THIS Got Me Sober From Alcohol For 4.5 Months

So , yeah , what we'll do , sean , is we'll talk about your experience so what life was like when you were drinking , how it's been since you've changed your perception , reframed alcohol and then , most importantly , talk about the great things that have been happening over the past four and a half months . Sounds good , awesome man . So , yeah , just fill us in .

So what was life like when you were drinking ? And , yeah , just put us through an average day .

It knew what I needed to drink to get where I wanted to be . It wasn't fun . I was never clear , I was never actually present and it found that I was literally just erasing the day to get onto the next day . It didn't really do anything rambunctious , pretty much just stayed at home . Other than that , it was the same thing day in , day out .

Felt terrible at the end of the day , felt terrible in the morning . My workouts workouts were subpar . I never went as focused as I needed to be procrastinated on things . Never really um went through with the , the activities that I really wanted to accomplish in life . So you know that created a lot of anxiety .

Uh , because never things weren't really getting done . Because it was . It was on like kind of like the back burner .

Never really um got to complete what I wanted to complete and it was frustrating because I would always put a focus on , you know , getting a buzz on and then when that list starts increasing and then there's all these projects and tasks , then that creates anxiety 100 . yeah , I was always anxious . I was always worried about , um you know , did people ?

Could people smell it on me ? Did I look messed up ? Was my face red ? Could my significant other and friends know that I am at the point of intoxication , that I am right now masked how much I was drinking ? It was never in a crazy excess , I never really blacked out .

That was when I was moderating my drinking , when I was trying to get it under control , which is the worst thing you can do . A couple of years before that , it was much worse . It was to the point to where I would literally just wake up and then four hours went by and I didn't know what I did or say .

You know , I didn't usually drink until after work , although on my days off I would tend to sometimes have a beverage in the middle of the day and then sometimes that creates two days because you know you have a couple beverages , Sometimes you have one extra and then you go ahead and take a nap , wake up , do it again . So that was kind of thing .

So the days were still productive . I made an excuse out of it . Like that's pretty much all drinking is . You make an excuse . You know you have a bad day , have a drink , have a good day , have a drink , go out , go out with friends , have a drink , go swimming , have a drink , play video games , have a drink , Play video games , have a drink .

Everything was an excuse to drink and it was just frustrating . And that kind of began when I was in my 20s . You know all your friends , all they wanted to do was go out and drink . You want to play Mario Kart on the TV , have a drinking contest . Whoever loses have a drink . Same thing .

It was just an excuse to get messed up , get inebriated , and then sure it was fun .

That's just an excuse that you give yourself that it's okay to drink , and you know alcohol is one of those drugs , that it's the one drug that won't let you know that you have a problem . It makes you think that you don't have a problem .

I just had enough and I stopped , um , and I did that . That's when I had that little three month stint where I didn't really drink but I was messing around with . You know , you go to the smoke shop , get those little gummies here and there you get little weed pens . So I was still supplementing for it . I was .

I wasn't completely sober , so I still intend , in fact wasn't actually present . My mind was altered and I and I never really , you know , had normal sean conversations .

You know , I wasn't really that open , I was still anxious , hiding something and insecure in a sense , because you know you're always thinking , you're kind of paranoid in a sense yeah , so you were , because you still kind of saw alcohol was something that would add something to your life .

You're never here , you're never present , and it was a fact . I had been talking about it for a couple of years and it was about time to make that change .

I didn't go visit anything like AA , I kind of just talked to friends , got ideas , and then ultimately I was like I'm going to try this , it doesn't matter what it costs , it doesn't matter what people think , and ultimately no one really knows that I did it except for close friends and family , and that's kind of the best thing .

And now people are just now starting to notice it's been about four and a half months . They're like , oh , sean's face looks better , he's a lot more fit , he's a lot more focused , and they're realizing there's been a shift , especially when I say no , when they ask me to come out and drink , or when I do go out and drink and I don't drink .

Where they go out and drink with them and I don't drink , they're like , oh , that's weird . I remember you were a party guy passing shots around , pounding beers every minute , and I was like , yeah , I'm going to have this sparkling water . Now , of course , there's some peer pressure , there's some things you know .

They're always trying to egg on , like , oh you know , quitting is for quitters . That's why I don't , that's why I still drink and I just keep . You know , I amuse them , be like that's great . Um , now I'm on a different path and it's , uh , significantly better and I'm still going , still moving around , moving along .

I see the position that they're in and they had a lot of habits that I had . You know , go home , drink whether they have a cigar or they're smoking something or they . You know , go home , drink whether they have a cigar or they're smoking something or they . You know , they just get completely inebriated .

Then the next morning they look and they feel like they did . And then I was just like I can't be stuck in the same situation . I can't be stuck in the same job . I can't just keep being . You know , as some people say , an NPC can't keep going around this world not achieving my goals , trying something different .

And that's what I did and ultimately , I think it's going to make me a better human in the long run and it's going to not just lift myself up , it's going to lift the people that I love up and it's going to lift my family up . Hopefully , I can end up spreading this to more people and helping them in a way based on how I go ahead and evolved .

Or if I wake up in the morning , uh and you know I am not awake , I'm in a different reality . You know , I don't know what happens after , after , uh , life ends , but you never know . One day I could just not wake up or I could do something stupid and go driving . That's one thing that I did a good job of not doing .

When I went ahead and had my little fun at the end of the night or on my days off , I did my best to not drive . And the worst thing about it is that there's a gas station a five-minute walk from my house . So you know there was no excuse for me to not have my alcohol , so so I would just walk over there .

And she was kind of like my sponsor for it in a sense , so that I didn't have to , you know , have any financial burden on it or have any kind of thing . She's like , whatever you need to do , we'll back you up . You know , just just get done what you need to get done .

And then , yeah , I had the support and that's all I needed was a little bit of support , a little bit of push , and then a final , final move to make the call . The hardest thing is kind of making the call , making the first leap . It's , some people , is demoralizing to sign a weakness , but ultimately it's's not this .

The weakness is to continue drinking , and that's what I've been telling myself for months and months and months before I made the move and it was just time , every single day , just constantly spending money . That's another thing . I had it down to a science point where I knew how much I needed to drink .

I knew how much it would cost , um , and it was kind of like a schedule it . It was like a prescription , basically a prescription for a lack of motivation , bad health , and it was one of the worst prescriptions I could have ever . Went ahead and kept doing every single day .

. You went through the first half of the program . Once you finished out what was different to previous attempts ?

You got the Robert Peterson's , the , I believe Andrew , andrew Hubberman I believe his name is my might be saying that wrong Uh , but they went ahead and explained it . And then you went ahead and explained it and you broke it down to the point , to where it's science , it's all science , where it's terrible for you .

And on top of that , you look at it , it's everywhere it's in advertisements , it's on billboards , it's on commercials , it's on TV shows . It's nonstop pushed . It's nonstop pushed . And there's a big reason for that .

And not to get too , you know , philosophical or religious or anything like that , or throw any kind of a government thing into it or conspiracy theories . But ultimately there's a reason why it's legal , there's a reason why they push it . It just dulls our senses , it keeps us from producing as a human , it prevents us from growing , keeps our mind foggy .

And that was just the last step . The last step needed to go ahead and join your program . You broke it down fantastically . It just hit the nail right on the head .

Oh , it's holiday season . Do you want some Coquito ? You know a lot of Hispanic people had passed out the Coquito when during the holidays and I was like no , I'm not going to have any of that . And she's like , really , I thought you liked it . And I was like , yeah , I really I thought you liked it .

And I was like , yeah , I don't think I'm going to have any more alcohol . She goes really , I'm like , yep , for the rest of my life probably . And she hadn't known . She was one of my closer friends at work and outside of work , so she was a little shocked .

I'm sure I'll be having some questions from her in the near future because she just found out yesterday , I believe . And , yeah , I don't foresee me having anything , hopefully for the rest of my life . I do have a wedding coming up . I plan on doing that sober . I don't know if I'm going to do it California sober , but I'll probably just be .

You know , have fun , dance around , maybe take a little bit of pre-workout to get a little pump some Celsius water , stuff like that . So it'll be an experience because , you know , at weddings most people just get completely plastered For some reason . It's a joyous moment , but you do everything you can to not remember it the next day .

You want to take a day off because you want to just get plastered twice throughout the day . Take a nap and do it again .

Now I'll be transparent with that point that I did feel very overwhelmed when I stopped drinking , because there were so many things that I wanted to get done , so many things that I've been putting off , so many things that I wanted to do , whether it's little hobbies here and there , gardening , fix up the house , cancel those subscriptions I was paying for for so

long that I just haven't bothered calling to cancel . And , on top of that , working out , there is in the science that drinking alcohol inhibits muscle growth . I think it was I would say conservatively 45% , and I knew about it . I never really took heed to it .

But I'll tell you what the amount of weight that I've lost , the amount of weight that I've lost , the amount of muscle that I've gained , my physical physique not just in my face , my body , my hips , everything's changed , and it was .

It's just been drastic , very , very drastic , and it feels good looking yourself in the mirror , looking at your eyes , not having to make sure if you smell bad , not having to make sure if you know you still have crusties in your eye when you leave the house , all those , all those things that everyone's you know self-conscious about .

You wake up , you know you look good , your clothes fit better , you have more energy . On top of that , I'm going to bed earlier , I'm waking up earlier and , ultimately , that's fun . Wake up , I get more stuff done before the sun rises than most people do in a day , so it's very , very helpful .

And , yeah , physical fitness , mental health , personal gains , trying to study self-help that's pretty much what I've become , just trying to be a better person , better human , nicer . I noticed that too is that I am considerably more nicer . I'm calmer and over that . Overall , just overall , confident , a lot more confident .

So I know what you mean about it being overwhelming at the beginning , but it's kind of like a nice feeling because you can just go for it 100% and I had mentioned this during some of the bi-weekly Zoom calls that we would have during your program .

You know , you have that third , that fourth drink , then all of a sudden you're in bed , then you wake up , your first half your days , a haze , and then you get through it and then you start doing it again , rinse and repeat .

You're never actually present and it became very frustrating , not just for me but for my loved ones and , uh it , it's nice to have that weight off my shoulders .

She has improved her life as well around me , which is awesome to see . Now we're only four and a half months in Now . You think four years down the road . How much will we accomplish ? What will we grow to be ? What will I grow to be ? Am I still going to be doing the same thing ? Am I still going to be in this house ? Is it going to be ?

Am I still going to be doing the same thing ? Am I still going to be in this house ? Is it going to be a bigger house ? So it's just kind of like one day at a time . I do crack my days a little more . I kind of use a calendar more , a little more organized , a little more structured , which is nice . So it's fun . It's fun . It's actually enjoyable .

But the fact that you allow this little beverage to run your life and run the people around you's life , and just every day , every day was just drink , drink , drink , and now it's not , now it's , I guess you could say , think , think , think . You're constantly thinking on how to be better . You're constantly trying to . What's the next thing I need to do today ?

What book do I want to read in the future ? What's my exercise like ? Which is interesting because I actually look forward to my exercises , to the point to where , like , I'll go to bed earlier than I ever did , like , some days I'll be , I'll close my eyes at nine , 30 at night .

Usually I'd be up till 1230 , one o'clock in the morning , um , and that's always because the intense amounts of , you know , sugar and additives and um from the alcohol .

So that first step is the hardest . And I'll be transparent . I was ready to stop . So the cold Turkey was no problem . Some people might have issues and some people may might have a drink here or there , but ultimately , one step at a time .

If it takes you a month to completely stop , but you went from six days a week to three days a week , that's a win . And then ultimately you'll realize , man , those four days that I didn't drink , that with this week , were fantastic . Now I go to two days , now I go to one day and then , all of a sudden , you don't have alcohol in the house ever .

You go out to parties , you go out to see friends and family . You don't have alcohol . There'll be some questions , but ultimately you're going to be surrounded by people who are like-minded , which is the one way to grow . Surround yourself with like-minded people .

You surround yourself with people who don't wanna drink , who wanna stop drinking , who wanna help you , who wanna lift you up . Ultimately , it's the same thing in business , same thing in life you wanna surround yourself with people you wanna be like and it's just kind of it's trying to keep .

It's like the train effect Once that first car goes through the station , the next car is going to follow . You're going to keep finding ways to surround yourself with people that make you better .

It's similar to I'm going to quote this gentleman that's on our meetings same Scott . He goes ahead and says he's allergic to alcohol . Um , alcohol affects everybody differently . For me , if I have alcohol I can't stop , and that's kind of how I was . It's not just one beer , because one beer turns into four beers .

Four beers goes turns into a trip to the gas station to get another one . Then all of a sudden I'm inebriated and I feel like terrible the next morning .

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It's kind of like that's kind of like in some sense a half measure . But for the SoberClear program it starts off fantastic . You break it down all the way to the science , to the molecular level , to the chemical level , and then you provide it with a perfect roadmap and then you go ahead and allow a support system with people on Zoom .

You have bi-weekly Zoom calls , you have people that you can constantly talk to , people that are lifting up , and it's very , very positive . It's very positive . There's very little negative and there's always tips and tricks , not only when it comes to stopping drinking , but how to improve your life as well , because everyone changes . It's a consistent pattern .

I noticed in the group chats that people not only stop drinking but they improve their lives in other ways . A lot of it is through health and fitness and that's one way that does keep you off of it , because if you start drinking again . All those gains that you got physically and mentally , they start to go away .