If you’ve ever gone on vacation, gotten that massage, or went for a run hoping to feel more clear headed and rested and yet found yourself still stressed or worse, your nervous system gets frazzled the moment you hear the notification bell on your phone… well, then this episode is for you my friend. In this episode we’re going to be talking about the difference between default resting states and what it means to think on purpose when it comes to purposeful rest (without the anxiety!) and that lo...
Nov 02, 2022•20 min•Ep. 155
Sometimes we put off making big decisions. And let’s face it, even minor ones such as whether or not we should go to that potluck. It isn’t always about those big career moves. But what most Stressed Out Successes don’t realize is the impact of indecision on our lives. And that’s what we call Living in Maybe. When we live in maybe, not only are we exactly where we are, what’s worse is we’re not truly IN our lives living it on purpose because we’re stuck in our heads trying to make a decision! We...
Oct 19, 2022•18 min•Ep. 154
The reason why I don’t lay out an exit plan or even a self-care plan for my clients is because those things don’t actually RESOLVE the root of stress. Because I have worked with clients who are IN the new job they thought would be better only to be met with another co-worker or company policy that is driving them crazy. Can you relate to this too? So then, what do we need to focus on if it’s not something OUTSIDE of us that needs to change? I explain the three exact things you need in order to s...
Oct 05, 2022•23 min•Ep. 153
Most Executives I speak with want to roll their eyes the moment we talk about feelings. And maybe the rolling of the eyes is a bit dramatic but what they really want to learn is the exact formula to not being affected by stressful events. They want to know how to think on purpose, when to catch default thinking, and the exact order in which to apply the model. But the irony is that stress is a feeling too. It’s not the email, it’s not the co-worker, and it’s the economy. Stress is an inside feel...
Sep 21, 2022•27 min•Ep. 152
If you struggle with NOT checking your email in the evenings, you’re not alone. Most Stressed Out Successes have every intention to shut down by 8pm, but find themselves hearing or seeing the notification and before they know it they’re responding to the email on their phone. What’s worse is they start feeling guilty for not being more present with their loved ones or if they’re single, they start resenting their work because all of their free time is consumed with thoughts about work! Can you r...
Sep 07, 2022•23 min•Ep. 151
Most Stressed Out Successes are in pain because they’re doing it all trying to control every single outcome. And when you’re in the middle of every problem trying to handle it yourself, trust starts to break down, results aren’t created fast enough, and because you’re in the middle of everything you start to feel burned out yourself. What most Stressed Out Successes don’t realize is that the reason why they feel the need to control isn’t so that everything goes right, the real reason is because ...
Aug 24, 2022•18 min•Ep. 150
When we don’t understand who we are BEING, we tend to look to the external world to fix the problem. That’s why most Stressed Out Successes turn to endless amounts of self-care, spending money on the latest tech gadgets (yes, how many of us have splurged as an, “I deserve this!” gift?), or even working longer hours to try and feel better. But continuing to operate in this way is literally causing more pain. Because this is like going to your local pharmacy asking for aspirin to relieve the pain,...
Aug 10, 2022•22 min•Ep. 149
If you’re a Stressed Out Successes who’s constantly asking the question, “But what job will really make me happy?” or “If this doesn’t make me happy then what will?”, then this episode is for you. Listen now. LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn what it really takes to release stress 10X FASTER? Then you don’t want to miss this FREE Masterclass where I teach you: The SPECIFIC critical mistakes every Stressed Out Success is making that is keeping them in an endless cycle of stress with nothing to ...
Jul 27, 2022•12 min•Ep. 148
I’ve heard from countless Stressed Out Successes that once they get that certification they can finally stress less. But how many times have we heard something similar like… Once I make a certain level of income, then I can relax or then I can go on THAT vacation. Or Once I reach that level of success then people will really respect me. Or Once I meet the love of my life then things will feel better. Here’s the thing. If that were really true then anyone who’s ever gotten that certification woul...
Jul 13, 2022•17 min•Ep. 147
If you’ve made the decision already and you’re thinking to yourself, “Oh my god, I made the wrong decision… what did I do?!”, then this episode is specifically for you my friend. In this episode we’re breaking down the guilt and loss we feel when we believe we made the wrong choice, what to do when this happens, why you had to make that decision you did, and why it wasn’t about the person or opportunity to begin with but rather the FEELING you wanted to feel instead. Don’t worry, everything is p...
Jun 29, 2022•25 min•Ep. 146
So many people have been making HUGE life decisions in May (and even now) that I had to recast this original episode. Key takeaways include: making decisions from abundance vs. lack, playing to win and not playing NOT to lose, taking emotional responsibility as a form of personal power, deciding what you will make of it no matter what, and so much more! Whether you already made your decision or not, listening to this podcast will provide a clearly defined structure of how to think about future d...
Jun 15, 2022•24 min•Ep. 145
It’s natural for our brain to think in worst case scenarios. It’s a protective mechanism that has helped us for thousands of years. Yet, when we go over the same negative thoughts over and over again it starts to wear on us mentally, emotionally, and even physically. We start to lose sleep, we can’t make decisions easily, and we even start to lose our patience with the people we love the most. So then, what can we do to go from Problem Oriented Thinking to thinking more creatively and abundantly...
Jun 01, 2022•17 min•Ep. 144
Before we can do the work of managing our monkey mind and monkey feelings, we have to first understand WHAT THE HECK we are reacting to. Is it really the email? That person? Or the decision we have to make? Why do we jump to believing every thought in our brain? Are we even aware that this is exactly what we are doing? We answer all this and more in this week’s podcast. Listen now. LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn what it really takes to release stress 10X FASTER? Then you don’t want to miss ...
May 18, 2022•15 min•Ep. 143
Ever wonder how that one person at work is getting all of the recognition and seems to be gliding through life despite the fact that you both have the same skills and capabilities to do the job? Today we’re talking about the two ways we Personalize and why this one internal skill alone can make all the difference despite the number of external certifications you have. Listen now. LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn what it really takes to release stress 10X FASTER? Then you don’t want to miss th...
May 04, 2022•15 min•Ep. 142
We’re not talking about likes, how many connections you have on LinkedIn, or whether or not people notice you at work. What we’re talking about today is whether or not you have someone who can truly SEE YOU. Your fears, what you lie awake at night thinking about, but also what you are fully capable of achieving in all of your potential. Most Stressed Out Successes go a great deal of their life never being held in a way that can transform their greatest fears, but instead live in this calcified s...
Apr 20, 2022•16 min•Ep. 141
The #1 mistake most Stressed Out Successes make when trying to feel better is that they take the WRONG ACTION such as: booking the meetings in order to resolve the issue themselves, trying to find another job because they think, “Maybe it’s this environment.”, or they spend their weekends in Napa hoping a ton of wine and good food will help them forget about “it”. Can you relate to this too? The problem is, trying to work or buy your feelings away is like trying to push down an inflatable underw...
Apr 06, 2022•19 min•Ep. 140
This week I have the Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li on the podcast to talk all about how to overcome procrastination (perfect for tax season), why we have resistance to starting, how feelings are involved with procrastination, visualizing worst case endings, intuition, and how to work with your children or someone you love who is struggling with procrastination. You don’t want to miss this. To learn more about Dr. Christine Li check out her website at www.procrastinationcoach.com/ LATES...
Mar 23, 2022•52 min•Ep. 139
This is an audio version of 'Weekend Wellness'. A weekly newsletter that goes out every Friday. This week it was so good I had to share it here on the podcast. I hope you enjoy and that it moves you. Subscribe at www.stressproofpodcast.com/email LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn what it really takes to release stress 10X FASTER? Then you don’t want to miss this FREE Masterclass where I teach you: The SPECIFIC critical mistakes every Stressed Out Success is making that is keeping them in an end...
Mar 18, 2022•6 min•Ep. 138
Are you sure happiness is what you want in your life? Sure it feels great, but what if you learned that happiness is only a STATE… and that relying on happiness is what is actually keeping you unhappy because our minds and bodies are meant to feel different states all the time? In this week’s podcast I’m breaking down the difference between happiness vs. purpose, and why most Stressed Out Successes make the mistake of distracting themselves by chasing happiness. Get ready to feel more fulfilled ...
Mar 09, 2022•17 min•Ep. 137
Most Stressed Out Successes remain stressed because they jump to the thought they SHOULD be thinking… but don’t yet believe. And this disharmony creates even more confusion. They think, “I know if I can just believe this thought that everything can change!” and end up feeling even more stressed and ashamed when they can’t. For example, if you knew that all you had to believe was, “I’m going to kick a** in this new job” but what you really feel is massive doubt, that’s what I call a Pretty Though...
Feb 23, 2022•18 min•Ep. 136
You know what the problem is. You know what the solution is. So why are so many people still stressed? It’s a sneaky thought that seems so logical and sounds like, “I know what I need to do.”. The problem is, most Stressed Out Successes never realize that just because you know what you need to do on one level, doesn’t necessarily mean you actually DO IT. Listen to this episode as I dig even further and what it takes to actually start the inner transformation. LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn ...
Feb 09, 2022•17 min•Ep. 135
So many Stressed Out Successes outsource their FEELINGS based on their job, their projects, or what happens in their life to dictate how they get to feel. But if this really worked, then how is it that no matter how hard YOU tried to make someone else happy… it actually doesn’t? This is because just as YOU can’t MAKE someone feel a certain emotion when you want to, no one else can truly MAKE you feel a certain emotion either. The problem is, many Stressed Out Successes operate in this paradigm w...
Jan 26, 2022•17 min•Ep. 134
If you're human, then you know life can be tough. And sometimes we need a mirror to cut through what WE can't see in OURSELVES, so that we can actually create the change we need. And if you feel like you’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, tried every meditation, and you STILL feel stuck? Then you know exactly what I mean. This is why coaching is so important. With that said, next Tuesday, 1/18/22, I'm hosting a FREE Coaching Day for those that really need it. First come, first ...
Jan 14, 2022•2 min
What is the weather of your mind? How long has it been there? Is it recurrent? Do you like it? Were you aware of it before this moment? These are all questions we cover in this week’s podcast as we dig deep into understanding that there is ALWAYS a weather pattern happening in our mind - and why the difference between being AWARE of this pattern vs UNAWARE will either keep you in misery and stagnant or in peace and moving on with your life. Listen now. LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want to learn what it...
Jan 12, 2022•32 min•Ep. 133
There’s anxiety we feel because we’re imagining something terrible happening, and then there’s the anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere, having us wonder, “Why me?” or “What is it now?” as we try to find the reason behind the way we suddenly feel. In this special episode, I want to have a conversation with those of you that feel sudden bouts of anxiety so that we can accomplish a few things: Understand why this happens Create a plan for what we can do when this happens Prevent the two criti...
Dec 29, 2021•18 min•Ep. 132
Many people live their life following old rules and living in outdated containers without ever stopping to check in and ask, “What do I really want?”, “Who am I doing this for?”, and “Is this who I am still?”. In this week’s episode I’m inviting you to a special new year challenge and that is… to do something NEW and RADICAL that will require a deep commitment of time but most importantly of yourself. We’re going to be discussing why this is so scary for Stressed Out Successes, why our logic isn...
Dec 15, 2021•25 min•Ep. 131
In this special episode I’m introducing a new tool I have been using in my coaching practice to help Stressed Out Successes NEUTRALIZE stress; and that tool is astrology. Whether or not you believe in astrology, I’m breaking down why it does not matter what I ultimately think, or whether it matters if something is “right” or “wrong”, but that the question we should always be asking ourselves is, “Am I getting the result that I want?”. I dive deep into Personalization, how it works with astrology...
Nov 30, 2021•30 min•Ep. 130
Every Stressed Out Successes is guilty of booking a vacation hoping to get their bearings back only to realize they’re stressing on a beautiful sandy beach or warm cozy cabin. What gives? Your brain and your heart… because most Stressed Out Successes are also forgetting that you take your brain and your heart with you - WHEREVER you go! With that said, does that mean we throw our vacations out the window? Absolutely not. It’s still helpful to take a breather and clear our minds, which is why in ...
Nov 17, 2021•32 min•Ep. 129
For years, I journaled on the same four issues: weight, love, jobs, and friendships. Until one day I realized it wasn’t about the problems I was trying to solve... it was all of the type of thoughts I was thinking ABOUT the problem that kept me IN the problem with no resolution! Journaling doesn’t solve your problems, at least not the conventional method of how most Stressed Out Successes use journaling. Don't get me wrong, it certainly provides momentary relief and the occasional AHA, but when ...
Nov 03, 2021•17 min•Ep. 128
So many hopes and dreams are still written on pieces of paper or left hanging on people’s vision board because of one thing - they stopped believing. And it’s NOT because “it” wasn’t possible, it’s because one day you decided it wasn’t worth believing in. Which is kind of silly because do we stop our career because our first job wasn’t what we thought it would be? NO! Except that is exactly what we do with every other area of our life such as with losing weight, finding love, or maybe even doing...
Oct 20, 2021•17 min•Ep. 127
