Send us a text We try hard to get pregnant, it doesn't work. We try HARDER to get pregnant, it still doesn't work. So then we become militant about our fertility and beat up on ourselves if we sway even slightly from the path. If you have been experiencing fertility perfectionism by either being militant and being miserable or beating up on yourself for not being 'perfect enough' - then this episode is for you. Today I want to talk to you about WHY being perfect might be working against you and ...
Nov 21, 2021•19 min•Ep. 56
Send us a text When the image in our head of how our life is supposed to look now differs from how it actually looks, it can cause a lot of pain. But worse than that, it can keep us stuck in pain and not give our body the best opportunity for conception. When you struggle to conceive it feels like it strips us of the right to choose a life that we desperately want to experience. So today I wanted to show you why accepting where you are at now, can actually be a huge benefit to trying to conceive...
Nov 14, 2021•16 min•Ep. 55
Send us a text You may have started off trying to conceive perfectly normally. Feeling hopeful and excited and planning the cute way that you were going to tell your husband or partner when you finally got that positive pregnancy test. Yet month after month when nothing happened, and those pregnancy sticks kept coming up negative, you started to panic and started trying to do all the things to get pregnant. You might have found yourself taking those pregnancy tests earlier and earlier in your cy...
Nov 08, 2021•23 min•Ep. 54
Send us a text Creating change in our lives can be hard, especially when it seems it is forced on us and not something we are truly welcoming. And change can mean anything from not drinking coffee or alcohol anymore or trying to feel more calm and less chaotic whilst trying to conceive your baby. So where does true change and shift in our lives come from? How does it happen? And what can you do so that it happens more easily and effortlessly and you can get back to feeling good again and feeling...
Nov 01, 2021•30 min•Ep. 53
Send us a text I sat in the IVF clinic waiting for my name to be called for my ultrasound and blood test. My husband sat beside me as I scanned the room. Barely a partner could be seen in that room and I could FEEL the sadness and desperation and sheer longing from the devastated women around me. You could cut the energy with a knife it was so palpable. That moment right there was when I decided that I would somehow be a part of women's lives who were struggling with infertility someday. See, I ...
Oct 24, 2021•23 min•Ep. 52
Send us a text Not every relationship we have with other people is created equal. Some people are super close to us like our partner or best friends, some people are good friends but not as close, and we also have acquaintances, co-workers, family and the list goes on. And yet sometimes we treat these relationships like they are equal, by either sharing everything with everyone or telling no-one anything. So today on the podcast, I'm talking about how to decide who are the appropriate people to ...
Oct 18, 2021•23 min•Ep. 51
Send us a text The options for creating families these days has gone far beyond natural conception, adoption or IVF. Which brings so many more opportunities for us to create our families when we otherwise wouldn't be able to. There is donor eggs, embryos, sperm and even surrogacy. But these options also bring with it a tonne more questions and crap load more emotional considerations. So many women and couples in this position have questions like: - Will I be able to connect with a baby who doesn...
Oct 10, 2021•54 min•Ep. 50
Send us a text We have all felt jealous at some point in our lives, and we have all felt how awful this emotion is to feel. Because honestly, it often feels like one of the worst ones! And when your friends seem to be getting pregnant easily and you have been struggling for years, it can feel like an awful kick in the heart and gut. So up rears her ugly head, JEALOUSY! It's this emotion that makes us feel out of control of ourselves. Angry and bitter at someone else's good fortune. And that's no...
Oct 04, 2021•21 min•Ep. 49
Send us a text Do you feel lost without your To-Do list? Do people call you a perfectionist? Do you want to ALWAYS be in control of situations? Are you regularly impatient with the speed of achievement in your life? Do you live by the philosophy of just work harder to get what you want? Well these can all be traits of someone who identifies as being Type A. Unfortunately on the fertility pathway to-do lists, perfectionism, control, impatience and working harder to get what you want are some of t...
Sep 26, 2021•59 min•Ep. 48
Send us a text "I just don't feel so obsessed about my fertility. I just think about it way less and I feel calmer and clearer," one of my clients said to me this week. "I just felt really calm this week, my thinking is clearer and I don't feel chaotic," said another. In fact, these women are chalk and cheese different from when they first started talking to me. Because I've by far and away found that one of the biggest things that women want as they continue their journey to parenthood is a mor...
Sep 19, 2021•23 min•Ep. 47
Send us a text Did you know that people would much rather lose a limb than be fat? This is insane! But what is even more insane is that people of all sizes - both big and small that happen to fall on the wrong side of the BMI index are being denied access to treatment and fertility treatments just because of their size. So today on the podcast, I could think of none other I would rather have on to discuss this topic than the wonderful Nicola Salmon, Fat Positivity Fertility Coach. I was so sick ...
Sep 13, 2021•52 min•Ep. 46
Send us a text If you've ever been told to 'just relax and it will happen' or 'just don't worry about it so much' or 'try to be positive' - you know how infuriating those comments are when you are on an extended fertility journey. Because if it was just so easy to do those things, we would do them, not because we think they will help us conceive but because we want to FEEL BETTER! Going through infertility is completely depleting and exhausting mentally, emotionally and spiritually and it can pr...
Sep 06, 2021•28 min•Ep. 45
Send us a text Everyday, you do your best to cope and get through the day, despite the agonising heartache you feel, the sadness that just seems to have become your new unwelcome friend and the distrust you have of your body. You've been trying to get pregnant for soooooo long and everything just seems to remind you that this isn't happening for you. And just when you think you might be having a good day - BAM - some woman with a HUGE belly walks past you. You sigh and try and distract yourself ...
Aug 29, 2021•20 min•Ep. 44
Send us a text It's something that we don't talk about very often and something that is also extremely common on a fertility journey and that is miscarriages. But what is also really common with miscarriages unfortunately is the lasting devastation and trauma, which isn't talked about and often isn't dealt with. As women, we are largely left alone in our devastation and anxiety of the experience and around it happening again if we get pregnant because we don't talk about miscarriage in the first...
Aug 23, 2021•36 min•Ep. 43
Send us a text It's natural to be really impatient about wanting to conceive your baby - especially when you have been trying for so long. And I'm not here to tell you that you need to be patient. But today I wanted to showcase something that I experience with my clients time and time again. And that is about how impatience keeps you stuck in and on the infertility rollercoaster. And I mean this in a couple of ways. Emotionally stuck Stuck from actually calming down our nervous systems to suppor...
Aug 15, 2021•25 min•Ep. 42
Send us a text Did you always imagine how you were going to announce your pregnancy to your friends? You started TTC in earnest and collected all these cute ideas and you daydreamed about how you would tell your partner, your friends and your family. You saw in your mind how happy people would be for you. But then infertility struck and all those dreams got ripped away! And then, friend after friend, after family member started announcing their pregnancies and they started to feel like a knife t...
Aug 09, 2021•53 min•Ep. 41
Send us a text Have you ever met a person who was completely stressed out who could 'just relax' on cue after being told too? It's ludicrous, yet so many people still think nothing of saying - just relax and it will happen - to women who are experiencing one of the most difficult experiences they could go through - infertility. And in fact, it would be like telling a cancer patient to 'just relax'. It is insensitive and downright inappropriate. Yet, we've all heard the stories about someone who ...
Aug 02, 2021•21 min•Ep. 40
Send us a text Let's talk about sex! Sex is a subject that can be so hard to talk about and on this podcast I want to try and normalise it. Because let's face it, sex on an infertility journey can sometimes become a massive chore when you are tired, overworked, emotional and just not in the mood - and that goes for both people in the relationship! Plus when it becomes all about making a baby, it can start to feel forced, and lack intimacy. Today on the podcast I talk to one of the world's leadin...
Jul 26, 2021•53 min•Ep. 39
Send us a text Navigating Infertility is one of the hardest things a couple can do. And the more the years pass, the harder it can be. It negatively impacts our mindset, can test our relationships and quite often starts to slowly erode our lives, friendships, enjoyment of life and our self-worth and self-esteem. We start to feel like there is something wrong with us, that maybe we are not worthy and we start to live constantly in a state of functioning misery. But imagine instead you could turn ...
Jul 18, 2021•16 min•Ep. 38
Send us a text When infertility rears its ugly head and all the traditional western methods are not working we are often left scratching our heads. There are so many different alternative treatments you can pursue in the name of increasing your fertility that aren't always supported by the Western Medicine approach. And one of the most popular ones is naturopathy. So today on the podcast I have invited on Dr Mary Sawdon who is not only a GP originally but now also a Naturopath specialising in Wo...
Jul 11, 2021•48 min•Ep. 37
Send us a text Are you worried about your age and having a baby? Is it making you feel like you are on borrowed time? Would you do anything to turn back the hands of time OR would you do anything to get your body into peak fertility? Because in today's episode I want to talk about why you don't need to turn back the hands of time to do this. As I celebrate my birthday in a few days and turn 45, I wanted to do a podcast about age and why I think we need to worry less than we do. In this episode I...
Jul 04, 2021•21 min•Ep. 36
Send us a text When I started my journey into trying to conceive I was 27 years old, lost a bit of weight in the name of health and lost my period and could find no-one who could explain to me what had happened to me. I went from doctor to doctor but in the end had to explain it and fix it for myself - little did I realise what happened to me has a name! So today on the podcast, I'm so excited to have Sarah Liz King, a Health At Every Size (HAES) Exercise Physiologist and Health coach. Sarah, he...
Jun 28, 2021•48 min•Ep. 35
Send us a text What do you think of when you hear the words - the two week wait? Does it conjure up images of panic and frustration? Do you see yourself crying in the bathroom over another negative pregnancy test? The dreaded two week wait - it may only be 14 days but it can feel like years and make even the sanest person feel crazy! Struggling to conceive for month after month to year after year can really take its toll so today on the podcast, let's talk about ways that you can actually surviv...
Jun 21, 2021•26 min•Ep. 34
Send us a text Infertility struggles can feel like a life sentence and quite often when the traumatic feeling of infertility takes over your life - it can be - unless you do something about it. Today on the podcast I want to talk about infertility and it's trauma to normalise that this is in fact something that we need to take more seriously as a society. Because Infertility struggles aren't easy but we as women tend to downplay our experiences in order to cope. And I also want to talk about it ...
Jun 14, 2021•27 min•Ep. 33
Send us a text Do you feel like your fertility diet is all about restriction and what you can't have? No gluten, no dairy, no alcohol, no caffeine, no sugar, no fun?? Is your diet causing you more stress than it is worth? Today on the podcast I am joined by a wonderful person, Stefanie Valakas who goes by The Dietologist. I wanted to have Stefanie on because so many women get really obsessed about their diets whilst trying to conceive and she brings a wonderfully balanced perspective to fertilit...
Jun 07, 2021•36 min•Ep. 32
Send us a text Major life events have been shown to either make a relationship swim or a relationship fall apart and sink. And some of the major reasons people cite for divorce are: Lack of communication, financial troubles and sex and intimacy issues. Infertility struggles can often bring about all 3. Relationships can be tricky to navigate at the best of times, and we all go through rough patches, but adding an infertility struggle to the mix can create a whole new ball game. Today on the podc...
May 31, 2021•41 min•Ep. 31
Send us a text Do you work full-time and your busy and you have a to-do list as long as your arm, but that's okay because you love lists and planning and you are good at it and you've always worked hard to get what you want. And maybe the lists and planning and organising don't just stop at the work, you organise and plan most things around the house and make sure everything gets done. And you are an organisational queen! Or maybe, you don't have the lists, but you take on the responsibility of ...
May 24, 2021•29 min•Ep. 30
Send us a text I don't normally stray from talking about mindset, emotions and energy but today it is my absolute pleasure to welcome an Embryologist and Fertility Educator onto the podcast - Lucy Lines! After spending so long working as an Embryologist and Fertility Educator, Lucy saw that more needed to be done to help women feel more educated about their fertility. There were soooo many questions I wanted to ask Lucy and really I only got to a small portion of them but today you will hear abo...
May 17, 2021•48 min•Ep. 29
Send us a text As a veteran IVFer and someone who talks to women going through procedures at Fertility Clinics every day of the week, I decided to hone in on the 5 things to look for when choosing a fertility clinic and why. Because we don't know what we don't know and it can feel like a scary thing to do. So if you are looking at getting help with conceiving a baby and the next step is a Fertility Clinic then it's important that you feel informed about your choices. So if you are currently aski...
May 10, 2021•24 min•Ep. 28
Send us a text Today I am getting really personal on the podcast, like REALLY personal and sharing with you my story on how I conceived my son, Dashiell. It's an 11 year long story that I have condensed as much as possible. 😁 Today on the podcast you will hear about: - How I experienced insensitive doctors in my first month of trying - Why I felt so lonely on my journey - Why my journey to conceiving my son took so long! - Why at one stage I completely shelved my baby plans and griev...
May 03, 2021•49 min•Ep. 27
