Giannis Antetokounmpo (say that 5 times fast!), the all star forward and one time MVP of the National Basketball Association's Milwaukee Bucks is currently experiencing painful playoff adversity in more ways than one. At publishing time of this episode (April 29, 2024) he is hobbled by a late season injury that has kept him out of the series with the Indiana Pacers which has also contributed to them facing first round elimination for the second consecutive year. Ugh! So let's rewind a bit... Bac...
Apr 29, 2024•12 min•Ep. 43
Moms/Dads--Halt...Stop. If you have not listened to Episode 41 on The 3 R's of Productivity , please throw it into Reverse and go listen to it first. And then... dial in to today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we do a semi-simulated coaching session of a fictitious (and totally plausible) Parental Unit who is proudly wearing The Badge of Busyness! Enjoy! -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------...
Apr 22, 2024•24 min•Ep. 42
Moms/Dads--we know you're soooooper BUSY! And we know you're often proud of it--haha! We get it and applaud your never ending efforts to excel and doing your best to help your teen athlete or performer excel! Bravo! Question: Should we proudly display the Badge of Busyness ? We're not saying it's a t errible thing, but...and this is a big but...is there anything we can do as high performing parents of high performing teens to alleviate this incessant BUSYNESS that is both a blessing and a curse?...
Apr 15, 2024•28 min•Ep. 41
We're weighing costs and benefits and outcomes today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! Let's address some very important questions that you as parents need to ask yourselves as you make decisions about support, incentives, and rewards with the intent of raising your teen's performance and creating a great life experience for them. And, as you decide on what type of support you provide, what are the ramifications besides the obvious (and not so obvious) price tags?! Here are a ...
Apr 08, 2024•24 min•Ep. 40
This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . is no joke (really)! Happy April 1st everyone! Today we explore a very intriguing question from one of our teen listeners (ha-this isn't just for parents!) who competes as a high school wrestler: Should I or shouldn't I "bracket watch?" What a great question! And what a timely question too as most of the world (even if you don't like basketball) is aware of the fun and frenzied " bracket watching " that goes on during the winding ...
Apr 01, 2024•20 min•Ep. 39
Welcome to a fiery episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you, ourselves, and all Parental Units on earth to toss those ever so destructive Blamethrowers into the trash heap! We're not gonna lie--today's subject makes us squirm a little and may make you a bit uncomfy as well! That's why it's soooooo necessary and so important for each of us to address head on. We aim to help you avoid being "trapped in blame!" So, here's our path today. We will build on the...
Mar 25, 2024•22 min•Ep. 38
Thank you for joining us as we attempt to counter a crazy delusion that exists in some parental circles on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! This episode is built around an illuminating observation and quote from an NBA veteran and father, Jamal Crawford. Listen in to hear him describe a chronic problem in the AAU youth basketball circuit than can help you grow as a parent and in turn help your teen to successfully navigate their performance world. It matters n...
Mar 18, 2024•23 min•Ep. 37
In today's this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we are going to talk stop signs, ladders and the common "I Don't Know" answer. We dive in first by chatting about those red, octagon-shaped street signs and " The Ladder of Learning !" What is The Ladder of Learning ? You're going to find out (or remember it) in this episode. We all climb it throughout our life and it's important that we understand where our teen athletes and performers are at on The Ladder. Understanding...
Mar 11, 2024•24 min•Ep. 36
Parents... Ever run into Stubborn Walls in your daily battles with a not so cooperative teen? Ever tried to connect with Stubborn Ones ? Ever been in the proverbial "I'm Right You're Wrong" power struggle with your teen (or anyone else!)? In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explore how you can learn to lead with humility in conversations with teens who are not so easy to connect with. Some questions we take on include: --What is your role as a parent in your tee...
Mar 04, 2024•23 min•Ep. 35
Moms and Dads--Ever feel like you're spinning out of control? How do you stay firmly in orbit in your role as a Parental Unit?! Prepare to launch yourself (sorry for the dad joke) into the nerd zone in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . We'll do our very best to land on the following questions (sorry, that was a bad one!): --Why is it critical you UNDERSTAND the gravity of your role as a parent? --Why is being INTENTIONAL in your interactions and conversations so i...
Feb 26, 2024•21 min•Ep. 34
CLICKBAIT WARNING! What do guinea pigs and perpendicular parking have to do with parenting a teenaged athlete or performer?! Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?! and... Have you ever parked like a banana? Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh?! OK, let's unpeel this banana and straighten up those guinea pigs between the lines or in other words, let's figure out how this one weird little perpendicular parking trick will help you to strengthen your connections with your teen and elevate your parental communication skills! Listen in t...
Feb 19, 2024•25 min•Ep. 33
What in the wide world of sports is "positional intimidation" and how does it effect your teen athlete or performer? And what is "pupification?!" Ok, the second term was created purely in jest but the first term is real and almost every teen will find themself facing it at some point in their playing or performing journey. Perspective and preparation will help them lower the stress and apprehension that often accompanies this scary situation! What situation? We're talking about your teen approac...
Feb 12, 2024•25 min•Ep. 32
Last week in Episode #30 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explored the "My Coach Hates Me" situation and in today's episode (#31) we stick our hands in the same hornet's nest, but now from a coach's perspective . In fact, speaking on "perspective", our goal is to encourage you as a Most Valuable Parent to entertain the idea of creating a perspective shift in this difficult situation. By doing so, you position yourself to help your teen to learn the best way(s) to turn this n...
Feb 06, 2024•37 min•Ep. 31
"My coach hates me!" Is this a thing? Oh, it's a thing and it's not fun for player or parent (or coach, either). Ouch, this one hurts! "My coach hates me!" is a common refrain from performing teens the world over! So parents, how do we handle this difficult situation? How would you (or do you) deal with this fragile moment that borders on opportunity for learning and a full on train wreck?! We don't claim to have all of the answers but we do have some gems for you today on navigating the whole "...
Jan 29, 2024•24 min•Ep. 30
The opening line for today's show was about sunshine but we must tell you it was sooooooo cold in the studio today--downright frigid! But, we warmed up quickly creating this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast for you. We hope you love it and find it useful. What do BHAG's, Pink Floyd, Steve Chandler, qualifying for the Boston Marathon and "moving futures" have to do with your parenting and coaching? Listen in to find out as we explore all of the above and specifically the...
Jan 22, 2024•20 min•Ep. 29
In the high performance coaching pool that we swim in, the phrase "trust the process" is mentioned every 3.8 seconds (ok, maybe an exaggeration there!). But...what if we get stuck on or in our feelings and "trusting the process" is not very attractive in the moment? Motivation is easy uh well, when it's easy! :) But what about when it's not? In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we continue our BHAG (big, hairy audacious goal--thank you Jim Collins), resolutions, ...
Jan 15, 2024•21 min•Ep. 28
Welcome back to The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! And a hearty welcome to any new listeners--thanks for being here! In the third and final episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we hit on an absolutely critical subject! The all important, absolutely necessary process of creating your definition of success (for you and helping your teen athlete or performer to create their own). Here's a look at what you'll find in this episode: - The "story of humanity" or the quest we perpetual...
Jan 08, 2024•22 min•Ep. 27
It's January 1. Do you know where your resolutions are? Hopefully in the garbage! Wait, what? Did we just say that?! Uh, yeah we did. Btw, thanks for joining us for the first episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast in 2024! It's time to bang your pots and pans and light off some fireworks! Happy New Year!! It's also time to: --exercise more often --lose that unwanted weight --read 1 book a week --eat clean --start a new hobby --get out of debt --share The Stop Parenting & ...
Jan 01, 2024•24 min•Ep. 26
Greetings to any new listeners and welcome back to those who've been onboard with us at The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! In the second episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we bring some glass cleaner and wipe the egocentrism off our parental eyeglasses! This one is all about seeing things from your teen's perspective . Here is a quick peek at what you'll find inside this episode: --Would you ever deprive a two year-old of a nap in an effort to prepare him or her to for elemen...
Dec 26, 2023•23 min•Ep. 25
Welcome to the Transforming Stress Series on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! In the first of three empowering episodes, we delve into the crucial topic of stress transformation. You, the Very Important Parent, play a crucial role in modeling leading the way for your teen athlete or performer. Your teen is watching you and how you deal with the big "S" word. Stress . YIKES! And, we know it's tough. Often it is harder for you as a parent to watch your teen in a pressure cooker si...
Dec 18, 2023•20 min•Ep. 24
Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . When a "season" or career ends we often wonder: "so, what's next?" We are so thankful to one of our listeners for asking us to address this common and challenging situation that most if not all parents of athletes and performers face: the inevitable end of your son or daughter's high school career. As both coaches and as fathers, we have had a front row seat for this experience with our own teens and hundre...
Dec 11, 2023•21 min•Ep. 23
Relax parents, it's not a medical emergency, it's an Emotional Regulation Expedition! That's right, on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we're taking a trip to the 'E.R.' ! As a parent of a teen athlete or performer you know emotions are intertwined into your parent/teen world. Emotions show up in your thoughts, conversations, and for sure in your teen's competitions and performances. We cannot and should not necessarily avoid being emotional, but we can and shou...
Dec 04, 2023•21 min•Ep. 22
Just curious Most Valuable Parents --do you say asterICK or asterISK? Ok, that's not really important, but what IS important is understanding the coaching* we are talking about in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. We are not talking about your typical sport or performance coaching.* Football, voice, lacrosse, dance, etc. Nope, not that! When we tipped off with the "what makes a great coach"* question, we were talking about a whole different kind of coaching.* W...
Nov 28, 2023•22 min•Ep. 21
Welcome to an unofficial "air quote" episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We immediately dive into our description and explanation of what it really means to " stop parenting " and " start coaching ! This powerful, mind shifting concept is the pinnacle of our Parenting Success Pyramid . This is where we hop on the Fun Bus--let's gooooooo MVPs (Most Valuable Parents)! Moms and dads you are engaging in one of the most difficult responsibilities and opportunities you ever und...
Nov 20, 2023•16 min•Ep. 20
Hello high performing parents! Welcome back or welcome to, for new listeners, to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! In this third episode of a Parenting Skill Series we dive into the last of the 3 E's in our Triple E Toolkit! It's always a good time to ENCOURAGE our teen athletes and performers. Note: If you haven't checked out Episodes 17 (Equip) and 18 (Empower) we think you'll love them too. The 3 E's play well together--they make a fantastic team ! While it may seem so easy to...
Nov 14, 2023•21 min•Ep. 19
Hi there and THANK YOU for joining us here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! In this episode, we are excited to unveil the second "E" in The Triple E Toolkit. If you haven't listened to Episode 17 where we examine the first "E" (equip!), we strongly encourage you to check it out first (although it isn't absolutely necessary to do so). Moms and dads, your relationship with your teen athlete/performer is powerfully transformed when you empower them. Empowering your teen requires...
Nov 06, 2023•24 min•Ep. 18
Let's go Most Valuable Parents! Thanks for tuning in to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you to think creatively about your approach to parenting, uh coaching, your amazing sons and daughters. Let's skill up and help your dynamic teen athlete or performer to shine! Today we kick off a series just for you (well, really it's for the teens!). In this first of 3 episodes we pull the first tool in our Triple E Toolkit out of the, we guess, kit. The first E is: EQUIP!...
Oct 30, 2023•20 min•Ep. 17
Hello parents! Do you want your teen athlete and performer to be happy and shine on the stage, court, or field? Of course you do and so do we! Wait--what if there were specific tools that can help you make this happen? Good news! There are! In this most useful episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we introduce The Triple E Toolkit for parents. For you! A remarkable shift happens when parents intentionally choose to improve their skills rather than assuming skill development ...
Oct 23, 2023•19 min•Ep. 16
Greetings MVPs (most valuable parents)! We have a question for you! What in the world is a QOC? Well, let's waste no precious time here. A "QOC" is a "Questions Only Conversation!" This game changer will transform your conversations with your teen athlete or performer (and your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker, random stranger, and probably your boss, although we don't know your boss so we cannot confirm if a QOC fits their agenda right now)! Two fundamentals of great relationships are trust a...
Oct 16, 2023•22 min•Ep. 15
Welcome VIPs (very important parents) to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we tackle the hardest job ever: parenting! Parents--you're doing your best and racking up parenting wins, but you also feel at times that you're losing the communication game. Join the club! As perfectly imperfect parents ourselves we understand the importance of creating healthy lines of communication between us and our teens. Today we share an incredible tool that can transform your family dynamic— "...
Oct 09, 2023•20 min•Ep. 14
