Sunny's East West Journey of Discovery

She works in Mandarin and in English and she continues to blend Eastern and Western tools and strategy to help people like me find ease and flow . I hope you enjoy our conversation .

They don't even know they are drinking the water . So when the fish change the environment , they say the taste is different and they start to have more awareness about themselves . I think that's what I experienced in my life .

I just have a lot of changes and shifts and then I finally become more comfortable about who I am , so I don't care that much about opinion . Yeah , I respect other people's opinions , of course , but then I don't take it to my heart anymore . It's like that's just opinion , right , just have some fun with it .

So what happened is other than I'm working in pharmaceutical I really devoted to my work but then I also have a young family and I just start to have needs , like I'm a mother and my marriage back then is not that balanced . So I feel like I'm burning out all the time and try to take care of everything Other than two kids . I feel I have three kids .

So that is really tough for me to really navigate it and also have a special need kids turn out to be . So then I said , well , this is too much to juggle , so I decided to just quit my work . Then also , my marriage fell apart and the kids have a lot of needs and a lot of surgeries going on . I have to run it around .

A lot of challenges , I would say , but then so then I start to find out what can I do to help myself . You know it's like I don't want to be burned out all the time , I don't want to be happy , I don't want to be grumpy because I am raising two kids . You know my mother instinct coming and say I need to make sure I'm okay .

So at the COVID 2020 , I closed my restaurant , I closed my food truck . That's the two crazy thing I did . So then I moved to online . I want to see what ? Because I still stay home . I'm a caregiver for 18 years , so everything I do need to be around my family . I cannot go out . I couldn't do a normal work .

So I'm thinking , well , you , you know all this internet , because 2020 everybody go internet right like kind of shift the ship . Everybody kind of move right on whatever to um , internet , even shopping or meeting people or anything , right , um . So that's my uh journey . Start , do it . And I become a tiny habit coach . Because that is really the turning point .

I say , wow , that can really help me get out from that limiting belief and all this unhappiness . So I implement all this tiny habit recipes . Then the door is wide open . So right now I'm a holistic lifestyle mentor . Implement other people's behavior into their life with tiny habit methods .

But , based on my observation , people here are so busy they're just like run , run , run , that little engine never stop right . And um , even they do meditation . This time , okay , 10 minutes done , I'm gone . I'm like the meditation is for you to have the pause , for you to have the time to just enjoy your presence .

But you become , make it like an exercise , like you are check , dip , dip , dip . So you totally lost that essence about just still and enjoy that nothingness . But I think it's become . I mean , more and more people start to practice . They understand they don't need to be rushed to the meditation , they don't need to rush to the yoga right .

They rushed to the meditation , they didn't need to rush to the yoga Right . So I do see a lot of people start to relax more . Yeah , and that is a good thing . So I don't think it's any because the West or East are different , it's just lifestyle . Mm-hmm , right , where you're .

Tuning to when you're young , right , tune into when you're young , right , that's how I discovered a lot of programming and attitude really become shaping our life . When a young age , then if you we are not aware we are not really have this desire to get out and update our lifestyle , that can be until we are burnt out yeah , until something happens .

But I think we are trained , like me included , to look for solutions and we lost in the journey of looking other than just give us some space and love yourself more and go out to the nature , walk around , pat the trees , relate to nature .

You can just give us out of that mind , because when we think about if we don't do this , we don't have a time to do it . Um , we need to find a more effective way , and that is take us even further away from the self-worth , because then you're looking , you say I don't have that thing . Then I cannot be happy .

I need that , otherwise I don't feel successful . We always do that too much . We need to have some kind of in and out , vertical and the corral everywhere , the quantum . When you really become harmony , that is the time you start to understand you don't need anything else , it's just enough .

Yeah , yeah , but I think that's tough for a lot of high achievers because we're programmed to want to prove ourselves right .

You know , that's how I lock tiny habits . Just a little thing . You celebrate , yeah , right , then you can build up because , hey , I recognize myself . Yeah , then if something coming is great , but I don't need that to be filled , I'm enough .

So the celebration from the tiny habits , training and methods is such a turning point for many , many women if they don't have enough self-worth .

So what happened is , even before you put your feet on the ground , you open your eyes . When you open your eyes , I would just say when I open my eyes , I will say to myself I'm a miracle . Then smile , yeah . Then I pause a little bit , then I use them all I have . Hey , today's going gonna be a good day , yeah .

So that miracle , you know , in the biological sense , because everything for me is biology , chemistry , physics , right . So , in in think about how wonderful you are , you have all the miraculous things within you for you to digest the food , for you to , you know , have a breathe .

You know that , like , if you don't have those single cells trillium , trillium that work together like a community , you cannot really do what you're doing today . Just recognize that , right , that's the little thing . Little , yeah , I love that .

And B is the behavior because tiny , right , so we need to find something less than two minutes , or even , for me , using a lot of just one sentence super sure , yeah , yeah so . Or a start point . It's like starting , like if you want to go out for walking , put a shoes on that kind of small step , then c is the one I just mentioned celebration .

It really pay attention to the little things we do , like we are all miracle . You don't have to pay attention to how you digest your food , how you drink your water , how you put air into your nose , right , but those things really keep us moving . So , as tiny as possible . Then you recognize that behavior and you celebrate .

And that's scientifically is put that happy hormone into your body , the bloodstream , so your chemistry start change . Then you start to have this alertness , you have the motivations to want to do more . So that is the magic of the ABC .

And celebration is the one I never give up , like that part needs to be there all the time .

I don't do jump or the superhero , Because I was just like how can I do that ? But sometimes I play with it when there's nobody around , so why not ?

So when you pause then you shift the language in your mind . You can play , you know , key points in the day , the morning , the mid days and before you go to bed . So practice that self-talk , different self-talk , different self-talk . Pause and recognize yourself and celebrate . So that can definitely increase your self-awareness .

And also , if they're really looking for some tools , I have toolbox can be positive psychology , I can have esoterics , I'm doing the ancient wisdom style . So there's all different toolboxes . That depends on what they really want to open up . And the second one is L , it's the lifestyle .

So I will like to know how they wake up and how they eat and all those different lifestyle . If there's something I can tune up a little bit , I'll give them a suggestion and they can go ahead to practice and come back to okay , yeah , it worked for me or it's not . Then we can work together again . And the always openness is the posture .

To be honest , it's physical . So if we are like lotus , you you know , just do that all the time . When you feel constructed , just expand it out . So that is the openness , but also that remind us to be open to different opinions , sure . So don't take us seriously that kind of thing . And the last one's , the w , is wisdom .

We have so many wisdom within our body , right and right now . We have a technology actually can help us . They are using the energy , they're using the lights , all the physical work . They don't need to give you the medicine or surgery , but those lights from the natural resources can boost your energy .

So I do have products I suggest for people to try it to see whether your energy flow becomes differently , and also your movements , but all the slow , of course . Slow pass , don't push too much and have your segment of time to dedicate to slow . It's like schedule a calendar with a slow or joy , whatever you call it .

At that moment you have to just break through , just be you . Then that slow really help a lot of people that want to get things done and don't have the right energy , because once you flow , you just follow your own way . Then you will have more energy to do anything you like at the right time .

Because sometimes I think we are misaligned when we have the most energy , we do something not necessary using that energy , but when we don't have enough energy , we force ourselves to do something that needs a lot of energy . So it's really the alignments and understanding your own flow that can just fix everything .

So people just need to give them their birth certificate , time , location . I actually can disclose their energy profile because they have all the system now , there they are . I don't want to say scientific proven , but it's evidence-based . So when you know that , then you can play with it .

You don't need to totally trust it because you know self-doubt actually can use for a good use . But don't doubt too much . You need to be , I'm not sure , but you can play with it . You're curious about it , right ? So you play with whatever . Then you can see the differences . For myself , it's definitely , you know .

I start to shift it because I know my energy need to be more allowing . I'm not good for forcing . If I'm forcing too much , everything's gone . But if I just relax and sit there , people come in and you know , I don't even know how did you find me ? I don't know . I just want to talk to you . You know , those people start to fly and flying , is that ?

Wow , if I really know that , I can just kind of , you know , stay there and know what I want , and since people will come because they are ready , I'm ready yeah in a way , I think it's just the energy .

Once we know how to flow with your own energy , then things become much easier and you have more energy because you don't waste your energy to force , to go to the wrong place or do too much and you don't really have things to maintain yourself . That's how I see a lot of female entrepreneurs . They are working in this environment .

They think it's the only way to stand out strong . You know , I want to be the superwoman In the body builds . We are really different than male . We need to use our advantage as a female body and don't fall into the system the male created . Now , not necessarily good for everybody , right . But if they're successful , that's great , we celebrate for them .

But we need to find our own way , knowing our energy flow and knowing our genetic profile , because that system I'm using it , is related to our genetics .

So get back to my molecular biologist , because now we know , right , the genome , human genome is just part of the framework right but lifestyle and the epigenetic , the epigenome we call the epigenetic inferences like your lifestyle , your thought , your diet , environments , your sleep , all that can impact your genetic right .

So that happy is really the lifestyle it's really just love ourself and relax and slow down , yeah , then your gene would turn around the right way then you don't need even worry about like .

strengths . I'm a gallup strengths coach and I think there's a lot of science in the gallup CliftonStrengths assessment and everything . And what do you see as your own strengths , your own personal strengths , that have helped you kind of navigate this ?

I am just accepting more other than total force . So that's how I put it all together . I'm curious because I'm the mentor , so I always ask questions about my people hey , how you do that right ? Then I will put some humor . use my own story , say hey you know I learned this way , Then I also like to learn .

So I'm constantly learning new tools and to see how people apply and how they speak , how they communicate . That is my fascinating to like , observe human behavior , human communication . So that is , I'm practicing it . But I'm not sure after four years my strengths will shift , because what I see is the personality can shape and we can change the personality .

Someone says it's hard . I think no . If once you know yourself , your energy , you can flow it , just choose it . But the essence never change . Thus I find out . My essence is always there , but the personality I can choose . When you are aware you got more of a consciousness . Oh , I'd like that personality before , but how about this right ?

So it's not denying ourselves , it's just kind of involved it's just very flow right for me . Yeah , that's kind of fun oh , that's great .

You can touch it . Our hand is all the energy . You just touch your hand . Um , using your hand , touch your heart . So that is the first step . It's a heart focus . And second step is to call heart breathing . Basically you , the heartbeat . The rhythm actually is not that super fast .

So if you do follow that rhythm , you know in and out , in and out , you slow down your breathe and go deeper too . Then that's called hard breathing . And the third is when you get into the rhythm you start to think about or just imagine a beautiful forest or a good food or , um , puppies , you know , make you smile , anything , make you smile .

You skip back to that imagination zone . So it's sweet together . You know heart focus , heart breathing and heart feeling . Then you can calm down your crazy mind . A monkey mind will be just kind of flow with your heart , because heart has more of the power . They have a more of the energy field in our mind .

I think it's like 500 times more higher or something . It's very strong . But sometimes we just don't pay attention . We're just using our head and drive true , yes , so true . So if you combine you actually can erase the self-judgments , because the heart they don't have the judgments .

. That's right into the behavior . You know . Just find an anchor moment after each zoom meeting you . You got two minutes , do that . I love that have to . You know , before sleep , do that .