Episode 37 Should I stay, or should I go?

It is normal to face challenges in a relationship, but what happens when one, or both people, completely disconnects and thoughts turn to leaving? How do you know the right time to end a relationship?

In this episode, divorce coach Dr. Sue Palmer-Conn joined us to discuss the challenging question of whether to stay or go, including common stress points and challenges couples face, how discernment counselling can help them make a decision, and why divorce or separation can change your life for the better.

Chapters

00:00 Introductions
03:07 What is discernment counselling? And how can it help a relationship? 
03:43 The impact of losing connection
05:00 The limitations of marriage guidance
05:19 How does discernment counselling work?
09:09 What are common trigger points in relationships?
09:21 The different ways to disconnect
10:25 Making the decision to stay or go
11:34 What are the three main outcomes of discernment counselling?
12:30 Does it help make divorce more dignified?
14:08 How long does the process take?
19:30 How do you keep communication in a relationship going?
22:15 How do you break a rut in a relationship?
25:00 The pressure of time on a relationship
27:00 The impact of children
29:10 Retirement and empty nesters
30:00 Is the concept of marriage now outdated?
32:55 Sometimes leaving the relationship is the best decision
34:10 Separation can be positive
34:28 Sue’s top tips for people thinking about ending the relationship

Catch-up on Sue’s first podcast, dealing with a relationship breakdown during menopause https://bit.ly/3RQ5e2G 

• The dangers of a DIY divorce - https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7 
• Finding the unexpected joy of heartbreak with Rosie Wilby  https://youtu.be/nmXO_2Rgv70 
• Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://youtu.be/EhFpi8K9VZQ
• Handling fear and uncertainty: https://youtu.be/hQqziVrHnRg 

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