was single in my twenties, that it was like, oh, they check off this. They're perfect, they're nice, they're sweet, they're beautiful. But for some reason,

I just don't picture my life with them. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them or wrong with me, it just hasn't worked out. And so don't look for anything perfect on paper. Just look for something that's perfect for you, and saying that includes an emotional connection. And so her last sentence, her last question that email was do I wait for someone that sets my soul on

fire but maybe it's not perfect on paper? My response yes, My response is yes, wait for that person that ignites the fire inside of your belly and makes you want to be around them all the time. Um, and they're not preventing people. You guys will figure out together. And I think that's kind of the beauty of being in a relationship exactly. I like that answered, Dean. Thank you, Vanessa. I think you're ready for a relationship now after that one answer, I'm ready. Now, all right, you guys, I'm

going to do another email. Is that okay? Lets someone else wants to jump in. You want me to read it? I mean I can read it too. No no, no, no, no no no no no, no no no. This has helped I sucker dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared. Not Dean, Vanessa, Jared and Easton. Okay, I actually don't. I actually have a saucy now. God, I know, I'm just kidding east and read it please, Well okay, I don't have it. I'm not prepared. Do you want me to read it? I got it, I have it now. And also I'm

standing up. Why doesn't anyone want me to read it? With your shoulders back? Vanessa, your your your addiction is too good. That's the problem. Yeah, you're watching her addiction dition the Three Idiots in the Studio days from yea to Yeah. Tori is way too smart for us too. This is from Tyler. Uh. He wants to know is she into me? I have recently started going on dates with a girl I used to work with for a year. She and I have had a lot of fun going out.

We've been on four dates, but I find that she is not the best in initiating text conversations and well, all of a sudden, disappear and not get back to me until I initiate a new conversation with her. She also hasn't set up any of our outings. I think I've an answered for this guy already. She recently told me she has an anxiety problem, so I'm mainly talking up to that. Obviously, we just started going out. But is this a red flag? Second, I received four tickets

to a sports game. I want to ask her to come with me and my friends, but I'm also worried about my one friend not going and training into a third wheel situation. I've been seeing her since the end of March. I don't really know how long enough, how long? How long is enough time before introducing her to my friends? Is it too early for her to meet my friends? So there's a couple of questions here? Uh, I mean, I let you guys take you said, there's a couple

of questions there. We were all all lovated breath to see what Easton's questions were. No, I mean his tyler's questions. Is she into me? Is it too early for her to meet his friends? Well, here's the thing. They've been on a few dates, but what is the what is the relationship? Like, is it going somewhere? Have they hung out only as friends thus far and haven't kissed. There's a lot of information that's left out here that is

very pivotal to what he should do moving forward. I still think that he should invite her to the game. Well what was your take on it? Because you interrupted yourself at one point and said, I think I know what's going on. I don't think she's into him. I agree, Well, hold on, but after once you said that she recently told me that she has an anxiety. No, it's not I have anxiety, and I know what it's like that she's dating another guy that's getting more serious than this guy.

I also think that if that hey bold prediction, and you're painting a picture in your head right now, Yeah, this is turning into Dean's own little room. Sorry, someone, someone can't just sugarcoat everything for Tyler through his life. You know, I'm telling Tyler right now if he if he if he likes her and he wants to keep hanging out with her, my suggestion to him, because she doesn't seem to be initiating text conversations. I've been there before.

I think we could all say we've been there before have. My advice for him is to not necessarily text her about innocuous, unimportant things. But whenever you text her, have purpose with your texting and be like, hey, um, what are you doing Wednesday evening or Wednesday morning for brunch? Like let's get a coffee like that type of stuff, to always encourage some sort of like resolution, some sort of not necessarily a date, but like, let's get somewhere

with this conversation we're gonna have. And I think that will allow you guys to build a level of trust and then maybe if she does actually have anxiety, which hopefully that's only the case, then that those walls can continuously get broken down until um, you know, you guys are able to be on the level of comfortability. I to Easton's point, it sounds like she's not that into you, But that's not to say that after enough time she

won't be into you, you know. But I'm just saying, just don't don't fade away into being like every other guy out there that texts hey, what's up exactly? That type of stuff. It doesn't get you anywhere. It never will get you anywhere. Text with purpose and try and set something up in my opinion, I like that because some girls just want to be pursued and really pursued. I mean they've gone out four times, so she's clearly saying yes exactly, I mean, ask her out again. And

I think I agree invited to the game. Even if your buddies third wheeling, like he's at a game, he'll be fine. I fully agree with that too. I think that you should definitely invite her to the game, invite your buddy to the game, your other one like flake, Sure, that's fine, but don't worry about your buddy being a third wheel. I mean, if she flakes, then it's like, all right, then there's your answer, right, I doubt you would.

And honestly, like if this kid is your if the other friend is actually your friend, he would have no issue third wheeling. Like if one of my buddies gaming he was like, Hey, I really like this girl. I just don't want it to be just me and hurt the game. Will you come with me? I'd be like absolutely, yeah, totally. And then hopefully your friend is just savvy enough to understand like when he should be there, when he should

not be there, and things of that nature. But then definitely when you're inviting her, tell her that you're going to a game with a couple of friends and you have an extra ticket and you want her to come, so she's not thinking it's a and it takes a lot of the pressure off of it too, totally because it's more of a hangout than an actual one on one day. Yeah, well, hope that it helps you, Tyler. Some great advice. Guys. Yeah, we know, you know, we tried.

Every once in a while. Even a blind squirrel finds it not every two days three days that an expression, not the two or three days. I'll tell you that much. Even a broken squirrel is right twice a day. But it has to be your squirrel. Yeah, sure, I'm coming up next. We have a lot of idiots. Okay, So coming up, we have perhaps one of the most famous reality television stars of all time. And I don't use that lightly. I legitimately think that it might be the case.

I would agree because I think it's obviously the Kardashians, but after that, it might be the casting Jersey Shore, it might be the cast. So we have a very special guest from the Jersey Shore. We're not going to tell you who he is. Yet, but we've already said it. Okay, So we have a very special guest, Vinny from The Jersey Shore. You from what two eleven, two seventeen or something like that, more than two and nine, I think

two thousand thirteen. Well, because they had multiple seasons in one year a lot of times, and they did six seasons at Jersey Shore because I've watched. And then they did two seasons of The Jersey Shore Family Reunion, which just aired. And now Vinnie and Poldie are on a new and new MTV show, Double Shot at Love, Double Shot at And if you're not watching it, you're losing. You're missing out. It's just NonStop entertainment. But before we get to Vinnie, he's going to be in studio with us.

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cast Shore. So, Vinnie, I'm gonna what's your last name? Bro Nigy is here, but just so you know, it's Guadono Guaddnino. I've heard you pronounced it probably five times between the shot at Love and Jersey Shore, and I don't get it. I'm terrible Italian, right, yes, Okay, I guys gonna say, I don't think it gets more Italian than that Sicilian. Yeah, yeah, your your mother was born in Sicily? Right? Yes, Si, my mother was born in Sicily. Wait what you mean? No, that's like a whole level

of Italian. But I'm not far from Vanessa. You and Vinnia met before. Yeah, ob usually what happened there? Because you're Italian, he's Italian, and obviously that makes it a match made in heaven. So it was. I was in New York for Jessica, so it was really wild. It was Jersey Shore, Bachelor and Big Brother like collided into one dinner. I was there for Jessica Graff's wedding dress shopping event, and um, I think Vinny your agent or someone knows my agent. I don't know. I don't know.

How are you telling the truth here? Oh wait, what is the truth? I don't know where we messaging each other or something. And then I like, not in a creepy way, but I was like on Twitter, you guys want to go to dinner, I'll have my people set you up. So I set them all up. I said, like all the I didn't know who was gonna be coming. She came with a gaggle of bachelorette and then it was just like setting them up for dinner and it's hanging out and it's like network I like networking and

taking care of people and meeting people like that. And it always liked Vanessa too, obviously, you know, and Italian. I like her whole like thing, you know, like her whole person, like the Italian And I love girls from Montreal to Montreal is my favorite city. Canadian girls on Double Shot. I love no, But if there was, she would have been to run her up. I love it, you said, already, being honest, right now, Yeah we're gonna yeah, alright, so you are on Double Shot. I love you and

your boy Polly. I've been keeping up with the season so far. It's Dean. I was your biggest fan, and I'm not gonna lie. I remember when you tweeted at him during his season of Paradise. I don't think I ever got more jealous of another Bachelor contestant from that moment because I was a big Jersey Shore fan. But were you on it? Did I ever see you on it? Because I watched for like four seasons in a row.

I was on The Bachelorette with Nick and I don't think you started watching until he was the Batchel after Paradise Is and stuff. Yeah, even through Paradise man, I appreciate the support, dude. I loved it. It was great. I was a big fan and now I'm a big

fan of Well. I stopped watching it because it was competition to my show, So I was like, I can't like, um, I mean even Jersey Shore, Like I'm not gonna because like when I was tweeting The Bachelor, it was like a huge thing, like I was getting booked on jobs and stuff, like it was becoming my whole world, you know, and um, then like you know, I'm not. It's like it was almost like I had ownership in the show. But now Jersey Shore came back and that's the show

I'm really tweeting and stuff. I'm still a fan though, but I also didn't have time. I was always filming the show and stay you're a busy guy. I heard it sucked when I stopped watching it, though, I was like ari or something. Sorry that your boy. As soon as you saw tweeting just went. So you have a lot of power people. Is that is that where the idea for a Double Shot at Love? Kind of I mean,

obviously it's a very Bachelor asking the sense. So our executive producer used to was like the first show runner on The Bachelor, so you know what the show runners are, they're like the executive producers pretty much like there's like the guy in charge, but then the ones running the whole thing on the on the ground. She did like a bunch, like a lot, maybe a decade of The Bachelor from the from the beginning. Then she did a

show called, um, a Shot of Love with Tila Tequila. Yeah, together, a huge show with the freaking there was two girls and guys on. But that was a shot at Love. Then they did another season called a Double Shot at

Love with these two twin sisters bisexual twin sisters. Um, So that was kind of like I don't want to say like a reboot because it has the same title, but it's a different show with me and Polly, but it's the same producer, so she's from that world and you know it's me and Polly, like needed a dating show, you needed it just needed to happen, right like our show in general, But like dating is our element. The

most compelling part of Jergy Shore for me. I mean I love the entire show, in the entire cast, but for me, it was when you guys would be going out to the club and it would be poly d and you and then you know, if single Ronnie was there, that was great too. Sometimes yeah, sometimes, um. And so it just when I first saw the promotion for this and you guys are up there with like the Italian flag roses and you said, will you accept these bros? I was like, just just take my money, like I

need to. I'm watching, I'm watching. I always describe it like it's almost like, um, you know, Bachelor is like Filet mignon. It's beautiful, it's you know. And then but every once in a while, people want a little bit of fast food, you know, they want to like just give me some pizza. And that's what Double Shot of Love is. It's like the pizza of the Bachelor world, where it's like a little informal, a little ratchet. Um, it doesn't matter whether it's hot, whether it's cold, You're

still gonna love it anyway. Yeah, look at it. Look at the host Pauli and me like because people always Like when I used to tweet The Bachelor, they were like, would you ever be the Bachelor? I'm like, I'm like, I don't look like these guys. You guys are beautiful. You guys are you guys are like hot? You know? No, I wanted to like blushing in front of me and like and like I'm like maybe one day I'll have my own, like weird, wacky version of the Bachelor. And

here do you guys use the tanning bed? No, we don't use this. It's just for a problem. Yeah, it's just it's just for a problem. Like when the girls first walked in the house, they didn't know who the celebrity was going to be, because no, like that was part of the thing. Well they didn't. They signed up for a show not knowing who the celebrity was because The Bachelor. That was actually kind of hard for us too, because um, on The Bachelor now they don't always know

who it's going to be. But it wasn't always like that, right right, I think your first day of filming would be the day that you found out who it was. I don't know if it always like sometimes they wouldn't announce it until they already have the cast like in Los Angeles ready to go, and then they would announced it so they wouldn't hear it. So I guess, yeah, the first day filming would be when they find out

who it's going to be. Most of the time now though they know ahead of time because they'll do like the yeah, and they're like, I'm so excited because Colton's the Bachelor and I only wanted it to be you see, And like, I don't know if that's good or bad because we want of course I would like that because all the women are there for me, you know. But at the same time, you know, are they there for me because they like there? Are they just fans? You know?

That's what we had to figure out. So I watched episode four yesterday, Um, we see some connections coming with the girls. How many episodes are there total in the season? Probably around like fourteen or something. And are you in a relationship now? Can't say you're really asking me that? Come on, give us something here. Nope, I will say my two favorite frontwners for you are Zuli and Maria.

I like Maria too interesting, not Nikki. Well, no, I do like nick What a lot of people gotta understand though, is like and you watch these shows and it's like one episode in someone gets like a little bit of camera time and stuff, and all of a sudden, they're like, that's the one. That's the one. I'm like, guys, there's like fourteen other episodes. Or we're like, okay, so does anyone come in halfway through the season that's not already part of the cast, Like do they add in another

woman to add drama? Um? I can't. I'm not gonna say that. You can only tell us this is there another what we see a guest appearance from another Jersey store members in the trailer. They all come, um, can you explain what it means to people? Chute? Um? Well, okay, so chuote used to be I don't know where like it really came from, but they used to say it

on the Sopranos. Um it's like an Italian kind of slang for like an idiot or just like you're like, I don't know, like this guy's that I can't explain it a backla like yeah, like you you could just mean anything like you. Polly calls me that because I'm kind of a nerd, So like if I, like, you know, go to like clean my glasses or something. It's like, you're a cute you know. Um. It's like a way of saying like you're a nerd, you're NITTI eat or

or whatever. Um. But then Paul like it's such a Sopranos fan and Polly is like a walking sound machine. Anything he says becomes like part of the vernacular. It becomes like a thing. So he started saying it on Jersey Shore and stuff, and now it's like everyone's saying it. Now it's a thing. So yeah, I don't have that power. I have like a very low, like calm voice and stuff. Like we have an ongoing joke that when I say something,

nobody laughs. And then Paul says it the next second and people die because he says it with like conviction and louder like writer. You know. Yeah, You're like, you're just you're so cute. He really is just this because we're on some sh a mislove connection. I feel like you really would have been well, you know what it is. Vanessa is like you know, she's like wifey, you know

what I mean. And at the time when I met her, Um, I wasn't like on thee time, you know, you're looking for your guid at was that well, no, because that could be wife too. That just make that Yeah, totally. They're also staten iron girls, which are not. But you ever you ever been in that position where you're, you know, playing the field and then you meet like an amazing girl or something You're just like, I'm not ready for that, Like she's too. That was my life for thirty years, Vinny. Yeah,

tell you I get a little ratchet or something. Trust me, I have been, but I've refined myself. But I wanted to say, like you're you're you have like such a presence about You're just like you You're You're You're nice, You're you have like this nice calming aura. Um. So it was funny. It was nice to see how like you went from Jersey Shore to now doing Double Shot at Love and I'm like Chippin Dale's like I couldn't, Like, I feel like you're a shy, Like you're you're more

on the shy side. How does that happen? Well, I'm I'm a scorpio. I don't know if that means it's nice for a moment anyway. So like I've always been like I'm quiet and introverted, but like I'm also ratchet as hell, like I love like hip hop, I love clubs, like I'm on I Got that night. Yes, I'm on Jersey Shore. So we're learning more and more here. I'm on Jersey Shore for a reason because I have that

party side to me as well. Um, and then I don't know, because like the Keto diet and all this other stuff like me being more into health and fitness in the last five years, Like I like taking off my shirt, and I also love being on stage performing. I've always been a performer my whole life, like in school plays in high school, as I was the lead in the plays. Now Chipping Nails, people think it's like a male strip club where they're just like in your face kind of thing. But it's a show. It's like

these guys are talented. It's like a production, and um, it's just the best audience that you could be in front of. Two It's just like women that I love you and you're with him for five weeks five weeks and you is it every night you're doing three Friday through Sunday. Okay, Jared did one performance for Chippingdale. I did a while ago, so you know exactly what I'm

talking about. Yeah, so it was before You're obviously residency, which goes until May twenty six, by the way, Friday through Sunday, until you can go to Chippendal's in Vegas at Real All Sweet Hotel and you can check out the show it is. I can back you up on that. It's it's I was super intimidated walking in um and these guys, I'm engaged, so like I had the engaged body going for a little while until like two weeks beforehand, where I just tried not to eat and just worked

out all the time. Terrible for me. And then so but the guys are super welcoming and they were just super down to earth. A lot of them are have families, are married. This is a gig a job for them. Their their former dancers, performers, so on and so forth. It's just like, hey, we work at you Bidel's, this is our job, this is what happens. And like you said, it's totally a show, like it's an entertaining show. I had buddies there who sat through it to like support me,

and they were like, I'm not gonna lie. I had I had a lot of fun with it. Yeah, I saw it too, and people ask me that too, and she as I saw the show. Did you see the show before you ended it all? Or no? No? So I didn't see it before I was in it. So I got to sit like I was a part of the show, but the way I was brought into it, like I was in the audience. And then you know, they did the first opening act and then they were like, oh, we have some special guests from Bachelor blah blah blah,

like one of them is Jared. Jared, wh did you come up on stage? And then that's how I got involved. So I got to see like the first ten minutes and then go backstage and kind of watch the rest of the show from back there, And you're right, it's just it's really entertaining, funny a residency. I like sat through a whole show and watched it before, and I was like hell if. I already thought like I'll be cool with this, but then when I saw it, I'm like,

of course, this is dope. It's really dope, Like I'm working my ass off for this sick body and everyone needs to see it. And dude, did you ever like rip your shirt off? In front of like hundreds of women. It's like that you can't say that we can't get you a bachelor in Paradise. Well, he might be in a relationship. You don't want to be the bartender there you go. Yeah, well it's never took your shirt off. I bet you we could get you to do that. So yeah, yeah, that's a great idea. If you could

be like you and wells, that's fine. And then like you could because there's two bars in Paradise, one downstairs, one upstairs. Okay, oh, I can do like the upstairs bar because I don't want to be like, well you downstairs upstairs bars trash. No, yeah, you could be make it popping upstairs and he can be like the love guru and then you're downstairs just like having fun. I'd be down yeah, I'd be like what squid porn porn?

She's saying that because me and Maria had a conversation about squid porn went so, I don't watch squinn porn, by the way, I know what it is though. No Japanese people they have these porns where like they take like octopus ease and Octopie octope whatever, and like they they used the tentacles to do things. Oh my god, these people are are crazy. That porn is nuts. Well,

I know of anime porn, ever watched about it? Um, I know like every genre of porn, just like I'm very knowledgeable an historian clapping, so they have you ever spat in anyone's mouth? Releases there that's weird, releases their most search search search bars in every continent around the world every year, and Russia was clapping. It's like the

thirteenth most popular search thing in Russia. It was my little to my little ponies, one male, one female, doing the deed sexually, obviously, and then that's just what people were searching in Russia to get off to. I think there's a lot of weird. See, I guess I don't know these things. But they say that if you think about if you can think about it, there is a

porn for it, or there will be one in the future. Um. But no, that's like I'm the type of person where, especially on this show, we were talking about small talk, We're like, you know, what do you what do you do? What are your dreams? What was your last relationship? Like you guys know, like so whack And then like with that girl Maria for like one second, she was like something reminded her of like She's like, oh, yeah, you

know those porns that blah blah blah. And then I felt I was engaged because I was like having a deeper conversation and more fun conversation. And then it became a part of the show and people, you know, I don't watch squid porn though. That porn, not squid porn. Let's just put that. Let's talk about you spinning in mouth because Vanessa talked about the top of the podcast, so you spat it. So I was talking, We're talking to like a length body language expert, and we're talking

about kissing or whatever. I'm like, oh, you know, I was kissing. I was making out with this guy, but one and then all of a sudden, he's spat in my mouth. Yeah, so I spat in his mouth. Oh no, in your mouth too. But it wasn't like it was like a slow drip spit. That's weird for me. I think it's like a dominating thing. Yeah, and so I would never want a girl to spit in my mouth to mouth. Wait, so all of you guys spit in girl's mouth, Well, yeah, I gotta stop talking in trouble.

But when you're kissing somebody, you're exchanging spit, right, like you're that's what you're doing. Your spit is going in their mouth. And then I think when you make a little bit of separation and see it, it becomes like a visual thing. So the same thing is happening. You're just kind of magnifying it almost, And I think depending on the woman, like you said, it's more of like a dominating thing and she wants to be like, you know, submissive,

submissive by spitting in her mouth. It's just it's, uh, it's like a metaphor. Really it's a literal physical action. I'm just trying to come from that. I've spent other places, but not in the mouth. Okay. I think this is getting to what women need to Like women when they do that to us, whether like oh, spit on me or slapping or choke me or whatever, like whatever, it is like they are being submissive, but they're the ones

in control because they're trying the guy crazy. That guy will do whatever you tell you is your slave at that point because if you can control his you're controlling everything in that moment. So it connects the brains, but it's they are in full control of your point. Um. There is one Facebook question that I wanted to ask you. There's come to this guy Thomas, and he wants a guy's opinion on So what better opinion than vinny? He said, I'd like a guy's opinion on this particular topic. Do

guys have any dating rules? Like no holding hands? Were kissing on the first date? Regardless of the day is going well his are he doesn't talk politics, religion or x is on the first couple of days. I go right into politics, religion, the squid porn dude, I go there. It's almost important to cover those hard topics first because then it's like, why was your time If you're not

gonna agree with it? Just zero hundred real quick. Well, also because like I hate small talk, and when you're having a deeper conversation about other random things, that's when your personality shines through. So like if a if a woman starts talking about you know, I can test her like intelligence, her just general knowledge, her curiosity about life while she's talking about those things. You can't get that when she's like, so I've lived in l a year.

I love the weather out there. I did the you know, I did the modeling thing, and then this is you know, but if she's giving an opinion on whether I agree with it or not, I'm like, yo, damn, that's attractive. So did you hate small talk even before Double Shot at Love? Or was it magnified because you're in this like environment where everything is sped up both? I mean, I hated it before, and now you're putting me in a place where I have to do it with twenty

women in a row. You know. Yeah, Well I feel like because in the Bachelor, it's like it is you know, you have this time limit right where you try to get to know someone, so it's like, we can't you gotta cut through the small talk in like Night one, it's like, hey, what are your hopes and dreams, family opinions on this? Blah blah blah. Was it like that on Double Shot of Love? Because the Night one is

very living in a house with them, aren't you? Well, yeah, we're living in the house, but we still have to make elimination. So at the do you know what? You know what happened the first like I had ten women and then Paul he had ten women, ten separate women. You guys pranked him because like you came down as the host and was like, Paul is the celebrity. And then the next night was ten different girls and Paul

came down. It was like, Vinny's a celebrity. And then they were like, by the way, there's twenty girls and we're both the celebrities. So I had to do the speed dating on ten. He did the speed dating on the other ten, and then we like, but it was cool, like watching it from another perspective because like I got to see which ones from his group I liked while I was watching it, you know, and he was doing

the kind of like the dirty word for it. But you're also watching so when like PAULI was mingling with the ten girls on there, you're watching in a camera, but you were also seeing girls that you might be interested. I'm saying, like I was like vetting the mount I was like, oh I like that one or whatnot? Like those are your two? I'm telling you kind of put mark me down. Mark my word. You guys are so cute.

I did the same thing for your show. I was like, Rachel's definitely choosing Brian and I don't care what anyone said, so, will there be a return of either the grenade whistle or the grenade horde? Dou no, no grenades. No we're not. We're leaving that stuff to decide. Wait, Dean, there was a part where um on Paradise and I had your back.

I think when you got in trouble, was in trouble A lot of trouble on Paradise because, um, I don't know if I remember this correctly, what you were like talking to one of them, but then you I was talking to you like kissing another girl. I was talking to Christina and Danielle at the same time. Yeah, and oh I know Danielle. Danielle L right, cool, Um, she's cool. But I you were talking to them, And why people get mad at you? I'm like, that's what this show is.

You're supposed to date multiple people. Yeah. I got a lot of heat for that. I think they hated you. You were like a hero, and then everyone hated you. It wasn't a fun time. There was a lot of hate that was directed my way. When like I was kept being reminded to from producers and everyone there. I was like, yeah, that's what you're supposed to do here, date multiple people. I was like, all right, fine, I'll date multiple people I'm supposed to be doing. Um, but yeah,

thanks for my back, man. I appreciate you, of course I did. I was like, what do you guys like, why are you so mad? I know it sucked too, because all you were doing was being honest about it. You were never going behind anybody's back. You're like, like, but I like d low two. Wait which one was Christina again, woman, the beautiful young Russian woman? Oh yeah, yeah yeah. And that's what the thing too, is that

every one really loved Christina. If it was another girl, I don't know if they would have reacted the same way, lying wholeheartedly agree. And that sucks. Um. As much as I love talking about this, I can talk about it all day long. I know we appreciate you coming in. Make sure you guys come see me. Chippendale's Vinny has the residency at the Real All Sweet Hotel and Casino in Vegas Friday through Sundays and it goes until May. I cannot recommend this show. Actually I can recommend it

more because now Vinny is a part of it. UM, So guys definitely go check that out. It's an incredible show, a lot of fun, especially for like a girl's weekend. And then even so like as a guy, I really enjoyed it. I'm not even joking. It's just like funny and self aware a single guy, it's a pretty much the best place ever totally because you have like a hundred single women. They're just going crazy and their hormones

are shot through the roof after the show. Catch it weird if just the one single guy went by himself to you go with a group of guys, you know, it's like you're Vegas trip and make sure you go to chip and Dale's does this right afterwards. You're gonna be fine. We'll support you and sports hip and nails. But something just feels weird about that. Um Double Shot at Love is airing on right now. Jerdays, um Jersdays,

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from Rhode Island and I'm from Rhode Island. So Rhode Islands a very small state, so if anybody's on TV, everybody knows about it. So I was like, man, there's this guy's on this new reality TV show. He's from Johnston, Rhode Island. And then of course it became Shore and it's skyrocketed. So I used to watch season one that became really invested in it and just loved it. In every Thursday night ten o'clock I would watch Jergy Shore and it was just kind of like a fun thing

I did with my friends. And then now out here I am hosting a podcast and Vinny from just As Shore as a guest on my podcast Never in a MILLIONE tell that to the Jared back in two thousand nine. You know what I mean, that's the crazy world. That's why I'm such a high right now because it's just a cool moment, which and Dean Vinny tweeted about you. I don't know. I think it's really cool and he was down to earth, like regular guy. It's weird. They're just like one of us, man, I know, just like

one of us. That's crazy now that I think it's crazy because in my mind, you know, watching six seasons Jersey Shore than watching family reunion just a couple of years ago. It's like he's more of like a celebrity in my eyes. I guess no, I'm saying he's just like a regular person. He's reg person. It's just weird to think about, you know. It's like he eat and sleeps, put his pants one foot at a time. Well, I think it's weird to think about. He's obviously far more

of a celebrity than us. How dare you? But it's true, which is no Jared take it back. But it's just weird to even think that we're on some sort of playing level with that guy. But he was cool, he was nice. He's a little uh uh. He was injured. Yeah, I felt bad. He was a limp and he heard his ankle playing basketballing around. I'm a big fan, I can. I hate to say, I'm not as big of a

fan as you are. I mean, obviously a great guy. Well, I just watched Jersey Shore and then you know, when you're from the East Coast, you lived in that region for a long time, and and Paully was from Rhode Island, and then obviously so Pauli, d and Vinny became really good friends on the show and their quote unquote bromance was the funniest and best part of Jersey Shore for me.

I can ask you this question, and I know we have to wrap, but one question, and I know it comes pre fiance pretty before you even meeting Ashley, so I know you can answer this honestly. Of the craft of Jersey Shore, which one did you like them? Which one did you have a crush on the most? Oh? J Well? Yeah, so yeah, j Wow was my first saw j Well. It was like, oh God, you're like, that is a woman. That is what a woman looks like. I liked the other girl, what was named britt me

not poably. I'm sorry, ron Oh, Sammy, Alex Sammy. Yeah, Sammy is a beautiful girl. But Sammy because like at the beginning, ron and then I said, it was like Sammy and Ronnie had this big thing. But if you remember from season one, Sammy like and Mike kind of had a thing for the first few episodes, and then she went to Ronnie and then it became six seasons of Ronnie and sam. I was a big Jersey Shot fan too. I was telling you guys off the air that I read Sunkies book. I had situations, i'd work

out I had the whole thing. I want to headphones, headphones. I don't if you guys remember this. Vinny got offered thirty thousand dollars to not only pose nude for play Girl but make a mold of his penis. That is not nearly enough money for that. I hear it's pretty legendary. And when he was in here just now, I was like, should I bring it up? Should? I don't know. We talked about squid porn, and you're afraid of bringing up

him molding his penis. I didn't want him to know how much I've thought about his penis though, Like, right there with him in front of me, that is a weird thing. That's how much for you guys to do that posing play girl and get a mold of your penis made? How much? Give me a number? It was like the Playgirl full nudity or is it like, you know, full frontal quarter million dollars? I mean I couldn't put a probably something like that eastern Uh, I don't know.

That might everyone everyone's got a price that might be enough. What material is the mold made of? That's what I want to know. It's it's not it's harmless. It's made it to a b P A free Well, that's that's what I'm talking. Is it made of chocolate? Um, I wouldn't like probably a cool half meal that dude for like, but yeah, i'd pay about how much you would pay for days. We're asking how much you would do to sell yourself. I tried to do that once. I tried this.

It's called clone a Willie. By the way, there's a way you can make your own. I couldn't. I couldn't make it cloon a Willie. Yeah, a little too smaller, Yeah it's too big. Yeah. No, it was having issues and I might cut this part out. Everybody, what were the issues and the show? Now you can cut it out? What issues like impotence? Yeah, I mean it's it's hard to it's it's self excited while you're shoving it into a cold sleeve. You know what. Um, some guys do

like from Thunder down Under. They like rap, so they like you know, they use the pump right and they get it to like a good eye. But then what they do in order to keep your blood flow in there, they wrap an elastic band around their balls and like the base of the base of the penis to keep the blood flow in there. Will you show us how they did it? Tory and Danielle please leave the room.

Stuck it Dating. Thank you everyone for tuning in. I'm so sorry that you're gonna have nightmares tonight after listening to everything that we just talked about. We started off with spitting in the mouth and we're ending with clone and Willie. Yeah, and now you have nightmares for the rest of your life. Sorry about. Thank you to Vinnie for coming in and spending about thirty minutes of us telling us about his time on Double Shut Out Love

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