And welcome to another episode. I'm your host, w I z e. My next guest is a renowned possibility coach, transformational speaker, and the visionary founder of why you two shine. Welcome to the show, Victoria Raider. Thank you so much. It's fantastic to be here. The pleasure is mine. I'm glad to have you on the show. So let's just just drop let's just drop right into the
questions. So you you your journey is a a remarkable one from achieving real estate success during the recent to during the recession To becoming a, possibility coach, can you share a pivotal moment or realization that led you down this transformational path? Yeah. You know, being as you said, first of all, I think it's very important that when you look at a list accomplishment to realize the blanks of failure
that are laying the foundation. And so when I'm gonna, like, name these Steps, I want everybody to fill in, like the bridges, and the muds and, you know, and all the good stuff that usually doesn't make it to these excellent conversations sometimes. You know? And I and and my story in the middle of the mud because, I wanted to homeschool my kids. You know?
From Ukraine, I wanted them to speak Slavic languages. Long story short, I Find myself taking my kids to Greece, to study Greek history and architecture at the tender ages of 4 and, 8. Ambitious crazy mother, 3 weeks. You know? Come home and my husband's like, honey, I'm all in favor of this ambition of education, but you got us into debt. I know in Ukraine, when you swipe plastic, this is 25 years ago, you know, there's money attached. Nothing is attached to a credit card
here. So I find myself with 2 little kids, a dream of traveling and homeschooling, and no finances to do that. That's what got me in real estate. Right? I wanna make sure that a very big why got me in real estate, a nonnegotiable very big why. And so here I am, Complete introvert. A girl who had no friends till age 11 and 11, and I was sobbing when my parents told me I had to go to, like, a campfire Because I couldn't connect to people,
and I have to go to people business. Real estate is not about homes. It's about people. I have to meet strangers. I have to And so, you know, through sobbing every night and through discomfort of, that process, all of a sudden within 2 years, While homeschooling my kids, not working on Sunday, traveling the world, I'm announced as a top one agent in Virginia, top 1% in US and Canada. I'm like, what happened? Like, I lift my head, and I'm like, what happened? I mean, you know, through snot and
crawling, and, yes, by the way, dream's coming true. You know, and I paused, and this is the the long winded end and the answer to your great question is that I pause and I ask myself, what is it That got me there. Cause I'm no more experienced than agents in my office. Some of them are 20 years. I'm not wiser. I'm not cape not more capable. I'm certainly not more hardworking because
I've got things to balance. I'm not devoted to it 7 times a week because I believe one day is for me and for my god. Whatever. No work on Sunday. So what is it That has gotten me to where I am. Because up till then, every personal development book told me was my Mindset, you can do it, and my effort. And I'm like, no. These
people have the same mindset and the same effort. What I've come to realize is that what drives all of human behavior is not what we consciously think we think, but what is subconsciously Hidden deep within and either sabotages or promotes
our dreams. So I threw myself into PhD of metaphysics, every energy work and healing modality, and then founded the company that simply could show a path to anybody How to find what keeps you stuck in your mind, how to get unstuck, and how to move forward, and that it is possible not just for me, But for everybody who chooses that possibility, hence my clients called me possibility coach.
Mhmm. So like like you just mentioned, your work involves uncovering and solving hidden problems and patterns in your clients. Did you provide an example of how these hidden factors can impact one's life and success? Absolutely. You know, I think we are We're going down into a very well, some of us are right in the middle of it. Some of it is still kind of sliding down into, A very interesting financials, you know, situation globally.
We can close our eyes and pretend it's not happening. We can keep looking at the Fake, Instagram accounts thinking somebody knows the secret. We don't. No. Everybody's equally broke. You know, and so just people don't lie as well. And so There is a pending reality. All the survival levels strive for most of the people on the planet, in their health, in their relationship, in their
money, Just is. And so when that is happening, you've got to ask yourself and the work that I'm doing in my Description group is to say which part of what is happening or the world is a part that is also happening for me. Just being very, very clear on where am I at the same frequency or, you know, it's same radio station. I'm listening to the same music of doom and gloom. So which part of me is struggling? It's very important question to ask. And then as you find that part, ask yourself,
What is it that I don't see? It's amazing. Our subconscious is so powerful. It'll start answering your questions. So what is it that I refuse to see about myself that keeps me stuck. You will get an answer almost immediately. And then the third question is, okay, So what I do about it? Not generally, but what's the first step for me to get out of this? I'll give you the most recent as as, recent as 2 hours ago. As recent as 2 hours ago, parallel, that's gonna be like a big for
most of us. At a time when so many people are being laid off and or being fired, there's a subconscious fear for some people that are employed of being fired and that are self employed of not creating the cash flow so they are not firing themselves. And so that fear of firing, our subconscious mind is very, very literal. It hears and absorbs and codes Literally. So when I'm thinking or feeling, I'm afraid of being fired. In our brain, new programs are created by
neurons firing. Neurons are Energy connections in our nervous system, and they connect and create new thought patterns In our brain, new movements for our body through firing together. There is a phrase, neurons that fire wire. If I'm constantly saying I'm brave, I'm brave, I'm brave, I'm brave, I'm brave, I'm brave, I'm brave, neurons are firing, all of a sudden, I'm gonna wake up next morning going like, Golly. I'm, like, brave today. I mean, what happened? Neurons that fire wire.
When you have a fear of being fired, the brain is so literal That it zooms in into your fear of being fired, and it starts disconnecting healthy connections. The neurons that fire now fire on fear, and you create. You lay out the foundation for you to be fired. So if you are one of those people, if you're listening to it and you say, man, she's like, looking at my mind, I'm Afraid of losing my job or I'm afraid of losing my, you know, business. It's okay to say the fear is normal. Doesn't
have to be the norm. And I want you to say it out loud, not to think it. We think millions of thoughts. This fear is normal. Doesn't have to be my norm. I'm gonna fire the fear. You guys feel the chills? I'm gonna fire this fear. What's there to be afraid of firing at you? I'm firing the fear and I'm firing up my business. I'm firing up my, you know, value for my employer, so don't fear discovery of painful programs. All of a sudden, there's nothing to fear. I'm firing fear. Yeah. Huge. Oh,
no. I I agree with you. That's that's how stuck my mind was born was I I finally got over the fear of Launching my podcast because and I was just making up so many excuses. Who's gonna wanna listen to me? I sound horrible. There's the I don't know what to talk about, and it was just me making up excuses, and and it was The fear of failure that was holding me back from starting my podcast. And when I finally kicked that
fear and went, you know what? Press record, recorded the 1st episode, released it, and that was the beginning. And that was just, okay, I can do this now. I know I can do it. Then I just started learning the process, started adding things that I didn't add the 1st few times when I started uploading my episodes, and I started growing and learning, And I improved, and that's and had I not faced that fear of pressing record and releasing the episode, We wouldn't be talking right now. I'm glad we
are. Well, you know, 1, Two points that came in so loudly for me as you were making that is that I know it is sad, but I think it's good for our brain to see it visually. People say, oh, failure paves the path to success, but I think what really happens is, like, you're walking. Fear, Failure, fear, failure, fear, failure. It doesn't you know, you get better at something only to fail at something greater. And so I talk about, Like 4 levels of creating abundance.
The first one is awareness. You become aware either of a god given desire for you through you, if your personal faith or your intuitive drive for achievement. You know? If you personal development. So however language you use, there's a Seed of greatness within you, as Les Brown has, you know, says. So you are aware that there is more. You know, in your case, this great podcast, there's
more. I'm called to do it. Nobody just wakes up in the middle of the night and says, why don't I expose myself to a 1000000 people? I mean, it's gotta be a calling. It's gotta be a calling. I'm called to do it. I'm called to do it. Awareness. Then there is alignment. And the alignment is, okay, how do I align with this vision? What's the
first step? You know, you're aligning with the vision. You're building up yourself To align with the awareness that you have, and then you take that first action while the bridge from alignment to action is Always fear. I don't think it's talked enough. It is either fear of failure, fear of impostor syndrome, But some people fear of success. For some people, I know for me, for longest time, it's been fear of losing my privacy. If all of a sudden, I have a global presence. I I'm a private
person. I was terrified of of losing my privacy. Right? But out of alignment into action is overcoming fear. You act through fear and then it disappears. It'll never go away. It is a part of us that wants us to survive. It's a scared part of me that says, look. We haven't done this before so you can't die from it. So you got to hug yourself and say, I hear you and I'll find a way to go through it without dying. And so you
move through what I call the sacred part. And then as a result of awareness, alignment, and action comes the abundance, you know, repeated action, And then new awareness comes in, and you've said, I've gotten better. You became aware of a better way to do things. I become aware of my failure every day and of something better that I can do. And I align with something better continually, and then I act through it, then I empower my clients to do the
same. And as a result of not giving up on this process, abundance follows. Nobody knows when it does, And the gap in the abundance following is what makes most people quit before they become prosperous. It's tragic. But when you're fearful and exhausted and burnt out, definition of burnout, you put an effort, you don't see result. If I had to define what the global fields right now, it's complete sheer burnout. How much longer? And I would say until.
Until your rewards are given for not giving up and then beyond that with new energy. No. I I agree with you. It's been it just even on this journey and and doing the podcast and And just being able to have these conversations where I am learning so much, and and I'm able to I I don't look at it as I no longer look at it as as failure, or, like, it's no longer to me. I'm not looking at it as It's just something I'm so if something happens to go wrong, I don't look at it
as a failure. I look at more as, alright, more as a lesson where I can be like, Where did I go wrong on this? What did I do wrong here? How can I fix how can I what can I do to not make sure it doesn't occur again? And that and that's how I go about it. I don't I don't know. When when I when I see mistakes, I correct them, or if I if I'm still having issues, I I approach someone who can help me with the error with the mistake, or I learn how to correct it. And so
instead of me being like, oh, man. I messed up. I'm like, alright. Again, I I look at it more as What can what could have I done differently to make it go the other way? Yeah. I, It's interesting because I think, it's a very interesting spread in our group sessions, and presentations, where there are more women participating on live as live audience, But that's only 25% of the audience. 75% are actually men, and they
watch it quietly. It's just fascinating to me, you know, because because So I gotta do it. You know? I gotta do it. You know? It's just really a cool thing. But the reason I'm saying is that is because What I've noticed is that more so for men than for women. That's an observation. It's not a conclusion, not effect, not a statement To get somebody all worked up, just as an observation.
Just as an observation. While both women and men have A hidden fear of being unworthy of the success waiting for them. But when women feel Unworthy of success waiting for them. They get into soft pity cycle. When men feel unworthy of the success waiting for them, they get into anger cycle. Once again, it's just an observation, and it's fascinating to me because those 2 energies On a map of consciousness, map of consciousness is a concept developed
by David Hawkins. David Hawkins, his past unfortunately, would wire people's brains and he would expose them to different situations and images that triggered a certain emotion. And when people would experience that emotion, he would then measure how their brain vibrates, measure the frequency of their brain wave, And then he would qualify the emotion with the frequency of the brain. So what he found out is that the lowest Frequency is shame. When we're ashamed, our brain's barely moving.
It's frequency of shame. Right above shame, there is grief. Right above grief, there is apathy. Right above apathy is the 1st active emotion, fear. And right above fear is anger. Then there is pride, courage, neutrality, willingness, peace, Enlightenment, you know, love, peace, enlightenment. So what happens is that We when something when we think we are yearning for a certain result and if we don't achieve it, For a lot of women, the apathy kicks in and the grief of a lost opportunity.
For a lot of men, the anger kicks in of, man, how could I do this? You know? What's wrong with me? What's wrong with the world? What's wrong with you? You know? And those 2 frequencies can only be overcome through the energy of pride. So Pride is an important step. You just can't can't get stuck there. If you get stuck in pride, you become prideful and you
become a narcissist. But if you get yourself as a woman, I'm speaking to women, if you find yourself in self pity, When you feel you're less than, life is unfair, it's important to get angry. It's so important for you to get angry. And when you get angry, and this is where we join men. Right? And once again, you can go both ways on these, I'm talking majority. Once you get to that anger, It's important to pat yourself on the back and say I'm so good at being pissed. It's amazing how it
shifts your map of consciousness. You cannot stay angry if you praise yourself for doing something good. So instead of saying nothing is going well, I'm good for nothing. You can say, man, I'm so good at self destruction and anger. I'm good at something. I mean, I might be good at something bad, but I'm good at something. It'll have an instantaneous energy shift for you. The anger will subside and the courage will come in and the courage sounds like
who can help me with this? That's what courage sounds like. I'm I've gotten good at being bad. I've gotten good at being sad. I've gotten good at being angry. That means I can be good at things. So how about I get good at something that will create my life? Yeah. Very, very important step. So so being a 8 time internationally best selling author is is a significant achievement. Can you tell us more about your books And the key message you aim to convey to
your readers. You know, there are people that are born to be writers. That's my brother, For him writing is like breathing. He has 28, fiction books. He's phenomenal. And there are people like me that are authors, and that's all of us. An author is somebody who has a message and then who struggles through writing to deliver the message. Though I'm very upfront about, hey. You know? Not no she I'm no Shakespeare.
I'm very comfortable being no Shakespeare. I'm an author, and the idea that I author Through all of the work that I've done is the idea of understanding who we are and how we are to thrive as who we are. So their concept of the 2 letters, if you look at my journals, Miracle Me, Manifest Me just released Hear Me 2 days ago and very tender. We can talk about it if it's in alignment for us. Their journals, you know, Oh, Prosper Me book, they all have little m big e when I
refer to the word me. And what I've come to understand through years of of being, of working, of learning, of thriving through struggle at times Is that there are 2 parts of who we are, and there is a little m, which is mortal. I don't know about you, but I know there's a part of me that will die. You know, we call it matter, another m, mortal matter, and that mortal matter needs to manifest Materially. Trust me, meals are better with real food. I tried it both ways, and meals are
way better with food. Right? So That little am that is a mortal matter that manifests materially, it's there. We cannot deny it. Its job is to be afraid, to be scared and to try to survive. And then there's a big e of who I am, and that is eternal energy that expands the essence that expands. That's also who I
am. So there's a scared me, little m, And there's a sacred me, big e. And every day, every single day, every moment of the day, I get to choose how to surrender my m of mortality to e of eternity, How to surrender my material to my essential, my matter to my energy, and my manifesting to expanding. So every book, every work, every app, we have 2 apps Master Dash Me and empower Dash me. Every single thing we do is how to overcome the scared, how to love that part of you
so the sacred you Can empower this world. Because I do believe each and every one of us has come with a gift to this world. Wow. That's that's heavy. That's that's amazing, though, with that. It's to be able to I'm not a I can't I shouldn't say I'm not an author, but I haven't published the book yet. That's it. That's it. There's I haven't published one yet. But I I we that did help my nephew publish the 2nd book, and we and it was a great experience to to see the process, and we're self
published, so kinda have an idea of how to do it myself. So it it was it was something I wanted to learn how to do. So being able to learn that process and and see it and and see his vision come to life and and and see how How much pride he took in in in in putting the book out, and and it's it's a really pretty good book. So It's inspired me yet to to eventually sit down and and work some time and and
maybe write my own book. But like you said, they are writers and they are authors, and I know I'm not a writer. I'm a writer. Oh, and yet it's possible. Right? Look at me. Yeah. Yeah. I'm a talker. I'm more of a talker. I found out that I'm more of a talker than a writer, but it's but even with this, doing what I'm doing here and and the way I'm Creating the content. Eventually, this content can lead to writing a book.
So there there's so many There's so many different opportunities that that are opening from, again, Facing that fear and jumping into the podcast, and now it's opening different the is opening different opportunities, like Speaking engagements, being a guest on other people's podcast, I just hosted, an an event this, Saturday for International Podcast Day, and it was wonderful. It was a great experience. I had a wonderful time. It was one of my first times emceeing
an event. So I'm doing things that I've didn't fathom. I didn't have like, when I started podcasting, none of this was was a thought, but being able to to to do the podcast has Has built a a a a of courage in me because eve because even to for the event that I hosted, It it was a even though he it was a a friend of mine, he had he was I went in the house. I just I just blipped point blank. I said, hey, and I host it. And he says, thank you. He actually
left the comment. Thank you, Jeff. I appreciate it. Thank you. Thank you. And and the fact that he had that much faith in me and allowing me to host this event, Knowing that I had no prior experience, but know him feeling that you can handle it, you're capable of doing it, that just meant the world to me. Mhmm. So it it's really it's really been An amazing amazing journey to to be able to find what I love to do, finding my purpose, finding that I have a voice, Finding that I can make an impact.
And if you would so again, you woulda asked me this 4 years ago, you woulda I would it wouldn't my answer would be like, are you crazy? I'm I'm not capable of doing any of this. Yeah. You know, the word courage, comes from the Latin root core, and that means heart. So when we're courageous, we just trust our heart over the dissuasion of our brain. We have 2 very different roles. The heart shows the path, and when we true to our heart, The courage
takes over, and we get to walk that path. And the brain's job, as I've mentioned, is to keep us alive, so it's gonna try to fight and reason with your heart. And once you make that choice, I'm gonna listen to my heart, What happens is that what comes from the heart reaches the hearts. So when you you get out of your own way, the fastest way, When you lean into the depth of your heart because what comes from the heart reaches
the heart, and then you free people to do the same. And it sounds to me like that's exactly what you've done. So, so you you you emphasize the The practical application of universal and God's laws. How can you how can individuals incorporate these these principles into their daily lives For meaningful change.
You know, first is a 1 sentence disclaimer not to confuse Anybody who could be confused by what I'm gonna say is that there's so much today where People equate god, great overall designer, and universe, and we will hear people say god or universe interchangeably. They're not 1 and the same. In energy terms, and I'm not gonna talk in religious terms, I'm gonna talk in energy terms. There are things that act, And there are things to be acted upon.
There are 2 basic rules of creation. There's energy that acts, and there is matter to be acted upon. God is the great overall designer, the energy that acts. Universe is the matter to be acted upon. God doesn't punish, but laws do. The universe does. So what does that mean? This universe is built with universal laws. Why the universal? They are applicable to every area of our life, so the law of gravity has no motion. It'll work either for you or against you based
on how you understand the law. Thanks, heaven. We can drive cars, we can walk, and we can build homes because of love gravity. But if I'm falling off the 2nd floor, it's gonna hurt. Not because God turned upon me, but because I violated the universal law of gravity. That's just it's that simple. Well, just Like, there is a law for gravity. There's a law of electricity. It fired. It brings us light into our homes. But if I'm gonna stick my, You know, metal,
whatever, which I did as a kid, pay a pin into the socket. I'm gonna electrocute it. God is not punishing me. Okay. It's just I'm violating the law. So it's just so important to dissuade the 2. And when you violate the law, not to be like, why am I being punished? I mean, because you're violating the law. I mean, God is there to love you, to support you, to encourage you, to thrive you, to prosper you. The laws are there to keep you on the straight and narrow path to be like,
hey. Hey. Hello. You're violating me again. Get back. So it's just very important to distinguish. So one of my books, Gold Pross from you, the 35 universal laws of making money work for you. Now I believe prosperity is thriving in all areas of your life, and I don't think Any amount of money should substitute your relationships and so forth.
So prosperity is not just money for me. But I mean, if I'm from Ukraine, I am a girl who every summer Spent with my grandparents without running water and with an outhouse that I had to walk to for 10 minutes with a minus, you know, n degrees weather when it was Cold in winter. And so I understand not having the luxuries of life. Right? I'm the same girl who today has my dream home that I go to for half of the year right on the Atlantic Ocean. Also the girl who never forgets how one got to
be the other. Never forgets. And that fires me up to say if I could do that, anybody could do that. So the book is 35 universal laws, and the very first universal law is that of gratitude. It's there for a reason. The very first law is the law of gratitude because what you appreciate appreciates, And what you take for granted, you lose. It's huge. So a lot of people you know, I did a huge conference for Asia And I pulled out, $10. And I said, okay, I'm holding $10. How do you guys feel?
Write down all the emotions you have. Yeah. Blah. Whatever. $10. Then it pulled out crispy, beautiful $100. How do you feel now? Oh, there was a little bit of juicing, you know, and then I pulled a pack of $100 and I said, how do you feel now? And then he said, what happens is that the gap of Feeling between $10, a100, and a1000 is your gap of gratitude that keeps you At the broke level, you
are. Because until you can appreciate The value of $10, that for example, in some of the African countries is a price of a net That protects you from malaria mosquitoes and saves your life. People die die by tens of thousands because they can't afford a $10 Larry Annette. When you look at $10 and you say it's just $10, when I have more, I'll invest more. When I'll have more, I'll help the world more. That's bullshit.
You're not. Because if you're not helping with $10, you're not going to help with a million, no millionaire became a millionaire And then started contributing money. They either do it or they don't starting with the dollar. It's huge. So when you are grateful for the little that you have With such devotion that you save a little bit, that you invest a little bit, and that you, most importantly, Give of it to somebody. You are appreciating what you have and it grows.
The fastest way to get Stuck financially is to live as if you are prosperous, abundant human being because the truth is You are. You just might not be seeing it. Do you have running water? Do you walk to the outhouse? If the answer is not, you're prosperous. You're prosperous. Oh, and and I, I, I, I feel you because when every summer in the eighties, Mom was sending me to Puerto Rico. And at that time, we had
they had a outhouse. And where we right next to the outhouse is where we took a took a a hose was running through. And that's where the water came through. So we had the outhouse on one side and then another thing where there was a hose inside, and you would take a and if you took a shower late at night, the water was so cold. So it made me appreciate when I got back home to New York after the summer, appreciate running waterway more than Then I did with the but but it it it was those
experiences that just made you realize, like, okay. Maybe I don't have it so as bad as Experiencing those moments where you're afraid to go in the outhouse because you don't know who's gonna bite who's gonna jump up or bite you or whatever. So it it's it's I've experienced that. So, yeah, I I know I feel I feel your pain on the situation. Yeah. I mean, that's just the truth. That's the first of the 35 laws. But, you know, if you don't know it, you keep taking you can even take
business classes. You can do this and that and the other, but at the end, You're staying in the same level because you're not appreciating where you are, so gratitude. That's the first one. You know? And there so there are universal laws. If you don't know how to work with them, they're gonna work against you, period. It's just that simple. So this has been a wonderful conversation. I've had a great time.
It is now time where you get the solo screen, and you get to plug away, Let people know where they can find you. Wait. Oh, wait. Oh, no. Hold on. No. Not yet. No. I have 1 more question. I do have 1 more question. I I Almost messed that one up because it it it has to do with, so looking ahead. Right? What what are your aspirations for Why you 2 shine and and your continued impact on on the personal development and
coaching community? You know, right now, I have an amazing opportunity to be in Greg Reed's personal development project. Greg Reed's done 140 books In 49 languages, international bestsellers. He's somebody who was working very closely with Napoleon Hill Foundation, great human being, great personal development guru. And he's doing a book that is called personal development, which ironically in the personal development world, there's never been a
book called personal development. So he and I get to be on that little committee of the 12 people that we every 2 weeks, we interview the giants of personal development, And I get to meet just incredible people in the field. And so for me, the growth in me through exchange with these people and seeing how all of them are givers 1st, you know, and their implementers first.
That's been a beautiful journey of that. And so for me personally as a human being, that's my growth path and that's my reward for what I do. For the company, you know, my company's been growing organically. I, just like you, Didn't think, oh, I'm going to have this podcast, then I'll become a speaker, then I'll be a host to events. I just wanted to help people. And then all of a sudden, The clients that I've
helped have started doing so well that they said, hey. How about we come back as your coaches, and we help more people to do that? And so organically, you know, the company has grown, and I now have 11 full phenomenal coaches. You know?
Organically, it's just been happening As to where using subconscious programming, different energy modalities, practical application, we are helping more and more people 1 on 1, And then we have a quantum freedom subscription that helps people as groups, you know, and that just is developing. My biggest dream, For the team is that the work we do becomes a standard in personal healing, energy transformation, and mindset industry. I just you know, I'm passionate about that.
In terms of practicality, one of the things that that I foresee is that our EmpowerDash me app is an entry point for somebody who could never afford a 200 an hour coaching, But who needs transformation the most? And so for $79 a year, you have tools that are accessible to you that are worth tens of 1,000 of dollars. If you desire to make that change, and we're continually adding to that
app. And the last thing, I guess, I wanna share in terms of what I'm looking forward to, This is this is you know, I've said what comes to the heart, touches the heart. This comes from the heart because it's very recent. You know, actually, I don't know when the recording of this, will go live. We're live. We're live. Okay. So We're live. So as well that's amazing. So being yeah. Because you got people. So going live, you know, 2 days ago I'm gonna hold it up. 2 days ago, this little journal was
published. And You see 2 hearts, and it's called hear me journaling beyond the veil. So I've lost a lot of people throughout my life. I had people people started dying when I was and a half, and they just wouldn't quit. You know? And I've had to redefine my life and My joy of life over and over and over again with every loss. And now with the war in Ukraine, you know, I've lost friends. I've lost my grandmother. And So 2 weeks ago this is to encourage anybody to
have courage. 2 weeks ago, I got a very strong feeling that to use my talents to create a journal that helps people to connect to their loved ones because they don't just disappear. Whatever your system of belief says, they don't disappear. They're right there. And within literally days, the journal was creating as 13 power questions, 1, to be asking of the loved one or a friend that crossed the veil that died, and 1, to be asking yourself to
start healing. And I gotta tell you, I've done a lot of creative programming and writing, and This is probably one of the most healing processes that has ever happened, you know, this little journal, hear me. And so It came out to idea came 2 weeks ago. It came live 2 days ago, published on Amazon. So I said, okay. I'm going to I love all of my products I live by. I'm gonna do this journal for myself, and so I'm thinking,
who I'm gonna write? And I sit down, and I start writing this conversation, answering the questions with my grandma, who died many years ago, 20 years ago. I haven't thought of her much, you know, but she was instrumental in inspiring this journal. And all of a sudden, I haven't written in Ukrainian in 30 years. All of a sudden, when I ask her a
question, I start writing in Ukrainian. And then with the same authenticity, when I answer the question, I started writing in English because I've truly become an American through and through, I think, in English. So The reason I'm bringing it up, and I know we're wrapping up with that, is that I truly feel that somebody who has lost their loved one, was about to lost their loved one, that they want you to
hear from them. And then this beautiful journal probably Has made it to this podcast just for you, and and that's good enough for me. And and it's And like you, I I suffered many, many losses. I was 31. My wife passed away in a car accident. Oh, wow. The fuck the next year, a year and a month from when she passed. I I reunite with my father after 25 years. I'm not going to having any contact with him. I go to see him father's day weekend in Puerto Rico. I get there Friday.
Saturday morning, he passes away. And it was just 1 tragedy after another. I've buried 2 brothers, aunt and uncle that helped raise me. And then this past Saturday, The aunt of mine's passed away from cancer, so it it it's I'm I'm someone who who suffered a lot of loss, and and I was angry for a long time. I was angry for a long time for many years, and it was It would it would took for me to be to really sit down and and and and something to tell me, Why are you
so angry? What what could have you done Definitely to make these outcomes be different. And when I think about it, it was like, okay. Yes. It it it was I'm I'm It wasn't happening to to me. That that's what I'm trying to put in there that, like, yes. I've I've suffered these losses, but I had no real control over these circumstances, and I shouldn't yes. It's understandable to be angry. And when I finally realized, like, Let it go. It's like this.
It's not it's not doing you any good. It's not you're you're down the wrong path. You're you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing. You're you're not serving your purpose. I finally did did that, and I shifted, and things started changing. I I met my wife that I'm with now. Career wise, started working, and just my life just started changing. So I I I'm one who knows, and I'm I'm actually gonna go get the book and and I'm gonna fill it out. Oh, let let me let me send it to you as
a gift. About that. I don't believe in confidences. I don't believe that in 2 weeks I create this and you're telling me that story. So I would love to Send it to you. Oh, I greatly appreciate it. Thank you very much. But now it's time for you to get the solo screen, and now you get to plug away and let everybody know where to hit Everything. Pride and everything. Hey. Tell you what. I'll make it
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already knew it was gonna happen because it's just I don't know. I just felt like one of those conversations that's gonna go really good. Thank you. Thank you so much. This has been wonderful. Had a wonderful, wonderful time. I I love I love these type of conversations where I get to to learn some stuff, and and my audience gets to learn stuff. And it's just This is why I do it. This is why I podcast to really be able to make an impact if it's 1 person or 2 people or Whatever
it is, just just making an impact. And, yes, my guest yesterday was talking about a ripple effect. I just it's just a little ripple effect, and It was thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you for having me. Thank you. But don't leave this shit. We're in the chat a little bit off the air. Let me just close out the show. Once again, wonderful conversation. Thank you. Great time. Looking, Actually, I I do have return guests.
So whenever you wanna come back on and and have another wonderful conversation, Just let me know, and we can make it happen. Actually, I'll definitely pull up. That's good. There's a lot of times. Much we can talk about. I know. There is a lot of things. There is a lot of things in the program. So Yeah. Yes. Absolutely. Thank you. Yep. I'll be let me just close out the circle, and, I'll be right back. Alright. That was an amazing show. I just wanna, thank everybody who's in
the chat. Facebook user, thank you for stopping by. Jeff Ravilla, appreciate you, brother. Thank you once again for giving me the to to host international your your international podcast, the event. Valve oh, my first Twitch I appreciate it, Valve, man. Thank you, by the way, for shush, for watching the show on Twitch. Greatly appreciate it. Big shout out to my real wise fan, Bobby j, Brandy j. Love you guys. Big shout out to the boss lady. Love you and appreciate you, baby.
And this episode, like, the other 2 episodes earlier this week are is dedicated to my aunt Anna who who passed away this past weekend. You're gonna be missed. We we love you. We I know that you're always gonna be around, And, just just tell your loved ones that you love them. And when you get the chance, just let them let you appreciate the man. And just enjoy the moments that you do have with them. I'm grateful for everyone who tunes
in. I I really do appreciate the support. Everybody who sent me condolences. I I really do greatly appreciate it. Without you guys and and and the event, it it was just thank you. Thank you very much. I greatly appreciate it. And oh, and, that's how I'm gonna end it. So everybody have a great night. I'll see you next Monday.