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The reason why you can't stop drinking alcohol isn't what you think . It's not that you don't have enough willpower . It's not that you're going to get a craving and then drink . It's nothing like that . See , all of these things are just symptoms .
The root cause of why you can't stop drinking alcohol goes so much deeper and , after not drinking myself for over six years and working with over 400 clients , I have seen a pattern . I have seen this happen time and time again , and right now , whether you've already stopped drinking alcohol or you're thinking of stopping drinking , it doesn't really matter .
I'm going to give you a solution in this video that will change your life forever . So what happens when somebody stops drinking ? Well , people stop drinking because of pain . That's what spurs people into action . If alcohol doesn't cause somebody pain , it's very rare that they actually stop drinking .
But for most people , they drink and drink more and more and more , and then eventually alcohol causes pain . They feel bad , they might have put weight on , they might have had a really bad hangover . Something bad happens and it spurs them into action . I'm sure you can agree with that . So then what happens next ? Well , they might stop .
They might stop for two weeks , they might stop for two months , and good things then start happening . Most people that stop drinking . They feel way better . They feel more energy , they feel more clarity , they feel like they're getting fitter . Relationships start improving , self-confidence starts improving . Things just start moving in the right direction again .
But then something happens . There's a roadblock . People get to a place when they're not drinking , when things are pretty good . I've done this so many times . I've stopped for two weeks , for two months , and life's going well . And then one day , out of nowhere , this idea comes into my head . This thought just goes boop and it goes .
Leon , life's going well now . You're doing great , you're fit , you're healthy . Just , things are going in the right direction . So , leon , why don't you have a drink ? See , most of us think that we're going to start drinking again because we're in a bad place . Right ? Maybe , I don't know .
Something bad happens in our life and we want to escape those bad emotions with the drink and that's what leads us back to drinking . But from my experience that was never the case . I'd start drinking again because things were going so well See , those first two weeks , three weeks , four weeks that we're stopping .
It can be quite easy , because the thing is is that we've got a reference point of the pain that we were in and as soon as we remove alcohol right , because alcohol is a toxic poison that's just literally damaging every cell it comes into contact with of course we're going to feel better .
But because that period of pain and stopping were so close to each other , we have a very clear point of contrast . We remember how bad it was and we just know how much better we feel compared to before . But then something switches . It's almost like we forget . We forget the pain and then all we think about were the good times .
And then we rationalize it to ourselves . We think , yeah , it's going to be different this time . We could just have one or two tonight and that's it . And we know how it goes right . I've gone through this cycle so many times . I forget the pain , life goes good again , I drink , and then this cycle repeats . That was my life .
It was a roller coaster for 10 years . So how did I fix it ? How did I stop this cycle ? Well , the answer is so simple . It's right in front of your eyes . The thing is is pain is not enough . Just using pain can get us going I'm not denying that . But the pain alcohol causes will one day subside .
We will get to a place in two , four , five weeks , however long it is where we've totally forgotten about it and things have just leveled off and normalized . We're just feeling good . So there's two things that you need to do . The first is never forget .
I'm not saying you should focus on the past and think about all the bad things that have happened , but just you can't forget this pain . A good thing you can do is just journal , right . Just write down why you want to do this and then later on in your journey you can reflect on those reasons .
For example , if you stop drinking because your wife doesn't like it and your wife's upset with you , and then a month down the road , she's happy again , that's when we can get this great idea to drink again , and because your wife's fine and everything's going well , you think why not ?
But then if you look back at your list and you remember oh wait , like it was just a month ago and she was on the verge of leaving me . It can just snap you out of it , but the problem is is the pain is not enough .
See , the real solution to all of this is having a conversation with yourself and getting real and really asking yourself are you going to achieve the life that you want with alcohol in it ? I know without a shadow of a doubt . There is no way I will live the life of my dreams when I drink . I won't have the business I want .
I won't have the health that I want . Nothing will happen if I continue drinking . So now , rather than me running away from the pain that alcohol caused now , there's almost a future pain of my decision to drink in the present moment . If I drink , I'll never reach what I want tomorrow .
That's why having a vision for your life , knowing what direction you want things to go in , is so important . It can't just be about stopping drinking because you got a hangover one day or you're just sick and tired of it . It doesn't work . It works for a short period of time , but that voice in your head will always bring you back .
So if I were you , I'd transport myself 10 years into the future and I'd create a vision of how life is , and I'd create an ideal vision of how life could be in 10 years . What does your family life look like ? What does your health look like , your business , your home ?
And then I'd get real with myself and ask myself if I drink alcohol , am I seriously going to get there ? If you're anything like me , the answer is no and that's okay . I'm okay with that because I don't want to drink anyway , because I know it gives me .
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