Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Trust is often talked about as something automatic in power exchange. A submissive gives it. A Dominant earns it. But real trust in a D/s dynamic is much more complex than that. In this episode, Luna explores how trust actually develops between Dominants and submissives, why even strong dynamics can experience ruptures, and what rebuilding trust can look like when both partners are willing to do the work. Drawing from personal experienc...
Apr 01, 2026•26 min•Season 2026Ep. 3
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Your first BDSM scene can feel equal parts thrilling and terrifying. What if you do something wrong? What if you don’t react the way you think you should? What actually happens once the scene begins? In this episode, we gently walk through the anatomy of a BDSM scene, specifically, your first one, so you can step into it feeling more grounded and less overwhelmed. We talk about what a scene really is, how negotiation sets the tone long ...
Mar 04, 2026•17 min•Season 2026Ep. 2
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. What does it mean to step into a hucow identity—and why does it resonate so deeply for some submissives? In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey into hucow play: how I first discovered it, what drew me in, the challenges I faced, and how embracing my cow identity became a powerful blend of submission, embodiment, playfulness, and self-acceptance. From stumbling across my first hucow photos online to creating Lunabelle, my cow p...
Feb 04, 2026•17 min•Season 2026Ep. 1
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In this episode, we explore one of the most common questions submissives ask when starting their journey: “What’s really expected of me?” We talk about what healthy expectations look like in a D/s relationship—from the early days of self-discovery to building communication with your Dominant. You’ll learn practical ways to define your own boundaries, clarify mutual expectations, and avoid the common traps that lead to confusion or overw...
Nov 05, 2025•18 min•Season 2025Ep. 7
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Affirmations can be more than feel-good words—they can reshape your submissive mindset. In this episode, I share how I’ve used affirmations for over a decade to shift negative self-talk, strengthen my confidence, and reconnect with my submission. You’ll learn how to create affirmations that feel believable and personal, plus easy ways to make them part of your daily life. Read the full article: Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actua...
Sep 03, 2025•19 min•Season 2025Ep. 6
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces of advice given to submissives: “Know your wants and needs.” But what does that really mean, and how do you figure out the difference? You’ll learn how to identify your core needs, why honoring them is essential to a healthy D/s relationship, and what happens when you settle for less than what truly fulfills you. We’ll also explore common submissive-sp...
Jun 04, 2025•21 min•Season 2025Ep. 5
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing flawlessness can lead to burnout, self-doubt, and disconnection. Instead of striving for an impossible ideal, submissives are encouraged to embrace authenticity, growth, and the beauty of their unique journey. Real submission isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, vulnerable, and enough just as you are. 🎧 Leave a review or share this epis...
May 07, 2025•16 min•Season 2025Ep. 4
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters. Thoughts to Ponder What is your opinio...
Apr 02, 2025•16 min•Season 2025Ep. 3
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean. The Art of Apology Series - Submissive Guide 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Becom...
Feb 05, 2025•17 min•Season 2025Ep. 2
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence. Hormone Junk...
Jan 08, 2025•20 min•Season 2025Ep. 1
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to explore and learn the nuances of BDSM and discuss the potential benefits and dangers. We’ll help you navigate the online BDSM landscape with confidence and care. 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissiv...
Nov 06, 2024•19 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work. Resources - Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining 3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to Kink Create SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolution...
Sep 04, 2024•24 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should. Resources: Conversation Starters for Dif...
Jul 03, 2024•18 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of...
May 01, 2024•15 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other. Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony Resources: Expectat...
Mar 06, 2024•11 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom Chat with the Discord community! https://subgui.de/chat Resources: Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all...
Feb 07, 2024•15 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/every-good-conversation-starts-with-good-listening 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more ...
Dec 06, 2023•12 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills Further Reading: Anticipatory Service Personality and Behavior Tests: Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator The Big Five Predictive Inde...
Nov 01, 2023•12 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits Further Reading: BDSM Limits Explained Using Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky ...
Oct 04, 2023•17 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirty Further Reading: How to Be Responsive During Play Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Caro...
Aug 02, 2023•16 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play. Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics: Orgasm Control by Rover Orgasm Control Conditioning of Females on FetLife Train Your Body to Orgasm on Command Orgasm Control Training: They Can’t Resist Orgasm Control by gina Study: Women's ...
Jul 05, 2023•13 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships, rules are often used to provide structure and establish boundaries within the power exchange dynamic. These rules serve as a guide for submissives to follow, which allows us to focus on our submission and the expectations of our Dominant partner. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/structure-rules 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care ...
Jun 07, 2023•13 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario. It’s also one that can be quite difficult for people to learn. Read the article on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/how-to-beg-when-asked Submissive Guide FetLife Group: http://subgui.de/fetlife Other people's thoughts on begging: Begging In BDSM by Raven Shadowborne A Kinkster’s Guide to Begging on A ...
May 03, 2023•15 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Wearing a Dominant’s collar is often a goal of any submissive in a D/s relationship. However, defining what a collar is and how you prepare to accept it can be daunting. Let’s tackle the important points about collars and if you are prepared for what a collar may mean for you and your relationship. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/expectations-of-a-collar-how-ready-are-you-to-accept-one Here are a f...
Apr 05, 2023•13 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. I’ve gathered seven of the best books to help you get started on your exploration of BDSM and the submissive role. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/recommended-reading-submissives All links to the book reviews, GoodReads, and Amazon are linked in the above article. 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive...
Mar 01, 2023•14 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Relationships, even ones with power exchange, are built the old-fashioned way; dating, mutual compatibility, and communication. We all have a common ground to start from, even if we don't realize it. Unlike what many forums may say about D/s relationships and how they start, knowing the terms to use for your desires and being able to voice them to others does not produce an instant connection and a relationship. It's work from the start...
Feb 01, 2023•15 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it's always on their minds: the play, the sex, love, or the strictness of dominance. Wants are very valid to the happiness in your life, but more important are the needs. When you think of needs, the list seems to become harder, and people struggle more with defining what they really need. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/know-w...
Dec 01, 2022•16 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A Submissive’s primary focus should be taking care of the property. There are common ways we are not adhering to the prime directive, and there are ways we can make it more of a foundation for our lives. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/take-care-of-the-property Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ► http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Sub...
Nov 02, 2022•13 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first response is 'it looks like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. All relationships are unique and personal to the people in them, making a sound basis for any D/s relationship. In this article, I’ll cover a few common misconceptions of D/s dynamics, what a D/s relationship is not, and some core traits you can use to identify a healthy dynamic. You may be s...
May 06, 2021•13 min
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right? Read the Article: [link] The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exc...
Nov 11, 2020•18 min
